When Women See a Man as Husband Potential 

I saw a female comedian a long time ago say "We have 3 types of men. #1 The knock it out man. You go see him when you want him to lay the pipe down. #2 The money man(aka the simp). You only give him some when you need some money. #3 The future man. You don't give him none because you don't want him to think you're that type of girl" I was like a teenager when I heard that, I'll never forget it lol

what alot of women don't realize is even though she sees him as a husband type, it doesn't mean he sees her as a wife type. Which ultimately leads to a dead end for her.

Exactly. Men should date women who see them as the total package not just one aspect. Husband material is good as long as that man is hitting on all cylinders to her. Too many lies have been told for too long. Young men need to do what is best for themselves and stop dealing with women who are no good for them.

If she sees you as husband material that can mean two things . She see you as an all around alpha (sexual and resources) or beta ( just resources)

I can feel when they're lying and putting on a mask, their spirit and aura can never lie when it's in contact with mine. I can feel it. 🎓

I've had women lead with wanting to do a 3some when they thought I was just a musician. When they found out I'm an engineer by day....that 3some talk yall magically disappeared 🤣😂 🔴

I remember Patrice O'Neal saying that sex is a prerequisite. I believe that wholeheartedly. I will do more for a women if the sex is worth it.

Rom, you should damn well know that topics like this to me is like waving a red cape in front of a bull. You'd know I'd show up... How many times do I have to keep bringing up the dual mating strategy of women before it starts sinking in, fellas? In an era where the overwhelming majority of women, especially in the sistahood, are non-virginal at the time they meet their spouses, the mere perception of being labeled as 'husband material' should be an insult of the highest order. Listen VERY closely, gents; when a woman whose seen over a dozen men 'up close' wants to suddenly 'save herself for her husband', that's code for 'I don't find you to be in any way, shape, or form as attractive, exciting, or appealing as the other men I've been with but if I hold out on you long enough, your male thirst will eventually kick in and force you to cave'. Guys who have been in this position before are usually financially stable and responsible but non-select from having been curved and friend-zoned by numerous women over the years. They are the usual suspects who end up badly burned by falling for the old 'born-again virgin' trick of a woman they barely know. Sadly, about a million of them are sadly nodding their heads while watching yet another child support and alimony payment clear their bank accounts. Fellas, never, Ever, EVER date a woman who's had every neighborhood playboy, cad, thug, and wannabe bend her over the bed rails, only to demand 8+ months of old school courting (translation: no sex or intimacy whatsoever) before getting to see her bare shoulder. The sole reason why they're going after pages like this is solely because their dating trade secrets are being exposed for the entire planet to see and this is one of the biggest weapons they use. Follow Mode-1 or Leykis 101 and immediately dropkick a broad who still has Pookie or Ram-Ram's junk on their breath while telling you about wanting a three-karat diamond ring by Valentine's or New Year's Eve before reluctantly giving it up. Let the betas, cucks, and No-Gamers they REALLY don't want deal with her. You'll be glad that you did...

The thing women must understand is if they see a certain man as husband material, they better get him before he'll slip away. Buuuuuuuuut...that is never the case, they'll hold out on him thinking he'll stay around (unless he's a sucker).

I see you got a few complaints about how much you emphasize sex, in how it determines attraction. People don't realize sex is what separates you from the friend zone.

Rom you might be hitting on my biggest gripe with women. And, I hope more men see this for what it is. Many of us aren't fucked up looking or the like. Rather, many of us simply don't fit the job description for women who want a "light" relationship or a good screw or women who apply the criteria for a boyfriend when looking for a husband. And, that doesn't mean we can't fuck but that many women recognize we have qualities that are suited more so for a long-term relationship like a marriage. Now, that also doesn't mean we, men, who are in this category have to go along with a marriage or wait for women to get on our program. Ever since I was a teenager I was always told by women I was "good but..." And, that shit fucked with my psyche for decades. Here I am a good looking guy, good dresser, ambitious, physically active, intelligent, no kids, responsible, etc. yet the only women who are interested in me are mostly fat, old and/or unattractive women. I'm finally comfortable being me and I'm not taking any slack off these hoes.

