Yikes I didn't even think about that and she wants to get married "immediately" when her partner is only 20 and basically still a kid in the eyes of people who are older and wiser. That's no bueno for me. Now I understand why her family questioned it.
That’s actually really weird for the couple with the oldest age gap.. they’ve been dating for two years so when the youngest was 18 the oldest was 34.. what would a 34 yr old want to be doing with a teenager . Weird
My issue is that the 16 year age gap one had been together for 2 years and the 12 year one had been together for a couple of months. Which means they got together when the youngest were freshly 18... I don't understand why a 30+ year would even be associating with 18 year olds
Same. I'm 22 and I don't date a 18 years old. I barely want to date a 19 years old. I'm almost done with my master while a 18/19 years is just done with high school or just started college.
My sister was 17 dating a 24 year old, and my parents brushed it off cause it was only 6 years apart but the maturity level of 17 and 24 is very different. She wasn’t even an legal adult yet.
@@agustinjr.enriquez6238 You know why that is right? Just watch a single episode of the fresh and fit podcast or Kevin Samuels. Women ages 18 to 8000 all want the same thing regardless of socioeconomic or educational backgrounds. They all want providers and protectors. And the 18 year old isn't gonna get it from someone her own age.
i definitely thought Matrix & John were older. they seem “seasoned” from the vibe/ look they give off. but i think it was Mia who said age doesnt define maturity so that also plays a part and how you’re presented/ viewed too. immaturity is usually associated with younger ages.
Hearing real adult people talk about jobs and living situations helps me put my current life in perspective and not beat myself down for my privileges, disadvantages or mistakes. I like videos like this with the reality of young adult life in this day and age. Helps me feel less alone and like I’m not doing everything completely wrong.
In my early 30s. I only have ONE friend that is a single homeowner. Most people I know are renting in apartments with their partners. I even know a few people who have their parents pay their rent, a couple of people still live with their parents to have a babysitter so they can get on their feet. No one judges the others circumstances, everyone moves at their own pace.
i am in my 30s. i did a career change at the age of 31, 3 years ago. i decided to pursue my passion went back to college. i then networked and landed my dream job. very happy. i was super nervous at first because i thought no one would hire an older college graduate doing a career change but i found employers were receptive and had no problem with it. i even think it worked in my favor because they saw an older person doing a career change meant that i was serious about the job and career change...like they knew i wasn't some 18 yr old who went to college just to go to college and get a degree because that's what you are meant to do.
My first college roommate was 18 dating a 42 year old with kids… literally had to hold back my puke when I heard that. It seemed like a very manipulative situation, I hope they got out of that relationship. Needless to say I moved out ASAP
@@Miss_Daddy THROUGH HER DAD?! Yikes.. yeah I forgot to mention they met when the older lady brought her kids to swim school which my roommate (17 at the time) was working at 🤢
I was bad at this guessing game Also, I'm glad that these people are happy in their relationships, but I, as a 20 years old can't imagine myself with someone over 30. We don't even get on well with my sister & she's "just" 28.
When you don’t have friends that are you SO’s age or as a couple you look off then must likely your relationship is based on an age kink. I really thought this people had a 5 year age gap tops.
@@sophiegriffin8351 Well, the gay couple looked like 10+ years & the lesbian couple looked like the 20 years old was around 28, the 36 years old looked like 25 to me:/ The 2 black folks, I thought the guy was like 15-20 years older than the girl, the older girl-younger guy couple looked like they have around 5 years of difference (I was right lol), the uni graduates looked same aged, but I thought they're tricky & maybe there's more years than 1 between them.
Yea but that’s not necessarily an age thing. I don’t get on with my sister and she’s almost two years older but my friend in 9 years older and we get along really great
my parents are 19 years apart, and they have never gotten along since I was born(20 years now). My dad could easily be my grandfather and my mom has been struggling with doing most of the domestic work due to the power imbalance of such a wide age gap. It may not be the case for every relationship, but this is just my family’s personal experience.
