When Narcissist Pushes an Empath Too Far This Happens/Lisa Romano 

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Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Great video! If you are an empath, please vet very carefully BEFORE you get married. You can’t imagine the human carnage I have seen in divorce court when an empath tries to divorce a narcissist. Stay safe out there!

8:25 “A healed empath is a very strong warrior.” I love that

I was married to a narcissist and had 3 children with him. I thought I could “fix” him. I’m now married to a fellow empath and it’s SO refreshing. We have zero issues. If I get stupid, he helps me. If he gets stupid, I help him. No emotion battles.

Im an empath. That being said, when a narcissist pushes me too far, all hell breaks loose and they lose because empathy isnt my only skill. Nuff said.

So true. I am an empath who thought people are inherently good and have been so disappointed to find that so many people are so evil. It’s heartbreaking really.

Yes! Once we see the disgusting behavior, I do not want to even look at let alone talk to them. It’s sad and gross that someone can be that predatory. Lord please protect those who are fearful of this behavior. God will protect you.

"Narcissists will fear the healed empath, because they can see through them."

My covert narc pushed me too far. She lied. She minimized her abuse. She gaslight me. I got fed up. I have been no contact for years. It feels good to get toxic people out of my life.

After 65 years of hearing " I love you " and watching the behavior of people that say it , I'm glad nobody loves me. I'm nobody and I love me by staying away from you.

If you are an empath that gets hurt repeatedly by narcissists, you can take on narcissistic traits to protect yourself, and wind up resenting yourself for it

sadly, the awakening can take decades to unfold. but once out of the fog, there's no turning back. An enlightened empath is a beautiful and powerful person. game over, narcissist.

Growing up with a narcissistic parent kept me from understanding my own boundaries, and it wasn't until I ended a relationship with a narcissist that I found the strength to start understanding myself instead of just blaming myself for anything I perceived as wrong. I'm living in a house free of narcissistic abuse, and... I've noticed a few changes that can't be overstated. The meltdowns have stopped. The crushing self-hate has stopped. I feel like my voice is in the same reality as those around me. The only thing I struggle with now is... well.. how to handle silence.

It is a crushing blow to realize that monsters are real. Realizing that not only have we been in a relationship with a narcissist but we were raised by one. It is disturbing to look around and realize how many narcissists were already in our lives. Standing up to the bullies in our lives feels like David and Goliath. God has most definitely carried me through a lot. He has saved me more times than I can count. Thank you Lisa for all of your help and compassion. ❤️🙏

Beautifully said....As an Empath I seem to attract narcissists...personally and professionally..took me decades to come to terms with this....and now live alone totally happy...I live 2 lives ...1 in the world that I can just about cope with . And 1 at home where I am blissfully happy alone ✨😊🙏

Happened with my Mom. She is Bipolar and narcissistic. I’m an extreme empath. It was hell. The acceptance and realization of her never changing was pain.

64-yr old woman, divorced twice. 100 percent recovering empath. Never felt so empowered. I’m living proof that it’s never too late! Thank you!

Wow!! I have to write this. Before I left the narcissist who is my ex-boyfriend, I toldhim excitedly, "I'm SO HAPPY I met you!!" And he smiled because he thought I was giving hima compliment. Then I said, "Because I've realized how much I love myself!!!!!!!!!"

my god, im 41 years old With a good deal of introspection. I have never heard anyone explain this to me. Hundreds of videos on narcissist's watched .I did not expect to hear anything new by now. But you just blew my mind. Thank you

YES!! I am 61 years old, married to a CLASSIC Narcissist for 41 years 9 months and 9 days and filed for divorce! He didn’t talk to me for 3 days because he didn’t like the steering wheel cover I bought for my car and raged at me at 5 AM because I “didn’t even THINK to take a cup of coffee in to him.”. NO MORE!

It is exhausting. They are never satisfied.

This is so accurate that it's painful.😢 I am thankful that I'm finally on the journey to healing.

I agree. "When the narc pushes the empath to the end of their rope, the empath turnes the empathy to themselves". That's what happened to me. I now try to take good care of myself, and be empath to myself. I need to learn how to better protect myself against my narc boss. Additionally, other people usually do not appreciate the help, but in return try to use you, because they think that you are weak. It is waste of time, energy and life to try to heal others. They need to heal themselves. I need to fight my urge to help others.

