What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Myths & Misconceptions with Dr Ali Mattu 

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Thank you for covering a topic most professionals and people find taboo. As someone who suffers from BPD, we often get shoved to the side because we're "treatment resistant." In reality, we need someone to be by us and walk alongside us through life's up and downs. Thank you for bringing awareness to this!

Thanks for having me on the channel and for sparking this great conversation!!!

As a Borderliner, I’m sending love to all my fellow people with borderline! I’ve managed to better myself with almost all my symptoms. They are still a problem of course but it’s getting a lot better! I can recommend sports to you all! The gym is literally like self therapy! ❤

I was diagnosed with CPTSD and BPD in my forties. The best therapy for me has been moving to the country, no neighbors, just my husband and our dogs, growing a garden and painting. Getting away from society is what helps me stay calm and regulated. Great videos on this channel 👍 Thanks for shinning a light on mental illness 🙏

I just lost a relationship to this disorder. I feel so bad for her. She can be such a beautiful person, but when borderlines have an "episode" and get into that black and white thinking, all hell breaks lose. I was viewed as bad, and treated accordingly. I admit I made mistakes. I didn't know alot about this disorder and I fed into it. I have regrets, and a whole lot of coulda, woulda, shouldas. I pray one day our paths cross again. I really hope she gets the help she needs.

I wasn't able to reply to someone in the live chat, you'll know who you are, but in case you see this comment, I'd like to say I'm sorry for your loss and just keep on working on managing any negative emotions and don't give up hope.

He is so compassionate and knowledgeable. This was very nice to watch. He mentioned the example about reasons someone would blow up & making the chains..& coming to the conclusion of them not being a horrible person… If it’s a personality issue, how would someone differentiate between the disorder and your actual true personality? Some symptoms with bpd are irritable/aggression.. how can you know of a person is just plain mean or if it’s the disorder? Either way, thank you for the information 🙏

Thank you so much. This disorder is horrendous for me, life disrupting on a new level but this gives me the information I need and a lot of hope.

Just started the video. Hoping you guys aren't as biased as doctors, over the clients gender. Being male with BPD gets me very odd looks when I say it as my disorder. And my personal "favorite", "don't only girls/women get BPD?" No, very clearly men get it as well (points at self) Anyone suffering with BPD, just remember. You can manage this! It's a nightmare learning to do it, I am still trying my best to learn how to cope. Looking back on how far I've come in the last 5 years, all the things I didn't think i would survive, I have because of my CBT skills and the DBT I have learnt. What I'm getting at is you are not alone/crazy/overly emotional or any other negative self perception! You can manage this illness and you can be the best version of you regardless of how awful the moment feels!! ❤️

I'm only 17 but I'm 95% sure I have BPD. My dad also has it so I know what it looks like. I'm just scared that it will take years before I can get actual help for it. My dad has torn himself and my family apart, I'm not going to be like that. I want to get help so I can get better for myself and the people I love, he doesn't. If it turns out I have BPD, I'm going to do my best to be the best version of myself for everyones sake.

45years living with bpd. it's a chore! maintenance is key! edit: dbt is a GODSEND, and a refresher course needs to be available for when mindfulness starts getting ignored. bring us back to center. I need help with depression, eating, sleeping and not suffocating my favorite person! but there are no cheap dbt groups to join

This was really informative. I could listen to Dr. Mattu talk all day. He is incredibly skilled in this field. As someone who has an ACES score of 8, I have had a lot of issues. I found myself very interested in mental health issues

Thanks for spotlighting this topic! As someone with BPD, unpacking the stigma behind my illness is so much help among the community and within ourselves to feel supported, seen, and heard. We are still people. We may have difficulties in emotional regulation, but conversations ease the situation for everyone involved. For others with BPD, please hang in there and find mental health professionals and a support system passionate and committed to your care because we will survive and can get through this. Sending all of you best wishes! ❤

It took 15 years for me to finally be diagnosed with BPD. I have found out the hard way that so many of us that have this condition are put into “The Too Hard Basket” by professionals.

What about a video about the difference between symptoms of narcissism and BDP? Because Many narcissists are BPD, many people assume they are interchangeable, or the same thing. And it can be very stigmatizing.

Your content is always amazing and educational, RU-vid should recognize it. Keep up the good work! ♥️

Dr. Ali describes this in such a wonderful and respectful way

It's really helpful for me as a student of clinical psychology.

