What To Do If Nothing Makes You Happy Anymore 

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Reality can be difficult to face, but overcoming that challenge will make you feel very fulfilled!

Acceptance of this feeling will eventually lead to the clarity you need to keep going. Its key that you do not distract yourself. Sit in the feeling. Understand it. You’ll learn alot about yourself from doing this

Reality gets harder as you get older but you also become stronger and wiser.

Youre the only creator i have found that looks back on videos and doesnt apologize for saying something wrong or ignorant, but instead use it as an opportunity to say "i learned, i adapted, heres how to make the idea better."

Of all the youtubers of your genre, for me youre the most grounded and pleasent to watch with your incredible insights. Its as if youre much older then you actually are , considering the wisdom you bring. Love watching your content, brings the sense of peace and positivity. Keep up the good work

spirituality is the best way to handle this. I dont mean religion, but relating to your role in the broader meaning. I think studying the philosophical roots of various religions helps you arrive at your understanding of how it all works and when feelings come you can more easily fit them in to your world view. After all, religion is all about coping with forces outside of our control.

You know I've felt this muted agony for like 2 and a half years or so and I gotta say, the longer it stays the further your mind feels like it needs to solve it, making dissipation harder. The idea of "this is a bad thing" engrains into your head until it's much harder to deal with. For me this lead to development of anxiety and OCD, which has made this exponentially harder. However, the fact that it's possible to overcome and that one of my favorite RU-vidr's has gone through it inspires hope in me, thanks for the video Cole!

I just listened to an Alan Watts lecture about trying to resign from the various games of life. Realizing that you can never truly escape this game of life is important to learning not only how to play the game, but how to have fun playing it

Thank you. Thank you for doing this. Thank you for expressing yourself even when people may think it’s lame, even when “someone else has already said that”, even when it feels scary. You don’t even know how many people you’re authenticity is helping

Man, I love how you weave aspects of spirituality into your videos in a way that is practical and relatable. Great video as always Cole!

It felt like i watched two videos in one. You bring great value to the world Cole, Thank you for that

Perfect timing! I’m going through something exactly like this. Thanks for the video

What I never liked about the idea that we are so tiny in the grand schemes of things is that it's one sided. Yes we are an atom compared to the universe but we are also a universe compared to an atom. Even though the sun will explode, we can't know what parts of the life of earth will continue into the milky way. Our little life can have ripple effects throughout the generations of life on earth. In a productive or destructive way. You decide what worth life has to you and if you want to help it flourish and continue.

Nothing in life makes me happy anymore. I never enjoyed being alive. I don't like people or things I used to. People don't understand when you tell them because they were never put in a situation that they wanted to give up. I just exist now. I wish I could stop caring.

I’m so glad you talked about this. I think this isn’t really talked about enough

I felt this and came back to old habits and I have to break them yet again cause of this... I will sure use your advices from this vid thanks.

You seem to be just like the kind of guy like one of my friends whom I like to have deep conversations with. For me your videos are good to hear because I feel that there's a powerful and positive energy in you that you are spreading.

Keep making videos like this man, its helping right now as we speak, and im sure its helping other people too. Keep up the good work.

It’s 1:50 in the morning, and I didn’t even realize how much I needed to hear this video until it started playing. Thanks Cole

I needed this today more than any other day that I've been alive. This is significant.

Being stuck in that feeling of not knowing what to fully do with my life..... adding a lost touch to my routine where even being sick, makes me feel bad about myself, for not being out there "enjoying life", dragging the fear of not enjoy my 20´s... achieving that balance between - having new experiences (travel etc.) and - work my goals, is very hard... And to add imo social media also poisons our perception of reality by always showing ppl "enjoying their lives" and being so good at what they do... i think is kinda commum in this age to feel this way, right ? it can comusme ones sanity for sure...

"I stopped worrying about my finances almost completely." F*CK! That's the dream right there. Don't forget about us broke people, haha.

1:41 pretty comfortable but there’s a lingering discomfort in the comfortableness. Well put man. I like the way you explain this, ‘muted agony’ sums it up.

Very enlightening. I enjoy your videos because of your unique perspective, it really gets you thinking and opens your mind up to other possibilities. It certainly shifts perception and helps you consider different ways of viewing your reality. Thank you!

I don't get it, you don't get the views you did last year but the quality and depth of your videos are on all-time high. Thank you for the great video man.

