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A lot of people seem to think Gordon Ramsey can’t be doing a very good job since the vast majority of the featured restaurants fail without considering the fact that all of the restaurants were already failing and all of them would have failed without him. Just the fact that he managed to save some of the restaurants proves that as long as the owners and staff are receptive to his methods and willing to put in the work they can succeed.
Most of the restaurants he tried to save were already too far gone or reverted back to their old ways. IIRC, some restaurants were already bankrupted and closed the moment filming ended.
It's also SO HARD to keep a restaurant open, even when things are going well. Living in a major city, I've seen some exceptional restaurants come and go - some only having a few years of success. So many factors in play, even if the food and service is top-notch.
Like in 99% of the episodes the reason the restaurant is failing is because of some deep issue between the people running it. Think about it: if the people running a failing business were rational people and had good relationships with each other, if someone tells them what to change then they would just do it and it’s an easy problem solved. But this is a TV show so I bet they’re deliberately looking for the most deranged people 💀 it’s why Ive always thought that Gordon should just forget the cooking and get a whole team of psychologists instead. Poor guy is acting as a counsellor for half of the episodes
I honestly don't think this was ever about saving restaurants. I think it was about entertainment. I don't think the goal was ever to save failing restaurants, it was just an opportunity for the network to make money because everyone loves to watch a train wreck.
The part where the owner smiles maniacally when the chef gets dressed down by Gordoon juxtaposed by Gordon's praise of him when he makes one of his own recipes and then seeing her glare at the burger is just... chef's kiss, that was one of the most cathartic thing's I've ever witnessed.
That part where the chef nervously walks in with his own burger, Gordon takes a bite and says 'it's delicious!' (something we're not used to hearing from the famously critical dude!), and him humbly, but with an undertone of TOLD YOU SO! simply saying 'thank you chef', with her face looking shocked.... I want to play that on a loop!
@@kumada84 Gordon was ripping into the chef because he thought the first burger he ate was the chefs recipe when it was the owners. Then later the chef made Gordon his own burger recipe and praised it and the woman was staring daggers at the burger while Gordon was eating and then even fake gagged and spit it out when she tried it. What are you talking about?
Not only that, if you watch the full episode, which is up on both Gordon's and the Kitchen Nightmares RU-vid channels in full, the sous chef gives the chef a fist bump over their victory over the owners. The staff all knew what was up.
When you find out his Grandfather was also a narcissist who destroyed his Dad’s life you feel even worse. I hope he has healed from the betrayal at the hands of his Father and Mother and he is still married to his feisty wife. 💯
His walking breakdown is one of the best examples I've ever seen of someone who has basically been emotionally tortured to the point of a total breakdown by narcissist parents. You can see that it's absolutely tearing him up inside that his parents don't care, that they keep abusing him without remorse, and he can't understand it. And his mother's displays of fake caring only distress him even more. I know what that feels like and it's horrific, and very difficult to explain to others how confusing and painful it is.
As with many other people, I feel like your videos have genuinely helped me improve my life. I found you back when you mostly posted about food (your channel grew fast, holy...) and have since stopped eating as much fast food. I've stopped taking so many sugary drinks, and try eating vegetables and fruit instead of chips/cookies as snacks. My favorite local fast food chain opened a restaurant in my neighborhood so it's HARD, but whenever I'm tempted I go back to channels like yours, Greg Doucette, My Thoughts Will Probably Offend You, etc. and you guys put me back on track. Videos analyzing negative behavioral patterns has also helped a lot; it's easy to blame others and say you can't do something because of external forces. It's an easy way out, if you will. Sure, it's harder for some of us than others, but in the end, all the help and support means nothing if we don't help and support ourselves first, and sometimes it means getting out of the comfort zone and accepting we've failed, and that's okay.
@@Viper-py4pg it could also be information overload. When people have too many options to choose from it makes things harder instead of easier for them. Tbh only a few changes, maintaining that for a long period of time, and then adding more when you are able to may be a better way to go about it if you are getting overwhelmed (from a fellow trashbrain lol).
I would love to see you take on Scared Straight style shows, where they bring children into a prison to face prisoners. I have a feeling it does probably the opposite of what they're hoping it does.
Okay, I KNOW you are branching out and doing things other than fitness stuff but the Show Fit to Fat to Fit is a perfect fit to your request about shows that highlight delusions or mental blocks. While Season 1 is arguably the best the episode with the Hollywood photographer is the one that really is aggravating in terms of mental gymnastics. At any rate, if you haven't seen that show, even if you don't do a review on it, just give it a watch. Really great!
Imagine hating a person so, so deeply that you have to fake gag while “tasting” a meal that Gordon Ramsay himself commends mere seconds beforehand… JUST because you hate them.
