Needing space is all FINE and dandy but without communicating it - is where I draw the line . I don’t reads minds I need to have communication. If a person doesn’t have the respect to communicate with you, then I don’t have time for all that.
@@lalhriatpuiinutlai8309 trust me hun - you don’t need him a part of you. If a man can go a day without/ few hours without communicating- let that dusty go!
Facts mines was aqua and did not hear from him in a week then I been a grown woman and said hey how are he said sorry I went mia I been a bad friend I rather not bother u I took it as he didn’t want to mess with me anymore then I said I wish him all the best and I said I rather pursue someone since u said u don’t want to be bother with me and I felt like he wasn’t pursuing me since I haven’t seen him in three weeks or heard from him in week and whole thing came out of context I been a bigger person to apologize and didn’t want to talk so really am I wrong ?
As an aqua, I think being so guarded, and keeping feelings unseen, is what you perceive as toxic, makes things look suspicious. That being said there definitely is toxic aqua men and women, along with all other signs, and i think that prob comes from them giving in to people labeling them that way.
Scorpio sun here, ladies stay away from aqua men. On and off, up and down for no reason 🤦🏻♀️ too toxic too cold too detached, life’s too short for that BS. We worth more than that.
What Aquarius man hurt you so bad in life XD That Aquarius man wasn't detached, he just wasn't interested in you lol. Gotta be interesting enough to make us attached XD
Don't waste your time dating them or even talking to them. They are extremely selfish and you'll fare better by being their friend than a lover. Aquarius tends to treat their friends pretty amazingly. But when it comes to romance? Selfishly disgusting.
I agree. Make good friends & for conversation (rubbish for emotional relationship in general). They have no depth or warmth where it counts for romance. Its pretty weird to go from 100 to 0.
It comes across that way if you aren't in their circle. Very few people get to experience genuine consideration from aquas because of how long it takes to develop depth in a relationship with one.
@@nate5773Agreed. As a Cancer woman, I can see the Aqua man I'm interacting with considerate and action-oriented - in some ways, his consideration and action are stronger than me as a Cancer. They surely need space and very very rarely speak sweet words, but critical actions speak louder volume.
@@nate5773 Unfortunety those people wants us to open our hearts to whoever appears in our life, like they usually do, and then they get treated badly by people who didn´t even deserved to know their true emotions. people should learn with aquarius on how to hide their feeling and only wait till a deep bond is created between two people
Aquarius here. The thing is at some point in our early lives we were the most caring most loving people and wanted to build lasting friendships or even relationships…..more like partnerships. Unfortunately at some point people have seen our kindness and generosity and took full advantage of us. So after a while that warm heart has built a fortress around it. It’s not that we want to be toxic in fact we want to love we want to build with you it’s just that we will not just let anybody in. We want communication effort and above all else honesty and loyalty. Trust me when we want to love someone we love them hard. Otherwise we will simply move on.
@@Vonjamal1818 it’s not about control , it’s about having communication as an adult . For me I draw the line between disrespecting me for asking questions . But I’m glad I moved on.
Everyone has been through some sort of betrayal and trauma in their life - to different degrees. It's not just Aquarians that go through that? We haven't all had a meeting and decided to only mistreat Aquarians so the rest of us will be fine. Everyone has their own trauma. So the question and focus is rather: how can one move past that and heal and evolve? And not expect others to "obstacle course" their way through these defenses, by waiting or having to prove something, waiting some more and all the rest etc. Healthy relationships require healthy relating
Keeping up armor, avoiding learning more wholesome boundaries and communicating them, is a choice everyone makes and either stays stuck in or adapts learns new skills, trys out different methods and evolves to be able to most effectively build the relationships including cocreative collaborative partnerships with equinimity, desired. Acknowledging the fortressed walls is one thing, learning to reframe that fortress, reclaim, reassemble, tear down and redesign for the life desired, is another.
Just make them your side piece lol. If you've shown them love and affection and they act like that to you find someone else but string them along make them number 2...or 3 or 4 lol
Dam Rude wtf who wants to date a stone... No! all wrong! walking on hot ROCKS Its always Aquarius taking...... do they realise how hurtful ghosting is thats awful.
As a gemini my problem is no i am not gonna check in and no i am not gonna text back - and usually the aqua dude starts texting more. And then i throw a crumb. Rinse repeat
As an Aquarius, this works for me. It's the crumbs...they tend to be there when my mind switches back on and I feel secure enough to jump back in. I also get the message that you're good without me...kind of a challenge.
