When the avoidant ex moves on QUICKLY 

My fearful avoidantnis ghosting me because I did something wrong from his point of view only, won't talk .keeps silent, did not block me, , does not move on

Mine went nowhere very slowly. 🦥 🐢😒

Same here

right! Ryan He is my favorite trauma coach who has naturally calm and full of gentle help

Same here my friend ❤

@@GesuHeche-fv4hx i honestly dont know but it is cruel. They may be intentional to let you know hey look at me im with someone better. However the new person may be pressuring them to do so to show off the new relationship, and the new person has no idea yet they are dating an avoidant. They are still in honeymoon phase of relationship. Its all so confusing and hurtful.

@@SherriFlemming good advice. Definitely a lesson learned but when you are caught up and truly in love you just learn to accept. It definitely had a negative affect on my mental space over the years we were together. I got flippant, angry, depressed, gained weight. That wasnt contributing anything positive to the relationship either. But, through all this im losing the weight, spending time with friends, family and back into my daily devotions with Jesus. It still hurts but day by day...

@@courtneythomas1763 I hear you. I've had the same experiences. Rejection is protection. The dating pool is full of DAs and FAs. I can identify their behavior on the first meeting.so can dodge the bullets. Asking specific questions, I can share these with you, if you want. . I would rather be single as a pringle. It's freedom and peace. Many people do no personal development or healing work. They don't want to change. The older they are, the more ingrained the behavioral patterns. We cannot fix heal or change anyone. We are attracted to the familiar. People who resemble one or both of our parents. IMAGO These are helpful books. Knowledge is power. The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships Return To Love by Marianne Williamson The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters What The Heck Is Self Love Anyways? by Jonathon Aslay Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson

@@courtneythomas1763 I hear you. I've had the same experiences. Indeed it's painful. The dating pool is full of FAs and DAs. Estimation of the global population is 50 percent avoidants. Most men have an avoidant attachment. I can identify them on the first meeting by asking specific questions. Many people do not want to change. They do no personal development work or therapy. I'm burned out from dating. I'd rather be single as a pringle, focused on my life. The pickings are very slim.

@@courtneythomas1763 The honeymoon phase is lust and limerance. Within 3 months to a year, you see the reality of the relationship

Everyone has the right to end a relationship. Sometimes you'll never know the entire truth. Rejection is PROTECTION. Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record In this world verify everything. Discernment. A background check is essential. Verify facts. Trust requires proof. Safety first. Choose wisely. Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future-Sam Vaknin podcast Seek Good Character- David Tian podcast Safe People by Henry Cloud We are attracted to the familiar. People who resemble one or both of our parents. IMAGO. It is emotionally healthy to make peace with yourself, and your past relationships. We are all a common denominator in our relationships. Accepting ownership is emotional maturity. Everyday is precious. It's a gift. Be thankful for everything you have. Your most important relationship is with yourself. Victor consciousness. 🌞

@@SherriFlemming why do thy have to hurt others, Very immature way, They commit only when they want that is very selfish way to deal with relationships.

@@moahmad9667 Behavior is learned in childhood modeled by parents or other caregivers. The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman Toxic Parents by Susan Forward

@@moahmad9667 Indeed. And I understand.

@@Evermore2017 I understand this well. No one deserves to be abused. If you need to call a Dr., an attorney, or a policeman, it's time to exit the relationship, safely. 🤐 Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

That's all temporary

PROBABLY THE NEW TARGETY IS TOXIC

@@lighthunter1418 Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future-Sam Vaknin podcast Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record Seek Good Character- David Tian podcast We are attracted to the familiar. People who resemble one or both of our parents or other caregivers. IMAGO. Children learn from modeling.

@@lighthunter1418 Toxic Parents by Susan Forward The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman

@@lighthunter1418 We are attracted to the familiar. People who resemble one or both of our parents. IMAGO Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future-Sam Vaknin podcast Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record Seek Good Character-David Tian podcast

It doesn't matter, you will move on because you love and respect yourself.

@@eppsislike thank you, yes, I will and although his ghosting for 4 wks. now hurts like hell, yes, I decided not to want him back cause it is his second ghosting, this was when I felt safe with him and that is why it hurts so much, he will do it again, it seems to be a pattern

@@ritapeters1330 What if you don't set boundaries, what if you don't keep his feet on the fire? He will hurt you again, it's too painful and tiring, it's not worth it.

We have been disconnected for more than 2 months. I will continue to freeze him and - I have to teach him a heavy lesson, which will only be good for him. Maybe at that time, I had ignored his existence

​@@暗香晚风 yes, you are right he will hurt me again, it is their pattern, thank you

GOD HAVE MERCY ON THR VICTIMS

I'm struggling to believe all this as I have my own insecurities. My ex was so in love and infatuated with me and then started distancing himself for the last month of our relationship when a big job change occurred. He discarded me saying he hasn't been feeling the same for the last month. Now I see he has started dating someone else less than 2 months after our breakup. She looks the exact opposite of me. In my mind now, I think that the right person can change or fix things for an avoidant that will make them want to stay in that new relationship. Please tell me it's just my insecurities coming to light and that another person can not fix things for an avoidant? They have to do it themselves.

you are right! Ryan He is my favorite trauma coach who has naturally calm and full of gentle help