Really needed this, Lisa. I'm grieving the loss of a 'friendship' that took me too long to recognize as toxic. A confrontation days ago left me so shocked and shaken , that I was forced to realize that when someone shows you (many times over in this case) who they are, BELEIVE THEM. (Also, everyone told me she was like this and I was in denial...)

Thank you, Lisa. It took to my 40s to discover I was surrounded by a narcissistic family and I was an empath scapegoat.. definitely didn't know what boundaries meant until my 40s. Love listening to you.

Any person can drain you if you got no boundaries. They don't have to be a narcissist.

I’m an empath and this happened to me. I had a rude awakening to the people and world around me. You’re spot on.

Just blew my whole mind. Felt like no one else would ever understand how it felt to walk into a room and just 'know'. Makes you feel crazy trying to explain this to others. ❤ Great video! Tysm 🎉

“Galvanized”. This is a perfect word. It took 15 years to get to the point of acknowledging the Narcissistic sadistic behavior. One statement from him broke the spell. My mind went completely into a mode of END THIS NOW!! I’m galvanized!😊

I'm an INFP empath who knows what the narcissist is up to but have tended to overlook their selfishness and shortcomings this only leads to sadness and pain, it's taken me 64 years to get it but never again, boundaries are the secret weapon.

They have only cognitive empathy. This means they are fastidious about doing and saying things that indicate they have concern for you. Unlike many grandiose narcissists, a covert narcissist has a cognitive understanding of how people behave when they have concern for others. But when the chips are down in your life, such as you are the victim of a crime, you are very sick, or you lose your job, the covert narcissist is chilly, abandoning, and just “doesn’t get it.” They may blame you for your misfortune. The covert narcissist can’t summon any of the normal ways of caring in these moments. In these ways, they reveal themselves to have no emotional empathy. Depending on how long it takes for you to experience such incidents, you could go for years not realizing that your partner is a narcissist. They may literally turn their back on you, over seemingly trivial matters. This is a trait they share with grandiose narcissists. Maybe they get annoyed that you’re walking too slow and leave you alone while they rush ahead, or they get impatient with what you’re saying and turn around while you’re in mid-sentence, or maybe you’re a little late for a social function that you’re attending as a couple, only to find them already inside as if they weren’t at the event with you. They probably appear charming and competent to those who don’t live with them. A covert narcissist’s constant striving for perfection often results in a set of traits that most of us (who are not obsessed with perfection) admire, as long as we don’t get too close to the narcissist. This makes explaining the upside-down hall of mirrors that is your shared intimate space with the covert narcissist impossible to explain to those outside the relationship, who will assume you are either exaggerating, or that your relationship skills are lacking. The covert narcissist may be a pillar of the community, or has lofty, well thought-out ideals. The striving for perfection of a covert narcissist often results in associating themselves with highly regarded intellectuals, businesspeople, or other such pillars of the community, such that the covert narcissist appears to be a pillar of the community themselves. Additionally, covert narcissists can identify with a vision of societal utopia, and become a zealot about their particular ideals, whether liberal or conservative. The covert narcissist is surprisingly lazy. Despite their lofty ideals or connections, the covert narcissist often does little to no work to actually earn the respect of people in the community through their actions. Their ideals or connections are a facade they choose instead of real effort and commitment. They can be sexually faithful. Unlike grandiose narcissists, who are often sexually unfaithful, covert narcissists can be sexually faithful for fear of their reputation being damaged, or out of sheer laziness or shyness, not out of an emotional commitment to their partner. This can be confusing to the neurotypical partner, who sees the faithfulness as a sign of love, making the erroneous assumption that the covert narcissist has emotional empathy, and therefore the capacity to love. They have a Jekyll and Hyde personality, often raging, or finding fault with you, in private as a way of relieving their own inner shame at not being perfect. This is another trait that coverts share with grandiose narcissists. It feels like you have a partner who’s really a teenager, and that it’s your duty to shoulder the “steadiness” they need in the face of their criticisms and anger. The covert narcissist has absolutely no sense of humor about this behavior, meaning there’s an unnecessary “heaviness” in the relationship that leaves you walking on eggshells. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your husband of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on him without his knowledge. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; BARRYINVESTIGATION@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,

The empath is overwhelmed by the narcissist’s mental abuse and emotional abuse and verbal abuse. Thank You GOD for Lisa’s RU-vid Videos. Thank You Lord! 🙏✝️

I woke up at age 60 and realized, as the scapegoat, that the price of remaining quiet was too high. I don’t put up with anything from my 7 siblings anymore. I have listened to their dissertations on how awful I am and what is wrong with me my whole life. I have thrown it back to each and every one of them. They can dish it out, but can’t take it. I have no respect for any of them. I told them I know who they are and I am not afraid of them. They have anger or are childlike. But, I have overriding anger too and told them I need apologies. Of course, they will not be forthcoming.

