What Women Really Look for in a Partner | Sarah Hill 

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks

You wont regret it

Exactly it’s culture too where are they from. ? ❤

Agree!

what is mental and emotional security?

​@@debrawehrly6900that they can feel safe to share their emotions, and that you have control over yours. That you won't flip out over some bullshit, and that they can depend on you if they ever do

main reason why women are very reluctant to date immigrant men

Unless he flexes with great resources, then women will start to break rules

Thank You for not looking for sex and instead value your date as a Human Being and not an object just for sex.

What a sad and lame story.

Yeah, preselection is huge for women cause they are intellectually lazy

​@@sheriwilliams8942if Chad objectifies you, you don't care. You even prefer it. Hypocrites

@@keylanoslokj1806bruh got some insecurities. Yoo lay down low for a bit, you reek of this loser energy right now.

Junkie with a 304 daughter.

This is why he's the only most successful senior within the top youtubers with the highest revenues.

lol yes

he is clearly a hack

Some guy who's gonna be reasonably angry his whole life because she wants it now and we could delay biology

😂😂😂

Where is ma salvage boi😂

Bro you are born opportunist

@@darshankumar5926 normie men tend to string along around Chads to get some breadcrumbs of pussy. It's an old tactic. Of course as an outsider of this culture it only gives me cringe, but logically makes sense from their perspective

sus home situation ages 17-20

no, there just has to be a worthy prize for hard work, else men flounder out because it stops being interesting. working towards something and improving over time feels a lot better than "just" getting it.

@@juhae8164 That’s interesting! Do you think we celebrate victory because it encourages further victories, and encourages those who celebrate to achieve something so they can later be celebrated? It’s interesting to think if there was no admiration for success, none would bother to overachieve.

​@@JohnstonJack3318 yup, rising tide lifts all boats. think less "i also want to be celebrated" and more "this person did something great. if everyone was like this person (in this certain discipline), the world would be a better place (or our team would be better), so i strive to be like them". of course there's always envious people and high ego people but they don't make it far if their teamplay sucks.

Interesting.

@@juhae8164I disagree with you and agree with the original commenter. You imply at an individual’s core, he’s focused on the group. I disagree…I think at his core he is focused on himself. At the end of the day, men want to reproduce. If a man could have all the women in the world with no repercussions(such as being ganged up on by lesser competent men or needing to rely on those men to survive) he would. As long as the group is functioning, I don’t necessarily think men want every man to be hypercompetent, and if so, THEY would want to be the MOST hypercompetent. At the end of the day, men care about reputation and status. So when men celebrate another man and showcase his competence to women, other men would want the same treatment. ALSO showcasing a competent man who’s in your circle also has benefits for YOU as the video mentioned the “reflective glory” and what not.

Forget what women want. Flip the coin.

You are correct. And this is just one of the many reasons one should try to be competent in multiple areas. If some of nerds got in better shape they’d have higher chances of finding a woman. The physical attractiveness can be improved too. Exceeding in only one area limits our potential.

It's also true for women too. Being a complete toad with a caustic personality is not the selling point that it's made out to these days. Sure, you can claim 'strong independent wahman' status but you get to do it by yourself.

There is reason to believe that most markers for 'attractiveness' are health markers. A sickly, underfed child becomes asymmetrical, twisted, short, and thin, while a strong, healthy one becomes tall, square-shouldered (or curvy, depending on your sex), and straight. A lot of these traits are heritable, so it's completely understandable that both men and women would seek them out even if they don't understand why they are doing so. This hurts those individuals who lose themselves in the world of the mind because their focus on the non-physical can result in them getting that sickly appearance, even when it is not their genetic heritance. Another way to phrase this is that losing yourself too much in the world of the mind is, itself, a kind of sickness. A nerd who is not only smart but also wise can be taught that in addition to the books, he also needs to hit the gym. He may not care in such superficialities as whether he is pale and covered in cookie crumbs, but it is a means of communication if he leaves those symptoms there for anyone else to see. In the end, the body is the vehicle for the brain, and a neglected body can become a liability no matter how powerful the brain inside it is. If this were explained to more nerds, I don't doubt that a lot less of them would be quite so nerdy.

