When Narcissist Loses Control, These are the Warning Signs

Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

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#narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticrelationship In this RU-vid video, you will learn about the 4 warning signs things are about to go from bad to worse. No matter what type of narcissist you are dealing with, it is always important to never drop your guard especially when deciding to leave a narcissistic toxic relationship.
A narcissist relies on dominance, power, and control in relationships, whether they are garnering attention through posturing themselves as perpetual victims, despite never taking accountability for the state of their lives, or they are more overt, grandiose, manipulative, and controlling, you should always tread lightly when deciding to end a relationship with a narcissist.
In this video, I will discuss why you are far more likely to tolerate narcissistic behavior if you have codependency traits. You will learn why codependency is rooted in childhood and how subconscious beliefs hypnotize you from your right to speak up, set boundaries, and live authentically. However, you will also be told of the warning and danger signs that you must be on the lookout for when you decide to begin healing from codependency and setting boundaries as you prepare to exit the relationship.
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@NarcSurvivor Год назад

Look out for the silent treatment and passive aggression.

@beautybys9142 Год назад

Add Triangulation, gaslight, and accusing you of not beahaving the way they “wanted”

@megpi72 Год назад

My mother

@Inga377 Год назад

I concur, lol!

@tabbylivvy Год назад

It’s like walking on eggshells with a Narcissist. Nothing you can ever do differently will ever be enough or be good!!!!

@CB-hi7mf Год назад

The minute I touch the main floor in the morning, she'll start in on me. Ugggh. I try to ignore her.

@feliciajoy2264 3 месяца назад

Utterly NOTHING.

@jamesferrell336 Год назад

As a child I wasn't permitted to speak my mind at home. In fact, I was even laughed at and made fun of if I did. If I showed any emotion because of that I was labeled," too sensitive". I confided in my narcissistic wife (ex now) about this and she used those same tactics against me. Lisa, your videos are a help beyond measure. Thank you for all you do. I am starting to see the light.

@peayleebaron4147 Год назад

You were the family scapegoat. I was too. Never allowed to talk and beat down if I did.

@lilmissenigma Год назад

Same with me and it’s still going with my family and I’m 44. Just gone no contact.

@peayleebaron4147 Год назад

@@lilmissenigma I just went no contact with my narcissistic sons that learned to verbally abuse me because that's all they ever saw. But I'm not having it anymore Self love is all I am focusing on. I am not what they say.

@peayleebaron4147 Год назад

@@lilmissenigma I'm truly sorry to hear you have been thru it also. Comforting a little to know I'm not alone but I know what it feels like and wouldn't wish it on anyone..

@alejandradamian9617 Год назад

I can so relate. Big love to all here who are recovering & on our way to thriving.

@ninabuckingham4066 Год назад

At 54 I have FINALLY figured this out 🙌 my needs are valid and important ❣️❣️

@joshuaanzalone2060 Год назад

Yes Nina our needs and wants matter. We are worthy and we deserve love and respect and we are valuable and beautiful

@suzanne7514 Год назад

54 too…FINALLY is right on. Regaining my independence. It’s hard, Hard work..because while you realize you see right through the illusion you see the horrifying reality. And because there are so many hooks you cannot just leave. Friends and family don’t get that and you get the judgments. It’s isolating, exhausting and at times terrifying. The gas lighting is caustic…I became so sick. It never seems end…the depression. The devaluing…brutal. The valuing…saintly. Finances…dependant. Im creating structures of support…safety. I want my financial independence and break contact completely.

@gigievans395 Год назад

57 here gf :(😭💯👍

@gigievans395 Год назад

@@suzanne7514 yep reality has set in after so many years n being physically sic for years now 😭

@tammyfitzgerald5336 Год назад

❤🎉

@lindseyneil2506 Год назад

This is spot on,I wish i had this knowledge last year. My ex got violent and I ended up in hospital and now have a restraining order- all because he found out I was leaving him. We were together thirteen years and he was never physically abusive before. It’s so true about having an awakening and it’s like they sense it. Please anyone that is in a similar situation,be careful xx

@mariajmc6557 Год назад

Yes ... Happened

@Ang-sj6df Год назад

❤

@Carolinekatongo 4 месяца назад

I just have convinced myself that any narc even mine can become physically violent wen u get back at them,why they want control all the time. Best is to expose and run way in a careful well.

