Going through this right now. What a slap in the face it was to have all symptoms of a healthy pregnancy and then to hear “there is no heartbeat.” Unbelievably shocking and devastating. My heart goes out to anybody who has experienced anything remotely similar. I live in fear of this happening to me again. 😔
@@jdawk7433 may god give you strength, It doesn’t get better, but you learn to deal with it I am truly sorry you are also going through this. I lost my baby boy at 17 weeks 4 weeks ago.
I am going through this now. I have never felt this pain before. We are broken but I know there will be light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone reading this will go on to have a healthy vibrant baby ❤️
Went on Friday at 9 weeks for our first scan... The doctor's face said it all... My heart sank I knew something was wrong. 6 weeks no more development yet was fine, unaware and still felt pregnant. This is our first pregnancy and I'm so devastated..feels like my heart was ripped out going from excited telling close family to two days later at ultrasound, sorry I've had a Missed miscarriage. Praying for strength to get through this and for any other woman that is also going through this terrible ordeal. X
Same thing here I had a miscarriage in January so the hospital gave us a reassurance scan at 6-7 weeks and there was a heartbeat was scared but also hopeful. Went to my 12 week scan a week today and was told my baby had stopped developing and died not long after that 6 week scan. Hearts absolutely broken all my nausea and sore boobs everything was still there. Im getting a D&C this Friday 😢 the grief this second time is just so much worse 💔 Sending love to everyone experiencing this 💔💕 xxx
I really think that the reason miss miscarriages are so shocking and devastating is that other women as a group shroud miscarriage in secrecy and drama. If women knew that it was extremely, extraordinarily common and knew what to expect from the thousands and thousands of other women who have experienced it, the trauma would honestly be greatly reduced.
Maybe it would reduce some trauma. But for me someone who worked at an IVF clinic for years prior to my miscarriages, was very hyper aware that they are common, and how they are treated, the pain from the losses was still immense. My therapist often said there is no way to prepare for a miscarriage- it is simply really sad for many people. Similarly, we all know our grandparents and parents will die, likely before us, this does not make it less sad, despite the fact that it is a common occurence.
@@katieleecgctalksmiscarriage there are a lot of women who internalize their experience as something wrong with them as a woman and something wrong with their bodies. This is the greatest trauma for a lot of women. Many of whom don’t assign a lot of personhood to the embryo/fetus/baby. The trauma that a woman experiences is so downplayed by other women who experienced it differently, especially women who have been through it. You can hold the space for others to experience it differently than you while still honoring your own pain. The physical reality of miscarriage is just normal. But the shock of having it feel unusual can be the main trauma for some. The loss is not as much of their “baby” as it is the profound loss of their feelings about their own value as a woman. This is unnecessary because other women could just say it’s common/normal. Society doesn’t need to shroud it.
@@elyse443 Thanks for sharing. I think I understand what you mean now. This is one of the reasons I started my RU-vid channel- to explain pregnancy losses from a clinical perspective and from the view of someone who has been through it. I think society is moving in the direction of being more open about infertility and miscarriages and do hope this helps others feel less alone.
@@katieleecgctalksmiscarriage I think so too. It really is tough to find out information on the actual physical experience of it and the commonness of it. I think women are becoming more vocal and I’m so glad. It’s scary enough without it being shrouded in secrecy. Everyone’s experience should be valued in my opinion.
I had a missed miscarriage that was detected this week at 16 weeks pregnant. Baby stopped developing around 14 weeks and then the heart stopped at some point. He was born on Tuesday. It's been the hardest thing I have ever been through. I'm lucky I already have two amazing children and yet it feels like a part of me is missing.
Hey also happened to me I went to a private ultrasound clinic NYC i was number 24 this happened in 2022 the ultrasound technician said she truly blames it on the covid-19 vaccine, anyone thought about that?
I lost the baby a week ago I thought I was 12 weeks but at my ultrasound the doctor announced that there was no longer a heart beat! And that the size of the baby has stopped at 9 weeks and 1 day! It was shocking! Because I felt absolutely nothing and at my 8 weeks scan I heard the heartbeat and everything seemed perfect, I was just excited buying baby clothes and everything! I m not sure when to try again! I want to get pregnant again but I’m scared! Please every one keep me in there prayers
@@---do3wv today i am 16+4 weeks pregnant ❤️ had an ultrasound last Thursday and baby girl was fine. I am dealing with bad prenatal anxiety it has been really tough but therapy helps
@@basmajalloul967 mashallah I'm happy for you. I'm 11+3w and I'm a ball of anxiety. I've a subchorionic hematoma and have been spotting/bleeding non-stop since finding out I was pregnant. I'm glad therapy has helped you. I'm considering it as well.
