What is "narcissistic supply"? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships) 

Sophia so true ! Or if you question them or asking them a question they don't wanna answer or don't give them something they want when they want they will say oh you're not treating me like a human .

So point on

Yaas.. .

Unfortunately that's the FACT.may GOD bless these soul and heal them.Amen

Yes! A relationship with a narcissist is so exhausting...you cannot speak your heart, speak your feelings, voice concerns...they will take it as an attack and try and gaslight you into "submission." They need you to mirror back this "image of perfection" because they are unable to handle the truth about themselves. Narcissists are full of delusions and if you don't support them, they will get rid of you. The reality is that they suck at relationships- they are scared of true vulnerabilty and intimacy...and their words/actions 110% reflect that. Once you start to see the light and attempt to confront them, they will obstruct and avoid meaningful communication. It didn't matter how gently I would try to approach things, he would just become irritated immediately...it kept pushing me away from the real issue. One day, I confronted him...continued to challenge him and all of his false accusations and lies about me...watched him squirm and desperately try to come up with more bullshit...then I was discarded lmao. At the end of the day, he was defeated and knew that he wasn't going to be able to distort my reality and control me.

Well, we make a really good conversation partner and if you need creative boost or some new ideas, we are here for you, no need to thank us.

Right!!! They’re so entitled. It’s sick!

I felt this in my soul!! He never wanted to do anything for me except super little things, yet he expected my undivided attention. He would give me barely crumbs and expect a huge reaction and appreciation. Half the time I had to ask and beg even when it only lead to arguments.. yet he still wanted grand appreciation.

same here from what doc says sounds like a junkie

Only time they pay attention to you is during lovebombing and hoovering .. beyond that, it's all about them

Realizing how obvious it was is one of the most difficult things... but I guess that once in it... it’s not as obvious. The good news is that now we know, I pray to God I have the tools to see it earlier.

I remember after I was dragged to the ump-teeth event I didn't even want to go to... I told a friend "Why did I say yes to this?" Her response told me that my friend who dragged me to events didn't even consider my likes. I had to bend over backwards to attend to their needs and do things their way. It was totally "my way or the highway with them."

Everything is obviously looking back!! Morn it and move on, because you didn't know

Yep!!!

@@bplatonova Thank you for this

You made me laugh soooo hard because that is exactly it

Lol. So true!!

LOL! It’s so weird and kind of embarrassing to be present for this.

I literally deal with this on a daily basis. Because my narc ‘friend’ is creative like me, and loves to draw artwork of random characters she makes up with different art themes, which she does through monthly art challenges based on them. So, she sends her drawings to me every day, expecting me to compliment and flatter her on how AMAZING they all are, every single day. When in reality, her artwork is usually mediocre at the very best. I used to always reply to her, and go on and on about how beautiful they were, yada yada yada. Even when I knew deep down, it was just me being overly polite and kissing her ass half the time, which made me feel so two-faced and ashamed with myself. I actually felt like the narcissistic one, because I always knew that I can draw better than her. But I also took classes and have practiced a lot over the years to get to that point. I remember she asked for artwork from me for once. And of course, being me, I did it for her like the happy little puppet I was. However, I think she realized that she wasn’t as good as me, because once I showed my artwork for the first time to her, she said it was very good but never asked me for any more after that. Even when I was being Miss. Overly Polite, and saying she could ask me again some time, and I would. I think she just didn’t want to feel one upped by me. I suspect she might have thought she would be better at it than me, so she could be the one to give ME the ‘helpful’ pointers, while acting all smug about it. I don’t even reply anything on her drawings anymore, yet it still doesn’t stop her from posting them to me every day. I guess she just feels content enough by the mere assumption that I’m always still seeing them, at the very least. I just got too drained writing her compliments literally every day, that rarely felt sincere. Oh, and if the compliment wasn’t long or flowery enough for her, she acted bothered by that too. So, simple one word replies weren’t good enough, then again, nothing is EVER good enough for her. 🙄

@@brookelynnplanz1296 did you concider blocking her or at least "silencing" messages from her? These interactions sound so draining🤯

Bmore Mom totally!!! This has been the perfect excuse to keep them physically away from us! Because just cutting off contact they hate it and want to turn up and cause you problems flexing their weight they can still get to you. Now it’s perfect as they can’t! 👊 There are silver linings in all of this!

