What Is Going On ??? 🤨 || My Practical Advice for Homemakers & Response to Criticism of My Lifestyle

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@jk4351 3 месяца назад

As a long time follower, I think I speak for all of us when I say- we're so proud of you for making this video. We all know it will cause some reactions, even back in the day when you were completely non confrontational and accommodatimg to everyone there was still backlash. But you still had the courage to voice your opinion about serious issues in this community. Most of all, you didn't indulge in drama, you spoke your mind and then moved on with strategy and solutions rooted in reality. 10/10

@loganthompson5374 3 месяца назад

Yes!!!! Thank you for making this REAL video

@MrsMidwest 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for your ongoing support and for this comment dear. It’s so nice to feel encouraged and to know I’m not alone in these thoughts ❤😅 I’m also happy I finally got my thoughts organized and had the time to do this. You guys deserve creators who thoughtfully care for you guys and I hope to always be that 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

@racheljane_ 3 месяца назад

I am VERY here for the calling out of MLMs 👏🏻

@MimiNwabuokuMD 3 месяца назад

I’ve been subscribed to your channel from the beginning (circa 2019). I am so proud of how far you’ve come! Keep on bringing your authentic self to this space.

@andrem4652 3 месяца назад

Caitlyn, you seem so much more happy and confident! You said you used to be a very anxious person but not anymore. Can you please make a video about you did it? Your growth has been impressive.

@andrem4652 3 месяца назад

*about how you did it

@rachel8898 3 месяца назад

I’ve missed your videos soooo much!!! I’m currently engaged and working, have always looked up to you for advice to one day pursue our goal of me staying home. I’ve become overwhelmed with all the current tradwife social media posts that you have talked about. Thanks for giving me clarity and setting me back on track with my original goals. So much love from Minnesota 💕

@mscoffeeandcream 3 месяца назад

"There is no command to turn off your brain" - best part of this video!!! Sending you so much love Caitlin!

@mckenzie81118 Месяц назад

Loved this video!

@Zeerokool 3 месяца назад

Vetting is ESSENTIAL. NOT OPTIONAL. Discernment is a skill. Picking the best man for you is even more important than a career choice in MY OPINION. A man who goes above and beyond for you is unmatched.

@de5072 3 месяца назад

I wish people even outside the homemaking space would understand this. Even those of us who are choosing to work outside the home, we also need discernment in our partners. It definitely seems like discernment isn't as big of a concern in the other side because oh i have my own job and money I don't need him.

@chantlyrique3996 3 месяца назад

The choice of your spouse is the most important choice of your life! It cannot be stated enough.

@bunny_0288 2 месяца назад

THIS! The reason I can be a homemaker and not worry is because I chose an incredible husband. He is such a kind and wonderful man who loves the Lord. I have no fears of ever getting divorced because I know his character and his values. We are about to celebrate our 14th anniversary and we have been through some really challenging and traumatic life circumstances, but they have only brought us closer together. Discernment and being a good judge of character are such important skills to have in life.

@sadieesther9721 2 месяца назад

This is just facts, who you choose to marry, as a woman OR man, greatly affects the trajectory of your life.

@gracemalowa1196 3 месяца назад

So much of traditional/homemaking/tradwife content online has been hijacked by con artists, charlatans and extremists. It's so unfortunate. So glad to see you again Cait, this video is such a breath of fresh air!

@adilson5051 3 месяца назад

are men extremists for being unapologetic conservative Christians and following what the bible says?

@thatexcalifornian6124 3 месяца назад

Yep. The grifters are out in full force!

@celozzip 3 месяца назад

thinking of esteecwilliams lol

@raquelmaria3777 3 месяца назад

I love your comment! Becoming a homemaker is almost a taboo in today's society and extremist content creators make things worse by looking like a caricature of the 50's.

@kookie_2178 3 месяца назад

Fr they're just rich influencer cosplaying as tradwives😂😂

@kierawb 3 месяца назад

Amen to “do not do wifey things or have kids with a man that is not your HUSBAND!”👏💕 Not only is marriage Gods design, but it’s also His protection!

@MrsMidwest 3 месяца назад

Yes!!! Wifey duties on a girlfriend’s contract is a traaaaaaaap 🗣️🚨🚓💨

@n0426 3 месяца назад

As much as i am scared of marriage and do not really believe in it. I still think it’s the best and safest choice for all women at all times.

@JustMeg29 2 месяца назад

@@MrsMidwest I always hear women say this but, then I also hear other women say if you don't do wifey things for a man then why would he marry you then? So when you are a girlfriend you just wait until you become married to do wifey things??? This has always confused me because there are always women saying two different things.

@gem2114 2 месяца назад

@@JustMeg29It's the level of commitment involved. Getting married means both partners are (ideally) equally committed to each other and therefore equally responsible to each other. Say a woman is committed in her mind so she does the wife thing of having a baby (I'm not referring to unplanned pregnancies) but the man hasn't fully committed and he decides he's not interested in having or supporting a family and he leaves the woman and child. There is no legal protection for them. Many people have different priorities or wants from relationships so I don't speak for everyone. But certainly having a family is a whole new kind of relationship, and much more vulnerable if someone decides to walk away. There are many ways to show and prove your good character and display the kind of loyal and loving wife you will be before becoming a wife. It's also the idea of "getting something for nothing" if one person takes advantage of another person's commitment without being committed themselves. For example I would not scrub a boyfriend's toilets, he can do that himself. But when married property and work is shared and should be given freely.

@clarekoesters3031 2 месяца назад

@@JustMeg29 Yes, that is correct. It takes away the incentive for someone to ask you to marry them if you are already living with them, cooking and cleaning for them, and having their children.

