When Self Care Becomes a Counterfeit! | The Real Life Podcast 

21:24 when he puts the chapstick on is my favorite LOL

Wow! I was just thinking about this the other day. How productivity and personal development and a perfect morning routine, etc. have become such trendy things. It made me have the same thoughts questioning it “if the world is obsessed with this, is it healthy?” Since we are called to be the opposite of ‘the world’. Wow, thank you so much for covering this topic. BTW I’m only 10 minutes in so I’m super excited to finish listening 😂😂😂

Two nights ago, the evening before I heard this Podcast I was out with my husband and considering spending a little bit of money on myself, as I was walking around I was thinking “Why am I spending money on something that’s only gonna make me feel better for tonight?” So I started thinking of some things that have truly been on my mind to purchase for myself, and which of those things would be more of an investment into TRUE self care, rather than a consumeristic whim. God is speaking to me y’all 😍 Thank you Jeff & Alyssa for taking time to discuss these very important topics! It has started a conversation between my husband and I over the last few days ❤️

Jeff and Alyssa, Jeff- I’m 23 but I’m telling you right now we have the same exact mindset and I understand you more than my top faves which include many artists, pastors, and teachers. I’ve followed your videos for like three years now and am just now writing to you! I hope you get this. I pray the Lord makes many more men and women like you two and that your marriage/life provides a solid base for our youth and young adults now to strive for!!! Thank you for your endurance, perseverance, and love. When I’m finished with my book I’m going to ask for you to read it and think about doing a forward (depending on how much of it you like!) Be blessed!! Love you guys

Alyssa really spoke what I have been struggling for a long time. For so long, I have been seeking comfort and rest from shows, youtube videos, etc, but it can never satisfy me completely. trying to work on that rn

Wowwwww!!! Thank you so much for this! This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m in a season in my life where I’m super busy with work and by the time I get home, I just vegg out and watch RU-vid vids. Now I know that that’s isn’t really self-care and is more of something I do to escape. I’m definitely going to be more considerate and intentional with my self-care.

Still relevant years later. I've been asking myself the question of self care vs being self consumed. This has helped a lot!

Love this talk! I’ve found recently self care means a day of rest (Sabbath) and spending at least 20 mins with the Lord every morning. 📖 I also love spending time with close friends and my sweet husband 💛. What I loved about your insight was that even service can be self care. I love spending time with children so I hang out with middle schoolers every week and it’s so fun and encouraging - and it’s so much more than “self care” and more about spiritually development and it’s beautiful.

Yessss I love this!!! I am facing hard burnout right now as a nursing student. I finish in May and it is so hard to get self care at this season in my life and having to “keep gas in my tank” I’m having to say no to a lot of things and people who I know is draining. Love you both dearly 💜💜💜💜

LOVE this topic!! Fellow prophetic gifting here (learning and growing in that) so your podcasts are so confirming for me as a young adult trying to continuously shift my heart/mind/lifestyle to living counter-culturally. So encouraging! Thank you!!

Thank you for sharing, guys! You do a great job of incorporating listeners into what each of you has to share. One question I have is as a working mother how can we minister to not only our children/family, but to others? Often, my husband and I come home at 5pm on Friday after having both worked a typical 40-hr work week. We find ourselves exhausted physically and mentally. Because we also want our children to know that our bodies are temples and physical health is important, we practice self-care by going to the gym for an hour most nights (never on the weekends, btw, this is definitely self-care as I hate the gym lol). We have small group every two weeks, church Sunday mornings, etc. Each family as routines, but in a household where both parents work outside of the home, how can the hubs and myself minister to our children or others when we feel our time at home is so limited as is?

This is exactly what I needed to hear. This podcast came to me at the perfect time. I work in a job with a very inconsistent, busy schedule of pouring out to hundreds of youth a day. I don’t always get people who cross my path who pour into me so it can be very draining. I’ve been in a funk over the past week of feeling drained and getting upset and frustrated easily. This video was so encouraging and informative to me- self-care is vital but how you go about it is also important. God bless y’all, please keep these podcasts going.

wow such a good topic! i needed this so bad right now! thank you! keep up these amazing conversations. i had a long stressful day and just finally got so burnt out and your totally right. escaping is so easy and listening to your heart is so so so important! od bless you!

