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I'm pretty sure between the RU-vid channel dedicated to his daughter and the modelling and dance/performance training that he wants his daughter to be a celebrity in China. .and it's quite attainable. But I'm not sure it's the best kind of thing for an 8 year old to always be the center of attention. . certainly when she is older it would be great as a career IF she wants it. Child celebrities don't have great track records. I'm saying this as a father of a boy currently in China.
Having mixed race kids in China, maybe you could pay more attention to whether or not your kids are getting bullied in school. I'm mixed myself and got bullied, some of my classmates in primary school called me "The foreigner"and liked to hold me down on the floor while spitting on my face. Caused me a lot of problems during my childhood. Still even these days the stares from random people on the strees once in a while are enough to trigger my anxiety.
A mixed race kid attending an international school will have no such problems. Only in local schools might it be an issue. As for people staring at you on the street, are you sure they are really staring at you? It's easy to be paranoid when you have low self-esteem. That being said, I feel sympathetic towards your situation, but all countries have problems with racial discrimination. It used to be worse than it is today, even in China. Countries like Thailand, Malaysia, Singapore and Myanmar are a little better as they are more ethnically diverse than China so a mixed-race Asian/Caucasian person barely stands out to begin with.
@n i n a Hmm. When was this? It's rare for me to hear anyone call me a "farang" despite me speaking the language fluently. And no, I'm not even of mixed heritage. The only times I am regularly called a "farang" is by hill tribes at a roadside market in the mountains of northern Thailand - they're trying to be nice though, even though I don't care too much for the word but context is everything. Everywhere else, most Thais are polite and very rarely make such remarks although children and teenagers are more likely to use it than adults. As for my children, most Thais if they're curious, will simply ask what's their other race/ethnicity? Haven't heard anyone call my children "farang" I think times have changed or you are hearing things that aren't there. That isn't to say Thailand isn't a judgmental society, but both westerners and mixed race Eurasian Thais are so common these days, with the number of Thais in relationships with foreigners being far higher than in any other Asian country other than Singapore and the Philippines. Therefore, Thais are by and large more used to seeing farang and Eurasian Thais than Chinese, Vietnamese, Japanese, Korean and other Asian nationalities.
@n i n a Another thing is, a mall is the last place I'd expect passersby to notice differences between people. Many shopping mall restaurants and stores attract foreign shoppers and patrons. It's to be expected that an American restaurant like Sizzler will have westerners as patrons on a daily basis. That shouldn't surprise any Thai. In fact, what surprises me more is that Thais have taken a liking to Sizzler as they have, given it's "farang food". I would expect people to call out "farang" much more at a country fair in rural Isarn where there are few other foreigners around. That being said, the more upmarket the mall, the more sophisticated and diverse the patrons are going to be - no one is going to point out a farang or an Indian or black person at MBK, Paragon or even Mega Bang Na. That would be ridiculous because some of those malls see more foreign patrons than Thais anyway. Conversely, if you go to a Big C in an upcountry town where few foreigners live or travel to, which is where the lower middle class masses shop, then you may find people a little more curious though usually no one pays attention to farang and even less so to mixed race kids (unless they're very cute). 20 years ago, it was different - nowadays Thais have got more important things to do than care about farang or mixed race kids walking through malls. I can't imagine there's a single Thai anywhere in the country who hasn't seen a farang - we're everywhere! This is hardly surprising given the tourism industry.
@n i n a I see. Thanks for sharing your story. I certainly hear the word "farang" uttered from time to time, generally more from people I know than strangers but it's usually harmless though I totally get why you don't like the word. Besides, technically you aren't a farang anyway.
I am half Chinese and half Ethiopian, grew up in China in the early 2000s until I was 8, and totally relate to everything that was said in this video. I very evidently do not look Chinese (darker skin, curly hair, etc.) but speak Mandarin fluently, and that throws people off the most. It must be more accepting now in 2017, but racism was something I experienced very significantly in school. It made me smile hearing all these positive things said about raising mixed children in China now :)
Unfortunately the Chinese love caucasians, it's not the same to be mixed black, they will admire the white mix but scorn the black mix. They don't even want to get a tan, they don't want to be in the sun so they dont get tanned, double standard, it's really sad.
Chinese mom, dad of Indian decent from Britain. Mom of to work somewhere. Dad takes care of her. No grandparents to help out no family to connect to. What will be her future. Girl is already ask in preschool. Why are your eyes not like ours. Very ,very sad.