You have no idea how much this video has hit my heart and soul. As a little girl who was raised alone with a sexually abusive father and an alcoholic mother, I was very alone yet very strong. I honestly don't know how I survived. I got married young and had three wonderful children but my husbands turned out to be a narcissist. I ended up raising them along and now I'm 70 years old and have 6 grandchildren. I have one problem now, it's my 42-year-old daughter, she is constantly criticizing me, bringing up past flaws that I made along the way and I have done everything possible to love and support her but only recently realized she has her father's narcissistic personality. This video, with it I have a much better understanding of what I must do to stop what I feel is emotional abuse from her. Thank you so much.

You eloquently explain this all so profound! I am a recovering codependent /empath and feel so empowered and alive for the first time ever in my life! I rationalized my abuse since childhood and it was killing me from within. Thank you dearly 💙🙏🏾🙏🏾

I am in the final steps of separating my life from my abusive narcissistic mother. Videos like these definitely help.

It took me a long time to figure out but living in the city was terrible for me as an empath. It was like a roller-coaster at first, almost fun. That didn't last as I found myself in messed up relationships with ppl needing help. After awhile I found myself overwhelmed to the point where I started self medicating to shut some of it out...but that was not a good solution. I finally came to the realization that if I didnt sell my home and get into the woods asap I wasn't going to live much longer. I couldn't even sit alone in my own house without feeling like I was being bombarded with emotions, most of which weren't even mine. Getting out of the city did wonders, things aren't perfect but life will never be perfect. I really think that we are not meant to live so close to so many ppl, especially strangers. For most of human history we lived in tribes or family klans, we knew everyone to some degree. An exceptions to this would have been centers of trade, but many ppl just made trips and didnt live in that place.

Listening to this makes me realize how I've become an empath and just how empathetic I am. It also helps me to realize how often I've been gaslit during arguments that I supposedly have zero empathy when I'm the only one expressing empathy in the equation.

This video has explained what I have been feeling for months now. I am finally healed and I take NO narcissistic prisoners. I have two narcissistic coworkers who work symbiotically. What they thought they saw was a kind, friendly and seemingly weak, pliable woman. They’re finding out that I am a fierce warrior who protects her peace at all costs. No screaming. No cursing. No arguments. No gossiping. It’s the pleasant attitude. The steadiness. The eye contact. The strength of my convictions and the calmness that shakes them to the core. Thank you, Lisa.

With respect to being an empath, I took things one further... "I became a Nurse." You nailed it! Thank you.

I had hit bottom. Severe anxiety and depression. Told by my narc wife of 25 years that i need to relax and not worry so much because it was interfering with her vacation time... Through years of therapy, intense work, cbt, and medication i figured out how much I was giving and it was never going to be enough. I started saying no to my narc wife and she divorced me after 25 years. I am the Phoenix you described. I'm powerful, happy, smart, strong, and so very grateful for those who helped me understand.

This feels like the most exciting description of what happens between empaths and narcissists without the negative aspect of it all. This video describes the awesome qualities of a healing empath and how they become differentiated and self galvanized once they fully step into their own healing awareness. Lisa nails it all in this video. Where would we be without Lisa Romano? She is our healer. We are so blessed.

I'm so broken. I'm so tired of fighting for myself. I have spent my whole life trying to help people and now I'm just broken.

My ex husband I believe is a sociopath/psychopath. Married for 12 years. He had an affair, I stayed. I tried so hard for 4 years to repair our marriage. He ended up leaving me anyway, replaced me very quickly, divorced me very quickly as well. I’ve been completely shattered since that affair, it’s been 5 years now. I feel like I’ve lost that beautiful gift of being a deep Empath. I’m so numb internally. I keep trying to heal without relief. I haven’t dated yet either, it’s been a year since he left me. I don’t want to continue living this way, I want to feel again. Isolation, no friends at all, my family believes I should be over it by now, had a few therapists that just don’t understand so I gave up that route. I miss my passion, my compass, my desire, my motivation, my purpose, my mind, my self. This emptiness is so consuming. I’ve tried spiritual healing as well. I just want me back 😢💔 So lost, so shattered.

