We are the first generation to not need a man financially like our Grandmothers who had little rights or had to be married to survive; and now when we ask men to show up healed, healthy etc…they are quite lost because historically, showing up with money was enough.
yes and now they have even gotten irritated when you ask for the money part because most of them also do not have that in today's economy, so they instead turned it into an arguing point and created a gold digger narrative because they still want us to submit to them even if they have nothing to offer instead of accepting reality and just taking some time to work on their finances.
I hear ya. Most men in my life including my ex husband have been jealous of me for some reason or another. They confessed it to me. I was blabberghasted each time. Why can't I have a relationship where we support each other and have each other's back?? My mother told me years ago that if someone is jealous of you, they don't like you. I don't get it.
Can’t win! Best to leave them alone! 😂😂😂😂. I got a promotion and my ex started giving me an attitude so I dropped him. Like I wasn’t supposed to grow?? 😂😂That’s a sickness 😂😂😂😂
All along, some men have been hateful and envious of women after the fall. First of all, God gave men greater responsibility and commanded them to serve protect and provide for women. Women are to submit. So they hijacked the process and made it into an oppressive system globally. This is not what God set up. Men took over, hijacked everything and created an unfriendly, unsafe environment for women all over the world. In addition, women have a creative capability that allows them to develop and bring to fruition a human life. The Creator has given women creative capabilities. It is all of God; it is not a woman's own merits. However, even though the men don't want to go through the hardships of what childbirth and pregnancy brings, it's like they're envious and competitive. In addition, they tried to hijack women's natural sexual power in that the male has to pursue and win over and prove to a female in both animal and human Kingdom that he is worthy of having rights to procreate with her. So men hijacked this Dynamic and tried to flip the script and give themselves the sexual power by creating double standards and social so-called norms that said a man is cool for sleeping around but a woman is under restriction and vilified. These men became players and smooth talkers to get into a woman's pants or underneath her skirt and that seems to give them the power in the dynamics. I hope women pay attention, because most men won't admit what Tony Gaskins is admitting and men shouldn't have to spell out everything for us. Women need to make sure we get right with God, stay right with God and be discerning and rejecting of any and all diabolical behaviors toward women and ungodly ideologies. Go on about our business. Stop idolizing men! And recognize all of the diabolical ploys and don't fall victim to them. Some men still don't want women going to college or working. He is insecure and he knows no matter how he treats her, she has to stay with him, in his mind because she's not educated she doesn't have a job and she has all these children with him. This gives him a false upper hand. A lot of men are very malicious and evil at heart toward women. It is not new, but other men refuse to admit it and sometimes women can be very slow at recognizing these things. Satan's enmity against the woman and against women in general (life-givers) is expressed commonly through men globally and generationlly. Remember this and stay right before God. Stay prayed up, sober and vigilant. No more blinders, no more idolatry or being mind-controlled into feeling bad about being single. ❤🙏🏾
When you meet a man who has "a spirit on him" send him back to where he came from. It is not your job to take on an abuser. Let him go get therapy and come correct.
Absolutely!! We have to understand that even as men are projecting their negative feelings onto us, we women also project our “goodness” on to them. We choose not to see them for who they are, but for their potential. That’s dangerous and wrong thinking. Learn to see people for exactly who they are, watch actions instead of words and stay intimately close with the Lord for discernment!! He will not lead you wrong. Definitely, while in waiting, learn to heal and forgive. You will notice how sorrow leaves and joy comes in. Jesus is our bridegroom! He teaches us how to posture ourselves to prepare for our mate. Wait patiently, work in purpose and grow in the Lord. As you heal, you will be extremely mindful who you allow into your life! Healing isn’t easy, so you will attempt to avoid undue trauma at all costs. May we all continue to be grateful, humble, covered and kind. Our blessing are following us. We are being overtaken with favor!! We thank you Lord for it all! ❤❤❤
And that another’s thing.... a woman on a healing journey is kryptonite to men. When a woman realizes she can create her own reality it’s over for a man who does not align with her reality.
@@genovasquez8361 it obviously works both ways and we are obviously referring to women. If men was attracting like that then A we wouldn’t be having this conversation and B they wouldn’t be so but hurt all the time. Two things can be true at once
Ladies, please please please protect yourselves. While this is a great message from, Tony these men out here you cannot reason with. Most of them are committed to misunderstanding you and some of these things are excuses. We all have the same 24 hours in a day to make things happen, never let anyone, especially a man make you feel less than because you made some positive moves in your life. Be safe out there because it's no joke. You cannot speak power into anyone that is not receptive, condescending, tone deaf and willfully obtuse...it's not your fault for the inadequacy of a man and it's not your job to fix them. These podcasts have men in a chokehold don't let them put a chokehold on you.
@@juicemane7655Remember that when. CUZ THATS WHY YALL CRYING NOW ABOUT CHILD SUPPORT AND GETTING CHEATED ON. MEN ARE SUPPOSED TO BE LOOKING FOR ANS WIFING SOLID WOMEN BUT STEADY ENTERTAINING HOES THEN GET MAD AT THE CONSEQUENCES.
