When She Flakes On You, Do This! | Courtney Ryan 

Very commonsensical but worth mentioning anyway.

Well put.

@jcorb How naive do you have to be to think she flaked 5 times because of work? She wasn’t very interested and said to herself fuck it why not and ended up coming. How’d it go though

If a girl flakes on me ONCE, I cut contact permanently. I no longer have the time or patience for that BS.

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Well said

I did. Was no ready for a job interview that day and I called to cancel. Got another date,got the job and been there for 3 monhts and everything is going really good.

Like never.

If you cancell, might mean you didn't want the job in the first place ...

It's the male ego that fucks them over. Options need to be a must for every man. Not saying go out and fuck everyone but none of this would bother men if they where dating multiple women. Not everyone likes you but someone will.

Right

This is too much common sense to get in people's heads.

Yeah because they fundamentally did it to you first.

Im at the point now where I WAIT for them to flake

dude stop copying other peoples stuff

@@nathand4500 15) Frame is game

@@mwanzafitalpha9827 Guy you must be beta

@@creativefantasybox2462 😂😂😂

@@creativefantasybox2462 I'm a super-beta, you can have control but be a simp, as well. Just be rich and more flaky than the girl.

Has happened to me before. Oh we’ll. Get over it, move on. That’s it. I don’t know why men keep at it, it’s disrespectful. Hell I don’t know why I use to try and keep at it lol but over the years I learned. One chance, and over it.

I feel like the do not list is applicable at any time and in almost any situation really. Don't be that guy.

punish her by calling her out and then block her and delete her number. That's how we balance the punish and reward in the universe not just by letting them get away with it. a girl who receives a harsh truth response from a guy will never ever do that again to anyone else because basically flaking means lying and playing with people lives and that should not be regarded lightly. by the way after punishing her you move on easily

Exactly. So you should move on from the 1st flake. Simple as that. 😉👏

I've seen it firsthand. I hooked up with a chick at a wedding I worked at and she told me she had a date planned with a guy the next day. She asked me if she should cancel and I told her she shouldn't since she agreed on it. She ended up cancelling on him anyways.

Women make rules for betas and break rules for alphas. If she is really interested, she will not cancel. If an emergency, then she will see you the next day.

@Yez Kex christ women always have an excuse for flaky behaviour. if you can't say no via text msg, that's your problem to work on.

@Yez Kex nonsense, if a women is just not interested, she'll flake. if she thinks you're hot, she will be down. trust me, i've been there. this 'men pressuring women' trope is just a nonsense deflection.

Went through this recently. Except I was the one who cancelled cause I forgot I already made plans on the day for our date. She said she also had plans that day, which she never told me about. She didn't offer to go on another day, so I took it as it is and just moved on.

@@brainrich1358 I don't blame ya 💯

I'm doing that right now. She flaked on me yesterday but we didn't establish a real time. So we agreed that it was to late so she said tomorrow we can. It's raining out but she apologized for that but she can't today. So now I put the ball in her hands. If she makes a offer I'll take it but if she doesn't then I know what it is

@@TRUTHaintHATING It depends on what type of relationship you have with her but if you have not done anything meaningful with her like a relationship sex or longtime friends, its not bad to just message her in maybe 2 weeks and start a conversation again. If she is apologizing and it was not clear in the first place you can't really blame her for not being to exited. So give it an other shot and have a nice experience and if she doesn't, don't put to much or any effort in it.

@@brainrich1358 She prob didn't but didn't wan't to feel or appear less then you. So she probably thought exactly the same about you waiting for the plans. Next time remember most women are reactive and most men are proactive. For most of the time the burden of arrangement lies on you.

I've had similar women do the same thing. ONE time, however, a lady I was set up with on a blind date by a mutual friend, cancelled the day of (and this was in the late 90s, so I didn't even find out until I got home after my workout and heard my answering machine). We were supposed to meet for just a drink, and she had a lame "I'm too tired" reason, so BUT she insisted she wanted a second chance, so I made her actually take ME out to dinner to prove her sincerity! She was ok in the looks department, and much older, so it was a one and done date, so I didn't miss out on much, but at least I got a free meal out of it (kind of like what women often do to us men when they're uninterested), lol

That's exactly how you handle it , as men we cannot tolerate that type of behavior

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Just say dinners on her or drinks on you next time. If she's a serious she will pay.