@@---do3wv it is somewhat common to have a subchorianic hematoma but it sure isn’t the best thing especially when you suffer from anxiety. The good news is that most subchorianic hematomas dissolve by the end of the first trimester! Just hang in there pregnancy after loss is a totally different experience, a hard one. may god be with us! As I’m writing this it’s 03:30 am we’re I live and I can’t seem to sleep I have a severe headache and my heart is beating super fast for the past 3 hours not sure if this normal or it’s just my anxiety! If you have any questions I’m here for you
I went through exactly the same thing but 6 days ago. Even the same details , I was 12 weeks 5 days the heartbeat stopped at 9 weeks at 8 weeks everything was perfect 😔 I feel so empty
I found this video because I am going through this now and just stuck in limbo knowing my baby is gone but waiting for the hospital to schedule a d&c because my body won't let it go on its own. It's cruel and something I could never have prepared myself for. Your video provided lots of reassurance and understanding for me of what is happening. Thank you 💖
Ashley, I am so sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you as you grieve and wait for scheduling. It is such an awful limbo. And I think nobody can understand it until it happens. Hang in there.
The doctor told us about the missed miscarriage today. 13th week. Heartbroken as a father and as a husband as I can't imagine what my wife feels still carrying the baby and knowing she/he is gone... Now holding the 12th week's scans with the perfectly fine hertbeat.
I found out about my missed carriage yesterday, and everytime I get no distractions I think about my angel baby (which is still inside of me rn)tears just start rolling. Before this, I’ve always feared giving birth, the changes of my body, the pain of conceiving etc, this experience has taught me to embrace my next pregnancy journey more. The doctor will be prescribing the abortion pill next Friday, this still feels so surreal.. my symptoms are still here.. anyway Friday will be our final farewell. Sending love, courage and hope to everyone going through this, take care of yourself, we will be okay again soon. X
Hello there! For me, it was seven and a half weeks ago... I had the same fears as you, but now, I just don't care. The missed miscarriage taught me to express and embrass my desire of being a mother. I hope you feel a little better and I wish you all the best. God bless you ❤️🙏❤️.
Hi❤ I felt compelled to write a comment in response to your comment. Our Angel babies are always with us. I’m thinking about you ❤️ I hope you are doing okay.
So sorry to hear this,I just have a silent missed miscarriage no symptoms at all I was already 10 weeks and 4 days gone,and this is my 3 miscarriage but I still have hope that God will be done in my life
Sending love to everyone who has or is going through this. I found out earlier this week I had miscarried at 7/8weeks. Terrible news! We can all get through this though❤
Hubby and I (39/38 yrs old) been trying to conceive for years - tried everything from IVF to holistic treatment. I finally conceived naturally in July 2022, but not experienced any other symptoms such as nausea/vomiting just sore breasts and mild cramping. I found out this week that I had a missed miscarriage at 6wks. 💔 My body still thinks it's pregnant. Still got sore breasts and bloating. Going for medical management at the hospital as soon as possible. Feel like I'm running out of time as it is, a failure as a woman 😞 but, we're not giving up! God is great 🙏🏾 He will bless us in time 🌻
Same case .. we are also in our 30s have been trying for the last seven years this September i got pregnant but had no pregnancy symptoms so couldn't get to know until i strated bleeding. Had a miscarriage at six weeks.. felt so guilty and sad as there is no one support me mentally....people only come to give you more pain...
I’m going through this stage right now.After trying over 1.5 years then got the news that I’m pregnant for the 1st time.At 6.5 weeks of pregnancy the baby had the heartbeat but at 8.5 weeks there was no heartbeat though I was having all the symptoms of normal pregnancy.It was devastating, I forgot how to react at that news.I’ve gone through DnC today,heartbroken, afraid, helpless to think will I be pregnant again and will I be blessed with a healthy baby?!..I’m 37 which is also one of most concerning factor for me.. All the beautiful mothers who are going through this situation, may Almighty bless you all..give the strength to overcome the stage.. Pray for me ..❤
I’m a nurse practitioner and my colleagues all wanted to see the baby while at work, I scanned myself- I’m the one who caught that my baby’s heartbeat was no longer beating 😔 14week identical twins
I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins. Even for us healthcare professionals who know about miscarriages, these losses hit so hard. You just don't know how awful it is until it happens. I'm sorry. Hang in there.
