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We put so much pressure on ourselves, don't we. In your mind, what do you think you should be doing at 26? Where did you feel that you were supposed to be?
Sheila Makena actually at this age we feel that all the people (our friends etc.) are successful in their career, while some of us still struggle to get there. I feel that pressure all the time. :(
It's definitely natural to feel as though our friends have taken such great strides as we struggle with ourselves and where we are. I believe there is good pressure and bad pressure. Good pressure is the kind that motivates you positively to change your circumstances while bad pressure keeps you worried and stuck. It may not seem that way right now, but people are only going to give you the good side of things. It will always look like they are doing better, but in reality, everyone is going through something and are struggling with one kind of issue or another. The best thing to do is just focus on yourself and cut you some slack. You are doing the best you can Anjie Manny, and you will progress and reach higher heights. But it shouldn't be while look on the outside and comparing your progress with others, because that is one game you will never win. It is based entirely on ego. Trust that you will be just fine with time. Take care, Sheila!
I want to be creative, bring peace & happiness to others, love, help others improve their lives :-) I'm doing that by giving advice to my friends & strangers and my sewing tutorials and lifestyle blog. I also plan to travel to Gambia in december to give clothes to the little girls and boys there
Love1979 the amazing thing about the things you want to be is that you can become them right now. And please start now. We need more of you in the world!
I absolutely agree although instead of the question: Who do I want to be? I would ask: Who am I? Because everything you should "extract" is already with you. No matter how old you are, try to discover what you like, what you feel strongly about, what excites you? You will automatically begin to follow those things (unless you have any shame-issues going on about them) and they will lead you on your path, I believe in this. When adults ask what you want to be when you grow up, they force you to think in categories or premade boxes in which you are supposed to fit. That's not true. You are free, you don't have to belong in any preestablished category. Your life is you. Ask questions. Discover who you are, not who you are EXPECTED to become by others. This is what your life will become.
@Miyankochan. Life happen not easy even people do things they love. But one key that is decide make change and follow something until the end will lead people living with it.
Chu Nam Yes, it is not easy. For some, it is easier than for others. But it's our decision to suffer because of difficulties. We might as well enjoy those difficulties. Something "bad" happens and we can say: Ah, okay, I will become stronger and smarter after this, and I will know better. Or, we can just give up all hope and feel sorry for ourselves and blame our parents, society or God.
Miyankochan Yes, feeling of regret very bad. IT always motivate me courage to make something change, even it is difficult, but I know it is opportunity for my better result.
30 years of constantly asking, seeking, searching, analysing, praying... and FINALLY now I’ve got it! I was just asking the wrong questions! Thank you Marie Forleo, you just unparalysed me! Great music and art to follow, look out world get ready to know who I am beyond all the shitty mistakes, failures, shortcomings and even painful lies! I love you Marie! 😅😍😘😘😘
Wow. This made me wish I'd known Marie back when I was a young as Kirsten right here. I think it's really about staying true to who you see yourself and how you envision yourself to be. This reminded me of the takeaway from Marie's talk with Danielle Laporte where they talked about the Core Desire Feelings. I could connect it in such a way that my CDFs are basically based on the answers to that question of "Who I want to be?". At 24, I'm in a phase of questioning myself of who I want to be when I grow up and it's quite funny and not so because when I was 12, I thought 24's like all grown up. I think it'll be a constant battle until you finally become it, the person you've always wanted to be.
I finally chose what I want to do with my life. But I live with this constant fear of failure. I'm putting all my energies and time on this dream, but what if I fail? I'm only 20 years old, but I feel I'm running out of time for some reason. I just see how there are 18-21 years old people who are already so successful, and there's me...I don't know. I always try to keep thinking positive thoughts but sometimes I really get stressed out. I want my family to be proud of me, that's my only wish.