I just wanna say My family faced the same struggle as yours: my parents have also more than 10 years age gap, and I feel like there is a power imbalance that still exists many years after my parents married each other. Age number is not just a number, it is not about the fact that « that’s okay if the people in That kind of relationship are okay with it ». It is not, because thee is no difference to my mind between a huge age gap and a pedophile relation. That’s it. Even though the huge age gap is between two adults people. It doesn’t care. That is pedophilia. Because the mentality of the older one in the couple is not that different than the pedophile’s way of thinking. He just wait just few years, for the younger one to be adult, to be able to date that younger person
My parents also have an age gap and have one of the most functional relationships I've seen. I remember as a kid being so shocked hearing about my friends' parents' dysfunctional relationships. It is a smaller gap (11 years) but they did meet when my mom was just 20 which in a typical American's mind would mean that my father is a predator preying on a younger woman. Yet here they are 40 years and 3 kids later and never had any big issues.
Matrix and John match each others' vibes so well. Kinda obsessed with them tbh I also love what Matrix said at the end! Age is sometimes nothing but a number. Sometimes. Sometimes is the very key word. Sometimes, it doesn't matter a whole lot. Other times, it can be incompatible, unhealthy, or even just downright dangerous. Sometimes. I think that sums up my view on age gap relationships pretty dang well.
why would a 36 year old be interested in a 20 year old, the maturity level is going to be at such different points. personally I would say staying within 4 years of eachother would be ideal, especially if one of the partners is under 30.
Personally it's none of our business, and it's their relationship, but I get what you're saying but we just have to mind our business. You may be uncomfortable but they are comfortable and that's all that matters. Maybe later on they'll realise that it was wrong but for now let them do what they want
Is it not possible for someone to simply be mature for their age? Seems to me people automatically assume the older person as just some predator. They could be genuinely interested in someone that so happens to be younger. As long as they are consenting adults tho.
They might have everything in common except the fact one of them can't get a drink at a bar. The younger one might be mature for his age and the older one seems youthful.
My parents have a big age gap, 15 years. BUT when they met my mom was 27 going on 28 lmao. She was a vet, he was a lawyer. They were both established adults. And that’s when it becomes okay to date someone much older/younger. And even considering it worked out in my parent’s situation, I wouldn’t want it for myself. I’m 18 and I would only date 18-20 lmao. Even when I’m older I can’t see myself dating someone who is not close in age to me.
Age definitely matters, but matters less as your older. For example 17 year old and a 26 year old is more concerning then a 55 year old and 69 year old.
I don’t think age is just a number for me… I still think even 16 years is weird when it’s a 20 year old and an almost 40 year old, That’s just how I think. For me personally, I wouldn’t know what to talk about, a whole generation older it’s crazy to me. They do seem like a really cute couple and I’m sure they have more common Interests than ppl think.
yeah I agree, I personally couldn't care less when they're both adults but I know a 15 year old who's dating a 19 year old (they knew each other when she was still 14) and thats just a bit weird to me
0captain_mycaptain That would be super weird for me too and illegal in a lot of places. Barely a teenager and someone who has just entered adulthood. I have always been "mature for my age" as they say, but when I was 19 I couldn't imagine being with a 15 year old, it's just so odd to me even if the maturity levels are around the same. You're just in totally different life arenas because the rate of maturity and how much you change as a person year by year from life experience and puberty during that period of your life is so fast.
Hold up.. the two women with the 16 yr gap have been together for 2 years and the younger one is 20 right now. So she was 18 and the other one was 34 when they first got together?..
I've dated both guys who were much older and much younger, and, to be honest, the more it happened to me, the more I grew sceptic about big age gap relationships. I don't think it's impossible for a couple to be happy this way, but asking the question "why" is very relevant.
Why do people act like there's nothing to talk about with a big age gap? There's literally a tonne of differences between two people with a big age gap which makes for great discussion and can learn from each other
The moral dilemma is that the big age gap should be highlighted and discussed in detail, not ignored. These 2 age gaps in this video: 19&31, and 36&20 is morally corrupt. Why? Because the obvious adult should be the mentor, not a sexual, intimate outlet. They’re in different parts of their life, and the obvious adult should be more educated in terms of morals and ethics based on life experiences.
@@aus-li how old are you? Imo many older Gen Z and millenials have many things in common so it's not hard to see them together. Now when you're talking a 40+ year old and 18-21 year old then yeah that would look very strange and I have a negative stigma with that. From 20-35 there's not as much difference physically so it's not too strange. But I still do think it's kinda weird with that 20 yo and 36 yr old tho tbh...if they're really consensually happy then ok
I feel like anyone under 23 has absolutely nothing in common with a 30 year old, I myself am 19 and let alone can't even think of one thing I have in common with a 25 year old
The fact that you can recognise that actually shows maturity because plenty of 19 year olds think there’s no difference in age because they are “legal adults”.