Thank you for sharing this. I was very confused about missed miscarriages. I found out my baby’s heart is not beating at my 12 week ob appointment. I had no symptoms and with this being my first pregnancy I was so very excited to hear my baby’s heartbeat for the first time. This missed miscarriage process is truly devastating. 😢
Thank you for your video. Going through this right now, when I thought I was 11- 12 weeks pregnant turned out that my baby stopped developing at 6 weeks. 6 weeks of thinking I was pregnant, planning the future, having all the pregnancy symptoms … cruel thing to have experienced
Found out 2 days ago that our baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. We were so excited to see the baby at our 10 weeks appointment only to get this horrible news. We are broken but hopeful.
@@elsaandbartekkadela122 Im sorry to hear that you are going through this. It's very traumatic. But there is hope. I am pregnant again, will be 13 weeks tomorrow. Every time I go do a sonogram however, I get a lot of anxiety, because I am still reeling from the miscarriage.
Thank you for this video. I had one a couple of months ago & still not over the loss. I saw the gestational sac & yolk at 5 weeks after being told it was low rising HCG & possibly ectopic, everything was well & healthy & told I can relax. I went back at 9 weeks for the scan & that's when they told me the baby had died at 8 weeks & 1 day. The testing came back all clear & told there was nothing that showed a reason for their passing. So terrified it will happen again. Every time my cycle comes I'm reminded I lost something I once had & so desperately wanted. Condolences & I hope you're healing. 🤍
This is me. Went in at 12 weeks and baby stopped growing at 8. The process is horrible. Taking medication now to start the process. This is the worst pain… physical, mental, emotional.
Thank you for this! I just found out today I had a missed miscarriage 3 days after my last ultrasound 2 weeks ago. Having a d&c in a few days. I am devastated
6 weeks with a dead fetus, not even a single sign 😢 went for morphologic ultrasound week 20+5 days and the fetus had stopped living since week 15. Allah knows best and i hope all the heartbroken moms get better soon ❤
Ooh sorry mommy,me scared ,went for 20wks scan the baby is showing 26wks 3days don't know what next coz most of the time I don't feel like I'm having anything in my womb especially when seated or sleeping and have also lost a lot of weight
Going through a missed miscarriage with my first pregnancy. It's devastating, our baby passed a day after our first ultrasound 5wks 6days and we found out at 9wks 3days 😞
Started having miscarriage nightmares when I was 5.5 weeks. Very mild symptoms, but haven't once felt pregnant yet (7 pregnancies in 8 years, 3 children) and with all my others I had extreme hyperemesis, lost about 1/3rd of my weight. Have an internal scan Wednesday so we can find out if I'm right but I feel like I've known for weeks this baby is gone. I did with my past losses. And I know before the tests when I'm pregnant. Very strong body intuition. Doing all my studying now so I can help partner later and know my options with processing time without slowing down treatment.
Im going through this right now. Unfortunately, we found out our baby stopped growing at 8 weeks on our first prenatal visit. I was supposed to be 10 weeks today. Sadly, there’s no heartbeat🥺💔 Its so painful to hear it from the doctor It felt like I was just having the worse nightmare 😭
I just found out I have a missed miscarriage today , it’s heartbreaking 💔 and I feel all the joy in my life has disappeared and I don’t know when I will be happy again
Your video was so detailed and you covered every steps and details. Thank you. I need to go on 20th at 12th wk as my first scan had red flags. I also discovered I have fibroids. So scared.
This was me. I’m 40, this is my 7th baby. Wasn’t expected but welcomed and had me excited as my baby just started preschool. Went in and my last menstrual should have had me at 6 weeks. Ultrasound showed less, went last week for another ultrasound and no heartbeat. Baby hasn’t grown. I have all the symptoms except I feel no connection. Probably because the fetus is deceased. It’s a cruel feeling
Thank you so much😭😭😭. I was also shocked when the doctor told me my baby stop growing. I have to check with another hospital to confirm it. Thank you for the message 🙏
Hi Lindee- I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It is awful and shocking when you have no clue that it has happened. Hang in there. I know it is so hard.
I decided today to look up what a missed miscarriage is as that's what was on my discharge paperwork from the hospital after I woke with tons of blood pouring out of me as soon as I sat on the toilet. I grabbed a stick from outside to "fish" for potentially my baby's body. This happened 5 years ago and that same baby is next to me right now watching cartoons before bed. ALWAYS GET A SECOND OPINION. There's faulty equipment, sometime the baby is hiding and hard to get the heartbeat. Apparently I bled and they don't know why. When I got to the dr the next day she said the ultrasound looks great and everything was as it should be and healthy. She said she physically wouldn't have known I went through that if it wasn't for blood residue. I'm sorry for those that it's real for and I don't want to give false hope but it'd also important to be 100% sure first.
at 6 weeks my baby has heartbeat. but when we returned at 8weeks for our next check-up, our baby has no heartbeat anymore. And it also stop growing at 6weeks! the most saddest day in our life 😭😭
I am so very sorry for your loss. It is devastating and such a shock to be thinking all is well only to find out the bub stopped growing. Hang in there. Virtual hug to you and your partner.