Hope you don't take this the wrong way. But you probably took a lot more discrimination due to your darker skin color. It's just how it is in China. :|
8:00 "Do they treat her like a Chinese person...?" I think he answered that question very well. I'm half-Korean and grew up in Korea and can relate a lot to what that child is experiencing. I think that this father is doing a really good job and seeing things that many interracial parents do not see: that being unique has both strengths and weaknesses but it's mostly important to capitalize on the strengths. Interracial parents who have half-asian children should really see things this way.
@inbred autist Actually, a lot of people in Mexico think that they're all "mestizo", but this is misleading and has led to the invisibilization of other people groups and of the fact that NOT ALL Mexicans are mixed race. Mexico has been a melting pot of cultures since 1521, so it is common to think that by now most people would be mixed, but that is most certainly not the case and even if Mexico was a Spanish colony, that doesn't mean that it is only European/Amerindian. Yes, people from all over Europe came to Mexico, but so did people from Asia and Africa, even if at a lesser extent. In my city everyone is mostly Korean/Lebanese/Afrocaribbean/Mayan/European and we acknowledge our multicultural and multiracial origins, we are not just European/Amerindian. It is the same for the rest of Mexico, Afromexican populations have disappeared from the public eye and most of the Afromexican population got assimilated, but we still carry their genes. The same goes for our Filipino heritage! If you look at me, you'd probably think that I'm white, but I had a DNA test and I saw that I am 70% European (only 30% Iberian), 8% Amerindian, 8% Middle East & Northern Africa... Those are all things you'd expect from Mexican people, since we were a European colony and the Spanish were invaded by the Arabs after all. HOWEVER, the remaining 14% was mostly ASIAN and from places I would've never expected! I have Indonesian, Chinese, Filipino and Vietnamese ancestry, as well as some West African blood! And I am an average "white" Mexican! The thing is, I am not an exception, most Mexicans are the same, no matter what their dominant genes are, we are all a mix of everything and we should be proud of that, because it really does make us unique. There are some people who are not mixed, nevertheless. That is particularly true for some indigenous peoples and for some white people whether it be in Mexico City or in a Menonite community. There are also many first generation Mexicans whose parents are fresh off the boat, and they are most definitely not mixed race! That's whenever I hear people say I am half Mexican (or Brazilian, Colombian, American, Canadian, etc) I don't even know what to expect, because that doesn't say anything about you after all, what does it mean to be Mexican? My grandpa was white and from an upper middle class and he spoke Mayan at home. My grandma came from an impoverished Jewish German household and she spoke Yiddish at home! I get sad when people don't realize how diverse we are and this is mostly because American media and Mexican media as well fail to depict the reality of what we actually are. I wish we could see more Afromexican and Asian-Mexicans on TV shows as main characters, there are so many in my city that I think it is heartbreaking for them not to see themselves represented in their national TV! For them to go to Mexico City and be asked if they speak Spanish or how they learned it. Let's embrace our multicultural heritage and accept each other in spite of our physical differences, we all share the experience of being Mexican, we share our food, traditions, humor, pain and the land we stand on! That is the real essence of being Mexican, not where your genes come from and that is most definitely not only Europe/America. :D
@@TheAmericanCatholic My great grandmother was supposedly part French Canadian and part native. I had a DNA ancestry test and it didn't even show the French and German ancestry I know for sure I have ancestry from. It showed 19% italian, 5%Finish, and 79% British. I know I have the rare O type blood that is supposedly very common in South America and it did show I have distant south American cousins.
Raising Shanghai absolutely deserves the love you just gave them, I really like that you guys are all teaming up and supporting each other. I think JaYoe deserves similair attention as well, his video-work and all around look into his journey is absolutely top stuff as well.
I have triplet Irish-American/Hong Kong-Chinese mixed nieces. They were living in Shanghai, and as mixed triplets, they really got too much attention. (Especially in a country with 1 child policy - multiple siblings were already unusual). People are commenting about how much attention mixed kids get in China - imagine triplet mixed kids. They really couldn't go to crowded places - lots of people would be pointing and screaming "san bao tai" (triplets) quite aggressively - to the point it scared the triplets. I hate to say it, but sometimes it felt like they were treated like a freak show. My brother decided to move the family to Canada - now the kids speak English, Mandarin, Cantonese and quite good French and a bit of Japanese. All 3 are superstars!
