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Sexual fantasies as a portal to self-acceptance and inner freedom | Lucia Cordeiro Drever | TEDxCU 

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Sex is hard to talk about and seen as an inappropriate topic of conversation in many settings. But eroticism is a core ingredient of being human. Repression creates shame and suffering. Lucia shares her findings as a couples therapist and sex researcher in how acknowledging our sexual fantasies can be a doorway into self-acceptance, understanding ourselves deeper and experiencing more inner freedom.
Lucia Cordeiro Drever is a psychotherapist working primarily with couples and psychedelic-assisted therapy in Longmont, CO. She is also pursuing a PhD in Clinical Sexology. Lucia's work with couples mainly involves helping partners understand one another and take responsibility in order to find a safe and fulfilling partnership. Her work with psychedelics helps people access deep parts of themselves that were previously unavailable. She is originally from Brazil and loves spending time with her husband, children, family and friends in tropical places eating delicious fruit. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@mingcheng_hsieh
@mingcheng_hsieh 2 года назад
it's quite true that we people tend to think the negative solutions first than the positive ones when facing the crisis, we may try to walk around to see different scenery and have a good mood.
@lemmymemmy
@lemmymemmy 2 года назад
I think this could also apply to other parts of ourselves such as the less seen things (negative emotion) we have. Being truthful to yourself will make it a lot easier to live. Denying that we are angry about a wronging done to us or someone we love, not acknowledging that we are sad or heartbroken about something, pushing whatever we really want for ourselves in life to the back of our head because we’re scared of failure or afraid to break out of our comfort box- this all ties in together. Refusing to accept yourself, ALL of yourself will keep you chained down. Living life to the fullest (whatever it is in your opinion) will come when you choose to acknowledge all parts of you. This is all in my opinion and take from what they said. Maybe they didn’t mean it like that but it’s what I got from the video.
@deborahdean8867
@deborahdean8867 2 года назад
I don't think that was what she was talking about at all . It's clear what she was talking about and it's fine if you want sn intimate relationship with your own ego. But it was a great self relocation about what is on your mind!
@lemmymemmy
@lemmymemmy 2 года назад
@@deborahdean8867 I don’t think you understood what I said either. It’s not about having an “intimate relationship with your own ego” it’s about understanding yourself. Knowing who you are and how you feel very frequently even helps people manage their anger, their actions, and how they articulate themselves. I also don’t appreciate those little jabs at me you tried to take but keep it cute and have yourself a day you deserve.
@sharayutravels
@sharayutravels 2 года назад
Honestly this lady brings up topics which occupy minds of everyone. She is also right, it should spoken as topic and not to be made a taboo or otherwise have crazy extreme reactions to such talks.
@Ablecore
@Ablecore 2 года назад
“From the fear to awe” A path to our purest self we left behind long ago “I ask you to remember again, Tough work!” Nancy Friday (Bernard)
@dittagecoeco2738
@dittagecoeco2738 2 года назад
This talk Is a true gem! Rare topic, precise, thoughtful, documented, funny and useful too!!
@njannuzzi
@njannuzzi 2 года назад
Brilliant and eye opening! Congrats!!
@mianti69
@mianti69 2 года назад
Lust, on the other hand, celebrates self-indulgence. Love comes with open hands and open heart; lust comes with only an open appetite.
@BigHenFor
@BigHenFor 2 года назад
They come from the same place. Respect, and make friends with your demons. Ignore them, and they'll destroy you out of frustration. Understand them and maintain your boundaries, and you'll never be alone again.
@coffeeseven
@coffeeseven 2 года назад
@@BigHenFor very well said.
@coffeeseven
@coffeeseven 2 года назад
@Shadow69 You say lust and self indulgence like they're bad things. It's part of life. Healthy emotions shouldn't exclude them or you'll wind up feeling guilty all the time.
@mianti69
@mianti69 2 года назад
@@coffeeseven so, you are repressing priorities over instant gratification without even looking for red flag in the way!!?? 😂😂 You'll end up in very deep waters my friend...each and every time
@coffeeseven
@coffeeseven 2 года назад
@@mianti69 I'm a good swimmer. Sometimes I float. Have a great day.
