Why Are People So Nasty? 

Sometimes all you can do with toxic people is to get away from them

And some people are nasty just because they know they can get away with it.

Kindness is like a language, not everyone talks or understands it.

a truly, deeply happy person does not go around being nasty or acting negative towards others

I just hate how people I've never even met before automatically feel the need to treat me like shit.

I can't stand abusive people that think they have the right to mistreat you 😡

Wish I could live in a bubble full of people with positivity

It's simply because being nasty has become socially acceptable. People even admire nasty people given that it's falsely perceived as "power" and confidence. In addition being nasty is rarely reprimanded. Our movies, social media and music are all filled with nasty people, behaviors, practices, ect...yet most people are not appalled, simply due to those things mentioned above

Or people might just be arseholes and like bullying vulnerable people cos they like hurting others and are cowards. I've had enough of people.

I have a bunch of nasty people at my work. They enjoy it, being rude and nasty to me. I think it brings them closer together as a clique. Nobody wants to be put on the outside of the clique with me so they all go along with the three strongest members. The others aren't quite as blatant but definitely do participate, whether by giggling when an insult is thrown my way or by acting as if they don't know what's going on. It's toxic and I'm currently trying to get outta there!

it's hardest when the person doesn't even realise they're hurting you, they're just behaving normally for them but it hurts you inexplicably

But what about people who are suffering terribly, yet do not belittle and bully others?

what if you are more hurt than they are , and they keep on hurting you while you're down. People are just nasty creatures. Don't rely on them.

Im just so sick of people.

i find that if you turn the other cheek, they spit on that one as well.

Why do people have to be so cruel? I'm crying so hard right now

Usually I just ignore people because I realized that people aren’t happy with themselves

I had a friend who is blunt and honest, which is not bad, but she tries to use it as an excuse of being rude. She made my life hell when we both went to a cruise and blames me for not fitting into society or the case "her society." She was not only being rude, she was controlling. I broke off the friendship but she yelled and cursed at me and it was very traumitizing. I don't know what did I do to deserve this terrible situation but it helped me spoke up and have confidence ever since.

Seeing a person who is constantly hurting you as "someone sad inside" is dangerous. Many people remain in abusive relationships because of this theory. But there are people who are aggressive or they have a personality disorder and no empathy for others, and that's why they are nasty.

It is so unbelievable how at the slightest chance, people get aggressive... most of what I read in social media is judging and hateful arguments... it is very tiring to be defending from hate, envy and gossiping all the time

This reminds me of my older sister and my mom. Never happy, never content, always looking for glory and revenge. Always ridiculing everyone and everything around them and placing themselves on a very high platform and handing out negative remarks and death stares whenever possible. These are the type of women that cannot laugh at themselves or smile at a stranger or make a compromise. I do not take pity on them or try to understand them. They are born this way and choose to be this way and they are miserable yes. But to forgive someone who does not want forgiveness is nonsense. Let them be the laughing devils they wish to be. Goodness does not make alliances or exceptions for the bent and the twisted. Forgiveness is not a free hand out; you actually have to ask and work towards for it. Don't pity evil. Like many of the people in the comments say, there are good people going through hell on earth and still find the decency to be good. Cheers to them.

after reading the comments, I believe that people think that to suffer is about some tragedy in family, violence, misfortune etc. But I'm pretty sure that when we have self doubts, and we have a fragile ego we suffer, and we are nasty in order to try to be more confident about ourselves, although it doesn't really help

nobody who’s happy is going to be putting others down.

if your reading this. hope your having an amazing day :)

Society itself is cruel, nasty and nastiness is contagious. When people are nasty to you, you also start to hit back and retaliate nastily and become cynical and view the world as same way

This explanation doesn't really satisfy me. :D Nasty people may not feel very good, but I don't think they always suffer very much either. At least the nastiness doesn't tell how much they suffer, because a person who suffers a lot could be not nasty at all and someone who only suffers only a little bit could be very nasty. I think this video makes things too simple and there could be a lot more behind nastiness than this. It can't be only suffering, even though there would always be SOME suffering behind a nasty person, it doesn't explain why they're nasty, because I think almost everyone suffers a little bit (some even a lot and still they're not nasty) and you can't tell how nasty someone is based on how much they suffer. The idea of the assumed suffering being a punishment in itself doesn't sound "logical", because it could only be a little suffering, hardly a punishment, if the nastiness is huge. I guess it could be pleasant to think that if someone is rude to us, it means they suffer and the suffer explains the rudeness. Because that way we get our secret revenge without having to go as low as them and we get an explanation we like because we don't have to think the other alternative: maybe they were rude but also honest about something that we don't want to know about ourselves, and we don't want to know how they see us.