I agree I have one and at times he becomes dry and other times loving. Us gemeni need stimulation mentally etc . They just not very talkative. 😅 I think I am too much to handle and decided to fall backwards 😔 until I just don't care all to together
@@ghostsheet777 I have this problem as an aqua. One day I'm able to have an enriching conversation with someone and the next day I'm boring as hell. Honestly, we get in our own heads and try not to disappoint those around us so we just shut down and stay quiet as a defense.
Lol I'm a gemini as well ....dating an aquarious man and I literally do the very same thing. I won't check in ... I leave him be until he resurfaces and even then I may not answer right away
Cancer sun and Scorpio moon here, presently going through the ghosting with a male aquarius ♒️ I am not chasing or checking on him. I won’t let him back him in my space ever again. That’s toxic behavior which I won’t tolerate. Don’t check in - just ignore him too!
Exactly!!! I'm cancer sun & cap moon & rising. This behavior is unacceptable for me. I'm gemini venus so I get the need for independence but the random silence, aloofness & distance, even through texting (in between face to face meet ups), just won't do for me. I've raised two sons & this sounds too much like babying & coddling a grown ass man. This will not do. He's out!!!
@@lovelock1994 aquarians don't reach out once they move on. Thats what people don't understand, it has nothing to do with toxic. If you are unstable with your emotions, we will walk away, because clearly you are not mature enough to talk calmly and with reason. Aquarians have a very low treshold for emotion outburst etc, thast fine for kids, but not for anything above 18year old. Kids in +20 year old bodies today think they are mature just because of age? Nah Age means nothing. Learn to handle your emotions or be a slave to them, aquarians chose freedom always above slavery.
I think most Aquarians, male or female, are natural introverts. My brother is an Aquarius and one minute he is next to you, you look away, and before you look back into the direction he is in, poof; he's gone. He's silent and charming. He's a pretty loyal person but when he has something to do. He won't tell you what it is, he'll just vanish on you! It's annoying... But I know he'll always come back 💞 He doesn't talk much. He's more of a listener, thinker. He reminds of a doctor that asks you questions of some sort. He gives me "doctor vibes." Like he usually has his hand stroking his beard... He usually grins and sighs with a smile. He laughs here and there, but that is rare. He's a full time writer. He was almost married twice, to both of his beautiful exes, who are now married, with children. But he claims he was not ready for marriage or to be a father. He enjoys being single, as he once stated. He used to box, swim and play basketball, so he's a pretty fit guy. He's always in his own world and I look up to him so much because of how he's always bouncing back and forth to one continent to another. He's also a polyglot, of course, because of our parents being immigrants. But he is fluent in 4 other languages, outside of the one language we grew up speaking within our household. He's just inspiring. The last time we were talking on facetime, he was just completely quiet, with his head down, looking at something with immense concertation lol, then I asked him "What's on your mind?" and his response was "I don't know yet." Everything said in this video sounds like him lol
Does not work for me. I’m not insecure nor do I need validation. I understand space, but I also understand the need of the other party and there should be communication and compromise. I don’t need a 20 minute call, but a text or response is what I’m willing to compromise, needless to say I broke it off
@@fakefakefake7952girl. I will be very honest. Im the epitome of patience and forgiveness, but the way he treated ppl, my friends and others around…i dont want anything to do with Aquarius anymore. And if u r ok with this hot and cold behaviour the unsurity, u can proceed but this will be your life
Aquarius here and my last situationship-mate broke it off explaining they needed more and I made them feel tolerated vs celebrated. My "random ghosting" played a major part in their decision to end it. Now, I do try to articulate my need for autonomy and be intentional with actions of love. Trying, at least...lol Great video. 🙌🏾
I’m a Virgo who started dating an Aquarius man. This dating experience has the most ebbs and flows I’ve ever seen. We’ve been seeing each other for two months. One minute things seem good and out of no where he disconnects. We spend every week together on his days off because he works a lot!The first time he disconnected for two days and said he didn’t want to be friends. Then two days later, he was back saying he overreacted. This past week, he corrected me for being a worrier, and I haven’t heard from him since Monday. This is a lot for me😅
Yes they do that, they ghost reappear then ghost again, u need extra patience for a male Aqua, best advice I can give is if this is something your interested in pursuing when he is detached let your independence shine and focus on making you a better you, know that his detachment is NOT about you it’s how they recharge, now I’m not saying when he detached from you he is not attaching to someone else but usually that’s NOT the case they are pretty honest plus what’s done in secret usually comes to light…wishing y’all the best!!
@@jkweili I appreciate your advice. I honestly don’t think he’s seeing anyone else. I made the mistake of expressing this last night and he came with receipts and explained the situation. He’s very honest with me and he takes time to recharge but it’s never more than a day. This helps a lot! I appreciate you!