@veeherreraJanecka Год назад

I’m 60 and my mom still tells me what to do how to think etc. I know better now. I’m in love for the first time in my life and he s so kind to me. My mom will hate this because he s older but I love him. Thank you Lisa. You’re a godsend. 🙏🏽

@JJones-nr2pl Год назад

Narc mothers are the worst! They cannot help their need to control everything and will invalidate everything you do. You are like the Cinderella character and are expected to serve the "queen". She is an embarrassment to you at every turn. You cannot have any friends over as she will interrogate anyone in her "castle". Your efforts to get away from her and make money will be sabotaged so you are constantly dependant on her. Anything you say or do is wrong while she and her "family" are perfect in every way. PURE 😈 EVIL!!!!!

@De5O54 Год назад

4:30 “Knowing about issues, and the actual healing from issues are two entirely different things”. - Such a huge point made there. /thumbs up/

@Amanda5by5 Год назад

When it comes to dealing with a high-conflict personality, "unaware she was unaware" were most important words of this because damn they don't see it, even though these snakes are biting every one!

@kathrynrealhealthtalk910 Год назад

Yup. I was discounted and demoralized most of my life. After a while.....that was all I knew....all I understood. Non of my feelings or opinions mattered. My needs were not important. My emotions were not valid. And I'm responsible for THEIR misery ...or happiness...or their mood changes. Ugh. Very tough to fight against. Blessed healing. THANK YOU FOR YOU. 🙏🕯️💝

@WarandFlame Год назад

Jesus said You are accepted among the BeLoved. My needs and feelings were rejected too

@iamanempoweredone6064 Год назад

You should do a vid that explains what a healthy relationship looks like.

@warriormom5843 Год назад

ALL OF IT!! Every last example, Lisa. He has been MADE. I’m planning my exit strategy as I watch this. Thank you so very much for validating my experience; the devolution of my life over 18 years. 😫😭

@nylaclancy2655 Год назад

I'll be praying for you as you get out and in to your new life 🙏❣️

@warriormom5843 Год назад

@@nylaclancy2655 thank you so much 😇🙏🏼💫

@xen42 Год назад

The clarity you provide is so empowering I can feel it on this one

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

That's the goal!!!

@coasttocoastzero8614 Год назад

This video really struck me, being adopted by a dysfunctional family. I now see a clear picture and completely understand what you are talking about. One sentence that struck me when you said, " it's not safe to be authentic around them." That give me goosebumps. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.

@kimberlymccracken747 Год назад

This is excellent and such an insightful commentary on how this dynamic occurs. I am lucky to be here on so many fronts. We have nearly identical life experiences. My Father nearly killed all of us after Mom divorced him. Eventually, I fell for the games of an individual much like him. Sadistic, controlling, verbally abusive, cunning, exploitative and manipulative (though he was covert and started out as vulnerable and victimized.) Extricating myself from that dangerous dynamic took a great deal of finesse, assistance from a trauma-informed coach and an act of God. I knew full well that he was capable of the most heinous acts. Godspeed survivors 🙏✝️❤️

@susanparker9877 Год назад

Lisa, This is such a important topic to address. Not an easy one, but a person's survival can depend on her/his smarts. I would add a strategy : remain stone-cold sober at all times. You must have all you wits about you, without any mind fog from alcohol or drugs. Be present to your situation, dressed for a quick exit (no high heels...), and have an emergency bag packed and ready. Don't be caught in the shower, naked, wet and vulnerable. Keep some reserve clothing, money, toothbrush etc.. at a trusted friend's house. Have a signal (lights, car alarm) that you neighbour knows as your 'Call the Police' signal. Strategy will help you survive to share your strategies with others.

@CB-hi7mf Год назад

Great advice! I also keep a 72 hr kit in each of my two cars.

