What Women are Actually Attracted to: the Archetypes of Desire 

Problem for women is they don’t know what that really is. They love falling for narcissists and end up in toxic interactions that they won’t even understand even into marriages. I knew a girl who acted like I was a puppy yet she was obvious to her mentally fragile behavior and I was kind to her. She ended up with a narcissist who trauma a bonded her and doesn’t get it. So women’s arrogance of knowing what a man is and assuming one is failing as a man ends up ruining their lives because they didn’t have the patience to be humble. Think about it, how screwed up does someone have t be to say the biggest flaw and turn off for them was “he was too nice to me”. Yikes

@@heythere6983 And what about all the men who fall for narcissist women who use them for money, while avoiding the good women who care for them and respect them? The world is full of flawed confused people of both genders. But your stereotyping of women shows clearly how lonely, miserable and incapable you are of forming a satisfying relationship with another human being. With such an attitude like that of blaming the opposite sex, you will never find happiness in life. I pity you.

So is better to go for the piece of shet that portays himself as a good person than the nice guy thats a bit weaker ? If so thab stfu and dont complain when he cheats in you when he r***s you etc ....

False femininity, especially false kindness amongst women runs rampant too, and it is disgusting. And maybe the surge of it in the past decades to centuries is what has prompted the false "nice" man stereotype to surge with it. It seems logical as the first is the disguise, the derivation of a fundamentally gendered virtue whereas the second is the same but for a very secondary one when it comes to attraction and relationships. I would not be able to say for know what may have prompted this motion in women. The rope may have come a long way from the other side of the manhole, maybe even it has been running in circles, and maybe it has since the dawn of Man. I can promise you it is both disturbing and highly repulsive to see the all-encompassing taint of sickly yellow covetous greed, holing up in the eyes of a girl, passionately hiding behind the mask of purposefully empty and false sweetness, compassion and empathy. And it can be hard to decipher because these darkly dissociated girls, usually regularly feel empathy, but solely and only for themselves, or what makes them remember themselves, what they feel they can impregnate, as who they are always fade away to nothingness gradually during the process.

Look, Woman Believes in kindness and empathy when its directed tô her and probably from a person who she admire. Other than that, Woman dont offer real empathy towards man, only empty word words. Also, they only have SOME EMPATHY towards kids but not to all OF them. When things go sideways, its ALL the others fault. Its the Friend in the Workplace who was a bad Company só she got fired... ALWAYS some excuse to not bê accountable for her behaviour. Só, Man that use Woman as commodities Just see the word like most (but not ALL) Woman see. I usually try to not disrupt things and bê on the girls slide If needed but yeah. It os what It is.

I feel sorry for you..good luck in life, u Will need it

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Same 👍

Please don’t use the word daddy in a sexual context.

Like we need anymore fboiz round here 😂😮 kik roxxx son

But ordinary looking men and women may have charisma and knowledge. the humble side of personality creates a charisma. or also the goodlooking people may have this humility charisma. Humility is like a minimalism, it creates great space in mind and in life. But humility at the same times isnt about not going on beautiful vacation, humility actually gives you oportunity to enjoy the vacation, and nice stuff, because practicing humility and minimalism will wash away all the junk from your mind created by media television etc.

If you're a billionaire Shrek will do

You can be Shrek but she's going to look like Shrek too.

@@saltycat662 ur mom look like shrek

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As long as you have confidence, Shrek can pull whomever.

Yikes

Lol.

What do you mean you need a license to do that?

Underrated comment

Good one 😉 lol

The want to be desired and protected is rooted in archaic narcissism. Not reality though. Same with success being a leadership measure. That's just hypergamy. Also rooted in narcissism with always wanting more or to better than the others.

@thepope9023 dearest, I am not sure if you have noticed that the vast majority of women are smaller and weaker than the vast majority of men. It was a need to be protected and being willing to trust your protector is essential or you make things difficult for them and they may decide to give you up. It was in more primitive might makes right societies a necessity. I assume you are male and are oblivious to the vulnerability a woman feels. That you confidently assert that vulnerability makes us tend to seek safety is evidence of narcissism proves your own self centered view of reality.

@@thepope9023 it's normal for women to have the desire to feel protected by their man, what narcisism are you talking about?

@@pprsstvz 'about them'

@@pprsstvzmaybe narcissistic if they want those things without being able to be a nurturing mother to children or gentle as a home keeper.

great analogy!