I'm 28 and just now trying to go to law school. I've already changed my career twice and I still am not totally sure what I want to do(I do have an idea tho)- sometimes I feel very old to be just doing this now. I know logically, thats silly, but you read in the news all the 22 year olds who are millionaires already(I am not haha). Thanks for this video. BTW your hair inspires me and the way you dress is just *snaps fingers* yas honey!
Just turned 18, being asked what I want to study at university, and I don't even know what I want to eat for dinner. Feeling lost, so happy you did this video.
Lol! I like that! "I don't even know what to eat for dinner!" Whatever you decide to pick, the truth is, your entire life is not going to be based on that. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself by thinking "I have to pick the perfect course cos if I don't I might ruin the rest of my life!" That isn't the case at all! You are doing the best you can, and you might pick something, not like it and change it later. Nothing is black and white or cut and dry, just enjoy the experience of university life, learn from as many encounters as you can and trust your instincts. I'd also say talk to a likeable career counselor. They can help give some direction. Hope this helps, Anita Raymond! All the best, Sheila
I want to be authentic, expressive, creative and helpful (giving). Thank you Marie for this beautiful message & reminder to BE instead of DO. It's been hard to focus in this career transition of mine - since I've been taught to just keep doing & achieving instead of being a human BEing - I love that. Thank you!
Great video Marie! I'm 27 and I've changed my career path twice now. I think when you're young that might sound pretty scary-but if you do your best every day you'll be surprised how much courage and knowledge you gain. Work hard, respect everyone you encounter and you will go a LONG way no matter where you decide to go! xoxo (that dress looks killer on you btw!)
Im in sucha a similar boat PrettyInProse - You're not alone & you're on the right path. Keep doing what you're doing & you'll be a happy human BEing. Much love, Jazz
Really good question. When you don't know the answer to this it can make you feel lost about where you're heading and frustrated when we often hear that in order to be successful, you have to get clear on your goals and your vision and purpose etc. which is pretty hard to do when...you don't know what that is! Marie Forleo though you've given an amazing answer and thanks for helping ourselves as well as your followers :) As well as being film-makers, we want to be known for spreading positivity, inspiring people and just putting a smile on their face. And we've figured why not do this through the films we make :) Thanks Marie Forleo
Oh wow, she's amazing! I wish I was like that when I was 11. I didn't know what I wanted to do until I was in HS. I made the decision, went to college for it, studied it, and now, 5 years after graduating college, I am so lost. I have no idea what I am doing with my life, absolutely no sense of direction - job wise. And you are right, you change your mind as an adult. You find loves for new things, and actually fall out of love for others. It's not that I don't know what I want to do or love doing, it's the fact that I seriously have been struggling to get there. I want to be the person I know I can be, but the journey hasn't lead me there yet.
I can totally relate with you! I have a job which I consider just an income since I haven't figured out what I want to do. I got a bachelors in business because I figured it was broad enough to help me decide........nothing yet.
Julyshowers05 Same thing with me and my job. I have this job just to pay my student loans. I have baddddddd debt with my student loans, and this job just pays the minimum. And that's what really upsets me, if I was doing something that made me happy, I would be OK with that. But I'm stuck in a job I hate, working to pay off my loans everything month. The American dream my butt. ::sigh::
Melissa Gandarinho I totally can relate to you Melissa. I too have a degree in Chem and I hate it...can't figure out what I want in life, at all sadly. I initially thought I would become a health provider but now grades come in a way to get into the program so doing mini pay job to pay off loans. How sad it is to see young people having a degree of no value... this education system is so money making...no skills or knowledge is provided that's good enough to sustain life after a college...i feel I have become dumber than what I was in HS. My rambling...i do that on such topic. Good luck to you :)
Julyshowers05 I'm thinking about quitting my job real soon - I know I want to be an event planner, cause that's what I do with little effort and it's what I love, but It's not paying the bills, but actually all I do is pay bill, so at this point, I rather be Happy and Broke, them Miserable and Broke! #OperationQuitMyDeadEndJobInFullEffect
So grateful to have watched this video at this very moment. I lost my job last week. I'm turning 30 next week. And the last few days have been a whirlwind of questions including, "What do I do now?" Do I change careers or do I perform a course correction and re-align with what I've always wanted in the first place? It does feel like a push and a re-alignment of sorts but... "Greatness doesn't come from what you do but who you are." I admittedly placed a lot of value on what I did, was pretty proud, and took it on as part of my identity and in the process, probably wasn't the best human being sometimes. Asking "Who do I want to be?" is so much more relevant. And I still want to pursue a career in my field but with a different frame of mind now that I have the chance to take a fresh approach. If I do go forward with working for myself and building my personal brand, I want to be inspirational, compassionate, loving, and (most importantly) helpful. I want to be all of those things regardless of which path I choose. Actually, I want those things to be my path. Thank you for the inspiration, Marie! xo
Its all about being creative and exploring and learning. Marie Forleo that applies to the 11 year olds and the adults. Constantly conscious of who I want to be and ensuring my actions align with that person. Thanks for the awesomeness!