@gbutler4640 Год назад

YES! YES! YES!

@beachboxrealty Год назад

Good one!

@jodiburnett6211 Год назад

Happy New Year, Lisa. Your wise words have healed so many of my crazy moments. Awareness is everything. I can’t unsee narcissistic behaviors now. Still in shock at how low they’ll go. Sleeping With The Enemy is real.

@michaeldhoncho5963 Год назад

She knows I have figured her out....things are ever more difficult when I can't force validation any longer...I see her as she is, I'm trying to remember who I am....14 years of being put on a shelf, I'm breaking out of this box she put me in.

@kathyroth1876 Год назад

Thank you so much for your guidance!! After 72 years on this earth you helped me to have what was and is going on the lights came on!

@mariajmc6557 Год назад

Never too late 🙂

@lc5666 Год назад

Exactly the process I went through!! The delusional phase... It's so crazy that when you tell people what really happened, they just don't believe it because it sounds so wild and made up.

@getstakerized Год назад

Thank you so much for this! The truth is difficult to face sometimes! They can be very nice, using intermittent reinforcement… when things don’t go their way they can flip into borderline… For those of us still trying to get away and have almost lost hope, your channel is very much appreciated

@lorihuffstutler700 Год назад

Yes, I also learned to make myself small. No more "shrink to fit" !!!!!

@izawaniek2568 Год назад

Thank you for an extremely helpful and supportive video. So many things you have said resonate with me. Unbelievably many! God bless you Lisa. ❤

@willowjm4374 Год назад

When the Narcissist in my life goes "quiet" I know it's time to get out.

@HelenLange-up1pz Год назад

Refusing to people please can feel unsafe, but giving in is far, far worse. I'm thankful for a therapist who said the more we let go of dysfunction the more the Universe or God will bring us something much more worthy of our time & energy. I don't minimize danger, living with eyes wide open, yet at the same time I refuse to walk on egg shells by always watching what I say, where I go, or what time I send texts, etc. In times past I ran under fight/flight conditions, now if I choose to move on I do it when things feel less frantic. No one owns me, and I don't need other people's validation & approval. I choose to live a clean life because it feels good, not to please anyone.

@malibu90265 Год назад

Thank you for addressing the danger of the dynamics of a narcissistic relationship. My situation became life-threatening and criminally dangerous. My nature was to minimize the reality of the danger. Fortunately I went to a professional to help me assess and understand what I was up against, as I was preparing to exit the relationship. I was appropriately advised to be very careful. Someone who is unhealthy, such as a narcissistic addict, is prone to cause lash out. Suffice it to say, I survived with my life, went no-contact, and have followed a path of knowledge, healing, and transformation, but still have a huge dose of PTSD. I could never understand how the narcissist's temperament changed to the extreme. It was as if the narcissist became evil, vile and scary. Now I understand a bit about how my growth away from the relationship insulted and triggered narcissistic wounds, particularly when I filed for divorce.

@bakerinthehouse5346 Год назад

My god I am absolutely surrounded. One thing I have noticed about two of them is that they both told me 'you don't have any friends ' which to me is a very odd thing to say. I have many friends but keep my circle small.

@chilloften Год назад

They think they are better than you because of friends. I move in silence-all through this world.

@oilselevated4808 Месяц назад

I had a friendship for 2 years(we met a few weeks after my narc husband died). First year was great, we went out all the time. She took me to her favorite restaurants. She helped me to care care of everything. I spent weekends at her place, we were inseparable. I became alarmed the last 6 months of her controlling behavior, she was an alcoholic and would talk about other people, I stopped sharing anything personal. Few nights ago we were out and I disagreed on a general subject, she let it slip, “I’m been tired of your opinions for a while now”…I told her it won’t be a problem for her anymore. I was concerned about retaliation so I sent a nice text to her thanking her for everything and I wish her the best. I am flooded with relief that I don’t have to see her again

@yawbear 10 месяцев назад

“Who’s side are you on”, followed by a backslap across the face. My childhood memory when asked my opinion. Never heard of an apology.

