When Children Act Out | Dealing with Challenging Behaviors (feat. Tracy Schreifels) 

@Jessica Gutierrez they moved him to half-day pre-k because we agreed that he was not socially & emotionally prepared for full day even though he was up to date cognitively. He is doing amazing now. See if you can do the same :)

Love to see this conversation! Thanks for the comments, and for supporting each other in trying to get what your kiddos need. Sending my best to you both - I hope things have gotten better!

@@DeveloPlayLLC He digressed. I am completely lost and do not know what to do! 😪

I’m having the same issue with my son. It’s stressful not being able to understand what is going on with him.

I'm having issues with my child. She is in pre-k, and we moved her from full time days to full time half days. And these last few days have been so bad that school principal in now involved

Oh… I’m so sorry for your loss and that’s so horrible he had to go through that. I wish nothing more than light, healing, and happiness for you all, especially your nephew. I hope he finds a great community at school and has great support from teachers

Thanks for watching! Great to meet you over on WeCreateEdu! :)

Glad to hear it!

that's when you create a safe space/calm corner to send the child to when things get tough. Teach the kids what the corner is for and how to behave in that corner. Deal with the child when the other children are busy completing a task

Luna, I definitely appreciate when you've got a full classroom, it can be tough to spend this kind of time and energy with one kiddo. Taryn has some great suggestions here for ways to build some of these approaches into your classroom for the longer term. And in the meantime, just doing your best is the best you can do - and that's okay.

Absolutely!

Thanks for your comment! Yes, I agree it would be most helpful if we could film with a child that age, however for a variety of reasons, we weren't able to do that for this video series. We used cleaning as an example, but this kind of interaction can be applied to a variety of situations you might encounter where you're asking a child to engage in something they're resistant to for some reason.

Its funny because it actually happens lol

Thanks for your comment - great question! My apologies for the long delay in my reply! I think the thing we sometimes need to reinforce with kiddos is that refusing is ALSO making a choice. Sometimes we only say - you have a choice of A, or B. But what we actually need to reinforce is that they have choice A, or B, OR they can refuse to make a choice which is really choice C, which results in a consequence. It's also understanding that sometimes decision fatigue is REAL. Is this a case where a child is overwhelmed and having trouble making a choice? Are they being defiant to push boundaries and see what you'll do? For the first situation, you response might be "I see you're having trouble making this choice. Can I help you to choose?" For the second situation, it might be more like "I see you're choosing neither A or B. You can do choose neither, but here's what the consequence of not making a choice." That consequence isn't necessarily a punishment, but it's definitely not them getting whatever it is they want out of the situation. Does that make sense? I hope that's helpful (even though it's a really late reply!) 😬

@@DeveloPlayLLC No that makes sense. Thank You very much ☺️

@@DeveloPlayLLC Ok, late to this conversation but i had the same question! in my situation: Even after making it clear that there is a consequence to refusing to make the better choice, the child STILL says no. the child will say “i am not going to do *consequence* i am going to sit here and keep playing.” how do i redirect that? Because if i do something like- take them on a lap around the building to calm down, the other students see that as special treatment and not a consequence. this child will also refuse to take deep breaths in order to identify their feelings, they will refuse help with cleaning up. and now other students have fallen in his footsteps because he gets no real consequences. even calling the child’s mother to pick them up early is not a consequence because he does not enjoy being there without being able to do whatever he wants. i say hello to him every morning, say that i am happy to see him, ask him how he is feeling, and i validate his emotions every time he is frustrated. we even do group lessons on how to deal with anger. i am at a loss here. the mother does not give any context to the behavior so no luck there.

@@Sarah-lh4jm Sarah, this is happening a lot at the school where I work. You are definitely not alone. The problem I see is that there are no real consequences, which isn’t equipping these children for real life adults situations 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is really tough, and I'm by no means an expert in Trisomy 21. I'd encourage continued conversations with the teacher about how your child's needs can be better met and supported as she's learning some of these motor tasks especially. I'm guessing tasks she finds harder are frustrating for your kiddo, and that may be some of what's contributing to her reactions. Focusing on ways to help reduce her frustration, while giving her a little extra help while she's learning to do some of the tasks that are more challenging may help.

@@DeveloPlayLLC Thank you! I guess they were using ABA with her and the hold demand method. We expressed that this type of behavior modification method not be done in this setting. Plus my daughter had just woke up from a nap and most likely was super tired. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my comment.

We agree the teacher could use more effective strategies by assisting her and making the task easier so it can get done easier. It would be a win win situation. In our daycare we lessen the take, assist the child and get on with the day.

Dude the reason why kids are like that is because they’re being hit. Never breed.

@@Peekabye I have 7 children and they are all grown . They where great kids and awesome grown up responsible adults! How bout you never breed! Troll

As opposed to torturing them?