In China I didn t fit because I wasn't full Chinese and felt inherently less. I moved to America and was classed as white passing by minorities so treated as inherently less, yet white people see me as obviously other so I get treated like they are afraid to offend me so much so I get put in a corner that is again treated so gently I get treated as less. Mixed Chinese brings a feeling of fitting nowhere, belonging to no group, excluded by everyone. Too white to Chinese, too Chinese to be white. My feeling is I belong nowhere. I expected less racism in America, but people are so obsessed with race and the privilege of being "white" or an entitlement for other minorities to treat people mixed with white as less than. American whites are the least racist people I have delt with, which came as a surprise. I didn't expect to be treated worst by other minorities.
earth star your comment is a fascinating commentary to your reality. At the end of the day you are you, a unique fully complete person. I’m happy you can discuss your feeling and experiences with the world on the internet. This is such an important message and view. An issue i think about often I’m happy there are so many mix race role models for your unique community to meet and hear out there. There are also a lot of TED talks on race issue that are so interesting. Thank you for sharing.
I grew up in Beijing China. I am mix raced, my mom is Chinese and my dad is Australian, and some of the things they mentioned is definitely true. The influence of both western culture from my father and the Chinese culture from where I lived and my mother really made growing up interesting. And there were definitely stares, but not as much as you'd think. Its a positive curiosity. I wouldn't have traded my experience growing up for anything in the world. I am so happy that you guys are sharing your experiences with the world!
Why is it always a Chinese woman in a white man but you rarely see white women who are tractor to Chinese man why is that and why is it that she rarely see a Chinese one with the black man?
@snarkyguy *I am sincerely agitated from how much responsibility this "Shanghai dady" taking on for his kids serioysly* . *He constantly expose his daughter under those drunken expats' mental pollution* . *And, he allows an 8 years old to have a makeup & and show it off on RU-vid!!!?* in our Chinese culture, this Shanghai dady is too much.
Laowhy86: I continue to love your videos, this was an especially heartwarming one. My wife and I have two daughters half Caucasian and half Japanese, we have similar experiences when we lived in Japan. Everything from who each culture raises a child and the different things parents do (example: in Japan the kids often sleep in the same bed as the parents until they are about 5 or 6) to how society becomes so curious/attracted towards mixed kids. As an American, I totally understand how there is an urge to raise one's kids to enjoy life as you live it and not cram every minute into a child's education, this is a big departure from the Chinese/Japanese style of cramming math and overall education every single second for preparation to the life changing school exams. I think that system definitely works for some kids who are very studious, but for those who are more creative, artistic, creative minded kids, that style of education can be very stressful. Kids are not all made out of the same a cookie mold. It is a pitty more school systems don't test first for learning style and then give kids the plan based off their personality. That's an issue in every country's education system I think...... Anyway, thanks for the video!
I have a mixed-race daughter in China and raising her here can be very rewarding, however it is also quite difficult at times, especially when random people try to touch and fuss over her. Although this is done with the best of intentions it is somewhat intrusive. Overall, I would say I am happy to be raising her here for the early years of her life but eventually it would make sense if we leave. I want her long-term to feel like part of a community and not on the outside looking in, constantly been labelled based on her ethnicity.
My friend had a kid in school out here as he got it a Chinese passport and Hukou (Something you no longer need to do BTW) and his kid got bullied a little and would get into fights as the other kids claimed he wasn't 'Real Chinese.'
Gary Wood saw that exact thing happening at a school I taught at recently. There was one mixed race kid in the school in grade 2 and he was getting that bullshit from others. It just confirmed for me that it’s not worth thinking about sending your kids to school here. Unless you can afford a good international school somewhere like shanghai. Back home they’re guaranteed to have classmates of different races including other mixed raced kids.
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I’m a Korean American we have 2 beautiful mixed race daughters. Growing up I always considered myself American like any other Asian Americans out there but after having kids it made me want to learn more about Asian culture & language. It’ll be an honor for me to have chance to raise my kids in Korea or any other Asian country for at least some period of time in their life. Because sooner or later they will be asked question regarding their ethnicity & here in the US people see them as Asian.
How are these mixed rice people when they’re both white Asian and white is not anything that stands out mixed means black and white or black and Asian that’s when it gets excitng
I have two beautiful half Chinese daughters. I love it because I feel it makes them unique and more special to me. They can speak Mandarin. Not fluently but enough to talk to their grandparents daily. Great video.
