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What It's Like to Be Intersex 

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“It was like a bomb being dropped into our life.”
That’s Isaiah Ngwaru. He’s talking about the moment he and his wife, Betina, discovered their child, Tatenda, was intersex. Although they had been raising her as a boy, Tatenda had railed against the strict masculine norms in their hometown of Gutu, Zimbabwe. She wore high heels, dressed in skirts, and expressed a desire to change her gender. It wasn’t until she underwent an operation for a hernia, however, that Tatenda’s condition became medically salient to her parents-the surgeon found “something like an ovary” in the child’s body. “I just knew it. I felt it in my gut. I’m a girl,” says Tatenda in this short documentary, premiering on The Atlantic today. Read more: www.theatlanti...
"She's Not a Boy" was co-directed by Robert Tokanel and Yuhong Pang. It is part of The Atlantic Selects, an online showcase of short documentaries from independent creators, curated by The Atlantic.
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@raybuggy11
@raybuggy11 5 лет назад
These parents are REAL parents. They put all the cultural norms aside to love their child even when they didn't understand. Thats what its like to be a parent.
@tilabryant2948
@tilabryant2948 5 лет назад
Thoth Moses I knew it would be a dumb one 🙄
@revspikejonez
@revspikejonez 5 лет назад
@Thoth Moses well at least you immediately went to the UFO moonbat stupidity so nobody will listen to your moronic schizophrenic blathering.
@blackmermaid1
@blackmermaid1 5 лет назад
Thoth Moses LMAO what!??🤣🤣 You stupid
@CatchingPiecesOfMe
@CatchingPiecesOfMe 5 лет назад
Beautiful comment, that was exactly what i was thinking
@qnvirgo
@qnvirgo 5 лет назад
Although I doubt my child would but she could decide that she wants to cut all of her hair off today and tomorrow identify as male.... I'll love my boo period!
@dailyfashionupdatesfashion3989
Can we take a moment to appreciate dad like this men ,he is really amazing
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Amen! Thank you for watching
@MofolusadeSonaike
@MofolusadeSonaike 5 лет назад
A strong and loving father
@NoName-mm6gh
@NoName-mm6gh 4 года назад
@@tatendangwaru7521 hello tatenda
@commess1
@commess1 5 лет назад
By lumping "intersex" with the other group gives a wrong impression of the true nature of what it means.
@myahbeautiful8461
@myahbeautiful8461 5 лет назад
acay true
@YooTooLoB
@YooTooLoB 5 лет назад
Trans ppl are also intersex, they just happen to have developed sex characteristics apposite to their genetic sex in the brain at a later gestational time. They are both real and they are both valid.
@yeilyn24
@yeilyn24 5 лет назад
Daphne V No.
@ErinRaciell
@ErinRaciell 5 лет назад
Up to Interpretation actually yes. If you research the topic deeply there’s enough research that leads to such a conclusion. The intersex condition in fact can be expressed in different forms.
@fatnfrail
@fatnfrail 5 лет назад
@@YooTooLoB no. transgender people choose to change their gender.
@gee_emm
@gee_emm 5 лет назад
so moving to hear this story from an african perspective. kudos to her parents for being accepting in the face of so much phobia and ignorance. 🙏🏿🙌🏾
@jeronimogarcia8772
@jeronimogarcia8772 5 лет назад
amazing and loving parents, indeed.
@billyosullivan4514
@billyosullivan4514 5 лет назад
phobia is a fear
@Loyale1229
@Loyale1229 5 лет назад
Well.... She had ovaries... I think that's easier for people to accept over being trans...
@jauxro
@jauxro 5 лет назад
I'm actually surprised they didn't mention it in the title
@graciaxxl8808
@graciaxxl8808 5 лет назад
Loyale1229 no, I don’t think you realize regardless of that how amazing that is considering how VERY conservative African nations usually are and just many African Cultures in general. It’s just different. But I’m glad her parents took such good care of her!
@Housewarmin
@Housewarmin 5 лет назад
“I get annoyed when people talk to me about sex, and they don’t even know me” SAME GIRL!
@EnlightenedSavage
@EnlightenedSavage 5 лет назад
Sincerely Eccentric Tinder is a hook up app. If you don't want that then you are in the wrong place.
@BeanCraftsy
@BeanCraftsy 5 лет назад
@@EnlightenedSavage I was thinking the same thing watching the video. Why get an app basicly made for one night stands and shit when you don't want sex
@michalovesanime
@michalovesanime 5 лет назад
Well it wasn't MADE for hook ups it's used like that by many people but I've used tinder and there are, fortunately, also just people who are looking for other people to talk to
@tranquility9325
@tranquility9325 5 лет назад
That's how our society is. Ppl care a lot more about our genitals than us.
@MzOldsoul
@MzOldsoul 5 лет назад
Same
@clairelum276
@clairelum276 5 лет назад
"What am i gonna do with a 19 year old? Breast feed him to sleep!"
@zeebo8965
@zeebo8965 5 лет назад
OMG u just saved me typing the line of the century hahahaha that was funny!
