When Your Guy Won't Commit | Adrienne Everheart 

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Yes ! I was afraid to ask him where the long distance relationship was heading. We talked about marriage and he would always say not yet not ready . Well 3 years later , I got tired of the same answer. So I finally let go and blocked him. Done ✅ lol not wasting anymore time. Next ..! 😜😄

My fireman partner of 18 yrs recently ( with s great pension) recently passed away. For many years he didn’t want to marry because of his first marriage, as time went by sometimes he would mention it without much enthusiasm so eventually I bought my own house. He was a mechanic, Plummer, could tile ect. He helped me with all those things on my house which I will always appreciate I wish I had Adriennes good advice back then, because even with his help the US thing never was really there, very sad 18 yes. I am happy now dating a new man 😊and I love hanging out you lovely ladies 🙃😉

Amazing work! Thank you for looking after women and sharing your story. We need more women who support other women ❤️❤️❤️

Hi Adrienne love the advice. My 'friend' knows we have all the ingredients for an amazing relationship. He wants my love, support, all the benefits of a romantic relationship etc but insists we are just friends. Havent seen him in two years and physically only given him one kiss. 😢Known him since school and we are both 50 so a long time. He lives in another Country and is very focussed on the material. Seen him in and out of really shitty relationships. I am walking away. Thank you you are my oracle.❤

I like how you sum up your parents role modelling marriage. Sounds like my parents and mother too remarried to a jerk as well.

OMG what a story with your first husband,Adrienne! You are so generous and high-minded to still talk well about him. After him telling you that he would have driven you out of the house ... I would never trust the guy anymore after such betrayal. I'd lose all my respect for him and wouldn't be able to forgive such behaviour. I'm so glad that you are happily married with another man now.Thank you for sharing!

Been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years and he has repeatedly said he never wants to get married. The problem with that was he was talking about getting married and then changed his mind out of the blue. 😭

My favorite Adrienne video, glad I found it.

omg your story at minute mark 9:12 is exactly the same thing I went through with long term cohabitating boyfriend 1 and almost the same conversation with cohabitating boyfriend 2 - made a commitment now. No living with anyone but my husband

OMG I fell asleep watching your YT videos and I must have fallen asleep to this one and I dreamt that I was at your seminar in person and everything you said in this video at the seminar was in my dream lol. I know because I just watched it while awake and recall everything you are saying was in my dream hahahaha.

I have your abc programme and 500 words ebook. They both helped me to understand what went wrong in my life and also equiped me with the knowledge and skills to move on. Practicing feminine enerrgy with your methods already made a difference in only three weeks, amazing! It will take time and practice but now i know that i can be happy again. Thank you x

I love your scripts! Finding comfort in appropriate spaces with words brings comfort and self esteem to own my dreams and live my truth! Thank you for your content. L

This is why we are scared, I finally put my foot down on this guy who wouldn't even commit to date only me after 2.5 years of keeping me as a FWB I said if you want to keep seeing me choose only me. If not I cannot continue seeing you if you want to continue to pursue other women. What do you think his response was? "I understand". In other words he is not going to commit to me. Which I hope he leaves me alone and stop trying to suck me in anymore because I get weak.

One of my absolute favorites! 💗

Two questions. Thank you. Love your advice regarding being a woman today. Good for all ages.

@16:00: I love that. I never thought i could do that. But, you are so right. it's not up to him.!!

Yes I found all this out the hard way that if you are sharing a home with someone and their name is on the deed but you're not then you get nothing but the trick here is to make sure that your name goes on the deed as well and that your name goes on anything that is important even if you're not married you can still legally do this I found this out because I don't want to get legally married ever again but by law if my name is on everything like the house and the insurance policies in the retirement account that I'm still entitled to all that so for those of you who don't want to get married know that there is another way of doing it

Every video I watched of a guy not being sure what to do, the solution is always walk away. No easy way around it. My plan is to give it 3 months. We co parent so I’m going to keep it minimal. Once a week for picking up our child and dropping them off. After the 3 months is up? I’ll be ok either way. I either have a 3 month head start to move on or he comes back to me.