This was beautifully said. After my “relationship” with a monster narcissist, I really didn’t take crap from anyone. I set my boundaries and still stand to them so I’d never get stuck where I was before.

I feel they have so much to answer for their evil-doings when they meet their Creator! I know narcs have had their own trauma but they're caustic, cause a lifetime of damage & in general, are predators & have a sinister slant to them. Thank you for ending this video on a positive note bc the narcissistic abuse is still ongoing (living w/an invalidating aging narc mother) but I pray I can still reach the state of a recovered empath who is awake.

My god this resonated with me. My mouth was literally open the entire time as I was following along. I literally chuckled because on how spot on it is. I had built up so much self love before entering a relationship with my narcissist ex. I had never encountered anyone abusive or someone that betrays with no accountability until my ex. 4 years later, in a time where I believed with all of my heart that people can change because I have changed so dramatically. You’re right, I did realize that not everyone is like that. Not everyone can look inward and propel themselves forward like I have. It really just led to weak boundaries. I’d sternly oppose the abuse or the things that bothered me. But I latched on to the slightest bit of improvement but improvement isn’t lasting with a narcissist. It exhausts them and it eventually wears off and they say F it all and enact the same trauma and worse that they once experienced. Mind you, they are completely unaware of the similarities. In the end I was physically and emotionally abused. Numerous cups and plates thrown at me. Tables flipped over into me, choked, pushed, slapped, and hit. A narcissist seems to be convinced they can solve relationship problems right away. However, their temperament and escalation of emotions does not allow this to ever happen. It results in chaos and abuse with no accountability. During this time the empath will try to get away, locking themselves away in the bathroom, the bedroom, running out of the house, walking 15 miles in the middle of the night to get away from the narcissist. It was extremely damaging to me. A year later and I still feel bad and traumatized. I did get straight to working on myself right after leaving her. She cheated and I left. I have built myself up again but the wounds feel like a scab that never heals. Like any irritation of it will cause me to bleed again. It’s an empty feeling but I am hoping that if I just keep pushing forward that I can heal these scabs and the scars will only be reminders of what to avoid and a reminder to hold strong with my boundaries and beliefs. Sorry for the long text but it just helped being able to put it out there and I hope people can relate.

This actually had me laughing out loud 😂 it resonated so strongly! I came out of a truly brutal narcissistic relationship at the end of last year, one that pushed me past my limit. It has given me the opportunity to heal my own childhood trauma and also realise that the vast majority of my relationships have been with narcissists. The last being the absolute worst, but also exactly what I needed to finally wake up and learn who I am Thank you so much for this video, amazing!

I just got out of a relationship where I felt drained, spiraling, depressed. Where I couldn't say the right thing or have an opinion. I'm starting to realize I was in a relationship with a narcissist. And from this video I think I am very much an empath.

This lady speaks the truth so elequently, I'm an empath who tolerated a narcissist for twenty two years. I still feel sympathy for her although I will no longer tolerate her. I care for her soul, not that I'm overly religious but part of me thinks, why couldn't this false person just have been themselves, I would still have loved and protected them. That sounds sad but it is what it is. Moving on and feeling better, less drama. Incidentally that's what they accused me of doing, projection. Thanks Lisa

This make me just wanna cry, why couldn’t I have found this video back then 🥺😩

I have become the “Strongest Warrior” as one who has endured a 48 year relationship with my wife of 43 years . . . I have endured over 6 million replacements, reconstructions, numerous other repairs including TBI’s . . . The “Key” is upon healing one with Warrior energy can supercharge oneself Spiritually, Mentally and Physically . . . At 64, with my long beautiful natural golden blonde hair flowing in the air, I have become a world class skating dancer who looks like the 16 year old boy who loved himself before a 5 decade facade . . . You inspired me to share this Lisa! You have recovered to give “Beautifully” a whole new meaning! God bless you and your beautiful family, our Father is smiling upon you dear, for all that you are doing to help His children heal from the opposing deal, Thank You! Peace, ~Dwd.

I spent 9 years being abused telling myself, "I can handle this. I can fix this. I'll show her what unconditional love is and she'll be okay". Nope! I lost everything.

