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Who should pay for the first date? | Jared Freid | TEDxReno 

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Jared Freid is a standup comedian and the cohost of The U Up? Podcast, a show about modern dating. The one question Jared gets the most is “Who should pay for the first date?” The answer is messy for some and straight forward for others. The question represents what Jared thinks is the biggest problem for how people date in the modern age.
Jared Freid is a stand-up comedian based out of New York City, with a strong focus on dating and relationships. His comedy is current and reflects the ordinary daily thoughts of everyone you know, especially if you know a lot of millennials that are obsessing over dating apps, trying to be real adults, and worrying about their bodies. (For the record, Jared’s mom thinks his body is “just fine.”) Jared has a remarkable insight into how millennial relationships (or even situationships) begin and end. Many of Jared's fans say that his advice has helped them in their personal lives. Jared’s fans also seek out his voice in the online publishing world. He’s written for TotalFratMove, BroBible, Betches, and HeTexted. His columns delve into everything from sports to The Bachelor to the pitfalls of dating in the information age. His writing has both sides of the aisle nodding their head while thinking, “I’ve been on the toilet way too long.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@kiwii742
@kiwii742 Год назад
“It’s way easier to tell people who should pay than to tell people how you felt when the payment got made” okay Plato 👏🏼 great job Jared!!!!
@ybrynecho2368
@ybrynecho2368 Год назад
This always makes me laugh. The first date that my now husband asked me on I paid. He had asked me, forgetting that he only had a couple of dollars on him before payday - 2 days hence. Once he asked, he couldn't take it back so he asked to "borrow" it. I laughed and said OK, but he didn't have to pay me back. In he 70's a date could be had in a dive bar for about $5.00 so I paid. True to his word, as soon as he was paid he paid me back along with a nice bouquet of flowers. We've been together since that day - 48 years ago. So, as far as I'm concerned who pays is neither here nor there, it's whether you have a good time or not.
@kashmalamuhammad2555
@kashmalamuhammad2555 Год назад
I dont know why but your story made me smile, such a light hearted one
@ybrynecho2368
@ybrynecho2368 Год назад
@@jacobgrace3744 Pretty uncanny, eh? I watched it after I commented.
@Mikelovesmuseums
@Mikelovesmuseums Год назад
@@ybrynecho2368 I could tell you watched it! You proved the point! Thank you for sharing
@brendamartin2952
@brendamartin2952 Год назад
While I don’t disagree, dating has drastically changed since 48 years ago. Especially from a financial aspect.
@Jaysterity
@Jaysterity Год назад
What a great message! Everything in dating gets so much easier when you look introspectively and forget about the "rules"
@x3sincerelymej
@x3sincerelymej Год назад
very wise, as always! “it’s way easier to have rules than to have feelings” had me 🤯🤯
@Riri-xm8ly
@Riri-xm8ly Год назад
I love Jared Fried and listen to all his podcasts. Huge fan! Great job Jared.
@dalilahanaya4318
@dalilahanaya4318 Год назад
I appreciate Jared. I’ve become more confident in owning my own feelings, and it has really set me free. Thank you Jared!
@Damiano54
@Damiano54 Год назад
Who should pay for the first date ? The government, of course.
@celestialcircledance
@celestialcircledance Год назад
That's actually a good answered if they want to start tackling reduced marriage and birth rates !
@jenniferviau7243
@jenniferviau7243 Год назад
Love everything Jared does! Always silly, witty, some tough love and lots of laughs. Great job papa JT 🤩
@reneediskowski3993
@reneediskowski3993 Год назад
Congratulations!! What an accomplishment!! You’re such a unique and interesting mix of unmatched comic timing and material, introspection, vulnerability and compassion. You have helped me through so so much, and I can’t thank you enough. Cheers! 🍸
@moolis
@moolis Год назад
The answer always is, “whomever did the inviting.” Let’s be real. 95% of the time, it’s the men.
@maximilian513
@maximilian513 Год назад
This guy has just the right amount of relatability that makes me proud to be a fan.
@brittanydking
@brittanydking Год назад
Jared doesn’t miss! Always some good laughs and real talk 🙌🏾
@ashleyhall3938
@ashleyhall3938 Год назад
Congrats! Always happy to see you do big things after years of following your stand-up and podcasts
@luciaruggiero4335
@luciaruggiero4335 Год назад
This is so great - Jared has an impressive stage presence
@marya772
@marya772 Год назад
Huge Jared stan. Funny, thoughtful, and authentic - as always. Good stuff!