Going through it right now...extremely difficult 💔💔💔 I had never heard about silent miscarriage before though I consider myself knowledgeable in this topic. It was an utter shock for me. Decided to go with the natural way, it's been 2 weeks since diagnosed...deep inside hoping for a miracle but I have the first signs of bleeding...my little angel was 5-6 weeks. You'll always be in our hearts 👼 Please someone tell me this feeling will be better...🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
The pregnancy was a surprise to begin with and I had to abruptly end the liver cleanse I was on but despite it being unexpected we quickly embraced it. My little 4 year old was so excited and said that he knew it was a sister baby. I along with my husband and others also felt like we knew it was a girl. We will never get to confirm that now. I just announced it to friends and pulled out my my maternity clothes and started shopping on line for baby things which things should be arriving in the mail today. I was feeling anxious and nervous 3 days ago on the day of my first 12 week appointment with the doctor. We got our worst snow storm ever and I didn't have 4WD so I called and canceled the appointment but being anxious due very small but recent spotting a couple of days early I called and requested the appointment back before canceling again due to the weather until I started spotting and called to ask for my appointment for the 3rd time while my husband who was away for work called a neighbor and friend to ask if I could take their 4wd vehicle. When I shared the news with friends I felt strange like I was jumping the gun. I felt like I knew intuitively that the baby wasn't alive in me and 3 of my friends and sisters almost seemed to confirm my feelings. Not verbally but there was a look in their eye that made me think that their intuition was in sinc with mine. Despite that I really hoped to prove those feelings wrong. Which is why I was anxious to make it to my appointment. The doctor and Ultra sound tech confirmed my fears. At first I felt shock and numb. My mom was with me which helped me somehow keep it together. I didn't have the energy to be upset just yet but it has been an emotionally painful disappointment. Especially to have to tell my husband and 4 yr old son who regularly would talk to my belly and wish the baby a good night or good morning. I hope that we have better luck the next time. I wish this for everyone trying to conceive right now.
Rain my heart goes out to you, your husband, and son. Thanks for sharing your story. I relate so much as my son was along for the ride for a few of my pregnancy losses and I struggled having to deal with the emotional aftermath and all the follow-up appointments from my miscarriages. There was just so little emotional energy left to give him and my family/friends and I hated that feeling. I am so sorry for the loss of your baby.
I don’t genuinely understand when people say there is nothing I did that could have caused the missed miscarriage but then they say there are multiple reasons why they could happen. Can one of those reasons be something I did?
I had a missed miscarriage at 21 weeks. My 19 weeks 4 days anatomy scan was perfectly normal. At 21 weeks, i couldn't feel the baby move and went for a scan. My baby's heart had stopped beating. Labour was induced and after 6 hours of painful labour I delivered my baby boy. It has only been two weeks and I'm still devastated.
I'm sorry my sister I went through a miscarriage last week at 23weeks the baby came out breathing though I had two days not feeling her usual movements it's heartbreaking to lose a baby especially after so many weeks. I'm still failing coming to terms with the lose
@@lovenessmagiva8533 sending you loads of love and hugs from one sister to another. Our babies would have been around the same age. Mine would have been 24 +3 weeks today. I broke down the other day and asked my husband why God would bring us this far only to take our baby away so cruelly and he said, "he gave us time to love him even more". My husband is not religious so this was pretty profound coming from him.
Going through this now… I was supposed to be about 12 weeks and found out last week baby didn’t grow past 6 or so weeks. I really feel strongly that no matter what the medical community wants to push we don’t call a miscarriage an abortion. They are two different things. An abortion is caused by consuming abortion pill(s) or surgically unaliving and removing a baby by choice or coercion. A miscarriage is not a choice and is a natural process that leads to the death of a baby.
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a loss now. I hope that most providers would follow a patient's lead and use their language. The reason I discussed in my video is because it can be jarring to see abortion all over your medical records or in discussion with providers who may not use the more generally accepted language.
I had a missed miscarriage. The doctors did a MVA procedure but didn't put me under anaesthesia. The pain was unbearable but the heartache is even worse.
