Why A Prenup Is The Best Thing You Can Do For Your Marriage 

A week after i proposed to my girlfriend she told me: "Marriage is based on trust, so you wanting a prenup means you don't trust me. Marriage partners should be equal" I replied: "Give me one good reason why should i sign an agreement that can only benefit you and can only be damaging to me in the event of a divorce. Marriage is between two people and it's in no way a given that both will feel the same way decades or just years from now." She got mad enough that i got suspicious she cared more about money than me, and even though she then said a prenup is ok, i decided not to tie the knot too soon, and it didn't take long when i started to notice a change in her behavior whenever we talked about money so i left her and not long after that i found a great girl and we have been happily married for 8 years.. With a prenup.

After 17 years, my wife who is the love of my life, had to leave due to mental health. I couldn't do it anymore. And our pre-nup saved me. She never worked. I made a fortune working hard. built multiple companies. Thanks to that prenup, the ball is in MY court. Listen to PBD gents!

I truly believe there’s nothing wrong with a prenup in a healthy marriage. If nothing happens with the couple, then it’s literally not gonna change anything.

I’m a Christian and married a young girl from my church in LA when I was 23 (& pastoring a church there). 13 years later, people change over time, she shocked me with a nasty divorce. She’s a dedicated Christian with blogs and videos talking all the typical super-Christian “anti-divorce” narratives… but funny how people act when things get stressful. They never tell you on your wedding day: “I just want you to know, when things are stressful down the road, I’m going to become the most irrational person you know, come after your money, & screw the kids”. Lol Prenup is the only logical way to go now a days. Remember, marriage is sadly a business investment to most woman - it’s a “come up quick” arrangement to many. Remember: 80% of divorce are started by woman, but 90% of the monthly payments paid out go from the man to the woman. Another great option that has gotten popular is to just not get married with the state and only in your church. Most states have “dual dwelling” laws now so you still get the tax benefits. Ask a lawyer but it’s really becoming popular.

A wise man once said, “If you’re good enough friends to not need a contract, you’re good enough friends to make a contract…”

I asked my now wife of 8 years to sing a prenup before we marred. She asked why we needed it. I told her 100% of all of our previous romantic relationships for both her and I did not work out over time. So, with both of us failing 100% of the time we need to understand it's possible to fail again. She singed and we marred. In 8 years, she has never even said a bad word to me and we have not had any fights. She has her responsibilities and I have mine and we work together against the world instead of each other. I don't know if it would be the same without the prenup. Its so easy to quit on marriage in the modern world.

This was good. I always hated when I heard about prenuptial. Then I got divorced after 30 years. Luckily my divorce was very reasonable. I kept the house, she got the furniture. I kept one car, she got one car. I kept my 401k, but took the debt. She walked away with the furniture, a car, debt free, and I kept the house and a car. Last year I sold my house, my ex was my realtor, I cleared over 150k, she got a nice commission. It was funny. Now, I live in another state, in a house, on landi inherited. All debts paid off, 2 cars, 2 motorcycles, and trying to meet a woman. I keep meeting women who are in debt, with kids who are " my world" and a prenuptial makes total sense...that or staying single

Remember when filing for a prenup make sure you BOTH have independent legal representation. Make sure that it is signed at least 2 months before you get married. It doesn’t matter how “IronClad” your prenup is, your former spouse can sue to have it thrown out and claim it was either signed under duress OR that they were mislead about the implications of the agreement. You would be surprised how many former partners end up winning and having the prenup thrown out or have the terms renegotiated.

I'M SMILING. ATTORNEYS IN THE CHAT ARE PROTESTING. SEEMS TO ME PAT HAD SOME VERY CLEAR UNDERSTANDING ABOUT LAWYERS!

My prenup is saving my life. I'm gong through a divorce right now of nearly 8 years. The prenup hands down has save me. Spend the money today, get a good lawyer, get the prenup. Its a fair way out for both parties. Use it as a tool for good, which it is.

Got me self a prenup. Best decision I ever made. Our marriage is stronger and not held up artificially on the pretext of what I own.