@lisaaromano1 10 месяцев назад

Oh no!!!! I am so sorry Dear One, this is psychological as well as physical abuse.

@ladyvirgo9514 Год назад

My husband of 12 years is actually the one who discarded me but I will NEVER forget the dark eyes and blank look. VERY scary

@Itsaslotmachine Год назад

You just spoke about my childhood word by word. Such a sinking feeling

@joannejohnson7006 Год назад

My story as well Lisa. I appreciate you speaking the truth that lives within me. You are a beautiful woman, I needed this.

@lauracornell4629 11 месяцев назад

I totally get the woman on the plane. She must have felt so relieved that he couldn't get through anymore.

@elizabethstockton1996 Год назад

Don't forget a big problem of us narcissist-magnets- codependency is a big risk factor for sure, but even having healed that I still experience NA... My psychologist has pointed out I have white-knight syndrome... it's like I'm not even drawn or attracted to someone unless they are very broken to start with. I guess it's just my ideal of normal. It's what's familiar because it's what I saw littered throughout my childhood. This time while playing it out it's like I want to "save" the hurt good little child inside. I relate so much to Clarice from the Hannibal tetralogy... I just want to hear the lambs stop screaming

@lilmissenigma Год назад

This is the best video I’ve ever watched. At the start I wanted to send this to them and by the end I decided I will let them think they have ended the relationship.

@testingherwings Год назад

I'm in the MADE phase with my mom and siblings. We all live together. It's terrifying. Thank God for your video!

@taraarrington2285 Год назад

Does your family treat you like a second class citizen are you the scapegoat?

@testingherwings Год назад

I've been in every "role" throughout my life. I keep learning more to try and stay sane.

@beachboxrealty Год назад

Get out

@joshuaanzalone2060 Год назад

Lisa we have every right to leave. We do not have to be a doormat ever again. This is my life and if I don't want you in it,you are not going to be in it.

@bonniesazama4869 Год назад

Thank you for your videos, this one especially. I couldn't figure out why I keep going back for more punishment. Recently I made a decision to go back and live separately in the house, after telling my daughter this she did not think it was a good idea. I turned on your video and was validated by what you said about taking the blame if that is what will keep me away from him and safe.

@erockfreedom6399 Год назад

Thank you. You are so spot on with this. What I've been feeling recently is that because my literal existence is a threat to the malignant narcissist, and they're always trying to keep her in check -- they see me as a nuisance. Zooming out, so to speak, I feel afraid for my life everyday -- i see what they are trying to do. Emboldened to shout terrible, insulting things ... this building is run by a management company with a "building manager," who lied to me, insulted me, and: I'm doing it in my own way, but I'm doing it. PS I want to thank you for just being you and being with me through a peaceful night after several nights of insomnia (vivid nightmares), I chose one of your hour long sleep meditations on Insight Timer. Thank you, 🙏🌈

@seanrademeyer3104 Год назад

Many deep dark night of the soul here too!

@gigievans395 Год назад

Lisa, our lives are parallel 😭 in the "leaving" stage... calculated for sure 😭

@ebarker8908 Год назад

Hi there, your shows are very helpful for me, I lived the exact same life as you. I admire the fact that you were able to find a way to have a good life. I'm in my 50s and my Mom is 90. I had a breakdown and things started to be clearer. Memories have came back and they don't stop. I learned or forgotten how my Mother treated me and the abuse. The lies she told for years and she can't stand that I now can tell when she is lying. I've been a target of a smear campaign that's gone on for years and she doesn't back me up. Same behavior from siblings. I wonder why I gave myself to all of them

@maxwell-cole Год назад

This video was exxxxxxxxtremely helpful as are all of yours. Thank you. You really helped me realize exactly what is happening and how to navigate it.