@KeyKeyJournals
@KeyKeyJournals 5 лет назад
@@zeebo8965 i read this as soon as she said it😂
@ineffablemars
@ineffablemars 5 лет назад
I screamed!! LMFAO
@Starmadien2019
@Starmadien2019 5 лет назад
That comment made me laugh
@JustEndah
@JustEndah 5 лет назад
🤣🤣🤣
@wheatbread2002
@wheatbread2002 5 лет назад
I don't understand why she is placed in the transgender community. She isn't trans. She has both parts. It's not the same...
@user_abcxyzz
@user_abcxyzz 5 лет назад
She's a human being. That's all! That's what we all are!
@damecaprimm2726
@damecaprimm2726 5 лет назад
I think this condition only happens in biological women, I think they have an enlarged clit,and an imbalance of hormones compared to typical women but they are indeed women.
@Go4Noctis
@Go4Noctis 5 лет назад
@@damecaprimm2726 Incorrect there are plenty of intersexes that have a vagina but have testes instead of ovaries. There are also those born with a penis but ovaries like she was. Some present more female some present more male others present in between. Also, they may present with different chromosome pairs or more than 2 such as xxy.
@Go4Noctis
@Go4Noctis 5 лет назад
She may be placed there due to her transitioning with hormone treatment as she presents as a woman (and goes by female pronouns) while having been born intersex and assigned male at birth. There is also quite a bit of overlap with the trans and intersex individuals. Due to intersex not always displaying outwardly, it may not be apparent.
@damecaprimm2726
@damecaprimm2726 5 лет назад
@@Go4Noctis I don't think she was born in a hospital,and her parents mistook her as male but she is biologically a female and most likely has the ability to get pregnant. She didn't have a penis,her clitoral was enlarged and her hormones was not balanced causing her to have some male characteristics. My own hormones are somewhat off and it causes me to grow some hair on my chin which is a typical characteristic of a man but I am very much a woman and don't need a letter added to a group of people. All "intersect" people are actually real women, biological men don't have this condition.
@victoriagiro737
@victoriagiro737 5 лет назад
When she talked about her dad standing up to defend her was amazing and nearly made me cry. Edit: and when he took out his whole pension to make his baby safe. AMAZING FATHER
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you so much Victoria for watching!
@victoriagiro737
@victoriagiro737 5 лет назад
@@tatendangwaru7521 Congratulations on your journey! I hope things only get better for you and you find a community that loves and supports you. You deserve it. Keep your head up and don't get discouraged. I can't imagine going through all of the things you went through! You are such an amazing and strong woman!
@LuckyLucky-xp2sz
@LuckyLucky-xp2sz 5 лет назад
That is a real Dad. Wow
@darksarcasm4835
@darksarcasm4835 6 месяцев назад
Thank you Mom and Dad for raising this beautiful person!
@spacefacecadet
@spacefacecadet 5 лет назад
"what am I going to do with a nineteen year old, breastfeed him" sis I'm screaming
@miaa7097
@miaa7097 5 лет назад
🤣🤣🤣
@user_abcxyzz
@user_abcxyzz 5 лет назад
Y'all are immature. Why is that even funny.
@spacefacecadet
@spacefacecadet 5 лет назад
@@user_abcxyzz If you're not a 25+ year old woman who's into men, it probably isn't that funny to you? Because women don't tend to like men who are much younger. But men often do. Yeah. Sorry if you're a 19 y/o man I'm sure you're nice.
@marydavis3772
@marydavis3772 5 лет назад
@@spacefacecadet 😂😂😂
@TonneliGruetter
@TonneliGruetter 5 лет назад
Watching her cry is breaking my heart. I cant imagine that level of alienation. This video is really informative.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you so much for watching! Peace and Love to you
@IsraeliteApologetics3
@IsraeliteApologetics3 5 лет назад
INTERSEX IS NOT A CHOICE... YOU ARE BORN THAT WAY SO THEY ARE PERFECT THE WAY THEY ARE.
@tiannabusby8382
@tiannabusby8382 5 лет назад
Exactly. Its 100% biological. Thank you. 🙂
@user_abcxyzz
@user_abcxyzz 5 лет назад
No odys life is a choice. It's a gift.
@IsraeliteApologetics3
@IsraeliteApologetics3 5 лет назад
YOU MUST NOT KNOW ABOUT THE BIBLE THE TRUTH... WE WERE ALIVE BEFORE WE WERE BORN FROM OUR MOTHERS MATRIX... I'LL LET IT MARINATE....
@loveprevails7080
@loveprevails7080 5 лет назад
Melanated MeTV hermophrodites are born with two sex ...what she do,cut one?
@IsraeliteApologetics3
@IsraeliteApologetics3 5 лет назад
ACTUALLY THEY HAVE ORGANS OF BOTH INTERNALLY OR EXTERNALLY OR BORN WITHOUT THE NORMAL CLASSIFICATION OF MALE OR FEMALE.. THEY SHOULD BE AS TMH GOD CREATED. PERIOD.
@realascanb222
@realascanb222 5 лет назад
I dont really think LGBTQ is the right place for intersex but I can understand that they need a place to feel support. The intersex group is quite unique.
@keandrad8068
@keandrad8068 5 лет назад
As it is the only one that’s not a mental thing but physical and hormonal.. it’s the only one proven by biologu
@Go4Noctis
@Go4Noctis 5 лет назад
@@keandrad8068 Maybe if you are going by 4th-grade biology instead of medical consensus.