Thank you for making this video, i needed to hear this for a long time now

Perfect timing. Thank you.

Thank man I actually really needed this right now.

Prob my favorite RU-vid account as of recent. Looking at you as kind of a life coach latley and I really appreciate you 👍🏽

I do love this video and I needed it, thank you for your hard work

We will always support you. Keep working hard.

Yay another self-improve video!!

This vid is a gem!! Thanks Cole 🙏🏻

That muted agony is the experience (process) of maturing. You are growing up and growing wiser. So proud of you!

I used to write 1000 words of my novel every single night, but i havent been able to sit myself down for more than 200 words for over 3 months now its gotta stop and this video really hit

Wow. Your video editing and shooting skills for way better since you started.

Great video Cole

This was a really good video Cole. Nice job ❤️

I love you and your videos really help me make my day hope your having a good day ❤

Amazing video! I totally think the same way here. Good luck on your future videos brother ❤🎉

bro i relate to every single thing u talk about. RU-vid goat ngl

Hit the gym and lift those crushing weight of reality like you're arnold schwarzenegger ❤‍🔥

“If nothing we do matters, than all that matters is what we do”

This is one of your best videos by far

Hey cole, can you make a video about how unusual/unnatural it is to be surrounded by people everyday coming from different directions? Like, historically we lived in communities we closely related to with similar goals. You always had something similar to the people around you. Now we meet hundreds of people a day coming from completely different perspectives and reality and wealth ect and that makes it very hard to feel connected to others or even comfortable around them

Glad I came across your videos. Thank you 😊

Good job man !

I have had similar experiences. I used to ride my Harley around all the weekends going to various different country towns and the like and I really enjoyed it but with the event of ever increasing work loads studying and getting ready to change jobs I sort of got out of the habit. I stopped liking the fact I had to always make time to travel and well it just became easier to not bother. We all go through cycles and I still don’t ride my bike much but I do other things. I do journal and I get a lot out of it. I ride my MTB bike a bit now and spend time with my gf listening to music on vinyl and just enjoying life

I am having this same feeling at the moment. I have so much but feel so empty.

I love how, at 6:19 , you used The Blob from FNaF: Security Breach as the image for muted agony, since that character is literally the personification of agony. It’s a reference I never thought I’d see on this channel, but it fits quite well, given the discussion of agony. So, fair play!

As always, this is a wisdom channel

Excellent video 👏

This video inspired me to apply for a volunteer job in an animal shelter.

Also SR on high streaks will get you feeling pretty different. I can confirm that. From 0 to 100 days your mental dialogue is visibly cleaner, lighter and grounded. If you're depressed SR is the best thing you can do.

This one was like u were talking directly at me. Thanks Cole. I wanna start a similar channel next year, with my own flavor and personality of course =) Cheers!

The true madness of reality is having the ability to reason in a universe with none.

Great video ❤

I just want to live the life that would make the few good people I had growing up, proud of me.

The extended strange feelings linger from day to day life & it returns always, the void can't be filled no matter whatever pleasure you seek. It is infinite thus only infinity can fill it. & infinity means loving the universe & knowing we are just a part of it. It's all just a play

What made me interest in life is that you don’t have to wait for somebody or something to make you happy.In fact you can find your happiness in yourself!

Very well said

Just like journals the life we experience and the journey we choose is what we fill it with only after reflection and realizing we can use our internal monologue to influence the world around us and not be subjected to it with the same opportunity but the same repetition, we have to make it worthwhile otherwise its just another cover of uninteresting subjects.

This helped a lot

I'm still in my late teens and still struggling I gotta watch u Cole and I think u got a brother to that I subbed too he looks just like u and anyways my parents of course say that I'm handsome and capable, also I know what I want and still trying to get their but still enjoying my free time whole I still have it.

I've been feeling this muted agony lately!! It's tough.

Thx youve now sent me again unto an existential trip

genuinely knocked back in my chair after listening to this

Muted agony!!! I LOVE it!!!

This video is therapy

Brother, you feel me.