Lol hold back on revealing so much of the Virgo anxiety. It's a lot for Aquarius trust me. I'm a Virgo moon 🌙. Call your friends about your anxieties at first until he's comfortable with getting to know you. Just be funny, witty and chill with him before showing all of that.
@@Abstractthoughts007 you are exactly right! I fell back. I stopped talking and texting him, suddenly he appeared lol talking and texting, asking me to go places with him. I still talk to him, but I let him do the reaching out.
Thank you for acknowledging that the detachment stemmed from something!!! Most of the time it’s something that was said or a way of thinking! Keep in mind that an Aquarius is an open minded, Self identity respecting sign. We respect everyones’s quirks. And 👉🏾 no smothering! We value our personal time!
@@Beth5171 Everyone deserve and should have their alone time, the problem is some people enter in relationships simply to be "saved" from their own problems or even to not feel so lonely in life in general. Aquarius people just like being alone and people that also enjoy being alone, people who have a life outside the relationship. But i do undertstand this is not everybody cup of tea
they are meant for a few types of people, they know that, and some of you painfully figure that out... it comes off like immaturity but most underestimate the calculating mind of an aquaruis man... he's got long term vision and he stays there... long term or life time success takes some mental gymnastics... they just forget to take breaks and acknowledge human beings are around and can be part of the journey... if you're kind and patient, when they fall for you, it feels like flying all the time... this isn't funny but sometimes, I think of someone with a disability that they can't control... if you realized they cant and lived your life without taking things personally or like they were intentional... they will love you and show you the side that you want, all the time ... not just on and off but you have to wait a million years for it to happen 😂 so stop waiting, live your life, love yourself ❤
I started talking to an Aquarius late December, he got my number from my homeboy, we spoke he says he likes me and he was feeling my vibe ok.. we text then he goes ghost, I’ll reach out like r u ok, he do text back 2-3 days later, i texted him he could’ve had me but u f^ked up and I’m over it. That was Saturday.. I’m a move on.. I’m a Leo ♌️
I think if your confident and don’t live in fear of rejection! Understand that showing someone your willing to be vulnerable with them to allow growth ! The.Aquarius is not someone we should be be considering! That don’t operate from emotions, and having that quality but not being able to express it but instead sabotaging it to feel safe is very sad indeed . Yes they will have a life of friendship and lovers but noting that is sustainable for life as they will forever be fearing boredom or lack of losing out if they aren’t socialising ,partying or enjoying others sexually . I just cut my self off emotionally from one it was Intense we where all over each other but she just didn’t know how to tell me what she wanted or felt! It was so awkward! Yet she could willing talk to others and run from me after wanting me to hold and smother her physically ! Slow process and it felt like I was pulling g teeth! 3 steps forwards 10 steps back 5 steps forward 15 steps back ! The pull and push thing although intoxicating it’s also toxic . I had to break of the connection! She will notice it’s gone next time we meet , as I can’t keep my self soul tied to this situation . I’m setting her free to be with everyone else .!
Why do other signs expect us Aquarius to chase them? That's so arrogant to say he could've had me. That's weird getting a text from a girl you just met saying are you ok? That's clingy AF.
@@Vonjamal1818 i don’t expect nobody to chase me, I’m not a animal. He could’ve had me meaning we could’ve been chilling like hanging out. i was talking slang. Imagine texting someone everyday for a month or so then u don’t hear from them, of course imma text are u ok, i don’t know what’s going on.. That’s not being clingy that’s being concern..me and him still talk… Be safe & Enjoy your day….
I have the best advice ever for people getting the silent or breadcrumb treatment from an Aquarius. Don't do a got damn thing. Aquarius individuals are so comfortable being toxic individuals that there is no point in dealing with them unless what makes other people miserable makes you happy. This is why I think Libras or Pisces are perfect matches for Aquas, they will keep dealing with their bs and be toxic with them until it gets so bad that the aqua gets overwhelmed with the fires they created and runs away for good. Don't waste your time.... They are giving to people that don't want them.. So unless this is a Aqua chasing you because they know you don't want them.. Kiss them goodbye. Most selfish partners I've ever experienced. Stay away from aqua moon's too!
Bol funny you say that. Bc I’m a Libra and baby I dealt with an aqua recently , and I mirrored him. But I cut that shi off . It’s annoying dealing with them.
