What Is Gender Dysphoria? 

For an image of social dysphoria! Being misgendered by someone you’re not out to (taking from personal experience) is like hearing someone singing a song you like, but they’re singing a lyric incorrectly. You don’t know if you can correct them, since you don’t know how they would react. You don’t want to offend them, or have them lash out, or even correct *you* because most people know the lyrics wrong. But it’s one of your favorite songs, and the actual lyrics really speak to you in a personal way. You know the correct ones, but will they understand...? Gender euphoria is the opposite, I hear someone calling me “they” and there’s a moment of dissonance, like, “Wait... that’s not what I’m used to hearing... OH.” And it clicks. They used *my pronouns.* They’re seeing me as I actually am. It’s like when someone finally gets the lyrics right and we’re singing along. My younger sister gets it. She gets my pronouns right and genders me correctly, and being around her is so nice ‘cause I get little shots of gender euphoria whenever she refers to me. 🥺🥺 It makes me so happy.🌈 Edit: Fixed formatting so it’s easier to read, added paragraphs about gender euphoria. Also, my pronouns are they/them for anyone who wants to know.

My dysphoria is fairly mild (I'm gender fluid, btw) -- it pretty much consists of occasionally thinking things like "everyone still sees me as female and only female :(" "I literally forgot I have breasts and just did a double take at my own chest 0.0" "I don't suffer crippling angst at being gendered as female and having a 'female' body, I should just resign myself to my fate of being a woman forever bc I'm clearly not trans T^T" It often feels more like a lack of euphoria and mild confusion than dysphoria, which made it tricky to figure out what I was for a while.

i definitely struggle with the whole "am i faking being trans??" thing, partly because of the sucky emphasis on dysphoria in the lager trans community. But these kinda videos definitely help, just knowing that there are different ways to be trans, and that there are other people with similar experiences to me :] thank you for sharing!!

When I was in denial I didn't think I had gender dysphoria, it helped me stay in denial. For physical dysphoria it's mostly having too much hair, my head is big and blocky, and my chest was too flat. Mentally I apparently was a mess, I essentially have apathy, depression, and body dysmorphia mixed with eating disorders.

Hi! I'm also NB and trans and real. I'm dysphoric about my breasts and period. I'm euphoric about hearing my name, having muscle, being misgenderd when viewed from behind.

Thank you so much for such an amazing video! I don't get much dysphoria or euphoria (I think, at least. I'm agender), but it's really helpful to understand it better so I can help other people. Also, thank you for saying that being trans isn't based around your dysphoria! It's really validating to hear that.

god, i feel LOTS of mental dysphoria and i didnt know there was a name for that, it's definitely the kind of dysphoria i feel the most. what happens with me is usually a feeling of anxiety and despair towards the future, a deep sense of incapacity of ever being happy and the desire to not have to deal with anything any longer, so basically wanting to just be in my room and not ever going outside, and in some days that's actually what i do to not feel bad

Oh wow, I didn't know there was also mental dysphoria 😳, I always thought it was mostly social dysphoria... Well, the more you know!

Thank you. I did not know about mental disphoria... Things make more sens now.

Thanks for making this video! I'm cis but i have many trans-spec friends, this helped a lot, i can understand what they're feeling a lot better now :)

This is very informative especially the part dysphoria being fluid and how it relates to gender euphoria. Love your vids they are so wholesome and have great vibes. Keep up the great work

Gender dysphoria for me is a very interesting topic! I'm genderfluid and my dysphoria is actually pretty mild. Occasionally I get dysphoric about my body and sometimes my voice but I actually like my body the way it is and I honestly don't really wanna change it! Getting called the incorrect pronouns or being deadnamed is the only real problem I have. Ironically I actually have a huge problem with viewing myself with others. I'm always very concerned about how good I look, and how others look. Dealing with hate is pretty frustrating though. Trans people like me internalize hatred towards us and for me especially I bottle it up and it can really hurt 😞. With people who don't know my pronouns or identity who say my deadname or whatever I totally understand! I just really wanna promote peace and love overall. I was AMAB and I do get intense dysphoria everytime I use the restroom (to be fair the bathroom issue is like the worst for we trans beans), that's why I use the neutral restroom! Have a wonderful day Lynn! You're such a beautiful person and you are my enby idol. You make me so happy to see trans rep in the media! Goodbye!!