@davidvega2245
@davidvega2245 Год назад
I discovered Jared when I recently began listening to Podcasts. He is one of the best content creators, is pragmatic and gives solid advice.
@taylorjenkins4407
@taylorjenkins4407 Год назад
Awesome job, Jared! It’s so great to see all of your hard work and preparation come to fruition!!
@mihaelaclaudiap..2
@mihaelaclaudiap..2 Год назад
Loving this talk! Great job Jared!
@elizabethreynolds3299
@elizabethreynolds3299 Год назад
Patreon member here. Been waiting with baited breath for the video after hearing about the talk for weeks! Love it!!
@michaelaskarbova223
@michaelaskarbova223 Год назад
I loved this TED Talk. One important thing wasn’t mentioned - when a woman goes on a date, in a vast majority of the cases she doesn’t go on a date TO GET A FREE MEAL, we can afford our own food. Gone are the days when only men earned money. I hate to say it but nowadays women DO NOT NEED men! So when we go on a date it’s because we WANT to be with one, and that’s a massive difference! Lots of love to everyone ❤️
@skinnyguy7773
@skinnyguy7773 Год назад
That's exactly what men are saying also. In an era where vvomen can afford her own food, there should no longer be any expectation for men to pay for dates. You should go and lecture the broke chicks scamming men for free food.
@tobiramasenju6290
@tobiramasenju6290 10 месяцев назад
Apparently wanting to be with that person isn't enough to pay for your own food.
@mariagreene5338
@mariagreene5338 Год назад
LOVE IT! So impressed. I am such a fan! I listen to you (and Jordana) nearly everyday. Hoping to make it to one of your shows or a U Up live eventually! Thanks for all you do!
@arielvaca5293
@arielvaca5293 Год назад
As always - funny, smart, insightful and delivered in a way that makes it easy to hear!!! You crushed it Jared!!!
@everysuburbam
@everysuburbam Год назад
Awesome job, Jared! Hilarious and insightful, per usual.
@pcookiesnookie9044
@pcookiesnookie9044 Год назад
Well done Jared! Entertaining and insightful. Owning your feelings is ultimately the best way to ensure you’ll keep making decisions you feel happy living with.
@jessicahein4372
@jessicahein4372 Год назад
Love you Jared! I listen to your podcasts everyday ( Jtrain, U Up, and Dating Makeover). You make my day a little brighter and make me feel a little wiser
@creeperbythedozen1898
@creeperbythedozen1898 Год назад
Love Jared and listen to all his podcasts! So proud of him and loved the message here!!
@isawhimfirstpodcast
@isawhimfirstpodcast Год назад
Jared never disappoints! Hilarious! Iconic live screamer, love this man 😁😁😁
@Steve-eu5xf
@Steve-eu5xf Год назад
Rᵉᵃᶜʰ ᵒᵘᵗ ᶠᵒʳ 💬 ᶠⁱⁿᵃⁿᶜⁱᵃˡ ᴳᵘⁱᵈᵃⁿᶜᵉ
@nancynystrom9775
@nancynystrom9775 Год назад
Jared, this was amazing! You always deliver. 🙌
@danielleashworth6217
@danielleashworth6217 Год назад
So funny! Love all of Jared’s stuff
@BeFabulousNow
@BeFabulousNow Год назад
Amazing job! Jared is the true modern dating guru we all need
@martinsamuda-cowan8099
@martinsamuda-cowan8099 Год назад
surely, who pays doesn't really matter, its the outcome of the date that's the important thing. mind you if it was going badly, I'd be willing to pay the bill just to escape 😊
@applechuice
@applechuice Год назад
Love it!! Killed it Jared, AS ALWAYS!!
@mac78xxx28
@mac78xxx28 Год назад
I believe most dates don't have great outcomes if she pay..
@humanbeing483
@humanbeing483 Год назад
I think it's worth it because at the end of the day what matters the most is finding a good woman even if it takes a thousand dates just to find one. 🙂
@alexisyoun6372
@alexisyoun6372 Год назад
Wow. Great talk and insightful! Congrats
@laurenpeeters4751
@laurenpeeters4751 Год назад
Jared you’re crushing it! Loved your San Diego comedy store show. Proud fan
@shameemshazz143
@shameemshazz143 Год назад
Hey
@madisenpotratz479
@madisenpotratz479 Год назад
Obsessed w/ everything Jared does
@nicholasbeutler3126
@nicholasbeutler3126 Год назад
What an amazing talk that was! Perfect mix of being funny and food for thought!