Heres a few shows: - It's me or the dog, - Super Nanny - That cat show with Jackson Galaxy - Rupauls Drag Race actually has some moments where drag queen's open up about issues regarding their troubled pasts that lead to their troubling behaviours (past and present) and they learn better ways to manage them through Rupaul and the other contestants sharing experiences too. Quite a wide array of issues that affect every day people are covered.
What was really creepy was seeing that book thing at the end and the feeling that history was repeating itself... Maybe the cognitive dissonance came from the father (grandfather) who didn't like/ trust the son putting him down so much that the son gave himself imaginary glory (with meat? yeah, I guess,) to keep himself from self destruction. I hope the son who lost his inheritance can break that destructive trend.
I think doing this kind of videos with certain hell's kitchen chefs would be interesting since we have some who are fucking delusional(Sabrina, Elise, Raj) and some that are good examples of behaviour change getting you far(Tenille, Dave)
Ohhh I've unfortunately seen it in action quite A few times. Yet people still don't believe me when I say they're too close to the situation to see it clearly. Yet still there's been people where eventually I knew them better than themselves, because they couldn't see their shortcomings and issues, only ever seeing what they wanted to. So many refuse to understand their own situation.
Alan was a cold, calculated thief like his gangster father, Abe. Chef David put on the Prozac jokes because he resembles a depressed criminal business owner like Tony Soprano.
My father suffers from the exact same thing. Thinks the world around him is crazy and everyone else is wrong, constantly acting as if everyone’s mad at him for no reason.
As an Aussie this was so infuriating to watch because we have a fantastic BBQ & Burger culture in our country, but, you can't be an owner unless you know good food.... Alan & Gen are INSANE ! They also didn't change, they went bankrupt.
picked this video thinking it was another Kitchen Nightmares compilation from the official channel, instead i found a new favorite youtuber with thought provoking and entertaining videos. so glad i stumbled across you!! :)
Here’s a suggestion. People in competitive reality shows reacting very harshly, and pathetically, to games not going their way. We’ve seen that quite a few times on Big Brother (Frank Eudy and Da’Vonne Rogers) and Survivor (Will Sims and Sandra Diaz Twine).
I absolutely understand the son and the chef. It’s a horrible situation. I think it’s also a horrible situation for the parents as well. This was essentially their retirement job. Their whole lives has been leading to this moment. To say it’s a failure and hurting the people you love is a hard thing to realize. They will have to look back and see this story behind them had no justification. Then look infront of them and see this burnt out dead end. That the last 10-20 years of their lives will have to be starting over, essentially at 50-60 years old. It’s a terrible situation and they’re brains created this illusion. No one wants to realize that their the bad guys. The guy even wrote a book to justify his life.
The owners were threatening to report the yelped to the hate crime division lmao because they were haters. I had to pause there cause that was the funniest shit I've ever heard
This is my first time on your channel and i have to say that i really enjoyed this review and i really enjoy Kitchen Nightmares for some of the same reasons you do. I will subscribe, thanks for the videos and keep up the hard work.
The Father is a REAL AUSTRAILIAN MOB MEMBER. This was discovered after the Authorities from Australia made inquiries on him to the show. So, that is why the idiot stole the cash from his son.
Growing up in a Christian church environment, it seems that there are a few similarities to this behaviour and when Christians are faced with any outside evidence that proves their beliefs could possibly be wrong. Now, not here to start anything but it was just a fascinating realisation I just had.
Kelliecans , I hear what you’re saying. I am a Christian, and you are right… that is the reaction most of us have. The true way we should look at things is always with a healthy dose of questioning our beliefs! Christianity = faith, and faith can always be misplaced. So, you are right!! (You didn’t expect this response from a believer, did you?) 😉
I think if this show still went on Gordon would need a small team of mental health professionals to deal with things like this. More often than not that’s the biggest problem in these episodes. Gordon can make the food absolutely smashing and he can have his construction/design crew make the prettiest dining areas, but they cannot help these people’s mindsets, attitudes, and behaviors
I've been indulging in some perfect guilty pleasure shows for behavior analysis: Supernanny and World's Strictest Parents. You can find almost every ep on youtube, and the latter (and early seasons of the former) do double duty as 2000s time capsules! Scene bangs, kohl eyeliner, velour tracksuits, small children destroying the tv with wiimotes, it's a trip man
The husband and wife were such awful people. I don't understand how they could do that to your own son... just disgusting. I felt for the chef when he made that burger and was just made to stand there holding it, whilst the owner tried to push his crappy burger. And the little performance the wife gave after trying the chef's burger was pathetic. Although, to be fair, I didn't like how the chef's insults were so personal in front of customers. He had the right to be angry about his unpaid wages, but he let himself down by being so personal.
i always felt bad for the poor chef being blamed for the bad food, proving he can cook well, and then her still trying to blame him, all while not even getting paid.