@rebekahe9692 3 месяца назад

I wanted to add to your point about education: it is not a bad thing to be an educated stay at home mom/homemaker. If that’s your goal going into college, limit the debt you go into to get a degree, but education is not wasted! As a SAHM you are your children’s teacher; you will be helping with homework, and nurturing their interests. Personally, I earned my bachelor’s degree and my CPA license before I became a homemaker. My husband regularly refers to me as the CFO of our household. I manage our investments, do tax projections, and keep a close eye on the fiscal health of our household. When our kids are in school I will probably do some accounting work on the side because I loved what I did. I just wanted to be home more!

@RachelDee 3 месяца назад

I heard a commentator recently point out, “it’s GOOD for moms to be smart and educated. Being a mom and raising kids isn’t for dummies. I WANT my wife and mother of my children to be smart so I can entrust her to do a good job.” I couldn’t believe I had such a subconscious negative view towards the intellect of homemakers, including myself, before I heard that.

@Vmb256 2 месяца назад

This is so true. Education is never wasted. Very underrated comment.

@AndrielleHillis 2 месяца назад

That is great of you. I knew of so many homemakers who didn't even want to know how much their husbands earned.

@wayNAY87 2 месяца назад

6:10 this the most gaslighting conduct. Faux homemakers posting content about how beautiful homemaking is while making lots of money off of their audience. As a full time working wife and mother, I have stopped watching a lot of these influencers who have drifted here (think Milena Ciciotti) because I see right through it, while, sadly, much of their impressionable audience does NOT.

@jennifervalencia9662 26 дней назад

Me too except for the CPA will work on that when the kids are older. I'm glad I have a degree though too in accounting.❤

@dianaaugustine5438 3 месяца назад

Community is so important. There was a sweet young lady at my church a few years ago. She and her husband had been married for two year with no kids, she was working, and they had just bought a house. She came home one day to a locked door. Her husband kicked her and her dog out. He claimed that God told him to divorce his wife. It was heartbreaking. The church surrounded her. They both lost the house. She lived with one of the church elders and his wife for close to a year. When she got her own place, we gave her furniture. We had to do a whole church discipline process to formally kick the husband out of the church. He quickly remarried another woman. It can happen. There are charlatans out there. He seemed like a “good christian man.” I think that if you were to ask that lady about the situation, she would testify to the amazing faithfulness of God and his people in the hardest of times.

@Xx.bygracethrufaith 3 месяца назад

i hope more people see this. part of living in a biblical patriarchy is the BIBLICAL part. the church has no place accepting cheating behaviors and victim blaming.

@Gracegracegrace1218 3 месяца назад

can i ask what denomination your church is? not to say every church in a denomination is as good as the next one, but there are like 50 churches in my town and it’s hard to choose!

@clarekoesters3031 2 месяца назад

@@Xx.bygracethrufaith You also don’t need to be in a patriarchal relationship to be a full-time homemaker. It’s very capitalistic and materialistic to assign the value of “who’s in charge” to the person who makes all the money/more money. You should be partners of equal value and equal decision-making regardless of roles.

@Xx.bygracethrufaith 2 месяца назад

@@clarekoesters3031 yeah that is the point of biblical patriarchy. Basically you have a strong masculine leader who accepts welcomes and asks for the influence of his wife because he knows she has wisdom in places he doesn't. It is a partnership with defined roles. But you are right, people can be home makers without that model but I am talking from a Christian perspective in my own end! Glad that people from all walks of life can choose to do what works for them.

@clarekoesters3031 2 месяца назад

@@Xx.bygracethrufaith I appreciate what you're saying, but even referring to something as "patriarchy" implies that one of you (the man) is ultimately in charge, even if he is respectful and considers the wife as some sort of expert consultant. I don't believe either partner by default should have the final authority in the relationship.

@Creneev619 3 месяца назад

We NEEDED this video! I don’t think being homemaker is about not working or not making money. It’s about prioritizing taking care of the home and family. Life and circumstances change constantly. You’re so right. Don’t make decisions based out of fear. Build your dream life with what you have right now. Equip yourself with the tools, grit, and flexibility to pivot when life happens!

@rachaelhunter 3 месяца назад

I love how respectful you are of different lifestyles and personalities. I'm a young single professional (a piano teacher to be specific). I live in a teeny tiny apartment with my chihuahua and houseplants, and I try to practice homemaking in little ways when I can, by beautifying my space with house plants and embroidery. Your channel inspired me to do that. More importantly, I recently became Christian, and you were one of the many people who helped lead me toward Christianity. Seeing your joy as you lived peacefully as a Christian, without ever trying to force it on anyone, drew me toward that light ✝

@fellowhuman7085 3 месяца назад

Aw you sound so lovely ❤ what an inspiration!

@evelynaaspidov123 3 месяца назад

Hello new sister in Christ! 💕 God bless you in your new life!

@BrokeToBlessed 3 месяца назад

Yay! So glad you’ve become a sister in Christ! Also a single teacher girl 😂 but I’m a sped teacher

@audreyandrea460 3 месяца назад

You sound like a trans person.

@romysv 3 месяца назад

Love seeing fellow Christian women who rather lead a quiet single life than marrying a bad man just to say they're married. Wish you the best sister, I too practise homemaking in small ways and pour love into my cat and what I do.

@shelby3987 3 месяца назад

I was a teacher before having children. I chose that job because I knew I wanted to be a SAHM but I also know if I need to go back to work I will get hired. Resume gap? They don’t care. The teacher shortage is so real they would hire me with one foot in the grave. We are making it work right now but it’s not easy and we make a lot of sacrifices. I know it won’t be forever in this economy but I’m cherishing every day.