Amen!!

Same here. High five!

M stuck with my narcissist mom it's living hell

Yes grateful to not have to be around my narcissistic STBX but my narcissistic 18yo is home with us. He is not as bad as the husband, the mother and the 20yo son who’d already left.

I left a relationship after nearly that many years also. It's taken a while to get past the overthinking for me. I still find myself coming up with explanations in my head, for everything I'm doing, for why I have a right to exist. I have to keep reminding myself that I don't owe anyone an explanation for what I'm doing or for how I'm feeling. That helps a little with the over analyzing.

Btw, congratulations for getting out☺️

I am in a 28 year relationship 26 married and I am exhausted trying to keep my family together. I am moving out on June 26th,2020 I am hoping to find myself again.

Laura Briese I wish for you peace and happiness on your new journey 🙏🏻

@@Hawelufamily thank you very much and to you as well.

Their parents cause it.

It feels like my mother punishes me for she herself not having had a mother, for me not being her mother, and for me getting to have a mother.

Some of us never received praise or validation growing up. I never knew how to take compliments growing up because they were rare. My mom spoiled me and dressed me girlie for church and special events but at the same time the relationship between my mom and I didn't flourish until I was an adult. But that time she was gone. I was bullied as a child. I was quiet and introverted. I was always alone. I had few friends. Some time around high school and early adulthood something changed. I feel like I became my mother. All I ever feel like is that people use me for something. Then they go away for whatever reason. Now in my current relationship, I've been with my partner for 12 years. I feel like sh is as narcissistic as myself but I'm the one yelling victim. I have basically been taking care of her financially for the duration of this relationship. I don't feel valued or validated or wanted or truly loved nor do I feel like I am capable of love because whenever I'm honest and open myself up to people, things go bad. When things go bad, though I'm still providing, I tend to use everything about them against them and they do the same to me. So I'm not sure if I'm a narcissist or if my partner is a narcissist. All I know is that I'm alone in my life even while being in a relationship. My partner has family and friends, I've never had many friends and haven't been family oriented in a long while. I have been listening to these videos and thinking trying to figure out who I am and what my life is about because right now it's chaos and hostility. It's good when it's good but bad most of the time. Ugh!! Frustrating. I do appreciate the content. It's eye opening.

@@GurlDreamer50 it’s okay baby. 💋I’ll save u from that witch 🤬💋💋

My ex literally did that to me one night during the time we broke up and were still living together. I listened to him vent, and he said that because I listened to him, he would share some treats he bought for himself with me. Everything with him really was transactional.

You hit that nail on the head girl.

And if you don’t give them the supply they want and boom there is the silent treatment as a form of punishment that makes people go insane

It's best to feel sorry for them if you understand all they want is the ego trip to feel important. It's so easy not to take it personally. If they are being difficult or disrespectful or unsympathetic. If people show disrespect they lack respect. I dont even take it personally anymore. If people are inconsiderate.

@@rainhart27 only if you’re unaware of their mind games. Once you get hip to their mind games you can learn to stop giving them your soul to destroy. When they bounce the proverbial ball, stand there and simply don’t bounce it back. Can be one of the quickest ways to be rid of them.

