What Makes INFPs Awesome 

I'm a 2D graphic artist right now (for video games), aiming to be a writer! 😊 In the past, I wanted to be a talk therapist, but soon realized the mental/emotional stress would probably be too much for me to handle. Then I'd wanted to get into Human Resources...until I learned that they work for the company and not the employees. (I thought I'd be trained to sort out discrepancies/ unfair treatment, that sort of thing!) So you're definitely onto something about wanting to make a difference! Marine biology sounds so amazing, I love oceans and sea life! I hope you do well! 🌊🐟💙

@@Lynn-ee9hq That's really interesting. I myself was very fascinated with the thought of being a personal therapist/counselor at one point in time, but I also concluded that my own emotional health would likely decline as a result. Currently I work at a restaurant, to challenge my social abilities, and put me in a position where I can serve people (customers and coworkers alike). Although, career-wise, I want to get involved with a graphic design team in the future.

4th-year medical student here, interested in pursuing psychiatry. Very much working on creative endeavors too, though, and would like that side-passion to become how I pay the bills :)

Hi, MD here :) I'll start my med residency (March 1st, 2020)... Radiation oncology!

I went to college for pharmacy tech after a life long desire to help people.. I worked for only 5 years in the field and the lack of care in healthcare broke me. 3 years at a methadone clinic was tiresome... 2 years at shoppers drug mart and thats the job that broke me. 191 patients i took care of making blisters packages. I would call them to check up when meds changed and when loved ones passed... Doing this i was reprimanded for making the others look bad.... Thats lame. The field is missing quality and compassion... I had a mental breakdown trying to change people that refuse to change. I am now on disability and i have started on a spiritual journey trying to find a place i belong.

Ah yes, the paralysis that comes with seeing all the different, exciting paths before you, unable to choose and stick to one. I feel you ❤️

Oh my gosh yesssss!

Omg same!!!!

Me too!!! It’s wonderful being an INFP but definitely debilitating at times

Well said. And debilitating in one respect because others can find it difficult to understand us--which baffles me.

Lesley Grant this is true, 100% growing up as a kid

Well put and true for me too

Ikr saaaame

yeah, just figured it out myself.. Should've seen your comment 10 years ago, am i rite??? heh, sorry

As an INFP. I'm always surprised there are others

That's how I feel - for instance, if I notice a connection between something I'm told and some random bit of knowledge kicking around in my noggin, I might find that exciting and want to share that excitement - I suppose someone else might see it as 'showing off', particularly if they have no interest in anything other than, oh, how to make a buck.

Oooh reading your comment and the ones below this comment help me so much! I am always afraid to show off, but my intentions is just to share the things I like/did/discovered, because I am also interested in other people sharing their stuff with me. But they do that less in general and than when I share something it is interpreted as show-off.. But now I know its just my personality type hahaha. i cant help it. Gives a feeling of acceptance I guess..

Yaaassss!!! I do not show off and dislike those who do! Eeek it crawls under my skin!

As an INFP-A, i pretty much stop thinking about if i'm showing off when i share stuff. I say what i wanna say & do what i wanna do when the situation feels right for it. If the other party or someone else thinks i'm showing off, too bad for them. The only thing i keep in mind when doing so is to not go overboard with it.

I think that's a common misconception about us. I've dealt with it a lot. I love sharing what I know or help people by telling them what I've read about their problem. But I have been conceived as a "know it all" so many times which makes me sad and think twice before speaking.

zeemaziz my room is relatively clean. Everything is where it needs to be 😂

I did the same thing haha

Messy bedroom but awesomely organized closet and very neat drawers!

I HAVE THE SAME THING. ROOM IS....NO COMMENT AND THE BOOKSHELF WOW Sorry for the capslock but i had to express!

omggg my room is such a mess but my shelves are so organized😭😭😭

The feeling is MUTUAL

One of my best friends is an ENFP, we connected since day 1. She has the outspoken nature I just don’t possess as an INFP, she makes me laugh so much!❤️

Yea it’s so true! I just discovered it after watching some video about reactions of different personalities and I immediately liked ENFPs reactions

I speak as a non-INFP when I say ENFPs are pretty effing chill.

hell yes!! they are so amazing!

Me 🤦🏽‍♀️

Holy fuck lol that's me too

Very well written!

We are same.

Me too!!!

Thank you. True

I've said this phrase more times than I can remember.