I would text her “ You do understand that this means the wedding is off” “ You owe me dinner and 2 dozen homemade chocolate chip cookies” This shows that you are not freaking out about her flaking on you and that you do not tolerate this kind of behavior from her! If she doesn’t reply, move on!

Right on.

Rescheduling is just so she can flake again never reschedule.

@@CoryHeadquarters That's why he said if she does it again move on. It is life. Things happen.

Its kind of mens fault also ...a lot if men tolerate this behavior cuz they're desperate

which is a failure of fathers everywhere. you think they would no better to train their daughters how not to be an asshat in the dating market. every man deals with this yet when given the opportunity to change the course of the future its back to aweee pretty little princess can do anything, princess is amazing! fucking barf salad. fathers raise sons to be a man of their word yet they completeyl ignor daughters valuing a man honoring his word so she should show up if she agrees on things as well and be respected in kind by anyone she was dating. this is what parenting is supposed to for, to counter balance our animalistic nature and make more than just impulses. so many people fail with their daughters and up becoming beta fathers.

I haven’t met an intelligent or morally up right woman yet.

She wouldn't be wasting your time if you had your priorities in order. Accept her nature and just know that's gonna happen sometimes. If you kept your options open you wouldn't feel no type of way. You as a man aren't for everyone but someone will like you.

⁠@@loristrode9556How you know they don’t have their priorities in order? Haha Tell me you’re a feminist without telling me you’re a feminist.

Don’t show her u care bc that’s gonna make her look at u like a simp don’t show her any attention act like she don’t exist and she’ll be coming around

Keep your head up, atleast that girl told you she canceled. Was supppse to go to the gym with a girl and we mutually agreed to go to the gym and workout. Never even showed up, felt like an absolute loser but I was at the gym so I pressed weight a bit harder than usual. I asked her what happened and she said,"I fell asleep ahaha" at that point I knew to just focus on myself from now on. I told her," you know what it's ok, I get it. Don't force yourself to like me. Go live your best life" now she's just another woman who'll see what she had and live with some of that regret. Chin up King don't let these females knock your grind

That’s the worse flakes, the ones you invested extra time and money into. I planned a sports event with a chick I was talking to for about 2 and a half weeks, booked tickets a week and a half in advance for the Pistons vs Warrior’s game, decent seats too! She told me the day b4 she couldn’t make it cause she was sick (allegedly). No apology, no reschedule or anything. I ended up not even going. Money down the drain

@@queddogg22 Wrong, wrong, wrong. Do *NOT* invest significant amounts of time or money on a new girl. Think gradual escalation. Meet at a park, or for coffee, or something that is low investment for both of you. If she proves worthy of your resources? Then you can spring for the bigger investment. 😉

@@marcmays48 100%, that was his second mistake, first was trying to date someone from work. Flake City.

She flaked because she doesn't find you a quality man too her.

@@GuidetteExpert Yeah, then she will regret her decision at least 8/10 times. 😂

@@GuidetteExpert why not just tell the guy she isn't into him romantically?

Ohhhhh, AMEN, AMEN, AMEN, AMEN! 👉 "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes." She took a shit, she can go step in it, too! Boy can karma suck sometimes!

Amen. Tolerating bad behavior begets more and worse bad behavior.

@@jk-califkid5017 Couldn’t agree - more! Lol

So.. what do you do when you want to be with her, but she flakes on you? How do you make her respect you, or make her not flake on you? (if it's discussed in the video sorry, i haven't watched it yet) I mean in the texting phase, not when setting up a date or something more serious.

@@ElvenMans you can't force somebody to have feelings for you. They either have them or they don't. And if they don't, walk away.

​@@gibbletronic5139 I mean currently i have this girl. She has feelings for me for sure based on the things she does and texts me. We were chatting a lot recently on multiple occasions over text. All the signs of her liking me are there. I think she just got a bit scared/misinterpreted something i wanted from her. She didn't text me yet, so i'm giving her time.

If you were a celebrity she’d make sure to show up early. No second chances have some self respect

If she flakes a 2nd time... THERE IS no 2nd time!

@@Savage-bd3rk Dude...sometimes things come up just like Courtney said in the video before I even watched it. Sheesh xD....! Once, ok, things happen - twice though, STREETS!

Only give her a second chance if it's a very legitimate reason. None of this, "Oh, work was so crazy today.....I just need to relax tonight," bullshit

@@jeremiahm1413 If something came up, she would offer a different time to hang out if she is truly interested.

Which leads you into not even waste time dealing with dating apps.

This and it’s much cheaper than a divorce with someone that never respected you

I’m told it’s a myth and they aren’t into older men.