I fully agree 💯. When I was a kid my father had full custody. Mom passed away young. My father became an alcoholic remarried two times before I moved out. Each time they ended in divorce and I as the kid lost everything. Today I would have hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of collectible coins and collectible cards and those were just something I held near and dear that were taken. Never understood how my father could let that happen however I have let it go till you reminded me Pat

i’m a single young woman and i think that it can be helpful for many couples, especially now that women are able to own property, use credit, etc. it protects both parties & also gives time to answer necessary questions beforehand

"Holla, We want prenup! We want prenup!" (Yeah!) It's somethin' that you need to have 'Cause when she leave yo' ass, she gon' leave with half" Kanye and Jamie Foxx

I told myself a long time ago I wouldn’t marry a girl that is not ok with me getting a prenup. I’m 23 now. I don’t care who she is. Seen so many men personally get screwed. Take Pat’s advice. Great vid Pat, thanks!

YOURE RIGHT!! … cause.. she doesn’t love you, just the situation.

The debt part is huge! Marrying into debt sounds absolutely awful, stressful, and unfair.

I am absolutely for prenuptial agreement. Bring it on.

As a young man in todays times, I am grateful for the content you create. Thank you for addressing these topics. You are who men with integrity and self respect can follow.

Facts, glad to see a video on this. I work in wealth management and this is one of the most under looked things with newly married or young couples

I just want to say sir you're one of the very youtubers who always stands with truth and doesn't manipulate their audience....thanks from the bottom of my heart

Divorce lawyers will hate this video!! You are the man PBD!! 😎 💯

Advise, prenups can be rejected in courts and thrown away, but to prevent that, before it's signed a medical professional should be present and yr spouses attorney too, then a video recording should be done, to prevent yr spouse saying they were pressured in court to sign it . Also prenups cannot protect you from losing money after divorce, child support and alimony aren't protected.

The insurance and prenup analogy is a great angle to stand on in case of disagreements down the line ✊🙏

This is so true. I never thought of it this way but it makes alot of sense. I always imagined prenups were needed only by very rich people but now I see it differently. Good topic.

I agree 100%, because I was one of those idealistic and naive fools who were against Prenups and I learned a brutal lesson. And, a lot of women these days are telling men who have children from a prior marriage to choose between them UP FRONT, like a preemptive strike. They don't want any issues that'll detract from them getting your full attention and support for HER and HER kids. So, good luck if you pass on a Prenup.

Thanks for this video Pat. Men around the world are thanking you for helping bring this necessity to the masses, especially the Red Pill audience who's been leading the charge.

Also agreeing to having paternity tests right after a child is born, no emotions involved

Known about prenups for years, but I hadn't considered updating a prenup. Great video as always, thanks!

Great video pat. Thank you for all you do!!

WOW Patrick once again powerful and very important information that we rarely learn until it’s too late but these are things that we can teach our children and the thought behind it and how you present it to your future partner is so logical and yet kind and a very palatable way to approach this very delicate subject. You had my full attention right from where you started speaking about the yours, mine and our checking accounts. Also how you handle the part of step children. I had a beautiful relationship destroyed by a step child once. As always your subject matter on every subject you approach is very informative and interesting and very applicable. Thanks again for the great and usable advice.

Fantastic video! Thank you for your insights and advice.

This was so educational. Would like to know your thoughts on Wills & Trusts Thank you 🙂

Great content!!! We didn’t have a Prenup but we DID set up Bank Accounts exactly as you said. Only thing we needed to do after we got married was make each other beneficiaries on Accounts. AND also add each other to Business Accounts in case of death (since they don’t have beneficiaries). 🌟💡🌟Do you have a video about “end of life” planning??? As an experienced wife of an Entrepreneur, I wanted my future husband to continue having his freedom and also NO arguments. My wisdom and his willingness worked 💞😇🙏🏽 exactly as you say here. Plus, I wanted to know when we were dating that he was truly in love with me and not what I have (my property as you said). As my home was the newer and nicer home. His home was trashed from cats, dogs, etc. Absolutely gross!!! But we agreed after we got married that we both put money into repairs and fixing it up. WE enjoy working together. Truly better together!!!! 💞 You’re right!!! We’d inspire each other in business and our businesses grew more and more from being together. He even turned me into an Entrepreneur when I was simply comfortable managing other businesses. Forever changed for the better. So grateful. My love language is words and gifts... I love to surprise my man with vacations too so I saw it as a win-win keeping my own account. He saw where I was coming from and agreed. When the movie “War Room” came out... I said, “Look! This is what I protected our marriage from. Loving life together with peace in our home, lots of laughter and are free to truly enjoy each other without this stress and arguing over finances.”