After 5 years of being in a relationship he broke up with me through text because I brought up the subject of living together... I'm heart broken

Can you make a video about those of us who did the breaking up because we saw it coming? You mentioned in one of your videos that Your husband’s parents died back to back and he went into a depression. My boyfriend’s mom died suddenly suddenly, and though it was grief that initiated the distance between us, he has begun to heal and find himself, While continuing to starve me from attention and affection, even common courtesy. I went through all the stages of grief, anger, begging and pleading until I realized he is detached after 3 months of this behavior. I tried to break up..but he would not cut the cord, It was as if I’d become a security blanket and he checked in with me daily to make sure I was still around waiting for him. It was emotional torture. I abruptly cut off all contact and ended it. I asked him to not reach out anymore (it hurts too much to talk about nothing with someone I thought was my best friend). It has been two days and he is now reaching out to my daughter. I know I have hurt him, he was not expecting me to do this (out of character for me)but my intentions were to give him space and allow him to miss me. We had an amazing relationship before his mom passed, he was just about to move in after 10 months together. The situation seems unique to the videos that I’ve been watching and I can’t get a clear answer of what to do. Now I’m feeling like I might have made a mistake ..but I’m continuing no contact bc I clearly laid out my requests and he knows what I need from him. I feel like I abandoned him

I must say even though I don't agree with everything, I do like a couple of your points especially about the feminine energy! As a man, I do seem more attracted to more feminine women then the "Tomboy" type women. My wife seems to absorb all the testosterone I'm losing so she tends to be in her masculine energy most of the time. Sometimes I wish she would be more feminine, that would attract me more especially if she can open up and let me in so that our "Relationship" can start going somewhere after 20 years of marriage!

I am talking to a guy who says that he likes talking to me, etc, but can’t be in a relationship; says relationships bring expectations and that brings disappointments; says we’re talking and we’re feeling good, that is all that matters. I really like him, but I think I’ll have to let him goo.

LOL when I was 25 I had the talk with my boyfriend of one year and had been living together. He left me. Then 2 months later comes up with a promise ring. That is ridiculous do not accept a promise ring a year later no engagement ring so I cut ties off. Of course he eventually married someone else and had 2 kids with her. I am sick of the power of whether we ever get married or not to solely be the man's. We are at the mercy of men all the time.

What if he tells you he’d LIKE YOU to keep your options open, because all he wants is for you to be happy and find what you’re looking for (being a wife)? 😕

Wow Adrienne, your story gave me goosebumps!!

You have said it perfectly..I just need to follow it..Thank you so much.. I need this advice and right words.,to make things work..

I disagree the very first phrase a girl should learn before she ever goes on a date is "I don't have sex outside of committed relationships" because you would be saying this if you question his level of commitment, when he is asking for sex and you are not yet comfortable with it. I view this phrase as a crucial boundary, in Adrienne's terms your line in the sand.

Let me just submit that you can still end up getting screwed over and end up with nothing if you are married. I came out of a twelve year marriage destroyed after we had built an empire out of nothing. He was diagnosed with Antisocial Personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. Marrying him was the biggest mistake of my life, but it was an education. Devoted the next ten years to learning everything about how I ended up there so I could teach women and men how to recognize disordered people before the abuse begins. I talk about how staying in the feminine is actually great protection from false masculine "Macho" emotionally immature man sized toddlers.

Sometimes Adrienne you make me laugh so much.......xx

Thank you for another wonderful helpful video! I'm dating a guy that's not yet divorced so he doesnt even want to discuss marriage...I've shared that I want to be a wife and that In keeping my options open...he keeps contacting me so well see well see.

Thanks for the good advice on picking our man...

Adrienne, you are so sweet and gorgeous, I (could) fall in love in you, even if I'm a woman :-) Thank you a lot for sharing your story, because it is so true to me too... I was petrified hearing such bad words from my partners of facing these moments of anger... and felt betrayed, even if they didn't have another woman. It is because of these moments of anger, which I cannot handle, why I refused to move together with my partner for 6 years now (I can't even think of wanting a marriage). This is what makes me feel so lonely in a relationship that I prefer to live alone, so I can send the man away when he does not behave...

This was a very informative video....I love it

Leave and get another one. The End..

There are some good points here, but I’m in a relationship that is turning out to be dead-end, and I don’t feel comfortable making statements about myself about being a dumb-dumb. I’m too trusting sometimes, but I feel like calling ourselves dumb is too self-deprecating. Especially if we need to work on raising our self-esteem.

I’ve been dating a man for 2 months. Already know I would like to marry him although I still need more time to know him. But his essence is IT. He is not winning money/not a provider now. I have a son from a past relationship. There is no way I am going to speed up and leave or push him away because of marriage. If we were in 6 months then yes. But for now I will pop the question and let him know I want that but not NOW. I hope he finds a job and in a year we can be close and then move in together/get engaged

Thanks Adrienne!⭐️⭐️⭐️

9:12 we ve been cohabitating for 3.5 in his place. 2 years were distant. He responded with the exact same response you e received when asked him about marriage. Mine said “we have arguments about little things” and would add something like “I haven’t met any of your family” even though he knew from beginning I told him that my family don’t really care whether I was in a relationship or getting married. He also tried to “pack your stuff and go” but would change his attitude the next day.