My wife and I took our son to China for his first birthday and our experience was such a culture shock initially. People would literally stop in front of the stroller while I was pushing our son just so that they could have a look at my son and I. There were no 'bad' experiences and seeing their curiosity was really wholesome. It just took us a while to get places sometimes. lol
This was really great to watch as I have a daughter with my Chinese girlfriend. When we went back to Shanghai to visit, my daughter and I definitely got a lot of comments and looks. I think because it's hard for most people to identify where I'm from, I got just as much attention as my daughter did. People would ask my girlfriend where I was from and where she met me. I got guesses as being everything from Russian to Middle Eastern and even being mixed myself. I'm actually Colombian but many even when being told that, had no real idea where that is. My daughter got a lot of positive comments as well but there were a few times when the attention got a little overwhelming.
I'm so glad I read your comment, I'm colombian and I have a half chinese daughter, we will go to China soon so she can spend time with her dad (he's chinese) and his family. I was wondering how half chinese half latino kids were treated in China, your comment gave me a little reassurance. 🙂
@@tatianalp2847 Hi there! This was a couple of years ago. The sentiment has changed towards foreigners, particularly Americans. Back when I went, China hadn't made the swing toward being more Nationalistic. If you're Colombian, play up on that more as sentiment towards America has soured. To be honest, I won't even go back because I am an American citizen. Check out Laowhy's video when he had to escape from China. I'm not trying to scare you, but just know that the political climate has changed since I went. You can add me as a friend and ask me more questions if you want or I'm sure Laowhy can answer some of then even better then I can.
I’m a mixed between American and Chinese who lived in China for 8 years. First I got a lot of wired looks from others, but I adapted the looks, and others also. Now I came back to Guam, America for high school and college, but there might be a chance for me to go back to China for job or other things. Being a fan of your video for a long time and lived in china for 8 years, I have a lot connection with your point of view. Keep up the good work, hoping for more videos from you and your friends. 👍🏻
When you say Chinese and American don’t you mean Chinese and white because Americans are black Latino and other races. You probably want to be more clear because most Chinese are not married and having kids with Black people who are Americans
Granted. However, it does not excuse very rude and hostile comments, just because somebody might be anti-Chinese (which laowhy86 certainly isn't). It shows poor character.
Soooo not to throw the race card out there(I hate doing that😒) But we all know if he was any other race he would be singing a different tone. I'm just saying the Asian culture prides themselves on white skin, and I'm not saying they see Caucasian people as superior but let's be honest if that kid had dark skin it will be different.
PinkPanda Rage There's a lot of YT videos touching on that subject "growing up Black in China"..it's sad how racism towards Blacks transcends across continents..
Valid point. Unfortunately, the ideal of white 'supremacy' has been adopted throughout the world. I hope her life is more focused on other than her 'mixed' raced. bc to be quite honest, i wouldn't know she was bi-racial unless she told me. To the eye, they look Chinese.
That was really really racist. Wow. China is very homogenous. Yes of course people will react to someone radically different but they wont necessarily be negative.
I'm surprised no one is mentioning how incredibly GORGEOUS she is! Mixed or not, who cares? People probably stare at her because she is breathtaking and everyone wants to know who gave birth to such a beauty. She is not only exotic but also graceful looking. Congrats to the parents and good luck, she is going to be a heartbreaker.
Was thinking the same thing. I often "heard" that in east asia, half asians half caucasians are considered beautiful, especially in places like Japan (I even heard a Japanese (just one) saying that that particular mix erase the aesthical downsides of each races). Honestly, I was thinking "it's just because we only see the beautiful ones and not the others", and I still think it's not totally wrong. But I have to admit that from my personal (limited) experience, each time I saw a random half white half asian girl, even if the parents aren't that stunning (no offense for the dad here), she's gorgeous. Even those that don't do any youtube stuff, regular people (though the one on this video was beyond them honestly). Why is that.
xenotypos Lucky genes! I need to find myself some good Asian male genes to make a beautiful baby hihihihi (this is obviously a joke). On a purely scientific level though, I wonder why that happens. Maybe the best features are dominant?
Since it's the features liked in east asia, and not "especially" liked (or disliked) in the west, I think their preference may also be due to their own beauty standard (and mine it seems). Since it's cultural ("best features" is a subjective concept), science may not be of a great a help. Let's say it's a nice coincidence. At the very least it totally works on me (and them).
xenotypos You'd be surprised. I meant symmetry and the like when I said best features. Although beauty standards differ greatly around the world, humans have some basic common preferences that makes us attractive, and maybe these are dominant? Survival of the species and all that. Now, about the other characteristics you are referring to, I honestly don't know... thinking of starting your own harem? :p
Lol I didn't mean it that way, I guess my crappy english skills made it confusing. It's just that I also personally admire that aesthetics, as east asians often do. But in reality, ethnicity is rarely taken into account when I'm dating someone.