And then once you start to get comfortable they'll do the same thing all over again. Rinse and repeat.

Women don't come knocking at your door just because you are in shape and have a high salary. They don't know magically know you are successful nor do they know what's in your bank account. You have to still approach and have confidence no matter who you are.

Merry Christmas Benjamin

If she isn't interested, it's on you for not being attractive enough, not on her. The good thing is, she first said yes, she didn't insta reject you with disgust. So you are probably decent, like a 6 or a 7 with a lot of room for improvement. Looksmaxx to bring yourself up to an 8+ (gym, haircut, fashion, grooming, you name it) and your next match will be a solid yes.

Why shouldn’t you bash and shame? What would you say instead?

Ay yo bro same. Met this really nice girl at a coffee shop she lived in a different city only an hour away by train so its not bad. Made plans to meetup on a Saturday to hang out in her city then she goes I cant I have a project im like thats all good she is a doctor. Then im like lets plan for next week she said yeah lets do it ill come im like ok that works for me. I heard nothing at all that week im like ok bye :)

Weird move on her end but I’m glad you had a good time man.

@@Lost_Angeles Sadly, that's not my first rodeo. I learned to always have a Plan B just in case. Back then it would still suck. I'd try to have a good time, but inside I was hurt. I'm getting back into the dating game now as I've lost my fiancée. We were together for five wonderful years. That's why when it happened this time it didn't suck. I as disappointed but got over it quickly and had a blast. This was because of the love I had had with my fiancée. Though I was going into the date with an open mind, I had known what it was to be truly loved for who I am and she's gonna be a tough act to follow.

@@Clownboy15 Sorry for your loss bro.

dont think too much about it. remember women are fickle, she may have been very interested in you at one point but her mind might have changed the next day ,, iv been through it waaay too many times....just move on

Spot on!

@@CourtneyRyan Merry Christmas Courtney! I hope 2022 is great for you

If a girl flakes on you - don’t keep on playing her games. No woman is going to respect a man, she can easily manipulate, that’s only going to lead to more bad behavior from her down the line. This is why you got to have standards, expectations, and boundaries - basically, things you’ll tolerate from a woman, and things, you’ll not! Until you figure that out, this type of things are always going to happen to you! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

Why even bother giving her a second chance? If a woman flakes on me, then she's either not interested, or she's too busy, and doesn't have an appropriate amount of respect for my time and efforts. Her loss.

If they give you the all keep you posted and or all call you back later and or all let you know after they have already flaked on you once regardless of whether the circumstances are justified or not just say NOTHING and do not respond too their text messages! Say nothing! Say nothing! Don't try too reschedule 💩 with them! Trust me if their interested they will chase you! If they actually call you on the phone 📱 too tell tell you all keep you posted and or all let you know what my schedule is or blah blah blah whatever BS excuses they have a second time just tell them directly, firmly, and calmly you know I'm good I'm losing interest rapidly and I'm not going too wait around and or be your backup plan or last resort and then hang up on them and ignore their calls and or messages if they send anything! It works if their really interested they will crawl back around and realize this guy is doesn't 🐂 💩 AROUND! TRUTH be told women make it happen and easy for the guys their truly interested and attracted too and string along and play GAMES with the other guys their not really interested and or attracted too! It's not worth your time, energy, and effort and definitely not your money too get used by these women! Don't beg them be a real man walk away from them and have some self respect and dignity for yourselves fellows!!! Quite frankly I typically get rid of women immediately if they flake out on me just once because past behavior if a very good indicator of future behavior from them and anyone for that matter so if you let it slide I promise you they will do it again and again to you over and over and over again! I only make the rare exceptions in cases where they let me know the day before or maybe 10 hours in advance the day were supposed too actually meet up with each other before the actual date! But if this becomes a continuous pattern just delete her number and move on and ghost 👻 her all together! I realize life happens but if this is happening all the time and they gotta do this or that just and always have excuses they ain't interested and are just lying 🤥 it's not rocket 🚀 science!!!! Women make rules for nice guys and break them for bad boys! Dates are earned not given and I don't date I recreate with women 👍💯💪

Had a girl cancel on me Saturday 45 min before date. She had a birthday dinner. Pretty sure she got nervous. So I ghosted her. Texted me tonight and said I should be a man instead of ghosting her.