I love this video

Bro im from India ! I understand your video through CC . So please turn on captions / subtitles next time Anyways i lile you most 💕

im watching your videos and have no idea what you're even saying.....like I just finished this video and can't even tell you one thing you said to do if nothing makes you happy. and yes English is my only language and yes I have 2 college degrees and I still can't understand what the hell you're trying to say. I feel. lost

honestly, who cares about the grand scheme of things? so what if you think something wont matter in the grand scheme of things? youre here right now, so do what matters now. i think youll also find that these things that matter now are what create the true “grand scheme of things”. all that moment is is the moment right before you leave the world when you get to look back on your life and see all those things you chose mattered.

This is the perfect time for me to share this. I used to feel the same way. I just didn’t know what could have made me feel better or what could have made me happy, what Matters is life, and it was like that for a long time. But two months ago is when I made a decision that TRULY changed my life. I expected Jesus Christ and decided to learn about the true God. And after a while i have felt true peace in my heart. I have felt things that I have never felt before. I have felt in my heart A really wholesome feeling, I have discovered the true meaning of life. A few years ago there were a lot of things in the Bible and my parents told me that I thought made no sense and we’re just really stupid. And thought it was just another dumb religion. but now I decided to actually learn about what the meaning is and know it now makes sense. And after excepting Jesus into my heart, the world has been far more easier to understand. The reason why we all feel so lonely, depressed, lost, etc is because we’re all detached from our father (God). God created us in his image, but when Adam and Eva ate from the forbidden tree, that’s when all these bad things and sin came into this world. We feel a big void in our lives and we think drugs, alcohol, sexual desires, etc will help but in reality even if it did, it would only last for a few minutes and the cycle will continue. Only Jesus can truly fill in that void in us. Another thing, life truly doesn’t matter, people say “life doesn’t matter but do what you love and be happy” but you just said that life doesn’t matter, therefore everything you do doesn’t matters as well. But as christians the meaning of life is to except Jesus Christ as our savior, build a relationship with our father in heaven, and spread the word of God in any way we can and like. And also to just have fun in the life that God gave us. Here’s another thing, so many other religions are about fallowing rules and not questioning it or about you building a ladder to God, they expect you to be perfect so that you can go to heaven but we’re all not perfect at all. Christianity is all about having a personal relationship with Jesus , the one and only savior. John 3: 16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” If you go and pray to Jesus and you ask him “what do you want me to do?” I truly believe all he want is you to just believe in him and ask Jesus to save you and just talk to him. Just go to your room, close the door (lock it if you need to) and then just pray to the Lord your God and ask him any question you have. Some questions may be answered in the moment, or show you in your daily life, he can do anything. He will show the truth in whatever way he wants. Last two things that I just want to say. You may not be able to be a millionaire in your lifetime, may not have everything you want, you may not be the fastest or the smartest person, or to even follow all of his ways but truly I tell you, those are things the father does not care about. Again, all he wants is for you to except him into your life, believe that He died for your sins and that God razed him back from the dead three days later, and talk to him. Now please ask me whatever questions you have and I will do my best to answer. Everything I say is said in a loving way, not in a “you better do all this or else you’ll suffer forever” threatening way. Everything that Jesus said was in a loving way and that’s what I’m trying to do, everything is up to you. All I’m doing is just sharing. God loves every single one of us so much in this world equally, that he gives us complete free will. The freedom to choose our own path in life. Last thing that I want to say, if what I’ve said interest you even a little bit, I recommend to get the Bible app and start reading from Matthew and then onwards. I highly recommend checking out the passion of Christ as well. It’s not just a great Christian movie but it’s a very artistic movie in terms of how it is shot and made. Second thing I want to say. I’ve learned that whatever I see media will come out of me and give me the wrong thought or ideas. What I’m basically trying to say that to be really careful with what you listen to, and not believe it. For example, berserk manga gave me a wrong world view that was not true. that life is full of suffering and pain but keep struggling and do what you want in life, I used to think that was a good message but after reading the Bible and truly see what life is about it’s actually a pretty terrible and selfish message when I think about it. Know this may surprise you with what I’m about say but are used to think that it was the greatest thing ever made and I would never let go of it but now I just don’t care about Berserk anymore. Another thing I truly have found what I want to do, I want to make a manga adaptation on the Bible in Japan, to show people the truth and find true peace, freedom, love, and forgiveness. The reason why I’m saying all this is because I want to tell people the truth and for them to find their true savior. I am planning to go to Japan in the future and I want to try and help as many people as I can to show them the truth and what they truly need. Now I’m just going to share some of my favorite quotes. “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with all my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41: 10 “Everyone will hate you because of me. But not a hair on your head will perish. Stand firm, and you will win life.” Luke 21: 17-19 “then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but 77 times” Matthew 18: 21-22 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, are there in the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those that mourn, or they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit The Earth. blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, or they shall be called sons of God. blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. blessed are you when others are revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your award is great in heaven, for so they persecute the prophets who were before you. you are the salt of the Earth.” Mathew 5: 3-13 Final quote. “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14: 6 Hope that you will be able to truly find peace in your heart by excepting Jesus, and I’ll pray for you. Please, just ask me any question you have and I’ll answer. God wants us to question him and know that you will not know all the answers and that is completely fine.