I honestly think him and her do pills together especially xans why else would he put up with that for so long not being paid but sticking around and bringing up her being on Prozac probably to avoid calling her an addict while calling her dependant idk I've seen it happen with people before it looked very familiar
I felt so bad for the son. They robbed their son just to be mediocre. All the good things he could've done with that money for his future. Those 2 really make me mad.
There is another episode of this show with a mexican restaurant where this lady’s stepfather opened it in her name and ruined her credit. I can’t believe how common it is for people to screw over their kids like this
Omg, the mother in this episode infuriates me every time. The way she pretends to choke on the improved burger is both hilarious and makes me so mad!!!
It wasn't pretending, her dissonance is so strong that her brain tricked her into thinking it tasted revolting, it happens for real. I actually have a hard time eating pineapple if I think about it too much before I swallow, the longer I take to swallow, the harder it takes to swallows it. I'm not sure where the behaviour comes from but it's been with me as long as I can remember. (I love the taste of pineapple, it just happens when I try to swallow pineapple flesh.)
@@margarethmichelina5146 my mom does that. “I’m an old woman how bad can I be” nonsense. It’s like yes you are old, so you should know how to behave appropriately by now… 🤯
For the record, Daniel's grandfather was a notorious Australian mobster and numbers runner. And Alan became almost a carbon copy of his old man, hence the devious financing practices of the restaurant's origins.
@@Viper-py4pg He mentions his book in the ep. His grandfather was a notorious criminal and ordered the arson attack that killed 6 children at a Sydney fun park in the 70s. Abe left Alan a tiny inheritance and he went on a media rampage after that. Kind of wild that he ended up on Kitchen Nightmares!
@@Viper-py4pg They talked about it mid episode when Ramsay set down with the son. Deniels father took his inheritance and put it into the business without his permission. He had ALOT of money that was given to him for his future. He was then forced to work for his father.
Seeing the father not realize he’s repeating the same pattern with his son was just so incredibly frustrating. Glad he was able to come to terms with it, lots of people never do. Though I don’t know how he’ll be able to repay even if the business does well.
It was a totally insincere apology. After the show the son moved away with his girlfriend and had to sue his parents to get his money back. I made another comment about how both parents fit the criteria for malignant narcissism. Narcissists do not give sincere apologies. They may do it to save face but inside they are usually plotting revenge lol.
@@cosmicmuffin322yeah, I thing cognitive dissonance is correlated with narcissism, if you think you're only in the right even with evidence against you, that's narcissistic behavior.
thank you, that is amazing! got me curious and looked it up, I'm probably going to use it all the time from now on: Robert A. Heinlein - 'Man is not a rational animal; he is a rationalizing animal.'
@@Viper-py4pgEvery single restaurants will be shut down by John Taffer and his experts and his crew right in front of Gordon Ramsay. And get these people out of here on kitchen nightmares.
I have seen all of the episodes of Kitchen Nightmares and Chef David Blaine's situation has always made me mad and so sad for him, he was one of the only chefs in this show who was obviously talented and could cook very well but yet it was the owners who wouldn't allow him to do his job. The icing on the cake for me though was Chef David getting a 9/10 on his burger from Gordon Ramsay, thankfully someone gave talented and under appreciated chef David a moment to shine that he truly deserved
That's like every other episode though, he wasn't "one of the only chefs who could cook" like half the episodes were a chef who was talented but was held back by the owner
Chef David did get to move up after he was fired. Of all the head chefs, David was easily top 3 chefs in the whole show for me. He absolutely deserved a successful career, he was just stuck in a shitty place since he wanted to move out of doing pastry.
There a key part of this story that is kept to a small minimum in the show. Alan's father was a notorious gangster. A killer. Alan was raised in a world of cognitive dissonance, where gangsters constantly pretend they are not evil human beings profiting off the exploitation of others. His madness is part of his upbringing. There is no excuse I know for Jenn, except she seemed to fit into his world of deceit and insanity. The saddest thing is that, since Alan's dad was dead, and Alan was apparently NOT in the gangster business, Daniel, the grandson, could have been saved from the madness, except that Alan had never apparently developed a sense of morality. you could argue that a murderer can't teach you that, but Daniel knew what kind of life he wanted, and his parents destroyed his happiness, on purpose, over selfish, foolish, nonsense.
his father was actually friends with my grandfather! my family have a lot of stories about him, he ran businesses witn my grandfather including some clubs in kings cross, sydney
Living in a world where gangsters pretend to be good. It sounds like the world we live in and most of the people and institutions around us doesn't it.
I binged _so much_ Kitchen Nightmares during covid. Nearly every restaurant it’s the same problem: the owners are in denial. And it’s usually centred around a broken family. Gordon is a glorified therapist the entire show.
