@@keishalawson3995 within reason. For example, I can definitely tell someone that calling their child worthless or constantly comparing them to someone else’s kid is not discipline or tough love, it is emotional abuse.
School has totally became a sport I’m one of the smartest in my class and I was just quarantined last week and I had so much built of stress from school that over the weekend I had a full blown panic attack and I’ve never had one before and it was the most frightening thing I’ve ever experienced so schools need to calm down and relax us because they don’t know the mental toll it’s takes on us
10:06 butter and oils are sealants ONLY you use them when u use like water or moisturizer or both. Depending on ya area and season if in the winter and its cold outside use them but if its warm or hot let up on it and find something else other than the oil and butters
You know what though? That's valid. That means there are issues that you need to address in order to be your best self and by the time you come close if you feel as though you still don't WANT kids that's perfectly fine. Or maybe you'll find that you can handle being a parent and you'll be a good parent because you've done the emotional work to give a child your best.
I've seen how my father's trauma has caused him to act. But he doesn't realize how he passed it down to me. I know it wouldnt be fair to have a relationship or to have kids until I've worked through my issues. He definitely wasn't ready to have kids, and he shouldn't have until he was ready. But I know when he was growing up, mental health was very taboo and not really considered. I just hope he can find healing one day. I'm glad people are more aware of trauma and the importance of healing from it.
@@xzodiayinzero5929 because they’re still not having children because they want them. It’s selfish to bring children into this world just as an obligation
@@ac-us8ne That makes no sense. If you do something as an obligation, not necessarily becaues you want to do it for yourself, that is literally the opposite of selfish. It's *selfless.*
Low key I wish trends like this would just be filled with people saying shit like “SpongeBob was never really that funny” or “2pac is an overrated rapper” I can’t be the only one that’s slowly getting tired of this serious hyper-woke discussions that’s constantly being had on the internet 😂 Like who in their right minds want to get on social media on their break and be lectured about racism and fatphobia 😭😭
Nope, you are definitely not the only one. It's the main reason why I didn't want to get into tik tok, because the whole "men aren't actually men, they're humans with dicks" and arguments like that is sooo annoying. I like the actual valid arguments about racism, sexism and stuff like that. But the hyper woke conversations get so exhausting
ONE THING IS : when you say something to people if they are wrong ....and there response is well my mom/dad use to do this all the time Just cause your mom dad did it all the time don't make it right or law
You're so right about investing Dee! It is a game changer, and it's horrible that it's not promoted or encouraged, everybody should know about it and get into it from day 1.
I don't like to work but I work cause I don't like being broke. Shid I saved 50k last year I'm aiming for 700k before I retire to Kigali Rwanda. And I'm outta 5000✌️
Thanks for the videos Dee, today been sh!t since my family got covid (expect for me and my little sister) and now we need to self isolate. I mean the good thing is that I’m not harmed but my family however, is.
sex ed was simply meant to teach teens about their bodies....the fact that people found a way to make it weird is beyond me. There's already a high std and teen pregnancy rate...you want to advocate for more of it? That lady is weird
I wish non Americans would just simply stay out of our business lmao. As a relatively educated American who frequently communicates with non Americans it’s excruciatingly annoying hearing “Americans this” and “Americans that” and the extreme generalizations like it almost makes me want to join everybody else in our “bubble” and shut out the rest of the world
Okay and lady number three didn’t make much sense to me. She says having a child is selfish unless you’re doing it as a surrogate for another person “for free”. Well, wouldn’t that make the person who needed a surrogate “selfish” as well? Because they still wanted to do what she was initially faulting folks for - having a child… That one didn’t make much sense to me…
I think maybe what she’s trying to say is that you shouldn’t just pop out multiple babies without planning or taking responsibility to raise them. I’m assuming that when she meant having the surrogate, the parents who use the surrogate have money and a plan to take care of the child and give them good opportunities in life. Especially since kids can’t choose what parents they get. While it may be inherently selfish to have a child, it is downright evil to have one without being able to give them the best life possible.