The one thing I find interesting about Adelai is how she has very American facial expressions. How people smile, smirk etc. can be distinct depending on the culture and when I see her talking my brain is having a hard time reconciling the fact she was not raised in the United States.
I'm a white American guy, but raised in Asia without any childhood memories of America... I began to notice that when I'm speaking Mandarin with Chinese my body language was different than when I was with foreigners speaking English... It really stood out to me one particular day - I had moved to America for university (which had very few Asians) and I saw a group of Chinese parents & kids on campus who looked lost. So I walked up to them and asked in Mandarin if I could help them... but I hadn't been speaking mandarin for a while and I was actually struck by how my body mannerisms felt different as I spoke mandarin.
Laopapas!! Everything I wanted to know, but were afraid to ask! Excellent video with mad editing skills, C-Milk! As a parent of a mixed race child in the USA, nobody bats an eye at us anymore. It only happened when my kid was younger and people would ask me if I was the nanny or babysitting! WTF?! My kid's a teen now and the looks have changed to where my kid looks more latino or from the middle east. People are still shocked when they meet me as the mother... sigh~ I'm too black and pretty, I guess. LOL
Wow! People asked if you were the nanny?? You are owed an apology...people need to stop stereotyping people from what the see on TV. You sound like a great mom!! Good vibes to you and your family!!!
Ben Hussain, well aren't you a bundle of sunshine. At any rate...this is the privilege people speak of...the privilege to not be harassed by trolls for simply mentioning that you're black lol
wysiwyg43 agggh I too had the nanny question, but only by racist people who never broke me or my spirit, it's more their ignorance, with the 20 questions before they get that you are the mother and he is the father, in my case white husband, Mexican and black me lol, to most we are just 2 Americans with gorgeous kids! So good job to you and all the others helping to make this truly one world!
I think mixed kids are the cutest kids. I have 2 of them myself. I immigrated here from Taiwan 44 years ago. My wife is Caucasian. In the US, we get stares from older white people and as well as Chinese people that point and stare at us. When my kids were toddlers, they looked very Chinese. When my wife would take them to the store sometimes people ask her if our kids were adopted from China.
c-Milk u have quite a bit of natural talent for interviewing - good flow, active listening, transitions, voice inflection, gestures. It's rare that people have all those, but you do.
Just watched your video and it brings back a lot of very fond memories. Straight away, I'd like to say that you both have very lovely daughters and you have every right as fathers to be as proud as you can be. I have two Eurasian daughters myself, the eldest of which I just sent off to college. They grew up until their middle school years in Asia, and a lot of what you say resonates with me. Ignore what the detractors say, as their comments come from a place of complete ignorance. With that being said, mixed race kids will always have a unique perspective and be able to understand issues from more than one side. They are also generally more empathetic and slower to judge. They possess a very heightened level of curiosity and are voracious consumers of both their parents' cultures as well. As much as they learn from you, you will also learn from them. Just as you say, they have an unbiased outlook on new experiences and it's great to be able to tap into that as a parent. I thoroughly enjoy your videos and looks forward to your adventures and also seeing your daughter grow! ^_^
An American friend with a Chinese wife in Harbin had a beautiful mixed blood baby back before the Olympics. Somehow, the kid got noticed and was put into some of local TV commercials during the lead-up to the Olympics. Regarding half-bloods (not mud bloods; that's a different story), we always thought of Bruce Lee as Chinese, of course, but I learned quite awhile ago that he was actually half white, so he was bullied when he was a kid for not looking Chinese enough, and apparently that is why he learned to fight. Similarly, I find it hilarious that people call Obama black, and would passionately vote for or against him because he is black, but actually he is half white. Culturally, one could say he was mostly white, as he was raised mostly in a white family (albeit for a time with some Chinese-Indonesian connection also), but I suppose because people would perceive him as black, he had no choice but to adopt the identity of being black and not half white.
Seeing the world through a child's eyes: seeing things as they are, which is a spiritual practice that can take adults much effort to cultivate, while for children it is like a habitual remnant of the origin realm, which the practice brings the mind closer back to. Enlightenment is about learning, awakening is about unlearning.