5:00 "We genuinely begin life feeling everyone feels as we do"

This is exactly what happened to me. I am currently battling Complex PTSD from the abuse i experience mentally and physically. After she devalued and discarded me she went to jail for domestic violence. I’m not the empath anymore and I’m finding ways to trust people again. it’s been four years since I last saw her and I have made huge improvements in the last year by quitting drinking alcohol. It took six months into sobriety before I figured out what had happened to me. God bless anyone who has been through this. She took me to some very dark places and she convinced me I wasn’t worth living but I’m here a becoming a better man than I used to be. The best of me is emerging and thank you for this video it helped me. Thank you.

They have to know where the hard boundaries are. That's why they always push the envelope until it rips. Then they take a half step back and wait for you to cool down. Then they resume pushing.

WOW you described me, it took me 24 years of exhaustion to finally divorce my narcissist ex, 2 years of finding me. I've realised you can't save people that dont want to be saved, I'm nobody's doormat, see and feel manipulation a mile off. My family find it difficult to hear me say no to them and I don't feel bad about it anymore 💪 Thank you ♥️

Thank you for this confirmation, I’m recovering from a 10 month marriage with a narcissistic wife and my therapist helped me discover that I attracted this person because I’m a “rescuer” I grew up always protecting my mother from my father who was abusive and my sisters. I’ve recently begun to actually be thankful for having gone through this because now I realize that if I was able to continue loving my spouse through the abuse, controlling, gaslighting, manipulating ways, i clearly have a lot of love in me to give someone who can receive it. Thank you

A destructive narcissist never becomes self aware, therefore, he will never change.

My husband and I abandoned the narcissist in our lives, which was his mom. When someone starts calling the cops on me, putting my freedom in jeopardy, we are done, they are a threat to me.

It is LIFE CHANGING when the Empath realizes who they truly are and everything positive they can do. At age 56, I am thankful that I have discovered that I am an Empath. Also love that there are so many articles and videos about getting through life as an Empath. There are plenty of energy vampires, but the beauty behind that is that once you learn how to defeat them, you succeed at learning how to live your life and not letting them affect you. Hey negative people, do you like how I have learned to play your game and win?

First thank you so much. I'm 7 out of 7. I scored 89 on the empathic part of the personality test. I have Finally admitted that I am codependent as they make them too. 40 years of this. I will RISE!! I will recover stronger than ever too. I am wide awake thanks to a good therapist and people like you.

Excellent description of an empath. You and I experienced the very same family dynamic growing up. Glad to learn about this trait and to develop my protective self mode as a healed empath. Narcissists now stand out to me and they fear my awareness and ability to see who they really are.

Well this hits home. Alcoholic father, narcissistic mother, Im the empath that wanted to heal dad....then came the broken narcissistic boyfriends 😅 Ended up a single mom and so many generations of baggage that i didn't want being passed down onto his shoulders.

Narcissists suck all the oxygen out of the room. Empaths ADD oxygen and energy! I much prefer my own company, often late at night rather than being around noisy, whiny, needy, argumentative people who always say, "But what about MEEEEE??!". Love the empowerment of this video, Lisa!!

This happened a few weeks ago. The lying, character assassination, harassment and other abuse finally all clicked in my head and it’s over and that’s for the best. They are a disgusting person and I hope karma does not miss them.

After over 30 years of narcissistic abuse from the woman who gave birth to me, I’m totally drained emotionally and have nothing to give anyone in any kind of relationship.

I'm 82 and always been an empath. My mother was psychotic and actually killed people. What you say is true but I am not overwhelmed by others. I love being alone. I haven't always been this way now.

You started my healing 6 years ago.I now know who I am.I was the strongest in my Family and had to take care of everyone.I am so grateful to be in this place.Thank-you.

60 year old empath, and I have only just started to accept that suffering and drama are so many peoples life choice. It is a lesson I am truly beginning to open to. I have had a lifetime of relationships with narcissists and sociopaths,, starting with my parents, and siblings, then "friends", and romantic partners. As far as a narcissist pushing me too far, they sontaneously get a verbal cannon ball fired straight into the core of their ego. From my true power, not my own ego. Which leaves their ego feeling crumbled, awkward, speechless....for the moment. Then they retreat and rebalance in their energy and resume as "normal" in their narcissim. What never occurs in them is self reflection or healing. So even when they are blasted with a "wake-up call", then don't even use it for what it is, and grow. I am learning to stop putting focus on any other human's inner healing, and to focus solely on my own. It goes against my nature, so it leaves me feeling cold and unhelpful, but that is another part of the lesson to learn.