@carolinemahoney4106
@carolinemahoney4106 Год назад
Love this and everything you do!!
@ameliabaumann3799
@ameliabaumann3799 Год назад
Papa JT… killed it once again! Great TED talk on a modern day issue that is more nuanced than people think!
@vanessamoreno5956
@vanessamoreno5956 Год назад
Loved it!! Way to go, Jared!
@brookes6112
@brookes6112 Год назад
Jared is always spot on, incredible job!
@kileebrown289
@kileebrown289 Год назад
Great job Jared! I've been listening to uup and appreciate your perspective !
@helenagabrielaazuaraberroz7693
Love it!! Witty smart and fun! Congrats and hugs from Spain
@caitlynguiteras4718
@caitlynguiteras4718 Год назад
Love this!!👏🏻
@madisonmazzeo4410
@madisonmazzeo4410 Год назад
Jared is the best! Excellent Ted Talk!
@lilithgrrrl
@lilithgrrrl Год назад
If I like the guy, I think its more attractive when he pays. If I don’t like him, I’ll insist on splitting the bill 🤷🏻‍♀️
@pataylor86
@pataylor86 Год назад
Loved this! Great job Jared!
@elaineeggert7054
@elaineeggert7054 Год назад
Perfectly articulated, great job Jared!
@lyndeefluder5341
@lyndeefluder5341 Год назад
Interesting topic and very well done!!!
@jocelynarnett
@jocelynarnett Год назад
all the feathers for such a spot-on talk! Loved it! 🪶
@deborahgoodman7272
@deborahgoodman7272 Год назад
Love everything he does! Fantastic!
@alejandrodarts2523
@alejandrodarts2523 Год назад
FIRST! AND FINALLY THIS GETS TALKED ABOUT THAT I TOTALLY HAVE ALWAYS HAD A PROBLEM WITH
@kristall8359
@kristall8359 Год назад
Yes!!! Great dude and great talk.
@brunaisensee1355
@brunaisensee1355 Год назад
Amazing as always Jared!
@dardar2307
@dardar2307 Год назад
Great talk JTrain!!
@essirhodes6129
@essirhodes6129 Год назад
So glad I finally watched this! So good
@essirhodes6129
@essirhodes6129 Год назад
* feather feather *
@87whoever
@87whoever Год назад
Loved this Jared!!
@leocremonezi
@leocremonezi Год назад
"Who are you debating?" I'm from Brazil and on the last few days a famous actor brought this subject to light again: "who should pay for the first date?". Tremendous discussions were created about it, and the truth is that this topic should be much simpler... If you had fun and enjoyed the company of the other, the payment won't make any difference ✌🏻🇧🇷🙏🏻
@lalalandy2195
@lalalandy2195 Год назад
I usually don’t comment but this was too funny and also insightful! Good job!!
@Mikelovesmuseums
@Mikelovesmuseums Год назад
Definitely worth the wait, and even better after watching the bts videos on Jared’s channel! Congrats jtrain!
@amymaximus
@amymaximus Год назад
Such a great Ted Talk Jared! You crushed it!
@selagordon2647
@selagordon2647 Год назад
Masterful work Jared
@brookevan2333
@brookevan2333 Год назад
Loved it! Jared is the best.
@pink_sparrow_1373
@pink_sparrow_1373 Год назад
First date my husband and I paid for our own items. He refused to pay for my 3 glasses of wine. I still married him 😀
@BretSimmons
@BretSimmons Год назад
Fantastic job, Jared!
@skylarhaas7670
@skylarhaas7670 Год назад
The king of dating advice 👏🏼 great job Jared!
@zoegreenwood1919
@zoegreenwood1919 Год назад
Jared Freid! From stand-up to podcasting to bachelor-screaming to TedX! Talk about a Renaissance Man.
@chaseeo
@chaseeo Год назад
Love this
@whitney_rh
@whitney_rh Год назад
Well done❤️
@teachingontrach6721
@teachingontrach6721 Год назад
Crushed it! Congratulations Jared!