I really appreciate him being here and he was extremely helpful but I wish he didn’t use the word “problem” so much. It can be hard to hear when you have BPD.

Hey Psych2Go! Can you guys do a video on detaching from someone you love? They are not toxic or anything but you've come to the realization that it's just not meant to be and you need to move on for yourself even if they've been good to you. Thanks.

29:14 i think this is one of the most important sentences when it comes to your mental illness: it's not your fault, but your responsibility

The best video. I love your channel. So so so helpful

Nice video and the chain analysis is a way of considering things, I will try it.

I am studying psychology and this is one of the topics and diagnosis I want to get into. It is almost always misdiagnosed.

I really needed this video I actually need to make a playlist on psych stuff. My mom, my sister and my friend have all been diagnosed so I just want to understand them better.

Oh wow. You asked. And.. You did it! Thank you! Thank you! All of my love! 💙💙💙💙

Good talk‼️

Well that was a good stream Hope to see you guys in the next stream

A friend of mine at work is dealing with this and I hope I can understand a little better what this is about in order to help her or at least not to trigger her. This video has been very helpful, thanks.

Great explanation!!! Thank you so much....🤓

I used to think I was just manic depressive, but now I truly believe I have BPD..... these videos have become an extreme help to me..... thank you

THANK YOU 💕😘💕😘🙏🙏👀✨✨💫🌈😁😇👍🎼🎧🎼🎧🎧🦄🐾🦄🐾SO MUCH MONICA FOR THE INTERVIEW ABOUT (* BORDERLINE PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTIC, SYMPTOMS,DISORDER, THERE'S A LOT OF QUESTIONS ABOUT SIGNS & SYMPTOMS OF (** BPD**)! 9/27/2022

Love this !! I have Bpd cluster c along with ADHD 😕😕😕 Reltionships never last long kuz I’m told I’m tooo much too clingy needy I just love hard

Hello! Everyone take care and have a nice day! 😊❤️

Thank you so so much for highlighting this disorder. I find it hard to deal with this along with my Cptsd and OCD

Thanks for covering this topic because I suffer from this condition AND Is very hard to Understand when my depression drove me to this other Siquiatric condition I was very suicidal Hurt myself a lot a lot Anxiety Im going to theraphy help me but I still feel shame to tell my Family Friends know I know how to deal with this hes Rigtht sleep exercise I learn to say NO AND try to stop plessing everyone because that cause me a lot stress thanks for this Amaizing Dra Blessings 🙏🏼🌹

4:04 but this is accurate... we are emotional, we do overreact, we can be manipulative.

I Have this and alot of other diagnosed mental disorders and thanks so much for telling me more than my old psychiatrist did. She told me she could not help me. So , I left her practice. Thanks so much for telling me more things I did not understand about my anger and how BPD is affecting me because i really couldn't find anyone to help me. I have all of these things with my life and I have a loving husband but, he doesn't understand. My parents were never abusive though the forced me to go to church 3 times a week. But, I do not consider that abuse they were and are still good parents. I lost my 2 sons though one at 19 and one at 22 and it ripped me apart. I have been sexually abused and almost raped a few times in my child hood I think I blocked out alot due to the sheer fear I don't know. But if my parents are good parents then why am I this way?? Is it all the abuse and rape that happened to me in my early 20's ?Also was a drug addict addicted to meth for 9 years and now 6 clean. I am 30 now .

I am diagnosed with BPD and MDD. For the past couple of months my mental has been going downhill and also I am 100% remote due to no choice of my own because when I'm home I'm in my head and I start to think negatively. To anyone dealing with the same thing how do you find the motivation to get out of this rut? I'm used to my depression coming and going but this time it's really hard to shake as I feel like I'm just existing at this point and that it's not meant for me to ever find happiness in this lifetime

Hey can you do a video relating to how arguing between parents can affect children short term and long term and what the effects of that are? Also how they can get treatment?

How about attachment styles like disorganized attachment?

Interesting. Thank you. Any info on the BPD - HSP connection? Intuitively I think there's a strong link there.

The treatment for B.P.D. sounds allot like what we INFJs naturally doing our daily lives. We naturally love to self reflect, but we also do this to see many different outcomes of the future, as many perspectives and possibilities as we can think up. But, it does help if we maybe do something we aren't proud of as well so we avoid the same outcome from happening ever again. I think someone took that right out of the INFJ handbook, haha. Anyway, as long as it works, then I am glad for it.