@Go4Noctis
@Go4Noctis 5 лет назад
This is partially due to the overlap of intersex and transgender people. The medical consensus is all of these are ingrown. Like being left versus right-handed.
@romccullough4094
@romccullough4094 5 лет назад
I think the T shouldn’t be apart of LGB because transgender has nothing to do with sexuality...
@realascanb222
@realascanb222 5 лет назад
@@romccullough4094 good point
@memorymaposa2532
@memorymaposa2532 4 года назад
Am a Zimbabwean and l can imagine what Tatenda and her parents went through. They are such amazing parents! Tatenda you are such an inspiration and your parents really stand out. Continue to shine and enlighten others!
@rembeadgc
@rembeadgc 5 лет назад
Kudos to the father for standing up for, defending and accepting his child. In any human community, especially African, it's not an easy thing for a man to do. As for Tatenda, being human is complicated enough for most people, add being intersex to that and I can only imagine what a challenge dealing with others can be.
@xosoxo391
@xosoxo391 5 лет назад
She has a beautiful soul and beautiful energy. I wanted to hug her throughout the whole thing... We all need to learn more about intersex people. It's important.
@litchtheshinigami8936
@litchtheshinigami8936 5 лет назад
Omaris Noel agreed they should give classes on it in schools.. thing is it’s so unknown to most people that these people will be looked at strangely before anything else because people will think it is wierd due to their unknowingness.. it’s sad if you ask me and we need more awareness on this subject so people who are intersex can feel more comfortable
@susanmuthoni1167
@susanmuthoni1167 5 лет назад
Yeah,she is beautiful inside out😍😘
@teetalksthereal
@teetalksthereal 5 лет назад
Before the God's arrived All Humans were intersex in the beginning. We begin as hermaphrodite women and then as a collective consciousness we separated into male and female. It's sad the truth is hidden because it would help humanity to overstand things a lot better.
@xosoxo391
@xosoxo391 5 лет назад
Tee Talks the Real fascinating! I gotta look into that.
@ArtistryRRene
@ArtistryRRene 5 лет назад
When she cried...broke my heart!!!❤❤❤ Praying for her and her continue love and success!!!
@MsLignumvitae
@MsLignumvitae 5 лет назад
Man that was a wounded cry 😩
@GrowingGoodHair
@GrowingGoodHair 3 года назад
@@MsLignumvitae yes it was😢
@afrobest3007
@afrobest3007 5 лет назад
I cried so much for this girl, especially when she said that she is missing her parents. Tatenda the Lord is your strength.
@edifon3926
@edifon3926 5 лет назад
Damn, I cried, it is touching to see such strong family bonds and support in the face of such odds
@llamaliammm
@llamaliammm 5 лет назад
That 19 yr old part had me cackling mad ☠😂
@pageofcontents7572
@pageofcontents7572 5 лет назад
Whuzzin Gamont yes🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@rpaul9578
@rpaul9578 5 лет назад
I wish I could give this woman a hug. She's so brave to come to the U.S. alone.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank youth love is felt and received!
@marcusbig3342
@marcusbig3342 5 лет назад
@@tatendangwaru7521 may you live long sister
@hikkrzminzzy5946
@hikkrzminzzy5946 5 лет назад
Rebekah Paul I don’t get why she is allowed in when she wasn’t suffering at all why don’t the USA let in other poor sick etc. It don’t make any sense she is not special in any kind she will just collect fundings from tax payers nothing more she will contribute from the society why select certain people to allow in the USA I just don’t think this is right at all 😡 why not let a straight women or a straight man who are born normal have no issues I don’t get this at all 😡
@aidabullah1040
@aidabullah1040 5 лет назад
@@hikkrzminzzy5946 you can never understand anything so as the people where she comes from, you heard it from the horses mouth the leader of Zimbabwe they don't tolerate such issue
@simphiwer8970
@simphiwer8970 5 лет назад
@@tatendangwaru7521 I never knew what an intersex is until I saw a video of an intersex boy in Nigeria on Twitter this year. I couldn't save or retweet the video because the boy was about 15 years old (minor) and he was caught having sex with an older guy. It was painful to see how he was mistreated. I'm referring to him as a he because he identify himself as a he. I'm thankful that you're educating us. I still don't know much but I'm open to learning more. Love you my sister.
@rashone2879
@rashone2879 5 лет назад
She's a total girl. Intersex is a genetic/biological reality, not a "gender dysphoria" issue.
@zol2415
@zol2415 5 лет назад
She is amazing. Her parents are great, they really are supportive and loving.
@shootingstarz1602
@shootingstarz1602 5 лет назад
Her parents are just amazing. It’s obvious that they had no help from their community. And they STILL chose their daughter. They truly give me hope. Their daughter has obviously inherited their strength and courage.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
True,Thank you for watching
@purple_engineer
@purple_engineer 5 лет назад
Omg I’m from Zimbabwe felt good to hear the language again
@NwanyiOma313
@NwanyiOma313 5 лет назад
Certain words are similar to Nigerians. I was hearing "Amara" in tye beginning song and she called her dad "Baba"
@MJISA5
@MJISA5 5 лет назад
Amazing parents don’t get enough credit, especially dads. I’m very proud and happy for this family. I wish them all the best, whether it’s here or in another life.