@RainbowDreams30 totally agree. They only think of them self and when they drain every last drop of you they then move on to the next person and make out that we were crazy and we done this and that when in reality it was them who done wrong but it's easy for them to play the sympathy card and get more attention from the next person xx

Thank you. I really hope I can heal and move on and hope that none of its affected my son mentally. 🙏

Angeles González IKR, Waking up to the brutal reality after decades and having to start all over, again. It’s an uphill battle and I’ve fought my share. I’m exhausted and drained fending off narcissists in all directions. It’s feeling hopeless

Me too, in my 50s. I have been conditioned to believe that I don't matter unless I have someone else's life to emerse myself in. That's how I've ended up in so many relationships and jobs with narcissists. Dr Ramani describes this so well. I'm now working on convincing myself my my life has meaning, even when I'm not focusing on other people.

Goldie...Same here...especially with jobs. I had a boss once who hired me and I later kept hearing that I was his type. I wasn’t even qualified for the job but because I felt indebted to him for giving me my first job with a stable salary and benefits, I allowed him to create an illusion that we had an intimate relationship. I was 24 and raised by a narcissistic mother and a very obedient person, especially to my superiors. I left that job when I married my narcissistic husband and began touring the world with military. I heard my boss died some years later and I was numb because I wasn’t sad but felt connected to him some how (and we didn’t have an affair). Now I’m leaving my husband after 20 yrs and I feel it happening again. I’m a little stronger at 50 but after a lifetime of being targeted by narcs (2 sons as well), I constantly question my worth. What keeps me going is knowing that God has and will continue to shield me from these demons.

@@nahmastay7497 Yes, you nailed it. Narcs create situations where we end up feeling indebted to them. That's why my parents have likedl to "save" me in the past, it created a sense of obligation in me.

@@nahmastay7497 Ben there, done that, keep going, think about all that you have provided for others, now you can provide it for your self, your going to be a superwoman

FreeThinker me too!

Me too.... this is such a relief to find out although heart breaking, because I actually believed it was me and I was incapable!!! Turns out, I'm too healthy.. now how to get out?

@@katebarrett8005 I have an odd question. Say a person is a narcissist. Do their family and assuming they have friends, friends know the person is a narcissist? I am dealing with one. Truth be told it's actually a female that is one. In general she never really talks about her family to me. When I have asked her if she has any close friends she hangs out with like in person (go to the movies, go out to eat...go for a hike...etc) she doesn't. She has one good friend that lives in another state but even that friend she recently connected with after being years years apart. I know her ex's know of her behavior. I just wonder do her close people like know she is one or something is just off about her?

@@boohere2 very flattered you asked me a question. Thankyou. To be honest I dont know. In my humble opinion people as a rule don't go looking or researching this sort of thing untill it becomes quite a problem in their own lives and then if the narcissist isnt in their core family proberly just imagine it's a strange or damaged in some way sort of friend. The younger generation(I have a 26, 20, 19 and 13 years old kids) are so much more clued up on mental health than I was or my peers were so they appear to put more thought and boundries in in their relationships. I myself am working through my own codependent issues which has highlighted the type of people I am drawn to, so for me in order to have healthy safe nourishing relationships I need to start with me. It seems to be quite a lonely place to be someone with these traits and by nature of the narc very difficult to change or have recovery from. All the best.

@@katebarrett8005 Thanks for the reply. I didn't know what a narcissist was until a friend of mine pointed me to this video of someone talking about what a narcissist is.I told my friend of all the crazy crap that was happening. Thankfully my friend showed me it and I've been watching videos ever since. The narcissist I know, all her family lives pretty much on the east coast and her mom lives in the South. Mean while the narc lives in California. All her family is pretty much far farrrrrr away. Even when I asked her when is the last time you have seen them she said "too long." Even this past holidays (Christmas) in 2019 she didn't travel to see family. I just find it odd she never talks about her family really. Maybe the truth is she is just not close to them! It's been a struggle for me. I am not attached to the narcissist in that way, but more so wanting to be a friend. Even that it is hard to do because she keeps going back to the bad behavior. This is the first narc i have ever dealt with.

Wow!! You hit the nail on the head with this one.