As a INTP this makes me really confused, could you try and explain what feelings are?. I have a theory, could it be that you have so many sensory inputs for feeling sensory that it is your main source of flow rather then anything els, hence it becomes reality rather then something that you can be emotional about. For example your 4th sensory is thinking whitch is extroverted is direct and blunt like feelings appear to be for me, is it because we have less sensory input for them but with much increased sensitivity to compensate?... My theory comes from receptor uptake from eating certain foods contaning different compounds like dopamine, seretonin, glutamine etc these factors also plays a big role how you operate in accordance with your bodily functions, stress levels, feeling relaxed, jittery, calm, etc.. i see a correlation.. sry this got messy fast, I find ISFP very interesting as you are pretty much the opposite to what i'am. Love it 😊

@@franklogrim8510 Gut feelings in short. We develop pretty much a gut feeling to just about everything around us & in us, & sometimes we could get very intense about it. Come to think of it, the feeling is actually more like thoughts that we have no words for, at least at the moment, instead of plain emotions. Everything might be disconnected pieces but somehow, we just kinda be able to tell that the connections are there. What we kinda find frustrating is that these thoughts are often subjective until thoroughly processed, & hell, they might not even appear logical!

Falcon Windblade omg, that was spot on - you described in words how I’ve felt my whole life and have had difficulty identifying the “feeling” or just a plain “knowing” how all the pieces connect and fit together and then on top of that have a very difficult time finding the words to articulate it. So a lot of times I end up sounding like an idiot to people - which I definitely am not, yet, I can understand why they would think that - because if I can’t describe or identify in words how I’m feeling or thinking to them, then they just don’t take me seriously. since their minds aren’t thinking like mine, they definitely don’t understand what’s going on in my head and kinda dismiss me which can be extremely frustrating especially when I KNOW I have a grasp on the situation - usually more so than them

agreed, i'm enxp but an open area of vivid blue is so wonderfully trippy. someplace up in the sky always felt like where my real home would be rather than in smog-concentrated new york city. it reminds me of the word hiraeth- homesickness for a place that may not even have existed

LOL is that a thing? I mean I do but I hadn’t thought of that

@@MrMoarpienao yeah its apparently a very INFP thing. If you go to the subreddit r/infp its all just pictures of the sky

As I relax in my hammock taking pictures of the moon. My nightly ritual that brings me so much happiness and peace before bed. Always late AF every single night when my family sleeps because it’s my time to reflect. I need “me time” and my family never questions my routine. Yet they sense when I’m off because I didn’t have the chance to “disconnect to reconnect”

So true

Great quote (I have all his books, organized on the same shelf, by height, near my pile of laundry). I find myself expressing a lot of emotional stuff in a monotone voice, because I know the listener will never really get how debilitating something actually is to me. Little things even. I recently got into an emotional tizzy over coffee grounds on the kitchen counter. There wasn't enough words to express the intensity inside. How could I say "This mess seems like a passive-aggressive attack, which I know may escalate into a fight, also this is showing a total lack of respect for me and my space and hurts my feelings, and I'm afraid to confront the situation because that reminds me of an abusive father figure and raises a lot of fearful feelings inside." How could I possibly say "This spilled coffee causes me intense fear, anxiety, hurts my feelings, and makes me feel disrespected," and ever expect that listener to really understand the turmoil inside? What I said instead of all that? "You have to go."

Wow that quote!!!!!!!

THIS IS TRUE. Grand thoughts and discoveries but they often feel mundane when shared to other people.

Wow, omg I've felt that with my soul.

That quote is so right. I’ve even tried to put my thoughts down in writing but it still doesn’t feel as magical when they were in my head. IMO, music and art are more magical manifestations than words.

Me too lol

.... messy bedroom by design

its a form of art... 😂

@@andresumampong2173 haha the swag thou😏😏that is my answer when my friends see my room

And here I am with messy room and untidy bookself

Omg! Same! I thought i was the only person that's being "weird"

You exposed me!! I tried playing the piano yesterday and I tried the hard parts immediately because I was so captivated. But later I realised I should've started with the easier parts lol.

I always believe I can do anything if I really try...like all things are possible.

Like we have to learn how to fully run before we even start crawling hahaha

When I'm excited about something I like to dive in the deep end & in the fun and interesting parts. I don't mind if I'm bad at it because I'm having fun and I have confidence that I can learn. I immerse and see the possibilities. Some people need patience until they learn and start having fun. I don't have patience for not having fun and that is how I learn. I have an insecure perfectionist side in me too for sure but I'm bold with my hobbies usually.

