There's nothing wrong with noticing someone. Everyone notices people. The problem is intentionally starring and being disrespectful. If you can't control yourself in my presence. I can't trust you in my absence.
Women don't like their men looking at other women because...men are attracted to what they see Lol,Women are attracted to what they hear that's why we always forgive. And that's why we need you Mr Gaskins...🙏
Not me lol. For one I need too attracted both physically and mentally. We have eyes too. Seriously, My deal breakers are non negotiable. I can’t stay with someone who doesn’t value me.
I just told my ex I was letting go. I ended the relationship 9 months ago and out of no where he started calling my mom and texting me. I engaged in conversing with him. He started standing me up, breaking dates at the last minute and not texting or calling back. I decided not to get angry or even address the situation. I simply said, this is not working for me and I’ve decided I’m letting go. I wished him happiness. When you realize you’re not good for each other it’s easy to walk away for you.
"A person does not deserve to live as a prisoner of their past mistakes, and the other person does not deserve to live as the warden of that prison of past mistakes" This is a powerful truth!!! Forgive or move on! If the person can never be clean again in your eyes you have to let them go. Anything else is cruelty. Living for revenge will never make a good life.
Sherwood Walker Jesus asks us to forgive each other so that we can be as much like him as possible. It's a hard goal to reach, impossible even.But it remains the goal of Christians to follow that best example.
I just leave .. I can’t be with someone I can’t trust. I’ll keep bringing it up & stressing myself out. & I can do without all that stress in my life. Maybe I’m too tough idk, but I need my peace.
I don't think it's hard. I think if he into you he's respectful. I think women should watch how he acts through the first few months in public around different type of women, also more importantly what he runs about women in general. I think what he says and think about women says a lot because beauty is beauty but toy know it's extra when he starts to compare, belittle, looks at other women in purpose when you are having a disagreement or to look to purposely to get you mad, put too go on and on and on and on about how a particular woman looked if it's not in the conversation
I was out with a male companion and this woman walked by. Him and I was talking, when she passed he undressed her with his eyes. I handled it very mature and classy. I stated to him, “I know you’re a man and you’re going to look. But it became disrespectful when you stared and forgot I was sitting across from you. I see a lot of handsome men when you and I are around. I don’t stare, but I may glance because I know the line between respect and disrespect. You wouldn’t want me to do it to you.” To make a long story short, it showed me I couldn’t trust him. He apologized but also stated “I’m going to try and be on my best behavior moving forward.” That was a red flag and it showed me he would let temptation get the best of him. I knew he would be a cheater and I fell back.
I learned that I had to forgive someone who wasn't even sorry .They never admitted to anything or apologized but I learned to be with ok with it and move on. This message was right on time.
Men are more visual than women and are gonna look at other women. What matters is if he is respectful or disrespectful with it! A man that cares about his woman will be respectful.
I’m currently doing no contact. My ex cheated on me emotionally with his best friend and others. He says he loves me but they are entertainment when bored. The trust is completely gone between us and I want him to feel exactly what it is he wanted out of these women. Show him the grass isn’t always greener. It didn’t even take 24 hours for him to start blowing my phone up. These videos are helping me get through this time and to stay resilient. Thank you 🙏🏾
You can forgive and deal with and love them from a distance. But to not forgive at all dear heart that is for your sake. If you cannot forgive, your Heavenly Father WILL NOT AND CANNOT FORGIVE YOU. When you don’t forgive, it causes ailment in the body (a proven fact). Please learn to forgive. It does not mean you have get back with them or allow them to treat you any type of way. God FORGIVES US, when we ask, why do you think HE should forgive you, if you cannot forgive. It IS HIS LAW, that you forgive. Salah (think about it). Blessings young lady♥️✊🏾
Iris Wilson don’t take what I said out of context. I forgive anyone and move on with my life . If I see that person I can say hello or good bye if u can’t do that it’s not forgives . To forgive doesn’t mean you have to put up with them again
Sherwood Walker well that’s a Choice we all have to deal with I forgive ppl that hurt me or misused my trust . I just won’t have the same relationship with them again I love from afar
Yes I'm insecure especially if my man is looking at other women. But I think it's their job to make u feel secure and uplift u when ur feeling hurt by it.