@sunnyskytarot
@sunnyskytarot 2 года назад
Well I think she's brilliant
@crystalc8254
@crystalc8254 2 года назад
I really enjoyed this talk. Really gave me somethings to think about
@dylanbuchman8128
@dylanbuchman8128 2 года назад
That last segment was great 👌
@abrirlaimagen8949
@abrirlaimagen8949 2 года назад
Loved this talk, so inspiring, thank you Lucia, you rock!!!
@managementstudy7203
@managementstudy7203 2 года назад
This is naturally but not comfortable to talk in society, I thik we can talk on this topic,,and thank you for giving your openion 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
@mihaelaclaudiap..2
@mihaelaclaudiap..2 2 года назад
I only live with fantasies lately (2 years), I wish I could live with the real deal sometimes ha,ha!
@TrashHere
@TrashHere Год назад
Um… give a shout :)
@Idkokyes
@Idkokyes 2 года назад
This was amazing! Thank you! ❤❤❤🌈
@princeyadav_7573
@princeyadav_7573 2 года назад
I really learn something this channel
@irfanmehrazulhoque804
@irfanmehrazulhoque804 2 года назад
Thank you 💐
@smallfootprint2961
@smallfootprint2961 2 года назад
Good talk. Love the accent.
@gamer9720
@gamer9720 2 года назад
I'm sure the comments on this one are gonna be awful LOL
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
lol
@ManyHeavens42
@ManyHeavens42 2 года назад
Wrong baby
@celozzip
@celozzip 2 года назад
you mean they'll disagree with your opinion?
@laurabustos6560
@laurabustos6560 2 года назад
It certainly doesn't seem risque so far... Mostly ppl saying this is exactly what's wrong w "woke" Americans.
@dementus420
@dementus420 2 года назад
Should be a goldmine.
@dark_red_blood
@dark_red_blood 2 года назад
The wolf you feed wins, if you want to feed 'want' then that's on you, like smoking cigarettes, whenever I smoke I crave more and more and never get full.
@swarleystinson6733
@swarleystinson6733 2 года назад
*But how to do it? You didn't tell us that!.*
@dementus420
@dementus420 2 года назад
I'm also ashamed of my eroticism.
@tomconcitis9322
@tomconcitis9322 2 года назад
Fantasies originate in learned experiences from art, entertainment, readings and videos, and story telling. Sounds like therapists also are sources to fantasies
@anubhavforall
@anubhavforall 2 года назад
I have experienced this and I affirm this is very very true!
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
yeh
@Ablecore
@Ablecore 2 года назад
Yes it’s a path to our purest self that we left behind
@deborahdean8867
@deborahdean8867 2 года назад
Are you married now? Are you loved more than anything by your devoted spouse? How long have you been married?
@annamaegold
@annamaegold 2 года назад
Thank you. 🕊
@CodeNameSlicerYT
@CodeNameSlicerYT 2 года назад
Taboo and important. Just interesting.
@user-hf4eh2ts3q
@user-hf4eh2ts3q 2 года назад
These people are like "Hedonism Bot " on Futurama.
@flexa41
@flexa41 2 года назад
Some fantasies are best left being a fantasy.
@Kami-mk7tu
@Kami-mk7tu 2 года назад
The comments luckily aren't too bad
@lunaticplantlover
@lunaticplantlover 2 года назад
Thank you Lucia, this was really helpful and much much needed. 🧡
@andrewfetterolf7042
@andrewfetterolf7042 2 года назад
CU boulder is full of disagreeable people
@alteredillusions100
@alteredillusions100 2 года назад
Very good points,
@banksta654
@banksta654 2 года назад
Real eyes realize real lies
@vikinginspace4881
@vikinginspace4881 2 года назад
TED talks how really become low frequency now
@deborahdean8867
@deborahdean8867 2 года назад
They sure have, what happened?
