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I am a 40 year old grown ass man with a wife and kids. Alison has helped ME understand me in relation to women more than anyone. Every time she says something I’m like “heyyy, I do that.” Then she tells me why I do it, and then I’m like “she’s right 🤨” haha… amazing video from an amazing person. Thank you. 🙏🏼
@@jeffreybrown3469 how would you encourage men to read that? Which of her videos or books really got you thinking? I have men around me who take it as a joke and I wonder if I’m presenting it wrong … I need help please 😄
I just saw this video for the first time in my YT travels last night. I didn’t realize I needed these messages-after listening twice through and starting the Understanding Women audio book - I feel a kind of tenderness and admiration and deep awe for the man in my life. I want to honor him and provide safety in our connection and I didn’t realize the mistakes I was making. I want to understand myself better and be better for me and for him. Thank you!
As a irish energy healer I find that my sex the masculine fear at times the feminine within them, thankfully over many years I have be blessed to balance out the two divine aspects of my being, The male in general is working on this transition of the male image,we are lost in the process of change, However in time I feel when we embrace this dynamic change we will rise and heal. I am blessed to have met my divine counterpart five years ago.it was beyond all previous experience, a coming home to my equal. Have not seen her since then a world apart,however I still honour this connection,and honour the inner warrior and feminine within myself, She knocked me off my horse with a white feather !
So beautiful. Alison is doing such a great service for healing relationships. I tapped out of the twin flame community because the focus seems to be so much on the other person. The true work is done within. I got so much new insight from this discussion. Thank you both for sharing. 🙏🏼 listening for the second time.
CharChar I agree- I find only K-moon and a few other readers such as Queen of Light 1111 really focus on the inner work, as opposed to the obsession on the other person. The rest can lead to attachment and obsession ...
OMG...what she says at 29:00 made me cry...because I discarded it until now...goes to show how important the lens through which we view things is...thanks you for this Gem and for sharing it with us Kay!
We must be galacticly related our voices have a signature resonance. Listen to the Healing Song of Union to feel the vibration ✨🙏✨ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WHkBW_tItRA.html
I love these collaborations, K-Moon... you are helping me expand my world as I come out of a 14 years relationship (2 years ago) and navigate the waters with my DM... I wish I had known this while I was married to my ex-husband, but our time together had to come to an end. I am starting to learn you need to let men be who they are. Most of it it’s not about us...
This is valuable & validating info. Seems important to include some partnerships are navigating added issues like chemical dependency, sexual addictions, neglectful isolating depression, abusive anger/neglect from childhood traumas, or never given communication tools, along with growing up in some community's without healthy modles to fill in for the corruption of broken homes & family's where then guys & gals struggle stuck in the low behaviors more & more accepted in society that offers no accountability, or support to be guided out of those issues, especially when most of these folks are usually held overwhelmed/lost in low income/poverty & unable to afford 100's of dollars to access this knowledge/help. . .
We are all responsible for our own healing. The more we commit to our own healing and self love, the more we improve who we attract. Who we attract tells us where we are and who we are being. People with traumatic childhoods usually are codependent.
The Personal Development School RU-vid channel is incredible! Has helped more than multiple therapists. She really focuses on attachment styles and trauma, how to heal the issues from those. So empowering and life changing. Therapy in a Nutshell is also a great channel.
I can say with absolute certainty that this has changed my life forever. This is mission here on earth... toxic masculinity and this exact topic. The fire inside of me is a raging inferno right now! Thank you so very much ladies!!
After 3 years I still come back to this video it’s so beautiful and I continue to learn more and more as time goes on ❤thank you so much for this video
Oops sent that to early wanted to say it's a true joy that she is in the world and she really contributes I have shared much of my knowledge I've gained from her with those around me keep going
I've just finished listening to the video and am blown away by the information wow.. Thanks kmoon your videos have really helped me understand a lot about men, relationships and my twin flame journey, you really are a blessing.
Ghosting, we use to call that head for the bunkers till the barrage is over. Took me years, as a male, to learn to be the rock in the stream and let the water of the storm to go around me.
Have you learned the skill of validation, to de-escalate and help the other party feel seen, heard? Validation is one of the most powerful, connecting tools, that men can learn to do. Instead of “fixing”, validating holds “space” for the other persons feelings/experience. In that, they feel incredibly loved, as the gift of having another bear witness to the pain/feeling, is hugely relieving and can feel like a safe harbor in the storm...the internal storm that’s coming out!
@@Alphacentauri819 I believe you missed the point. When you walk into a situation where your spouse is screaming at the top of her lungs at you, there is no validation possible at that point. Listening to screaming and accusations is not validation, you can only let the storm abate while not taking it personally. Once it abates, then you can start to talk.