Thank you for doing this video. I done IVF and fell pregnant on my 3rd cycle but first transfer. Everything was perfect and we got to see our baby at a 7 week ultrasound and hear bubbas heartbeat too and we also where able to record it so we’ve got that forever now. I then had a ultrasound at 9+4 weeks and as soon as the tech put the stick on my belly I could my baby with little arms and little legs but I couldn’t see the flicker of the heartbeat. She didn’t say anything and told me to go empty my bladder and that we’d do an internal so she could see better. I already knew something wrong. I went to the toilet and came back and said to my husband there’s no heartbeat, to which he said no she can’t see properly everything is fine. She came back in and started the internal and I was already crying at this point as I knew. I said to her there’s no heartbeat and she didn’t say anything. I said it again louder and she said no I can’t see one I’m sorry. She then tried to listen for it and was absolutely silent. I felt like my heart had been ripped out my body and I couldn’t believe my baby had passed away without me knowing. My baby was measuring 8+5 and I was 9+4. It’s now been 4 days since that happened and I’m booked in for a d&c in 3 days. I never even knew there was such thing as a missed miscarriage. I thought because I felt pregnant and had the symptoms and had zero bleeding or spotting that everything was going perfect but how wrong I was. Now I feel numb and still feel pregnant. I want the d&c to done and for it to be over but then the other side of me is like I don’t want it over, I don’t want to lose my baby and be alone, I still hug my little bump constantly and talk to my baby inside me even though I know bub is passed away but it just doesn’t feel real still. I’m not sure if I should get the testing done on bub or not. My question is will it a piece of my baby that they test or tissue that around my baby? It’s hurts me to think that they’ll pull my tiny baby apart to test it and find out what happened and also scares me so much that what if it comes back that there was no abnormalities and that baby was perfect. What does that mean then? Does that mean I did something wrong?
We just found out about our missed miscarriage yesterday and I feel every single thing you have jotted down here. Every minute of the day I miss my baby asking for food, making me nauseous, making me uncomfortable. I never thought one can miss even these feelings. I had severe morning sickness throughout my 13 weeks and my baby would only allow me to proceed with the day once I would feed myself. Today when I woke up, I was shattered to not have that morning sickness again. I was absolutely devastated to have nobody to feed. I still have my baby inside me. I caress my belly and apologize to him all the time for not being able to bring him to this world. I have no idea how would I spend the entire day without him asking for food every 2-3 hours. This is the worst pain I’ve ever had in my life and I am not sure how will I find peace with this.
Just heard the bad news today... Thank you, Katie, for your video, it was like speaking with someone in person who understands you! Trying to think positive considering the circumstances.. When would you advise to try to conceive again?
Katie, in your opinion what's the best way a husband can support his wife who just experienced a missed miscarriage? We were told about it today. Both devastated, but my wife must be suffering way more than me, and I want to support her the best I can. For me it's "just" pain and shock I still can't fully comprehend, but for her it's like a blackhole opened inside her heart, she is walking around like an empty shell. I want to be there for her, yet it's hard to pick up the right words.
Let her cry, just accept the emotions as they come, offer her a hug. Try to find a way to memorialize/remember your baby. My husband has done these things and jt has helped a lot,
I got pregnant while on an iud went thru the fear of loosing my baby with the removal of iud but the pregnancy stayed to later find out i had a missed miscarriage . Hardest circumstances ive been thru ! Having hope everything will be ok to have everything crushed 💔
I think I'm experiencing my second miscarriage 😪 I'm going to see a docter tomorrow I'm scared. I don't want that hurt again but I have left pelvic pain for 24hours now
Thanks for your kind words. I have a video in the works detailing what it was like to have a D&C procedure and what it was like to use cytotec. It of course can be different for everyone, but I will work on getting this uploaded.
Going through this as well and I feel so empty and sad. I just want my baby to come back alive. They won’t be taking it out until Monday so I have all weekend to remind myself of what I won’t have. I already bought all the things for the baby and now I’m just broken
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. It can be life shattering. I relate to your feelings of emptiness and sadness. I hope you can lean on your friends and family at this time and take it day by day. I ultimately utilized a therapist and got prescribed medication for anxiety, as I struggled with my losses for a long time. I am thinking of you.
Currently going through my second missed miscarriage. Just came from my 8week scan and there is no heartbeat. With the first 2 yrs ago, i got to know about it at my 12week scan but the baby stopped growing at 9weeks. I’m soo devastated and in denial.😢😢😢
This is my first pregnancy and I had an ultrasound done at 6 weeks and I was told the baby is healthy and that my hcg levels were normal/really good.But currently I’m currently 8 weeks and 6 days.My 9th week starting tomorrow but I have a feeling in my intuition that the baby stopped growing and I’m constantly losing weight.I haven’t had any bleeding but I been having cramping and severe abdominal pain.I even had a dream a few days ago that I had a miscarriage I don’t know if this was a sign/message from God or what 😣.Another thing is I’m constantly losing weight.