Ellie Sweet It’s like gambling for free or with house money. If you’re already feeling inferior, it’s a win/win...either they get what they want from you in every single way or if they don’t...start back at 1 or pick-up where you are or left off with the other slot machines. The cycle never ends tho.

Main aim is to getu to lower your guard....!!!

Brilliant observation MG...I'm a kindred soul...going through your precise scenario the 'anvil-like' wake-up call that 'this man will never change'...Lots of therapy, church admonitions/guidelines. Working on the detritus of the anxiety post 'comatose' awakening as well...but I need to find the courage to 'plan the escape' as well. Incredibly uplifting and hope-engendering comment from you today...Thank you smart and kind person.

Wise words! Back in the 1980's I had to plan my escape from a malignant narcissist husband. Even though I planned, the aftermath was still rocky and problematic (a long custody battle), I would have been worse off if I hadn't planned.

@@valerier4308 I NEED to 'plan' and barely have the energy to do this important step. Bravo on your foresight and organisation-of-self...I hate to bother...but who does one 'engage' to do this? A life counselor/coach? A certain type of 'specialist' to plan out the exiting of the narcissist in a logical/legal fashion? Appreciating immensely any direction/advice.

@@thintwin48 Well, I had a breakthrough when my narcissistic husband FORCED me to see a psychiatrist, because he thought I was the problem. It didn't turn out like he planned. The psychiatrist just said I was anxious and depressed because of my marriage, and my environment, and that I was NOT CRAZY! I believe it was God intervening. It made my narc hubby furious, and he escalated. It happened was in the mid 1980's, so there was so there wasn't the wealth of information on the internet that we have now. Although I already had a college degree, I went back to school part time to get a post-grad elementary teaching license, which gave me a marketable job skill. He had decided to move to another city, and went ahead to the new city without me, leaving me to pack up the whole house by myself. So I packed up hubby's stuff separate from mine. I had help from my dad. He paid for my college classes because I wasn't working (I'd been a stay at home mom for a few years), and allowed my little boy and I to live with him for a while. Other than that, I just did it myself. Something inside me told me I had to get away from my narcissistic husband (although I didn't even know what a narcissist was at the time). I believe I had help from God. Although I gave up on organized religion, after an Episcopal Priest who we went to for counseling told me "You are such a bitter, ungrateful wife, that most men would break your face, me included"!!!!! That was devastating! Unbelievable!!! Anyway. I hope this helps.

M G i hear you. It took 7 years to get rid of my narc ex husband. The spite and viciousness of his response was an eye opener even after 18 years of ‘marriage’.

Yelp, no contact not even greetings. My next door neighbor is a narc, and I don't say "Good Morning or Hello". He doesn't exist as far as I'm concerned. He lives less than 10 ft from me in a condo. Essentially, I made a psychological and emotional disconnect move almost four years ago, because physically I could not. My financial resources aren't the way I want them, so packing up and moving wasn't ideal. Not surprising that he has made attempts to get me to talk to him, but the requests were denied and ignored. Eventually, he got the memo and doesn't try anymore. I thought he would never get it, but he did. Yay. Narcs are aware people don't like them, and they will self induce a conversation anyway. They will verbally attack or give you deadly stares, anything to get a reaction from you. But you have to train your mind to ignore them. It's not easy but it can be done. With some narcissists, you can tell them to not speak or talk to you, and they won't, but if you don't, they will. My narc neighbor wasn't like that and would purposely disrespect my boundaries to start conflict. I had to call the cops to get him to back off.

@@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807 he will steal you .. my father did ..no joke , they are psychpaths .. expect everything .. i wonder if i steal them back do i become psychopath too?

I did that too

@MCADHD666 VOL2 isn't that wonderful?

@MCADHD666 VOL2I coined this term to describe narcs: Humonics, which is part human and demon

My ex was definitely a relationship hopper. I asked him about it once, and he was like, "It's not me, it's just that people keep leaving me." And while that did seem to be true, he also was the type who would get out of a relationship and then start looking for a new one the second it was over... if he even waited, tbh.