@misipar1934
@misipar1934 5 лет назад
As an Intersex person I find this so powerful .
@amthomas1542
@amthomas1542 5 лет назад
Randell Parham bless you and stay positive in this crazy world
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Peace,Strength and Love to you Randell.I will be thinking of you .Thank you for watching
@yamahdorbor8179
@yamahdorbor8179 5 лет назад
Intersex does not belong to the LGBTQ group, these are people born with both male and female sex organs, in most cases one organ is active then the other, the inactive one can be surgically removed, they didn’t choose to be intersex God made them like that, and Africans consider theme as special people made by God, they are loved and cared for.
@hikkrzminzzy5946
@hikkrzminzzy5946 5 лет назад
Randell Parham I bet you are a liar you are just making this comment to gain attention 😂
@Fluffi_Bunni
@Fluffi_Bunni 5 лет назад
@@hikkrzminzzy5946 I'm intersex as well. A lot of us try to find more people like ourselves so we can chat and feel at ease knowing more people like us. Stop being so negative
@catalinaplaza7909
@catalinaplaza7909 5 лет назад
People go throw such emotional trauma mostly because of lack of information, this lady is very brave and hope her and the community the best
@ebonimartin2849
@ebonimartin2849 5 лет назад
Beautiful Parents = Beautiful Daughter❤️
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Amen!
@ebonimartin2849
@ebonimartin2849 5 лет назад
Tatenda Ngwaru your story gave me so much strength! To fight for happiness and to tell your own truth than let others tell what they think is your truth. Sista keep telling your truth 💋
@danielastarbuck5307
@danielastarbuck5307 5 лет назад
When her mother starts crying i lost it ,God bless her parents💗
@504CreoleCrystal
@504CreoleCrystal 5 лет назад
When Mama started to cry....I lost it 😢☹️
@shuinmboneke4018
@shuinmboneke4018 5 лет назад
i knw this girl b4 she went out of Zim and how she faced discrimination and how people reacted to who she was....so glad she finally found herself and the society that accepts her for who she is...all the best
@Nekrochomikon8
@Nekrochomikon8 5 лет назад
Wow, her parents are so supportive.
@rainyrainold
@rainyrainold 5 лет назад
"what would I do with a 19 year old?! Breastfeed him to sleep?!" Hahaha 😂😂
@jauxro
@jauxro 5 лет назад
lmaooo that killed me
@nautibeach1144
@nautibeach1144 Год назад
She was born dealing with something very difficult than she didn’t ask for…BUT she was blessed with incredible AMAZING LOVING PARENTS !!!! Wow many blessings to you ❤️🙏🏻
@David-di5bo
@David-di5bo 5 лет назад
I (a straight married man) am surprised by your feeling of rejection by the LGBTQ community. My wife and I were both inspired by this story. We are also in NYC and would love to hear you speak one day.
@christaljonan8701
@christaljonan8701 5 лет назад
Alot of the LGBT can be discriminatory against their own. Alot of bisexual and trans people dont get accepted by their own community.
@siahyoung6335
@siahyoung6335 5 лет назад
When she said there's no love here... I said facts! I'm glade she said it because its all smoke
@prinxen1733
@prinxen1733 5 лет назад
*As a trans person, I can tell you there's a whole subset of "trans exclusionary radical feminists" that includes people both inside and outside of the LGBTQ community. They say the most terrible things about transgender and intersex people, claiming us predators among other things. They give feminists a bad name.
@tiannabusby8382
@tiannabusby8382 5 лет назад
There is alot ignorance everywhere, even in the LGBTQ+ community. It's sad but true. There is no excuse in a modern age where we carry the entire internet in our pockets to be so ignorant, but people still are.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you so much David for watching!
@chigasaki06
@chigasaki06 5 лет назад
She is a beautiful person. Ignorance must be eliminated. Intersex people should be left alone to decide who they are.
@damecaprimm2726
@damecaprimm2726 5 лет назад
This condition only happens in biological women
@malikastone
@malikastone 5 лет назад
@@damecaprimm2726 some intersex conditions happen in genetic males, such as AIS (partial or complete). XY but due to insensitivity to androgen, the fetus expresses physically as female. Internally there is a shallow vaginal canal, and no womb. There are also internal testes.
@damecaprimm2726
@damecaprimm2726 5 лет назад
@@malikastone thanks for that correction,I went and did further research because I wasn't sure, I wanted correct scientific information on this condition.
@malikastone
@malikastone 5 лет назад
@@damecaprimm2726 No worries, glad to be of help.
@Fluffi_Bunni
@Fluffi_Bunni 5 лет назад
@@damecaprimm2726 intersex only happens in women?
@milkambavaluckylucky7685
@milkambavaluckylucky7685 5 лет назад
All his pension??Your papa is the real one
@prettydiva595
@prettydiva595 5 лет назад
Most African parents might not say i love you verbally but their actions does!
@kimberleychitando6641
@kimberleychitando6641 5 лет назад
So proud of her parents, accepting who their child is. It’s nice to see that my country is changing bit by bit. 🇿🇼❤️
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you Kimberly for watching!
@reigenxal
@reigenxal 5 лет назад
I’m glad she landed in such a loving family. I believe everyone should be treated right no matter what. :’)
@_ukiyoe284
@_ukiyoe284 5 лет назад
love stories like this the world needs to change and be more open to things and understand that PEOPLE ARE BORN DIFFERENT!!!!!
