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I stayed with mine for Over 10Yyrs til she got married after 5yrs her husband chased her away cz hakumzalia watoto the ka girl called me again nimpee job' nikacheza kama mimi gave her a job this is the 3rd yr am with since alifikuzwa na bwana yake my kids are all grown universty/secondary thank GOD for her
I had a live in for three years, she left to get married and my daughters were her flower girls. She was so good. After that I had a live in for only one year then called it quits in 2017 and got a cleaning lady who came once a week. When corona happened she and her husband both lost their jobs so she reached out to me and I took her back immediately as a day bug once a week. My mum heard she was available and also took her. My friend also. So, my point is if a lady is good her work will always go before her and open doors for her.
I have taken a maid back...she was so nice to my first born for a full year and a half and towards Christmas, she told me she wouldn't return but go to work at a factory. 3 weeks later, after Christmas, she called and told me it wasn't working out at the factory and she wanted to return; I gladly welcomed her back coz i happened to be maid hunting :)
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾You didn't hold a grudge or punish her for trying to make more money and better her life. Nobody dreams about being a househelp when they grow up, it is circumstances that force most to seek the job.
I have had several helps. Paid them a lot way over what others pay. The shift has been 8 am to 8pm with weekends off. The work was not much compared to other homes. They both found a reason to complain and leave. I believe most helps never intend to stay for long and there is nothing you can do to keep them. Its mostly a mentality they have. Very few are wise.
I think respect for one another is key even before you communicate ..you don't have to be in the same level in life to respectfully live /relate with someone .just saying 🥴
Am in gulf. My salary is 70k+........na Ni housegal job tuu..... Ramadhan n December I do go upto 100k juu ya bonus na tuzawadi hapa na pale in cash. Disclaimer :my salary has been reviewed n increased gradually over a period of 4years. Sasa mtu asiseme ati anataka kukuja where I am..... Question is unaweza tulia na uvumilie 4yrs in one house.....??!!
Looking for a good agent... Hapa Kenya some time it hard to stay in one house... Unapata ulienda nyumba iko 4people in total.. but ukikakaa wanaongezeka but they don't bother in adding salary.. nimevumilia mahali for 2 yrs.. but hii kitu huuma.
Allow me to comment today Hii story ya kulipa i feel is at times taken as obvious but its not Wengine ata hiyo 7k hatuna ya kupea msichana Even employers are struggling We also work places tunalipwa pennies and report early na tunatoka late unajua ata wengine wanalipwa as low as15k atatoa wapi 7k ya kulipa msichana hatuko same kimfuko. So please story ya kulipa let it be on a light note. Peace!!
I feel like there is alot of attention given to house help. These ladies expect special treatment. Even employers put in alot of work so let kila mtu afanye job yake
I love you Suzy! this mess and life ya hiring helps eish! I laughed how you explained the death part why would they take employers through trauma and they know ni uongo!
The topic of salary amount I don't debate that is determined by what I have and we discuss the amount before she start the job if not comfortable please say no and am ok.Date of payment is every date 1 or 2.On increments is me to say since I too don't demand increments at my work place.We are like sisters so always we share our challenges and mistake so that we can amend . Communication is key
the reason why we are getting all these issues is one, our culture always looks at working as house helps to an African is like undermining them. some even when u tell them to clean the bathroom and toilet they also use they think u are looking down on them. Any way if i tell you how mine annoyed me.....i cant say much
I personally detest talking. I can go 3 days without talking or saying only countable words... So I'm not changing my personality to be accommodative. But I understand when people are uncomfortable with it.
@@polly4060 You're not alone. And when people don't understand that it's just the way you are, they will jump to so many negative conclusions about you.
Why would I add salary for someone I pay 10k and above when she doesn’t want to work???everything is provided for her from hair products to panties…but when she eavesdrop on my bedroom door and hear me try to search for another house help …I wake up and find my house clean as a hotel with 5 star meals…smh
Those groups are just toxic and full of negative energy!The good thing is anything negative they do catches up with them.Same to the positive ones!Then most ask for so much money while have no qualifications to be deserving the money,If one has a certificate in hospitality and childcare,has a CV and genuine referees trust me we would pay that much!But mtu ako tu🙄🙄
I am so passionate about this topic suzy, I too have been speaking to house helps about their reasons for leaving...Some of those stories I cannot even publicly say as it is upsetting. The house helps are not perfect and neither are we, but I feel most times we as the employer's are the problem.