@galacticknight55544 Год назад

I'm a 24 year old male, and I suspect that I might have either BPD or covert narcissism (or both, as they can overlap). To describe my symptoms as quickly as possible, I have a fear of rejection, I get angry easily, I can hold grudges for years over really petty stuff, and I can get jealous really easily. I also have a really hard time talking about my feelings because I don't like making myself vulnerable. When they do reveal themselves, they often come out as anger. I have an easier time expressing anger than I do fear or sadness. It makes me feel less vulnerable and more in control, and it also gives me a sense of superiority (that I'm right and whoever I'm upset with is wrong).

@WarandFlame Год назад

You have to repent of Pride. You have to forgive those who hurt you and you need to be delivered from rejection and offense. Jesus Christ can set you free but you have to accept him. He says you are accepted among the Beloved. Love is patient love is kind love is slow to anger. It doesn’t seek its own. People cover their brokenness with pride to feel in control. The truth is we can’t control anyone. But you can set boundaries for what you will and won’t accept. You have fear I understand. The Bible says don’t fear man or make man your confidence. Jesus was rejected and despised and hated. He wants to heal you. I had fear of man and I didn’t have boundaries. He is healing me. You are worthy of love. We are all afraid but we can’t control what other people do. Only what we will accept and how we react. I will pray for you. So many of us are hurting. There’s someone who will take it away. He loves you and will never leave you or forsake you

@WarandFlame Год назад

I love you and that’s so big of you to admit that you do that. It’s fear hun. God says Do not fear man or put your confidence in man. Put your confidence in God read his word and renew your mind. Best book ever written

@valoak928 Год назад

@@WarandFlame thank you for writing this.

@pattyfitz317 Год назад

Lisa you are spot on!!! You saved many lives with this video!!!

@oscarwilliamson1128 Год назад

Patty Scancella,You are beautiful 😍,Hope you are not with a narcissist….

@mayberry8620 Год назад

I want to be part of your next group. I’ve just broken up 5 times with a narcissist father getting away from my Dad. He caused so much fear in me it took 4 years to understand how to get help and almost died three times. Watched my Mom die. He didn’t care and wouldn’t acknowledge my upper ribs were out of place, I had a numb arm and two numb hands. I’m now in a house partly owned by my Dad, he has power of attorney as everytime I tried to get away I got into terrifying relationships. Even when one showed me a blood stained shirt of a prostitute he had killed and choked me, put a knife up to my throat and my Mom said it was my fault because I wasn’t fun enough and they wanted me to marry the guy. My Dad was the parent who would “rescue” me and I was not allowed of the house so I never saw or understood healthy. My Dads occasional kindness was all I knew. The first time someone showed me empathy I didn’t even understood why he was asking if I was okay. My friend and boyfriend were fighting, I just stayed drunk in the bath tub that night. I went to tons of therapists trying to understand how to say no. Saying no meant torture or losing my favorite things or animals while growing up.

@MapleBlvd Год назад

❤️ This hits home. Thank you for your help.

@tinajones5548 Год назад

Sooo, true all of it. I filed for divorce after 31 years. He retaliated saying I'd opened pandora's box. My goodness was I punished in every way possible. I divorced a complete stranger. Stay strong, stay true, stay safe, stay calm, stay QUIET, don't poke the bear!!! Get the best legal team, loyal friends and loving family around you. It will be war and every support you can muster will be your shield. Thank you Lisa...

@mayberry8620 Год назад

Thank you about holding onto yourself. I’ve been using that . Unfortunately I have been blocked from all friends or an ability to create any. He’s so well loved (as a teacher ) that people won’t believe the child who kept ending up in treatment centers and was to afraid to talk to anyone growing up. Unfortunately I don’t know almost anything about surviving in the world. I never learned about it, as I was always by my parents side. I’m 48 but I have just gone from one narcissist/sociopath to another and then hidden out as I have never known how to protect myself.

@ray-gailpetersen-tchissamb7222 Год назад

I am soubing right now 😭😭😭this is so sad for me i always thought what was wrong with me cos no one understand what my husband is doing to me when i explain to them what im going thru with him even though i can see im stuck with my kids in this relationship i felt many times if it wud be better taking my own life cos that mite be so much easier but my kids are the only once keeping me going.Thank you for this video's it help so much.