@maj7874 3 месяца назад

I have my RN license and same. Even though I do not work in that profession at the moment, I do not regret getting and maintaining it. If the worst case scenario ever happened, I would easily be able to find a job and take care of my family.

@acuervo006 3 месяца назад

@@maj7874same here girl! Keep up those RN licenses 😂

@elainamarshall114 2 месяца назад

Same! Im a dietitian for this reason. Part time for now

@lightabounds77 2 месяца назад

Same but I’d rather work at Costco than be a public school teacher again!!!!!!!😂

@MayAlkhaldi 2 месяца назад

Good for you , I work in pharmaceutical companies and its totally the opposite , actually they don't prefer to hire married women , they don't mind hiring married men which is sad

@clelia8885 3 месяца назад

“The distorted caricature” AMEN. Thank you! So glad you made this video - I’m a stay at home mom and have followed you for awhile and I too am fed up.

@mt7864 3 месяца назад

My husband gives $1000 a month to spend on myself or invest. We have a written and set agreement on how he will compensate me if we ever end our relationship. Very important to marry a man that acknowledges your worth.

@shb8212 3 месяца назад

This is also a very odd take.

@lightabounds77 2 месяца назад

Wierd

@JennyLouRN 2 месяца назад

You need more than $1000 a month. Trust me as someone who was a wife & mother and had to return to college *THREE* times as a single mom to finally get a decent enough career to support my kids when he divorced me.

@JennyLouRN 2 месяца назад

Also, you will need a lot of money to get through college, and you don’t want to have to just begin saving for retirement in your 40s, 50s, and beyond.

@Vmb256 2 месяца назад

Weird, but practical I guess

@rachel1625 3 месяца назад

Caitlin I just turned 30 last week and I cannot with you saying you’re approaching middle age please 😭

@thepretendchristian9437 3 месяца назад

Right, I’m turning 30 in two months like sure my hip pops when I walk sometimes but I’m still young!

@anastasiya8314 2 месяца назад

I also turned 30 and then had my third baby two weeks later I feel so young still lol.

@TrailsOfAbundance 3 месяца назад

“Coming out of commentary hibernation with a vengeance and a bit of an attitude.” LOL! You’re speaking my language. All jokes aside though, I absolutely agree that this movement is being trashed by our own. My jaw drops to the floor when I see the content that is created and shared to young, impressionable women. Still watching this, but so far, (30 minutes in), I’m applauding you for saying what so many of us are thinking. Bravo for using your platform for good 🎉❤

@MrsMidwest 2 месяца назад

I’m glad I’m not alone. I’ve felt so confused about all of this but it’s reassuring to know it’s irritating other people too 😅

@CoilyCode 3 месяца назад

We miss you!!!! You look amazing! Real life Aurora! ❤ your voice is so needed in this space! I’m recently married and so far, it is the greatest blessing of my life! And homemaking comes naturally when you’re with a man who truly leads and cultivates an environment for you as a woman.

@rebekahe9692 3 месяца назад

This video is a breath of fresh air. I became a homemaker almost three years ago and the content has become crazy in that time! Your channel specifically helped me feel like it’s okay to be a “non-crunchy” homemaker and find my own way to run my household that works for our family.

@sammy__000 3 месяца назад

Your eloquence and vocabulary in this video could single-handedly debunk the myth that homemakers aren’t smart. Been here since the beginning and somehow you just keep getting better!

@Chelseamayhew42 3 месяца назад

This video was fire! I agree with everything.I cringe eveytime I heard the sentiment of dont go to college and not having a back up plan. My husband has a great job working in STEM. I dont worry about financials and have been a homemaker for about 6 out of the 8 years we've been married. However, i do keep my teacher certification current, I have worked in the school district as needed during the times of transition with my husband doing school or switching careers. We both have wills, life insurance policies, and plans in place for those what ifs. Im protected, provided for, and deeply loved and supported. I love being a homemaker and staying home with my children. I love volunteering at my son's school and being that PTA mom. I also know that life happens and I'm set up in many ways in the event that tragedies come, especially since we have two kids. Protect yourself ladies, especially if you and your husband have children.

@nicoobrowner 3 месяца назад

Thanks for sharing! This is grown woman advice and living. Not the trendy tik tok advice for homemaking. Caitlin has become so much more open and honest with the homemaking journey over rage years. It's refreshing to get practical advice and life experiences from homemakers. ❤❤❤

@kookie_2178 3 месяца назад

Fr this is great and so well written ❤. I also don't mind being houswife if I have financial security.and loving husband who understand that it is a work.❤

@julianeuhoff467 3 месяца назад

Caitlin, seriously. I love your brain. Just someone who is normal and says reasonable stuff. I am not even a homemaker but the main bread winner but love your content. And that you just keep it realistic. Congrats.🎉

@jasmine_milkyflower 3 месяца назад

@@adilson5051 howww 😂 She is literally a Christian housewife

@hydratejsn 3 месяца назад

@@adilson5051 what's wrong with subtle feminism? The philosophy exists for a reason and women of every walk of life are bound to encounter some of those reasons as they go through life. It absolutely doesn't have to slide to extremes.

@MrsMidwest 2 месяца назад

The fact that a main bread winner girly feels welcome and interested in my channel means so much to me and actually reflects my REAL LIFE. I have friends of all walks of life and they all inspire me in different ways. I love that you’re here and thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤

@julianeuhoff467 2 месяца назад

@@MrsMidwest Thanks for your answer and appreciation! 😊☀️

@afcopwife 3 месяца назад

I just like the realness of you stating you have “come out with a bit of attitude.” I’ve been a stay at home wife/mom for 14 years; yup we’re normal over here 😂 There’s too much extremeness in todays society.