@@illbeyourmonster1959 And most of the women who tried to be “strong and independent” tend to regret not getting married because of the loneliness.

I strongly disagree. If you are the most competent guy in the world, in something useful, that undoubtedly translates into some infinite benefit for her.

And then there men like me who can get hot women with no social circle. Because I have all the attributes of an alpha, but I’m. Not following any man, but I’m not trying to lead anyone anywhere. I’m self proficient and competent. Social circle is overrated. Most of the traditional “ alpha” guys end up with average women considering their competence and vast social circle. Your physicality and looks matter more then you think.

It is part of the human animal instinct. It is not some social decision that a person creates.

I'm a web developer. You have no clue how true that statement is. Or maybe you do but either way, super fucking accurate. It is entirely about who you know.

Yes but that’s after physical attractiveness

Call it transactional relationship require reciprocity or your'e a s$imp.

@@nateoliver3285 Incorrect, depends who you have in mind, in my life I have seen many attractive people dating non attractive people, by yet gain someone's standards i guess, but the people I'm thinking of, we're attractive but also had a brain, they wanted security and calmness not partying all night and needless spending, so they dated anyone who posseted the traits of security, emotionally, financially, not somebody rich, but somebody simply willing to earn money by just having a job. Honestly, everyone who parrots the word ''attractiveness'' is often seen as a 1 faced person, who would very likely be hell to be around and all those people i spoke of would say, i'd rather date my husband, who may have a chubby face, then a miserable idiot, trying to drag everybody else down with him, with his unhealthy taste. Looks literally fail, so this logic only works if you are going for a 1 night stand logic, movies showing you 1 version over and over again, is not facts.

Interesting.

😂😂😂 You’re fooling nobody.

Real world examples?

With great power comes great responsibility.

@@toomuchinformation Pretty much any situation where a group chooses someone to be their leader whether it be in sports, business, government, warfare, or any other endeavour. The leader is chosen and granted favors and privileges under the condition that he protects the group from the dangers of losing / bankruptcy / unemployment / death, etc. For example, a US President is made to swear with an oath upon his inauguration: "I will to the best of my ability, preserve, protect and defend the Constitution of the United States."

​@anonbattler Too bad those president’s don't actually have to live up to that oath, per the example of ConAll Dump. He has even talked about throwing the Constitution into a garbage can, and yet he is stilllll way ahead in the polls. I guess never underestimate the power and sway of a cult leader. Speaking of which, it would be verrrrry interesting to hear a discussion between these two as to how a cult leader fits in with all that they are talking about.

Yeah, but I’m the pool boy

What ?

Bingo, by having the best Men on your “team” the team benefits and the individual’s benefit.

or how about the approximate one third of women who simply divorce their man and steal over half of his wealth ?

1. Divorce rates are sky high for lesbians, lower for traditional couples, and are the lowest for gay men. 2. Divorce is most initiated by women and the chance you're divorced when you lose your job when you're a man increases but a woman that loses her job is at no increased risk of her man initiating a divorce. Women care about what you can do for them. They don't care about YOU.

Most of the time, yeah. Most men who lose their money lose themselves. Their entire personhood collapses into brutish vice, and they don't pick up again. You're primarily talking about gold diggers, which is foolish of you to focus on, especially because that's not what Peterson is talking about. Your contention within the framework Peterson is talking about doesn't recognize that losing significant wealth usually is because something of competence went wrong OR it reveals the man was never competent to begin with. After the money is gone things get worse. Married couples who were destitute from the start ALSO struggle despite him having married her while having nothing, which happens ALL the time. You'd actually have to content for the fact that women marry below financial stability for love ALL THE TIME. So there are gold diggers, that everyone knows is only in it for the money, and the man agrees to that arrangement. There are women who learn that the money was luck--not competence. There are couples who break up due to the stress of financial problems after loss. There are couples who don't break up despite the stress of financial loss. Your bad attitude is pungent.