@AscendedMind Год назад

Enlightening as always. Eternal gratitude!

@siz4sean Год назад

Happy New Year, and you have my gratitude for all you do.

@thenutritionalhealer7233 Год назад

Sounds like my childhood also and how I used to be, learning so much from you Lisa, thanks for sharing your voice and story and wisdom, women need this so much, right now. xx

@dmorgan0628 Год назад

And men who have been abused by these women as children. I feel like I share the pains of co dependent women. I'm learning finally at age 35 to set boundaries with others. I stuttered a lot as a kid around my parent's and realized it's caused from a place of fear.

@thenutritionalhealer7233 Год назад

@@dmorgan0628 yes, no child should grow up in fear, but fear used to be used for parenting, not so much now, but still goes on

@priscillaburger102 Год назад

Thank you! This is my story. Everything you tell is True. I am so glad i'm out of that relationship🙏. You're video's has helped me to understand what i was dealing with. Thank you very much!

@willowjm4374 Год назад

The Narcissist in my life insists on communicating with me on Instagram while I'm at work. I drive for a living. When I don't respond immediately I get accused of ignoring him and it ramps up from there. He blows up my phone. If I pull over to respond safely I lose time for my delivery. So, I don't respond, I continue to drive, but in a huge state of anxiety. I have followed your advice to the letter, but this person see the change in me as a bull sees a red cloak. I know I'm stuck. We don't live together, but I'm afraid to leave the relationship.

@Carolinekatongo 4 месяца назад

just slowly cut contact by avoiding engaging and giving him time during yo work,but consider living.

@ReRe_642 29 дней назад

Get out immediately

@jeanannedupratt7075 Год назад

Thank you Lisa. I have concerntrated on finding myself each time I lost put in a relationship or in a job. My tendancy to give up my finances as if to compensate or 'pay' for my safety (Yes, I'd pay out money to worthy v'causes, not claim my pension, give away my possessions....), my need to love + to be loved led me to believe falsely that I was healed. And that on the next round, I would reap in better. But I still am not healed. I keep on giving love to bad candidates at 70. And having false hopes. I find myself in the account of your life. If you can heal, so can I. God Bless. Jean Anne

@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 Год назад

Just listened the first couple minutes...sheesh, what kind of control operation were your parents running on you. Total control. Master, servant relationship. Um. That's simply evil intentions and actions against a child that a child can't fight back against. Must surrender. Yow. Good you're educating others. That's a way of fighting back.

@chilloften Год назад

Lisa you brighten my day speaking the reality. 🦋🌺🌲

@KristenUchida-us4ks Год назад

The narcissistic sociopath definitely sets himself apart from the rest of the run of the mill narcissists in your life. Thank you for bringing your awareness on the topic 🙏

@arleneberrios6072 Год назад

Great message..and I absolutely love you hair 😍

@mayberry8620 Год назад

My mind has been so messed with . I’m an only child but my parents brought in other kids who enjoyed narcissistic behavior .

@deewitt8693 Год назад

Absolutely great video!!! Thank you!!!!

@dklein130 Год назад

I needed to hear this today, thank you ❤️

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

So glad!🤗

@Shetoosweet Год назад

Thank god for you sharing this information 🙏🏽 ❤

@jimmymatt6228 Год назад

21:45 --"(Narcissists) are happiest when they are in control, and when they are being praised, or you are intimidated by them." This is a good antidote for if I choose to foolishly put on the rose tinted glasses again and think of contacting them again.

@beachboxrealty Год назад

You exactly discribed my ex when he knew I was done. He invented the most horrific story lines. So I moved out went no contact. Did not even show up at the divorce court. I did not show up. He avoided the papers I had served to him for divorce for a year, then he served me for abandonment. Who cares, I did not have to show up to get divorced. I suggest this method. Horray I was divorced in 2015.

@bah667 Год назад

You have a beautiful heart Lisa. Bless

@CS-mt3dh 3 месяца назад

they are predictably unpredictable 💯🎯‼️

@Hawaiiansky11 Год назад

Narcissists are aligned with demonic energy; therefore, they are capable of doing things to human beings that normal / non-evil people would never imagine. There's no way for us to anticipate how low they will go. Because no low is too low.