@@BooDotBoo narcissists are known to cheat in a number of them

My husband literally said to me that one relationship is boring and also he doesn't like if women has too much devotion for him..

Lol 😂 hobo narcs.

@@misssasha168 My X would qualify... didn’t want to work... but demanded Organic, high quality food and drink... of course I should pay for it and prepare it... he mostly sat his butt on the couch watching movies and fancied himself as a Cinema buff... he was a hippy hobo narc...

Colette Ogata theyre all the same! Crazy!

The precision of Dr Ramani's description of every aspect makes me convinced that she has been in a narcissistic relationship for years.

We have a same situation..I can't stand the trauma...

I completely understand. Its a nightmare

Try planning a wedding with one...

@@kmoy Been there, done that! If I had it to do over again, I would have eloped.

Shi Ma and instigate fights

Shi Ma Correct !

OMG we need a video on this...so true!

Mine has 3 fb accounts. Insanity !!!

Yup hacking, creating random accounts to stalk you, even criminal activities to gaslight you. They won’t stop at a thing. Losers.

My ex was obsessed with how he looked. Not that I minded because he looked nice, but it did reach pretty extreme moments. Like, a few times he wasn't able to go get his hair dyed and he ended up crying because he was upset about it. I had to talk him down and tell him that his hair would be okay for another week or two and that he looked good. It took hours to get him to believe me. Or the time he gained like ten pounds (he was a bit chubby, but he played hockey regularly, he wasn't a slouch or anything) because he couldn't play hockey for a few months, he had gotten injured, and he was always upset and angry about it, saying he was ugly. Which didn't make me feel all that good because I'm chubby, too, so yeah. However, people don't know how much it hurts you to hear someone you love saying they are ugly and you can't seem to get them to see that they look good.

I can so relate! Had the same experience.

Just experienced this too recently‼️They hate when you call them out, which causes narcissistic injury and they will drop you like a hot potato and then run away to grab a new person.

Yeah I get the week straight silent treatment. For speaking up for myself. Then they forget it and act all sweet. It’s madness 😢

Arysta I have a friend who does this by phone...she love 5 states away. We met overseas and when she realized what kind of husband I had she swooped in as the trusting friend. She always asks me to send her my ‘narcissism videos’. I’ve have since stopped discussing these topics with her and most of the time don’t answer her calls. I answered the other day for the first time in a while and she immediately told me she’s worried about her father because he’s ill. I listened for a bit, then she started back talking about our personal lives. I knew right away her concerns with father was baiting because my husband does it all the time...knows I care too much. It was hard but the next day I did not call or text to see how her father was. You will find a way to deal with your friend...Gods true saints will be protected if you trust in Him.

Arysta 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

Katie, you are in a terribly vulnerable state right now (as if you didn’t know). Please do at least one good thing for yourself everyday, even if it’s small. All the energy you put into trying to make that relationship work should be turned onto you now. Feels selfish at first but after awhile it is natural. One day at a time and ESPECIALLY NO CONTACT. It really works. 💐🐬💪🏼

@@lorettanericcio-bohlman567 Loretta, thank you so much for your kind words. You are right, I am in a very emotional state right now haha-quarantine does not help either- It has helped I havent talked to him in over 5 weeks. Its so tough especially at night because I feel like he will contact me. But he never does. He blame me for the end of the relationship, and said it was too much work. I am in the stage that I forgave him,and myself. I just keep going back and forth if he was an emotional abusive narcissists or remember the good things he has done for me. Its not easy. But with your advise I will focus on the little things for myself. Thanks again Loretta. Much Love, Katie.

