I have 2 kids with a woman whom I genuinely loved. She is hispanic and couldn't even cook rice. Missed all the red flags because I was young and dumb. I did everything, taught her how to cook,made her a mother ,inspired her mother to start a bakery. Got the sister engaged even kick-started all the baby making in the rest of the family and multiplied the family. At the end of the day it didn't mean anything. I was just fulfilling her dreams and I was still daydreaming about my own. She always beat me down, never listened and was always combative. Even simple things like asking her to pick up stuff from the store would turn into knock out drag out fights. 5 years wasted, and now I have a broken family and the generational curse continues. Don't be like me. Fully understand yourself before bringing anyone into your life. I cannot stress this enough.
Damn bro so sorry, I could really imagine what u went through. All of that mental, emotional, financial investment gone to waste. I pray God helps you through the disasters u faced. All the best bro
You've taken the first step and admitted it was your fault. Do you know what you did wrong? You looked to make her into something she's not, until it finally became obvious you had, as you rightly stated, wasted 5 years. You made her into your god. She's not and no woman or no one is. The issue is not about truly understanding yourself, the issue is that you never gave yourself the time to understand who she is. She is exactly the person you married, however, you were caught up in her sex and so addicted to it that you were blind to the real person she is. So instead, you imagined she was someone she wasn't until it became too much to bear. Sex out of wedlock binds and blinds people to the person they're sexing with. That's why you're not suppose to have sex before marriage. And that's why women, especially single mothers want to give it to you as soon as possible because spiritually they know if they can hook you with their sex then they can control you and do with you as they please. Now your priority is to take care of your beautiful children and don't allow another woman to take the time they crave and 100% deserve. Men make this mistake all the time, they don't give themselves to time to get to know her and instead rush into sex not knowing how that blinds and binds them to her. Men must no have sex out of wedlock in order to "see" who she really is and if find out if they really like them. Which is more important because you can love your enemey and not want to be around them or engage and live with them.
Hmm I sense self absorbed vibes. How could you make people have babies? How could you make her sister become engaged?? - unless it's you doing the asking🤔. Accountability goes a long way my friend. Just sounds like you made her a wifey type, just like she made you more of a husband type (as you both created a family and played house right?). Msybe it just didn't work out, unless there's infedility or abuse going on.. sometime its no one's fault and it's just not meant to be.
@@justicepeople8819 I 100% disagree with you. All the red flags were there. Men take responsibility and know they're accountable for everything they say and do. Women, for the most part, blame others, circumstances and refuse to take responsibility.
Party girls are major red flags, if she can’t commit to even a single person to have fun and constantly has to meet new people, she can’t commit to 1 person
1:04 I literally had to explain this crap to a girl at a party one time. She was complaining that Men complimented her looks when first meeting her...I'm dead serious. Complaining about comliments. I asked her how the Guys were supposed to know ANYTHING about her prior to meeting her. It took her close to a minute to realize that it is completely impossible to know such a thing. Amazingly, she actually got embarassed for saying such stupid stuff and we wound up having a good conversation. I was legit surprised she didn't cop an atitude and try to cover her tracks. Hahaha.
Sometimes, girls genuinely are clueless, not evil. You spend enough time doing the same thing around the same people you start to pick up things without asking questions. We all do it whether we know it or not.
I started dancing Kizomba and now I teach it. Lots of hugs. As long as you are respectful with good hygiene. And I am a fatass. (Have lost 20KGs (45lbs) but still have a lot to lose) Women come and ask me to dance.
I heard this elderly woman say to her daughter “don’t marry for money, move to where wealthy people live and marry for love”. I mean that’s the best way I’ve heard it said and I waited for Arako to drop jus so I could comment this
@@Butterfly22593 Indeed but women need to stop thinking that they are so special and above everyone else. They also need to learn how to take rejection.
Real Talk, I love a quiet girl... Cause If she talks too damn much, replace her ass. All you want is the "P" anyway. And that ish ain't worth that much, in my book, anyway!
@@iidentifyasaPSLGoddess The fact that she'll give him peace and quiet is worthy of moving her up 3 points on the scale. If she was a 7 she'd then be considered a unicorn 10, a pretty girl that isn't crazy and obnoxiously talkative.
Men are right as often as girls are insane. And if your girl asks you what attracted you to her, tell her it was the awesome figure that she used to have.
I think most women in a relationship know better than to ask that question. Heaven help the internet if that question becomes a TikTok challenge. When guys give the truth, the girls aren't going to like it.
if you want to get dumped, sure, go ahead and say taht. and of course initial attraction is due to physical factors, and i think that people should be ok with hearing that, but you also don;t have to be an asshole
When it comes right down to the basics, men are either a "T" man or a "A" man or both. And when he final takes notice of her face, it is all good as long as her face doesn't scare off small children. We guys are literally that simple.