@Tom-fam Год назад

This is spot on! Sounds like my upbringing, with my narcissistic mother. I'm laying low, had enough of her slander, when another relative revealed, she said, I'm so drunk by 4 pm every day that no one can even talk to me! Totally not true! Deformation of character. Family is 4% less dangerous than a Stranger are dangerous! Tells you right there! I'm 60 years old now, single and enjoying my peace. Grey rocking most family members for sure! Thank you for speaking on this. More people need to be aware! 😉

@WeWontGoBack Год назад

Or when you speak up finally after years and try to set boundaries with some “friends”, you’re labeled as difficult, crazy, a witch etc. it’s not just learning to speak up. You have to also have the strength available to lose friendships and sometimes family members. It’s incredibly painful sometimes.

@earthangel2033 Год назад

You’re a true soul sister Lisa. Thank you 🙏🌏💙🕊😇

@theodoreboosalis Год назад

Excellent video. Love the work.

@Knowthyselfastrology Год назад

I was told I was a non player character! NPC. Once I stopped playing and put boundaries in place...I saw evil face to face.

@alejandradamian9617 Год назад

Beyond helpful. ❤️🦋❤️

@anp7997 Год назад

Hey liza I really appreciate the way you speak most of the people who speak English are so fast the people across the world are not able to follow But you speak in a way everyone can follow thank you for spreading so much peace and happiness in the world love you

@tainoaquarian8320 Год назад

This such a thorough And valuable share. Though the excruciating, confusing heart breaking period that lingered, was the most painful of my life- seeing the end of my relationship was me running (out of his grip) for my life… out of my own home. It was all you speak of here and all the more- so nothing dramatic about any realities you lay down here. Watching, learning of this, would have saved that ‘Alive part of me… before he was able to take/ consume it all. Narcissistic abuse is beyond words and compare… especially when you forever ruminate and blame yourself for what you didn’t know, and when you (could) never stopped loving them.

@Soquetes222 Год назад

Your story is so much like mine, both what went on within and without you. Thank you for sharing your story. This community of brave people giving their testimonies and sharing what they learned has done more for me in a few years, than any psychoanalysis or psychotherapy I tried in my youth....(and I really tried, I absolutely knew I needed help 'cause I felt like crap all the time). And that fact makes me wonder about the psychological community of prefessionals, because lately I've assessed the ill effect their methods had on me...they are big part of the problem in our society. They stimulate and enable the narcissist/empath toxic dynamic and help no one but themselves, securing clients for life. Something is really, really wrong with the conception of the healthy human mind these people operate by. We either change that, or we're not gonna make it. Thanks, God bless.

@lauracornell4629 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for this

@tiredscapegoat1569 Год назад

Both my mother and sister bully me and blame me for everything. My sister and I are nearly 60 years old and care for my mother who is in her 90s. My hoader sister is worse than my mother after decades of being groomed to make my life hell. Non stop scapegoating and yo-yo-ing. Gray rocked failed me and all of my pain is stirred up. The satisfaction that I gave them by blowing up and crying, breaking down, while both of them reinforced their disdain and hatred for me. I can't believe this is my life. I'm so tired. I'm stuck. My mother even tried to physically intimidate me while throwing "heart attack threat." I'm a thief, liar, lazy, I'm the devil, and so many other heinous things that I am not. I'm a coward

@jenn2115 Год назад

You are NOT a coward, find your voice & stand your ground, feel empowered to know you are so much more than them. You CAN choose who your family is... I went no contact with my blood family 15 yrs ago. This past summer, I made my sisters aware of our mother's Narcissistic traits & the abuse. They're so far gone that they'll never change, I have grown. I can't be bothered to try to have a relationship with them. Our "mother" is on her deathbed & is milking it for all it's worth, I can't wait for the day she no longer exists on this Earth. I don't know how ppl can sleep at night knowing they severely abused children when they were VERY aware of their behavior.