the eyes dont lie..look her in the eyes or pay attention to her eyes in public..tell u most of what you need to know

This really speaks to me. Funny thing is I just realized this the other day. Women always try to KEEP me. I have friends that have had multiple short relationships and casual encounters with women, but my experiences have always been Long relationships and nothing else. Well...You know, at least until they fuck it up.

all men should look like marriage material but it doesn't mean you are ready to be a bitch husband, from the time I started listening to your wisdom my whole life has changed I handle my finances and personal life better. I take care of myself more and more. one thing I learned from all these beauty I truly in the eyes of the beholder because there are so many geneticly good looking men and women that are suffering right this moment because of lack of understanding.

I swear man. True. I’ve definitely been in that situation. I had a woman that tried to hold out on me and she tried to tell me that she could go without sex for a long time. I knew right then and there she was trying to play me, but as soon as I got inside and she was loose, I had to leave her alone. She was trying to paint that “innocent” picture of herself. Definitely peeped that game.

Was just speaking on this today & cane across this vid. Preach!

I told this women the other day that trying to hold out and pretend like your a good girl isn’t going make me want you because I’m not looking to get married it it’s going to make me resent you and just move to another woman that’s gonna do it. Simple

this video was a real eye opener for me....thank you

Only God is good.

get them to open up about their sex life with A NON JUDGEMENT tone. and u will find out alot. wether she is worth long term or not

THIS IS PART OF THE GAME THAT IRRITATES ME THE MOST LIKE HOW YOU GOING TO MAKE ME WAIT BUT YOU AINT MAKE THAT BUMB NIGGA WAIT KICK ROCKS

I went to an HBCU. These girls think I didn't peep them hanging out with the "hood" types, and then pulling up to me. Granted, I smashed most of the time with 3 weeks, but in college that's equivalent to 3 months.

The older I get the more I like the idea of an old old school marriage. Like how it was back in the day with an arranged marriage type deal. Fuck all that romantic shit. All relationships are built on dishonesty. I'm thinking about having a marriage that is a straight up contract. You have my kids, I'll take care of you. Sign this prenup, and you good. You don't have to love me. I don't have to love you. No need to lie. Have my kids (with a paternity test built into the prenup) and be a good mom. I see anyone on the side I want and she can to. So long as we can be friends and she holds me down, we cool. Don't fuck anyone in my house or embarrass me and don't expect me to raise anyone else's kid and we gucci. We can even have term limits. She's a free agent after 10 years or something. She gets her payout and she can marry a simp if she wants to.

Great video, the truth!

Thanks for covering this. It was very valuable to hear some of your techniques for getting the truth out of women. So, much is riding on it when marriage enters the picture. On average a man has a 50% chance of being wrong. I wish I had your ability to get women to talk.

MAN I FUCKING HATE THAT SHIT! That happens to me a lot. Case in point. One of my homies set me up on a double date with him and this chick he met at an ORGY and her best friend. They was wild. He says all you have to do is wild out. I was like bet. Then when I start, she tells me how she decided to change and she needs a relationship and she won't give it up unless it was a relationship. I was like "I KNOW ABOUT YOU! DA FUQ?!?!" lol. Years later, I seen her around with her man. I wanted to be like, RUN NIGGA RUN! Edit: I have to admit, I get the same way. I missed out on this solid 8/9 once because I flipped on her. I knew her for a while, and I knew she liked me, but it wasn't going to happen for whatever reason. Then after a while, we end up working together on a project. She had a man, but they were on the rocks. I straight told her I was planning on stealing her. She was down. But then, my simple ass was like "I really like her though and I could see this going somewhere. If she cheats on him, she might do it to me too." I'm so dumb. I'm still kicking myself over that one.

