I think the reason why they are perfect for each other is that they are frank and honest with each other from the beginning. They recognize the good and flaws in the other person, and is largely fine with all the flaws. So if you don't want to waste time in relationships, show your flaws early on instead of hiding them. Hahaha
I don't buy it...irl friends like Sally and Harry would magically turn into a romantic couple overnight after years of being friends. Especially for a guy like Harry...it would be crazy to suppress one's romantic feelings for her for so long in order to maintain the friendship.
Not being over someone is one thing. But finding out you broke up with someone not because they didn't wanna get married but that they didn't wanna get married to you is a different thing altogether
I think it's so cute how he kisses her but not the passionate one that leads to well y'know .. But the friendly peck it's so loving and cute and the way he looks at her awww!
After countless of times watching it I just realized that singular scene alone is the prime example of drama; both comedy and tragedy masks, almost in caricature master-class display. =)
If you look at Harry's cheek at that moment he smiles at Sally when he sees her laugh and then frowns when the switch happens. Absolutely touching scene.
I love the part when Sally mentions Charlie Chaplin and then Harry says "Yeah, but he was too old to pick them up" and she strats laughing and then again crying. hahahaha so funny
Prime example of when they don’t want to marry, it’s actually because they don’t want to marry YOU because they’re unsure about you. Same thing with “I’m not ready to have a bf/gf” followed by a bunch of excuses (I’ve been busy with work, my ex and I just broke up, I’ve been stressed, etc.). When someone is sure about you and they really want to be with you, there will be NO excuses. There would be no “I’m too stressed with...” “my gf and I just broke up”. Yeah, they’re just with you to hangout and fool around with until they find the person they actually want a serious relationship with. In their eyes you aren’t enough. It’s the bitter truth and I post it here so you guys will realize your worth and not be with people who always make excuses!
As much as I hated hearing that advice right now you literally couldn’t have nailed it on the head any better. I suppose that’s what I needed to hear... so thanks? Lol
But maybe, the person who isn't the one on monday due to a certain perception of people you have, will be on Friday. So maybe when you say have to get over something before getting in a relationship, it is true.
The way she just throws the tissues over her shoulder … 10/10 acting by Meg Ryan in this whole scene. And it’s great how he doesn’t say or ask anything when she’s talking about the phone call; he just lets her vent, because he knows she needs to, and he listens.
The love of my life said he didn't want a commitment, three months later he met sb else, got married right away, took in her 7 year old daughter, had two more kids with her and is still with her (that was 15 years ago) . Truth is he didn't wanna commit to me.🤷♀️
@@paulamra1ify if I can offer any consolation from being on the other side of the table is this... it’s nothing to do with you and you’re probably amazing. Didn’t want to get you hurt but it just wasn’t there and didn’t see it ever working out between the both of you..I don’t actually necessarily know your situation but don’t beat yourself up because sometimes things aren’t meant to work and when one door closes another opens. Theres probably a reason shit like this always happens and you gotta believe it’s for the better good. Give it some time and you’ll see that it was meant to be. Hope that makes you feel better. Been there before
It's not uncommon for people to move on really fast into marriage to someone else after getting out of a long-term relationship. Wonder what the success rate is on those marriages.
There's some data on that. Here's a quote from the 2009 census on marriage and divorce: "Table 8 also shows the median duration of time between the divorce from a first marriage and a second marriage. Half of the men and women in all of the race and Hispanic-origin groups who remarried after divorcing from their first marriage did so within about 4 years. The median duration of second marriages that ended in divorce did not differ from that for first marriages." They didn't categorize length of second marriage by length of time required to remarry, unfortunately, but essentially it shows that on average seconds marriages last just as long as first marriages. That might just show that people get married consistently and with the same mentality each time they get married, which would mean that there's no such thing as rebound marriages, but I don't know. You can check out the data yourself: www.census.gov/prod/2011pubs/p70-125.pdf
It takes a rather good actor to balance the lowkey comedy and simultaneously successfully communicating the harrowing, gutted grief of the character this scene; I haven't seen many of her films, but this clip convinced be that Meg Ryan is a really underrated one.
Idk why but I love comforting people when they are crying (usually about relationships). And even though she’s a fictional character from 30 years ago, I really just want to be with sally here, she has to be one of the most beautiful women to have ever lived.
This was my night tonight. I wouldn't take him back, but it still sucks to learn that Mr. I Never Want To Get Married is getting married to someone else.
I like how Meg Ryan plays this quirky character. She's picky, uptight, but smart and sometimes vulnerable, and it fits with Harry's mellow, clever, funny, but candid personality. As an uptight person myself, I approve this message.