The beauty and beast fairytale book he was super kind to her from the start he was never angry or mean

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lmao

the "somewhat" is fun in both ways

I agree, its evil and cowardly, I can physically do lots but I don't need it to b me. I hate bullies and was bullied, but learned boxing, got confidence and now that I love God im unstoppable. My girlfriend/kid sister type taught me a lot about being real,aka 100%of the time being myself. She was taken from me but she was a true friend and a big Big drug addict who never was mean or fake, thats my friend cassie. Lots of times she told me about guys she leads on for money. She was crazy from crack, heroin, but sober was really good at drawing. Mike from Florida

I agree with your comment and would add that Christ overcame that entropy, spiritual and physical with His resurrection. He is the ultimate form of "Man". And with Him protects and brings others with Him back up.

Amen

yeah!

Werewolf pirate

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A literal one, or will illegally streaming my sports do?

You won’t know that’s true until the fake alpha male show dissolves infront of your face when he’s faced with a real challenge

@@heythere6983 well some people have enough experience to assess others personality through their interaction with them. Not everyone is that naive...

And I like men who don't protect women.

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Had the same question for a while. The solution for me was gainig confidence and stopping continuos self doubting (still in the process actually). When you are certain about your competence and your beliefs you are not afraid to debate them. Hope it's an helpfull insight.

Simple. He knows many truths (facts if you will) thus believes firmly in their validity, THUS knows what to do or say in a particular situation. It's also what people call it "being aware". Being aware of the many things happening around you and how some things may not be as they seem which you attain through life experience. It's also why mommy and daddy always seem to know what's best for you and why you should respect your elders. Knowledge or better yet wisdom is power, never forget that.

More like capable to be the bad guy but willing to be kind.

@@archanvaya5520 yeah

I say you can be the fun guy.

I think you will find some form of it cross culturally. Not a perfect one-for-one, but similarities.

definitely believe it's cross-culturally and historically the case since there are so many tales or what not of these types of archetypes, thus concluding it's in our nature.

Yup, regardless of whatever fantasy she has, it always has something to do with a pretty boy.

Or Han Solo

You would be surprised

Did you know that Tyson Fury was voted by women the sexiest athlete alive over the likes of Ronaldo, Brady, and Joshua?

​@@Littlemangoneinsaneno he wasnt. Where ever you got this, its 100% wrong.

That’s the right thing !

Why on Earth are there so much works to do to get just a normal genuine human being? What does a woman do in her side to grow up? If I were a man, I’d rather give up than have do that much responsibilities which originally belongs to her parents and herself. 😂😂😂

🙌🏽🙌🏽 and you only need one woman!

Lead by example

arouse?

Kinda weird this is the top comment but ok

@@Spractral Please explain what is "weird" about advocating for men's health and safety. Petersons audience is largely young men... the most vulnerable for the scenario I warn against... being at the mercy of a system biased against men. I think you need to reconsider your inaccurate statement and be grateful you are not in the clutches of a legal system biased against men. Men, be safe!

@@mgu1N1n1 nah I'm good

damn dude, if I may know, what happened?

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@@CJRelationshipConsulting what's your deal? lol

Why should he limit himself merely because of the attention he gets for spcific topics rather than spend his time of what he find interesting and useful? I am not saying the interest of the audience is of no importance but i am sure he will calibrate his output to what he deems appropriate well enough on his own. Did he block you on Twitter?

@@Humanaut. JP is just out of his league when he talks about stuff he doesn't know about, which diminishes his legacy when he's already such an extreme expert at things relating to psychology. No point in giving ammunition to his opponents or making himself more hated than he already is.

@@Amorphous_SandYes, he’s pretty mediocre when he starts talking about climate change, economics, Israel, and international politics in general.

He or his assistants blocked me on IG when I suggested he talks to Norman Finkelstein.

@@Amorphous_Sand Agreed.

Um

Yeah but they also openly support a lot of idiotic ideas, you don't have believe the propaganda about them to dislike them.

You can get some insight by looking into romance novel statistics. From one site: ~80% are women, the majority between 18-54. ~60% are married or living with a partner. Regardless, you probably shouldn't start working to become a werewolf or pirate.

Please don't actually become a pirate or a werewolf 😅

Just look at all the married women who read or went to see 50 Shades of Grey.

There's no good visual porn for woman, its so hard to find something actually good, plus, personality adds a lot of points to the attraction, i watched a lot of shows where I didnt think anything of the "handsome guy" at first and then as the episodes go by im like "damn hes handsome" cause of his personality (and appearance ofc), porn doesnt care much about personality but wattpad fics make me cringe so f me i guess

I’m engaged after a 4 year relationship (getting married in October, we were waiting for financial security). I believe a very happy and fulfilling relationship both sides. I personally didn’t feel comfortable with anything too “spicy “, but I certainly read romantic novels, and still do on occasion to wind down after stressful patch, everything is always just and the good guy/girl wins in the end. What I’d share is consumption goes down but not type, while in a successful relationship. This is representative across friends I’ve spoken with, regardless of the “spicy ness “ of the book. Which would suggest the archetype stands for the majority. I’m actually living the archetype story in some ways which amuses me, my fiancé used to be have issues, as did I. We both helped each other grow, both strong in different ways, and I think that’s what the stories share, helping each other grow into our best and complete selves.