Extraverted intuition, you mean.

Omgggg i just had a break down crying go my friend about this.. Not understanding why i dont fit in in certain situations with certain ppl including family at times.. N it be so sad when i feel like that because then i get to wondering if im a good person or not only to understand that im a wonderful person kind giving n loving when i want to its just the people i choose to interact is not meant for me

But at the same time, we can talk to anyone (and I do mean anyone...from the beggar, to the theif, to the wealthy, any background, culture, religion, ANYONE) and make them feel comfortable talking to us. I feel like we don't fit in, but we take it all in.

Introverted feeling and extroverted sensing? That's ISFP. You guys have extroverted intuition.

We have introverted sensing

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same

My room is messy and my clothes are everywhere. But catch my art supplies arranged by function and and purpose lol

My whole house is messy. Except the kitchen, because a good life starts with health and good food.

She definitely was spot on about this! Certain aspects of my life are a mess and others are meticulously organized, alphabetized, color coded, evenly spaced, lined up, facing specific directions for particular reasons, etc. To others something I do may appear to be random but that is almost never the case. There is most certainly a method to my madness...like if I leave something around the house in an odd place it’s not because I’m lazy or forgot about it, it’s because I left it there on purpose for a specific reason that I will tend to/come back to/utilize at a future time in a purposeful, well thought out way.

And by color.. yes

I was wondering abt this for a while . And u gave the answer that i needed. Finding that people don't really care really makes u lose hope and stop claiming for changes

Literally !!

I don't like people whatsoever and have absolutely zero hope for humanity.

I do that by example rather than just talking, it's much more effective

Im sorry that you struggle like that. I know it’s hard. I hope that you find a place where you can really thrive and your strengths can blossom and be appreciated!

Hi I can fully relate to what you wrote down here. This what you wrote, it is present every day at my work. I'm a software engineer. Even trying to explain it to others are efforts in vain. What's more, because they don't understand, they can't formulate strategies to help you with it. Ultimately, we're expected to resolve these issues ourselves, even though they're consequences of natural personality, which is one of the hardest if not outright impossible to change. I'm a person who tried changing himself to fit the stereotype of unhealthy expectations. I recommend you TRY the same. I have not fully succeeded because the expectations are unsustainable, but some things got better. People at work even regarding their intelligence levels still can't really wrap their heads around it. As such, I'm a threat to them because I seem unpredictable. Enter, Political games. I keep having to disarm myself, which is how I got better. Instead of actually helping to resolve misunderstandings, I'm now only defusing the situation. I wish I could help like a normal human being, but they make it impossible to communicate. That's of course also a decrepit on my side. But that side is only natural! In personal life, I find being patient works best. Other people do want to listen, but they simply don't understand immediately. I realised its impossible to translate a natural point of view (due to personality) to another who has not yet acquired wisdom in that way of reasoning. You HAVE to tell them the fundamentals of your point of view first. You can't do that immediately, because they'll shut down due to information overload. We INFPs like to dream after all. That's just a romantic way of saying that we like to oversee the possibilities that come as a result of correlating our experiences. Fi + Ne. What I'm trying to get at is, I'm not sure why you wrote this, and I'm to tell you that you can resolve ALL these problems by gathering people who are patient enough to keep listening to you. That's also part on you! At some point they'll get it, and you can pick up speed when it comes to conversation. Its a two way street. You adapt yourself too. In my opinion, that is the healthiest way to approach it. I'm open to alternatives though.

I have often thought about this. Being an INFP is challenging already -- other types have a hard time understanding us, our motivations and reactions. But when you add gender into the mix, it takes it to a whole new level. I feel like a lot of INFP traits and behaviors are often viewed as feminine. Especially the traits I align with -- imaginative, sensitive, day-dreamy, etc. Being female myself, I fit into this "mold" and so I'm not rebuked (too many times at least). If I was a guy, I can only imagine the flack I'd get from everyone. I think it would crush my spirit. I feel for you and other male INFPs out there. Stay strong!

@@trumpetqueen963 thank you for understanding :)

@@msc8382 I fully understand what you are saying! I wrote that because I am feeling misunderstood everywhere in my life and feel my pontential is draining to the sewage.

YES

yeaaah, especially at midnight.

@@meriameoujamaa3497 why midnight?

