Why A Bride Says She Didn’t Invite Mom To Help Her Pick Out Her Wedding Dress 

They always do. Great comment ☺

Narcissist that what she is lol

“I have PTSD so I should be allowed to abuse my daughter and family!” and “Everybody lies but me!” Is what she’s saying.

The fact that she thinks she can dictate the guest list of her DAUGHTERS' wedding tells me all I need to know about her. She's ALWAYS the poor, innocent victim and everyone else is a liar and is "ganging up on her", is "attacking her" and is "treating her badly". I really think the truth lies somewhere in the middle. Mom is ridiculously entitled to think she has the right to demand that her daughter needs to turn her back on own family members because she has to take mommy's side.

I'd catch corona and stay in a hospital 🤣

@@justRuwanthi 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@justRuwanthi that's a good one

@@arbetor12 right 🤣

I would sooner go out and tell cops to arrest me I rather have a record then deal with her

I just found out my nieces boyfriend is proposing in a couple of weeks. Her mother is my sister and she is a malignant narcissist. I have a feeling I need to take notes on what this precious aunt did for this sweet young lady. My sister is going to all the opportunities to make it abt her even tho she's had 4 marriages (and divorces) of her own to plan. She ruined my wedding day by causing a scene w the venue owner 5 minutes before I was to walk down the isle and was kicked out. My inlaws had spent alot of money for us to have a dream wedding and the venue owners were their good friends. She claims someone walked in on her dressing but she wouldn't move out from In front of the door that was being opened when I asked her to come to the back of the dressing room. She had also tried to pick a fight w my daughter earlier that day while we were decorating and I shut it down quickly. She was going to get the attention one way or another. It's going to take everything in me to have to see her to be there for my niece but I promised her I would and I won't leave her w out a mother figure during her special day.

It's nice she was there for her but the way she was talking in the video she does actually seem pretty cunning there. She was definitely trying to rub things in her sister's face and that's not right either. They should all want everyone to have healthy relationships with one another. She should be sad for her niece and sad for herself that she didn't get to have her mother there to help pick the dress and all the ladies didn't get to share that experience together

@Emily Wickler Its an equally horrible thing to say! Why did you call her job for ANY reason? Youre just a bad person.

What a horrible comment to make. You can’t generalise every person with borderline personality disorder as a bad parent. That’s just disgusting

@@ferndecisive5073 oh no see I *can* generalize them, that’s how diagnosis works, because they’re all *generally* the same. So I’ll say it again with my whole chest that I truly feel bad for anyone with a borderline parent.

@@eden3734 you can say it wholeheartedly with your chest it just shows your ignorance on the subject. Since there are no singular set of symptoms to diagnose bpd it presents in a multitude of different ways. So no they aren’t all generally the same and you my dear are an ignorant troll

@@eden3734 I have borderline personality disorder bipolar disorder 1 mpd/DiD ASD SPD ADHD and oh so much more and I was born a month early but with only part of my amniotic fluid still in the sack because I tried to come 4 months earlier and they had to keep her on bed rest and sowed her cervix and so because of that I have a bunch of other chronic illnesses I have ptsd ocd and trichotillomania which has caused me to have regular scalp infection and I was basically told from day one that my family hated me they didn’t want me I didn’t know my father for 13 years and that’s just the tip of the iceberg so maybe you need to think about why someone develops or is born with a condition before you talk about something you’re not full educated on and stop acting like everyone is exactly the same because the diagnosis is just a rough idea of how someone with the condition with act not a definite guide to the person because not everyone is the same even when it comes to the mental health stuff

@@ferndecisive5073 whoa...I think you are right and so is the person you're responding to. Disorders like borderline personality have an effect, to be sure. Whether or not the effect is positive or negative varies from case to case, family to family.

These people are emotional leeches. They suck the life out of you and leave you feeling miserable after it all.

I was thinking this!

She’s cute 🥰 too.