you are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the here and now

Until early last year, I was still into things that had made me happy all my life (one example being LEGO), then all of a sudden it just stopped appealing to me. I know that this is just the natural process of maturing, but to me it was more. It hit me especially hard, because I had some very great times just last year, not just with my hobbies, but with friends and family. Me being upset about not finding certain things interesting was more a longing for a much better time than anything else, and I can't help but reminisce about those great times to this day. About a year and a half passed and not much changed. I am still feeling a sense of muted agony, and I have been trying for the past year to find any sources which explain more about the feeling of... boredom that I am feeling. Again, I am sure this is just maturity, but sometimes it feels unfair that something that once made me happy fails to do so now. I have tried multiple times to try to return to those interests and hobbies in order to cope with this, but it does not hit the same. In the end, the only constant is change, and we can do nothing more than to embrace it and hope for a better future. The past still exists somewhere, just in a different plane, meaning the most important thing right now is the present, and how we act in our daily lives will help shape our futures... I am really curious if someone has felt the same thing, because I believe some things I am feeling are due to my screen time levels increasing by the day. I fear that I have become dependent on my phone in my everyday life, relying on it to survive. I hope I gain some confidence to change my life for the better.

How did you know I was in the midst of a nihilistic existential crises

seems like this guy knows more about what's in my mind than me myself.

Dude you're such a scientist

With sarcastic homur of course, and a sense of egnoring the reality. Like literally lying to yourself about it. Just not taking it seriously. Emotions are tough but we can handle them. Also yeah skin care routine

SO TRUE ...

idk this felt like someone understands me. it just feels sometimes like some sort of suffocation

Stopping is the answer

I took last week off training admittedly because I felt gray while doing it. Isn’t it odd how our emotions are ever fluctuating, and for some instances you may not understand why?

I've journaled enough that I know why I feel the way I feel! And there is a chapter in the book Ego is the Enemy that explains why it is crucial and urgent to know why people do the things they do ,otherwise no knowing so will lead to selfish or wasteful acts. Even it is true it doesn't mean we should panic because our ignorance makes us somewhat selfish. It's just a reminder for why 'WHY' is important for growth!

The muted agony never stops, in the grand scheme, it doesn’t matter anyway

This is the same mindset I have. It’s not to say that nothing in this life matters. A healthy dose of nihilism is necessary though. It means that you can have a peace of mind, not take everything so seriously and be happier. Too many people living on survival mode like it’s the dark ages.

im stuck in this horrible feeling at the moment where nothing around me feels real. im so scared of reality that im scared to live properly. Add on top of that im just stuck with all these existential questions about why life why this what. horrible

That clip at 3:08 was hillarious, thank you Cole 😂

Ones self, can initiate what ever it is that one needs to be done. It takes other people to help make it happen. When no one will help; it is all a dead end over and over. I am going through things where I've sought assistance to move forward with what ever. Either people flat out refuse or want to charge unrealistic fees and still claim "We/I would love to help" and are never available. The saying "Life is what you make it." Is absolute Bull. 1 + 0 does not make 2. It is What others make it for you.

This video made me smile. Thank you for not being dumb.

Nothing matters you do whatever you want just accept the cost of it

The skin care ad really, like really gave me a muted agony feeling about this video.

realize that happiness is a misguided value! seek harmony, balance - your passion will have a path of positive and negative

For me, I would say be selfish. Yes it doesn't change anything in 'the grand scheme of things', but does it change anything for you?

Don’t over think it

Was about to say someone has been reading The Mysterious Stranger

Having a first person perspective feels so alone even if im somwhere far. But how can i really face it