@katrinagreinier5073 3 месяца назад

Love this! My brother is the financially abusive husband to his SAHM wife. It makes me so upset to watch her have to get permission for every dollar. It makes me so thankful for my amazing husband who takes amazing care of me financially and emotionally. I asked him for just $100-$200 a month to spend on things to make me happy(cloths, hair/skincare) he told me that i deserve $600/month.

@hisloveiseternal1 3 месяца назад

Beautiful ❤

@magdalenasamandova 3 месяца назад

Since the day we were engaged and married, right out of university and he got his first job he gave me an allowance without fail, every single month. And he increases my allowance whenever he gets more more or a promotion. He even tells me one day there won’t be a limit on my allowance and this is just for now. I’m truly lucky because I see other women beg and scrounge for dollars from their husbands because they don’t believe she should have nice things or they don’t understand why her skincare has to cost more than dollar store prices. Sickening

@kookie_2178 3 месяца назад

Your brother should learn from your husband

@MrsMidwest 2 месяца назад

Your husband and father should shame your brother because WHAT??? 😢😢😢

@jacquelynkingery7419 2 месяца назад

My husband and I budget together and spend money together. I couldn’t imagine getting an allowance. I handle all of the finances, he makes the money.

@Rosemary98-o3t 3 месяца назад

Caitlin, you have grown a lot as a person, I like you even more now:) Before your time as a mom you were already an inspiration and this life is such a nice journey with you❤ Thank you, that you exist and thank you that you find the time to make such great videos :) God bless you❤

@adilson5051 3 месяца назад

whats inspiring about a conservative Christian becoming a feminist?

@fiona8567 3 месяца назад

Dear Caitlin, i've never comment on a video on RU-vid but I really like your content and I want to let you know something. My family and I live in Germany and since our child has been born I am staying at home. Over here women who are staying at home get lots of citicism and so I want to add one point to your list which might be helpfull for you as well. You are actually working. You just don't get payed for it. Raising Kids, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, all in all making sure that you have a nice home and children who know who God is, is hard work. So all the guys who don't like your lifestyle should ask themselves how much they value unpayed work and should overthink their concept. Then all this work needs to be done as well 😊

@isabellacosby3339 3 месяца назад

This was not on my 2024 bingo card but I’m so glad you are saying something because it got scary on TikTok for a minute.

@MrsMidwest 2 месяца назад

I don’t have tik tok but trust that the content trickles to reels when I’m just trying to find Barbie memes or eras tour content and it stresses me out 😂

@ljc7053 3 месяца назад

Much needed insight 👌 Thank you! Also, I respect you even more for NOT being on here posting videos all the time and prioritizing your role as a wife and mother and your real life instead. It makes your videos even more of a treat!

@sarahd1706 3 месяца назад

Growing up, I watched my mother be a homemaker without any need for a backup plan to this day. I wanted & expected the same for myself, but I’m grateful that my church encouraged me to still get all the education I can & have career plans because you never know what will happen in life. I didn’t like the idea because I wanted to be a SAHM so badly & grow old with a wonderful husband. I’m 44 & have needed that education & career, as I have not yet found my husband. I have gratefully not felt the desperate need to settle with a man that’s not what I’m looking for, just for security, like women had to do in past eras. I have options & a good life, even if it hasn’t turned out the way I expected. I do say to those who ask homemakers what about husbands who leave their wives & such. Bosses can be abusive, people lose jobs, finding a job can take a long time, you can lose your capacity to work. Neither being a SAHM nor a career woman is 100% guaranteed security.

@weiduoliya-12 3 месяца назад

"It's in Genesis, you can look it up" I burst out laughing! Love this 💞😂

@byoung8529 3 месяца назад

Middle age at 30!! Caitlin I love you but come on haha. My grandparents are 94 and going strong. I doubt you'll live to just 60

@puerry 3 месяца назад

GIRLS WAKE UP MRS MIDWEST JUST UPLOADED ‼‼

@tatianaliane1624 3 месяца назад

When it comes to the mom social media space especially, I think a big part of it is that a lot of people (influencers and otherwise) seem to believe that if they can make you believe that a specific choice that they didn’t make (daycare, working, etc) is abusive or harmful, it by default means that they are a great parent for not making that choice. It comes from a place of deep insecurity about their own parenting. By harshly judging others they won’t be harshly judged (of course judgement doesn’t work that way)

@holly1205 3 месяца назад

Idk if this is controversial but I feel like home making has now somehow been enveloped by the crunchy life style (life your truth if that’s you but it’s not me) and now it feels like you’re not “traditional” enough if you’re not going fully holistic and rejecting modern medicine. That’s never what home making has been solely about and it’s so frustrating that I can no longer find normal stay at home mum/wife content without being force fed a very specific life style

@alyssamiller9436 3 месяца назад

So true!!

@lindsey3481 3 месяца назад

YUP. I’m so tired of the crunchy content. People can live how they want a live. BUT now they will see you as not a true conservative if you don’t adhere to crunchy values and condemn modern medicine. I am not the type to run to the doctor for every little ailment but I’m also not going to treat something serious with breastmilk or essential oil. Crunchiness and conservatism have been combined into a literal religion for some women. There is so much fear mongering in their community too. One mom told me my kid was more likely to get cancer because I use nonorganic diapers.

@zeldagirl7491 3 месяца назад

You nailed it right on the head 💯

@princesskiwi2044 3 месяца назад

for some reason, they think these things are mutually exclusive. yes, use herbal medicine amd such for smaller ailments, but also raw milk wont cure cancer im sorry.