Had an ultrasound at 7w6d and went to the ER today for spotting and was supposed to be 10w6d, but baby was measured at 7w6d. Lost my newborn daughter to a rare genetic disorder at the end of September last year, and no one had any idea she had a genetic disorder until she was born.😖 Don’t know if I want to try again
Briana, I am so so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and the loss of your daughter. That is absolutely heart breaking and I can't imagine going though loss after loss. I am thinking of you and I sincerely hope that you have support in friends and family and an excellent therapist to help carry you through this time. If you haven't talked to a genetic counselor or MD to understand the cause of your daughter's condition and whether there is an increased risk for it to occur again, I would definitely recommend that. I will say most of the time rare genetic diseases are completely unrelated to miscarriages in future pregnancies. Hang in there.
@@katieleecgctalksmiscarriage Thank you for your kind thoughts. I feel confused. I questioned my doctors about the possibility of being deficient in B12 and Folate, and if that could affect fetal development in any way. (She had a neural tube defect which they said was scoliosis and a sacral dimple) They’re dismissing it, but I still question. My daughter’s congenital anomalies all happened on one side of her body, as well as her not having any distinctive external features that were a sign that she had a genetic disorder. She had a cleft left foot, but I know that, that can form with the spinal defect. (the NICU doctor thinks it’s Fryn’s Syndrome, but the genetics counselor thinks it was VACTERL Association) It’s just difficult when there’s no clear answer, and they told me this isn’t anything that can be tested in early genetics screeners due to the rarity of it.
Where I live we only receive 2 ultrasounds for the entire pregnancy. So if everything is fine at my 10 week ultrasound, I wouldnt know about a missed miscarriage til 20 weeks....that seems so cruel! I'm 9.5 weeks and very nervous.
Wow! That is very different than here in the US. Where do you live? The good news is the likelihood of a miscarriage after 10 weeks is very small. Most miscarriages happen much earlier in the 4-8 week range.
Just going through this. Came to your video to know more. Had scan at 7 week and baby was fine having heartbeat, usg report was normal. Next went for nt nb scan at 12 week and scan still shows 8 week baby with no heartbeat. I saw baby on screen and started crying.
We had experienced this today!Detected on 11th week Appointment!At 8.5 weeks this had happened!She is perfectly healthy!My Wife was crying 😢 & it is Emotionally very painful! Tomorrow having DNC procedure!
I just found out today that I have a blighted ovum, which is the second one in a row. I had one last year as well. I’m 39 and running out of time. I have no living children. This is so devastating.
I am 45 and had never been pregnant but in December of last year I found out that I was pregnant. Sadly I had a missed miscarriage and lost the baby on Easter night. The baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and 6 days but I didn’t find out until I was 14 weeks that I was actually having a miscarriage but my body hadn’t released the baby. It was heartbreaking waking up the next morning knowing that I would soon lose the baby which didn’t happen until a few days later. Yes you may be getting older but have faith that your age is not the end all. I thought at 39 that it was over for me once I turned 40 but God said He has the last say. It will happen for us again.
Can you tell us which of the three options you personally preferred and why? Waiting for it the body to naturally rid itself of the embryo, taking a pill, or the D&C?
I had a miscarriage very early on at around 3-4 weeks and I didn’t know I was pregnant. My partner & I were trying but that month I didn’t take a pregnancy test because I hadn’t gotten pregnant in months of trying. Early December I passed tissue that I realized later was the baby and had what I thought was a normal period where there was chunks of tissue or blood clots; the period was heavier than my usual but I had no pain or other symptoms. I wonder if this miscarriage would classify as a “missed” or “silent” miscarriage. Prior to that years ago I had a blighted ovum but in that case I knew I was pregnant and felt very pregnant with all the symptoms but never passed anything.
Currently going through it now getting a DNC today I'm so nervous. I just want to know if it was a boy or girl. I didn't even know silent miscarriages we're a thing until my ultrasound yesterday. I have a bump already and I'm so anxious
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope your D&C went as well as it could and that your results come back soon. It's just so devastating that you can have symptoms and be showing and the pregnancy is not viable. Hang in there. Thinking of you as you recover.
Yesterday is was 17 weeks pregnant. Normal ultrasound in week 13. I had a small bleeding, and went to get an ultrasound. There was no heartbeat. The baby died in week 14.