Interesting. So what does it say about a 23 yr old who DOES feel like they have things in common with a 30 yr old? We cant say it never happens bc clearly it does. I see a lot of ppl projecting.
@@fans-ed1td what you feel and what is true are two different things. If a young person feels that way they need therapy and I’m not talking about likes and dislikes and personality I’m talking about stages of life and troubles
@@geekyboy6875 so basically youre saying ppl should be focusing on being with someone who is in the same stage of life as them... so they can relate to troubles and things etc... and anything outside of that means you need therapy. Lol got it.
I feel like they should’ve done this video in silence and switched places based on appearances. Idk them talking about being in school and all that gave stuff away
19 and 30 is so wrong. I'm sorry but some of these made me uncomfortable. Why would a grown adult want to be with a teen or someone who's brain isn't fully formed yet? I feel it's definitely a power imbalance
My boyfriend is 7 years older then me and I can say that age isn’t just a number. At the beginning of our relationship it wasn’t noticeable, but that changed after a bit. I’m 20 and sometimes I can feel a certain power dynamic. I mean, our relationship is perfect in every other way and I think it’s gonna get better the older we get, but if I could change something, I‘d close the gap a bit.
I'm also 20 and my bf is 6 yrs older than I am. It's had no bearing on us yet, but we haven't been dating long. I definitely thought about his age leading up to the relationship when I was crushing on him, but maturity-wise we're about the same. He has more work experience than I do, but we're similar in a lot of other ways
SKY LIMIT on YT I was also the one who was crushing first and pursued getting to know him better, not the other way around. I would be worried if a random 26 yo asked me out in any other circumstances
Does anyone find the 36 & 20 year old being together kind of sus… they said they have been dating for 2 years so when they started dating she may have just turned 18 or was not yet 18….
On a second or third channel, you guys should post the full uncut versions of each question (with middle ground and other shows too) I just find it interesting to see how relationships and conversation grow and it's hard to get a full grasp of that with only brief cuts of each question, y'know?
My dad and stepmom have a 11 year age gap- 37 and 48 (they were married 4 years ago) and it’s never seemed weird… But also they are both adults- I think when the younger partners brain hasn’t fully matured yet, or the pair are in two very different stages of life, ie college and workforce, is when it can be problematic…
While I would question someone in their 60s dating someone in their 20s, It's not really that wild for there to be a 10 to 20 year age gap. It's less about the age gap and more about what stage in life people are in. Especially when dating is more about figuring what you want in a relationship now a days, rather than just finding the first person to marry you.
Strongly disagree with what? That they decide to be in a relationship? Y'all need to learn how to mind your business and let people live. Life is too short to worry about how another couple can be compatible. Focus on yourself!
@@chrisandtimothy “strongly disagree” with the prompt at the beginning of the video asking for their opinion on whether they’d date someone with a 20 year gap lol
I’m glad the girl said that age sometimes matter. Because a 60 year old dating a 19 year old is completely different from a 21 or 22 year old doing it.
@@dunyacaliskan7495 kinda is when it’s 19 YEARS OLD STILL YOUNG ENOUGH TO BE IN HIGH SCHOOL dating a person WHO IN RETIREMENT what business does a 60 year old person have with a 19 year old person other then grand child relationship what business does a 34 year old woman have talking to romantically to a 18 year old girl who’s either in her last year of high school or just graduate
@@dunyacaliskan7495 tell me does this not seem wrong to you The woman and her partner started dating at the age of 34 and 18 At the age of 34 you should have your career looking to buying a house or settling down with some one At 18 you are either still in high school or freshly graduate thinking about college or what ever The Maturity levels between them is to much not to mention they probably didn’t start dating instantly which means they probably been talking for a while let’s the the talking phase last 1 or 2 years 33 to 17 32 to 16 that would imply that a 32 year old got in contact with a 16 year old to start a romantic relationship with the after 2 year started dating At 34 and 18 then dated for 2 years at 36 and 20 that’s just gross and wrong
I''m almost 27 and really can't imagine dating below 24. I feel like anyone below that age is too immature and at a different stage in their life. Even the humor I feel like is different with people a few years younger. I am often attracted to people like 40+ but I wouldn't date older than early 30s personally.