@peregrinusfalco19 3 месяца назад

As a scientist who focuses on cancer research who has watched MMW since 2019, YES I totally agree!!! I agree with a lot of the values, I’m just so over the crunchy stuff 😅

@claradaycowden2605 3 месяца назад

Anyone else get too excited when Caitlin posts ?!! ❤

@kttunsntell6626 3 месяца назад

Spot on Caitlin! I am a full time working mum, working shift work as a nurse with 2 young children. Needing a supportive husband is so important whether working or staying home. Being a respectful team is vital. Love your energy and maturity ❤❤❤❤❤

@ThePugs-xv6zs 3 месяца назад

I’m a 47F with no kids and work full-time. I have no interest in being a “homemaker” in the ways you describe. But, I love your content. What I most relate to is your views on marriage (I’m still madly in love with my amazing husband and seeing healthy, real relationships is a breathe a fresh air in a sesspool of “battle of the sexes” content) and relationship with God. What I most respect is your intelligence, communication skills, and compassion.

@growingnest8091 3 месяца назад

Finally Mrs Midwest steps in to address the sheer Clownery going on in this niche

@alyssamiller9436 3 месяца назад

Preach! Common sense seems to have left the online homemaking content in your absence. So happy to have you back as the voice of reason! 😊

@maryklw 3 месяца назад

I think everyone could benefit from less time on the internet.

@QuinoaChia 2 месяца назад

This made me tear up actually. I have been a homemaker but I don't have a child yet. People have been rude enough to suggest that I should take a job as I am unable to conceive for 7 years now. And I don't want to. I love cooking and baking hot meals for my husband, I love having guests over, I love my slow life. And my husband loves coming home because I maintain a vibrant cozy atmosphere. Why can't people just let us be. They worry he will eventually leave. But like you said, I am a grown up, educated women, I can pick myself up even if it means starting at the ground level.

@federica60503 Месяц назад

I’m so sorry people have been judgmental and rude to you; unfortunately, most people seem to lack empathy and manners. I’m a child born to parents who had been trying for years and years when my mother finally conceived me, and my great grandmother had to wait 10 years for her first child. I’m glad to know yours and your husband’s lives are full of love and joy nonetheless, may God bless you both x

@QuinoaChia Месяц назад

@@federica60503 Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot. I am glad your parents and granmother got to enjoy the joy of having a kid. 😊

@lynn5505 3 месяца назад

I agree with the location thing. I new someone who’s husband is a police officer ( for a long time) they moved to SD and what they paid the PD was not enough for a living wage. They moved back to there home state and now he makes a lot more. We used to live in AZ near Phoenix in a really booming town and the cost of living was higher vs the Midwest. We moved back to the Midwest where everything is cheaper. We had to trade the gorgeous weather for more affordable cost of living in everything, housing, groceries, gas and a more neighborly environment. Also, what happened to just living a quiet life in your home and thriving in a way that’s best for you and your family? Why is there this homemaking trend that takes away from the real purpose of homemaking( being a keeper at home) I think the internet can be a blessing- but also so dangerous- we have access to so many people’s lives that it’s just to much info! I’m so thankful not to be on instagram or Facebook anymore. Real life is much more enjoyable! Also, I think creators like to act like they don’t use wisdom in their everyday life. It’s almost silly. This is why I left social media. I think everyone should use wisdom but realize that everyone’s life- in marriage and in singleness- will have trials. Remember we should never compared our lives with anyone else. We shouldn’t compare a temporary season with someone’s “high” season. Or “blessed” season. Also- you named a low income profession and my husband is on the higher end of the profession you listed. Plumbers are also some of the higher income professionals. Mechanics can be a really high earner depending on where you live.

@feliciagiangualano1994 3 месяца назад

I kind of feel like this is a response video to Estee Williams lol.

@TheWorkFromHomeWifeofAtlanta 3 месяца назад

Authenticity is the key to homemaking. Know Your husband, Your kids, and Your belief system and stay in Your own lane! Nice video...I enjoyed it!

@by_grace_alone1334 3 месяца назад

I think some of my perspective is we chose that I would stay home from the beginning and KNEW that we would not have the same middle class life two income families have. It was worth it to us for me to raise the kids. It aligned with our values. So there is that too. It doesn't have to work out perfect financially where you can still afford a a vacation or what not if the thing that's most important to YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. Is that you stay home. So being honest with yourself about what matters to you and what you want most is a thing. Sometimes if the income from your husband isn't super high, you're not going to have it all. Your not going to have a super comfortable life AND get to stay home. That can be hard to accept and comparison can really kill your joy but if staying home matters more it's ok to go for it

@TheWellNourishedHomemaker 3 месяца назад

So excited to see you sis! Miss you!!!!!! Proverbs 19:14 A discreet wife (careful,cautious, tactful, considerate, strategic, wise, sensible, careful and circumspect in one's speech or actions) is from God!

@Maya-f9s9b 2 месяца назад

I have been a subscriber since I was 15 from london, Im 20 now and married alhamdulillah, never commented on your videos but omgggg I love you for this, all of thiss !! 😂😂😂 Im soo glad you came out with video to raise this issue and spread awareness but most of i love seeing your growth, seeing you mature like this !! Its soo refreshing to see this REALISM spoke about but truly sooo refreshing for you to be one to speak about ittt, im not one for commenting on vids but it makes me emotional becus I feel like I grew up with you 😢😢❤

@milenabcs7205 16 дней назад

omggg i'm so happy to see another girl in their early 20s on this channel ! Im 23 from France !❤

@ashmarie15 3 месяца назад

You’re actually my favorite RU-vidr. You aren’t extreme, you don’t set unrealistic expectations of other people, and you’re so kind, despite any criticism you receive. I’m always here for your positivity and realism.❤️

@flowerfields4345 3 месяца назад

I agree with most of this but I do draw the line when it comes to babies being in daycare! Please do not have children if you cannot give your child at least 2 years!!