@@warrensmith2902 I didn’t miss the point. It wasn’t communicated clearly in the first comment. Barrage can mean different things to different people. But yes, if you walk in blindly...say from work & all you have greet you is yelling, I get it. I also think that if you state your needs and boundaries, regarding that kind of behavior...you can advocate for yourself and what works best for you. We always are co-creators in our relationships. Many of the men I’ve worked with, will call a few complaints a barrage. Often times too, they missed the key points they could’ve validated earlier, before something turned into yelling. Btw, key to note...anything hysterical is historical. Meaning if someone is elevated, a core wound likely has been hit. If you know your partners attachment style, so much can be attended to differently. As well as your own. Ideally both parties will be healing their core wounds and be sensitive to one another’s. Empowering and transformative. Less yelling, less triggering, more understanding and better connections.
Wowie, an amazing interview! I’ve only come across you this past week K. and holy-moley, you’re the gift that just keeps giving;0). Thank you and great appreciation to Alison! The information was nothing short of divine:) xo
I'm thinking this is happening to me now with my boyfriend. He's under stress and wants space apart to think. He's been in continual contact with his GF over the past 2 years and I've told him how it hurts me. So I'm thinking he doesn't feel he can make me happy and doing a soft-step out of the relationship.
One guy that I truly loved told me he cared about me....I wasn’t sure what it meant, so I asked him what it meant to him....he told me he was going to answer me later because he was busy and it’s been almost two months since i haven’t heard from him 🤷🏻♀️ it doesn’t feel like he cares about my feelings lol
Robert Dowling he came back after couple of months with the same bs and I asked him to be honest and respect me if he wanted to be in my life, he disappeared again 😅🤷🏻♀️ it shows me that I am blessed because he can’t be honest and respect me. So he removed himself from my life
@@polyanamartinez ok thanks for update, next soul who comes into your heart will be a better version one who honours you .because you honour yourself first and foremost, No need to repeat the lesson hey ! Be well
I'MHO when misbehaving is being discussed we need to know what has triggered that behavior. Sometimes we need to internally introspect how did this come across to the other and perhaps it is just an instance of inappropriate communication with inappropriate tone which triggered the wrong response.. Miscommunication often causes misunderstanding. Tks Alison for your valuable insights.🙏
What about when they say "they care about you" butttttt... he lacks financial security and professional stability making them unable to provide safety and security?? A lot of men out there may care for a woman buttttt...can only go to a certain level in the relationship.
Leave those men! 😏😒 Period! That shitty hope does you nothin.. He has to be in his masculine energy of providing and protection to be the Man for you.. Please Run🙏🏻😒just RUN!! 🏃💨🏃💨 I wish someone had drilled this in my head earlier but anyway... I learnt my lesson and I'm happy now😌🌟💕🤗
If they Wish wiomen knew, ir's and EASY fix: SPEAK.... or continue waiting for the fairies to Tell her. Sorry, but I still can't find excuses for Not JUST Say So. There are little kids who would Laugh at such Nonsense TOO.
The way you treat yourself will be the way others treat you. To even ask this question, means you don’t value yourself enough. Therefore you don’t have the boundary to say “this is absolutely inappropriate, i deserve better”...and instead are unsure, and asking the question here. I imagine you have an insecure attachment style, with core wounds that lead you to have unhealthy internal dialogue...and tolerate behavior from others that support that unhealthy internal dialogue. The more we love and respect ourselves, the more we attract that. The Personal Development School is amazing for healing attachment trauma. Attachment trauma is from childhood...if we don’t heal that, we will keep gravitating towards unhealthy relationships.
@@Alphacentauri819 in my case, we were bestfriends till he found a gf. We never were intimate because I cared about myself more, even if I secretly loves him. I stepped back, even from being bestfriends because I was already hurting. It has been 8 months now. He is dying to contact me but I am not contacting him. I have more self restraint. But my question is, why is he in denial? Is it because society dictates we should not be together? (age wise, money wise)
I like men so much better than women, because I'm more sympatico with the way men think. For me emotion is overrated. I find women put too much value in their feelings which tends to be fickle, neverending, and based on nothing concrete. I don't put much stock in my emotions just feel them. I place no value in my emotions other than as a means to decompress. I don't ask for validation of my feelings from other women or men.
@@theresag1969 your Myers Briggs is probably different from some of the women you’ve met might be an ISP or an ITP or one of the thinking personalities that are usually heavily masculine but men and women can be either you may not resonate with someone that’s an EFP or an INF for example in the Myers Briggsare usually the artist and the Travelers. These are the big picture thinkers not as concrete. Everyone has their value.