Let's keep in mind that dishonesty for everyone what it does it does not let you grow...

true enough your right 100% women play games you need to know how to recognize it sex is power

Happy Sunday bro!!

All Facts Rom. #Salute

There were a few women I've dealt with that try to run this game. I just sit and let them talk themselves into destruction on their behaviors. I'm not to judge but I do understand their nature and I treat them as just.

good video we have to beware of the games they play we should have multiple then choose the best fit for us

True @10:28 yeah. This has helped, especially with the time wasting “church girls” who really just see you as a trophy husband. Thank you Rom.

Could you do a video on females who only wants to be friends and nothing more but constantly want attention from you. Thanks!

90% of the time we end doing it within the same week that they tell me that we have to wait. Its either some type of shit test or they try to get greedy with me. Just say no that's not going to work. As the man you have to take the lead so that she will follow.

A lot of girls do this when they see the having sex before 60 or 90 days wasn't working for them. because well that's what we're taught at home .. if he cares he'll wait. I had a friend who was like that, if she dated a guy she would have sex within the first 2-3 weeks then in like 2013 she told me she was going to stop doing that. I think some girls who try to change, though in the past didn't make the guy wait a full 90 days is doing it because they are truly trying to switch it up and see if that is what they did wrong in their past dating or if that is why the dating goes bad after that. That's the only time i don't see the issue with a woman changing her dating strategy to make someone wait. Now i do not agree on making a husband potential a friendzone or etc. I've only seen black men complain about waiting for sex. i'm not sure if it's a big deal in other races. i'd have to ask my female friends.

very sophisticated speaker

I remember when I was dating the hubby one day he was driving and a tortoise 🐢was crossing the road. He stopped the truck and picked it up and took him where it was trying to go and then we drove off.

Hey Rom. I just ran into your videos recently. You speak a lot of good shit, and I applaud you on it. I was thinking of doing videos myself, on relationships. I just recently completed my first book. I would love to speak to you one day about my book, and I just finished watching Star Trek the series, with Captain Kirk....LOL.... It seems like you might be from the DC area. The name of my book is "Keeping The Tricks Out Of Tricking" . The website is the title of the book. Please check it out, and let me know what you think....Thanks....Keep up the good work.

Didn't Eddie Murphy joke about this in Raw? Talking about women that have skeletons in their closets and what not?

A lady in the light, but a freak behind closed doors.. so don't try be basic as hell ladies behind those closed doors... try it with me and I'm outta there!

what about the low self esteem"yore too good of a man for me" types? anyone encounter one of those birds? I have....

Liked the video just because of the title

I’m going through this same BS right now 🙄

Jonathan Aslay: There are 3 types of men. The player-user, the spender (wants connection and sex without any committment. The grower-builder. Most desirable type of man. Capable of being in a healthy relationship and marriage. A much lower percentage of these men.

i remember this 1 chick i was really into in my early 20s made me wait 6months until she gave me the goodies i think back and say shhhhh! never again.

see im a freak so no matter what im throwing big hints, but ultimately im controlling that situation

Sad facts.

i deal with woman in relation to how they treat me. all the other shit i dnt care about. me personally i love a freak(s). short attention span lmao

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A woman changing her surroundings, huh? I have an excerpt for that one as well; check your inbox, Rom...

6:35 guilty of this a few times haha ,

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Rom Willis great topic once again Sir, I really like your love relationships topics good job Sir, I think you deserve a TV show. but anyway I would like to comment on this particular topic, See I think its unfair to blame women for this game simply because they have learnt from the best (Men). Men have played this game long time before our time. and now women are playing the same game because they have been fooled and played at for a long time. my point is a Man will keep that one woman he knows is a wife material while he is sleeping around and even fucking her friends thinking that she won't leave him and she will always be around no matter how many times he fucks up. lets be honest Men, this game was started by Men from one generation to another generation of Men and now its time to face the consequences. #Awkward