Yes :)

@@kent3979 Cause that's when ppl are alone, they have nothing to do and no one bothers them?

That's such a great point, you guys are great at learning from the experiences and passing that on to the rest of us.

This comment made me wonder if I'm really an INFP lol....

@@hoogalaga I've heard that we can change as we go through life. We are fluid beings after all :)

It's great when it is not overwhelming :) It is certainly an adventure!

Coach Andy me with the mbti and enneagram world

😂😂😂 sounds about right!

yup! I run cold so I've got a butt ton of blankets and pillows and stuff and you can bet your ass they are always in they're respective places in order of size, colour and shape on my bed....you just...have to climb over the piles of clothes and half finished projects that are covering the entirety of my floor 24/7

100% bed = mess, dresser = mess, video games = zoned and faced and organized (in lil plastic baggies and some still sealed 😅) floor = mess, life = mess, inside of my car = immaculate..... 🤷🏼‍♂️ 🤣🤣🤣

Thomas Kim god Ikr! My friends keep cussing a friend of them but I still can’t bring myself on their side

Here's the thing. I don't hate the person, but what the person did.

I can't see myself hating anyone, even if I try to it doesn't feel right.

@@kibbywibby752 same

I’m an infp and I agree with what the general premise of your statement. Unfortunately there is one person I truly hate. Only one. Funny thing is when I let the few people I felt comfortable enough to tell them what he did, which were literally only 3 people ever. I would brag in a way like if this had happened to anyone else they would have serious problems. Little did I know, that, that person, my first stepdad, had in fact effected me greatly. The abuse was from ages 5 through 8. Spent those years moving from apartment to apartment with my mother and older sister. He physically and mentally destroyed all of us many many times. Anyways, my mom ended up marrying someone new, and I moved to upstate New York. Lived pretty normally. Little did I know, all the pain and struggles, anxiety, depression, near death experiences I went through later on in life were because of that one man. Didn’t realize that I had never moved on mentally, I had never moved on in a sense, from an 8 year old boy. I’m now 33. I have much discuss about what it’s like to be an infp and the very complicated struggle of have fi at the top of your stack. I’ve found that a common struggle is that literally every decision you make, both major and minor, are so hard to make because you feel every decision you make is a direct reflection on who you are at the core of your being lol.

How wonderful! My boyfriend (of 5 years) is an INFJ and im ENFP- we still are struggling to understand each other but type has helped us a lot to overcome the barriers. You are so right about the INFPs heart- probably some of the biggest out there!

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi IMHO, your INFJ boyfriend should intuit that he has the inate ability to crush your feelings with a look or a grunt or just failing to engage in seemingly useless conversations and be fully aware that any NFP will "mutter" their thoughts on the way to a solution. INFJ just "SOLVES" things in a snap & has a tendency to not wait for you to get there. I'd love to tell you about a conversation about INFJ & ENFP dynamics we (Mary McCauley [CAPT] and I had in a closed workshop with Dave Krantz [Consulting Psychologists Press] in 1979. It might shed some light on how to help your boyfriend soften his STYLE and save your feelings.

Wow! INFP heart melting, how lovely of you to see your wife that way!

That's really cool misunderstandings can be verydestructive and finding the openness with your partner and reaching the same page creates Harmony and more understanding on a deeper level and of course will increase satisfaction in your life many infps search for this in another

@@redhorse702 Hellooo!! What do you suggest for us ENFPs and INFPs in regards to this muttering, it's annoying for some more, I don't know how to say it, "structural" types aka my boss

At the very least, we INFPS are in general, more connected to the better side of the human condition, than we're to any religious dogma. While there'd no doubt be a lot among us who're religious as well, only a handful of us would've ever turned into obnoxious fanatics.

Falcon Windblade and I know what’s up ...Spot on, I agree. I’m an INFP and would say it’s like I’m magnetically aligned with a very strong moral code that really is unshakable

@@aja8505 same here. . I have strict moral code too

@@thekiwisqu33z34 All types of people, just as everything else in the universe actually, are liable to damage. unfortunately, INFPs are inherently very fragile beings & we know just how frail we actually are. any of us who turn out strong are tempered & hardened the hard way, & the broken ones among us would no doubt become monsters. it'd actually take a lot for INFPs to turn into self-serving turds, but unfortunately, 'a lot' is still relative & in today's society, pushing INFPs over the edge ain't all that difficult to do.

