As a Chinese American, i can relate. I grew up watching Chinese dramas and Anime, and thought that Asian males were masculine and can be attractive. Asian Men and Women were portrayed with all sorts of professions and roles. But in American Media, the only time an Asian Male was considered masculine was the handful of emotionless martial artists that didn't have a romantic interest.
The funny thing about Hollywood is that the first male sex symbol was a Japanese man, Sessue Hayakawa. The sentiment towards Asians precipitously declined at the dawn of WWII, a phenomenon known as the "Yellow Peril" when the Japanese Empire attacked Pearl Harbor. The industry hasn't really made much progress on this front apart from Bruce Lee's short-lived fame in the '70s.
Never sacrifice your morals or tolerate disrespect from anyone you date. Being single is not bad. Trust me. You have to be honest with who you are and who is a fit for you. There is no reason to be desperate. Be aware of your geography, and the predominant culture. It makes a huge difference. Stay away from people and family who try to pressure you to fit a square peg in a round hole and make you carry the shame. Let go of shame, humble yourself to truth, and find a direction that is positive that is not reliant on outside validation. Get inside your body and ask how connected is your brain and your body? Do you have a grip on your eyes? Where does your consciousness and feeling stem from in your body and is there and disconnect between that and your head? Are you twisted inside?
almost 5'9 ABC born and raised Ohio. Bench 320, successful, only dated blondes and was very picky until I had my son that's half white. With success, getting good at couples dancing, and opening my self up to other color hair has got me alot more white women. 55 single and enjoying the Chad lifestyle. Looking young for my age I'm still scoring 21 to 30 year olds, get alot of pissed older white women at me that I won't date sadly. All can say to fellow brothers work on you self, be confident to move on to the next like nothing happen.
I'm only 5'8" and height was never my issue with dating. I've had taller women tap me on the shoulder when I'm at a club or some event. At the time, I didn't know what that gesture meant since I've never experienced it growing up in the high school and college so I just look to find who did it then move on. A tall girl that I formally worked with once expressed her feelings for me even though she was about 6'2". She thought I wasn't into her because of our height difference when, for me, it was her attitude. I've dated women my height or slightly shorter even though I have always wanted to date one that's 5'4" or shorter but it hardly happens. Here's something to know about Asian Men for the non-Asian Women: A great number of us are foodies. We grow up exposed to western (American) food, but our parents also provide us the traditional Asian food. As we get older starting with college, we meet other Asians and they introduce us to their traditional food thus the result of our diversified food portfolio . So if Panda Express is your only source of Asian food, be prepared to be exposed to some of the greatest Asian food out there. When it comes to paying for meals, it's never dutch. It's more we cover for lunch/dinner, you cover the dessert/snack or the movie later etc. We don't like public transportation. As much as we like Uber etc, we will drive and fight for parking if we have to, lol. It amazes us when Non-Asian women speak an Asian language. We like you for you so don't dye your hair black or try to look Asian. Like many westerners or just people in general around the world we enjoy outdoor and indoor activities. There's more but that is all I can think of for now. Just a reminder to keep an open mind and that not all Asian males can relate to what I listed.
Every man considered short will fight the same prejudices. 5'7" oddly like you in the Bay Area and 90% of the women I date are Asian, mostly dancing Argentine Tango.
I am of Japanese origin and am 5'7". I feel that height does not work in my favour, White women preferred 6 foot tall men. My first girlfriend was 5'8" and so I developed a preference for taller women. At the risk of appearing vulgar, I feel that they're downplaying the elephant in the room. On more than one occasion before the first date the girls' friends or sister would mention something about the perceived "size" of Asian men. Never did I have difficulty in meeting White girls and being...uh...friend zoned (Canada was a White country when I reached dating age so to this day I only dated White girls/women).
@@12567NoYouCannot why does white so obsessed with asians so that they only recruiting shortest ugliest Asians on media and spread anti china media 24/7, I don't understand And why does lots of older white men are obsessed with young asians girl so much, I don't understand
I can relate but as an asian Man and who follows the philosophy of Musashi. A warriors thinks lightly of themselves but deeply of the world I do not follow what society demands of me. But follow what my code is teaching me. I just don't waste my time to those who will judge based on what they see.
Here’s my take, first off I’m in my 60s and so I’m passed those dating pains. I lived in both east and west coast. Mostly grew up in the 1970s eastcoast. Being Asian and dating in those days were difficult. There’s no online dating that you can checkout first what she like. The only choice is to get the courage and go up to her and talk. Easily said than done when it just not normal to see a white girl with an Asian guy. The mainstream media, Vietnam war hurt our reputation. How would it help when tv shows like Happy Days, the only Asian was a short old cook, or in All in the Family when Archie and Mike talked to reverend Chung, funny skit have them saying is that true “reverend Ching?”, “Chang”, “Chung”. Anyway, in those days from my teen to late 20s I hanged out with school friends in the band. They are all long haired white guys. So during practice and gigs they have all their girlfriends and their pretty groupie girls. They were nice to me but then there was still that stigma than Asian guys are not boyfriend quality especially for white women. I’m 5’7” and was in love with one of the pretty 5’3” blonde chick but again it was not normal for someone like me to be seen dating a white girl. Anyway by mid-1980s she got divorced. We were in a restaurant for dinner when she told me she will marry another person soon. I finally told her for years during the band I had a crush on her. She was surprised and felt the same and we kissed. We left, she got re-married and I moved on with my life going through years of difficult unsuccessful dating situation until the 1990s.
