Warm positive feelings for the client are of course beneficial. And, I say, negative feelings toward clients can sometimes be very helpful. That's because those negative feelings or dislikes can tell the therapist something about the client's creation of negativity in his or her life. And in this interpretive way, the therapist might be able to use the negative feelings to break the code of dysfunction in the client's life. Also, warm and positive feelings toward clients can SOMETIMES indicate that the clients are creating a defense, a pleasing show of likability that is actually thin and covering dysfunction.
I always miss your surveys! I love to take a moment to check in with myself after a session to see what emerges. Most of the time I feel deep compassion for my clients but sometimes I might feel something different such as impatience or frustration. I actually love when I feel these feelings because most of the time it points to something in therapy that isn't being addressed adequately by me! Maybe I need to use these clinically in session? Maybe they are pointing at a sore spot a client hit on? Maybe I'm feeling so bored because my client is not trusting me enough to open up and let their "challenging" parts show? All of it is relevant.
Honestly no one is going to admit they write nasty stuff about their clients are they? What they really think and what they tell you are completley different.
I cant help but wonder if mine holds onto a false sense of hope for me. I often bring feelings of hopelessness to our session- and I am able to logically give real reasons why it's not looking good for me (physical and mental health, lack of support/appropriate care, inability to maintain relationships and jobs and so financially which affects relationships, opportunities, ability to parent, etc). They seem to go "you don't know its always going to be like this" but with the given info it is clearly not looking good? My mental health has progressively gotten worse over last 20 yrs and is now affecting my physical health. It's confusing- is she downplaying or do they not get it? Maybe a little of both. She indirectly acknowledged she's not always thinking that people experience things differently. (One person may not hear the dog barking. Another person may be so physically heightened and bothered by the dog they can barely function.) I truly do wonder- are they bs-ing me to make me feel a false sense of hope? When else are they bs-ing me? Thanks for making the video!
Have you been seeing the same therapist the whole time? Maybe a different approach/therapist would be a better fit right now. I feel like that sometimes, and I have told her very explicitly that I find it quite triggering when she says that kind of thing. We’ve worked it out to ask more questions and phrase things differently.
Generally, the therapist should hold up the hope for bettering. If there is no realistic chance of a bettering e.g. in case of a progrient, deadly disease, the therapist should help to change the perspective and to foster acceptance.
“People may have self-selected out of responding if they didn’t have such positive emotions toward their clients” As a client, I see that as them taking responsibility for their negativity. I don’t need to be told that a therapist thinks positively about me per se; I just need them to deal with their negative feelings - which are most likely due to things that have nothing to do with me - on their own time and not make me responsible for them.
@@rajarizwan5374 I think it depends on whether it's a endogenous Depression (based on impaired brain metabolism) or a reactive depression (based on stressful life events) The endogenous depression might need lifelong support with medication. Coping with stressful live events or traumatization might be learnable and therefore the depression be curable. (I am suffering from Bipolar Disorder with 30 years experience in depression)
@@ralfphilipp i am sorry to hear you are suffering biapolar disorder i hope you will get batter one day. I have on anger issue dut to stressful event i think it’s cure able
Boring cash cows (while they pay), not important at all (when they drop out and thus stop paying). Everything else would be called "rationalization" or in simple word: fluff.