Love it! And love that this amazing little girl is already in tune to asking these types of questions! Love you Marie!!this was the perfect message for me today!
Awe... such a sweet girl! Reminds me of my 11 year old, she is incredibly intelligent and open. Such a beautiful little spirit and is already stepping into Entrepreneurship, such a blessing! Loved your response Marie and just shows the IMPACT you are making in this world when you have 11 year olds diligently following you! xoxo
This is my first video I have watched by you. I just graduated college for marketing, advertising, PR… (my major was communication, it's a lot of things) and I am so impressed with your site. It's really an inspiration to me how you developed a business online just talking and having discussion. I want to be a RU-vidr so badly but I'm struggling with the stereotype that all girls my age right now are beauty gurus. I'd love to have a channel that I start meaningful discussions and talk about things that I find interesting and love doing as well as have a lot of fun. I really do admire you.
Jillian, it's been stressing me out for years. I've chosen my major for the university education knowing that it wasn't what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I spent total 6 years of very active searching, studying and experimentation and along the way went through multiple courses and postgrauate studies. And you know what? I mixed most of it up. Don't tell yourself that you need to find THE PASSION OF YOUR LIFE. You've got LOTS of time, don't waste it on worrying, have fun with your life and try different things (Marie's "Clarity comes from engagement, not thought" ;)). Look for thing you like and take a closer look at the qualities these things have. E.g. Before I became an entrepreneur I knew I wanted my job to be connected with: - working with people (preferably helping them) - having professional room for my creativity - connected with development and education - possibly travelling - mobile - preferably using English since it's not my native lanaguage And what took the pressure off of my shoulders - don't tell yourself it's for a lifetime. Yes, be persistent and don't jump from one subject to another on a weekly basis It's good to have something stable you have mild interest in which will eventually provide you with some income, but never think it's a lifetime choice. You have every right to continue your education
I want to be helpful in terms of giving advise , coach , managing project . At the same time I also want to be creative and still being loving and sharing love to the world.
I want to make people think and be a global citizens that we really need to be in our decaying world. My skill is to bring stories and be a model for others.
I love all of your videos Marie. My question is, how can I be a positive and healthy role model (I am a high school teacher) while I am working on my health and not feeling my best? Thanks so much. Simone, Melbourne, Australia.
Love it! Great question :D I wanna to be a person who connects people and is connected with others. I want to bring more awareness and power to people. And I want to love :)
There's a part of me that thinks I should drop out of University. But as a Libra I have to stew over every side. The other side of me has analysed thoroughly my course and the benefits after I graduate. And the prospects are good! I am creative in life but I somehow feel guilty about thinking about a creatuve pursuit as a career because somehow in my mind I think that it's unrealistic and I won't have financial stability. There's also a bit of me that wonders if my mother would think me wishy washy for dropping out now. I am conscious of what she thinks of me and because I am conscious about how everyone views me sometimes I'd rather not take risks. Aaaarghhh why is life so frustrating!