Well ....the person ends up married to her ....so I'm thinking......that's what romance is....finding your true friend....that will be there for you. Through all the ups and downs...the fights and the emotional meltdowns.....they had not just friendship... but history.....they knew each other...therefore....hopefully the reason people get married is to find this kind of relationship.... they finally realize they are made for each other....this can take a while.......its really the perfect movie...😇❤
Harry: "If you could take him back right now, would you?" Sally: "Nooo...but why didn't he want to marry me?" and that is why men and women are different.
married my now ex gave him 2 beautiful daughters, stay at home mom cook from scratch only to be asked at about the 32nd year what i had done for him all those years not to mention shovelling the driveway 2 times a day one winter because he had just had hernia surgery and i diunt want him to hurt so, hes gone, im not my youngest lives with me less money. but much more love, peace and truth in this house. and accused me of being no angel when i didnt do that with or to anyone. he has lots of money now, he even told me not to care about him anymore so................. glad hes free to pursue his only love now, money, sad..he didnt want to marry me, either. hes 59 and not in very good health. but hes got enough money to pay for a housekeeper, prostitute, cook, nurse.. i guess thats all i was to him, the thorn in his side he couldnt stand. so now hes alone, and anyone who wants him is welcome to him.. as long as shes as coldhearted as he is but i dont know how a girl could be, then again, theres someone for everybody, right?
they are called 'ex' for a reason. because it's over. you focused on one person for three decades now it's time to focus on you burn any photos of him. turn a corner and begin YOUR new life.
lm sandy all of his stuff has been gone for 4 years now. im all good, thanks and my new life started in June 2011, after the divorce he did not show up to court for. much happier now and so are my daughters.
lm sandy i kept thinking, and believing that he would change since i gave him so much love, but he never had any for us, much at all.no matter what, he will hopefully be alone for a very long time until he learns to put others before himself. that way no more other girls will hopefully get hurt by him. and he will technically be 60 this year too.
patrea lynn I see a lot of my mum in what you wrote - so many people in your situation. Know in your heart that it's his fault for taking advantage of your giving nature, and that you gave to someone who you loved, and that is a beautiful thing, even though it's over. When people say 'I love you', they're telling you about themselves, they're not telling you about you. And guess what? If you really want to end up with another person, you will. Believe me.
Mine to... Partly glad for him (haven't spoken to him in years) ... Partly hurt. It's not he didn't want to get married. He didn't want to marry me. And that part that Harry says... "If you could take him back right now, would you?" No. There were too many red flags. But it still hurts, because I guess it was just a dream. I don't know. It's crazy. Why should I be hurt by this? None the less. It hurts.
@@mckenna8663 I know it’s tough but good for you. Cut the red flags when you can and if you saw that in earlier stages, it never would have worked in the long run. Sucks I know but you dodged a heavier hurdle in the future. Focus on yourself and something even better will come along in the future
Why would someone call their ex after almost a year of no contact just to tell her that he’s getting married. Very weird. Even in 2021 I would consider going out of your way to directly tell an ex you’re getting married is very strange. The original flex.
Rofl "and I'm gonna be 40........when....someday.........in 8 years.....but its there its just sitting there like this big dead end" I thought this in my 30's. So funny and as I have gotten older found different parts of this movie funny as I have "got it" fyi Im proud i am 42 im the honey badger of the female world ha ha ha
You know, if men didn't pressure women to think that their only value in life is to be loved by a man, and for women to internalize it to the point of their own purpose in life, maybe the world would be a better place and love can happen without gendered obligation. Just a thought.
There’s a lot more to it and it’s a two way street. This scene basically proves that. Not all men are bad/good. Same as women. Don’t even try to go there
@@sweenpoppy7250 Yes, but men don't break down at turning an age where expectations for domesticity is so ingrained culturally it feels like a personal failure when it doesn't happen. Men put that on women without recognizing how they add to the pressure. If men and women were sociopolitically equal, women wouldn't feel this way at any given point at any given time.
Men are not the ones putting that pressure on women. Well, at least they aren't the *only* ones. It's society as a whole. And this social pressure comes from biology. Whether you like it or not, it's a biological reality that women have a biological clock that men don't have. Like Sally said, a man can have a child even at 70, a woman can't. That said, men do also feel pressured to marry / settle down. At least it's easy for a woman to find someone who will love her. For men it's not.
That reminds me of Disney Pixar Inside out Sequels for Riley's in Love with Man Of Her Dreams was completely feeling emotions inside to feel True Love!
I have been in love with a friend of mine for a long time. But I don't understand if she's interested in me or not. For example tonight makes me "I'm dirty in the ass" and I say to show me. She turns without problems. Then, I asked if a dress is going well and I said yes. Finally a hug for no reason and it seemed a very affectionate and sincere hug. The problem is that after we were the only two of us (before we were with friends) and she started to confide in a love problem she has with two boys. He is dating one but is interested in an ex. And I was left with shit. Then when we were two in a bar I had met acquaintances. And they joked me a joke like "you made the girl huh?". I am embarrassed to tell her that she was a friend of mine. Then as we went away the questions as it was possible for others it was not a normal thing the friendship between a male and a female. And there I immediately thought of this fantastic film. How should I rate? It is not the first time that "teases me" and then I feel so bad about it.