So did I 2 weeks after my wedding. It stung at first. But she couldn’t stop plying the victim card and trying to guilt trip everyone, myself and my husband. Sorry not sorry

So true

Not always. There are some ugly people out there, who will do as they will and the innocent suffer

Great analogy

False. That’s just shirking responsibility and blaming someone else who isn’t responsible. This woman is being treated terribly by her mother but isn’t behaving in this manner. This behaviour really does come from nowhere, frequently, and it continues when we make excuses for it.

Still doesn't mean mom should get to dictate and control who can and cannot come to her DAUGHTERS WEDDING. She's not the bride or the groom, she's not the one getting married and therefore she doesn't get a say. End of story. If she can't get over herself long enough to put her daughters' happiness above her own agenda, then she has no business going to the wedding.

People are allowed to have a wedding if they want, and not everyone wants or can get a house. Not all weddings cost 50K you know. And, I'd be sad if my parents and close fmaily/friends couldn't attend my wedding. I know I'll be spending minimal on a wedding and there's no way the 10K I've saved up would buy a house 😂 houses are costing like 400K near me.

No she's not, she's just being the supportive person her sister is incapable of being to her niece

Peace ✌️🌱 Healthy support, efforts, and support does not boast. When you love, you are doing it well with gentleness and self control. There would be patience and long suffering (even when there is an impossible, irrational and over the top family member /anyone) we would exercise self control... We would reflect these attributes in front of them and behind closed doors. When it's love it does not boast on how good they are and what they are doing for the next person who had been neglected, or rejected or anything. If anything the adults whom supposedly care about their niece and granddaughter would encourage her not to be disrespectful and resentful but would and should have made efforts in going to counseling. Instead of encouragement and allowing such ugliness to breed they would have taught her to forgive and even if her mom was this big horrible monster its nothing she has done. Love would have shown this young lady that her mom was unwell and needed help. If her mom is unable to control her behaviors, it should not be rubbed in by the events that would be taking place. There is many ways to defuse a situation where there is an unhealthy person who cannot rationale or function in a normal environment. The mother is hurting inside. The grandmother is hurting inside. The daughter went from hurting to complete resentment. After awhile that no longer works that just becomes bitterness and hatred. Can we blame a young lady for feeling that way, of course not. Her mom did do something awful. But at some point in your life... You are going to have to grow up and reason within yourself and have understanding that this is not about you. Especially, if there was a healthy relationship before, that something is definitely wrong and it's not because of you but hey, my mom is ill, I am wondering if we could get her genuine help. And not a social platform show that reveals the story on TV. And if it was the mom she is desperate and crying out for help. Love is gentle and kind. It helps and encourages. Hatered, reminds you of all your wrongs, backbites, selfish ambitions, envy, hate in your heart for another is murder in the heart, revelries, contentions, taking pleasure in someone else's brokeness, and failures /loneliness. Does the mother, aunty, daughter and grandmother need help. Yep, they all do. If we are to judge a situation it has to be an honest judgment and not a biased opinion or choosing a side or who better represent the person, or self, or who did what wrong. Quite simply we don't put others down regardless of their behavior. There comes a time to address bad behavior but it should be in a controlled environment and with the motives and care for the person.

I think the aunt is acting the way she is out of frustration as much as anything. Methodology for the aunt is sarcasm and snarkiness.

@@marieknight9385 I can see it too. Listen the mother is wrong. No doubt there. The Aunt is genuinely supportive and that's awesome but she is definitely getting joy out of this hurting her sister. It really is written all over her face and how she spoke. They smiling and emphasizing that "I" in getting to be the one there with her picking out the dress. Oh yeah it was I and not you hahaha haha. If she really wasn't trying to rub it in her face she would have just said that her niece looked beautiful in the dress. That alone implies she was present for her at the fitting. Pointing it out with that weird smile on her face was for sure calculated.

@@saramarshall2957 As someone who is the "supportive aunt" I can say that any "weird smile" was probably due her being glad that her sister is being called out and she is being recognized for the effort she makes finally. and there is nothing "calculated about that. Sister's don't owe sister's respect if she doesn't deserve it