Sylvia Montejano mine aren’t. In fact I was surprised to realize anyone could feel ok with coming out on top if they didn’t more than deserve it. I hate to be on top. I want everything fair and equal for all.

Dread Peter As a INFP, I feel like you’re a great father to be with :’)

I kinda like your picture though 😅🤣

Dread Peter love the way you paint the picture of a heated debate with your daughter 😂. But I’m sure these heated discussions must have helped both of you view things differently

Dread Peter Infps are strong on their personal beliefs, which is probably why you guys have trouble getting along.

Yessss omgggg when we find people who agree the conversation can never end but when we dont agree.. All hell breaks loose 😭😭🤦

I do, yes. And have way too much of it myself as an ENFP

What sucks is people bring us down for having hope, but it's better than giving up. We seek to help the world and others around us, even if it's small.

Thats mixed for me. Sometimes I dont have hope and sometimes I do.

INFP here. I'm really ambivalent in my feelings towards humanity. My hope for the humanity is soooo low and I'm so tired of the darkness that live in all of us and what we are doing toward eo but I can't help to love in some way most of the people that I meet.

As an INFP, probably yes. However, that doesn't mean I'm not aware there is darkness and maliciousness. Even with that knowledge, though, I still am going to hope first and hope to not be proven wrong. It's certainly an odd balance to strike!

I relate a lot to your response. My sister and i have conversations just like that where she gets outraged quickly and im like, well, what if-

Yes! So much yes. "What if" are the two magic words. I feel it's so much easier for most people to just jump to conclusions and be satisfied with them but INFPs tend to question EvEryThiiNG 😂

It happened to me once I was with my group of friends and one of them told us about how most people in the subway started yelling and beating someone caught stealing (I live in a pretty dangerous country ?)). All of them were like: yeah, well done, I would have done the same if I were there, it's unforgivable, and I just shut down. I don't know if it's INFP's tendency to avoid conflict but I just told them like: we don't really know the context o circumstances? So... do we really have a base to judge them like that?

We know the world sucks, but we know that things could and should get better - this is my personal motto! Just because something sucks doesnt mean we have to just deal with it!!

Bound Mystic Love your comment, and as a fellow INFP I entirely agree!

Absolutely!! some of the best characters in fiction are male INFPs!!

Dont be embarrassed, the point of this video was to give you validation!!

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Thank you

it's okay same sometimes I come here after I had arguments or smthn and I just don't feel understood lol SO I GOTCHUUU

I'm also known for saying, this feels "slimy" or "just off" and a lot of people just don't seem to get it because they are flocking to it. When I really struggle is when I get that off feeling, yet really care about the person or situation. I can get into a terrible push/pull between wanting to save them, yet knowing I can't, and knowing I am idealizing and projecting, and I need to cut it out because its... slimy.

I really admire your attention to your feelings and ability to easily distinguish the differences between the feelings. I've noticed that INFPs are very strong, but they don't start unnecessary fights. They speak their mind about how they feel about things. It's helpful for people like me who tend to overlook my feelings. I wish INFPs were held in a higher light. But perceptions wax and wane, hopefully the perceptions will only morph into a better one.

Thank you for writing this, for i've found yet another INFP-A brother. Btw, i'm kinda able to relate to people thinking we're T instead of F, but that actually is because our WEAKEST & least used function, the Te, is more developed than that of the majority of our own out there, who're INFP-Ts. While that's not necessarily to say that we're better than them, we do tend to be more firm & tend to roll with the shit life throws at us better.

I don't feel like I judge...though I probably do...I feel its more assessing than judging

Same

S A M E

Same

Me too. Always glad to read comments like this. Even if we're alone, in some weird way we're alone together.

@@dreamwriter8423 alone together is beautiful. Btw thank you for your kind reply. Peace to you.

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Same 😂🤣

I recently watched 'the woman in the window' and was having a conversation with my brother about whether the mother was evil or not (don't want to spoil anything), but I said I don't think she was evil, she went through trauma and her intent was not to kill or hurt, and he gave me that look of 'I am a psychopath' for thinking this, and this happens to me so may time that I have withdrawn within myself, becoming even more introverted than I was because I know I am not crazy, but then I questioned myself because people never understood me. I am so happy to have finally found my INFP community.