Just wanted to toss out a appreciation to you man. My wife hears me me say “ She belongs to the Streets” and laughs. Been married 18 years and tour advice is spot on!
not just yo girl random hoes like on social media these simps hype them up to much they all horny and thirsty and follow them and like every picture and put beautiful with a emoji in comments ....they hype these regular bitches give them 10k or more followers then these hoes start feeling like they deserve celebrities and millionaires and acting to good ...they need to pay more attention to there followers cuz most of them are cornballs that hype them up .....
@@decristal48 How about: don’t ever simp, regardless? If your girl “simps” for you, and you start “simping” back, I guarantee you she *will* stop “simping” for you. There is no equilibrium in a relationship. It’s always going to be a power struggle. The moment you simp for a woman, you lose all that power and then she’ll look for someone else.
I watch Fresh and Fit and they are always talking about dudes going to clubs in Miami and dropping $10K on a bottle of booze. WHAT? I don't care if you're loaded, that's just stupid. I remember years ago they tested "connoisseurs" of wine, scotch etc. and they couldn't tell the difference between a $20 bottle of wine and a $2000 bottle of wine and a $100 scotch and a $1000 bottle of scotch.
@@muskokamike127 thats just plain dumb. I can tell the difference beetween a 5€ whiskey bottle and a 20€ one. Imagine not being able to distinguish beetween a 20000$ and a 20$ one. And spending thst money on a weekly basis. Litterally also wine, can definetely tell when a wine is 20€ or is 5, the quality changes drastically.
I love it when a woman asks “what attracted you to me and made you want to talk to me” and then gets pissed when you call off her legs, bum or boobs, or anything other than her smile, personality or intelligence. Like there’s ever been a man ever that looked across a room and said “wow she sure has a great brain” regarding a woman he’s never met.
The problem is It's not really that simple Usually if the downsides of relationships outright the upsides.its because the man has not taught himself to choose properly. Men are Simps and just go for anything that says yes and spreads their legs.
@@darthbrooks4933 so your downsides out weigh the benefits. I'm quite happy in mine because I can still do all the things I enjoy and progress my career without having to stop and pander to someone else.
Been watching nonstop for about 3 days now, moma of 2 boys and 1 girl. Love the advice and mass self respect you promote. Have to say.. male, female.. we have the same problems...too many folks playing games or trying to get theirs off someone else. Too many men and women simp, forgetting who they are and what they want for themselves while being completely wrapped up in someone else providing them with happiness. Smh.. The rule.. raised all my kids with.. 'Your happiness will never matter to anyone more than you.. being happy is your responsibility, no one else's. Find happiness within yourself before bringing another person in, if you don't love yourself.. you'll never be able to let someone else, love you.' 🤷♀️ Thank you for what you do. Much appreciated!
yeah for me it was pretty simple. wanted a woman who was healthy (not fat, not anorexic, didn't smoke, drink (excessively or a lot) didn't do drugs, didn't party), good sense of humor, honest, loyal and loved me for me and didn't want me to change just to be what she wanted me to be. turns out it was way easier to find a woman that met that than I thought. soon as I locked into what I felt would make a good partner I met her 3 months later totally by accident. thing about being healthy is it is a subjective term which makes it very fluid and easy to fit based on who you are as a person.
@Ian Norriss always a good idea. Don't make the mistake of thinking you have to lower your preferences or standards. Long as you are true to yourself and don't set outlandish standards there is at least 1 person who will meet those standards.
I also have always wanted a gf like that. Someone honest, with good manners and generally more inclined to introvert style than extrovert style while respecting for who I am, you gave me hope that there IS a girl like that out there, I'm happy for yiu man 👍
Nowadays with social media probably but before the true 10s were actually pretty humble since guys were far too intimidated to talk to them along with every girl hating them. The 7s and 8s were the worst.
2:11 so this is becoming norm nowadays? shaking ass recording yourself in the office and feeling proud? what is the boss doing letting this happen? that's very unhealthy environment for any office!
@@genapp3603 one time is all you need. I'd fire her if she sucked at her job. It's a great excuse for firing and today bosses don't have enough of those..
Went to a club with the boys and only spent time with the boys. Walked up to the bar to order a new round and saw a girl standing there wanting to order. She was very attractive and I previously noticed some guys hitting on her without any luck. I asked what she was drinking and ordered a drink for her. She asked why and I responded with why not, it’s a good night. Take the drink and enjoy your evening and then I left to meet back up with the boys. Shortly after she was next to me and wanted to dance and So I did. Later on the boys and I left and I didn’t ask for her number. The next day the boys went out but, I didn’t join them. The girl approached the boys asking where I was and then asked them for my number. She then contacted me via What’s App. Crazy how easy it is to pull when you are not out on the hunt!
I remember that episode of "CUT" at the 16 second mark. I laughed and cried at the same time because it's hilarious and I know exactly what that man is feeling by saying "hell yeah!"
Agree that one actually sounded like it'd be a funny memory to have. I geuss it depends on the dance. If she twerks on a homeless man(or any man) I'm out
We men yearned to be loved and be cared for after the wars to numb the pain. So we chased for women's love. Now they ended up betraying our trust. When we men sitting near a camp fire and joking with our brothers, it makes us felt comfort. Why do we chose to be in a relationship with a mess?