Hi again Katie, one more thing. I remember being in that state of trying to understand what I did wrong as it always takes two but this is where it gets tricky. Yes we have flaws of course however mature people discuss these things in a loving manner. Narcissists do not want to discuss and go deeper so they project on to you. Mine slipped at one point and said, I’ll never have the integrity that you do” Not sure what they were trying to convey but it was weird. Point is, don’t spend as much time beating yourself up as I did. Our lesson is to learn we are human, capable of flaws but we are worthy of a loving partner or at least peace with ourselves and animals, friends etc. 💪🏼🦋🐬

@@lorettanericcio-bohlman567 You are so right Loretta. Man, I beat myself up a lot at the beginning and the thoughts of my friend said to me pop into my head. "Maybe hes not capable to love" Like wow. Thats so sad. Cause someone that said they loved me, said I was "the one", ask me to marry him multiple times. future plans ect. I got upset with him and sent him a mean text. And blame the text as one of the main reason the end of the relationship. Then 2 weeks later said he doesnt love me anymore, im not "the one". That is so tragic. How someone can say things so freely, and hurtful does not care for your feelings. Thank you again for your kind words. I will daily remind myself this. I appreciate you taking the time to send me this. it warms my heart. -Katie D

My story is very similar... What a textbook cases! I'm going through similar gut wrenching breakup. My narcissistic partner is actually forensic psychiatrist! 2 year relationship, love bombing, mirroring (I thought, oh gosh, we have so much in common!), faking future plans together, etc etc.. this was followed by very brief devaluation period (but perhaps longer in his twisted mind!) and discard - breakup over short text message & blocking my number. This is it - no talks. After I saw these videos of Dr.R, and looked retrospectively on some behaviours that felt wrong.... everything got into perfect but horrific picture explaining who this guy is. It makes me sick, depressed, anxious. I did not realize such breed exists on the planet. There should be a database of these people so no normal human being gets into their traps.

Relationshits! That's the perfect word for a relationship with a narc.

💐👄@Jen's Basement💘 "relationSHITS" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🤗🤣😂

After alot of mean baiting from a 'friend' on FB, I unfriended them and then they said I was the mean one !!!...classic switch from bully to victim position....!!!

Good luck

Wow, you went through a lot. Glad you are free now.

It's true you can either lose or gain weight when stressed. I lose weight because I don't have an appetite, and food is the last thing I want. Narcs are terrors

They are users

I mind my own business. I don't have energy to deliver my time and attention let alone misplaced admiration to supply such a disordered personality.

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@@quettalogan3295 yeah.. but I would say it’s definitely more of the grandiose narcs than the vulnerable ones. The vulnerable ones are more shy and in the closet more so

@@norapeace6526 Covert narcs are very secretive, And they don’t triangulate their supply. The reason why I know this is because of my ex, I’ve seen her Instagram stories every now and then and she would be on the passenger side of different vehicles. She would never show the faces of them men she’s with. And you will never see them in her posts, it’s because she doesn’t plan on keeping them very long...

@@davon_DaGod I agree. That’s how my vulnerable narcissistic ex was. He never posted who he was with if it was a woman and when we were together, he didn’t post me even though I had no social media at all anyway to see much, so couldn’t really complain

"A strange game. The only winning move is not to play." Wargames

I had to be his psychologist every day as he burst into bouts of inner rage against everyone. Didn't help him, though, I got more and more exhausted as he didn't change one bit. I never told him as this would create more drama and I loved him so much. Now he is discarding me because he got bored of me. It hurts but I don't have to carry his emotional baggage anymore.

Julia Jepson,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narcissist....

homie...this is what my marriage looked like. i am now divorcing the wife because i found that she has been cheating on me for 8 years. these narcs are very very good at hiding their cheating. if you even have a small feeling she is a narc and is doing something on the side. trust your feelings.

Love your comment, it’s so true, take care of yourself and sanity

Codependents enjoy helping a narcissist who is a parasite to drain you dry.

That was very well said. Sometimes I feel like watching these videos are self punishing... They're not.

@@dreamernator It is good to learn, but balance it with fun/happy videos also.

