This is the reason my marriage fell apart. Do you think that if I stand for my marriage through this and my ex-husband comes to recognize this, can we get back to each other? I really wish I would have found all of this information a few years ago. I have always known that he has a wounded inner child that needed to be nurtured. I keep telling myself that I didn't do enough to nurture him, but I now know it is not my fault. We both brought the 4 horsemen into our marriage over the years and it really affected us. I now know that all of this can be fixed, but the change has to start within each of us.
I have no problem with connection. I am married 4yrs to my bf of 12yrs. He never initiates sex. I feel totally trapped. I feel like if I had another way, I would choose that. We are in the house 24×7 working from home. Is this why he is like this? He refuses any sort of medical help. It have been sex starved for the last 3yrs. It it just making me feel worse day by day.
I am sad this is being purposely being done you creating trauma and pain. The dvd sexless and married could give you some ideas and solutions. Also check out intimacyanorexia.com and see if that applies. If you need to speak to a counselor or coach call us at 719-278-3708. You can also join our Married & Alone phone group and Facebook group for support. You are not alone in this. www.drdougweiss.com/married-and-alone-group/ facebook.com/groups/MarriedandAlone/
My husband has addiction issues hes been on suboxone for over 10 years and smokes pot to go to sleep also dr gave him klonopin. I have alot of medical issues that he likes to blame for us not having sex but there is no intimacy at all with him. Hes not present and when I say this he says Im right here. He doesnt get what I mean. To me hes still using but he will argue with me on this. We sleep in seperate rooms and havent had sex in over a year
Your pain from this neglect is real. You might want to talk to a counselor/coach by calling us at 719-278-3708. You can also join our Married & Alone phone group or Facebook group if you need support. You are not alone in this. www.drdougweiss.com/married-and-alone-group/ facebook.com/groups/MarriedandAlone/