I’m a Westernized Asian, you may heard of “Twinkie” or “Banana”; Yellow on the outside; White in the inside. Sometimes I think myself related with mixed-blooded Asians. We’re both in between different cultures. The difference is how we look.
I am Indian and my husband Caucasian American and I also have a few friends who are Indian women married to Americans and we all notice the same struggles of balance of raising a child with two diff cultures. We are in the US and yet the struggles are similar to what you describe here! Thanks for making this video!
You can be a below average looking white guy with a below average looking asian wife. And you'd still make a beautiful baby. Even those who look nearly fully asian or fully white are still a beautiful mix. Him and his wife are on the average scale in terms of looks and have been blessed with a beauty's daughter who FITS the beauty standard of asia. Lighter skin/hair and a bit bigger eyes or at least has a crease. Asian women see white men regardless what you look like as a social status and white men are fascinated by asian women because its different to their own culture. I'm all for those who loves someone regardless what their ethic background is, however, I don't appericate seeing people boasting about their children being better than any other child. I know this because I'm a product of a asian woman and a white man. It's true mixed children in Asia get extra benefits and it's so sad that I see parents parading their mixed children about like it's some sort of achievement. Yes you should be proud of your child regardless but wanting a mixed child simply because they would be mixed .. Internal racism is a massive thing in asian society. Of course I understand not everyone thinks this way, but the countless of times I seen it I do worry about it. Showing your child off like that can be damaging to the child because they can either think they are superior, making other beautiful children feel inferior or the opposite, get self conscious to fit into the beauty standard. My friend who's mixed race was teased because she looked nearly full asian. The asian gene is very dominant so white and asian parents should be prepared to understand that their children might not come out looking as "white" as they thought. You should love your child regardless if they are full asian. And those people who are fascinated of these biracial people, of course you can be fascinated, but treated them like they are superior and boosting their ego won't make them any better than any other. And don't take advantage just because your child is classed as "unique" looking. The beauty world is really unfair. (I had to edit because after posting I noticed my spelling mistakes)
Pretty girl always gets away with a lot of things no matter you are mix-blood or 100% chinese, and by the way, she looks really really differently pretty in China
I am mixed race, raised in Anglo-Canada. My two first languages are Cantonese and English. I am so grateful I speak two languages and I speak them both equally as well. That being said, I was raised in Western culture 100% and at times I feel separated from my roots. This is a great video!
Why is it that the Chinese women are with white men only not black man but you don’t see Chinese man with white women? What do white women like black men?
These stories about mixed-race children are always about daughters. I'm familiar with a few cases of mixed-race sons....the boys don't seem to be as successful as the girls.
I doubt this is true. Plenty of successful boys too. Just seems to be the case that people are having more girls than boys. Most families I know have girls; a few with 2 children have been blessed to have a boy and girl but many end up with 2 girls.
This is so cool. im so glad she gets all these awesome opportunities. She has such a bright future ahead of her. I just hope it doenst get to her head as she gets older. A culture that is so obsessed with your outer appearance and is giving someome privilege because of it can be detrimental to a young child and make a more undesirable adult. to put it kindly
Laowhy86, I have been binge watching your videos and want to say thank you so much. I really appreciate your honesty and diplomacy. What you are doing is much needed. I sense that in spite of the chagrin of those “mean uncles,” those actually in power know that what you and your S. African do is meant well, respectful and ultimately very positive for a dynamic, growing China. Best of luck and life to your beautiful families! Stay Awesome!
I'm mixed race. My dad is White/Native American(Cherokee) and my mom is southern Chinese from Macau. I love being mixed race and being able to experience the different cultures.
Im half Chinese my dad is Russian, my mom is Chinese and grow up in Guangdong china And lived there for 17 years and when I grow up I remember that a lot of people likes me lot of people think I'm cute and want to play with me. I personally think I'm Chinese and the people around me think I'm a Chinese too cause i spend my childhood there
Not trying to sound like a creep but his daughter is absolutely beautiful. She could go into acting or something like Angelababy. My wife and I are both very curious how our kids will look. Most half Asians boys and girls look very good.
As someone who is mixed (half chinese, half mexican, raised in America with a caucasian stepdad and a Vietnamese step mother), I found this video very interesting to watch. It's always interesting to see first hand the struggles and things people may face raising mixed children in mixed/not mixed environments. Not all cultures believe in doing things the same way, and as I kid I did feel that pull between all the different cultures I was around. I never learned Spanish, and I only speak Cantonese at an elementary school level, so English is my primary language. Cultures become an interesting when they have to mix together and find a way to unify. Now as an adult, my husband is caucasian, so I know our future children are going to be even more mixed. Thanks for the video of insights!