Patric, thank you for all your videos I really learned a lot from you. You have mentioned many times “Iran” and your care about Iranian people which is very much admirable. I wish you put out a video and your point of view about what is happening in Iran, especially women in Iran right now. Thank you.

Great video Pat. Loved that you mentioned marriage is very very hard. You said it man.

Thanks for the life lessons 🙏

Great advice as always.

I love your relationship advice. Thank you

All respect and love, I love you videos on finance and awareness.

1. Keep your finances separate A prenup defines whether the assets you own like your house or car are separate property of one spouse or part of the marital estate. If you’re considerably wealthier than your partner, a prenup is a good step towards ensuring that your partner isn’t marrying you for your money. If you earn more than your partner, then a prenup can be used to limit the amount of alimony payable in the event of a divorce. If you own a business, a spouse can claim a portion of your business’ increase in value or income. Divorce is one of the biggest threats to the stability of your business, so get that squared away in your prenuptial agreement. 2. Establish property rights and distribution Your state’s laws dictate how the property obtained during your marriage is distributed upon divorce. In the nine states with community property laws, assets will typically be divided between the two parties in an equal split. Under equitable distribution state law, marital property is split in a manner that is considered fair when taking a number of factors into account, such as each partner’s financial contribution to the marriage and their subsequent needs post-divorce. Some couples might want to avoid having to leave the disposition of their assets up to the courts. With a prenup, you have an agreement already in writing, on what to do with your home and personal property, made long before this potentially contentious period when an agreement might seem impossible. Your prenup can also stipulate the distribution of your property and even life insurance benefits upon the death of one of the partners. 3. Protect one spouse from the other spouses’ debt Debt is an unfortunate reality of life, and people are bringing their debt into marriage along with furniture and family. That debt isn’t necessarily evenly allocated between the partners, and should there be a divorce, the less-burdened partner doesn’t want to have to pay off creditors, should they target shared marital assets for repayment. A prenup can help to limit one partner’s exposure to the other’s debt in the case of divorce. Any agreement should outline the separate debts of each partner going into the marriage as well as individual assets; that allows for a clear division between those debts and debts accrued by the couple during the course of the marriage. 4. Protect your family property and estate plan You may have an heirloom or property that you want to ensure stays within the family in the case of divorce. Having a prenup in place to keep any cherished items separate and apart from your communal marital assets ensures that the fate of your familial property isn’t left up to the court system or state laws. A prenup can also address any questions of inheritance and ensure that your estate plan is carried out according to your wishes, in conjunction with a will and living trust. 5. Protect your assets in the event of remarriage Should you decide to get remarried after your divorce, you’ll be faced with a new set of challenges and complications when it comes to determining how to protect your family as well as your property. A second marriage includes all the complications that already come with combining separate lives and adds the possibility of children, child support, and additional assets to be accounted for. A prenup for a second or (subsequent) marriage should address all of the concerns of an initial marriage as well as addressing concerns arising from obligations from the previous marriage. It can also spell out the distribution of assets in the case of death of one of the partners, to ensure that person’s children get any intended inheritance - again, in conjunction with a will or living trust. 6. Avoid extensive court proceedings in the event of divorce A divorce is a painful enough process as is, made even more so by a long, drawn-out and expensive legal process that can cost on average $15,000 per person. And trying to come to an agreement on divvying up your assets and property when your negative feelings towards your former partner are at their highest is challenging on the best day. A prenup signed ahead of your marriage will at least alleviate some of the headache of fighting over your assets and make the process somewhat smoother, if not easier. 7. Openly communicate and prepare yourself for the possibility of divorce No one wants to enter marriage thinking about the possibility of its failure, but given the oft-cited divorce rates, it’s a reality impossible to ignore. Having that difficult conversation with your partner before you get married about the potential for divorce and finances, allows you to be open and honest with one another, and prepares you for the difficult conversations that are required in any marriage. When you’re prepared for the possibility that your marriage could end in divorce, you’re being emotionally realistic. You’re also being open with your partner about your financial status, needs and concerns as you enter marriage.