Men like him want to believe it. So they don't have to realize some uncomfortable truths about a lot of women

Competence of women is a major factor. Not all women can recognise high potential partner (even after being with one).

The police in my town would literally do nothing to a woman who was showing up screaming, threatening, and creating disturbances over and over UNTIL a restraining order was put on her, and then they would arrest her for violating the restraining order. And it's not terribly hard to get one. People just need to know about it. Thanks for spreading the word!

I had actually considered hiring a catholic priest to perform an exorcism on my baby momma! I had changed her name from XXX to Lucifer on my cellphone. I was unable to find anything on it on the internet at the time, circa 2014.

You should actually do it as a precaution every time you want to break up with her just in case. This is precaution for most women not calling out all of the me too women.

@@A.J.C.000.1 have fun in prison

I have to say good on you for coming out. I happen to be a self made successful female outside of that. I am aware there are abusive women out there and had a male friend always black and blue I shit you not. There are man beaters out there but men are often to embarrassed or ashamed to admit what they are dealing with or fail to realize the toxicity they are experiencing isn’t healthy. I’ll end this note with one wish for all deserving men . That you figure out a way to respect honour and Love yourself single or not. There is nothing more attractive to me than that! If you can master those 3 things than you wouldn’t have to listen to JP and if your in a toxic relationship contemplating restraining orders then you didn’t honour respect and love your inner self to be in that position to start with.

that's nice, but who is Paterson?

This comment thread made me laugh more then I would expect 😂

@@billmoyer3254 Yordan Pederson's friend

Dr Peterson is selling a cuck philosophy. Abstain from Ho's. Go on a journey. Find your strength and Marry someone who noticed you on your journey when you we're nothing. Don't be afraid to die alone because some Men are born to die in battle and other's are born to eat pussy 😂❤ If she doesn't love you when you are nothing she will won't love you when you have everything!

You're not the only one with RU-vid comments freezing your phone. This was never an issue until a RU-vid upgrade over a month ago. RU-vid really needs to pay attention and look into this. I used to love RU-vid for the ease of the entire experience, but part of the experience is comments, and this bug in the RU-vid platform is very isolating.

​@@Taldaranit happens only on Jordan Petersons posts

It's a good old teaching strategy where the main goal is communicating your ideas to others so that they come to understand those ideas..

In a finite conversation, the point is to 'win' and force the other person to shut up. In an infinite conversation, the point is to spark other ideas in other people, who can then contribute and spark other ideas in you. Once you understand this, you can see those different kinds of conversations occurring in different situations and see what people are after. A lot of people become frustrated because they're trying to have an infinite conversation and are forced into a finite one by their partner.

@@Mereologist I'm past that, not that you asked.. At this point.. Leaning on the old school information... Bitches ain't shit nor is anyone without Jesus blood and some form of death wish

Interestingly put!

Dr Peterson is selling a cuck philosophy. Abstain from Ho's. Go on a journey. Find your strength and Marry someone who noticed you on your journey when you we're nothing. Don't be afraid to die alone because some Men are born to die in battle and other's are born to eat pussy 😂❤ If she doesn't love you when you are nothing she will won't love you when you have everything!

For me, humour, kindness and thoughtfulness are essential.

@@dominicekezie2011 I see your point. It seems to me, though, that for most of human history wealth was not correlated with the capacity to work at all. It was actually a sign of high status to not work. So wealth as a proxy for hard work or skilled work is quite a recent phenomenon. The idea that the wealth would dry up is also a fairly recent phenomenon. For nobility, in many instances (let's name Caligula in ancient Rome and king Farouk in the 20th century) a lavish and even wasteful lifestyle meant no jeopardy whatsoever to their wealth.