@Erika-sj8lv
@Erika-sj8lv 5 лет назад
My heart broke for her when she started sobbing :(
@AshleyKenya
@AshleyKenya 5 лет назад
Awwww....when she said she is on her way to becoming the next Oprah...😍😍💓💓
@annamapiye987
@annamapiye987 5 лет назад
Just by her accent was able to figure that she’s Zimbabwean🤗🤗
@ms.Waldorf
@ms.Waldorf 5 лет назад
Anna Mapiye same and her name as well
@nobesuthumazithulelampofu
@nobesuthumazithulelampofu 5 лет назад
Same here
@shingiriromupanda7391
@shingiriromupanda7391 5 лет назад
Lol me too from the word go then waited to c the name n boom our sstr
@Lindamorena
@Lindamorena 5 лет назад
Beautiful intersexed woman. By the why I don't see why they label them as LGBTQ.
@jannecapelle_art
@jannecapelle_art 5 лет назад
i think its because they often dont fit the strict binary system most parts of the world have adapted. obviously every intersex person has to be allowed to have their own choice whether theyd want to be part of the lgbtq+ community or not, but i do understand the instinct to group them with other people that are discriminated against and often not understood by """the norm""" (cis people). but yeah as you saw, not even a lot of lgbtq people even know what the "I" stands for so, thats something that needs to be changed!
@Lindamorena
@Lindamorena 5 лет назад
@@jannecapelle_art isn't it LGBTQ( Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer)?🤔 Also as Cis women I love and accept them
@jannecapelle_art
@jannecapelle_art 5 лет назад
@@Lindamorena well, there are many acronyms including more people! for example, lgbtq+ (the plus being, well, everything else thats not straight/cis/in a binary gender system), theres lgbtqi (i being intersex), lgbtia (a being asexual and aromantic people who are often forgotten in the community), etc. so, i wouldnt depend so much on the acronyms used, since they change all the time anyway! theres another acronym, gsm, which means gender and sexual minority, which is a catch-all expression which I've seen used as well, and doesn't exclude specific identities. so yes, intersex ppl might not be part of lgbtq, even though they obviously can be, but if they could choose to be part of the gsm community, or the lgbtqia+ community! should be everyones individual choice 😊
@Lindamorena
@Lindamorena 5 лет назад
@@jannecapelle_art agreed friend 😊
@lutwamaeric4646
@lutwamaeric4646 5 лет назад
The LGBT is looking for authenticity so they clump themselves on genuine cases of sex challenges.Hers is another issue away from the gay case.
@candleee5898
@candleee5898 5 лет назад
Bless her and her family’s souls they are so beautiful and understanding. I wish we had more of that in the world.
@hedleybutler9706
@hedleybutler9706 5 лет назад
Tatenda and her mother are just beautiful.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you
@sunnyedaize1262
@sunnyedaize1262 5 лет назад
@@tatendangwaru7521 I was thinking the same. Your mommy is so pretty. I know it's not my business, but I don't fully understand why you're on hormones. Stay strong. I don't know you but, I can't wait for you to be able to go home. You are right about there being no love here. Imagine growing up in it being different with no family to shield you. Life is hard, but a strong family is a great blessing.
@darthchocolate5190
@darthchocolate5190 5 лет назад
A beautiful story! Her parents are amazing and Tatenda is a strong, intelligent woman. I wish her the best in life!
@oddsatisfactions3956
@oddsatisfactions3956 5 лет назад
The real crisis with being intersex is knowing regardless which side you choose to stand on, there are consequences, and there should not be consequences when you are the true symbol of "born this way". This world needs to be more in touch with sense of humanity than be consumed by myths, fear and ignorance.
@naturesfinest8205
@naturesfinest8205 5 лет назад
Absolutely Kemonna. ❤️
@anitafaith3995
@anitafaith3995 5 лет назад
@@naturesfinest8205 in her case she is way more of a woman. Her voice and shape confirm it.
@AudoricArt
@AudoricArt 5 лет назад
To save her they had to make the hard choice to help her leave. That's so sad. I really hope these communities change their ways.
@rekkahwilliams9525
@rekkahwilliams9525 5 лет назад
Kudos to the dad for standing up for his daughter. Kudos to both the parents for supporting her...
@Cstar508
@Cstar508 5 лет назад
Her parents are pure love!!
@pinkjt34
@pinkjt34 5 лет назад
This made me cry for her. Trying to understand what you are, then cope with it. You arent gay, you arent straight...its like then what are you... We need to learn more about intersex people. There really isnt a voice for them. This was a touching documentary. Thank you.
@Tina-jf3xf
@Tina-jf3xf 5 лет назад
Okay I need hers and her moms skin routine
@ayana188
@ayana188 5 лет назад
Cake soap.bleach
@everfluctuating
@everfluctuating 5 лет назад
tatenda is wearing makeup
@tabarafall1111
@tabarafall1111 5 лет назад
@@ayana188 cake ssoap doesn't give you such a glowing skin, genetics do! They are a lot of naturally light skin 100% African people like myself. Would never bleach in this life! I love my caramel complexion. And I can tell who is bleaching from a mile away, their skin has no glow! 🖤💖
@sibshub7234
@sibshub7234 5 лет назад
@@ayana188 don't act ignorant, black people come in different shades of complexions, not everyone bleaches their skin
@ayana188
@ayana188 5 лет назад
@@sibshub7234 them African women love that cake soap...we peep them fake complexions 👀
@justatexasgirl5583
@justatexasgirl5583 5 лет назад
I don’t think Intersexed fits into LGBT community but I can see she has compassion for their feelings and that is why she works in a program to help them.