I love this Patrick

Love the T-shirt. Where can I get one? Great advice by the way, should teach this at school 👍🏿

Hi Sir Patrick it’s always nice to hear from you thank you. Request please about corporate culture,We are all learning a lot here in our house.

I agree with you Pat. Having a prenup is a great idea/insurance for everyone’s peace. ❤️

Yes! I ask for one in my 2nd marriage. I didn’t want drama from adult children if anything were to happen to him. I felt it showed that I truly loved him and didn’t want his money/life insurance lol. Plus the children feel taken care of.

Wow great video and explanation Anyone that watches The Lead Attorney RU-vid channel has heard this before but this explained really well with examples and the step kids great video

Very interesting perspective! Thanks for the video Pat!

Diplomatically well done Patrick. However I definitely think a kay point you neglected to mention is that the lawyers of both parties should look at the prenup before its signed off. The reason being so that it can never be said that either party signed it under duress, which can get the prenup completely thrown out in many states. Another factor that should be included in all prenups is mandatory paternity testing with significant penalty clauses if they don't come out clean.

When my bf and I get married, we've agreed we'll get a prenup. I have my income, he has his income, and both of us are the sole heirs to our parents' inheritance. We're equals. That is what a prenup is for, imo: to make sure we have an equal marriage in which divorce doesn't benefit one side over the other.

Nice video thanks you made alot of thing easy

Great video. Thanks for the info.

Rollo tomassi did a great video of this last week it’s a bit long but rather be informed than Ignorant

We had a relationship agreement prior to marriage. That was my idea so he knew my intentions where pure....and just a bit of peace mind for him that I didn't want his things I wanted him. We also have a pre nup. It's generous to me and will change the longer we are married. I pay half of almost everything. Even though he earns 5 to five times more. But that's just me. I love to contribute financially...makes me feel good... Fingers crossed we always love each other but this is second time around for us both. Pays to be careful. I recommend EVERYONE get a pre nup so many men get screwed over and it's not fair. Especially when they had wayy more when the relationship started. Anyways that's just my feelings and thoughts.

Excellent advice, bravo 👏

Thanks for all the details.

Experienced divorce lawyer here. I love the video and you creating awareness about the value of prenuptial agreements. However, prenups are complicated documents. I draft them and also have them set aside if they are defective. Prenup laws vary widely from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. Speak with an experienced family law attorney in your jurisdiction BEFORE making any wedding plans or ordering wedding invitations! PBD - I’d be happy to discuss the intricacies of prenuptial agreements with you on your RU-vid channel. I have posted many prenup related videos on my own RU-vid channel. Keep up the great work!

Great video Pat - very logical and convincing argument to get a prenup! You’ve hit the nail on its head! It’s interesting to read the opinions on not getting a prenup. Yes, a prenup is a legal contract, and when done correctly with competent legal counsel, it is very clear and holds weight in court (if you live in the right state). What else is a legal contract? Marriage. Marriage is a very poorly executed and ambiguous legal contract, which allows family law attorneys to manipulate their clients into fighting until one party is zeroed out. A prenup (and postnup) serve to correct a terrible and unconscionable contract. Most anyone who has been through the family law system understands the gravity of these concepts. The solution - prenup, or just avoid marriage altogether. (This includes “common law marriage” - check your state laws, and use a cohabitation agreement if necessary, or just do not move in together.)

Thank you for this video. This shook a lot of fear out of me. My partner had never thought of a prenup, and he’s the money maker. I work but I will never make what he makes. I was scared about a prenup cause it sounded like he could leave me and take the house & my car with him because it’s in his name (the car). But I felt it was the most honest thing to do, to explain to him that he needs to protect himself. I got very sad at the thought of losing everything one day or living as though none of what we have is really mine but wow. I love this. This literally would protect both of us. Thank you thank you thank you.

The best explanation on a prenup and the details !!