At same time if someone is constantly doing u wrong at some point it’s gonna be hard for u to forgive when folks keep doing same shit and you’re stuck in a forgiveness loop with that person
"So many women want their man to be Ray Charles all of a sudden" hahaha Tony Gaskins you crack me up!! I feel like you can turn any issue into a comedy, thanks for the laugh and all the vids you post. Have a blessed day
I totally agree with Mr. Gaskins. A cheater loses all cretidation, and in order to regain trust from the one who was offended, they should make that person their accountability partner. And in the same token maybe it's better to leave and allow that person to heal, rather than live under the microscope of disgrace.
Ya that was funny and Tony make it so funny believe me he have a lots comedy in him the hold espso I did laugh but in the end he always right no dot about it!; God bless him and to be in our life that is listening to Tony Gaskins what a wonderful speech I have not heard any young man like him yet in the hold white world and I am in my 50 of age that is awesome I am very prideful of him and thank God for him Amen 🙏
Tony is so right and accurate I have been in situation like before I would check his all the time but I got tired and fed up and just let him go because I needed to grow and he was holding me back from doing that so now I’ve moved on fully and looking forward to being with my future husband!!!!!❤️❤️❤️🙂🙂🙂
Recently left my husband. This video was on point for my circumstances. I've been listening for 7-8 years now, love that you post everyday this year. Well expect when you need some personal time. Tony thank you for helping me become a better me! God bless you and your family!
Thank you ,Tony. I tried but he continued to show me that he was same person, nothing change but the years that’s all. So, change because he wasn’t giving me what I needed and that was reassurance that he was changing.. I walked
I started watching it cause of Tony,her confidence is top notch, she never backs down to any challenge and plays the game better than any man.l love the series waiting for season 5
Men are going to notice other women but their character will determine if it's done respectfully and their intent. If the dealbreaker is inexcusable the only way to have peace & be happy is to release the stress of what is not good for you!
Hold on now 🧐 ain’t nothing wrong with noticing but it’s the “locked in” that is the problem. Personally I think that when women complain that is what they are complaining about. If I catch my husband “noticing” it’s funny and we joke about it and it’s no bad blood. But if was sitting there taking double takes and licking his chops it’s bout to be a problem 💯
Exactly lol If we as women were checking out other men and staring at them, it would be a problem. So it’s definitely an issue if he does it. Noticing and staring are two different things
Thank you 🙏🏾 smh it’s about respect ✊🏾 for me , when I’m walking with man ain’t and I see nice very handsome man . I Glands and keep it moving , not lusting saying Damn out loud. I see most men staring and make noises when I’m in the store with their woman. I just roll my eyes 👀 cuz it’s very disrespectful. I don’t care 🤷🏾♀️. My last relationship I didn’t have to remind him of what he did , cuz that baby is now 10 years old now so for 10 years it was a slap in face but I forgive. But I have issue when They the behavior didn’t change .
Thank you for this, I never knew I still had some unforgiveness/insecureness in my heart that, came up recently, it's a must to work on yourself TOTALLY before entering any relationship... "Point Blank peeeriiooodddtt" ...
Honorary Pastor Gaskin - Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation!! Trust, Forgiveness, and Letting Go in order to heal is so important for both parties involved to have a successful/healthy relationship. But when it gets to a point of toxicity, it is time to gracefully bow out and move on. Love this video!! 🙏🏼
It was exactly this advice you gave in another video, Tony, that prevented me from going back with an ex. I gave him your reasons and suggested he listen to your shows for men, at least. Furthermore, his weekly touch bases with his filler ex he cheated on another before me and on me was a deal breaker I knew would be a reason to hold a grudge and act out upon. It just wasn't worth it for anyone. Life is too short. Haven't heard from him since that long conversation (which was over 4 yrs since we broke up) about forgiveness, "forgetting" and everyone blocking their blessings. If they keep doing that, that's on them but too much drama for me now. I'd rather be a happy, busy single. Thank you. 🙏
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I will never forget but I can forgive but how can you forget something that will be in your face constantly! If they can't admit your wrongs, what would you do? I will FORGIVE but it'll never be forgotten! You can look at other women but when you lay with them that's different! If you love God, your body should be in subjection to God.... FACTS!