@@sunnivs me too and for you also 😢💔. They have told me they want me to wait until Wednesday to have another scan so I’m still carrying even tho I know what I know. 😓
Same, I just found out a few days ago at our 11 week 1 day unltrasound and doc said I’m sorry there’s no heartbeat. We did have a healthy heartbeat at our 7 week ultrasound so I was really hopeful that all would be ok at 11 weeks. Doc said based on its size it died at 9 weeks. So now I’m waiting for it to pass as a miscarriage naturally :(
Was supposed to get my first, dating ultrasound. No signs of miscarriage, so it didn’t occur to me that my baby has stopped growing for 2 weeks already. I went to the clinic with so much positivity and excitement, as I can finally see my baby….only to get the news that my baby doesn’t have a headtbeat… and it’s a failed pregnancy. It was so shocking and devastating. Im scared to have the d&c which i am schedule for next week. If only i could have my baby with me ….
Hell9 sis, how are you? Did you do D&C? I am 12 weeks pregnant right now but 2 days a go i found out that the baby stop growing at 6th weeks.and no heartbeat I have no blood discharge. My Ob suggest D&C, is afraid to do D&C
Is a missed miscarriage more common the older you are? My girlfriend is 41 years old and she’s never been pregnant before 😮. And she’s only 6 weeks right now she hasn’t gone to the doctor yet. She’s going next week for the first time to do a blood test and ultrasound to see what’s going on. 😪
At 6 weeks, the baby's heart beat was detected and everything was good. Then at 8 weeks, no heart beat. Just like that it's all gone. Could you elaborate about the chromosomal abnormality and the PGT-A testing? How come when PGT-A shows normal, there is still chromosomal abnormality? Thanks
Hi Vanessa- I am so sorry for the loss of your pregnancy. Was your pregnancy from a PGT-A tested and euploid embryo? Most labs today quote the accuracy of PGT-A to be 99% so if you had a chromosomally normal/euploid embryo transferred the embryo and pregnancy was very likely chromosomally normal. Unfortunately, the cause of most miscarriages is never determined. Despite how much we have learned about fertility and miscarriages, there is still so much that is unexplained. You can also learn more about PGT-A on my video about it here ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-2wd4aJ05NnY.html&feature=emb_title
Thank you Katie. Yes I got euploid embryo, for some unknown reason a twin might have been developed, but heart beat was gone... I will check out the other topic you mentioned.
@@vanessatao3258 I am hoping you have another euploid embryo to try again. Once patients have 2+ miscarriages their doctors will often start a recurrent pregnancy loss work-up. You can also ask your RE if there is anything they would change for a future transfer, perhaps ERA? Hang in there.
@@katieleecgctalksmiscarriage Hi Katie, in your video you mentioned that PGT-A testing is only taking a small sample of embryo to test and hope it will represent the whole embryo. So can I think there is only 50% chance that this test is accurate im terms of representing the whole embryo? I also heard that some doctors are saying the embryos will self correct once it has been placed in the uterus. Could you give more information on this? Thanks
I have had 3 miscarriages. One at 12 weeks(blighted ovum), 2 others are 24 and 22 weeks respectively(no heartbeat, missed miscarriage). My doctors seem clueless on what should done to prevent another one. I would really appreciate your advice as regards what tests I should consider doing to prevent another one?
I had a ruptured ovarian cyst and and I was given meds to expel the remnants since it could have dangerous effects, 2 weeks later I find myself in the ER and had to do an emergency procedure D\C to remove some blood clots and very little pregnancy tissue turns out I had a miscarriage… this left my husband and I so confused as to what happened.. the at home tests were negative, urine sample at the Drs office was so low it ruled it by the cyst and I didn’t complete my blood work.. it’s causing some problems and questions as to how
I just found out today that I had a missed miscarriage. My baby passed at 9 weeks and I would’ve been 13 weeks today 😢 but I know everything happens for a reason 🥹🙏🏾 Thank you for this information!!
. In June I had no period, took pregnancy test-negative. July I had a “period” and two weeks later had a “period”. Went to doctor in August for ultrasound, nurse didn’t say anything. Doctor didn’t say anything just scheduled me for a Hysteroscopy with D&C to get rid of loose tissue. Now period came a week earlier than expected and it’s HEAVY. Still not sure if I was pregnant 😢.
I had a missed misscarriage! I didnt have any signs of it at all! There was 3 weeks lag and the heartbeat was not detected! LMP was 10 weeks 6 days! Its traumatising!