@rosethorn0232 3 месяца назад

Thanks for having such a balanced and realistic perspective. My husband and I are considering having children a little late in life and I would become a SAHM. I really appreciate that there are people like you sharing actual good advice and not sugar coating everything OR trying to deter others from the lifestyle. The discourse about tradwives and such online these days is getting so exhausting.

@FM-ko5xw 3 месяца назад

So happy you’re back!! I’ve noticed the negativity and extremism as well. As I go into my adult life (turning 27 upcoming Monday 🎉) it’s so important to highlight the balance between the homemaking lifestyle and ensuring financial security as a woman, with and without a partner. Thank you so much for speaking on this topic!!

@adilson5051 3 месяца назад

whats extremism supposed to mean? being faithful to the bible?

@FM-ko5xw 3 месяца назад

@@adilson5051not at all! I referenced extremism in the sense that online a very black-and-white picture is painted which glorifies homemaking and shames women who are unwilling or unable to do so. I think Mrs. Midwest offers a very needed nuanced perspective :)

@Angelicflower04 3 месяца назад

@@adilson5051the Bible says it’s perfectly ok to be single

@bananapancakes311 3 месяца назад

I’m a homemaker and sahm and I’m very much a normal person and I’m very tired of content creators.

@joannakhn1765 2 месяца назад

I would love for you to update your beauty routine, you look very different but i cannot put my finger on what changed. You honestly look younger, and i am curious if it is make up or different skin routine or what. You are a huge inspiration, and also, you always looked stunning :)

@KM-np1rf 3 месяца назад

I agree with most of what you say but It is absolutely, unequivocally true that having an emotionally and physically present parent benefits children in ways we can’t begin to compute and understand. As a non religious person who plans to stay at home when I have kids (at least when they’re young) this is my driving reasoning behind it. As an emotionally neglected daycare child just The thought of Sending my 6 week, 6 month, 3 year, etc. old child to a daycare causes a revolting, physical reaction in me. I want to raise and be the primary care giver and for my children, be there for the little milestones, cook them healthy home made food, instill my values and behavior models, not outsource this vital role to minimum wage strangers to raise your child (and yes your kids are being raised by others if they’re not in your care 40+ hours a week). The degradation of families is at the epicenter of the child and adult mental health crisis we’re seeing. Working mothers are stressed and agitated trying to work full time and simultaneously be good mothers and wives, kids are acting up and marriage's are dissolving because of this stress and resentment that builds as relationships loose their polarity because no one values what is needed at home and an emphasis is put on making money and career, so staying home and valuing raising your children and creating a stable and peaceful family life and dynamic can be a prescription for a lot of these marriage's. My number one piece of advice for women who want to raise their own babies (just imagine that 🙄) is find a man who VALUES the well being of children and family over money and career. A man who values money too much will not value you if you’re not making it. That and if you’re able to have your own savings, and build a nest egg and live below your means before children.

@Xx.bygracethrufaith 3 месяца назад

as a young homemaker my instagram feed has been full of this. a lot of these creators i believe have a wonderful intent and are just radicalized by negative criticize they recieve. this content has left a bad taste in my mouth but i didnt see why until now. thank you caitlyn!

@thymeandtenderness 3 месяца назад

A great asset to learn about is a Spousal IRA. This is something you can set up with your husband’s work or paycheck to automatically put money into an IRA account just like money might automatically go into an account for him.

@briellemcandrew7767 3 месяца назад

Wow Caitlyn!! You are most definitely thriving! I remember your older videos and how you seemed a little bit softer spoken and timid, but now you are just radiating confidence with your “fun new mic and your cute new room” I’ve always loved your content and I am HERE for this new era! You’re so inspiring! Bless you 💖

@KrissiCartier 3 месяца назад

I appreciate your videos so much, and as a mother and wife in my 40's, I wish that I had someone like you to learn from when I was younger. When I agreed to be a stay at home mom and wife, my husband and I both established life insurance policies to make sure we were both comfortable taking care of our children, God forbid something happen to either of us. We also agreed on a budget, which included my personal spending money (bc I love my skincare :)), as well as an annual maximum contribution into my personal Roth account for retirement (in addition to his retirement savings and pension). I believe it is best to establish, negotiate and advocate for yourself and your future in advance so you are "safe" no matter what happens. The man who loves you and desires to spend life with you, will ultimately want what is best for you. God Bless!

@aleksandrau360 Месяц назад

I think the most balanced approach for this issue if you’re not sure about what you want is staying at home at least for 3-4 years, invest in those crucial important years of your child’s life and prepare him for future, teach him basics like eating, potty, dressing, some cleaning by himself and prepare yourself for work alongside. When he’s 3-4 and more or less independent you can pick your job where you’ve left it or learn something new. Yes, it will be harder, but it is doable.

@zeenkosis Месяц назад

This makes sense. We live in a high cost of living city and I’d love to stay home for a bit but I also enjoy work. Great perspective

@athena_verse8001 3 месяца назад

You articulate yourself so well. I ADORE your practicality in a world of overthinking. I've been a SAHM for over 6 years now & if anyone suffers from low self esteem like I do; follow the advice to TAKE UP SPACE 👏 My husband is a wonderful man but men will adapt to what you present them. As I take up more and more space, I dare say my husband loves me even more. Great advice as always Mrs. Midwest. Much love from California! 🩷🩷

@greencreekheart 3 месяца назад

I've been watching you since I quit my jobs to be a stay at home wife after my husband and I got saved and married in 2018. Now we live in a more expensive state than before and have more kids. I could probably be in a hot kitchen all day hating my life because I like to cook but 24/7 cooking isn't me. So I do delivery driving when I can. Through apps where you can work anytime if you feel like it. It's awesome. It helped me buy some of my homeschool curriculum this year and just let's us have a little more freedom financially (as a couple)... for so long I didn't get a job because "I just should learn to sew my own clothes and cook every loaf of bread from scratch" but that stuff takes trial and error and when you don't have someone you're watching do it regularly the learning process isn't that fast and you can end up wasting time and money . God has a plan for me even if I don't fully fit the role I tend toward. I am a normal stay at home mom. :)

@amadecasadesdecero 3 месяца назад

As a homemaker content creator, I am SO inspired by this video. I am so glad you made it! I have noticed the same thing online and now i am trying to not be identified as part of that tradwife trend (it is embarrassing) even though my style is so similar 😅. Let’s focus on content that adds value to these women instead of focusing on the haters for profit. Wisdom from God to truly edify others. So encouraging! Thank you!