Oh my gosh HAHAHAHA when alyssa said “how could i follow up with that?” To escapism, it just shows how deeeeep into the topic Jeff is and shes just like “wow!l

Hey Jefferson and Alyssa 😊 love your podcasts! Would love to hear an extended session on the "gifts" that God gives us because it's often easier to see the gifts that others have than to identify the ones we hold ourselves...

Love you guys!!! Great words and discussion of self-care and more. Plus, you guys are young so that teaches us in ways that others just don’t-hope to meet you one day!

This is a really important concept. Thank you for going deep into this. I am glad you expounded at the end why living in Bora Bora isn't a healthy thing for Christians. Some introvert Christians, including myself find this really appealing. Your talk has given me a lot to chew on, because I need to force myself to do things that are hard, but are really self-care, like church. I feel I have permission now too, to find ministry that is more suited to me, that is is okay I don't go to 4 Bible studies a week.

Great topic! Watching this podcast (during a break) was a form of self care for me. Listening to uplifting content keeps my tank filled. There were so many nuggets of deep truths. Congratulations on your new addition to your family. :)

i'm loving the podcasts! You guys talk about really meaningful and interesting topics. Love the way that you guys give godly advise and how you carry the light of Jesus.

I’m enjoying the podcast thoroughly and putting words and making sense of so many things that are in my heart. Also learning so much. Would love if Alissa and/or Jeff released their reading lists. I love reading but it is difficult for me to skim through and find what book to buy. So would love to have an update on what you guys are reading and maybe read along with you.

good show!!! havent seen you in awhile, Alyssa has really stepped up & hear from her more. 2 perspectives make for great content. Thx for this topic!

THIS PODCAST is exactly what I needed. (All of them,really) BTW I appreciate and LOVE the background.

Hi there. Great topic. One of the areas where this is the most clear is "wanderlust". I love travel and adventure, but I realise that there is an entire culture out there that is running away from life, and responsibility, and community.

Guys in my prayer this morning I thanked Abba for how He has wired Jeff - I saw my prayer confirmed when Alyssa thanked God for Jeff’s gift from our Lord- praise Our Lord

This is literally one of the best videos on the internet! Period! You guys are such a blessing! I'm meditating on it throughout November I promisr

Wow I can't stop rewinding to look at you apply your chapstick hahahaha

Love it! So refreshing! Thanks for sharing your wisdom in this.

Great discussion! Very good points. Gave me a lot to think about. Keep it up you guys are awesome!

you guys, I have to say that I'm so blessed by how God has matured you guys and your ministry. Love the content you've been releasing. Be blessed in Jesus' name.

This podcast fills me ❤️

Also, I rarely if ever comment on youtube I'm working on that, social anxiety even on social media, so that's how big of a statement you made & I'm a big youtube watcher.

Definitely more of an Instagram person haha. And thank you for having a discussion about self care! I honestly struggle with the idea of what is and isnt godly when dealing with self care and saying no. Because biblically I know we are to put others first, but at the same time we need to take care of ourselves. 🙂

im so thankful for these podcasts

Thanks for this podcast!

Alissa you are gorgeous ! Thank you guys for this awesome podcast !!!

I'm going to blow your mind here Jeff, but even LEGO is not the plural. The name is actually an adjective. It needs to be followed up with something. LEGO bricks, LEGO sets, LEGO creations, even the company does not call themselves by LEGO, it's The LEGO Group. But at the end of the day, so long as you don't say legos, there is more peace in the world. Even designers and people that are in the high up positions that run the company have just said LEGO before, but you can tell when people are really serious about it because they will make sure that no matter how they speak, whether it's audibly or in text form, they will make sure they use LEGO as an adjective. And if we really want to get uppity about it, the first time it is used in text form also needs to have the little registered symbol, that R with the circle around it. It gets pretty intense. I just try to remember that it is always in caps, but I didn't know that before typing out my name for the Internet forever ago and it's just been part of my brand for the longest time, so whatever. But any other time, all caps all the time, followed with nouns, maybe a registered symbol depending on how formal the situation is, I'd probably be using my real name if I were going that far though.