I've encountered far to many broken angry narcissists. Staying single and healing until I become galvanized. Eye opening and profound information. Very valued. Thank you soooo much Lisa‼️

Thank you, thank you thank you! I really needed to see the black & white of this explanation. I am breaking generational trauma, abuse and healing myself. I am doing it, and anyone can do it. Keep up the good work everyone. ❤️🧡💚💙♥️💜

Handy tip that helped me.Another empath once told me that when I feel someone is thinking negative thoughts about me I should just tell them in my head to F….. off. It works. The thing is to make sure you figure out why you’re feeling upset and identify the person. I’ve never failed to identify the person.

Woke up this morning,and listened to you talking Lisa, it resonated incredibly to me, feels like your the only person that describes me on the planet. It's reassuring and healing,I am going through this,I am loving myself for once,all my empathy isint flowing to my ex narc,instead it's going to me. I feel so much stronger, it almost feels like I'm reborn, I'm discovering myself understanding myself for the first time,like I've been living under the vail of consciousness, in this fog, like you always say,it's not me it's my programming! It took me probably half my living life to find myself, goodness it's not easy! But now life is much sweeter then it use to be! I protect myself the way I would protect my babies when they were little, I'm so happy that my highly protective side I used for others I'm using automatically towards myself,because I've discovered myself,I matter,I love myself. Thankyou Lisa a million times, you are really a Phoenix!!! 🤍

Thank you for profoundly explaining this hideous behavior of a narcissist. I never could understand people who take advantage of others to feed into their self centered life! Absolute horror!

An empath will always have the strength to feel sorry for the bad people and not engage in any bullshit. Just walk away and focus on your self,nothing better! 🎉

Lisa has a tremendous ability to be precise and to the point in her clear manner of teaching. She has a god-given ability to communicate and help others through what she has learned herself!

Good lord. I have all 8! Growing up my step mom would make it like it was wrong to be emotional. I had a friend in elementary school, her grandfather had a heart attack when we were all at a basketball game. All of a sudden I was thinking of her and how that felt for her and I got upset and felt bad for her. My step mom stepped in and ask why I was crying and laughed about it. It’s like my feelings were wrong. I hate that now as an adult I’m dealing with all this. I have been doing a lot of research on narcissists. I truly believe my step mom is a narcissist. I’m now putting in distance. I’m now learning to heal.

The 5th quality of empathy was feeling guilt when you are unable to help. It moved me so much. I sometimes have to withdraw from people when it’s too much.

I let an ex-friend/co-worker worm her way back into my life (yet again) after my daughter passed. She knew I was vulnerable and boy did she ever play the part of hero/supporter. My grief made me question all my thoughts and feelings (and she knew this) but it also made me more empathetic. She took the greatest trauma of my life and slapped me across the face with it and now to anyone who will listen, I am the crazy ingrate. Still learning to navigate in this world with compassion while also setting boundaries and giving myself grace. Thank you Lisa for all that you do! I’ve learned so much already.

I’ve been standing up to my narsasisit with truth, he is getting more verbally abusive all he has is lies insults and manipulation

Shocked that everyone else doesn’t feel for them like they do for others…….spot on

After my narc mother died, I came to realize that I was an empath, but my dad would always told me growing up that I was a sensitive kid and that people would hurt me because of it. That I had to draw my lines (boundaries) so people couldn't hurt me. He even made me work in the restaurant to learn how to read people & how to not let other people's emotions effect me. Worked well all my life until he passed & I had to care for my narc mother (which either of us knew). I always felt it was my job to fix her and there were others as well in my life. My dad would tell me you can't save the world. I wonder sometimes was my dad an empath but didn't know what it was called! But boy did my narc mother did a number on me the last five yrs of her life. I wonder if I will ever heal! Thanks Lisa for your help.

Truth 💯! Yes exactly! 🎯❤️🙏🔥 Both my parents were narcissists and I’m a empath. Now I’m healed through therapy. I shut down and ran away from them and was done with them.when ever I try to deal with them now they don’t want to have anything to do with me they know I know who they are. They had zero empathy and are toxic, negative and emotionally immature. All they’ve done is put me down and blame me for their issues which has been so sick and disappointing sadly.