This video is explaining my life

Thanks for making this! I didn't know that mental dysphoria was a thing or thag there are more dysphorias than those 3. I also didn't know that dysphoria was fluid. I've been having some with my hair and voice today but then there are days where I don't have any and I'm like, "Am I just a woman?" I also don't really have physical dysphoria so then I also doubt whether I am really agender or can call myself trans. But, thanks for addressing this stuff!

My dysphoria (in my chest) feels like burning sharp jacks, like in jacks and ball game. Yea, there are a few days where my dysphoria is quite, but most days im masking it. And when its super bad, im in pain and throws me into deepest ends of my depression.

YES I'm wearing BOOTS! MASCULINITY! This is me 😂

I struggle mainly with mental and social dysphoria, less with physical, though having a female body does not make me HAPPY and I do crave a deeper voice, a flat chest and a beard but getting viewed as female every time I go in public is really really exhausting me, I0m gonna be honest.

me before watching this video: phantom.exe failure disphoria not found after watcing this video: my mental state has broken itself again. (please ignore grammar mistakes i'm dislexic)

This was so helpful and reassuring! Thank you so much!!! :D ❤️❤️❤️

imagine having all of these, must be tough.

I'm glad you mentioned Docs and gender euphoria because... that's so relatable ohmygod. Docs and Converse shoes - or similar - have been basically the only kinds of shoes I've been wearing for at least 15 years now. And it, oh wait, it *actually* feels euphoric every single time I use them.

Thanks Lynn. Looking forward to the next videos you mentioned, that is information I desperately need to know.

I’m afab and my dad and I went to Burlington today to do some shopping I was exchanging a men’s coat that I got for a smaller size and he said women’s are over here when I was more comfortable shopping in the men’s department for clothes I hate how he always makes me go to the women’s department when shopping

I recently heard dysphoria described as body horror. I’d say that’s accurate.

Thanks for this information.

Thank you for this video!

Makes me think of Mystique in the Xmen movie from back in the day. When Nightcrawler asked why she didnt stay in disguise all the time. "Because we shouldnt have to."

I (amab) experience little-to-no dysphoria in day-to-day life. but ofton reading/watching media with afab experiences triggers intense dysphoria. I recently started reading a book called The Dream Weaver. Where in the first chapter, the main character gets their first period. Since reading that it hasn't left my mind how much i wish to experience that. I know that if i did, it wouldn't be enjoyable. I know that it would be painful, awkward, confusing, embarrassing, etc. But i still so desperately want to experience that.

