@@MsCoolGeminiI’m a Gemini and I am very introverted! I do very very much so desire to go out and meet people more. I have it in me, it just hasn’t been ignited yet!
Great information Mr. Gaskins! Another reason that people don’t often consider is that sometimes it’s just not your season to be found. Singleness serves a purpose within itself; there might be some things God may want you to complete or have established before you are married, and that can be another reason why people are not found.
I believe that's where I'm at right now. My career is finally going the right direction and I've received so many accolades this year. 2024 will be a very busy year with me with me traveling for work, going to conferences, networking. If my husband is at these conferences please reveal him and let him see me.
Amen ❤❤❤ sometimes we are hidden by God for protection & because He is still working on us because he reveals us who we are supposed to be married to. ❤️❤️ every season serves a purpose
If you’re in a corporate environment, go outside the office for lunch. Local events, church events. I get approached often but it’s because I’m polite and men think I’m flirting. A smile can go a long way.
I'm fine being single and concentrating on myself. I don't feel the need to prove that I moved on by dating someone else. I moved on and I love myself and im single. And I'm celibate. Thanks for the input though.
Definitely, this video is great advice for women asking how to be approached. People are all in different seasons. I think it's great many women are content single, but are open and on the lookout to meet someone for marriage. I also think it's great some women are single and content as they are.
Woman need to gain the habit of looking good just because do it for yourself sis y’all feel better!! Think about when a man walks by you and smells so good 😊 be that girl for him 💕
Recently I went to the grocery store, and I was told I’m glowing just from a simple compliment that put a smile on my face. I am also learning we have to stop looking so serious and put a smile on our face. At least a smirk lol. That will allow a man to approach you. Walking upright, wearing an unforgettable scent that’s soft. And not being on your phone or holding your head down. Walk confidently. ❤ and when someone compliments you, always say thank you. Make direct eye contact. And be soft spoken. DO NOT be on the phone with it on speaker or talking loud. A man cannot stand a loud woman. Move graciously. If he compliments you, compliment him. Find something quick lol ❤ I’m learning to step outside my little bubble
I’m guilty of this. I am a homebody and love being home. I’m an older woman who spent her ‘20’s out in the streets and clubs going everywhere but you’re right I may be set in my ways. In 2024 I will get out more.
Yep spent my ‘20’s and ‘30’s going everywhere and having fun. I did all that and got it out my system. Now that I’m older I pretty content staying home majority of the time however I would like to meet a nice older man who I can spend time with but the way these dating streets are set up geesh!!! It’s crazy the mindset of men. It’s definitely different than when I was younger.
Definitely me. I did the clubs & other WORLDLY things before I was of legal age. Fake IDs were the rage in my late teens. Lol! After my 40s, I became a young grandmother and an active worshipper but a social homebody. Now in my mid 50s, I spend most of my time caring for my parents.
Same! I was always outside in the clubs but now that I’m in my early 30’s I want to get out more but in mature spaces. It’s hard because I do WFH FT and I do have a PT job so I pretty much work 7 days a week😖 if anyone has any ideas on how to get it out or ideas on where to go please let me know. ✨
Simply, these men today want to be pursued Tony! They have been told they are the prize by these online podcasts. These men want to be courted, door held open for them and all.
@@dii-N-sd I laughed but it really is sad that that sassy and selfish spirit is amongst a good number of our brothers. It is real and the worst part about it is that they are ten toes down in their feminine mentality.
There’s a lot of podcasts for men telling men not to approach women and let the women approach them. They are telling them to work out and get in shape, wear suits, dress and look nice, wear a gold chain, have hair cut and facial hair trimmed, put on cologne, etc, and go to a place that looks like they are accomplished and let the women approach them. I see some men doing this. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been getting approached by men, but I say it’s 50/50 because I also see a lot of men taking this approach of looking nice, staring women down, but not approaching, and waiting for women to approach them. I do not recommend women approach them tho. IJS that’s half of the reason why women aren’t getting approached, and that is a reality currently.
These podcasts are training men to be manipulators and play mind games. Just by the nature of women, a woman should stay in her feminine role and be a lady and a man should stay in his masculine role and be a gentleman. I let them do the chase but I am polite and considerate when I talk to them.