This episode pissed me off so much. Not only are the owners such horrible restaurateurs but they stole their sons money. I can guarantee he never saw that money again.
Both of these parents tick all the boxes for malignant narcissists: lack of empathy, entitlement, deceiving and exploiting others for personal gain, delusional or paranoid beliefs, hypersensitivity to criticism, vindictive behaviour, lack of remorse, using displays of emotion to manipulate others, playing the victim.... They carry a great deal of suppressed rage (most obvious in the mother). Partners and children of narcissists will know that moment when a narcissist stares at you with malicious joy or pure rage and hatred. It's a very unsettling experience and here it's caught on camera for the world to see. And it's worth it to point out that the son almost looks like the biggest mess of all - but that's because he's being mentally tortured by the emotional cruelty and financial abuse of his viciously self-centred parents. Narcissist parents can drive people to the point of total mental and physical collapse - and still the narcissist parents may frame their child as the problem or the abuser, in the worst abuse of all. It's also worth pointing out that narcissists often need a scapegoat to blame for their failures, flaws, and the chef literally identifies himself as the scapegoat in this scenario.
This is happening to me right now !! My mom is extremely abusive and berates me constantly. She just wants me to pay her rent, treat her like she’s not a former alcoholic and pretend she’s a saint. While she’s highly narcissistic and truly sadistic to me. I don’t want to say all of my issues but anxiety/depression, abusive relationships. Her health and my trouble getting decent jobs with no degree- she used it to manipulate me and verbally insult me constantly. Last week she sat there screaming at me saying “you’re not trying” what are you going to do. Knowing I’m overwhelmed, and still trying ! The irony ? I applied for a great job with benefits in July. They just now got back to me and I got the job without an interview, just taking a long assessment and my resume. She immediately was “so proud” and knew I could do it. She’s happy about how much money I’ll make to support her. While she just verbally abused me, gaslighting me over and over. At one point I was in tears saying I’ll show you how many places I’ve applied to. I’ve deposited money in her account more than 3 times, not even having a technical job just online sales 😥 she’s ruined my peace and I will get away from her. Hopefully 😢
The son actually did want to be involved in the restaurant - he said himself that he and his father had been talking about doing it for years. Also, his inheritance was over 1 million dollars, so don't feel too bad for him. 😉
@@ricknmorty7732 congratulations on the new job! But please, please PLEASE think about moving out and minimizing your interactions with your toxic mother. If you'd still choose to stay in touch with her and support her, I salute you, but it will be a lot easier and safer for you to do it from a distance. Best of luck.
In all honesty I would’ve taken my father to court for theft. He took 200K from his son without permission. That is stealing. I know it’s a family but the fact that the dad would do that to begin with shows that the father doesn’t care about the son so why would the son have a problem with taking him to court
@@zekeprower1 My guess is that since the son was technically the owner of the restaurant, a case could be made that his money was spent on his own business, therefore not theft.
@@maenad1231 if you grind it yourself right before cooking it and use prime cuts as the source meat and wash it off before you cut it into cubes and use clean cutlery and a clean meat grinder, then it's possible to do so and still be pretty safe. no one does that, though. most ground beef is from meat reclamation processes after all the good cuts have been removed and are likely to cross contaminate with effluent and so on from the carcass, due to the way they try to remove the last bits with high pressure water, keep workers going at a frantic pace with poorly maintained tools, and so on and so on. blah blah blah. there's shit in the meat. cook it.
I know people love to throw around the terms narcissist and gaslighting, but in this case, I think they apply to the dad. What a horrible, terrible person. But on a side note, the son's girlfriend (fiance?) deserves a ton of praise for being so loving and supportive to her partner. It's really cute how they always wear matching hats.
@@RusticRonnie but his father was in the mob before him, so he didn’t have a choice. Is opening a restaurant that sells bad food better, or being a literal hitman lmfao
Thank you SO much for explaining what cognitive dissonance actually means! I’ve heard it so many times and never understood what it actually meant but you explained it in a really clear, concise way that I understood! Thanks Kiana!
I can really relate to the son. My dad and stepmom have deluded themselves in some similar ways. The utter rejection you feel when your parents have such strong cognitive dissonance about life choices they made and make that directly hurt you is such a horrible void.
If you haven't already, it might help you to learn about personality disorders (i.e. narcissist, borderline, antisocial, and psychopathy), and if your parents meet those criteria it may give you some understanding and strength. I am an adult child of personality-disordered parents and it freed me so much to learn this. Find reliable sources since there is a lot of misinformation about narcissism out there. I recommend RU-vid channels such as: Dr Ramani Surviving Narcissism (Dr Les Carter) Ross Rosenberg Michele Lee Nieves Coaching Prof. Sam Vaknin
i know . . . and you know what really hurts? when you have to tell them that is because of that behavior that you are where you are, so that they can stop doing it. ._. it sucks