If we are totally frank, small penis is definitely a hurtful sterotype to break work through. Whether the women care or not or whether its true or not, its certainly a huge discourager
yah until they take you home to the family better know the language and culture because the women are like you and me with a slash of richness. like fathers when it comes to their daughters so just saying its a plus for you to know.😁
part of it, so much more - the history of America with Asians Being in multiple wars with asian states WWII - Japan Korean War - China & North Korea Vietnam War - North Vietnam this comes with propaganda and demasculinization of Asian men Also, the Chinese exclusion act included dehumanizing Asians especially East Asian men Know your history
All whites are deep down racist, until they're proven otherwise. You're white & don't like it? Too bad, that's how the rest of the world think of you ppl
I think they’re great I’m too old to date now, so maybe that’s why I don’t know but I think the problem is the Asian population tends to be closed in their different areas you know Japanese Chinese they’re just they’re just kind of in the past it kind of stuck in their own culture, that you know. Don’t don’t mess up to the bloodlines you know and I I guess that’s what we thought they were arranged marriages. It’s only been in the last few years with the blowup of K-pop.
Dating is discrimination. It's a discriminatory act. We aren't entitled to sex or relationships. Apart from movies, no one thinks white men can fly and always get the girl, and no one thinks men black men, or any colour of men, get the girl either, IRL, unless you're trying to make excuses for it "because movies" My goodness, Bruce Lee, was barely 5'7. Jackie Chan, same. Tom Cruise is about 5'6, Stallone is 5'6. Kevin Hart is about 5'3. Bill Gates is about 5'9(not a movie star, obviously, but for context) The reality is, that none of these men, complained about being "short". They did what they did, and did it without being famous to begin with being "short". . Cope. Or keep whining. And my goodness the latter is NOT attractive.
My opinion is that yes race is a factor but not nearly as much of a factor as most guys think. Correlation does not equal causation. Just because you’re struggling in dating and happen to be Asian does NOT mean your race is the sole cause of your issues. There are plenty of white guys who struggle too. Trying to blame your ethnicity is a lot easier then taking self responsibility and accountability. You can’t change your race, so focus on everything else within your control! Your lack of game is why you’re struggling not your race or ethnicity!
Come to a major US city and actually get out there and date. The barrier of entry is a lot higher especially if your attracted to white or Latina women. Obviously be the best version of yourself, but there’s an artificial ceiling. Asians haven’t brought this up because there is no platform for us and we get dismissed because we’re the model minority and most end up becoming successful. Recently found a channel called bedroom talks and he has a whole video catalogue of the struggles Asian men go through. Hell I’m Asian and whenever I go on dates it’s drastically different from my white, Mexican and Black friends. All of them are I’m on a date with a guy. For me, it’s always I’m going out with xxxxx the Asian guy. Like there is a qualifier. So yeah work on yourself and up your game, but understanding the situation and coming in it with eyes will open will allow someone to be realistic and not as frustrated with the whole process.
@@DoremonUCR I don’t think this arbitrary barrier of entry is as much higher as you think it is. And again correlation doesn’t equal causation. Plenty of white men are virgins and struggle too in dating in the western world. Asian men are not unique in their dating and sexual frustration, even though it may feel that way. And also, your date example is a really poor argument. Cause if you got the date in the first place, then your foot is already in the door and the reason you can’t seal the deal is almost entirely due to your lack of game, not your looks or ethnicity. If your looks or ethnicity were the main cause, you wouldn’t even get the date in the first place. And who cares if a girl goes out of her way to say she’s going out with a guy of x race. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. And you certainly shouldn’t care or let it get in your head because you already got your foot in the door.
To be honest as long as you look asn, it reflects an internal consciousness and lack of connection to one's body. Do not put any more shame on these men then they already feel about a flesh and bone circumstance and wiring that their parents gave them and raised them in an environment where they would be alienated. Do not date them out of pity. Just be kind to them as humans and let them live. Many are toxic, i dont personally identify as asian or part of the asian american male community as someone who is half asian and that community is scary to me. The reality is you have to evolve to even be connected to a similar consciousness as other people. And you have to let go of being asian and then see asian people through an evolved state. It doesn't look or feel right for a super asn looking guy to be with anyone but an Asn girl. You can feel it in your body. Also many asn girls have chosen to be lust objects of yt men. If you're asn I'm telling you in my experience the only way to grow is through God and intense humility. No matter what stage in life you are in humility is the strongest state to be in. I would focus on survival, stop listening to women tell you about what you need to do. You can be as self responsible and accountable for who you are and know the truth and it will still not make sense to date anyone in the United States and have your kids have to deal with the same experience you did when you grew up. Even as a half asian person, I can feel exploitation in my bones. I can tell I'm different and I can tell a full asian person is different than me. Tbh once the lust is gone, interracial dating doesn't seem to work and just seems awkward. This is just my opinion and personal experience. If you have an Asn blood in you and have a different experience go ahead and tell your "truth." But if you're a woman or of another race, you really can't speak on this.
@@DoremonUCR so I know this is hard, but is it really worth you dating? Do you want a family with kids who will deal with the exact same reality you did? In an environment where their thoughts and feelings and struggle were not seen or respected? Do you want a child that will not share your race or her mother's race? Blue and yellow don't make half blue, half yellow, it makes green. I'm one of the green ones and I know this.
There are billions of White women in the world. There are billions of Asian men in the world. There are billions of White men, Asian women, Black men, Black women, etc. in the world. "Not every one of them is the same" - Einstein.
You often hear the stereotype of Black men. Oh, there large. And the stereotype of Asian men, oh, there small. But where is the stereotype for White men? So, you wonder, who came up with these stereotypes and is there an agenda behind this?
@@mikeburke1993 And? Your other half is still the culprit, genius. It doesn't change that fact, whether you're half of whatever. And surprise surprise, your daddy was the white one. All these white guys with yellow fever. So over done.