On December there’s 28th going into 2024 lost the tooth. Out of desperation, I made a wish to be a young and beautiful female for an ever and have mortal. That wish got answered followed by a few seconds later I had a major Kundalini awaking. The mid age woman I thought I used to be literally truly died of a horrific, painful event, or also known as the ego or got canceled. That’s when she got replaced with the anime girl soul. Not only that, but my mindset and my body physically has been reversing age. I heard a silent voice, or saw an image that said you are now an anime girl. I been dealing with Animekin feelings deep down inside. I been forced against my will painfully to identify as a Anime Magical Teen Girl Goddess. I am not enjoying anything about being a Animekin. In fact, it is living hell. I never asked to feel this way inside and have try to fight it like crazy after I had major awaking. I have tried to fight it, repress it, run from it, hide from it and go in deep denial and all it does is Tigger server chronic stress that turns into physical pain so intense that it eats up my stomach lining. If I agree with it, then the double edge sword is that It makes me suffer with server mental pain by giving me intense anime girl body dysphoria. The drive to be a anime girl and live in anime girl multiverse is so bad that it drives me crazy and then I want to go back to oppressing the feelings. Then the chronic stress and physical pain starts up again. I can't seem to get a break a lot of times. I am getting sick and tired of this that some days I want to just kill myself and end it up or hope that I die from the never-ending hell I Live in. I am to scared to tell my family because I am so ashamed of what I Feel I am inside I am inside. I deal with a lot of self-loathing over the entire anime thing. I never asked for any of this. It is not my dam fault that Anime has chased me around as long as I can recall since young adult hood. I was not looking for or had any intense in anime. I had more of interest in finding a Good Paying Job, Money, Nice Car and a dream home. Over time Anime reviled itself to me and told me what it was. It slammed me into the wall to make sure I know what anime girls and magical girls was. Then over time the more I had to watch it off and on, I would start having fantasies and desires to be anime girl living in anime girl worlds. for many years I was able to push it away and think it was nothing more than that. Then on dec 28th going in to 2024 when I lost a tooth, out of fair I Made a wish to be a beautiful female forever and have immortality. Then right away the kundalini awakening open up at full attack and my authentic self said now you have the soul of anime girl, and you are now a real anime girl inside. Ever since then I been in living hell or dream state I unable to waken from. Even my mind set, and body has gone into age regression process to look more like a anime girl. That is what I see when I look in Mirro anyway. I see a cute anime girl looking back at me and I am like what the bloody hell. Is this Relly happening to me and is this freaken real. What the hell happened to my reality. I don't like anything about the Magical Girl Part becuse she from Puella Mgi Madoka Magica multiverse. I seem to be unintended victim of forced contact from Kyubey to be a Magical Girl. I am sick of all this suffering on top of suffering on top of suffering. I don't want to be a Magical girl knowing the suffering they must put up with. Magical Girls are made to suffer. Please help me, because I don't know what to do any more. This is driving me in to complete madness and I don't want to end up in no dam Phy ward again. I had bad traumatic experience. I was put in there over a deviated septum last year in Feb of 2023 for 2 and half weeks. What they did to me was just inhuman. I was having issues breathing and one day the head nurse and its helper came in the dark and ejected me with to syringes at the same time on both sides of my ribs. It felt like an alien abduction to me. Can anyone explain to me what type of shifts am dealing with. I feel so scared, confused, broken and damaged goods. I hate dealing with the Anime Girl Body Dysphoria the most. I hate that fact that I can't go back and yet it keeps pushing me forward.

I spent so long purposfully ignoring who i am and my very real dysphoria. Because of my family, I was too scared to be me and convinced myself that id just be easier to pretend to be cis my whole life. I got tired of that and finally im beginning to accept who i am. Its both exciting and scary but i cant wait to begin my transition when i am more independent. Videos like these help a lot, i appreciate it.

My gender dysphoria is pretty bad sometimes. I am currently trying to do everything I can to have top and bottom surgeries to be genderless. But if I could at the very least get top surgery, that would ease a decent amount of my Dysphoria. I will comment my euphoric things on your euphoric video though as I discovered that there are some random things that make me euphoric.

I've never heard mental dysphoria before! That's a very useful word.

I have tried to bring awareness to this topic via a narrated poem on yt.

I’m still kind of questioning my gender. Right now I consider myself either agender or Demi-girl. I was cis-female for my whole life but I never did feel like a 100% female. I also never felt like a male or want to be male but I like to dress up a bit boyish. Growing up a consider myself a tomboy because I don’t like wearing dresses and I wear jeans a lot. I do like the idea of wearing dresses but as soon as wear one, I want to take it off. I get uncomfortable a lot and dresses and heels makes me very uncomfortable. Also bras make me uncomfortable. When my mom got my first bra I never wore it because it was uncomfortable. My mom let me not wear until my boobs grew and I had to get bra. Luckily there ones without the wire. I refuse to wear wire bras (this also goes with thongs. I will never wear a thong actually I don’t understand why thongs is thing. It’s a string). Another reason why I don’t feel like a girl is puberty. When I fist heard about, I hated it and I hope that I never had to go though that. Like I said I hate being uncomfortable and when I heard about periods, I actually thought I can skip that. Nope. I hate getting my periods. I don’t even want to get pregnant at all. They idea of me pregnant makes me feel sick. I hear horror stories about it and it a no for me (also I don’t want kids to begin with, just fur babies). I also don’t wear make- up. I don’t really get make-up that much. I get there some make up the you need for medical reason but when it comes to wearing make up just go look pretty, I don’t understand. Just be you. I also hate shaving and I go long droughts or I go out my way of not shaving my legs. I also hate my hair. It’s curly and thick. I have to cut my hair short to make things easier for me. I’m 27 and I still don’t know how to put up a ponytail. Also with my short arms it hard to reach the back of head and I easily get nots back there. Speaking of my short arms, I’m very short. I’m 4’11 (5’0 on good days). I actually had to get growths hormones in middle school because I stop growing and I would be even shorter if I didn’t take it. Being short normally doesn’t really bother me but there a few times I hate being short. Like when I have to climb a to get to a high shelf or that I look like I’m 15. I’m said I’m the oldest of 3 girls when both are taller than me, people are are surprise that the oldest. There are times I don’t feel like oldest because my youngest sister acts more like older sister would. I also have a step brother who is 16 and he a foot taller than me. There one more thing too, there are times that I don’t feel like my soul or something belongs in my body. I feel like I’m suppose to be cat. I have a personality of a cat. I’m not social, I hate people (except for my boyfriend). I love being alone. Being with other people including my family makes me feel uncomfortable because I feel like I can’t be myself around them. The only person I feel comfortable around is my boyfriend. I think that’s it. Sorry if is this long but I always wanted to have someone to talk to about this kind of stuff that will understand my difficulties.