While I agree heavily, I also think a lot of nastiness springs from power games. People harass those who seem weaker than them. In part to reinforce their power and in part to test if they have power against the harassed. If you turn the proverbial other cheek they determine that they can hurt you without consequence and will continue to do so. They have power over you and will exert it upon you until you reach your breaking point, and show them that you've had enough.

Cause they are Jealous as hell

just because someone is, let's say, sad, doesn't give them the right to impinge on me. just wanted to make that clear.

No! There is evil in the world and sometimes it must be confronted.

This video tries to display the nasty person as some kind of a victim. I tried being nice and forgiving, but eventually their behavior starts to take its toll on you. The best thing to do with a toxic person is get away from them!

I don't think this video gets it right. Most people are selfish, cruel and like seeing others in pain. It has nothing to do with hurts or pain they themselves suffered. I am 49 years old and this has been my experience. While it's nice to think there is cosmic justice, it's fanciful thinking.

*hurtful* *comment*

People get nasty when they get older. So many adult people, especially office people, are so 2 faced and mean... Not like how I thought people would be when I was young.

People are nasty because they don’t want to see anyone doing better or having more than they do. Even their friends. People only wish for good things for their friends as long as it doesn’t make them jealous. People are pricks. Most wont admit to this, but I know it to be true...because I my friends am an asshole too.

I have rid myself of nasty and mean people around me. Now i have NO friends !

I'm happy being nice to people and very caring...but don't mess with me

I find people terrible more often than not. I have terrible anxiety and depression and people sense that so they always try to bring me down. It sucks and I feel weak and fragile at times. I won't let them get me down though, I will keep living life as I please.

I am sorry but i do not agree with this video. Yes, of course some bullies have been through a similar experience themselves or suffer deep inside but some people are just being dicks because simply they can. Knowing they have the ability to make other weaker people around them suffer gives them pleasure or some kind of entertainment and they do not feel any regrets about it. They do it just because they can.

The tough thing is that nastiness often hits you in your weak moments, because nasty people sense your weakness and want to make use of it. Which just reveals a lot of truth about them. Great video x

Learning about history made me realize how evil people were.. People have always been evil since thousands of years ago

to anyone reading this; you are so loved, so beautiful and kind and amazing, please have a good and safe day

Just accept the fact that some people are just jerks. No deeper meaning behind it at all.

No. There are people who just inherently enjoy seeing others suffer or beg. It gives them power and they get off and/or high from it.

Umm… this is false because people will take advantage till no end…some people hurt others because it’s a game for them… they are not in pain at all, but rather, living their best life at other’s expense because they feel intellectually superior

Some are just evil ...no need to justify it

I’m so tired of rude and toxic people online.

People make me sick 🤢

Karma isn't real. You want shit done, you gotta do it yourself.

Literally not caring is the best response.

What he discusses are traits of the type 1 sociopath. They are camouflaged among us- they cannot feel love, remorse, guilt, and empathy and they prey on those who can feel these emotions. They secretly hunger for power and control and secretly loves to use, bully, humiliate, and hurt others. Charming, brilliant, powerful are traits. So are controlling, manipulative, and using. They can be the teacher who humiliates her students, the preacher who crosses boundaries, the mean boss, and the cheating spouse. They blame everyone but themselves when things do not go their way. Type 1 sociopaths rarely do anything illegal (immoral yes- illegal, no). Domestic violence, rape, stealing, conning, and abusing children are traits of sociopaths and psychopaths. If you love deeply and have great compassion, you most likely have a type 1 sociopath preying on you. Once you know the traits and you can recognize these traits in the bully in your life, you can love and pray for them, but you will love them with strong boundaries and from a distance if necessary. You will know they secretly like to compete with you and want to see you fall. Being wise as serpents is knowing the traits of the type 1 sociopath and sociopaths among us. This was an interesting video. Whenever someone is nasty, they are displaying sociopathic traits.