@rainyrainold
@rainyrainold 5 лет назад
The only thing that I can think of is that it is a marginalized group of people who don't fit the "norm," and society is obsessed with their genetalia. I could see finding comfort in the transgender community because when she was born they labeled her as a boy, but never felt like one, and this is something trans people understand well. I think if her parents had decided to raise her as a girl, and put girl on her birth certificate she could have avoided so much pain, I'm sure they regret that every day.
@justatexasgirl5583
@justatexasgirl5583 5 лет назад
Ja Series Oh I agree..I really feel for the parents. Why is society so obsessed with genitalia and worse what every one is doing with it?
@helencontino6021
@helencontino6021 2 года назад
Why exclude. INclude!
@lovely-mk4rt
@lovely-mk4rt 5 лет назад
All the best to you dear 🕊 My wish for you , is that all human beings are educated to believe, that all human beings are free and equal and just. 🌺
@o0Avalon0o
@o0Avalon0o 5 лет назад
"What would I do with a 19 year old, breastfeed him?" Lol I love her
@keke09blue
@keke09blue 5 лет назад
The moment we stop trying to be accepted by others we truly have freedom. Know that no one is better then anyone else. Why reach for acceptance from other imperfect human beings they not God. And if God created us God did so in love. No one has the right to say they are superior to others. This is freedom. Those who judge others as unworthy have already judged themselves as unworthy.
@annebannan9817
@annebannan9817 5 лет назад
That’s a powerful message, but I do have something to add. Sometimes being accepted means being safe. Like, physically safe. What should you do then? Is it fair to strive for acceptance if you need it for your own safety?
@keke09blue
@keke09blue 5 лет назад
@@annebannan9817 I see what you mean, and in that case I'll say that as long as you put God and your own acceptance first then it is good. Just don't get so caught up in it that you forget that God loves and accepts you. I'm speaking from experience. I have got caught up where I thought God hated me. And that's what the enemy wants us to think. Because of we look at it deeper. There's plenty of people who hate others for all kinds of things not just our physical Anatomy or sexuality or genetics, some hate the littlest things and judge and can cause sad very bad things to others. If we were to change our self to meet their expectations then they our others find other things they don't like. I say God show these blind people that I'm not a threat show them that we are one that you live me as much as you love them. The truth is they are scared and they don't have to be just because I'm deffient doesn't mean that I'm bad. But how I see it is if you can see that they are scared just as much as you that they will hurt you because they don't understand. Because they're not in the same shoes. And they believe they are doing good by hating. But they really are not. I see things that I don't like but I don't let it bother me much I just say God knows best and will handle it how he/or she wants to. I have no right to tell anyone what to do with their life. I just would love people to get along better it would be beautiful. We have gotten better in many ways and I believe we will keep getting better and treat each other better. God made us all with love different colors sizes shapes and everything. But just remember that even if you want people's acceptance for safety it's OK but God accepts you already right now and you accept you to. Because you are worthy of love and acceptance.
@geofreymongare2544
@geofreymongare2544 3 года назад
Sometimes is easier said than done
@alicetheegreet
@alicetheegreet 11 месяцев назад
I watched the movie, "Every Body", which is about intersex people and their struggles in society, and it was really eye opening. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
@connie1wilson
@connie1wilson 5 лет назад
She is lucky her parents are educated and rational, or she would've been in such a bad place.
@pjtippett5510
@pjtippett5510 5 лет назад
Sunday is a hard day for her. So sad for this women. What a blessing her parents understood, and did what they could to keep her safe. Even sending her away pains them but the lines of communication and love remains. God Bess them.
@sunnyedaize1262
@sunnyedaize1262 5 лет назад
"There is no love in this country to be honest." I know. Imagine having to grow up in that void.
@MsPrettyStud
@MsPrettyStud 5 лет назад
That statement hit me too. SMH. and for someone from a different country to say it, it must be true, bases upon there experience.
@sunnyedaize1262
@sunnyedaize1262 5 лет назад
@@MsPrettyStud no love, no real sense of community, no family fortitude. The things I've witnessed and experienced in my lifetime have caused me to completely lose faith in people.
@jorgegomezmolina2367
@jorgegomezmolina2367 4 года назад
It has been so hard, I was born intersex too and the Dr cut me when I was seven. I am slowly recovering who I am.Thanks for crying with me! Much love, Mia 😇
@MmmKayHuuNay
@MmmKayHuuNay 5 лет назад
This made me cry. I pray for her.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you for the prayers!
@gloriaf6971
@gloriaf6971 2 года назад
What a great film. I am glad I found this on RU-vid. That African family is wonderful. The parents were so understanding and supportive of their intersex daughter, Tatenda. So proud of them and their daughter!!
