Loneliness can be experienced when going through a self development transition. Friends no longer understand you, as they are not ready to transition and move on in their lives. You outgrow these friends as you no longer find them relevant in you're life. You start to distance yourself as their company can become outdated and irritating somewhat, but still keep in touch with those that are special to you, on an occasional basis but have to learn and accept that we are all at different stages in our life, this is my journey and it will lead to something good and positive. People have the right to choose whether or not they want to invest in self-development, but my path, is to become the best version of myself!
I watched this video regularly when I was in high school feeling completely alone, disconnected, and depressed. it’s been 5 years but now I feel more connected and supported and surrounded by beautiful people than ever. therapy, working hard to form relationships, anxiety medication. thank you Brendan! and for anyone reading, you will find your people.
I am so happy that I choose to watch this video at this point in my life. I cannot tell you how valuable your words are. It's hard being an introvert, but I'm consistently trying to bring the best of myself to each interaction, and engaging as much as possible. It is lonely, but it will be less lonely the more we share and put ourselves out there.
+h3arty Its possible to get out there as an introvert. There are actually some advantages that we have if used properly. I'm an introvert and I speak and have my channel so its possible to switch out of quiet mode!
It's so true that quantity is not quality ... Feeling alone doesn't have anything to do with the amount of people that you meet everyday... Great video Brendon!
I usually feel the third type of lonelyness because my belief system changed and people around me are still "there". This video encourages me to be more authentic, share my new beliefs, accept to be vulnerable and be honest with myself. That feels great. Thank You!
+Daniela Cunha Love it! Sharing your new beliefs and being authenticamy make you feel lonely in one way, but also surrounded by those who share similar values. It's all about sharing those values so that others can connect
That's awesome advice - especially the one about being more more proactive in seeking new relationships instead of wishing that someone new will appear in your life. Thank you!
Found your videos at the perfect time in my life. Been struggling with a little bit of depression and anxiety lately after a difficult divorce last year. Started watching your videos religiously about two weeks ago. I watch them on a loop for 40 minutes every day while I'm on the treadmill doing cardio. You have an absolutely amazing energy and a gift for inspiring others. Just wanted to reach out and say thank you. All the best, Ted DeGraff - McKinney, Texas.
Thank you Brendon, we all can do better in paying attention to others. Open door for an elder is a gift to everyone involved. Sharing our gifts in service to others will make a big difference in our life and life of others
Hi Brendan... I just wanted to thank you for taking the time out of your own busy schedule to put these videos up. You do make a difference and we need more people like you on this planet. Life can get pretty hellish at times and your upbeat attitude and the way you shine your light onto others is so beautiful and so greatly appreciated. Thank you :)
All of us doesn't want the feeling of being lonely but I'd rather be lonely and alone than to be with someone who doesn't appreciate my existence in their lives.
Great message. 1.) Love the message to create deeper engagement. We have to take time to process that we are connected and if we aren't, build the connection. 2.) That we need to stop using being an introvert as an excuse. We can serve people if we come out of ourselves. 3.) We could be one person away from building a strong connection. I issued a challenge to myself and my viewers to speak with strangers this week and that we could be one person away from getting what we want in life.
Great video!! They are always wonderful, you inspire me ! You know Brendon, I really think that so many of us have become accustomed to feeling sad and/or depressed. We have become comfortable playing this victim role and so in essence we "enjoy" feeling lonely. It takes deliberate action and intent to shift our mindsets to feeling good. It is always our choice and once we begin to see that we can then set ourselves up to repel feelings of loneliness as you mentioned.
Thank you so much for this. A video has never explained something so personal so accurately. I'm sure you have seen lots of these comments but I want to truly thank you for this. You hit topics that effected me and my loneliness. Thanks for this. I think I'm going to start doing something instead of hoping for something.
I had no friends for a long time due to trust issues. Long story short, i distanced myself from negative people including my father who only fed more fuel to the distrust. I distanced myself from all the noise. I stopped watching negative things on RU-vid. I stopped listening to music that resonated with my hopeless side. I stopped searching for negative stories on the daily news. I started forgiving more. I stopped letting small bumps in the road tick me off. Pretty much i realized that my depressed/negative mind was naturally attracted to negative things. This realization led to another realization that in order to be happy, i had to want to be happy. I had to pursue happiness. I had to replace negative habits with positive ones. Instead of searching for negative things that resonated with my negative side i began seeking out positive things that resonated with my surpressed positive side.
Thank you . Thank you .Thank you .For months , I have been trying my best to interact more , positively influence others and have new friends , so you can't imagine how extremely helpful was that video for me .It really gave me hope that I can make it and overcome my loneliness. Following your tip , I decided to write this comment to express myself :))
wow, this came at a moment where I quit most social media and most of the "fake" friends to become my authentic self, it's super lonely but I know I have to reach out to the ones who will appreciate the real me and I in turn will appreciate and reciprocate true friendship and connection with others, thank you!
thank you so much for all of your videos Brandon. thank you for sharing your positivety with us. your videos have changed my life in so many amazing ways. you are such a great person!
Thank you for all your videos. We are living in a harsh world and sometimes everything is so stressful. So many people are going through somethings and they become sad and damaged and therapies cost lots of money. You are doing this on purpose and you are really helping people. Just keep doing what you do. I overcame some things in my life thanks to you. Thank you for everthing.