@@suzyshomestead Agreed, I am glad you have started the conversation, I too have started speaking out and up. Do you have an email or a website where I can contact you? Or you can send me an email on orders@thepicnickikapu.com if you are unable to share your email.
The one complaining from 5.30am to 11.00pm is a liar. What does she do during the day ama anaenda shamba. She must be a lazy one who wakes up and goes back to bed only to wake up 6.00 pm to run up and down. In these towns?? Hakuna kazi. Unless unafanya mpaka kazi za shamba🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
Hi Suze I love ur content . I know this is not the topic in this video BT can u plz talk about bedwetting n also a review of the blue stove used in ur batch cooking video . God bless u n ur family.
Even me I can't even!!!... that's crazy ati loan ya SACCO 😂😂😂😂 In other news it depends on how a househelp leaves - if she left roho safi I can take her back. It depends on the quality of the exit.
I agree it is not good to check on her bag , but i do. because i tried once and i found she was taking HIV drugs. I got to know she was positive. A friend of mine checked and found "dawa ya panya, Rat Rat". It is good to be extra careful.
You are amazing sometimes u need to help them just a bit l Tell u some job nikufumilia l worked for 3years but when l went for a short break just one week my employe cut my salary
I rehired my first and thats the worst mistake i ever made. She bacame so entitled and believed i cant do without her, i couldnt even give her instructions she would do whatever. I would tell her not to wash my baby coz i like doing it myself napata amemuosha. I tell her not to cook napata she has cooked food i hadnt even planned. When i finally fired her she went saying to my neighbours i wont keep a houselp coz that job is hers
Wacha nikuchekeshe am just watching this and my house help calls me to tell me that she ain't coming back,🙆🙆🙆 with a two year old,how where do I even start now.
Nmekimbia after kuona video ya almost an hour na si ya mapishi🧚🧚I have felt for your friend,she was taken advantage for her kindness..I thank God for my house manager,she is a mum and human too.
Some employers are worse than kidnappers Unaachia mtu choo hujaflash ama unapea mtoto wa mtu panty akuoshee na ukona watoto Let's not bring curse upon our kids aki
Our leaders have really let us down, domestic workers in Europe get paid hourly , in kenya 5k , Aki how do you pay rent , school fees let alone food,,, I understand its providing labour for others but please let the government put the minimum wage, and let it be 10k , 5k surely is nothing, bosses go out and spend 5k in one hour and then they pay their maids 5k per month, modern slavery.....
@@mercylinenabwire3360 i think that is being lazy, when you Earn 15k in kenya you are poor, its either you are a teacher or a social worker, you only work for 8 hours so the rest remaining hours you can clean and Cook for your kids ,even picking up them from school.
Suzy how would you handle a girl who doesn't like being corrected? When you tell her to do something differently, she gets moody. I don't even confront her anymore. How do you handle this?
Hey Joy! She sounds like she's a bit immature and doesn't know how to handle correction. I would correct her respectfully, and then move on. I am very conscious about letting other people's bad moods rub off on me. Regardless of how moody she became, I would just be my usual jovial self, and completely ignore her moodiness. Then when she sees that I have no grudge against her even though she made a mistake, she should adjust her attitude. I would not talk to her about the moodiness though. Neither would I let it affect me. That's how I handle moody people generally. I let it roll off like water on a duck. 😂😂😂
@@joymutuku3808 Tell her directly. Confront the situation. Be kind but direct and firm. Avoid escalating the situation, there are those who'll start raising their voice or being defensive when confronted, hapana. Keep it calm. Also, framing can make a difference. "I get the impression that you are not happy with me commenting on your work. However, we need to establish a way to work together..." would be better than "na hii kufurafura yako sasa huwa unafuria nani? " The kizungu mingi may be seen as condescending depending on your house help. Anyway, she may be immature or she may not appreciate your delivery method. Third option is you are misreading the situation. People misread others all the time if RBF is anything to go by. It may just be RBF... No one giggles when being corrected. And I agree with you that that's not necessarily a ground to let someone go.
The food one as a boss I have my reservations. There’s a cleaning lady I had and she was allowed to eat anything. But Sasa she would “eat too much”, I suspect she’d pack food for her family. I’d leave 12 chapos napata 2, food for a week (coz I was single and I’d cook once) napata food ya two days. I got pissed and i asked her never to touch the food but I’d give her cash for her lunch.