I disagree with this one 2:56. Yes, men can be and most of the time are responsible for the impregnation of women. But at the end of the day, you get to choose to have the child or not. It's your body, and your choice, and therefore your responsibility to maintain your choice. You can't say you don't want to work a minimum wage job and just expect to get a better one, you have to put work into that. However, if we choose to stop looking at pregnancy as a women controlled thing but instead something where both men and women are coming together to form a baby, then you'll start seeing an increase in men taking responsibility for pregnancies. How am I supposed to know to take responsibility if I'm constantly being told it's another's decision and all my efforts would be meaningless anyway?
This is real! Men in our society have no rights when it comes to the process of making a child yet they love to put that responsibility on men. Also women have plenty of contraceptives and prevention methods of having a child men have 2 and one involves surgery. Smh..
To be honest, no a woman is still responsible for her body(as much as possible because rape is a thing). Men aren't responsible for getting a woman pregnant since in mutual consensual adult situations, it is the woman who allows or disallows access to her body. We can't just say a woman choose to have a baby without saying she allowed him access to her so she's responsible for her pregnancy
having kids is not inherently selfish. society and the human species needs new members. we're not immortals, we're gona get old and die, someone needs to carry on.
I agree with part of what the Indian woman said about work but disagree with another part. The thing I do agree with is its not lazy to not want to work. There are other things we want to do in life that we enjoy that work takes away from. What I disagree with is that if you take what you're passionate about and make money from that it becomes a job. If that's the case then you've lost the passion for that or maybe it was never truly your passion. And there's nothing wrong with coming to that realization. Our passions and dreams can change and if and when they do, then we just change with that.
I'm going to counter ol girl and her "Beauty standards" opinion... When are we going to accept that women also contribute to unrealistic beauty standards in some cases more than men. Women have a right to do what they want with their bodies and wear what they want. Ask any man who tells a woman "I like my woman natural" or give the opinion " You don't need to get cosmetic surgery" or "You don't have to wear that" the first thing the women will say is "We not doing it for men. We are doing it for ourselves" That statement litterally tells men that women are living up to their own beauty standards.
You can't be serious right?? Literally not all males say don't get surgery and don't put on make up. They will say that to their girl and give attention to some other girl on IG or in real life who's HAD plastic surgery and WEARS make up... so you just tried flip it into something it's not. Another episode of most men ain't shit💀
@@vibez.no.cartel If a man tells his woman NOT to get plastic surgery or things like that but likes a woman's picture that does, doesn't that show you that he doesn't care about the those beauty standards as much as the woman does?
@@vibez.no.cartel that's not hypocritical. You can like a picture of a woman with surgery and not want to date them or still want your woman to be natural. Also even if he was a hypocrite what does that have to do with women getting these surgeries and living up to these standards "for themselves"..
@@marcoervin7324 they are are getting it "for themselves" because society at large makes them feel insecure about it. It's a resolution for peace of mind. And if you liked the picture that means you liked the look of it. So why does it now bother you that she got the plastic surgery as means to look asceticlly pleasing for her partner AND give her peace of mind from not looking "good enough" from society. So telling her to "be natural" is just redundant because you're showing otherwise. Women get there image shamed by men at a disproportionate level, whether it's plastic or not because society and the male gaze puts a monetary value on women's beauty. Which contributes to how she gets treated in society at large. And if you deny that, then you're just being intellectually dishonest with yourself💀🤣. In the average 9-5 reality will always likely to see a really pretty woman with an ugly or average looking man. But you will hardly ever, if never, see an ugly woman with a really attractive man because there's little to no monetary value on a guy looking attractive. Case closed.
I never watch these compilations unless Dee is watching them, I swear. Feels like half these tik toks just say something controversial just for the sake of being controversial.
Bruh moment at 1:38. Having children is literally one of our basic instincts and is necessary for society to keep going?! I think maybe what she’s trying to say is that you shouldn’t just pump out the numbers without planning or taking responsibility to raise them, at least i hope so
1:18 I have always thought this like why should they have to change or add more clothes just because male guests are coming over? You shouldn't have anyone come over if you tell your kids to go change. Actually foreplay teaches patience. "Good things come to those that wait" is a very good quote to use. If you can't do foreplay without expecting/wanting sex, then it's clear you shouldn't be having sex.