I have someone in my family with this disorder. It is so difficult, I can not tell you how much we struggle to keep this family member in our life. I am at a lose as how to deal with them. Makes my heart break.

Monica is great at explaining things in a simple way that my ADHD brain can understand

Hi 👋 Imma just leave a comment also Awesome vid

Im diagnosed with schizophrenia and psychosis depression, still I'm here trying to live.....

Im afraid to ask my therapist about it. Because I am 14 and as alot of people say its normal to have some of the traits of BPD as a teenager, but all of the symtoms especially of quiet BPD I relate to on a deeper level. I dont have bipolar disorder but sometimes I have times where I can go into a "episode" as people have been calling it lol but its not the same as what a normal rebelious teenager would do. I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety but thats all ive been tested for. Im not self diagnosing in any way. But I truly feel like i have this. And this is coming from me who usually underestimates\under values my emotions and things like that.. But as he said personalitys arent fully made as a teenager so i dont even know if its possible for me to have it.

🎉❤ 1 can be featured regarding reiki, Holistic health tips and hacks surrounding CPTSD , personal story includes how specific, yet no so we'll known- alternative health methods, can be so helpful. Cranio-sacral therapy, accupuncture, etc.

Wow.. When I get going I feel the strongest urge and repetitive thought to hurt myself.. Wondering why Bpd does that?

Hi

I was recently diagnosed will b.p.d

*Today's message is about a song by Alan Jackson titled - Angels and Alcohol.* Funny title, right.* Personally, I think Alan must have been high on whiskey when he wrote that song. Lmao. So the first verse of the song goes like this... "You can't mix angels and alcohol I don't think God meant for them to get along When it takes control, you can't love no one at all You can't mix angels and alcohol" Each time I hear that song, I just keep thinking about the line: *"I don't think God meant for them to get along"* Just like Angels and Alcohol (according to Alan)...there are things that just won't go along in this life no matter what. An example that comes to mind is "making money" and "making excuses" I always say you can't make money and make excuses. You have to pick one and be okay with it. So, which one are you choosing today? Angels or Alcohol? Making money or making excuses? Just one. And be okay with whatever comes out of that choice. *Have a great day!* ❤️

It's almost all based in unprocessed childhood trauma. Especially BPD. You talked about almost everything besides the childhood trauma causes. DBT is the only therapy model even considered worthy among the corrupt behavioral health services system. There's several other models operating with clear success. What's the difference between CPSTD and BPD???

Commenting for the algorithm😎😎

Me sitting here, pulling out my hair and watching this guy

I'm going to a psych soon for an assessment soon. 😓

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Strange things, these are. I served for 15 years, being dumped like trash after I got injured (and several PTSDs) with no compensation or any reward. It's terrible to thing that the only real and independent decision I made in my life, to serve, was the one I ruined my life with. I've never been diagnosed with anything, nobody ever gave shit - well including me, I just blamed myself to be an idiot... After all I wonder which 3 or 4 letter mark matches me and my misery

Make such videos with doctors who treat the patients regularly, because they can share their first-hand experiences with us

*Was* highly stigmatized? *WAS?* Mate, it's still *VERY* stigmatized. (Have you been on Quora? People have *thoughts.)* I've already been discriminated against by a psychologist specifically *because* of my BPD diagnosis...and this was only 4 months after I received my diagnosis.

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⚠️‼️WE WANT A TRANSLATION FOR ALL LANGUAGES INCLUDING ARABIC (CC)⚠️‼️ #29

It's 6% of the GP, not 1%

❤❤ please talk to us about the trauma, Hamas and Palestinians. Not interested in politics. Currently ACTUALLY #underfire. Israel.

shrooms and mdma have been helping for years just not legally

Did I sense some flirty vibes between you two?

he's also on something

Sorry, the vocal fry plus the uplift at the end of each sentence making everything into a question made this impossible for me to finish 😢

the dude sound conceding about the condition

:))))))))))

Amber Heard? 😀

I stumbled upon this awesome website while I was browsing through the Google search results. It's got all the modules for free, which is so cool! I've already completed a few modules and now I'm itching to dive straight into distress tolerance and chain analysis. I can't thank the psych2go team enough for putting together this incredible segment.

this is a joke

Had a bpd ex…stay far away from them fellas! Too much drama and baggage.

Cringe af 🤢

Hi