This is so true! I remember this happening to me a couple of times! One guy was trying to stare me down and actually caught my attention, because he was very attractive. After a good 30 seconds of looking at each other, he tilted his head like, you gone come over here or what? I knew then he was full of himself! Boy bye!
I never shop. But because of TG, today I went with my big sis shopping today and she knows labels and style and left with 1 long cardigan, 1 holiday sweater, and 1 bold colored tunic. Last week I bought a dress and ordered 2 sweaters on Shein - first time ordered through them. So I’m trying to update my wardrobe and look more modern and presentable🎣
When I went outside my chances increased 100%. Sure the wrong people asked me out 🤣, but that showed me that's the only way people will see you and get to ask you out.
😂 I just moved to a new city and I'm an introvert, smh. I got so frustrated I got mad one night and created a FB just for this area and sent out random requests lol. This man jumped in my inbox and surprisingly we clicked😂We video chatted and talked on the phone and I told him my bday is coming up He took me out for my birthday❤ He took me to a seafood restaurant and then took me to the movies. We had so much fun and enjoyed eachother. I'm so glad I did that. He's a whole vibe and just an all around great man. I'm so glad I did that lol!❤
@@PbnJAMilah Thank you! Girlll, I did! I was shocked lol. The way we were acting, if you didn't know us, you would think we were a whole couple🤣Like we just clicked and everything was so natural❤️We're going to a comedy club on Sunday. This man opened my door, I didn't have to ask. It was like he was happy to treat me good🥺And I let him know how much I appreciated him and I thanked him. I hadn't smiled and been happy in so long. And what's even better is he's my type girl🤣❤️🤤
Ladies take Tony's advice, I changed my wardrobe based on the video Tony posted titled A man's perspective(It cut off). I started wearing sneakers, colorful clothes and gold jewelery and I've been approached by men ever since. Get out the house more and you will be seen 🤗.
It’s this grocery store where I live .. Lawd every time I go there it’s just fine men left and right..😂😂😂 I just be hoping they say something but they just stare as usual
I am guilty of being a hermit. After working 48 hours a week in a busy ER,all I want to do on my days off is run errands, go to the gym, and go to church. I am going to try to do better at getting out the house. I will make that my New Years Resolution.
I think my problem might be my location..I live in a very small country town where people are not really used to seeing people dress very fashionable and well-kept up and so I think a lot of men can be intimidated by my look . I have always kept myself up with my hair & makeup and the way I dress and though I do get a ton of compliments from women (and I notice mostly White women or other non -Black race) Men usually just stare and look like they have seen a ghost or are too scared to speak clearly. The men that usually do approach me are men that I do not find attractive at all or are way too old like around my father's age or too young like 18-23ish and i'm 35 with a Babyface smh lol The men I do find attractive and are more of my type are usually taken or married already and I go out alot but most will just stare or if they do approach it doesn't really go anywhere past friendly conversation. I have been told I look too much out their league and they wouldn't think someone who looks like me would even be interested in them or they stay assuming I'm from a bigger city. So idk maybe I need to relocate to a bigger city where men are more accustomed to seeing attractive women and are more confident 🤷
Try showing interest in them. I'm not talking about approach (even though there is nothing wrong with that, and I bet you'd have better success), but at least make it somewhat obvious that you'd like him to approach. Give them a simple "hello how are you". Hell, even a smile with eye contact is all a lot of men need. Ps. However, as someone who is also from a small town, I feel you on wanting to relocate.
I can't remember the last time I even had a date, lol. I really have forgotten how to date. I appreciate your honesty in how to position ourselves to be found in HIS TIME. ✨🙏🏽
Me either. I am considered attractive and people think I’m lying when I say that I haven’t had a relationship in 3 years . I’m glad I have Tony to help me navigate and be prepared and alert for whenever I do meet somebody, lord willing.
Tony didnt have to call me out like that 😂, im such an introvert and very shy and have an RBF, i have been trying to go out more though and look friendly, it’s hard still going through the process, im 24 and ready to meet a man of God
Lol I love when Tony says that . I be getting ready for the day and always chuckle when I hear him in the back saying that . I be like fine lemme fix my hair and put on something nice 😂
I guess it could be any grocery store, but probably primarily grocery stores who sell hot meals...try Whole Foods, Wegmans, Publix and Kroger around dinner time - there's lots of men. Either they're single and getting something for themselves or not single getting something for themselves 😂😂 I'm thoroughly enjoying my single season, but I've been approached often and had very nice conversations with gentleman during this high flux time 😉
Tony go to work plus do overtime, church and home. Well doing DIY at home right now so frequent Home Depot too. 😂 Always smiling and right now haven't been trying to get out there. Over 50 and just listening to you Tony and learning. God I feel is working on me.