@@derinbero4469 i feel you

Oh my, that's so me. I keep attracting ENFPs into my life and I love them but sometimes it just gets too much for my introvert batteries xD

Yep. In times where we're drained, we pretty much need little more than hugs from them... & for them to just shut up for a bit…

Yes, and over a lifetime these details and understandings develop into a complex intuitive ability. I have developed a daily complex state of profound synchronicity, and an awareness of the synchronistic mathematical fabric that is the source of our reality. I have to remember that not everyone perceives, feels, intuits as an INFP. Others get freaked out.

carefulcarpenter Beautiful 💗 I understand the intuitive path, at this point and the synchronistic seeming miracles, but you are into mathematics? My dad is a physicist, INTJ, and his understanding of the unlikely statistical probability of everything including our existence of now is, blows me away. INFPs are capable of any academia, from what I realized about myself Are you a mathematician? We get super smart as we get older I think because our Ne never stops exploring... And we can become acutely intuitive in reading people by the means of that I described above, but it has taken me years. I was very oblivious and naive when I was younger 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

@@orchidsrising7910 💗 I give love to you in return--- that love that people have for friends, customers and kindred spirits (philia) . I also have named a complex love: Marerophilia. I will likely never write a book about either *synchronistic mathematics* nor *Marerophilia.* The human mind of the collective is just not there, yet. I've attempted to attract a curiousity towards these topics over the past 20 years with little luck. Too complex for the 99.9% apparently. I was a Math major in college. I moved on after to pursue a creative life as a self-employed designer/craftsman before globalization. In the first three decades I worked an excessive number of hours per year. The past decade I can barely pay the bills. A designer depends on the upper 20% having an imagination and the vision to seek authentic, qualified help to create their dream. With enough time on their hands a creative type can go beyond the confines of conventional perception. The past 20 years have granted me plenty of opportunity to write, discover, research, and write more. I find absolutely no audience for authentic research and advanced insight regarding synchronicity, synchronistic mathematics, or Marerophia. My favorite synchronicity was a few years ago at the local coffeehouse. An artist had a show in progress on the walls of this beloved hangout. I loved a piece and I like to support art, so I bought it. It was a few months after that I recognized the synchronistic nature of the show. About 7 years earlier I had mentioned about *marerophilia* in the shop, and had written extensively on a message board that others from our area had joined. The name of the artist was Julie *Marero.* 💗

I agree that this happens. Its just unfortunate you don't get to use it to help others up until you've reached a certain age, have a certain degree or a deeper level of a connection with the person. Where your own understanding improves over time, other people's understanding of the emotions will not. Only 1.5% (male) and 2.5% (female) of the population naturally are INFP. That means over 96% will stay somewhat behind in this understanding. Can you imagine how lonely it would feel if there's nobody to share your insights with? That even if you try to help, people don't understand you due to this mismatch.

@@msc8382 The problem is: people cannot formulate questions, although are certain they know more than they actually do. This limits cognitive development I feel, because *the ability to question* is an INFP's strength. Example of synchronistic mathematics I shared with my wide last night. 2:27:33.4083351718 (hours/minutes/seconds) on December 1, our anniversary. = Day 334.10247 = 2.47 hours into December 1 We were married 247 days after my birthday. = .91534923291952 I was 26.6767231507 at the beginning of December 1, the year we were married. What is my birthday?

That would really depend. They would likely analyze exactly as you said, but what they decide as to whether they are victims or not would really depend on the INFP and the situation.

Yeah, I have been abused/wronged many times in my life, but I have never hated anyone because of it. I tend to see the good side/humanity in someone, despite them not showing it to me. I don't think I could ever truly Hate a person and Never forgive what they did, unless it was something extremely bad and had no possible explanation for doing so.

@m. I've been in codependent (optomistic) relationships and I did the same - basically just trying to understand WHY they behaved that way (which I found easy to understand). Then help them. But I think the negative aspect for that for me was that I've never been good at recognising the point when that person no longer wanted to be helped. I did feel a victim when things went badly, but that's because of my own childhood traumas which I hadn't quite resolved - so I had a victim mentality towards life stressors in general. I recognised this in me as well as my partner, so despite being upset I also would quickly go back to trying to make it better for us by solving the underlying trauma for us both, staying in relationships that ended up being unhealthy. I hear that staying in bad relationships too long tends to be an infp trait, and for me, that's probably one big reason why.

I am a victim of abuse so I can help with the question

I still care for people who have hurt me immensely, I don't know why but I do. I struggle with why I do because I don't know. I always tried to see why would they do this or that, was it my fault or theirs. It very hard to see the toxicity especially in the beginning. I've grown to see and understand what they did wrong or right but sometimes I fall back, and I go under the "hold" they have on me.