I usually agree with school of life, but not this time. Yes sometimes people are nasty because they have a miserable life. But a lot of the time it's to fit into society (especially school)

My circle only gets smaller and smaller over time. At first people act like they're your friend but their hidden motives begin to surface, their behaviour changes, they can't accept you have something that they don't so they start becoming bitter and nasty. It's like people struggle to be happy for others but it isn't healthy to compare as we all have different lives. Once you find out someone's toxicity RUN for the hills as far as you possibly can and never return. They will feed off your pain and suffering, it is what they want, they will spread rumours, be slanderous, plan evil towards you. Back away, place boundaries even if it is a family member, respect yourselves. They have the problem and issues, no need for problems and issues coming to you, just live in peace. 🙏🏼

This is is true, but in reality you do have to stand up for yourself sometimes and fight back. As someone who got chronically bullied in high school, I can vouch for the fact that the day I actually threw a punch back was the day I was left alone and given respect. It is a depressing thought but undeniable...

Because some people are evil, that is it.

Here's the easier answer: it's because people can and have widely accepted this behaviour... Suicidal people wanna end their lives because they are living in a world where they'd rather die before changing who they are to cater to society's greed and hatred. Suicidal people are the most loveable people unless the committed a heinous crime

I really needed to hear this. Thank you as always

This helped me to see that the insults we throw at others are actually the things we fear to see inside ourselves.

I find myself watching this video time and time again. It's not the insults themselves that hurt, it's the fact that people are being mean in the first place. I just wish I didn't care so much...

For some people though the reason is that they simply enjoy it. They do it from a position of advantage and indulge their whims at other's expense. We all know this to be true.

I needed this. I am exhausted..blaming myself, hating myself and being a constant subject to cruel bullying. I haved promised myself to put an end to the "victim" me.

Nastiness can be caused by fear, immaturity, anger, confusion or miscomunication.

This causes me the most anxiety in life. It scares me how hateful people are. I have had a few times where I have wanted to hate somebody but I can't, I am fast to anger and forgiveness. No matter how much somebody has hurt me, I can't find joy in their suffering, even if part of me wishes I could be more angry. I am made so anxious seeing how spiteful the world is since I don't comprehend such intense long lasting anger.

Not really. Alot are sociopaths. And sociopaths tend to do quite well in life and dont fall into this "suffering" category.

Im so extremely hurt but never have i ever been nasty to people? Im nice to everyone in hopes that someone will be nice to me

we battle not against flesh and blood...

Some ppl just do it for fun, and im now just dissapointed in myself of who i have become. From a happy kid to a depressed one, like that happiness just dissapeared áll bc of others. This world is f4ed up

But if people are nasty because others have been nasty to them, then who are the founder of the original sin? and what motivated him?

All you need to know is that they are being nasty to you, because YOU have something that THEY don't, and that they are eaten up by jealousy! I LOVE nasty people - they make me feel good about myself!!

humanity disappoints and a rlly cruel world 😔 it sucks

Remember that most of these types are on the Sociopath or Narcissistic scale, they need their 'supply' from you.

nasty people can also be people blessed with all the good things on this earth, without any major suffering, and just be incredibly spoiled or entitled

why do people always assume that if your a troll or that if your mean to or hurt others it's because you have a sad depressing life. why is it impossible to imagine that you can be a happy person with a loving family and friends with stable finances and can still be a troll.

I'm so tired of being treated like an imposition and the projection in my family directed toward me.

If you respect yourself, you treat others with respect.

because humans are fallen creatures. all of us have good and evil in us.

Because it feels good to make someone else miserable when you yourself are miserable. Then you are no longer alone with your misery. Seems quite fair really.

This man just exposed every bully

But how can you love Demons?

I try so hard every day to spread positivity and people are just evil to me. I try to be cold hearted but I always fall back into being nice

Costs nothing to be kind.

society is more unfriendly then when i was a child

It's so easy to love others but people are excusing themselves by hating people. Humanity is mentally ill and if I have to go see a therapist for my mental problems, humanity needs to as well. I'm not sick just because I'm different and show more love than others and want love. Society is so fked and I can't wait til people start realizing they're gonna burn for their crimes against people for all eternity in the Lake of Fire. No one cares about loving people because money and materialism ideology

It’s ok, karma doesn’t sleep

tho I'm suffering as hell and so much in pain, I'm still kind to others actually by being kind to other heal be and relive my pain .