Ladies, mrTG is on point! When you make an effort at your appearance, you stand out! women think they need filters and surgery. I notice old women dressed to the nines in the grocery store...😄
In this modern society, men expect you to be perfect. They expect you to have a BBL shape and wearing a filter. If not, you don't get approached online because they think other girls who put filters on their pics are more beautiful....but it be the opposite in real life. They go out into the real world looking for filter face chics.
The bristles on broom wig took me out. Tony you are amazing so true and in depth should kept being in tune with you… it’s ok cause I’m gaining me back thanks in advance. Sending love and light and many many more blessings your way ❤
Basically, I need a wardrobe makeover..that would explain a lot. I laughed at "if his mama got the same dress" but was crying inside cause that was a bomb.
I dress for myself for sure 💯 it happens to be that men like how that looks too 😂 now if i am seeing someone exclusively and they like certain looks, i keep it going for them 😊
I am so mad 😂that the grocery store is the only place I see men I am attracted to . But for some reason that’s the ONLY place I have never met a man .. smh
Many many years ago, I remember meeting a guy while renting a movie outside of Redbox outside of Kroger. We ended up dating for a good amount of time. That was such an organic and unsuspecting time. Men don’t do that these days.
Some of the men that approach, I really wish they would not. Some are not properly groomed and few of them had an odor, others do not care about their overall appearance or health. One looks like he has some mental issue, I ignored him when he tried to approach. I am usually on my way to or from work. I am well groomed, wear my hair in an interloced style, that is well kept and wears the latest fashions. I am hoping if I continue to ignore the wrong men, they will stop approaching. I live in a city where it is much easier to commute to and from work by train and that is where I get approached the most. I guess I need to start driving to and from work to eliminate from being approached by the men that I am not attracted to. If there is something I am doing to attract that type of attention, I am hoping to figure it out, so that I can change that to attract the men that I am interested in, the ones that are well groomed and take pride in their appearance and are also gainfully employed.
They do it to me too, on rare occasion, and it's not gonna stop- these are the ones with nothing to lose. I'd prefer to be invisible & completely ignored bcos it hurts that these are the few approaches.
Amen!! Tony, this was a very needed video! 🙏🏽Bless you for being obedient to God by sharing all of your experiences & knowledge with the world. 😂😂😂But the wig looking like the bristles on a broom?!!! Lawd, you are a comedian!
I know sometimes I like to stay at home but I’m getting out more. Men tell me I’m pretty all the time. So, I don’t know if it’s my weight or my facial expression 🤷🏽♀️
When you talked about the wigs..😅😅 I am crying laughing. I work from home and don't get out much during the week. I'm in Dallas, Texas. I made a bucket list of places to visit and I just go on the weekends. I must be picking the wrong spots cause I don't see alot of black men hanging out. Where are the black men @?? They don't be out. 😕
This is 1000000000% the reason I am single. I work from home and love to stay in my pajamas 😅 smh…. Tony is so right! I work and workout at home. Smh. I’m changing my ways! Thank you for this reminder 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
And where yall live? I know it's cold now, but I run at local parks during lunch breaks men who work from home are there too or in my neighborhood and they be messing up my PB honking and, excuse me ma'ams when I'm stopped at corners to cross intersections. In 40° weather, I'm not wearing ANYTHING provocative... just WARM. Sistas leave the house. Geeet Ouuut!!!! LOL!
I appreciate this video, I love being at home and staying to myself. Staying to myself is my shield. Being hurt drains you and places you in a mold. I know staying at home is hindering a lot of us. At times I was always wondering why are so many women meeting men to go out on dates and have so many men to choose from. I'm wondering what am I doing wrong? I never get approached, to be honest. Also, If you break up, how do you move on to the next relationship if no one is available.
Alright now, I'm taking 🎶....but that wig situation took me all the way out😂😂..the bristles of a broom, some of these wigs be looking a hot mess, absolutely no lies