@mudiakevweedika9685
@mudiakevweedika9685 5 лет назад
She should be thankful for her parents... They know they brought her to this world so they needed to protect.. God bless the good parents out there
@duermedespierto
@duermedespierto 5 лет назад
I hope she finds happiness and success....many blessings for her and her parents
@chasechase9059
@chasechase9059 5 лет назад
As a parent I would never pick for my child who they want to be. It's their choice!!!! I applaud her parents as well.
@takundag1640
@takundag1640 5 лет назад
Anyone from Zim who opened this video and heard her video knew straight away she was from Zim
@andsheobeyed
@andsheobeyed 5 лет назад
Takunda G ehe tiripo 😂
@karitasolives6435
@karitasolives6435 5 лет назад
Then I guess you can see the impact of negativity towards the people who are born different .
@mariamthethwa8952
@mariamthethwa8952 4 года назад
Is she Ndebele??
@diamondintheroughiamthelaw9682
This is in every culture under the Sun.
@Cherrypi393
@Cherrypi393 5 лет назад
As hard as her life as been and the troubles she’s faced, she’s very blessed to have the family she has. Her mom and dad are amazing. When her mom cried, I cried.
@LambentOrt
@LambentOrt 5 лет назад
Thank you for this video. It's very heartening to watch this slice of Tatenda's life, and hear what she and her family are going through. She is lovely, but wracked with anxieties and worries, and facing many challenges. I wish all the best for Tatenda, that she continues to grow in strength and find all the love, support and acceptance she needs in order to grow and become a fully realised individual.
@katiekane5247
@katiekane5247 5 лет назад
Sadly, there are bound to be comments from "Christians" denouncing any thing they don't understand. What a beautiful person she is. Outstanding storytelling yet again.
@laurengibson748
@laurengibson748 5 лет назад
Why is Christians in quotes? I can think of several different meanings but I wanted to know what you implied by it.
@katiekane5247
@katiekane5247 5 лет назад
@@laurengibson748 those you claim to love God but don't love those different than themselves.
@laurengibson748
@laurengibson748 5 лет назад
@@katiekane5247 I agree it's a bummer when people say they're a Christian then turn around and act like a hateful idiot.
@Neverseenstars
@Neverseenstars 5 лет назад
Havent seen any such comments.
@ij6841
@ij6841 5 лет назад
@@Neverseenstars I know right
@bookiea3918
@bookiea3918 5 лет назад
I rarely watch videos like this that give me such a range of emotions, I cried for them, smiled, surprised, hopeful, etc....I’m proud of their growth -especially the parents. I wish I could just give Tatenda a huge hug ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you so much Bookie for taking time to watch!
@Nickster7
@Nickster7 5 лет назад
Oh Tatenda, I feel for you my sister. I know things are tough, just know that there are people who love you and accept you the way you are. You are strong and beautiful! Sending you blessing and kindness all the way from South Africa.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Much love to you and Thank you for watching!
@2goblinsinatrenchcoat
@2goblinsinatrenchcoat 5 лет назад
"he's 19, what is he doing?" 😂 I feel that
@pantonpam8024
@pantonpam8024 5 лет назад
Lola Not a He but a SHE
@2goblinsinatrenchcoat
@2goblinsinatrenchcoat 5 лет назад
Panton Pam I was quoting HER, when SHE was scrolling thru tinder remarking at how many 19 year olds were on there and how she didn't wanna get with a 19 year old. Ya fuckin dicksicle.
@GrowingGoodHair
@GrowingGoodHair 3 года назад
Same here🤣😂
@emilynelson5985
@emilynelson5985 5 лет назад
That tile work in Zimbabwe it’s amazing
@D4NC3Rable
@D4NC3Rable 5 лет назад
This made me cry. I love the parents too, wow.
@silentnight3970
@silentnight3970 5 лет назад
People will claim to know and love "god" yet they haven't even begun to understand human nature.
@robertastfleur8358
@robertastfleur8358 5 лет назад
?
@silentnight3970
@silentnight3970 5 лет назад
Roberta, people think "god" is responsible for things that nature does. That's all!
@shelsparkle2691
@shelsparkle2691 5 лет назад
I’ve never heard a white woman be this real / educated/ transparent / understanding it’s rare
@chriswhite4999
@chriswhite4999 5 лет назад
So you don't know very many white women personally and are using this as a blanket statement.
@MirikaCOfficially
@MirikaCOfficially 5 лет назад
Intersex shouldn’t be confusing. She was literally BORN with male and female parts... like literally. It’s unlike being homosexual (because she isn’t)and that’s that or even trans. It’s literal that she is intersex because she biologically is. It’s unfair that they shove intersex ppl into a bigger group when they are their own group of ppl dealing with a set of issues that only they can comprehend fully as she knows she doesn’t belong in that bigger LGB group. Her situation is biological.
@revspikejonez
@revspikejonez 5 лет назад
You're an idiot.
@Go4Noctis
@Go4Noctis 5 лет назад
You are just wrong. There is also quite often and cross over of people who wish to transition and intersex. Intersex does not always display as strongly as it does in her. She also may be considered trans due to living as a woman, going by female pronouns, taking hormone treatment, and being assigned male at birth. All information in the medical and scientific field has both transgender and homosexuals as something you are born with and not a choice. If you know nothing about biology don't try to use it to qualify your nonsense.