I'm going to disagree with the young lady about the oils. Each oil that you use has a different purpose. Some actually do coat the hair and keep moisture from get into the hair follicles. But other oils are very good at moisturizing and repairing the hair follicles. You just have to know which ones have which purpose. Oh and there is nothing that can fix split ends except cutting your hair.
Not to be that guy cuz I know people gonna hate me, and cuz I’m a guy saying this… but ole girl talking about the vasectomy and stuff is ignorant as hell. How about no one mess with their body’s? She’s acting like all men don’t wear condoms or even in a relationship sometimes birth control and condoms are used so using that as a standard against men is stupid. I think no one should used birth control or even get a vasectomy. I think she’s just saying that bc it’s not HER body. Just like how a guy shouldn’t talk about or try to tell a woman what to do with her body. Use condoms. Period. Stop trying to tell people what to do with their body’s boy/girl/man/woman just bc it’s not yours.
The problem is when some guys tell women that “it doesn’t feel good with a condom” so they expect them to go on birth control. That’s what the statement is.
@@immasnakeee6460 at which point ya say its that or you can leave. like none of you have to go on body effecting birth control. btw they arent making that up though it is completely different with a condom on, you can barely feel anything its kinda weird.
@@immasnakeee6460 she can literally still just say no lol, what is he gonna do? Nag her to take the pill everyday? Before that point she can just call the cops for harassment or break up with him cuz he’s clearly a selfish psycho
That lady talking about vasectomies: Ladies, listen to me very carefully. VASECTOMIES ARE NOT REVERSIBLE!!! After a certain period of time, they become permanent.
1:19 I would say this goes two ways. If a dude can’t be respectful then yeah, he shouldn’t be there. But its also the responsibility of women to make sure they don’t have everything hanging out for all to see. The responsibility and moral duty really goes on both sexes but unfortunately in today’s society we have less and less of neither
My one thing is: as a man I feel like, we have to grind and work harder nowadays but it's more simple for women just to put makeup on, be cute, throw thirst traps on TikTok and promote OF and magic there's thousands of dollars there.
I had to pause the video for a second so I don’t miss anything. So far, I’ve only heard the first two young ladies speak. The first one said nothing but the truth and she doesn’t deserve hate for it. The second young lady, I wholeheartedly understand where she’s coming from and I wholeheartedly agree that you should never have a man around your daughter who’s intentions you have to second guess. At the same time, I DO feel like it’s appropriate for little girls / young ladies to be fully dressed around company! PERIOD. It’s not just about the man having ill intentions, it’s also about teaching your daughters self respect and how to conduct themselves. I personally wouldn’t want to teach my daughter to just be out here exposing herself to men. So maybe my unpopular opinion is, although I’m all for self love and body positivity, I still believe in certain things being age appropriate and certain things NOT being age appropriate. With that being said, I don’t necessarily “disagree” with the second young lady’s perspective, I just feel like she missed an important part of the lesson. No hate for her from me either though because she isn’t wrong.
She didn't say let your daughters be half naked. Probably just meant like shorts or a tank top. Some mothers can feel threatened...like their daughter is competition which is messed up on its own.
I dont know what to say about this video. EVeryone feeling is their feeling about things and should be taken as such. I do want to speak on a couple. You dont turn hobbys into a money makers it is a hobby meaning you it when ever you get around to it even if your good at it. Its your passions you turn into careers (not jobs). A career is when you do something you LOVE TO DO a job is doing some you HAVE TO DO just for a pay check. People hate their jobs...Not their careers. So liking stuff doesnt make you money...hustling and making moves on what you love makes you money
Dee must have some childhood trauma which persuaded her in the decision to not have kids could someone elaborate, Has she ever talked about it? I know it is personal I was just asking
You definitely don't need to have trauma to not be interested. It's a major lifestyle change that some people just aren't interested in/ don't personally value. I wonder why you think trauma is necessary to make the decision
children are just fucking annoying, periodt. don't need a childhood trauma to recognize that. Them Bae Bae kids are all around us and Dee (prolley me either) ain't got time for det 💅🏽
I don't know if I agree with this woman about having kids. Granted I didn't plan any of my kids just like I didn't do anything to prevent getting pregnant. I suppose in some way it COULD be selfish because people want to be able to create a family and want their family legacy to go on by having kids with the assumption that their kids will want to have kids. But I just got pregnant because I was irresponsible. I have 3 adult kids and up until a few months ago only ONE has expressed ANY interest in having kids. And that's up to them. I'm definitely not one of those parents who feel the need to harass my kids about giving me grandkids. If they don't want children I support that choice. I think for some its selfish and for others its irresponsibility.