Be Bless Mr. Gaskins and family. You're absolutely right men are going to look and notice other women. And women are going to notice other men. When you are arguing all the time. It could be that some women/men are immature or insecure or both. Peoples are human and they're going to make mistakes. It's called human nature.
We are beautiful creatures created by the Most High. I can appreciate another woman's beauty and a man's too. Even better when we can do it together without having issues. I've heard males say that they cheated, it didn't mean anything, and cheating didn't mean that they didn't love their woman. I've always said that wasn't true. Rarely hear the truth that he really doesn't love the woman when he can choose to cheat on her. Don't no healthy woman want a man that numerous women can say they've been with him. Too many spirits...🎯
I had to walk away & let it go. He was emotionally abusive multiple times but said his apology was sincere but continued to do the same thing. I forgive but he needed to grow and mature without me around.
Eternity With Christ sorry I worded it wrong he was emotionally abusing me calling me out my name. I lost 70 lbs for me getting healthy lost weight and he still had something to say BUT he said he was sorry. I think deep down inside he didn’t like himself & that came out on me. I took that as if you don’t love me for who I am you don’t truly love me.
OMG! 80's baby here,@ Tony Gaskin's,lol! Im 1981.....Haaaaayyyyyyyy Party over hur,lol! Happy Holidays 2 you and your Beautiful wife nd babies! May God continue to bless you 2 help out thee youngsters in their relationships,You are thee best at what you do,@ Tony! I so love when you say Blllllloooooooccccckkkkkkk,Bllllllloooooooooocccccccckkkkkkkkkk.....I be over here cracking up,for a long long time when you say that! Im so with you on that,because I do thee samething as well! No need to carry on any "TOXIC-BAGGAGE" @ all! Its thee best thing to block people whom cause you stress,anxiety,any chaos,and/or drama,"PERIOD".....i tell my eldest 17 yr old son this samething,Because he is a true live gamer on "FORTNITE" and people over thee Mic seem to like to argue,and I tell um,son no need 2 prove urself to a stranger over thee internet,just block um! Take Care Until ur next Video!
Tony😇 You have been given the fortitude to prevail due to having your chosen Spouse for those that are not with their own chosen Spouse aren't equipped to do so...they blow like the wind until they are awakened.
Real talk when I walk I block the mans number I also delete their contact so we both can't contact each other im 48 2 ex husbands 2 adult sons one daughter Inlaw 3 grandchildren and I'm not looking for love I'm favor like u said a man is blessed to marry me that's what imma teach my granddaughters and my grandson ,you keep speaking and telling the TRUTH God bless you and your beautiful family Tony 🙏🏾💞
I have let go of my lover boy a month ago, and I’m doing fine thank god. I have forgave myself for my mistakes, only way you can truly let go and heal.
My honey and I had the "looking" conversation already. I caught him sneaking a peak and I told him he doesn't have to hide a glance it's not a big deal. Just don't break your neck for it. Hey, I look too!🤣🤣🤣
I honestly feel that I forgive easily but forgetting is what I struggle with especially the cheating bit. Now I got to let go....hard but watching TG videos is helping
I have a person keeps coming in and out of life. He told me he slept with another woman because he needed to feel that comfort at that time but, he does not love her he loves me. He states that, he feels the connection only with me. Which I think that is BS. I ended the relationship. I try to forgive but, it hurt. I strongly felt like he was dishonest in my spirit. When I ended the relationship he ask me be" Friends with Benefits". He hit a nerve with me that was to close to home. I refuse to lower my standard to his level. I strongly feel that I'm having spiritual warfare inside of me. I'm in tears. I keep listening to sermons. To help me. I'm on disability but working PT. I will be your book by Christmas. That will be best Christmas present to myself. Thank you for helping me to a stronger woman.
