I think while your points are all 100% valid, we’re not supposed to have it all figured out. You pick something, learn along the way, fail, and pick yourself up. It sounds like a problem you have is your safety net because even though you acknowledge the reality of the difficulties in living with just 1 income in a marriage, it sounds like right now, you have the comfort of life’s necessities taken care of whether by your current savings, or your fiancé’s, and this comfort is actually doing you more harm than good in regards to the sense of urgency is doing something, anything. Even work part time as a Starbucks barista is something, and eventually, you’ll learn what it is in a job/ career path that you can’t stand / tolerate/ or see potential in further developing. It is always good to forge your own path, doesn’t have to be full time job, especially early on in your marriage if children aren’t part of the plan yet bc what happens if you get divorced, then you’d be stuck with no solid foundation in your own financial survival. Also, in the work force, ppl are more forgiving to the young ones. The older you get, the more they expect you to be at a more ‘senior’ role in whatever you do. So now’s the time to exercise grit and just ‘do’, instead of thinking of the ideals bc the truth is, very very few of us have an ideal job.
3:00 Honestly for me, it's just listening to what God wants from me and doing what he says.I read the Quran,and follow our prophet.I try to apply as much as I can from the wisdom that I get, that's it.
I’ve noticed that channels with the words minimalist wardrobe, minimalist apartment tour and all black wardrobe tour gets views. Also yoga routine or morning routine title it like how I stay fit or something like that. I’ve heard you say a couple times you have a hard time to come up with ideas and I don’t want you to give up on RU-vid. I ❤ you!! Good luck! ❤❤❤
I'm learning to plan my daily basic routine, which is really hard for me. I can't even imagine me planning my year. It's easier when you're part of a company or something where they give you goals and daily tasks and all you have to do is do it focusing on the great result of achieving something that came from your own effort. And when you realise It's done you wasted your time doing something instead of the opposite. But when you still live with your family and have no clue of what you really want to do for the rest of your life is exhaustive, and I feel this way. I wish i could get some advice.
I related to each and every word you said in this video! Being dead serious. It’s so hard to live in such uncertain times but finding someone who is also going through the same situation, does make it a bit bearable and also makes me keep hopes alive ❤
As an Intj myself the worst most confusing places I’ve been in my life is being directionless. Our thinking brain is the worst for this because it helps us solve the problems on our path not necessarily point us in a direction because it will end up over rationalizing. Sometimes it’s not a good thing not to rationalize everything in your life like I’ve done before (and failed) recently I’ve started listening to my heart kinda using emotions as a compass then then preparing the direction I’m going with the analytical mind. Just remember not everything is supposed to be rationalized. -fellow Intj ❤️
I have some tips if you want to know what to decides in life(very not sure if it will help, but hopes it does): -First, spot a domain where you are talentued at, what is the activity you could invest the most of your time, energy and emotions, something that you wouldn't call "work",like creating music. -In which point your creativity converges(music, painting, writing stories...)? Try to think about your childhood and what were you dreams(serious brainstorm about that), try to think like a child: remove from your consciousness all the barriers to success that were implanted in your mind in your childhood(that's the whole point of The Matrix I guess. We learn to be sceptical,having critic spirit, and not believing at the irrational at school but it leads to question each one of ours own values, so most of people are undecided and miss out on their existence), no matter if it seems impossible, no matter if you need to achieve global succes for that: If you do 't want to live a normal life,it's OK, and logically you have to be not normal in your head. -Start from the “irrational” principle that you can achieve absolutely anything, for example selling 100 million books of which you are the author. If someone has achieved what you want to accomplish in your wildest dreams, you can too. -commit to the path you would choose in an ideal world and be prepared to take all the risks without turning back. -And a very concrete tip to help is, for me, One Piece, especially the first 300 episodes. If you overcome some prejudices about anime, that it's for kids...and then try to watch even the 10 firsts episodes. I watched One Piece and I litteraly understood that everthing is possible, every dream can be true. When there is a will there is a way, it's the soul of One Piece and Luffy wanting to become the Pirate King. -Another concrete tip is the speech of Bob Proctor on succes(20 min approximatively), where he is interviewed by a journalist. It's not like the billionaires quotes edit, it's very interesting, there is a real mindset that he talks about.
I'm in the same place right now, 30 years old and a bit lost I'm stuck and no idea what I should be pursuing. I think hormones is also a big part because I just don't have the energy to even move my body.
@@thelydshow Yes, likely. What I do is, I take notes every time I experience these feelings, and I also attempt to recall what might be causing them. I've noticed patterns, such as when I'm working on a project, constant overthinking tends to trigger negative energy, which eventually manifests in my body. Especially when I don't go out as often. Could be Se neglect, because when I started paying attention to my Se I can see changes.
You are fantastic and deep - which is not average.... Keep doing you...take one day at a time and do your best during that day. G-d will guide you. I relate so much with your journey and I am old enough to be your mother. PS LOVE the end...had a similar experience where I got an unexpected call from a stranger for an interview with his company. That interview changed my life and the lives of my family. ↗️🌼🍁🍂🔥💕
9:45 We all die one day but what is the point if we never did anything in our life: There is one chance and after it ends, it's the emptyness. It's because life is unique that we must follow our soul. When humans realized their own mortality, they began to accomplish great things.
Hi lydia. I am younger than you, but since you asked about what to do “when you don’t know your place in the world” I connected a lot when you mentioned “things not exciting you anymore” So I decided to comment. But enough of me, I think what would be good for you is to leave this mentality of being “ existential” behind.Have your way with the universe instead.Learn that things can be better when you are present & grounded,perhaps prayer if you are a believer…guide people that are in the same boat/need guidance, etc Hope all is well & that you have a lovely wedding🙏
10:45 The universe is telling you you must go to this place at all cost!!!😂 Seriously, i think the environnement impact dierectly our vision of oursleves and of the world. Where you live, what you see and what informations you consume determines your vision of the world. For example, you don't feel the world the same way when you are at work in the city with collegues than when you are near nature, in holidays with appreciated friends or family members
[fellow INTJ here] i went through this 5-6y ago... seriously, remove the timeline. do something, but it doesn't have to be productive. (suppress the T for a bit). move to that city, get a whatever job (my selection was barista) & it'll come to you, whatever *it* is.... also, could you approach the holiday parties with sarcasm? "i'm looking forward to being a housewife", "pursuing the trophy life" ... but, that sarcasm isn't for everyone.
How about becoming a Mother? You're getting married. Let him worry about provisioning (i know this is more difficult today compared to prior generations, but it is still doable on a single income). Take the first 10 years of the child's life to develop an at home, location independent business while being an at home mom. Plenty of time for you to work out the kinks in that. If all else fails, you can re enter the workforce in your mid 30s when the child or children are more independent. No one takes you seriously in the workforce until your mid 30s anyways. Having a child will give you agency and purpose for something outside of yourself, keeping the existential BS at bay. Plan it out, Architect.