@@Thucydides460 99% of women have a predilection to competent men. Only a very small number women view men from a physical point of view. The real issues with modern society is that women do not have the same skills at spotting competency. And men have poor skills at presenting competency. Too many men assume that technical knowledge that is argued will present that competency.

Competence and social skills without looks arent enough either.

Gotta be a good blendini of it all

Wasn’t much of a “challenge.” They didn’t even disagree

Exactly 🎉

it's your relative status compared to those around you. The guy making $10,000 a year in a third world country where the avg salary is $1,000/year IS the wealthy powerful person.

Fascinating

damn, thats quite sad..

that is interesting and tragic

But are you really autistic or are you considered to be on the spectrum. Look at yourself and examine are you competent, stable and capable of adapting. You may not have all of those lined up but they are behaviours that can be worked on. Do you have a career?

Funny of you to think non autistic people understand it.

​@@serban2139what you said ✔️

Hang in there honey. I met my now husband when I was well into my 30s and he was 40.

You need to find someone who is also autistic, although women have very different presentation

Now back to biological reality.

@@Art-is-craft what is unreal about what I said? It is biology that women are drawn to confident men. Chasing a woman shows desperation and lack of confidence.

@@impudentdomain Biology has men competing.

@@Art-is-craft men compete in the marketplace and in sports sure, and you can say passively compete through looks etc. But trying to impress a woman more than the other dude is, like I said foolish. Even if you win out, what sort of prize did you win ? A shallow woman who will try to mess up your life.

Agree! And you need to love and support them equally.

Wealth is an indicator of hardwork and having power over society, which is a product of competence. So transitively it can be concluded that women use wealth as a criteria for deciding competence.

I would say feel it out, but don’t put too much energy into trying to build a relationship at that age. Sacrifice your time and energy to build yourself and get ahead. The relationship can Come later

If you are taking actions towards getting to where you want to go, a good woman will see that and be attracted to your motivation and drive to create financial stability and emotional safety for her and your potential future family.

You are 18 and have plenty of time. You still have some growing up to do. Grow some confidence, learn and establish yourself. This is what I told my now 26 year old son.

Believe in yourself man and recognize what makes you unique - your talents and passions… she will see this and admire you for walking your own path. Trust your instincts!

Pienter! Hello! I just wanted to say that first, you're value and worth are not determined by a woman's opinion of you OR your professional status and quality of living. The only thing that defines you truly are the words of your creator who says you're fearfully and wonderfully made. Jesus our Lord paid the ultimate price on the cross just to have a relationship with you. The whole world itself can't even measure up to how valuable you truly are. This is first and foremost. Secondly Pienter, at 18 years old, there is so much that you can do and become. I'm 19 now and even though there is a road paved for me by God to succeed in abundance in the medical field for his glory and purposes, it will still take years to unfold. This is such with our dreams and visions. At 18 (and even 18-25 approximately) you are in the golden years of a young man or woman to build themselves into not just materialistic success with a respectable career (employed at a high level or self-employed). You are at the point where you need to understand you can do so much more because you can BE so much more. It's the period of growth, change, accountability, discipline, how you choose to genuinely approach life in this world, and how you choose to impact others. Remember BECOMING the man that you; 're meant to be is more important than DOING the things he'd do. A genuine woman who is worth your salt (yes worth your salt because remember, you're incredibly VALUABLE the same way everyone else is) and is a woman that you could reasonably pursue at this time will understand your mission, vision, and the direction you're headed and SUPPORT you and bring out the BEST in you as you with her. If she doesn't respect and admire you enough to walk in that direction with you, she wasn't meant to be YOUR woman, and you lost NOTHING because many REAL wonderful women will see you for more than your current success, they'll see who you really are and how you're pursuing the path you're on (but regardless of who enters your life, you must still pursue this)

Women in college are in their "discovering themselves" phase, they just want short term fun. When they get older and the biological clock starts ticking, they "realize" what traits are desirable in a long term mate -- once they've had their fun, then they're ready to get serious.