that’s true. humor is often different in big age gaps and can feel a little awkward especially because they just won’t be able to get you entirely often times. for example (in general) your mom won’t get you the same when a friend would. so why would you want that in a partner yk
I know it sounds crazy but it can be one of the best relationships ever, it brings a sense of open Ness and less shame and judgment,when it’s a younger person with an older soul feels like they’ve already lived the life they wanted to live and an older posted with a young soul who is forgiving and understands the mistakes that young people make. Because everybody’s at different levels of experience and maturity when I would date people that were my age I would question them so much as to why they would do things because we have the same amount of experience in life and I wouldn’t understand why we would do things so differently. Now I’m able to be heard while still learning new things and vice versa. It’s also a question of what the different generations value and what you personally value and seek in your life. Because the age gap could also work when both of them want to be very adventurous. My boyfriend and I have plans to be settled but still have adventures as our relationship progresses, both of us mainly just want a quiet life where we can enjoy the things we enjoy. As we have a lot more in common is that somebody who was just looking at us would think we do. I make him feel young, he makes me feel fulfilled and proud of myself. Something I feel a lot of people need and can’t find.
@@Camise100 that still dose not make it right or any less weird like the 16 year gap couple They are currently 36 and 20 they been together 2 years 34 to 18 they said they been talking before dating let’s say they talked for 1 year before dating that means A 33 year old woman made contact with a 17 year old for the hopes of a relationship its gross its even worse if they talk for 2 years before dating That would be a 32 year old contacting a 16 year old they are both either way in 2 different parts in life when the met a 18 year old should be a senior in high school or freshly graduated thinking about college or getting a job a 32 year old should be getting there life time career or getting ready to settle down for a family or marriage if a 20 year old was with a 40 year old they could be in a parent relationship dosnt that stick as odd why would anyone want to date some one who could be there child why would anyone want to date some one who could be there parent
@@randomboi346 Well it’s not wrong or weird so, it’s not like we’ve been dating since I was 16 and he groomed me or something, i’m almost 25 years old. I think you need to broaden your understanding of what a relationship is and what you’re looking for in it.
@@randomboi346 I completely agree and grooming is completely wrong and no normal person would want to date a minor or honestly even somebody that’s like only 18, 19. He wouldn’t, I was 22 when we met and i’ve lived more than most 25-year-olds have, at 16 I was doing things that people do at 20 and I did grow up really fast but that’s part of the reason why I am able to be mature and actually be in a long lasting relationship instead of wasting these years with somebody who wants nothing and has no ambitions. Or even wasting that time with somebody that didn’t allow me to be myself around them and judged me. But there are a lot of really creepy people that will take somebody who’s a 15 year old family friend and start grooming them at that age, I mean child brides still exist and it’s legal with parental consent in the United States still. That’s the real problem that people need to be worried about is that people are literally by children as brides not worried about what two consenting adults are doing. My boyfriend was with a women 15 years older than him, he met her when he was 27, he wasn’t groomed, neither was I. I think it’s really problematic when men will have a set age limit like Leonardo DiCaprio and only date 20-year-olds and break up with them when they age out of them. That’s weird because it’s like what are you doing with so many young people why can’t you be with someone your own age. But realizing that love has no bounds is very important, what people like that there love does have bounds and they only like that person because of the age they are. And they always pick the ones that are barely legal.
I'm 24 and 20 is my limit for younger but i could see myself dating up to like, 32ish. I think it's also an interesting factoid that both the lgbt couples had larger age gaps than the rest. It just kind of happens in our community i find, we don't really attach ourselves to tradition in that sense as much and it's probably because we're not biologically having kids most of the time.
My wife and I have a 24 year age gap. I met her when I was 26 and she was 50. We are on our 10th wedding anniversary after only knowing each other for 2 months. I met her in August of 2012. By October we were married. When you know You know.
Personal opinion …. I’m 23 and I can’t see dating anyone under 21 because they can’t even do certain things yet and also can’t be myself dating 28 because I feel like we’d be on two completely different paths in life with not much in common. But all the couple compliment each other very well!!!
Yup. There was this girl I met while doing an internship last year that I liked, but the moment I knew she was 20 (I had just turned 24) I was like "ew no, cradle robber allert"
my bf is 23 and i’m 19 he’s turning 24 this month. we have the biggest age gap he’s ever had, but i feel like it really depends on the people and what they enjoy doing. clubs and parties aren’t his scene, he only drinks sometimes. so that doesn’t bother him, also because not everyone who is 21 wants to drink. it’s a personal choice for me. so i feel like what matters more is the emotional maturity both partners have.