@tiredscapegoat1569 Год назад

@@jenn2115 thank you, Jen 🤗. I appreciate you.

@jenn2115 Год назад

@@tiredscapegoat1569 Hugs to you!! 🤗

@brianb7869 Год назад

Tell him: 'Even though you lie and gaslight yourself and present a beautiful and fascinating facade to all, and your image you take pride in, rightfully, due to the craft, and wonderful attention to every single detail... wow... that you have invested in this sublime process....... EVERYONE ELSE SEES YOU FOR EXAXTLY WHAT YOU ARE, NOT JUST THINK THAT YOU ARE.

@kaceymckown1657 Год назад

Thank you Lisa ❤️

@user-oq9kb5oi5f 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much!

@mayberry8620 Год назад

Thank you for having figured out how to get free. The last therapist saw through my Dad and told me to go homeless. I couldn’t leave due to how sick I’d been and refused to leave the animals. I can’t get into the domestic violence program as my parents gave the program tons of money. 400 people came to my Moms funeral and my Dad’s almost a God. Im angry at the therapist who let two pedophiles cover themselves by starting domestic violence programs. Mom had to cover for my Dad as he went to treatment for pedophilia. So I couldn’t have female friends and then my Mom stalked my first boyfriend.

@James-bc2oh Год назад

Brilliant relate to all of it🌹

@mayberry8620 Год назад

He apologized after one word salad. I found out I actually don’t know anything about my family. He almost gave away the jewelry from my grandparents. I fought half a day for months but it was terrifying. I could not get my Dad to stop stalking women or putting my picture in the scrapbook for my Mom’s memorial. Then he yelled at me about leaving money for my Moms sisters. He started thinking I was my Mom. Yup terrifying driver. I had to hide his keys as he self harmed into two emergency surgeries and eventually I got pnuemonia and that’s how I almost died except the narcissistic house cleaner got me to a doctor.

@mayberry8620 Год назад

I just found out that I fawn when in fear. I am not even codependent I didn’t even know I was allowed to care for myself. I’m trying to get through fear so I can clean this house

@LeonardoGarcia-gc4hq Год назад

Whao! Thank you ❤

@carolynlamar8079 Год назад

Thank you💕

@shusain7233 Год назад

I am exactly in that situation where i am living a very difficult life with my spouse

@kaceymckown1657 Год назад

Just got rid of a narcissist. Thank God I never lived with him, but he knows I'll call the police if he shows up unannounced again and I had my cell phone carrier block his number from their level. So much wasted time, but I'm now ready to heal and not repeat this pattern EVER again ❤️

@tjenkins76 5 месяцев назад

GOOD POINT YAAS!!!

@francesbernard2445 Год назад

I like your honesty Lisa. I don't like not being believed when reporting a crime while being only told that none of us should ever poke the bear. What bear? And then having to suffer all the more after the crook gets wind of us making the report. That is not called poor communication on our part. Nor can it be called us instead being prone to lie about our past while only telling grandiose fictional stories. It is only someone not wanting to get involved in bringing one crook out of many still out there to justice maybe because in their only covert way they want to keep that option open for themselves too when maybe someday too feeling overwhelmed with living problems or only because they believe all of their possessions and their status will protect them better than we are wanting to protect ourselves. What joy it is when being told that we are the person who has to take all the responsibility for no longer being someone's only a romantic interest when not being accepting enough of someone's advances towards us and then invitations to spend time with them alone in their home. A romantic encounter which never only a few dances together stage one evening anyway. Now I know why some Roman Catholic priests like going to dances too. Some of them after they were given the boot during a failed marriage too.

@mes1220 Год назад

Forever remember your worth,,, Don't listen to the jerks,,, What they mention's so @bsurd,,, Don't listen to a word,,, Know that you're precious+pure,,, What they s@y me@ns nothing for sure,,, Their words resemble m@nure,,, Detaching is truly the cure,,,🌞🌳🌞🌳🌞🌳🙏

@lauracornell4629 11 месяцев назад

Oh my God he did the car thing