@@merissacooper6539 not really the whole thing is vague as fuck what are we talking about here because if your child is barely clothed thats not appropriate for any type of company. If its a case of a child has some shoulders bare and theres a creepy family member that is a borderline paedophile now thats different.
@@Jonathan-vh1ix THANK YOU. this girl really think we wouldnt know if a friend is a creap, if we're enviting them into our house, at THAT level of friendship you should already know...
Don’t have kidz if you’re not really ready/ you don’t really know the person/ you don’t want really want 2 / having them will not fix ya already f up ‘relationship’ / for my dudes stop going out here being a Nick cannon and having a lot of Fatherless households get a visetemy also you don’t have 2 sleep with everything that looks or even talks 2U especially when you’re a celebrity you need 2 control yaself also do not listen 2 people who tell you aww kids are wonderful you should have em bla bla bla like just cause it worked 4U doesn’t mean it’ll work 4 everyone else
It's a surgical procedure. The doctor makes a small incision in your testicles and cuts the pathway that allows sperm cells to travel out of the testicles. It's a very effective method of birth control, that doesn't affect other things like sexual function. It's considered permanent though and it's a major decision.
Yeah that’s how it works… anything you do to make you happy is selfish…… Since it benefits you and if having a kid makes you happy that’s selfish. Doing selfish acts aren’t as bad as people make it out to be because everyone is selfish.
@@midnightblue1293 I was thinking more so it’s selfish because you can’t 100% guarantee success for your child. Also as a society we’re messed up and depending on the standard u fit life can either be easier or harder. I hope that makes sense lol
@@watermelon681 societies always messed up, if anything its the best its ever been at this current point in time. Imagine what would have happened to the human race if our ancestors refused to have children because the world was unfair lol. Godamn.
@@midnightblue1293 no disrespect to you or anyone with this opinion but that's not what selfish means. Selfish means only caring about yourself, even at other's expense. Selfish is driving fast to work and splashing a pedestrian because you're in a hurry. Selfish is eating all the cookies in the cookie jar even though you know other people might want one. Selfish is cheating. Selfish is stealing. But selfish is not caring about your happiness. If that's the case, then you're selfish by even clicking on this video, because you did it solely for your pleasure and entertainment. You're selfish for putting on nice clothes when going out. You're selfish for buying your favourite food. Selfish does not mean caring for one's happiness. If the word ever changes definition to mean that, then it's no longer a negative word. It's as neutral as saying someone is young or old.
@@mickaelabaker9422 Selfishness also means to do something that pleasures oneself. So everyone is selfish to a certain extent and that's not always a bad thing or going to end in negative outcomes.
I'm so sick of that "inherently selfish" parenting argument. Like, the definition of selfish is: lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. Having a child because you want to start a traditional family or because you love kids is not selfish, just like working hard to get a promotion or get into a dream university is not a selfish desire It's just a life goal or wish. That's it."I'd like to have kids someday." Boom, I have kids. And if there's nothing wrong with being selfish, then what's even your point? Like, seriously. 🙄
How you know she meant only straight cis men? Could have meant bisexual or pan sexual cis men as well, who knows with Twitter and Tik tonk, you gotta walk a fine line within a community so accepting and tolerant or you’ll be attacked
1:40 I would say it’s a Selfless decision. Not selfish. When you have a kid it’s like signing an imaginary contract that you will raise the child to the best of your ability and ensure your child has everything they need
Imo it’s not selfless or selfish, it’s literally just part of our nature as humans. Not everyone has to do it, but if you decide to do it then you’re literally just furthering the survival of our species, nothin more, nothin less, maybe it makes you happy as a bonus, but at the end of the day, it’s just a routine procedure of being alive for any organism.
right. childbirth is painful and you're giving life to the next generation of another man's dna. Where is the selfish? Unless you had a baby by mistake, there's nothing really selfish about it