1 Affection. Despite what media tells you.. men long for tender affection, love and support. This is often confused/misconstrued with sex. But to men its alot more than just sex. Everyone has taken this away from us but its true. A real man doesnt walk a soft path and so we long for a soft touch. 2 Loyalty. A good man is a loyal man. Loyalty is becoming more and more rare. The divorce rate is over 50% and a mans biggest fear is being alone. The justice system is very biased against men and this can be very scary for a real man thats worth his salt. Most men have a lot to lose when stepping into a marriage or a relationship. Trust is the foundation. 3 Beauty. The media would have you believe men are pigs and all they care about is a hot body. However its so untrue. A vibrant charismatic women is beautiful. A big genuine smile is beautiful. It's not a mystery that women are attracted to men with money because the money solves alot of problems. So a guy throwing money around can be very attractive to a woman and honestly that's okay. Its not a mystery that a woman that can cook/clean/nurture that has a big smile and exudes positivity and support is extremely beautiful to a man because it solves a lot of problems. I hope this helps... it was from the heart. Men are not as horrible as everyone makes it seem. Alot of men are out here treating money like a cheat code. Keep in mind most men driving sportscars and big trucks and spending all this money on outfits and jewelry are actually broke as fuck and cant even afford this shit. We only do it to impress women. Men are incredibly stupid we will do anything to impress you. Dont be fooled by shiny things. 90% of the time its all a lie. We just cant help ourselves. It doesnt make us horrible people.

facial beauty, youth, purity, sweetness, humbleness, stability, loyalty shyness and submission are generally favored as well...

you misunderstood the point to be honest. He’s not talking about popular like “oh everyone wants to be them or hang around them” it’s the popular of that everyone is aware of you and knows you you are. Context.

Definitely

Most surgeons have a psychopath traits to be able to cut open people and see people’s flesh and bones. To most people that would be gross and nerve wrecking to do. Psychopaths can work under those conditions because their natural calm.

This is literally the opposite of my type, had it, got over it now I LITERALLY find this trope repugnant

​@@mariannehavisham8323 you had your fun now its time to settle down 😂😂

​@@marcoslightspeed5517yep. She got railed by these guys and now she wants a nice soft guy who carries her

@@marcoslightspeed5517yup she wants the be*a mal* now to take care of her.

This has got to be a troll post there's no way that you genuinely believe that women are not geared towards lying. Especially when it comes to attracting a mate and forming a relationship.

@@shouldntbepublic2925 or she's lying to us haha

Both men and women have the capacity to lie, I would assume, it’s not all on women. Both want to impress to get the one they want and think is most suitable.

woman lie so much more than men it’s not even a contest. they just call it ‘doing what it takes to get their way’ so they don’t feel bad about doing it

women are insane prone to lying lmao

That's old and tired, it is clear as day...life came first so ...life creates art to imitate life, either as we wish it or as it is

Art must imitate life to be impactful.

Both

Our personal decisions that culminate in life happening around us come from the same unconcious realms that inspire art

It doesn't sound like airpods, His mic is probably off screen. Go off your ears, not your eyes.

Hes using the ear pods for his own audio

Audio sounds perfectly fine how it is

He _has_ a top mic - notice the sound of his voice changing as he moves in his chair leaning forward, leaving the spot where the mic picks up best.

@@geemail369 Yes I noticed the sound change as well. I was wondering about it. Perhaps it’s my eyes impacting my ears. I’ll admit, that may be a problem.

I don’t want a Gaston. I want a strong man who can protect and Gide me through life

That's what the script says you should say at this moment but the reality is that men like Gaston always get the woman regardless of what women say they want. So someone is definitely lying and those lies cannot be hidden anymore, the jig is definitely up; it's just that most men do not want to accept it especially the one's who believed it. @@brightspacebabe

​@@siyabongampongwana990Research shows multiple times that women certainly doesn't desire the "Gaston" types of men, who they really desire are men with the "Beast" archetype, that's why shows like werewolf & vampires are so popular among women around the globe...