This is the problem, they abuse your generosity. Why would someone eat 10 chapatis. Obviously she was carrying food home which is wrong. She should have asked
Oh Liz! So sorry about that! Yes, some actually steal food, tissue, etc. Very sad. With this one I would personally serve her. I would put very generous portions for her to eat (like 3 chapos and a lot of stew 🤭🤭), and that's it. It's so sad the way some of them are though. 😔😔
I Pay her by 30 th before rent. One of my rules, all hse work shd end by 9 pm at 10 all lights shd be off. The problem she doesn't av passion for kids Na simu always
this house helps who are complaining are very lazy and lairs so they will come up with excuses which are crazy. even when you are good to them they will appreciate but will talk ill anyway.
i had alot of drama with my househelp once,so i gave her all her money and made her go back to the village but, i was 4months pregnant with a one year old toddler, she was perfect with my toddler when it came all cleanness and feeding,the toddler was even gaining weight very well,BUT...BUT..she had alot of boyfriends and sometimes went with the toddler,,so i made her leave..but when i gave birth i sent fair to the same village but she came herself...so she said she was sorry and she was young at that time so now shez already 18 and says she will do better,,but even before my new baby was 40 days old she slept outside the house with our neighbor's shopkeeper and my mother got her red handed and said if i still wanna keep her i should leave her house, so i went back to my house with the house help but she got worst even bringing men in the house imagine with a toddler and a baby(what was she thinking??) so i just chucked her one evening i've never been so furious as that day,,well now i have a new one shez okay but expecting to go home during xmas season, am planning on not letting her back i will need alot of tips from you to do without househelps,,aaaargh!
I don't usually go through their bags either but i did for one who was a habitual thug & found she had thugged quite a bit of stuff and more shocking passport pictures of myself, hubby and our kid! Jeez! Mpaka nikadhani ni mchawi.
Hii ya kulipwa na kukopwa is very common 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 Even me when I was a housegirl she used to borrow me Then ikafika point akikopa namwambia nimetumia alaa😂
what happens if you talk to them then it reaches a point ya kuzoeana or entitled even throwing comment here and there. she even becomes comfortable and even seat in the living room even you have vistors and wants to contribute to your conversations
I think if you have good communication, you can correct her respectfully. Also, it is possible to be friendly and still have boundaries. All the best girl! 💐💐
@@suzyshomestead unfortunately I was so good and treated here so well, I even helped so much around the house instead it's turned like she has divided the duties. Cox of the open communication, I now can tell her to do something and she says she will and if I check if it was done even more than three days after to a week it's not. We are shy of 3months to be two yrs. The'attitude' started this year and I have been talking to her about it. I pay her on the 30 or 1st. Maybe keeping quiet and dealing official would have been better
you know what makes it even more sad is that i even go out of my way and buy her small things like a top here and there, a sweater and even get her son back at home something when buying my kids. this is why i dont understand them at all. she eats all she wants without restrictions. its just crazy.\
Let me tell you maina 🤦🤭 I know of a person very close to her, weee that lady has masarau (madharau), she lost a very good househelp sahii analeta watoto kwangu. Nimekuwa backup yake
Suzy...my story. This helps are something else. I went through so much yet I was so kind to my former help. I used to pay her 8k and a daybug and I have one child. Only for her to rummer monger and gossip me badly all over but pretending to be the best..Mama mbogas, watchmen, neighbors.all of them sent me voice recordings pictures and videos of how envious and devious she was when it came to me and my family during those gossip hours. Her Facebook profile picture was a picture of her suckling on my baby's bottle. She was psychotic yet a grown woman 45 years old..I have stayed 5 months without help but... Today I get a new one and I have installed cameras, and printed a set of rules and a contract..I am not playing. My kindness and trust was shattered simbembelezi mtu.. and to remember how I kept her close. Gave her gifts. Had all the meals I had we even used to go out together. Hey work hours were 7am - 6pm but kwangu kazi si mingi, I cook all meals and wash clothes with a washing machine. Hard works like carpets I outsource vijana to wash. Aiiihh You should see me cleaning this house as I await for her arrival. She will be a live-in. Also I am later cooking a storm with this baby on my back. But I have toughned up. Twas baaaaadd 😳😭 Pray for me mom's.