Tony your videos are so helpful mainly because you talk to us as your friends, you really have a way with words and insights that remain in the mind way after we're done watching your videos. Like the day you asked, if he ghosts you, why would you talk to a ghost? I mean, you offer so much enlightenment towards understanding complex issues surrounding dating life.
This is such a powerful message. Thank you Sir Tony. I think this can be applied to many types of relationships. Life is to short to live with resentments and doubts.
Yes Yes Tony G. You’re so right!!! You’re truly telling the truth. LOL 😂I Love listening to you and when you acting the talk out. I used to get mad when they looking so hard at another woman. But I had to learn and let go. I was saying last week I was going to forgive and let it go. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
Yes its kind of hard to forgive and forget when a side baby was created within my own pregnancy. 🙅 me and chick our babies are 6 months apart. This is my ex fiance we are talking about. Had to hit the road jack!
Oh wow! I’m sorry that you had to endure something like that. Men can be so selfish sometimes that they truly do not care how their actions effect us women. I hope all is well for you now and God has a bigger plan for you and your child. Stay strong!
@@brittanyrenee9392 thank you Brittany. Its been 2 years and some days are better then others. He still tries to apologize but I am not having it. We try to co parent and that's it. Thanks for the love hun and yes i can not wait to see what God has in store ☺
@@nosindisomyeni omg how crazy right?!?! It is so hard but I had to leave. I miss my family I had before this happened but I can't even begin to imagine how the would be to move forward from. He kept the secret until that baby was 3 months.
My mom used to always tell me that if I take my ex back I have to love him like he didn't cheat...and that I couldn't keep bringing it up or holding it over him. She'd say, forgive him and move forward or move on. I always remembered that. Granted I was a teen and early twenties and didn't understand that I needed to leave after the 2 or 3rd time. And I really did love like it never happened. Every time until I got tired. I wanted to believe he wanted the goodness I saw in him. He didn't though. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Nah, I’m good. I’d rather be single than have someone who looks at other women. If you’re with me, why would you need to look at another women? You are going to see other humans, but I believe if you’re truly in love, you don’t LOOK at other people, especially below eye level.
I've been in a long relationship with my partner. I recently found out he took another woman out to dinner after drinking at a bar. I feel this is cheating he said it's not cheating.
Tony , i absolutely love your content . Thank you for sharing your anointing but even if we all have eyes , it shouldn’t be more than a glance . I can honestly say that I have never caught any man in any of my relationships looking at another woman to the point where I ever caught it . I know this video is 4 years ago and your newer content seems like you don’t struggle with this anymore
I understand it. I have told an ex several times about a beautiful woman. Whether it's her hair, eyes the way she Carrie's herself. There is beauty in so many ways and there are beautiful women everywhere
Your absolutely right Brother Tony. Unfortunately I'm the one who was let go of. I just had my memorial service on Saturday and my girlfriend broke up with me less than 24 hours before my service for him. It's been the hardest time of my life😞 There was a woman who I deleted off my IG page that I've known since high school. Were in just different places in life. She cussed me out on a msg. I blocked her. For some reason she waited a month and inboxed my gf and cussed at her also. My gf was hurt and blamed me for it. Saying that's the last draw. In our relationship the past year I've had friends and FB and IG friends who weren't fans of us being together. So she has been harassed. Shes even gone as far as texting them. I had no problems up until this year. No one ever disrespected anyone I was with or dated. So I never seen signs of problems or jealousy. So it's been a struggle. There were some I had no business having on my page. Some that I flirted with not too long before being with her. But honestly I ddnt even thinn of them. The most they did was comment on our posts. She thought of it as they were rubbing it in her face that i used to flirt with them. Then there were friends who were close to me for years from church. Plutonic that I was forced to let go of because of issues they caused. 