Loving this episode. Mirrors my experience with my little guy (3 and a half) exactly. He switches effortlessly between English, Mandarin, and Shanghainese. Wish it was so easy for me. (Sorry, couldn't resist the Daddy brag)
by the love of god I severly hope he's not going to make her take the gaokao and make her go to a Chinese uni, I hope he let's her finish school internationally
extreme nope, even she will go to a Chinese university, which is not very possible, because of her foreign identity, she can take a exam that way easier than GAO kao, and has a wide variety of choices. Moreover, even for Chinese kids, gaokao is not the only choice, especially for rich ones, they can just take sat and study in American unis
It is so funny that the parents of mixed race children always talk about the big advantage these children have of being part of 2 cultures, but in fact nobody asks the children if they agree. I am mixed white/asian and growing up(and even to this day), I would not consider it an advantage, but in fact a huge disadvantage to be mixed race. I grew up in a white environment and have always identified myself more with this side, so it hurts a lot if you are called a foreigner and 'typecasted' as such when you have close to zero identification with that country your other parent came from. Luckily I had more european features growing up so I could often hide behind that, but I would still at least fairly regularly be treated differently and asked nosy questions(what are you, where are you from etc etc) and once the other person's curiosity had been satisfied, you'd then be put in a box and the only thing that person would think of you would be as the 'Asian'. Of course it also gave me problems when I would be out with my Asian parent. I am ashamed how this hurt my mother when I was embarassed to be seen with her, but keep in mind, it was not very easy for me as a child either. Children don't want to be different, they just want to fit in. In fact, this is one of the most frustrating aspects - you stop being a person, but are instead just treated as an ethnicity and any kind of attention you are getting is directed towards your ethnic make up rather than just being treated like any normal person. To this day I feel uncomfortable divulging that I am mixed race, because it generally means I am treated differently and forced into a lot of uncomfortable conversations. Even when it has worked to my advantage like eliciting a lot more interest in me from girls, I never enjoyed it or took advantage of it, because I'd just liked to be appreciated as a person. I am reminded of a Native American actor who once said, he wished he could just for once get a role where he was 'Just a man', rather than always having to play an Apache. It might be hard to believe, but that you are mixed race, doesn't mean that you necessarily identify with that other half and enjoy having vouch for everything that culture stands for. You might actually not speak the language or be very familar with that culture and as strange as it sounds, it might be just as alien to you as is to a non mixed race person. I am glad that my children look fully caucasian so they don't have to endure the burden I've had to. So, one last appeal. For goodness sake, stop saying if you are 100% white or 100% asian what an advantage mixed race children have. You have no clue how it feels unless you are walking in those shoes yourself
miknes12345 Scientifically speaking, mixed race is advantageous as you inherit the perks of both races. You may not like being mixed race but I know plenty of people who are like you and are proud to represent two races. Being mixed race is advantageous, reading your statement of why it's disadvantageous, you offer no explanation other than having trouble to identify. If identity is such a big problem for you and you actually care so much as to the lengths of which you describe then I'd advise you to maybe see a life coach? It just simply sounds like your not comfortable in your skin. Whereas, where I'm from interracial relationships is seen in a good light. Most of my mixed race friends don't even care that they're mixed. Instead of feeling pity for yourself, be proud of who you are. Society doesn't shun you. You're representing two races which scientifically speaking is extremely advantageous. Be proud that your parents overcame geography to fall in love and produce a child such as yourself.
As a mix myself of several racial backgrounds I can tell you that you're just a little bitch who probably looks very asian and are ashame of your asian background. But I grant you one point, kids do want to fit in and these kids in the vid look chinese so don't worry about them, they're right at home
well theres a difference to growing up in the west where being mixed or asian gives you no advantage or even disadvantages compared to china where being mixed white and asian is seen of as the best thing since sliced bread. so whether it is an advantage or not depends where you are. although i forsee identity problems further down the road when you raise your kid as a 'special unicorn' when in reality their personality is going to be as chinese as the next kid..
I'm the eldest of 3 daughters and I can officially say raising daughters in today's world, in any country, deserves awards. Kudos to you and Vivi for doing your best raising that previous baby girl!