It's all very nice and all. Believe that your bully doesn't mean those things because he or she is in "pain." If that makes you feel better. But then again it might be a desillusional lie. It stated that you should be like Jesus. "Forgive for you will never live in peace and never carry on with life." But that can't be the answer to all nastiness and cruelty. People generally only learn what it is to be hurt by another when they themselves experience it. When I bit my sister when I was younger, my mother bit me back and I never did it again. People learn from experience that they should stay away from fire because it burns your skin. People learn from experience that you shouldn't cause harm to another because they know how the sting hurts. Fight fire with fire isn't the resolution to everything either but sure to some degree to teach people who they think they're messing with! Because if you keep forgiving without a real obvious lesson for those who bully, you WILL be destroyed, just because they can destroy you. And when you are finally at the brink of "I don't want this shitlife anymore. THey might ponder for a moments time: "What have I done?!" But then just forget, go on their lives like nothing happened and no harm is done. You can't coat everything with sugar and you can't cover everything with a blanket of forgiveness. You might call me and other people bitter for having this "punishment and destruction" view of mind. But it makes all the more clear that for some...hurt has gone too deep to feel the energy of forgiveness. That one little drop too many you know?

I think this lesson is capable of curing most of world's problems. But those who need to see it won't see it.

most of these are not valid excuses for peoples nastiness.

Hard thing to do, very stressful to keep a strong moral compass. At the end of the day, doing what you feel is right, not what is easy or politically advantageous in the moment is far more rewarding. To some people, holding oneself to a higher standard and living to grow ones self ethically is the ultimate standard of success, learning from other peoples mistakes and understanding how to adapt those hard fought lessons to your own life can be isolating when the people around you have little frame of reference or interest in self betterment; but the long term fulfillment of self betterment far outweighs the short term social consequences. Some people prefer a hard fought victory.

NO matter how much pain someone's in does not give them the right to inflict it on other people.

Once they get in their 60's/70's/80's, their body doesn't work the way it used to (either menopause or achy joints). They become more negative, bitter, sour, vindictive and controlling, especially if they feel their "power" is being taken away. They suck the life out of the room, and instead of aging into mentors/role models, they become desperate for total control of everything/everyone around them. Younger people/leaders piss them off, because they begin to realize that time is not on their side: they have one foot in the grave. Dealing with the aging/elderly narcissist is tricky, because misery loves company. They age horribly and rapidly: all of that negativity, hatred, anger, and their need for control eventually catches up with them. Not to mention all of the health issues that are brought on from the stress they put themselves through: it all starts from within. I recommend keeping your distance respectfully, or zero contact for the truly deranged/malignant ones that can't be reasoned with.

People disrespect me for no reason and I get sick of it

how come i've only met mostly rude and insensitive people all my life so far? it's hard to believe there will still be people that i won't dislike.

at job many co's torture me with their "jokes" ...heck even clients do that, even classmates, they all call it jokes....even though its clearly an insult

My friends and I are all so sarcastically self-deprecative that nastiness seems surperfluous from anyone.

Who else is here after having a negative encounter with someone

Note: Does not apply to sadists/psychopaths

Best thing is to progressively reduce the amount of people one has to deal with as much as one can afford this rarest of luxuries. However, it is becoming increasingly hard to carve out a place of solitude in a world of increasing population and decreasing privacy, and the increasingly inconvenient coercion of work-places to "enhance customer service experience", via forcing us to smile when we would rather cry, talk when we would rather think, and so forth. In case we are forced by our lovely system of mutual exploitation to be more amongst the zombies we would have a palate for, there is a backup solution: see people as npc`s capable of suffering, but with only a couple of cross-culturally shared personality subroutines, a collection of learned habituations - sociological marvels of walking manufactured one-dimensionalities, walking designer-suits and marketing-abominations, it helps filtering them out. Its a dog`s world, cats better keep in the shadows, it is there after all, where other felines worthy of a brief exchange of ideas lurk. Let the mindless barking of the masses become part of the background, like the unaware, destructive forces of nature they are. That way you can hide in plain sight.

I respectfully disagree. I believe people are nasty because it makes them feel good. It makes people feel powerful to have you apologize to them. Answer: Make them not feel good. Humans are less prone to repeat an action if it doesn't make them feel good. You need to have a sword, know how to use it, and keep it sheathed unless called upon to remind the hyenas why the sword is sheathed in the first place. Now and again the lion needs to remind the hyenas of his power. And the kindness being taken for granted is a privilege they will earn from now on.

Don't care about the reasoning behind it. If someone is a mean, evil spirited person who is ego driven and toxic they should be put down pure and simple. Happy, smiley, nice people like myself try hard to be mindful and think about how our actions affect other people everyone should do this but it seems like they are just selfish and busy looking out for themselves. We need to erase the genes of all of these negative, hateful people.