@RachelLaughlin 3 месяца назад

Homemaker Cosplay is the worst!

@kookie_2178 3 месяца назад

Absolutely right rich influencer cosplaying as tradwives. And lying 😑😑

@SlayaIIdayqueen 3 месяца назад

Thank you, for this. I have always watched your videos even if we are not 100% similar in our journeys. After 20 years of marriage, I am now a single Mom. And I'm a SAHM in the summer when I'm off from my full-time teaching job. I feel grateful. And even though my situation may look different than others, I still am a homemaker seasonally. And I love it. ❤

@Zetta333 3 месяца назад

Could you make a video about how to find a good church? What do you look for? What would be a red flag to you?

@zeenkosis Месяц назад

Yes please !

@jessicaa.m.harper1727 3 месяца назад

I truly didn't realize that the content you're talking about is intentionally rage-baiting. Thank you for letting me know, and thank you for this video!! This video is incredible. I also love that your husband is such a great man. Y'all both will be great examples to your boys.

@RachelDee 3 месяца назад

Not only that, the more you engage with it, the more the algorithm feeds you and skews your perception of how widespread it is.

@beautyforashes23 3 месяца назад

Take up space 📢📢📢

@alexandrakennedy2000 2 месяца назад

I am a pink-haired, tattooed, feminist leaning homemaker and I agree with almost everything you said girl!! You went off, WHAT a great message!! 💗💗💗

@mercedesmadison1399 3 месяца назад

I seriously feel like you’re the older sister I never had, you give the best advice!! I’m a SAHW a few years younger than you and it’s definitely very hard to engage with the world while living this lifestyle with all the content about it online. This video gave me a lot of comfort.

@j.7501 2 месяца назад

completely unrelated but I am IN LOVE with the nails

@GaserBeam-hi4ez 3 месяца назад

Working women can also be abused at work. It’s just about choosing what you want and having wisdom. Do what you wanna do, anything that’s not actively hurting others or illegal. You go Mrs. Midwest, always based.

@raquelmaria3777 3 месяца назад

Moving to another state to start med school, but my heart still dreaming about being a homemaker at some moment in my life 😆 i love your videos, Cait, they help me so much! ❤ Kisses from Brazil! 🇧🇷

@maisie_sidg 3 месяца назад

We know you’re talking about Estée😂 was interested in your thoughts on that x

@Nadia-cv3cd 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this video, Caitlyn. I’ve always thought a lot of these extreme rage bait “homemakers” are outsourcing a lot of their “homemaking duties” with the money they make pretending to be homemakers online.

@maddyG7414 3 месяца назад

I’ve followed you for years, since I was a solo backpacker traveling from country to country. We are different in our life goals, but I’ve always loved how accepting and diverse your content is, and the advice for femininity and slower living.

@haleykinser6988 3 месяца назад

I love Caitlin with a bit of an attitude! I actually LOL’d. Such good points!

@aadhyaharikrishnan9592 3 месяца назад

This video made me dayyyyyyyy omg I was watching on my tv and I RAN to my phone to comment ilysm for addressing this🌷💕💕

@sweetmagnolias1698 3 месяца назад

Girl you better PREACH! I’m so glad you are talking about this because I am tirrrrreedd of all the polarizing content in the homemaking space. It feels like it has been hijacked by rage baiting, judgmental attitudes, lack of transparency, and a whole host of other things I disagree with. I love that you are giving a level headed voice to the community and practical advice to those who have concerns. Wonderful video Cait! :)) 🩷

@mariangelysanchez5140 3 месяца назад

I was yearning for you to speak up on this. I have seen extremist posts saving that women shouldn't work or study and it's very frustrating. I personally am very career driven and I don't think that I am less feminine for it. Nor do I lack traditional values. And I love how you emphasize that homemaking is not the only way for living and validate the concerns. I have been following you for a long time and love your content. ❤

@racheldebner1955 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for making this video! I have not seen anyone address these concerns! I have a desire to be a stay-at-home mom someday, and I have fears because my dad left my mom who stayed home. These practical tips mean a lot to me!

@gabrielleperez6548 3 месяца назад

I’m 35 minutes in the video and wow so much wisdom and truths 🤯 Mrs Midwest you’re the best!❤

@enjoyingliveveyday 3 месяца назад

I mean this as a compliment but you look a bit like Sabrina Carpenter

@MarineMariaz 3 месяца назад

I am from North Europe and its so true, that if you have higher education you have more options for higher income men at least where i live. Most men here who have higher education dont even consider women as wifes who dont have university degrees also. Me and my husband both have university degrees and we decided that its easier that i am now home with our little boy. Very good video! And you are incredibly pretty!

@chrystianaw8256 3 месяца назад

This is true everywhere

@anr8507 3 месяца назад

Poor Estee Williams that said "i don't have a backup plan so you don' tneed one" LOL

@estherhinds6314 3 месяца назад

Yeah I like some of her more uplifting content, I think she does a lot of good, but come on ladies! We need to be smart!