I am mixed black and white and my husband is white we have 2 kids. Ppl are always asking "what are they?" Because ppl need to put everyone in groups. My answer is always they are human
Our daughters get the same questions plus " is her hair permed?" because of the curls. They also praise my husband for speaking English, which according to them is my language, but is not :) Our in laws don't live with us, maybe in the future when they need help they will, but now they still don't need us. When I was super pregnant we thought we could use some help from my mom in law but it didn't work out, it increased our workload, we were still the ones cooking but for one more, cleaning for one more, buying for one more person, we didn't get any help, just one more person at home who would turn the tv on really loud all day long and who was asking us to take care of her when she didn't really need it and at a time that we were going to welcome a baby. Now there's still lots of eye-rolling when we visit but we know that she didn't have the experience of raising her kids, my husband and my sister in love were raised by their grandparents full time until they reached their teen years and from then on they went to a boarding school, so is a total new ball game for her.
You both have such beautiful children...they are really cute and they both have great personalities....mixing the races seems to bring the best out of both!
Not sure. Cmilk's kid is 100% chinese passing at this point~ don't think people bat an eyelid unless Cmilk's is with her. And then only because people are curious why the lowai is with a chinese baby. Not unusual I guess
Children DO see differences in appearance (eye shape, skin colour, hair texture etc.). Those just aren't as important as "Will you play this game with me?". I had a very diverse group of friends up into first grade until we moved to WhiteyMcWhitebread town. I always saw that my friends didn't look exactly like me. But it mattered more that they were my friends and we were trading stickers, playing games and having fun together. I think we shouldn't make children out to be unaware of things that they definitely notice. They aren't stupid, they just don't care about the things that adults care about, and they can appreciate differences (like cultural etc.) well unless/until the adults around them teach them not to.
First for I have to say, really intriguing video, and as an American I'm shocked but not surprised at how the racial homogeny leads to curiosity and stares. It's definitely not a normal thing to look different in China. But one thing: why don't they stop saying that "she was getting treated differently 'because of the way she looks'" and acknowledge that preferential treatment is given bc she's half white. Whiteness and fair skin are valued in China. A half Chinese, half black person in China wouldn't be treated the same way, and they would look just as different.
They realize that they have an advantage in China because they’re white men and they go to China because American white women probably don’t give them the time of day but here’s the crazy part is none of their wives are really not that attractive. But the Chinese men don’t go after white women and white women don’t give Chinese men a time of day but a white woman will date a black or African man before she dates a white man a Chinese man it’s really crazy who cares
Great video. I can't believe I haven't seen this one until now. But it's definitely a great video. Always so interesting and informative. Thanks for all your wonderful videos brother. Stay safe and always god bless you and your beautiful family.
My son is a mix of Chinese and Canadian and when we were in China many people asked to take my sons picture. Whether in china or in Canada we had many Chinese people liked the idea of a mixed child and you will hear that he/she will be beautiful and smart(cleaver).
I thought your comment that a mix raced child in small town Alabama might cause stares was funny. Our son is half Caucasian and half Asian(Filipino/Vietnamese) and even here in small town Alabama it’s accepted and normal, lol. It definitely wouldn’t have been 20-30 years ago. Its definitely more difficult in China than the USA to have a mixed race kid. I love China, but raising a child there would be tough. Enjoyed the videos.
laowhy86 I understood your point because that is definitely the stereotype about Alabama though It has definitely gotten better over the years. If you ever do go to Alabama try the beaches, they are among the best in the world believe it or not. Keep up the cool videos, I enjoy your perspective and goofy humor, lol.
We took our 4 year old mixed race (1/2 Chinese) son to Beijing in 2002, and he acquired what we called K's Fan Club. People stopped us everywhere asking for photos of him and us. They exclaimed constantly that he was so beautiful, cute, etc. He was really cute and is extremely handsome now as an adult. Back in the USA once someone from Nickelodian came up to us at a burger place and asked if we would have him audition for the show. We didn't, but that was a compliment to his looks.
laowhy you are one of my favorite youtubers keep up the good work i love how you teach us the chinese culture god bless you and your beautiful family :) #laowhyforpresident
Yeah, I'm Aussie and live in Shenzhen with my Guangdongese wife. We have a 6 month old boy. Everybody that sees him stare and comment on how beautiful and cute mixed babies are. It is definitely a positive curiosity. But now I'm over it because I'm sick of having to tell people not to touch him. We've even had to physically push people away who've tried to take him out of his pram for a nurse.