0DDB@LL I really struggle to be happy because I am always trying to please other people (which I don't resent). My primary goal in life is to make people happy, enrich their lives and let them see the world in the holistic way that I do...I'm only 18 though... :)
+ODDB@LL i totally understand that . Even i want to do theatre but i know i wont have financial stablility in it plus my mom won't ever allow me to do that she thinks thats a waste and i should rather be a doctor or something !
Well I ended uo dropping out because I needed to make that decision, now I'm working and I've moved out of home. It was really hard to stand up for myself but I was slowly sinking mentally by not being selfish sometime :)
Nice video . But for what you answered to that girl that "she's too small to think of who she wants to become " even i think so . I mean how can you expect a 12 or 13 year old to tell you what she wants to do for the rest of 50 years of her life . I am 15 and everybody is already asking me what do i want to become ? OK so there's nothing wrong with asking what i want to become but when i tell them my unconventional sort of career options ( what i really want to become ) they dont approve it ! They just want me to do what they want me to ! AND THAT SUCKS ! I mean its like you can"'t even make your life the way you want to ...its super depressing !!! PLEASE REPLY TO THIS ONE !!
having the same exact problem. fuck them.it is your life and you have to do what you decide is the right thing to do.it is your life not theirs.do what your heart tells you to.
Hey Maria I have a question for you! I've lived in the US for almost 10 years now with my dad mom and brother. However the rest of my family and a lot of my friends live in Colombia and I miss them a lot. I haven't seem them in two years and even though is a big sacrifice I've been able to accomplish many different things. But the reality is that I feel like I'm missing out a lot and sometimes I feel lonely. I guess my question is what can I do in this situation? Or how the people that are away from their families but accomplishing their goals can deal with this situation?
Hi dany47755 I'm not Marie but couldn't help but stop by your question. Perhaps you could make a decision that you are going to see them again. You can even write down the very specific date of when you will go back home to visit, and use that as your motivating factor, or as I would call it, your Push Factor. Put in great detail what you plan to do, and how absolutely awesome it would be to see the looks on their faces. You can even decide to make it a surprise visit so they won't know, and you can just show up at the door. Get really excited about the idea, and use it as fuel to work on it. Don't worry about how it will happen. Just use that ultimate goal as your fuel, and the right opportunities will open up. I do hope this can assist you in some way to help ease the homesickness and loneliness you feel! All the best with it. Sheila
That was the most generic video for the the question. I'm 17, and believe me I do have to answer that question. I've been trying to answer it since I was 12, which by the way I totally agree that we shouldn't make kids choose when there only 10. I love music and writing so I'm wanting an English major, but the problem is my parents will not support this, or in essence, any liberal arts major. So even if I could win their support. My major would somewhat useless. I've been watching all sorts of these video's and read all the books. Let's be honest she isn't saying anything new or exciting, she's just spouting out that. "Just find what you'll love and the universe will provided." Well universe I'm waiting...
+angus salisbuty i got that ! Even i'm struggling with the parents vs children war , and im just 15 but it feels super depressing when nobody kinda wants you to or won't let you be what you want to !
Rita Sharma Listen sweetie it gets better I promise. I just graduated this year and once you're an adult it is your decision. When you make a decision stand by it. Life is precious, take your time and enjoy it.
Okay so I'm 17 and I have wanted to be a fashion designer since I was 14 but just recently I have stopped wanting to be that. I think about being a singer or an actress but I have no idea. I try and ask myself the question what do I want to be in the world and i am so lost! Please help!
To be who I want to be, I strive to wake up every morning and as how can I serve today? I want to bring love, kindness, inspiration to moms who want to go after their dreams and inspire their littles!
I want to be helpful and creative/adventurous. I can help encourage others and help people out and make them smile. I can upload creative and encouraging videos onto RU-vid, which I plan on doing in a few months.