@saintamerican6105 2 месяца назад

but estee needs to make a video on the fact that she has access to ALL his money, and life insurance cuz he has a job that can be dangerous! Her husband is obsessed with her and she always wears something new, she knows she will take half if he ever left her.

@theresalewis8665 3 месяца назад

Caitlin, I love this practical advice!! It’s so much more helpful than the shaming and self-righteousness that I unfortunately see in a lot of conservative spaces. I am a 25 year old woman who isn’t married but would like to be at some point. I’m so grateful to have found a woman like you to look up to as my online older sister! Thank you for also saying that only Jesus can save us! We can rest in him and enjoy the liberty that we have because of what he did for us. Part of that is getting choose what lifestyle we live without fear or condemnation.

@RachelDee 3 месяца назад

Married or not, every woman approaches a stage for her to be nurturing or mothering in some sort of context. We can be fruitful in many ways! No need to wait until you’re married!

@TheArtsygirl12 3 месяца назад

This hit the nail on the head….agree with everything mentioned and I’m so happy someone in the space is discussing these topics in an intelligent , intellectual manner

@daniellengarcia 3 месяца назад

Looking forward to your perspective on this. I’ve seen so much of this lately and I can’t help but feel the same. Too much has fallen to the extremes online. Side note: love your nails! And the colorful prints behind you 💕

@adilson5051 3 месяца назад

following biblical patriarchy is not being extreme.

@daniellengarcia 3 месяца назад

@@adilson5051 That is not what I meant at all. I meant exactly what Caitlin outlined regarding extremes in terms of how a single income household can be too controlling if not discussed or handled properly. The partner you choose to marry matters, especially as a Christian, like myself.

@kookie_2178 3 месяца назад

@@adilson5051bro there are so many culture not everyone follow bible. Also in other culture it's better they don't say serve your husband and submit 🤡🤮.

@Natalia-yi9jn 3 месяца назад

Yeees! „Leave your job it will be fine! Look at us. I don’t work.” meanwhile this girl is making $$$ on MLM selling shampoo.

@UnburdenedLady 3 месяца назад

Caitlin, I am so proud of you for using your voice and your platform to raise awareness for the safety and protection of women. I have been watching your videos for a few years now (wow) and each time I am more impressed with the woman you are becoming. You’ve shown incredible growth and development from when you were starting your content. Keep it up girl.

@zors1900 3 месяца назад

I agree with everything but to be honest, the gap in the resume is kind of a false point, not saying you’re purposely making it. I see a new tiktok video everyday of a young woman or man who freshly graduated college, even doctorates, or multiple degrees, and they’re still unable to find work or if they ARE working it’s bartending and waitressing. Unfortunately the economy Gen z inherited is much different than millennials. Having a resume gap as a stay at home mom is the least of my worries in finding a job.

@lillianp4076 3 месяца назад

Love the video as always Cait! I've watched you since I was in college and I just got married a month ago! Husband and I have talked so much about the steps to take so that I can become a stay at home wife/mom later on. This is literally only possible because he is so financially responsible. I just recently started working part time instead of full time and am noticing the shifts (less personal income for me but more free time, etc). I understand that this is a privilege since I can gain perspective and genuinely see how I like it before stopping work all together. All this to say, there's so much to consider as you have beautifully laid out here in this video. Everyone woman is so different and it's a blessing to be able to make our own choices.

@uniayang 3 месяца назад

Take up space!!! Great advice 😊

@12Sanguine 3 месяца назад

As a part-time self employed wife I highly recommend having a joint account, as well as personal accounts to prevent any financial problems. My husband ckntributes significantly more than me into our joint account, and that will certainly be the case when I go on maternity leave, but it's very clear those finances are OURS. It includes joint savings and investments accounts too. Go for your dreams. 🙂✌️

@ThePugs-xv6zs 3 месяца назад

My husband and I both work FT, but that’s what we do. We have a joint account and then each have our own personal accounts. It’s worked incredibly well for us and everyone we know who do it this way.

@saintamerican6105 2 месяца назад

my husband micromanages HIS income for our family and wont let me access or spend anything you're blessed

@Annaloveless7 3 месяца назад

You’re saying so much of what so many of us are thinking/ frustrated with!! THIS IS WONDERFUL.❤

@elizabethcomfort2214 3 месяца назад

I'm a young wife, only been married for a few years, and you have been such a blessing to me! These videos are so informative and wonderful! And I love the vlog style! I'm a stay at home spouse, but I'm an indie published author. It takes years to build an income this way, and I am so blessed to have my husband to take care of us while I work on publishing!

@johanna4456 3 месяца назад

Caitlin this video is so refreshing. I love your realistic view. I’m also so happy to see another commentary video. I really learned a lot from you. I wish you would live in Germany and we could be friends IRL. 😂

@elisekinsey5697 3 месяца назад

We don’t always have the same opinions however , I think you are so smart, well spoken, and honest. I’ve been watching your content for years because I genuinely love your view on life. We may choose to live differently sometimes but I feel you have impacted me and evolved my own opinions for the better. I will always sit down and listen to what you are sharing because your heart is there as a woman supporting other women ❤

@tomatofeind2019 2 месяца назад

the best tip I have is not to marry poor - dont marry bums! If you are only breaking even as a family, you simply cannot afford to stay home and it is cruel to your kids not to be able to afford multiple holidays and savings (you MUST have a strong investment portfolio). I bided my time and married into a good family so my life as a home-maker is easy! He gives me 2K a month to maintain my appearance, pilates, salons, nails etc and I have an on call nanny and cleaner for when I am tired. It is doable!