Hahaha sometimes even when you are married you walk away with nothing.... 🤣

This was awesome!!

Somebody asked if it's ok to be funny with men. Men might be afraid of sarcastic women,but it's possible to be funny in feminine,flirty and playful way. For example: I asked a guy (who is a policeman)"May I blink your eye at work?" He said "Yeah,but I can't promise to respond you." I asked him "At least you wouldn't fine me for that?" He said "I do not do fines, my colleague does it." I asked "A fine for blinking an eye😄?" And he answered "Well,this would be harassment a policeman😁".. and so on. I like to start flirting and be funny and he plays along, and we both get good mood for laughing together. NB! English is not my mother language.Some things are really hard to translate well and right☺

Dear Adrienne Just found your channel. And I like what I am hearing. I have many questions, but the one I want to ask you is this....How long do you think a woman who is in a long distance relationship has to wait for her boyfriend to commit? And what happens when he has expressed before he is not sure and needs time to sort things out?

This has been very helpful ty

I think it would be great if all is women would stand together and have no sex before marriage , no living together before marriage and no cooking or cleaning up after them until they know what they want

I’ve been divorced for 3 yrs now, I’m 41 and met a lovely man. I’m attracted to him. He’s got 4 little ones. I’ve got baby fever yes at my age and we’ve had that conversation. He can’t father any more kids. He’s only been divorced for 1 yr. and has a bit of debt from that he’s still working on. My feelings are caught up on this man I really see us together in the future. He absolutely adores me also. I’ve been watching your videos and now I’m wondering if he’ll be able to provide for a nw wife or not.... I don’t knw if I should leave him be and let him get his life together first... or hang in there and get to the 6 month mark to have the I want to be a wife conversation.?

Love your content!

This was such a good video

I’m so sad....but I’m gonna move out

Love this

Now his word means nothing to me and we got in an argument in a restaurant and he humiliated me again and he tried calling me but I was devastated ....three weeks went by then we finally talked....we talked and now he’s falling back in old trusts of controlling me again

You are accurate and funny! That is so helpful advice! Thanks 💓

Hello Adrienne. 👋 Correct.

Wow thanks for sharing your story. I’ve listened to you for a while and had no idea about your experience first husband.

Adrienne, Do you have any different message when dealing with a widower? I've been dating a widower for almost a year. The late wife has been gone for 5 years. I was the first woman he has been a relationship. He is not wanting to move fast (his words) Any experience with this? Thank you

If you say that- they'd be gone. Frightens them off.

What if you have no desire to be married ever again...??

Adrienne your personal story is the same as mine. North, east south and west.

We are in our early 40s and have never been married. Me & my bf have been in an exclusive relationship for the past 6 months. We live separately but see each other almost every day. He knows I eventually want to get married. However he is not moving things forward, doesn’t ask me about moving in together etc. How can I get him to progress things without pressuring him?

Black men tell me I'm not their gf and I have no right to ask anything. They tell me I'm not entitled to ask them questions and they have no obligation to answer to any of my ultimatums. Ultimatums, rules, boundaries that's how they describe all this stuff I am so open to dating men from other races now. They become angry with me tell me I'm annoying. All of this because I have my boundaries and I'm asking them for dates once a week. I don't think I'm asking much.

I feel like I have exhausted the marriage talk. I have spent years in my masculine energy... is it too late at this point? Have I ruined it?

10 years of marriage...you may get the higher person's social security later in life.

My boyfriend asked me 3 times and finally I moved in and I gave up my job....moved in and he started controlling me....and humiliated me in public 3 times.....and every other week he would threat to kick me out or take me back to my truck....as I got back out on truck that all settled down....

Hi Adrianne, love your channel it absolutely give us a learning curve. I would like to understand tho, what does it really mean when a guy says "take care" on a text message or bidding goodbye at the end of meeting/spending time with them?

thanks for your advice

If we have given him the same feminine dialogue twice IN A GAP OF 4 WEEKS INTERVALS about marriage, I HAD EVEN SAID HIM IM WALKING AWAY, again after few weeks he tries contacting you,DO WE REPEAT THE SAME MARRIAGE DIALOGUE OR NOW START IGNORING HIM COMPLETELY'.....

I wish I could afford the ABC program, but I will just continue to watch videos

Were good!