@ilhamshebani7482
@ilhamshebani7482 2 года назад
Interesting 🤔
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
yeh
@celozzip
@celozzip 2 года назад
when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
@suyashishan1960
@suyashishan1960 2 года назад
Shortest 14 min video I ever watched
@silviat8759
@silviat8759 2 года назад
What is her accent? Scottish? I like it...🥰
@fullup91
@fullup91 2 года назад
Not Scottish. It's American-ish but she's not native.
@silviat8759
@silviat8759 2 года назад
@@fullup91 thanks 😇
@jagadeeshkumar5251
@jagadeeshkumar5251 2 года назад
GOOD VIDEO
@seididumol837
@seididumol837 2 года назад
Surely,..nice
@siddhantjadiya3757
@siddhantjadiya3757 2 года назад
This was great knowledge about human psyche and yes i also want to try different fantasies in my mind but waiting for that someone.
@theavengers.
@theavengers. 2 года назад
Nice another Ted talk
@Hummingbird25
@Hummingbird25 2 года назад
This presenter is very well spoken and funny
@BarrySilbert57
@BarrySilbert57 2 года назад
*Now with the recent economy, To get Financial FREEDOM you have to be making money while you're asleep.*
@ronaldsmenendez196
@ronaldsmenendez196 2 года назад
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@jessicafranco1573
@jessicafranco1573 2 года назад
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@ronaldsmenendez196
@ronaldsmenendez196 2 года назад
*His availability is on what's apk👇*
@ronaldsmenendez196
@ronaldsmenendez196 2 года назад
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@bobbyedwards9096
@bobbyedwards9096 2 года назад
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@mart7615
@mart7615 2 года назад
😱😱😱😱 God help us!!
@اصيلعصاماليافعي
@اصيلعصاماليافعي 2 года назад
~ interesting topic to talk about .. 👌🙂 that's the nature of us .
@dennyduane
@dennyduane 2 года назад
"They get really excited for me." 😂
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
me to
@lauriewolomor7435
@lauriewolomor7435 2 года назад
very good speech
@davidryan7386
@davidryan7386 2 года назад
this is completely wrong. your true self is an integration of body, heart and mind with your spirit. not a fantasy trip.
@davidryan7386
@davidryan7386 2 года назад
and yes, I have tried this tack, it leads to dispersion and decadence.
@onefishtwofish2771
@onefishtwofish2771 2 года назад
It's the lowest low but since it gives momentary jolts, most assume it to be the highest high.
@Qwerty8
@Qwerty8 2 года назад
Well, how to solve fear: stop going to churches 🤷
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
RIP ted talks
@aayushkumar9355
@aayushkumar9355 2 года назад
Tbh, this is useless in real life.
@simpdown1404
@simpdown1404 2 года назад
This talk deserves an acoustic accompaniment of Cardi B. and Meg Thee Stallion’s WAP 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Mir_Aakib
@Mir_Aakib 2 года назад
It's sad that i couldn't fantasize about you Lucia. otherwise you've proven your point.
@ManyHeavens42
@ManyHeavens42 2 года назад
I make earthquakes everyday
@rayau6443
@rayau6443 2 года назад
Tedu talks
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
yeh
@macavelli8905
@macavelli8905 2 года назад
Very good video
@ethicseo
@ethicseo 2 года назад
Jesus can change your life ❤️✝️
@AHHHyleen
@AHHHyleen Год назад
🤣
@macedonian4life536
@macedonian4life536 Год назад
Ahhh yes 🤝🤝the religious enthusiast, well Jesus.... and knowledge of virtually and literally everything else. We need to consume information constantly so this vid isn't all too bad. But ultimately I'd agree with religion
@Iam-qp4md
@Iam-qp4md 7 месяцев назад
He also could've stopped child abuse but we won't go there..
@ethicseo
@ethicseo 7 месяцев назад
@@Iam-qp4md Human need God to stop child abuse, we are 100% agree, but people leave without God...
@DaRyteJuan
@DaRyteJuan 7 месяцев назад
Not necessarily for the better though.