I’m an empath and I’m sick of only attracting narcissists. Resorted to therapy to change my vibe, hopefully it helps cause I’m starting to feel numb toward everything and everyone. 🙄

It's magical how someone on the other side of the planet has had the exact journey of healing that I have, and has come to the exact conclusions that I have, except that I didn't know the names of phenomena such as narcissism, empathy, triangulation,..., and that English is not my first language. Lisa, I feel like you are translating my thoughts (that are in Persian) into eloquent English 😊 Thank you for doing such an amazing job 😉👌💕

I’m this Empath and I’ve finally figured it out since my last relationship.

Wow! I feel like I understand myself better after watching this video. It is sooo accurate. I'm definitely an empath. I divorced a narcissist many years ago after I was beat down from many years of doing all the giving and him doing all the taking. He even admitted to me once that he would behave the way he did on purpose (coming home from work stressed and depressed etc) I guess so I would spend time cheering him up. I've got my guard up against people with narcissistic tendencies. I will not put up with it.

This was the most perfect explanation of the Empath and how we navigate through life, relationships, and establishing boundaries. Very validating! Thank you

I have never seen a video that described my situation so succinctly! Every portion resonates. From my narcissistic mother to numerous narcissistic relationships. I have already discovered these things about myself but I have never seen it all together in one video

This is so true…was clueless that people could be so devoid of empathy.

Lisa, You have changenge my life and understanding. Thank you. For a time I thought that I was possibly a narcissist and come to realise that, that is exactly what narcissist do to empaths, to convince empaths that they are the narcissists and that they are the problem. My mother and father got divorced when I was 4 or 5 and remember my father telling me that I am the man of the house now and need to take care of my mother and sister. I can recall numerous toxic relationships I have been in because I felt I had to be the knight in shining armor. I have custody of my children now because their mother is a self entitled crystal meth addict narcissist and the courts came to their senses. However I now have a son that is a covert narcissist. Yay me.

I was exploited by a covert narc, he even publicly humiliated me on more than one occasion. He truly broke me down to the lowest point of myself but I knew I’d get up. I learned so much and realized I shouldn’t try to help everyone. I also learned that it’s ok to walk away from people who are toxic to me and my mental health as well as knowing that I can’t save everybody. I have to live and respect myself first and foremost.

This has been life-changing for me as I have just recently realized that everyone else does not feel things as intense as I do. I feel so naive that I have just realized that not everyone feels the way about me as I do about them. It really does seem like that should have been obvious but I guess I saw nothing but the good in people and assumed that they cared as deeply as I do about everything. But what I have learned from my journey is that I'm not going to let other people's lack of empathy and hate tone down my extreme empathy and love and Light. From this point on I will just be more cautious with the people who I let get very close to me.

Yes to all signs!....

I had no idea about empaths, codependents and narcissists. I was married for 13 years with 3 kids. I really couldn’t take the bullshit anymore and began to rebel against it. Which led to my wife, monkey branching to another man and leaving me. Now I know! Thanks for clarifying!!

I can’t stop crying 😢 you are describing my relationship . 10 years with a covert narcissist, i have given my all but is never enough. He is now tarnishing my image, call be crazy, difficult n selfish.

This is not just an awakening time it is reborn again phenomenon to me! I’m feeling an emotional attachment to myself I’ve never felt before, I’m singing to my heart, soul and spiritual thoughts out load! I needed that message today for affirmation and clarity to my gift NOT my curse! I’m so thankful for your truly magnificent way of healing nature! I have a picture of a salad I made today out of edible weeds, flowers and organic vegetables and fruits, I would love to share a picture?🤷‍♀️🙏 Kelly Laisdell 😇

This is what's happening to me. I try to please everyone and I am drained now.

Wow! I’m 74 & didn’t know that how I feel is being an empath! I have never heard this term! My mother was a narcissist & in my teens I got into a serious relationship with a narcissist! My mother threatened suicide throughout my childhood to control . She “finally” did commit suicide when I was in my 20’s. It was so painful because I didn’t know where I began or ended from my mother!!! The end of the story was later I married another empath & had a beautiful 47 years till his passing. I see that I have done a lot of healing. I now enjoy people without “owning” their problems! Thank you SO much for this video!!! It has explained to me my journey!❤️