Okay, but that means they started dating when she was 18 and the other girl was 34? She was barely even legally an adult and could have even still been in high school. I don't know how to feel about that.
I’m sure they been talking before they dated so it could go as follows 34-18 33-17 32-16 If they been “talking” for 2 years that’s a 32 year old woman talking to a 16 year old girl
We've been married 30 years and we have an 8 year age gap. When we were younger it kind of had an effect. During the middle years, it didn't matter at all. I think in the last few years as she approaches retirement and I am in my early 50 years, it doesn't matter, I still adore her, but we do have some different perspectives, I think.
How did your family and friends react when you first got together 30 years ago? I feel like it’s less common for the girl to be older, even now, and I’m sure it seemed wild back then! Would love to hear how you dealt with any pushback from people
I assumed John and Matrix didn’t have a massive age gap, but I was shocked that they were both in their 20s. I thought they were late 30s. They are gorgeous though
When you grow up you'll realize not everyone is at the same mental and emotional maturity while being the same age as you. Once you graduate HS everyone takes their own paths. Some grow up fast and immediately become parents, some go to college, some become 28 and still look and act like their 19 year old self. Age really is a number for the most part.
@@jeremysmith9694 older people are the only ones who really understand the pedophilic tendencies in certain age gaps. Like that 36-20 relationship in the video. They dated for 2 years. A literal 34 year old looking at a high schooler. That's a pedophile right there.
The fact that Rose started dating Mia when Mia was 18 is so gross. Why would a 34 year old women be interested in a teenager that has just finished high school?
My husband is 11 years older than me. Our core values and beliefs are similar, and we share some important traits and interests that is difficult to find. We are perfectly happy, and I definitely don’t care that he’s older, and same with him. We just had our first baby, and our five year marriage anniversary is coming up :).
if mia and rose have been together for nearly two years the younger one could have been 18 when they officially started dating. and possibly younger when they began seeing each other. just because it’s a wlw relationship, and they both look young, doesn’t mean it’s not predatory
Yeahhh I’m 26 and can’t even begin to imagine dating someone who just took their senior class photo 🙃 the 20 year old was like 17 or 18 when the 30-something year old started dating her that’s so weird to me
These couples have obviously been dating for a while so it’s kind of weird for the couples with the bigger age gaps…the older partner was in their late 20s/early 30s and dating a literal teenager. Regardless of legality, it’s a little weird…
if you ever find someone older/younger than you, and you're insecure about that age gap, you should definitely come to this comment section for advice, they know it all, fr
Yea cause most times is grooming and manipulating and the age gap is the only reason the older person is interested. Two you have to really sit there and think my partner will never understand certain things that have to go through cause they are a different generation they will hit milestones way before me and they will die before me. And etc like when ppl say what do y’all have in common this is what they mean you are in two different stages of life
Yea you can tell that the age gap is weighing on them and they don’t really have much in common the age gap is definitely a sticking point for why they are together
A lot of people are defending Mia’s and Rose’s relationship because they’re a lesbian couple. If Rose was a guy, I bet you most of the people here saying it doesn’t matter would call him a pedophile
I'm dating a woman who is 22 years older than I am. I am over the age of 18. But yeah, we've been together for 8 years now. For me, I've always been more attracted to woman older even at a young age. Plus she wondered into my life at a downward point and was able to get me on my feet, we just mesh on a more equal mentality that we see no number. We just see each other.
I'm 3 years older than my boyfriend (for 3 months of the year it's 4 years). I don't think you can tell by looking at us and although it's less common for a woman to be older than her boyfriend, it's common amongst my friends! I could notice the age difference more when we were younger as men mature later than women, and I'm also further ahead in my career than him. But other than that you can't really tell and I don't think about it.
As someone that dated older from a young age I can say it's not always problematic, I did have some problematic ones but also some great relationships. My ex helped me grow up fast , maybe that's not how I would be without her in my life. Point being don't judge when you don't know all the details.
Living together after four months 👀 I tried it after three years of being together and it ended our relationship. I guess starting early saves both parties a lot of time.
soo the lesbian couple has been together for two years and theyre 36 and 20..... a 34 yr old dating someone fresh out of high school doesnt sit well w me
i mean that one couple with the largest age gap... she literally is pretty much still a teenager, she just wears some heavy makeup and has a mature body. if she'd be petite most would find it weird. 20 is still very young