We are twinsies! I am also INFP, HSP and Pisces 🤗

That makes 3 of us. INFP, HSP and pisces. Love to both of you. 🌺💜

Forth xx I've always known I was sensitive but I'm only just realising just how much my emotions fluctuate depending on what I'm exposed to :) But on the upside, I think it also amplifies our ability to see patterns. I often find myself knowing what the social consequence of a decision will be, but don't realise that other people aren't seeing the same patterns that I can see - if I voice concerns, others think I sound really left-field; it's only by waiting it out (at least a few months) that people finally process and arrive at the same thing, by which time they've forgotten that I already said that months ago *gahhh* lol.

Fifth here!

@@lightawake omg I love that you are the same way! I've had those thoughts in basically every situation, and I've come to rely on my own instincts now. 😄

I agree too. As I have gotten older I have sadly realised my parents never viewed me as an individual and my feelings were always denied in place of putting on appearances. I always told myself I was loved as a child because the reality was too painful to process at that age, but the gut feeling something was wrong never went away. I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and eventually had emergency surgery to remove my colon. I have learned to trust my feelings by now. Sorry to hijack but I really identified with what you wrote.

HELL YEAH also I find it interesting too tbh because usually there's always a reason that people end up a certitain way! and that is to say I also agree with the simple greetings and light convos they make day wholesome too!

You mean unempathetic..?

Everything else is just a mess

lol me too!

Same here. And, really, I don't think I lose or find things at a much different rate than 'organized' people - and I'm more likely to have held on to something that proves to be needed later on. Might take me awhile to find it, though .....

Its really hard to tell between infp and intp a lot of times! And usually that happens when more developed and balanced. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-nNd7o5C8I_k.html this video may help!

Don't fret it. We INFPs are all about nuance & minor differences after alk lol.

I like to share - if the sharing is not appreciated, I suppose it looks like 'showing off'. For instance, if you want to share a laugh, and tell a joke, that might be called 'showing off' or 'attention seeking' by someone who thought the joke wasn't funny ....

I just watched your video about INTPs and there you said something about watching many episodes of a documentary... I dont know if I understood you right, but was the docu about the INTP/INFP topic? If yes, would be nice if you could tell me the title of it, cause I was just searching the web, but didnt find something... Thanks in advance 😉

I think the documentary I was talking about was called the "History of Maths" -- it's not really about MBTI. But I have thought about going in depth about the differences between INFP and INTP -- my friend Harry at Cognitive Personality did a video on that: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-nNd7o5C8I_k.html

@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Thanks, have to check it out 😉 Yes that would be also interesting. Im really fascinated by this topic since I got to know about this types today in the morning. Its cause it really fits so precise, and not like with some horoscope, where you read something and think "Sounds good, could fit for me..." Noo, this really describes really ME, in all my deepness... 😋 I figured out, Im not 100% INFP, I also have this logical part from INTP and also a bit ENFP, cause I also can be a wild when I have mood to... 😛 But basically (I would say 91.2%) Im a true INFP... 😌 Which type are you if I may ask? ☺️

Ahh and if you want to go in deep in this topic, and need some authentic info about it, then feel free to ask... You know, its the authentic shit what you get from an INFP and you know too, that we like to help... 😌😋😉

yeah, i'm an ENFP and I feel you, I often feel like an INFP or an ENTP as well -- it's part of getting to know yourself. You realize you aren't always introverted, aren't always a feeler, etc. and yes, MBTI really gets to the heart of things where it feels like astrology just is forcing some archetypes upon us that we will be reminded of forever.

That means so much, im so glad i kept your interest!!

Omg thats the nicest compliment, i love her! INFPs are awesome because they never have solid judgements. They understand the subtleties and grayness of things

I used to have my books neatly arranged from tallest to shortest - which is about the stupidest way imaginable to organize books, but ... you can't say they weren't organized! And, yes, they were the only thing organized in my entire life.

😂 well, not vegan so infp is out 😂😂

You're probably hungry - go down to your local soup kitchen, then get back to us.

Don‘t get it twisted, INFPs love steak!

Im glad i did infps justice!!

TAYLOR REED hehehehe thanks

Your super cute btw

Ne is da bomb, but so is Fi!

Yeah it's all pretty "fun"... Hope you're doing alright girl, and glad to see you sticking with it all - pumping out content! :)