No, Adrienne. Im not scared to ask a man about marriage. But if I did ask, then should I be down on my knee and have a ring prepared for him as well? I don't want to swap the roles.

He gets angry and frustrated and says I went through a bad marriage for 18 yesrs

Looking at the date you published this- I’m concerned. Isn’t it legal now to marry if you’re a homosexual couple?

My husband and I are separated cross country. I would like to reconnect with him and I’m going to visit him for my birthday. I need guidance thru this journey. Please help. ~Cheryl

Hi Adrienne Good AfterNoon From Singapore! If A Guy Can't Commit Or He Is Just Not Sure Where Is He Heading It Is Better To Walk Away! No Sleeping Together, No Sex Before Marriage Or No 'Friends With Benefits' Or He Just Playing Around? If A Guy Put A Woman On A Pedestal Should A Woman Walk Away & Find The Right Guy? Can A Woman Asked A Guy What Is The Woman To The Man Or The Guy Is Not Keen? How Can A Woman Asked The Guy To Commit Or The Guy Is Shy Or Not Really Talk To AnyOne? Can An Ex Return After Ghosted Or Was Silent & Distant After One Year Break-Up With The Woman & The Guy Shows Up & Confess His True Feeling's?

I have difficulty to attract a high quality man. Do you have any advice for it?

It could be the opposite as well

Your story 😲

My ex was willing to give me 50 percent of everything until a lawyer told him he didn't have to because I earned more that he did and supported him the whole time we were married and despite the fact that we were together 10 years and had a child. I ended up with only the deposit for a new place, that's it.

Men don't want to give 1/2 of their income for the rest of their life if they divorce.

We were dating short term(3 months) everything was great, and then he told me he is not serious and is not ready, yet wants to be with me as he feels happy around me.. but somehow i managed to say it upfront that i don't want anything casual and stopped interacting. No Texts, no calls, not even asking anything. I hope i did something right. I just felt he was way too confused and didn't want to string along. Do you think i have chances? I know i am being too optimistic here 🥴

I asked him and he said he is not ready to get married :(

8 months and he can’t even put labels as bf/gf :/

What if he doesn't want a relationship but he want to spend time with me?

hi adrienne. How do i have coaching by you please.

why are you not married to your second partner?.......

Can these things be said in dating as well? Like if he’s beating around the bush can you just say you’re going to keep your options open or should we just lean back?

Are you talking about Joanne Woodward the actress?

I need some help with this place Help me

Oh wow your story is such an eye opener. Thank you for sharing. Met a guy since December last year we been dating. we went exclusive to be a boyfriend and girlfriend by the end of February, he took o. Holidays for a week. Was awesome spending time together. We came back and was ready to move forward and wanted me to meet his kids (fostered kids) , that he stay with. He then organized a dinner at his place, all went well. We all went on a camping /Fishing Trip with the kids, just to get to know each better and spend time. Also was a great weekend. Now I don't know if it's the right time to ask about the future of our relationship? Again, on own He knows that I want to be married one day and be a mother of my own children. He is okay and wants to be a parent with me one day. I also would like your advice on how do I feature in his kids life? He is really involved with them and he is doing a great job. I hope I got my questions through clearly. Thank you Helena

You are incredible lol. Does it apply for single woman of 47 years old like me? Who dates divorcee men who had already been through marriage before? . You are great adriane.

What do you think it means if he plans a trip for the both of you on your birthday? I do not understand what the intention is. We've been separated over a year.

Adrienne, Love your site! My guy and I have been together since last November. He is in Fla Nov - April and upstate NY April - Nov. We had a wonderful time together, a few days a week and all weekend. We are now in a LD committed relationship, his idea,. We FT and talk a few days a week. I am going to see him for a week in July, a break from the Fla heat! I'm feeling a bit disconnected from him because when we speak, instead of lovey dovey convos, it's more about the daily ins and outs of everyday life, a few laughs, and then blows me a kiss goodbye. I would like to know where we are headed but I'm not sure if we've spent enough time together to bring this up. I would love to know your thoughts. Thank you!

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Honey marriage means nothing , I was married and my ex husband was on dating sites all the tome , 24 hours after I left the house , he was already going out with all kind of women . I have everything to him and lost it all , the marriage me at nothing at all to him . I would never ever have another man in my house , cleaning after him , giving all to him , listening to his snore , cleaning the dirty bathroom! Marriage does not mean love , commitment our anything , sorry .

What if it is hard for him to commit because he is stuck with ex girlfriend who is toxic. He gave his financial support to the entire family of that girl and when he decide to choose me,the girl threaten him to suicide if he do that. What are the things we do if he is not couragious enough to let her go.

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