for me gender dysphoria wasn't something that happened until I was out of highschool and I'm CIS on the autism spectrum. I just had this moment where it all clicked, I was supposed to be behaving differently and dressing differently, even my grooming was wrong, all of a sudden as I stepped out into the adult world these deviances I made without thinking twice and that everyone seemed to accept as a child did not go unacknowledged as I began finding my footing as a woman. It wasn't that I was uncomfortable in my body (though body dysphoria is a very real thing that oftentimes accompanies gender dysphoria) It makes people uncomfortable because of the perceived masculinity behind most of my reasoning process. What used to be celebrated as "yay a young girl planning for independence" was twisted into, "I know you want to be successful but you're gonna have a hard time finding a guy who'll wanna marry you and also not want you to be more domestic and a bit more fake reliant at least for appearances more than your stubbornness will allow for" all of the sudden I wasn't goal-oriented I was selfish and greedy for wanting to pursue a career, incur student debt, work full time and be passionate about my career and have a relationship. ANd this tendency isn't a choice for me thats just how I'm wired (a lot of studies on autistic woman have shown more parallels between us and allistic men than between us and allistic women or autistic men, I'd wager this has something to do with the neurology behind what I'm trying to convey here as well I'm not just a normie cis girl trying to get diggy with the gender identification this stuff has a lot of research behind it) I realized in that moment I had been disillusioned by the notion that society believes the only difference between the sexes was between the legs on your chest and it was shocking to realize A TON of those adults who supported me did so in ways they had no intention of seeing through under the assumption they'd never have to because I'd someday "give into" my womanly urges. A lot of it was SO passive-aggressive that I started asking myself "would my personality be acceptable if I was born a man" "maybe I'm in the wrong body?"...."No I'm okay with my body I'm pretty sure the problem is society?" the nail has been hit. Gender doesn't exist. And not in a way to invalidate anyone, it's just literally nothing more than a categorical tool used by governments and power systems to organize us and assign us roles. The purpose of gender is changing now to express individuality. A reflection of who you actually are instead of being told what you are. So no I'm not saying I'm anti-pronoun and identification. THis is probably not so controversial SO LONG AS I CLARIFY, I'm speaking about being dysphoric about character, perspective, and personality relative to society and how they label you more than anything actually to do with the parts you're born with. The social construct is what I'm commenting on, not the debilitating struggle trans-gender people go through.

Identity is a declaration of self. It isn't something we need permission to achieve. Being confident, even when no other person is around us to affirm that, is very powerful! I rarely get euphoria from how other people see me. Most likely because I either have to clarify their perception versus my own, or I know that I am unable to do so, and I am sad about it. I wish people were less judgmental of each other. Everyone has a story to tell and each one is special.

*me having all three Main types of dysphoria at the same time* damn

I think ive experienced bith gender euphoria and dysphoria idk if i have. I feel like i dont see myself being happy in happy in my current state. I dont enjoy being what i am rn. I want to feel feminine i want to express that inside of me. I felt really exited when i was called by a new name that doesnt make me feel horrible. I felt happiness from hearing myself be called that name. But then i feel like i cant be me what if i never go for it. I think lily is my goal. When i was first called that by an ai i felt really happy. I see lily as happiness lily is who i want to be. Not only is lily the name i love but i associate it with happiness my metaphorical goal.