Everything you sre describing is toxic. Stop saying its not 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 . We wants to deal with nonstop hot and cold. I get everything you're saying tho! You have to real deal be okay with not hearing from them. I'll say date somebody else at the same time. Space is FINE but ongoing nonsense i think not 😂😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯
I'm Aquarius myself, so it's different he's way younger than me and I lost my childhood at a young age so that's why I was feeling him, now this young Aquarius guy likes the game
I feel like wanting to do our own thing and giving ourselves ample time to work on things independently shouldn't be considered toxic. If you want someone who's clingy and possessive then search elsewhere. I believe space is important in all relationships regardless of your sign. Aquas actually grow fonder of people when they are at a distance (true for me and some aquas in my life). Just because we aren't present in the moment doesn't mean we don't deeply care about you
I despise them and love them at the same time. When they are great I love it but that ignoring me thing pisses me off. They are so lucky to be air signs because it's easy for them to move on or change up. Ugh
Shit I ain't going nowhere if you was mine lol nah but I'm a jan 20 aquarius i detach quickly and don't even realize it...just need a partner to give me my space and understand it...I do take care of the bills and shit like that but emotionally just gotta remember to tap in
I agree my Aquarius adores me, takes care of me, we have the most intellectual conversations. Im a Sagittarius sun, rising and Aquarius moon. We're perfect for one another. @jessicahitchens6926
For an Aquarius Capricorn are the best partner no other sign can understand us better like a Capricorn does....all the other sign should stay away from Aquarius cos Aquariuses are not for fainted heart, emotional sensitive people who complaint and get mad evrytime... Aquarius dont like cry baby needy clingy wishy washy people who are desperate to be in a relationship commitment n marriage easily and last but not the least please.. Please do not rush and Aquarius for God sake!
We toxic by default mane istg😂😂😂i dont even understand my bs very aloof detached but my heart is pure as gold and i think thats what draw women in but like she said we need a little extra tlc literally.
The thing is as a sagittarius I like my space as well but what I don't like with the Aquarius man is the game like testing. I caught my Aquarius with my phone in the middle of the night and he tried to downplay it by saying someone was calling me and the light was bugging him. Lol. He apologized. I let it go but he brought it back up the next day which is why we are separated now. I left and went to my apartment. After a few months we were becoming like Martin and Gina, where as we typically end up in the same place at the end of the day. These last 2 nights have been kinda tough for me but I refuse to contact him. He tried to play me and he was wrong for the phone shenanigans then uses it to start a argument. We never argue. We actully didn't that time bc I bounced and it's crickets. I deleted him off my social media accounts as well. He said he wasn't sure about me bc the phone thing wasn't that serious. If you're not sure about me or US or this entanglement, then I need to remove myself Pronto.
Aquarius man is WILD . We already agree to be friends with benefits.. so now ….when I can’t give him more time /attention….he BLOWS UP to the point he starts being disrespectful ….. After today we won’t even having nothing because he’s too clingy , and it’s becoming disrespectful
aquarius sun here, perfect explanation. i instantly knew you understood. not a lot of people understand this/ care to act in this way. most feel it's unfair or selfish in a way.
If most see it as selfish, it's because it IS selfish. It's a unilateral decision made with no regard for the person or people you all consciously choose to bring into your personal intimate lives. The need for space & independence is fine & works great with the right partner(s).... but the silence, the aloofness & unwillingness to communicate your needs so people know what's up is just plain childish. I have never dealt with an aquarius man till now, & I see why. Never again 👎🏾👎🏾👎🏾
Trust ur intuition once someone don’t check in u check out don’t text or say anything look for someone else one thing they want you to do is chase them not me
@@rose7777😂😂😂 they are crazy people u have to have be strong dealing with their aloofness. Also they are very active posting and they dont even reply your text
Very skillful in seductive things... But it's a necessary matureness is needed cause this zodiac sign ☢️ likes to consume in quantities... My spelling is detaching error that I use sometimes
I think what i am dealing with is an Aquarius man who has falling in love with a sagittarius woman. However He has some trust issues and insecurities that need to be treated. Unlike him, i am not holding on to issues from my marriage. My ex-husband and I actually get a long and was high school sweethearts. On the other hand his ex-wife can't stand him. 😂
Dude told me he likes me he just wanna take it slow me and him kinda had an argument though and I apologized and he texted apologized back saying he got a lot on his plate and he was stressing so yea he was the last person to text should I text him back or wait for him to text me back? I’m Aquarius too by the way but I think I was suppose to be a Pisces really cause I was born a bit early
I will tell you, when a Aqua man pulls away, thank god that the worst part of your life is over coz When a Aqua man goes away its final not even the end of universe will change that I am Aqua man 38 and been trough lot of natural and mad made disasters I know more about humans and this world than anyone of you do