@VeganChiefWarrior
@VeganChiefWarrior 2 года назад
that off tone on the end of her words is expressing the wrong emotion.. thats like an irish scottish complaining to your son about something he just wont stop doing tone lol
@puneetrana575
@puneetrana575 2 года назад
⚡️⚡️⚡️
@onefishtwofish2771
@onefishtwofish2771 2 года назад
"survey says" really? All I am wondering is why she picked that outfit.
@fr3q_m33k
@fr3q_m33k 2 года назад
@ZPositive
@ZPositive 2 года назад
There's a word that begins with gr and ends in oomer.
@ZPositive
@ZPositive 2 года назад
@@Dimitris_Half no it doesn't. Happily married man over here. But I must've hit the mark if I triggered you that much.
@weme11
@weme11 2 года назад
What a nonsense. Nothing important to learn from here. Only diversion to escape the reality.
@themcgeefamily7514
@themcgeefamily7514 2 года назад
💚💙
@mikepcs7
@mikepcs7 2 года назад
Is she time travelling from future😂👍
@Ablecore
@Ablecore 2 года назад
To connect us to our pure self from the past
@jaygee5344
@jaygee5344 2 года назад
This is what's wrong with America in it's current "woke" state.
@GlennSteffy
@GlennSteffy 2 года назад
What a pile of bs. Where are the solid videos???
@dinni2007
@dinni2007 2 года назад
Общие фразы, стандартные клише и ничего конкретного, какие-то жалкие потуги на оригинальность.... В 21 веке никого секс-фантазиями не удивишь, в общем - потратила время зря на эту билиберду... 👿👿👿
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
Men!?🤨
@leviefrauim1425
@leviefrauim1425 2 года назад
These two points- "psychedelic-assisted therapy" and "pursuing a PhD in Clinical Sexology"- tells me all I need to know about this speaker and her topic. Clearly, another lefty loon, especially if she's willing to have her small child talk w/her about it. .
@aj28b2xe16
@aj28b2xe16 2 года назад
🤢🤮🤮
@gavinhelgeson2880
@gavinhelgeson2880 2 года назад
Groomers…take notes.
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
hmmmm
@arinzechukwuamanekwe9104
@arinzechukwuamanekwe9104 2 года назад
This lady is just crazy lol!
@jonathanmachjacksontrad5704
@jonathanmachjacksontrad5704 2 года назад
I fantasize about her getting a haircut
@kaelightupthedark
@kaelightupthedark 2 года назад
filth.
@VeganChiefWarrior
@VeganChiefWarrior 2 года назад
too funny
@uf1978
@uf1978 2 года назад
Your wardrobe selection needs some work, just sayin.
@beththompson5845
@beththompson5845 2 года назад
I'd worry about yourself instead of a whole other individual's preference and choice in clothing. You probably weren't comfortable or in agreeance with the topic... And instead of scrolling to the next thing...or speaking what you really feel (which would be 100% valid).. you take a dig at her. Small one. Which speaks volumes on the digger. [I'm sorry but your validation is denied. Due to insufficient funds in your account.] "Dishonor on you. Dishonor on your cow!"
@gavinhelgeson2880
@gavinhelgeson2880 2 года назад
Cringe
@cocofingerfamilysong
@cocofingerfamilysong 2 года назад
yeh
@freya9809
@freya9809 2 года назад
That's exactly what she is talking about
@gottaluvpink89
@gottaluvpink89 2 года назад
…I’ll go ahead and unsubscribe 🥴
@abrirlaimagen8949
@abrirlaimagen8949 2 года назад
Go ahead we won’t miss you
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
I already did lmao
@azaraliyev2064
@azaraliyev2064 2 года назад
I thought she is a guy)
@Freetheworldnow
@Freetheworldnow 2 года назад
Take a Bible and start reading. You will have better success at it!
@kaelightupthedark
@kaelightupthedark 2 года назад
amen!!
@viswanathsharma1687
@viswanathsharma1687 2 года назад
Take bhagavatgeeta book and start reading......
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
Women☕
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
Women hahahahahaha☕☕☕
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
Murica🤣🙏
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
Women☕
@onefishtwofish2771
@onefishtwofish2771 2 года назад
Some/most women. Not all.
@hmahmud34792
@hmahmud34792 2 года назад
Women☕
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