@@decristal48 With women like that? 99% of modern females are like that you simpleton wench! 😂 We can find good females were values lie.. dignity, self respect, and character. God fearing woman have those traits.. the one good point you made!!! Is she a conservative woman or a liberal female… this matters SIGNIFICANTLY… Thank you for bringing this wisdom to light 😏
@@decristal48 where do you find good women? Where do you find a rare spotted burrowing owl? The vast majority of women these days are trying to be men and are argumentative just for the sake of being argumentative. My last gf thought it was "cute" to be difficult and obstinate and was unwilling to compromise on ANYTHING.
2:24 hey arako i havent done drugs nor cigarets but i still started workingout and this past 2 weeks i was liked by three girl i rejected one but dont think that i am bragging i am just happy and here i am telling everyone working out or doing some kind of job is the best move u can do
"I could tell you were intelligent and had a great personality before I even saw you." Said no one ever. Vision is the first sense that normally indicates a person's presence. Sorry, that is how things work out. I have never been anywhere and thought, "I bet that girl is great at calculus" from across a room.
I would hate to be the man who she saves for marriage but sleeps with other dudes. That just means she thinks you're a loser beta provider that will take care of her. Means she truly doesn't want you. The lack of self awareness of these women is absolutely insane.
I wouldn’t go as far as a 7, but a 4 that doesn’t constantly need to inanely chatter is higher than a 4. Supportive, pulls own weight, reciprocal, shows affection without trying to get something out of it, all important qualities too.
@@stuckgrenadepin.225 I think it depends how much men realize how much looks fade and what really matter. I used to fuck a famous girl.. she was in movies. But later I paired with a very average facial girl who took care of herself But has amazing values. Loyalty..is shy quiet hardly talks and is very very honourable... Rare woman.
The best times I've ever had at clubs and raves is when I went with my friends purely to drink and have a blast. There's nothing more fun then going to a 3 day concert with your friends and spending it getting drunk and laughing the entire time.
@@jasminbesic7266 There is of course, but alcohol and festivals is something in life. Somebody could tell a regular man that there's much more to life than only going to your work, going to store and being at home doing nothing. In the end economy decided what you can do or not do, it's easy to sit and have wild fantasy about everything but your wallet will wake you up and tell you "you can't do this" And that's why people are looking for cheap ways to find satisfaction because let's be honest... Life in this system is very boring and therefore people want to escape the reality with satisfaction, whatever it's alcohol, drugs, shopping/consumption or eating... It's all addictive and that's what releases dopamine so you can feel happy for a little while. And the ugly truth is that those ones holding the strings knows all of this, consumption and entertainment is what is keeping people under control.
@@jasminbesic7266 yeah and you're only young once. as long as you're not doing it every weekend its fine. its good to take breaks from working or school.
One if life's great ironies is if you really want women and pursue them , they reject and repell you , but if you are focus on more important things and just don't give a damn about them , you made a decision to ignore them ....then they want you, NOW they want you .....but you don't care lolololol
@@pfffttt9563 think to yourself about anytime you desperately chased after a girl and it worked out…..I guarantee she eventually either rejected or friend zoned you, and I’m saying this because I’ve done it many times. *”We must stay focused brothers, we must stay focused”*
Biggest lesson I could give? LISTEN TO THE RED FLAGS AND YOUR INTUITION! Don’t even speak about the red flags with them. They will convince you to stay and say that they’re “different.” You’ll see one day how much regret you’ll have over trying to see the person you thought they were and wanted them to be.
@@decristal48 Tf are you even talking about? Read it again slooowly it’s not rocket science sweetie. Why did I even respond to one so delusional and that types like that and says “xd” 😆
@@THExKINGxKINGx Lol says the one who likes their own comment? Haha And I was just agreeing with you, same goes with 'nice guys' who want to say "I'm different" when they're not. If you're getting mad with someone who agrees with you, you're crazy then 😂
@@decristal48 I didn’t even like my own comment “smart one” 😂 Nice guys are different from what you’re saying.. you’re describing a totally different category which is why it didn’t make sense 🤦♂️😂
Just subbed to your channel, bro! Good stuff you cover and in a "keeping it real" fashion. No mincing or excusing. Plus, the shit is funny and quite entertaining in a nouveau informational manner! 👍🏼
I think that it would be entertaining as hell if my girl gets in a dance battle with a crackhead, as long as she reads the situation intelligently and doesn't get too dangerous or take up time when we gotta really be getting on. It shows me she can have a bit of fun without caring how other people see her.
@@muskokamike127 they're probably all tweakers. Crackheads like to call out other crackheads for being crackheads like they themselves aren't crackheads.
0:25 - I was out with a friend once who then told me: "Man, whenever I go out with you I dont pick up any girls, becuase we are misbehaving and having too much fun with that". I bought him a beer for that.
I hear ya on the physical then the personality. But I met my wife online blind to our looks and we never even shared a pic until 2 months after meeting. We chatted so much we knew each other before we met and we were both 8's so I can't complain! lol. 13 years married and counting. The attraction of character supersedes the attraction of ones body.