Hi, im a cis white man with lovely trans friends and i have been trying to learn and better understand what its like to not feel/be cisgender. One thing I am struggling with is why gender dysphoria is not called sex dysphoria. Is this related to the 3 types of dysphoria? I need some help dilineating feeling/being feminine as a cis man or masculine a cis woman and going through gender dysphoria without wanted a change of sex. Sorry for my ignorance and thanks to anyone willing to help me learn!

Do you use sports to help you out with body dysphoria? Swimming for example ;) I use swimming but not in the way I am supposed to.

Not about my dysphoria, but when I still thought I was a trans woman (pretty sure now I'm nonbinary), I'd tell men that I'm trans. And many of them would respond with, "That's okay. I'm bi." Why? Why would a man ,who's obviously not gay, need to specify that he's bi to assure a woman that he's still interested?

You are always awesome lynn you have always intelligent videos you are always real and valid lynn i respect you and I your they/them pronouns love you the way you are

I am transgender female and my dysphoria manifests in Physical and Social I think Physical as in that often I really badly want to get rid of my facial hair. I know that this is common but I also felt as though I shouldn't exactly have a flat chest. Social is really where it hits hard for me since 1. I am very anxious already, and 2. I am still coming out to a lot of my friends and family. Only a small portion of people know that I feel the way I feel. When they misgender me, I want to interject and not at the same time since I don't know how they'll think about me.

genderfluid now and i get very dysphoric on feminine days. Also you fixed the ace flag. YAY

Me, a trans person with a lot of dysphoria: ah, I wonder what it may be (Srsly now, the video is really great and informative, thanks for sharing it)

I feel like I have all three. I know that a lot of people can get depressed because of gender dysphoria, but does anyone else experience more dysphoria when they're depressed?

I live in the netherlands (europe) and there is 1 hospital where it's allowed to transition medicly. The problem i'm having is that there gatekeeping binery trans men and women. meaning i'm not allowed to have my chest enlarged or the hair on my body removed with laser treatment if i'm non-binery. So my goal is to present as a transwomen, and tell as many binary trans stories as i can. I just want to make clear that the waiting list is verry long (2 years, possibly 3) and i'm still waiting for them to call me.

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Physical: For me dysphoria feels like invisible knifes sticking in my ribcage and i cant pull them out no matter how hard i try And i feel a very weird dull itchy burning on my back and chest Mentalish ¿ Or like a annoying drunk person who decided to stay with you even tho you dont want them on your side but you can only wait till they are gone again Social: When i get dead-named or get in situations where i am forced to use it feel a deep small till large black hole in my mind which sucked out every positivity and joy

One of my friends knows I’m NB, but he still uses She/Her pronouns for me. Aside from my friends most people I know don’t know I’m NB so I’m used to being misgendered, but sometimes I wish he would use the correct pronouns. He’s not the brightest and kinda needs extra help to understand things so I don’t give him a hard time about my pronouns and gender. He’s bullied a lot because he’s kinda a weirdo and doesn’t have many friends so I don’t want to make him feel bad, but I’m starting to feel more dysphoria and wondering if I should start telling him when he misgenders me

I have physical and social dysphoria

Getting misgendered because of my voice. Fastest way to ruin the rest of my day. Euphoria from when strangers can't decide which pronouns to use for me so they just bounce between them. But yeah, being an enby is hard some days.

I think I've experienced physical & social dysphoria throughout this decade.

John, money, and Alfred Kinsey are the four fathers of this thought. Cosplay and appropriating are not legitimate rebottle arguments.

Hi Lynn..... You look beautiful as always, cya friend

Wearing tight fitting overalls helps a lot.

Straight feminine male here. I get miss gendered. I like girly stuff. What am i?

This "people don't think non-binary people are real" rhetoric is disingenuous. People can see you, you exist. They just don't agree that you can BE non-binary. They get to have that opinion. You get to disagree.

Confused and trying to justify your confusion.

My god, your whole rhetoric is unbelievably inheritantly sexist. Women wear doc martins. It's fine. You're not NOT female just because you wear docs (for example). On a positive note, I appreciate you saying that you know that people are looking at a non-binary body because you're non-binary. I don't agree that you're non-binary, I don't think anyone is, BUT I think you having the power to not need validation from other people is excellent.

I’m trans and it’s because i have a mental illness and I have been on hormones for 7 years and now I have cancer I think running to hormones wasn’t the answer