I’m going through my 2nd mmc I’ve now had a total of 5 miscarriages. I’m sorry for everyone going through this pain. Did you find out what caused it for you and do you have any children now,
@@sharondewonsmithable I will walk through my experiences since I have experienced all three management options. The big benefit of D&C is that you get it over with. You won't be bleeding for weeks (assuming all goes well). You also have a good chance of getting enough tissue to test for chromosome imbalances with D&C compared to trying to collect it at home on your own. So if testing the tissue is important this is a good option. The downside of D&C is it is a surgery, it felt traumatic to go in there for the surgery, and it was expensive because of my high deductible. The pros of the pill are it can help you miscarry at home on your own. So if you prefer to see the tissue or pass it in the comfort of your own home this is a good method. Cons of the pill are that it doesn't always work and that some women report that passing the tissue at home is incredibly painful in terms of cramping. For me, there were losses where I tried the pill three different times over three consecutive weeks and I still didn't fully pass the tissue. I had to have an ultrasound each week to look at that tissue still sitting in my body. This ended up being much more traumatic for me than the D&C and I hated the experience. For other women the pill works on the first shot. And naturally, the benefits are again you get to pass at home. The downsides would be you don't know when it might happen, it may never happen, so again you may need other interventions. I hope this helps.
@@katieleecgctalksmiscarriage thank you for being so helpful, I didn’t even know I was pregnant I just thought my cycle was off. This was my first time getting pregnant, I didn’t imagine having to deal with grief.
I’m going through this now I’m heartbroken I can’t cope it destroys u to max me in fiancé are destroyed we need a baby we going to keep trying but not point wanted this baby so much so unfair sorry to everyone truly sorry it horrible ppl I no xxxx my butterfly I love u xxxx
Hi I just went through this , this morning:( I’m scheduled for a D&c appointment next week I’m so sad because I’ve had two kids before and never had a miscarriage in my life the only symptom I had was light bleeding for about a week in a half which I Consultant my doctor about it but she said if it’s not heavy and I’m not cramping just to wait it out until my ultrasound appointment 😞
I had a missed miscarriage, I have taken pills but initially, I swallowed the pills, and up till now it hasn't worked out, please ma'am help what will I do to get out of this
That’s exactly what happened to me I was supposed to be 10 weeks the ultrasound showed the baby only made it to 7 weeks no heartbeat I was hurt so hurt . I have no hope for another try
Hi I just had my 3 rd missed miscarriage. I had a successful pregnancy with my first born and after that in 3-4 years I had 3 miscarriages. All three times looked the same. No symptoms, no bleeding and just the baby heartbeat stops around 5-8 weeks. We saw the baby all 3 times. Doctor said it shouldn’t be a chromosome issue so I don’t need to get tested but just keep trying. But I do not want to go through another miscarriage. Why do you think the doctor said I don’t need to be tested? What is your opinion on this? Is it because they were all missed miscarriages and I also had a successful pregnancy before?
Hi April. I am so sorry for your losses and that it is taking a long time for a second pregnancy. I have been through the same thing. I had my son in 2016 with no issue, followed by 5 miscarriages. The most common cause of miscarriage is a chromosomal problem. A doctor who thinks that 3 miscarriages in a row is not a problem is likely misinformed. A person who has had 3 or more miscarriages clearly meets the definition of recurrent pregnancy loss. I have some videos on this topic. There are all sorts of tests a well-informed doctor could order for someone who has been through 3 losses. I might consider getting another opinion and meeting some other providers. I also think chromosome testing on the miscarriage could be informative regardless of the number of losses a patient has had. I am thinking of you and hope you hang in there.
Hi I had the same experience like you. I had my first one successfully. After 3 years I had missed miscarriage at week 20, was a baby girl. Again after 1 year I lost my next one at week 12. Can't understand what's the wrong behind this...😢
I had a missed miscarriage back in October 2021 and think I’m having another missed miscarriage now March 2022. I’ve lost all symptoms. Stress has been high and wondered if that caused it. Panic attack levels.
Kimberly, I am so sorry. I see you wrote this comment a couple of weeks ago and I am really hoping your pregnancy is still progressing. As someone who has been through missed miscarriages, I know they absolutely suck. I hope you are hanging in there.
@@katieleecgctalksmiscarriage Happily I am still pregnant! I’m 12 weeks now. 🙂 Still very scared due to my past missed miscarriage, but I’m hopeful as well. Thank you for your reply.
@@MagicalSoulMindStorm Yay congrats Kimberly!!! I was so happy to see this. Pregnancy after loss is hard. I would tell myself "different pregnancy, different outcome" but it was still hard to believe at times, especially with the waxing and waning of symptoms. Your odds of a miscarriage go down every day! I feel very hopeful for you!
Which one is more preferable? The second method(inserted pill) or the third method? I'm experiencing exactly the same with you right now and I have to decide which option that I wanted. This is my first twins pregnancy and I really don't know what option do I need to go.