Half way through your video and I’m more scared than ever to get married lol

Prenuptial is much like a marriage - just a piece of paper 📜 it all lies within yourself, your values and your character

Best video ever, this is Gold..!!

After literally tearing somebody a new asshole - I have to tell you brother you are loved and right on right on the mark thank you

Lmfao 😂best thing to do is not incur the liability of marriage in the 1st place

I like that! You can give your cousin money out of your money. It eliminates unnecessary arguments.

Can't agree more. Marriage is riskier than running business. You need to be protected

Well said bro, you explained it well

Great video.. also add 50/50 joint child custody to prevent parental alienation.

9And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into the hell of fire. Matthew 18 : 9

Excellent advice.

Great video Pat!

My dad died exactly 1 year to when his life insurance went into effect. Insurance denied my claim to it. I’m not a fan of the ethics behind life insurance.

Women want prenupts too. I just wish there was more advice on how to go about getting one and make sure it's good and fair, and adjustable like if a spouse's health deteriorates or if one spouse works for the other spouse's company instead of working at their normal job which stops them from growing their retirement account... life changes especially when you're older.

Great teaching

Really valuable 👍🏽💯

Your logic is sound at least to me. I feel like it's not just a safety net for all parties but it's a way to get things organized so there's no confusion within marriage. If anyone honestly has an issue with at least discussing things out that should be a giant red flag.

I'm curious as to the gender of the people giving pushback against the idea of a prenup.

The problem with prenups, is that when you ask for, your partner knows you’re anticipating an end before it even starts, which leads to them not wanting to marry you at all, even without a prenup

Great points

The problem is MEN need to enforce the prenup before marriage (if they are silly enough to get married). Men get manipulated by the woomin by her saying "you dont trust me", or theyl cry like little kids and the men cave and not get it. If a woomin has a problem with a prenup, drop her, she cannot be trusted. because she can also say she was pressured into the prenup. You as the man need to be willing to walk away if that happens.

I wouldn’t mind signing a prenup if my SO didn’t make me sound like I was greedy and was with him for his bank account. That’s what happened in my last relationship and I was offended. I brought up how that hurt me and he got upset that I was upset. He didn’t know this, and I didn’t dare tell him, but my ex before him made ten times more. He cheated on me and I never made him owe me anything. Never laid a finger on him, never cussed at him, never destroyed any of his properties. I just walked away crying.. he said my refusal to take revenge and only showed him love really killed him. He said it was “the worse breakup.” He tried coming back months later, but I didn’t take him back. When I rejected him I rejected his 7 figures, too. I wish my last ex knew this about my past so he’d stop suspecting that I was only dating him for his money and that’s why he thinks I should sign a prenup. I’m still offended by those words to this day.

Thank you !!!

I’m glad I waited till no. 9 to comment. I wasn’t feeling this vid, until you made that point. That was fair and balanced.

We have been separated for a long time, friends, almost 24 years and have been living with someone

My pay check was " our" money. Her paycheck was her money. She bought me a birthday gift every year from " our" money. Not really a gift...

This is really good 👍

Great video

*ONE OF THE BEST QUOTES* “Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change” - Gautama Buddha Thanks For Reading I LOVE YOU 😘

Yes sir! I love my partner and we eloped at a court right after we got a prenup! WHO wants prenups?! I got prenup! 😊 EDIT: I didn’t know we can edit prenups every 5 years 😮

great info

Prenup isn't enforceable in a number of places. Best to check that before dealing with the tension caused by pushing for a prenup

This video makes a lot of good points. When you get married you need to be all in and yes burn the boats, there is no way out other then death. Both parties have to make it work if your not 1000% committed the risk is to high for a divorce simply don't get married.

Thank youuuuuuuuuuu 🙏

Thank you!

Y’all need to bring CGA on the show for a full breakdown. It’s not worth it roll the dice if you want!

Noone performs their best with a safety net. True with business or marriage. But if money is more important to you than your marriage then prenup makes sense. Priorities

Pat, you are a wise man. This is very relevant in this modern world. This should be put into law. This action supports marriages. With this advice, marriages will increase.

This is super solid. Will send to my woman. You explain it good. Lol

OK let me just calm down and watch the whole video first...before I start my argument with PBD.😅