Wow. Thank you for that last thought Jeff. So good! Needed this and helped a bunch. On to tha list >>>>>

I love Alyssa's pure heart. :)

22:20 when you’re in awe of your amazing wife dropping those wise nuggs! 😂

I love watching podcasts too!!!

Yay another one!!

This was so helpful!

I love how much Jeff tried to play down Alyssa’s compliments! Lol❤️❤️❤️ but I agree with her 💯

such good points made!

Sheep! Another one of those ‘lego’ words :) anyway, thank you so much for this! Definitely something I’ve been thinking about and struggling with for a while...I really needed to hear you say we shouldn’t just cope with life! Thank you!

The whole thing was great but my most wow moment was the very end when you talked about when Jesus fed the 5,000. The 12 baskets left & the 12 disciples....what a brain shocker!

I'm sharing this. Loved the video.

Hiiiii, my ultimate #couplegoals / #loveliketheminspo 😛 I am so so so delightful, thankful & excited to see SO MANY EPISODES AVAILABLE for your podcast!!! I thought you guys stopped last year!!! Ahhh! This is so nice! Thanks, guys!!! Love from Philippines!!! Shalom, brutha & sistahhh! ❤️✨🤗

I’m an Instagram person all the way! Actually got rid of Facebook over a year ago because it was a toxic thing in my life

A: interaction between you two is super cute! B: this was a good hard reminder to not numb out, but to remember to turn to the Lord!

The only other comment I would make is that escapism isn't only because people don't WANT to work - I think work in the west has become so stressful or results-driven that people are walking around like zombies. I think that 20mins numbness on the phone is because people's brains are overloaded and the stress shortcircuits the brain

App detox works well! You can set timers and restrictions on app usage.

What do you think of meditation, or mindfulness as self-care? I've heard a lot about how there's scientific evidence that it decreases anxiety and stress.

Thank you for countering the "treat yaself" mentality. I was beginning to think I was the only one who despised this saying (maybe I still am). I get the heart behind it but it just makes me sick thinking about it. I don't want to indulge in anything apart from Jesus! (But I still do, because i'm human. Stupid sin!) :)

Ok idk how y’all do it but every time I’m thinking something you post about it

This changed me

I am a RU-vidr! Thank you for always being real!

Yes amen- Abba wants us to cease striving by our own understanding

Can you guys do a topic talking about/pulling from different books in the Bible? Like can you do one on The book of Job

Instagram for sure!

I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture. JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.” I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures. By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GWViryWWch4.html

Thats. a. good. word.

I love this I love u two I love Jesus Amen

Ideas of "Free/Homemade" Self Care, Go!!

Could you upload to spotify for Android users like myself?

I just saw a video titled “10 self care vacation spots” Interesting...

Yes Alyssa! Reminded me of this podcast by Leslie Ludy setapartgirl.com/podcasts/how-to-rest-the-right-way

Isaiah 14:12 How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations! John 17:12 While I was with them in the world, I kept them in thy name: those that thou gavest me I have kept, and none of them is lost, but the son of perdition; that the scripture might be fulfilled. 2 Corinthians Chapter 11 13For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. Galatians 5:4 Christ is become of no effect unto you, whosoever of you are justified by the law; ye are fallen from grace. Jude 1:4 For there are certain men crept in unawares, who were before of old ordained to this condemnation, ungodly men, turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness, and denying the only Lord God, and our Lord Jesus Christ.

I'm a prophet of the Lord. Your eyes are sagging because you are off of the vine. John 15. The lord wants you to pay attention to the holy spirit. Do not involve yourselves with the church's teachings.

Love you but you tortured me with rambling around

I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture. JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.” I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures. By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GWViryWWch4.html

I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture. JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.” I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures. By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GWViryWWch4.html