I know people say narcs don't, but I truly believe narcs tell us exactly who they are, we just don't listen or brush it off because we can't believe someone would be like that; that they have to just have a bad image of themselves, so we try to help them see themselves like we do... that's a HUGE mistake right there. I learned that the hard way.

Narcs are very needy and exploit others to no avail.

Sameee same thing happened n is still going on with me but in a good place.

Been there. Done that. No More EVER Lee G

A friend of mine did actually move house...!!!

My ex and I were long distance. When we would talk on the phone, he'd have me in one ear and his friends in another. Like, how are you talking to me and talking to your friends? And when I mentioned it, he got annoyed with me. What I didn't know was that his friends could hear what I was saying and one of them told my ex that he needed to learn to "control his woman better" and my ex just laughed. I still can't believe I continued dating him for months after this. It's so shameful. And you're right; when the narc is getting attention elsewhere, they couldn't care less about you, but when they need your constant supply, they run back to you every single time, which makes a lot of people think, myself included before I learned about all this, that they just can't be without you because they love you. Truth is, you're just a reliable source of supply.

BooDotBoo oh wow!!! That’s crazy!! Sounds just like a narcissist! They get mad at you when they’re messing up & blame you (gaslighting) My ex would put me on speaker phone with one of his roommates and we would all talk sometimes 🙄 that roommate would later become a flying monkey though who got us talking again but would also help to be the reason why we broke up for good!! Flying monkeys are the worst! They’re like an extension of the narcissist and you don’t Know what to do with them sometimes. The flying monkey got very aggressive and misogynistic when I was telling him about himself at the very end of my relationship with the narc. He tried to save face but once he couldn’t he started calling me names and saying how stupid I was because the ex didn’t talk to me because he didn’t want to (because women were over) I hate these people

I understand, but just know that one of the narc's powers is the fact that you don't want to be alone. As long as you are afraid to be alone, they know they have you.

@@BooDotBoo I am so aware of this.

If you are in a relationship with someone who cannot love, then you are already alone. In 2016, without yet knowing about narcissism, I decided to cut off my sister. I was very afraid I'd miss her, but I was just SO DONE that I preferred to miss her than put up with her anymore. Not only I didn't miss her AT ALL, but instead a HUGE BURDEN left my back. I had no idea how much it weighed simply because I had always carried it around; she resented me since the day I was born due to taking away from her the "baby of the family" throne.

Narcs won't learn anything because no matter what, they are not going to look inside themselves, but I doubt they are suffering much. Like, Dr. R said, they have social media; they don't need to leave the house for supply.

it’s Very hard on them!

Usually, they target single mothers receiving govt assistance

Very common. Target women with assets, good career, widows with MONEY. Etc.

Same with my ex. When I first began talking with him, he lied about his lifestyle. I eventually found out he had no job, was receiving Medicaid/government benefits, and lived in a high-rise housing project building in Chicago. Moving in with me upgraded his life.

My ex narc used and abused me too. After I left him, the ex narc told me "I had made a better man" and then laughed at me. I'm now trying to put myself and life back together. They are truly horrible people.

These creatures are never greatful when you help them. They leep frog to the next person. If the next person cant keep up like they want they will start sniffing around. Unless like my ex they get older so they cant hop around so much

Ana Contreras,I admire your pretty smile

I can’t believe you survived this trauma, you are strong. I am your family is doing well

@@acloudedmind_ thank you,to be honest I think it was divine intervention that made me strong and get along with it for a reason to teach me to let go of people and things I cant change,but also to know my value and stand by my belief as well as to be aware that other people just cause blockages in your life and until you let them go your life will always remain stagnant.They were never meant to share your blessings with them. Everything is falling into place now its unbelievable how quickly my life has changed for the better achieving things I didn't even though I tried in 20+ years to do it and achieving them in 1.5 years!I feel like god is paying me for all those years I suffered and am greatiful. As for him karma is getting worse by day,surely we all get back what we invest in the world