I live in a small town 40-50mn away from a big "dating hub" city, so in my case I'd negociate that she comes rather than me especially in winter so I don't have to freeze my bollox on my motorbike in winter. Gotta sell it properly though, like "I know this amazing cocktail spot, you're gonna love it" lol

Dude, that's just shallow.

You’re right sir. Don’t be a simp by giving her one

Haha yeah

But not to young that you finna get locked up for it but a girl that is the same age as you and and have the same interest and would give you the time of day

most men keep failing to understand women have a PLETHORA of options and dudes getting at them. Its sad to say but they just genuinely dont and will never care like you do. Especially now with social media. women have always been a bit flakey because of feelings and shit but now you would be lucky to get a chick to follow through. it means more to you because you asked she said yes you assume it means more than it does. You even go on a first date it goes well she laughs a lot it feels great. It still means more to you. She has been on hundreds of the exact same experience. It literally means nothing and woman are desensitized by a meeting or hangout with a dude. Its so easy for them to just ditch out because one guy popped that really blew her ovaries open and she was just like ok bye!!! in her head of course not the decency to tell you goodbye though. You have to replay that in your head. Im just another dude among many, where she could be your first in like a month. It will always mean more to you than her. Remember that. Men have to stop over investing their heart and soul especially in the beginning.

Agreed! Merry Christmas to you and yours 🥰

What if you can't do it tomorrow? 🤷‍♂️

@@LiGHTProductions Better not too even if tomorrow is open. Counter offer her for the following Friday or Saturday to see if she's really into you or stringing you along.

It is strange that you managed to find yourself here yet you post this like sum wise guru 🤣

@mj is goat yes indeed. I agree it’s not worth throwing your toys out of your pram, but I do think being annoyed is reasonable. I honestly feel like a lot of people want to demonise men who are legitimately angry about how women have treated them by unfairly portraying them as unhinged psychos because it avoids having to admit that they have a point. Like you say, this kind of coddling is ridiculous. We are not talking about using violence, threatening violence, or verbally abusing women. We are talking about asserting ourselves. As long as violence and verbal abuse are off the table, there's no reason why you shouldn't hold women to account for their behaviour just like you do with men. If you want equality, you have to give up the pussy pass.

Hope it helps! ❤️

Ridiculous.

dont feel too bad , thats just women, they even flake on each other lol

Women are real good at trying to make you feel bad for there bad behavior smh its just childish at the end of today

even with an out you can still be flaked on. I did give her and out when i asked to meet up i said meet for drinks and she said i don't drink. so im like i understand take care. then she comes back wait what? no i still want to hang out i just mean no alchohol. i replied in a joking manner i never said it to be you can drink whatever you want. she said she was free on the weekend so i set it up and i still got flaked on. not even cancelled just not contact nothing. So even when i said okay maybe this wont work she pulls me back saying no dont go. and it still happened. So.. a flake is a flake even if given a way out.

@@guitarman0365 totally understandable. that’s why we talk about *minimizing* flaking, not erasing it entirely cause even bona fide players have it happen from time to time.

You play by their rules and they don't play by their own dont strain over it

Hugs 🤍

If men don't put up with that stuff, women will play less games. A woman cancelled a date on me and I texted back "I'm sorry, i have a policy that if a girl cancels the first date I don't continue things with them. It's just a boundary that I have. Best of luck".

Don't be eunuch, mate. Find other women.

I was in a similar situation and it's wasn't until I realized something that completely blew my mind. You might want to sit down for this. Still reading? Ok, here goes: WOMEN ARE JUST PEOPLE. There's nothing special about them. They're not the key to happiness. They don't have super powers. Take them off the pedestal. When you accept this, I mean really see it. I promise you'll be much better off.

Come on. You should fail 365 times a year before you become alpha male

A very similar thing just happened to me tonight, my story is above. Why do women do this? Flaked twice in 4 days, the last time giving me 15 minutes notice...

Don’t worry mate happens to all of us

Spot on! 👏😉

I have learned to not get my hopes up when a woman agrees to a first date. Just because she said she would be there it does not mean anything. It's sad but that's how you have to approach women. Just text to confirm the date the night before or the morning of. If they cancel I send a text saying "I'm sorry, I have a policy that if a girl cancels the first date I don't continue things. It's just a boundary that I have. Best of luck". If enough guys do this, then women will play less games and the women who cancelled at least respects you.

@@jaysala2760 yea however most women I know dont like the guys the marry at first but the guy keeps trying trying and then things work out but Im like you for me its see you toots. Besides that really works when both parties a hard up or just plain luck!!!!