I am so cut off from the world rt now... Lonely, alone & utterly down from losing my support ppl very soon. Thank u 4 this video... GOD PLEASE SHOW ME THE WAY. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Watched quite a few of your videos last couple of days. Has to be said you have a special gift for connecting and communicating with your audience. Think I have at last discovered a mentor, something which has bee missing in my life.
When someone says something funny, LAUGH. Loudly so everyone can hear you. Maybe it's not an award winning delivery but you are the audience so laugh and applaud if appropriate
Besides the content of the video itself, I really admire your speaking of your very personal weakness that you once had. I think this really helps in knowing that you speak from experience. As always, thank you Brendon.
Thank you #Brandonburchard ☺️ this brings #motivation #love #life #joy and so much more... I really do need that connection and communication with others. I am learning to let go and be present 🙏🏾 peace ✌🏾.
I liked that you talked about your first videos and how you evolved even though you were embarrassed on the process. I feel like that many times. But I will continue to do my thing no matter the cost now :) great videos! thank you
Yeah, "how to win friends and influence people" is the best book I've ever read on people skills. It made me thinking about myself and my interactions with other people. There are so many great advices there.
Thank you for this video. It's almost like you're speaking to me and giving me your professional advice...these are the things I always tell myself but still struggle to follow through. You just validated my thoughts.
Same ! I used to think that there is something seriously wrong with me that I have no friends at all ,but good to know that there are other people as well who are probably like me !!! Btw being an introvert its difficult for me to say but, hey ! we can be friends 😇
Hi Brendon, Thank you for this video. I'm a regular subscriber, I have your book, and the new daily action success planner. I'm doing fine planning, dremming for the future things while working on my present job responsibilities... but recently my older and only brother died. My children are older, married with their own family, and I'm single, my brother was my only late night connection and I was his... so to say the least that loneliness feeling is tremendously filled doing this month. God bless you, thank you for sharing and helping us move forward and have a " charge life". Juan Torres
I stepped to your channel , I felt like you were talking to me personally !! I am quite introvert , communicating with people gets hard for me sometimes !! I broke up like i used to think i will marry him ...I was quite anxious for this time being , even this evening too but after stepping to your channel I am loving the videos after watching them. this one made me feel so connected to you... ... definitely will try to manage my anxious brain and will use your advices in a positive way , Thanks for your videos !! :) get going dude you are doing really good.and don't bother about these negative comments , You are already not because you know positiveness is the way to go :) !! Thanks !!
Thank you for this because I have felt this way all my life and it makes me feel so sad but I want to come out of this place of sadness and finally find joy in meaningful relationships
I personally feel alone because of a very strange reason. Because I'm far far to aware of myself and the big picture and the world and I can't stop myself from fully analyzing everything and realizing how real everything is. And I'm a total realist and im a good person and im a hard worker and im confident and I'm not easily hurt or knocked down at all and I have strong unique opinions and I don't feel the need to explain my choices to those who don't understand and I'm also humble aside from all that and I know I'm a tiny tiny speck in this universe, let alone this world. And I'm 12 years old. And I've never met someone my age that can just be a good person and get away from the drama and not get ahead of themselves with relationships. And I have friends, but they are all just, 7th graders. I don't have anyone that actually truly can just laugh at how scary this world is like I can. I know I have much to learn and I am just a kid but if people in my school could just say that exact thing alone, it would help a lot. I don't get very good grades and I'm not a perfect person and I still realize when I make mistakes and I'm not looking for someone that is perfect and I'm not saying I am. I just want someone who is my age, that can just be nice to people and choose wisely because they know that this is their only life and they have one chance. That was a bit of a ramble but I just can't find someone. I haven't given up yet though.
I can relate with you.I have always been that kind of kid since(now I am 18).It is hard to find people to really connect and for wise surreal conversations
Sunny YesItsMyRealName don't give up! I've always been like you (24 now) it doesn't magically get better, but with time comes more experience and opportunity and if you might not have thousands of friends, but as you get older you'll meet many different people that'll be a lot more like you than you thought :) keep doing your thing and just try to always be yourself, kind and put heart and soul into everything you do. All the best x
Priya Shrestha, I am exactly the same as you. Exactly as you just explained in your comment. The only difference is that I'm 24. Do you want to talk? I don't have any friends. I'm very lonely. Would you like to be my friend?
I'm just so alone, I am a positive person in general but they're times when I feel heavy and alone .. the last time I've been in good time with a friend was in 2011 .. I am not even a social person since 2011 I lost all my friends literally I don't have any contact with them and since being alone for such a long time I became worried about going out...
Anonymous Writer, I admit that I do feel lonely, sometime I wish I could find a real good friend, but it's so hard to find just one. You are lucky at least to have found a few friends, I wish I can find one good friend. In the past, people only hang out with me because they want my help, after I help them, they stop being friend with me. So now I am being alone, and you are lucky to have a few good friends. It's nice to have good friends.
I feel just like you. I have a big heart and I feel other people’s emotions but at the end of the day they go on with their lives and friends and I go back home to my empty room. I love my family but sometimes I feel like an alien traveling this plane getting looked at weirdly
I did exactly that. I put myself out there and an amazing thing happened. Now I can deal with negativity, meaning negative or very critical comments, much much better. I used to get sad and felt lonely ('nobody understands me') because of such bad remarks, but not anymore. These are just reflections of what the other person feels inside. Also they don't bother me anymore, I can shake those of much easier now.
OMG i like ur chanel ! it's the first time i comment ur video , just to say , u made my day as always and that i m currently reading susan cain's quiet ,! being an intrivert my self , i m proud of the lady