@ellgould3113
@ellgould3113 5 лет назад
She was indeed born that way. She had no choice.
@Loafsandfishes
@Loafsandfishes 5 лет назад
Oh my god :( it breaks my heart seeing her cry. I wanna give her a hug
@gaillewis5472
@gaillewis5472 5 лет назад
This wasn't long enough. Please do a part two.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you for watching! Hopefully soon we will
@hahadarrie
@hahadarrie 5 лет назад
Two parents and their child ❤❤❤
@denisestampley116
@denisestampley116 5 лет назад
What the hell does intersex have to do with the LGBTQ community?
@matthias8122
@matthias8122 5 лет назад
D Jack Because they naturally do not conform to the gender binary.
@lorelange
@lorelange 5 лет назад
It's like the one drop rule. If you're not completly what is viewed as the norme, you are the other or others. Stupid indeed.
@tiannabusby8382
@tiannabusby8382 5 лет назад
LGBTQ+ community is for anyone whose gender or sex, and sexual or romantic attractions do not fit within the mainstream male and female heterosexual cisgendered concepts. There is strength in numbers so when multiple minorities combine the hope is that all their voices will be better heard. It doesn't always work perfect but that's the goal. LGBTQIA+ people are often labeled as mentally or physically "ill" just because they are different but being different does not mean there is anything wrong with them. It just means that we as a society need to adapt our world veiw so we can better include them because they may be a minority but they are still every bit as human.
@vamperkillzshy
@vamperkillzshy 5 лет назад
Exactly
@damecaprimm2726
@damecaprimm2726 5 лет назад
@@matthias8122 only biological women have this condition
@sninimoyo5320
@sninimoyo5320 5 лет назад
I hope you all the best Tatenda, love from a Zimbabwean 🇿🇼❤️
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you so much
@FlaymeGoddess21
@FlaymeGoddess21 5 лет назад
when she started crying tears welled up in my eyes :(
@johnanddenisemarsh7708
@johnanddenisemarsh7708 Год назад
Tatenda, i had an aunt who was intersex. She got married and had a happy life. She was a grwat cook! I am SOOOO proud of you! You are definitely a very sweet, tender and beautiful woman. I pray that God, who made you very special, will hold you close. May you feel His presence every single day. I have a son eith Aspergers syndrome. It is a special assignment to be born different but i have always believed that it is also an invitation to walk closely to God. I hope that you will read John 11. After i lost 2 babies it is the chapter in the Bible that helped me the most. Jesus knew he He was allowing His dear friends to go through a hard time. Even though He knew that in a few minutes He was going to things better He just stoppedand cried with them. Someday He will make all problems disappear but until then, i know that He hurts when we hurt. Much love to you, special lady! Denise Marsh
@misse7154
@misse7154 5 лет назад
What a beautiful, strong, and poised woman! Thank you for sharing her story. The fact that almost 2% faces of the world's population faces this condition, means that e everyone probably knows at least one or more people who are intersex, and probably doesn't even know that they are. It must be such as challenge, even in societies that are more accepting of different sexualities and orientations. This is clearly not a choice. My heart goes out to these people and hope that more awareness is raised so that societies around the world come to understand and accept intersex people.
@SweetyShanice96
@SweetyShanice96 5 лет назад
I really enjoyed this. I learned so much that I didn't know. She seems so kind and has a beautiful heart. I'm so happy that she has wonderful and supportive parents to be with her. God bless their beautiful souls. I wish them all so much happiness, love and peace.
@queenmeisha634
@queenmeisha634 5 лет назад
This is so emotional but be strong my dear. God is by ur side😍❤
@Creativeich
@Creativeich 5 лет назад
She is very blessed to have such amazing supportive loving parents! I do hope she gains a strong community of friends and find a partner to love her. I pray that this video may open many doors for Tatenda!
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Thank you so much for watching and your well wishes
@wowwee0
@wowwee0 5 лет назад
Excellent example of loving parents!! I wish all the best for them.
@artuselias
@artuselias 5 лет назад
How does it feel to be human?
@804smiles
@804smiles 4 года назад
I so love how her family loves & accepts her for whatever she is! They love her! I pray she finds the love of a man/woman or whoever long as it's real love! Blessings sis! Thank u for giving back 2 a community that wasnt always kind 2 u!
@sarahmichelle6385
@sarahmichelle6385 5 лет назад
If I have a daughter, I hope she will be as brave and kind as Tatenda.
@tatendangwaru7521
@tatendangwaru7521 5 лет назад
Oh Sarah thank you so much for your kind words
@blackrose8643
@blackrose8643 2 года назад
You and your parents are beautiful people Tatenda. I'm a Kenyan and so proud of you sis. From Sheffield, with lot's of love. 💖
@onetakesun694
@onetakesun694 5 лет назад
Man, God bless this family! 🙏🏾❤️
@peachesbarrett6693
@peachesbarrett6693 5 лет назад
God made you who you are.I can’t imagine the pain that you have gone through.Continue to be a voice for people like yourself....
@chriswhite4999
@chriswhite4999 5 лет назад
Thank you for this wonderful documentary! Also, Tatenda's mother is so beautiful! Her cheekbones and round face!
@duermedespierto
@duermedespierto 5 лет назад
I hope she finds happiness and success
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