2 women were on my page that I lied about flirting with because 1 I flirted with in HS over 23 years ago. Since then we've only been FB friends. Shes had kids and in a relationship and I'm happy for her. The other I flirted with 7-8 yrs ago but realized it wouldnt work between us. So we just remained FB friends. Since then shes got married and I'm happy for her. I dont even txt or in ox these women. Every now and then see a post and comment. People grow up. Time goes on. Life happens. And people change. The way u felt years ago doesnt mean it's the same today. And if it was that I would have disconnected and dismissed. I never slept with any of these women. I can be truthful. But I guess she blamed me for not knowing they would come at her. She would say she forgave me. Then never did. Then forgave me. Then still never did. It was like a yo yo. I was a prisoner of shed flip flop with forgiveness. I can take responsibility on there were some women who ddnt match my faith based beliefs. I had no business staying in contact with or still follow certain women not positive. I man up and accept that. But I've personally deleted and scrubbed my FB and IG page for our relationship. Whether it should've been done before at least I was willing to do it. Its caused heated arguments. And we broke up once during that time. But since then my father has gotten really sick really fast. And the last 3 months I've been depressed dealing with my father and her constantly reminding me of what these so called friends did. In the last 2 weeks she broke up with me 3 times. (1) Hours before my father died. (2) A week after that. (3) Hours before my fathers memorial service a day ago. I've been through alot. Mourning my father and losing a relationship😞 She told her parents, counselor, and friends why and made me out to be a flirtatious cheater. Which wasnt true. I never cheated or flirted while in a relationship with her. But I've been held prisoner of things of my past, my choice in friends, and failure in preparing. I've felt the worst I've ever felt. IF I was suicidal I'd b dead. Thk God I believe theres joy at the end of the road. As bad a villain as I've been made ou to be I've taken care of her. She hasnt been able to find a job since living with me. Yet tho I'm not rich I pay for her phone, gas, food, and little things that I can. Even now while she has dissed me and hurt me and made everyone look at me in a bad way I still have taken care of her. I've allowed her to stay one more month to save a few checks to have savings and b able to find a place. And I love her daughter enough I dont want her mom on the streets. But yet her parents, friends, counselor dont see that compassion. Yet I'm doing this after her breaking up with me while losing my father. I'm far from perfect. Guilty of things I did wrong in our relationship. I own up to all my wrongs. But I dont think I deserved the relationship to end 3 times since my dads death and hours before his memorial. And yet she doesng understand why if she talks to me why I sound angry, hurt, or mad? And not yell but my voice heightened? Shes 27 and I'm 43. And she doesnt know why I'm so angry and hurt and why I cant talk in a pleasant normal voice. I'll repeat again I lost my dad unexpectedly and she broke up with me 3 times since then! U figure it out! I'll remember this. I'm not a perfect man. But I am going to go to therapy for my dads passing and dealing with the mistakes I made with her. I want to b a better man for the right woman. I know I can and I will. I have a good support system of Christian friends. Plus your videos have helped me grow. I no longer watch them for her but to b a better version of me. I'm sorry Brother Tony and anyone else for writing all this. Maybe it's a form of therapy in dealing with my dad and being let go. But to answer "When To Let Go?" When the person breaks up with u multiple times. When the person goes back and forth on forgiving u. When the person constantly brings up all u did wrong keeps a prisoner of that. Then it's time to let go!😞🙏
I’m sorry about the passing of your dad. On the relationship, I pray for divine peace over you. Don’t worry, God will bring you the right woman that’s understanding, forgiving and loving.
Yes we’re all human ..It’s about respect...acknowledging and staring are two different things..It’s very disrespectful to stare at someone else of the opposite sex...
I rather the guy leave me if he know he about to mess up or messed up and not waste my energy being loyal but from watching a lot of your videos I can definitely see how I messed up and what boundaries I should have set for myself
Say,🤔 it brother like it is!, the truth will set you free, 🤗 God bless you I need here that, you got love like you never been hurt before that Thanksgiving words ,🙏, God bless America