@lalalandy2195
@lalalandy2195 Год назад
My rule in thumb in dating was always go out again until I’m 100% certain she ain’t for me. Made dating a lot easier for me.
@dianemarie4869
@dianemarie4869 Год назад
This is the BEST thing I've watched in a long timeeeee😂🤣😂
@jovanae.2976
@jovanae.2976 Год назад
Great job Jared ! So funny !! Greetings from Munich, Germany :)
@mikesargsyan1899
@mikesargsyan1899 Год назад
It's interesting how a seemingly straight-forward question can raise a lot of discussions and provoke several thoughts regarding the equality of men and women. Indeed, in many cultures, it is viewed as socially acceptable for the man to pay on the date. Nonetheless, after watching the video, I think that both sides should split the bill equally. Or, in extreme cases, everyone should pay for what they ordered. While I do think that, I still consider offering to pay for the dinner a nice gesture, whether it comes from the man or the woman.
@celineguedj451
@celineguedj451 Год назад
I think you missed the point of the ted talk unfortunately. Might want to give it another listen?
@Alysonwaller
@Alysonwaller Год назад
Love it! Jared is the best. Everyone go follow and listen to his million podcasts. Feather feather.
@paolaalvaradoroman1113
@paolaalvaradoroman1113 Год назад
Loved it!!!!!!
@nitaclass03
@nitaclass03 Год назад
Great job, Jared!
@rb7198
@rb7198 Год назад
Great job Jared!
@sarahashlynpearce
@sarahashlynpearce Год назад
Killed it Jared!!
@nicolerabiezadeh2567
@nicolerabiezadeh2567 Год назад
JTRAIN killed it again . Nice job jared! We’re very proud of you 🎉💗
@siobhanlucid604
@siobhanlucid604 Год назад
Ma boys all grown up! 🤣👍🏻💛 Love shacked and the Matthew Hussey reference 🤣
@wonderhwu
@wonderhwu Год назад
Awesome job, Jared!
@Matildarelefors
@Matildarelefors Год назад
Smashed it again Jared!
@orangeone1
@orangeone1 Год назад
I love it!!!
@christiherrejon7392
@christiherrejon7392 Год назад
Great job!!!!! :)
@earthmoonstars2013
@earthmoonstars2013 Год назад
congrats, jared!!!
@alyssaxirene4434
@alyssaxirene4434 Год назад
amazing!
@harpgirl1234
@harpgirl1234 Год назад
Jared is awesome!
@cingalvan6020
@cingalvan6020 Год назад
Genuinely curious who pays on man/man woman/woman dates?
@areason1831
@areason1831 Год назад
I would invite my dates to brunch. Excuse myself to the restroom, pay the bill on the way. Then at the end let my date know that I’ve already settled the bill, but if they want to leave a tip that would be nice. Perfect setting to get to know each other better without strings or hassle should personalities not mesh.
@PerryPerryCC
@PerryPerryCC Год назад
😂😂 Bravo Jared!
@nicolehorn2883
@nicolehorn2883 Год назад
Jared always get it right!
@scotkj4
@scotkj4 Год назад
yesssssss go Jared!!!
@BeaLeydier
@BeaLeydier Год назад
Soooooo good!!!!!!
@BrianMcInnis87
@BrianMcInnis87 Год назад
Neither party pays for a date. Dates are occasions already desired by both parties.
@x3sincerelymej
@x3sincerelymej Год назад
so if you both desire a meal do you just…dine and dash? forage in dumpsters? use ✨ magic ✨?
@celineguedj451
@celineguedj451 Год назад
I love this idea. Anarchy. Chaos. Let's burn it down. Overthrow capitalism.
@Xx-po1fu
@Xx-po1fu Год назад
If I eat the food and drunk the drinks, I should pay for what I consumed.
@Cora.T
@Cora.T Год назад
I like to do it the way that is natural in the Netherlands, everyone pays for their own share. That way you don't have to feel guilty about spending someone else's money and you don't have to pay for someone else's expensive choices
@carolineshaw5417
@carolineshaw5417 Год назад
JTrain, what can’t you do?! Great Ted Talk on a subject that is debated at many a brunch table. Feelings > rules in 2022
@sew264
@sew264 Год назад
Fantastic
@bethderbyshire6120
@bethderbyshire6120 Год назад
Brilliant
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