The research is incorrect, biased, and usually written to validate the people who wrote them at that time, and the people who wrote them were men who were unattractive men who weren't popular with the ladies. If you're willing to engage and have the patience we can have this back and forth and I can give my case with evidence and facts and you can do the same. And we let the facts speak for themselves. Edited: And the Beast, werewolf, and vampire thing is the whole dominance thing, the big dick part that these so called scientific and objective researchers don't want to admit, and when confronted with that fact they trivilize that part because of their insecurities, they find ways to go around it. What's a monster without a monster dick? Huh? But I'm not saying something that cannot be provenand that is not real. It is real and I can definitely prove it(consistely). But the question is, are you willing to go down that nasty rabbit hole and will you accept it for what it is when you do come face to face with it. And I think we are doing a disservice to mankind by lying to men because that is what ends up making them angry and filled with rage because if we tell the truth right from the start then they would learn to live with their inadequacies and most likely get over their insecurities, but most of all they will understand and eventually accept that truth, just like everything that you live long enough with. But no women and men who are indenial choose to lie to men but men still have these questions and reality is confirming these facts that they fear to confront and we go and confuse and enrage them further by lying, and then you end up with a bunch of angry misogynistic men who hate women for wanting the things that women are supposed to want, and you wonder about where the abusive language "filthy #%$*...." and hate comes from. I mean you've been lying to them and painting this perfect picture which is not true all along kind of like The Picture of Dorian Grey now that I think about it. But this cycle will only stop once we accept the truth, which seems to be coming out now since it is the information age. A lot of things are being exposed and being held to the fire could say it's the last days. the last days for the lies that is. @@mindhunter8772​

Gaston stands no chance against the beast. Dude got a entire castle with tons of servants, he's also a werewolf with "issues" Women just love to tame a beast. Never think women are innocent, gentle creatures. They enjoy the thill of the hunt just as much as men. Nay infact when it comes to romantical hunting, their love junkies who want to chase the dragon. It's a man's job to initiate the relationship. But afterwards, don't expect to be the hunter. Your now the prey to the ultimate huntress.

You shouldn't have to be trying to "keep" someone who swore vows in front of everyone to be loyal to you til death. This is exactly why men don't take marriage seriously anymore -- the woman can just break her vows 20 years into it, for any reason.

This is stereotyping to another level..

You obviously have never heard of nuance!

Amen

Amen

Pimpin the shit out of those electrons

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@HornedGod66 just you know forgetting queer women exist and actually some degree of sexual fluidity is really pretty common among women. Just feel like this video plays into a lot of harmful and unhealthy tropes and stereotypes Heeronormative means the assumption that everyone is straight and cis and erasure of queer folk. Bisexuality is statistically common with women (to at least some degree) far less common with men. Statistically gay men massively outnumber lesbians. Bisexual women massively outnumber lesbians and gay men. Like there are more bi women then gay men and lesbians put together. There are relatively few bi men statistically. Men apparently are TYPICALLY a lot more binary in terms of sexuality (straight or gay) women are typically a lot more fluid in terms of sexuality (there are a lot of bi women)

​@@mariannehavisham8323well thats because only 7.5% of the population identifies as something other than straight. There are other channles on this app if you need lessons on your specific minority group

heteronormative is the norm contrary to your internet brainwashed perspective so yah, you can talk from a heteronormative perspective and still be speaking to the vast majority of people on the planet. go find something that deals with your specific interests , but don’t expect regular people to keep their mouth shut unless what they’re about to say applies to every single tiny demographic available, otherwise nothing could be said, ever, bc there is nothing that applies to everybody.

Heteronormative because hetero is literally the norm, the majority, by a huge margin and always has been. M + F = new life. You guys shriek about democracy, well, the majority has it on this by a huge stretch.

They know more than you know about yourself kiddo

@@Dr.Caliber sounds like they haven’t listened to the guy, tate turned my life around more than jordan Peterson ever did despite reading both his books

Scroll along.

I do. I've literally been alone most of my life.

and die virgin or having barely any sex while idiots get girls left and right, yeah

There is something very easy and simple to deflect in Jordan Peterson’s logic and reasoning. It’s always been very easy for me to counter his stances and arguments.. Yet, so many people listen to him and for them, he is a pilar of support - one that can move them in any direction.

there is a difference between fantasy and attraction, one does not negate the other..stay open minded

So Mr Peterson has spent his life researching such things, but some guy on RU-vid with very little connection to women says he's wrong. No actual evidence, of course, just a cool crisp "trust me bro".

Biological woman here. Dr JBP is correct. Immature females might prefer softer, less masculine features. Biologically speaking, they are perceived as less of a threat because they are still developing as human beings. However, feminine women in their sexual prime want masculine men (ie: tall, strong, rugged features), not effeminate ones. It's biologically hardwired. Same as masculine men preferring classically feminine features (ie: larger breasts, "child bearing" hips, etc).

Yeah Jordan is a liar bro and what's worse is that he has deeply and extensively thought about the things he lies about so he knows when to lie and how to lie about them, and add the fact that JBP is very articulate -everything he says makes senses when he says it, but making sense and being right and true are two different things. He is just a sophist. You have to really pay attention to catch JBP out.