It is not a natural system which makes it easier for a person to make a mistake with when under pressure.

Most women spend a ton of time, money and effort trying to maximize their attractiveness and take care of themselves, way more than we men do. We shouldn't discount that.

True but most guys would agree that the amount of time and money they spend on their physical appearance has heavily diminishing returns. They could dial it way back and it would still have a lot of value. Same with men. Men could afford to up their game when it comes to increasing their physical appeal and fashion sense. Also, women will often be the first to tell you they don't do it for a man so even discussing this is just inviting vitriol from the perpetually offended

@@jonnysongs No, they spend a lot of effort on fakeup and deceiving the potential victim. Big difference. 2 lbs of makeup plastered on her face is just an analog version of app filters.

​@@alterego157wow... you sound hurt. I hope you're doing better. Go camping or bush walking. Meet some women who are into that scene. No make up there. I wish you kind regards.

​@@jenA9026 I am. Reading it now, that sounds really bad. Thank you for being patient and kind. People like you make this world a better place. I'll try to do better.

OMG🤣 best comment!

@@lostieaddict gotta swim in their wake

That's what I was thinking. Elevating the group elevates yourself as well.

At your age, the potential for what you can bring, is important. Perhaps, more so than when you’re in your late 20’s or 30’s. That and the ability for her to feel like she can connect with you, and have a fun/interesting time. Basically, what I mean is that try to create (naturally) shared experiences that can make her feel emotionally connected to you beyond your looks, material possessions, words, etc. That emotional connection, if genuine and authentic is powerful. Show her your passions. Show her you have goals in mind, and the steps you are, or are planning to take. Show her you have opinions and perspective. Show her you also care about her passions, interests, goals even if they may not exactly be the same as your’s. Be yourself above all. Do not forget who you are as you do any of the above, and be sure to care for yourself first. If you bend at her every will without self respect she will know, and it will backfire. And if you ever feel a time is right to take the next step ask her out, in a casual and friendly manner. It’s all easier said than done, but at your age each moment is chance to test and hone your grit and pain tolerance for life. So even if all else fails, know that you have grown stronger mentally through it. Good luck.

They still do this today. Enter Micheal Sartain & Men of Action

But how long do the relationships last?

these days, such behaviour could attract women who are looking for wealth or material security over a real compatible partner

So long as you offer that grace in return, I'm good with this comment of yours.

Ikr 😂 that’s called simping and it’s not attractive for women either but if u do it for ur self it will be more attractivee

Cold hearted fact

She is tackling her competition.

🤣🤣

Maybe because higher compensation for a man means he has more options/free radicals/distractions at his disposal?

Well, you answered your own question. They go for money and JP's babbling about competence is nonsense.

It's security that women want. If you have few resources (money), then she will see you as dangerous to her survivability. It's cold and selfish, but that's nature.

That is more or less what they are talking about but here is also a reproductive aspect it as well

"Women" are not all one thing at all. We are individuals. Some are fickle. Many are not. Age pays a huge factor too. I probably was fickle in my early 20s but no more so than many of my male friends. And personally, I'm very glad that after certain legislation that came in (in my country) when I was about 20, I had options. Before then, I could be denied a bank loan or a job simply because I'm female. Unlocking the potential skills and economic potential of 51% of the population was essential for the economic success of the country, good for GDP etc. But many still want to find life partners and to procreate. Personally I wanted that partner not to be threatened by my "emancipation". And I found him. Married 27 years, 2 kids, 2 grand kids.

Great Answer, Jen & happy for you & your family. Lately our society elevates Dog Moms while discouraging those who otherwise might prefer to become Traditional Wives & Mothers