I am so proud of black women. Despite the abuse …despite being told we are not desirable …despite the lack of affection …we have rose above and made something out of nothing. We have finally changed the narrative that many people have wrote for us. We are loving who we are. We are loving our hair …skin tone ..our curves…our style that was once called ghetto but now everyone wants. Most importantly we are no longer shrinking who we are to please the mans ego. I think for a long time Black women took the anger black men had personally… we took black men saying we are not attractive personally and now many of us simply do not care. We are now open to accepting love from all cultures and ethnicities and I love that for us. Every 5 hours a Black Woman is a victim of Femicide…please do not take jealousy lightly. Please do not feel you are obligated to show a man the way. Many black men need therapy and medication for depression due to their traumatic upbringing ..many of us are not qualified to deal with what they have going on..if they are not willing to get professional help.
@camilsims8246..great 👍 morning...I was reading your comment...and I don't have a clue what you are saying 🤔...you said that blk women are loving their hair, if that is true why are black women buying human hair..the foreigners have made millions of black women selling them human hair... Next you said that black women took the anger 🤬 black men had, what generation are you talking about..😮...
@@CTM2023 ...you can push her conversation over or under the bed 🤔...the truth is, our conversation should be about the topic, were did you see in this video that the topic is about,good credit, and no children...and when I see someone turning a topic into something different I am going to point 👉 them out.. Judge Mathis on court TV, wii tell you the same thing...
You're so right! At 35, I was in a serious relationship with a 42 year old man and he said to me, "I am jealous of you." I thought he was joking until he began to do things to sabotage me like starting an argument every morning so that I would be consistently late to work and weaponizing my transparency to emotionally abuse me. He made everything a competition. He was jealous because he was divorced and paying child support as well as showing his age in his face and body while I looked younger than my age, never married with no children. He even tried to make me quit my job. I couldn't understand because I wasn't disrespectful towards him and was constantly trying to reach this forever moving goal post of his expectations. His internal resentment just wouldn't allow him to become the man that he could be proud of.
This is the story of my life! We got along fine until I went to grad school. He would sabotage me. Starting arguments before my exams or before a job interview. I did nothing to him. I loved him dearly. He told my mom I was going to find a doctor or lawyer and leave him. 🤦🏾♀️ he was very much jealous of me. I wasn’t his partner. I was his competition although he had no ambition
They are so mad that helping them in that low energy will only turn into them using you for your resources in the end. They are only trying to rearrange the psychological warfare to benefit them still.
I am so sick of men complaining about black women. Just got the new that one of my kindergarten students father just killed the mom. I am devastated and grieving. I just talked to that father at the school and less than 24 hours later he has killed the mother. That mother had been through so much with that black man. Please pray for me. Black women need protection . God please cover black women.
What about ALL women need to be protected? Not just black? Y’all need to stop with categorising. We ALL need to be protected and do better for ourselves. 🙌🏼
I overheard a group of men talking about a new woman that one of the men just started dating. I didn’t know these men personally but I was standing in line and they were talking. One of the men was saying how much he liked this woman and that she might be “ the one”. Apparently she was very attractive and had a good job because the other men kept saying the was “bad” and that she was really out of his league. Those men told him, “Look mane, you gotta break that b down to your level. Don’t compliment her, ion care how good she look, don’t never tell her she look good. Ration out that d, don’t give it to her all the time, make her work for it like a dope fiend. One man asked him if she took showers or baths and he said she took baths. I thought that was odd so I was waiting to hear what he said. That man said, “The next time that b get ready to take a bath mane, make sure you have the shower on so when she turns that mf on it fks her hair up, they hate that shit. And make sure you laugh like a mf th😅en tell her she look better like that and she’ll stop wearing makeup and getting her hair done which gonna save you money in the long run, you feel me?” They were laughing and giving each other 5. The last thing one of them said is, “Man, you see these crazy b’s out here talking to they selves, homeless and shit? Most of them was bad b’s that got broke down by a true playa. That’s the goal, so you can say, “She was bad when I had her and she went crazy after I got done with her.” I checked out and got in my car and thought about what they said all the way home. As time went on I started to see men play some of these same tactics play out in real time. This was back in the 80s.
This is crazy. I had a similar experience with a man I dated last year. We only dated for 2 months until I caught all the red flags and left! This is abusive! This man completely traumatized me. Sometimes I still think about it and get disgusted. Some of these dudes are just crazy and full on energy vampires.
As a man, young successful man, I must admit that this hurts to hear because the truth hurts but the truth sets you free. Men just need to be humble and that goes for me too! Jesus is king!!
Well in the year 2023 there are no excuses for anybody! I am personally so tired of everybody making excuses and coddling these black males. If non-black males can come over to the United States with $5.00 in their pocket and work hard to become very successful, what is stopping the black males? Sometimes we need to learn to take action and accountability of our own lives instead of blaming the 'whyte man' or a black woman.
I agree that black men need to step up. It's not fair to say non-black men can come over here with $5 & become successful. As you know, they give illegals tax payer money programs when they get over here. They get much help. Can we go to their countries & get that kind of help? They just gave $54 million to illegals in Chicago for housing. It's hypocritical to say black men should pull themselves up but non-black men that are here illegally get government programs helping them with housing, jobs, education, healthcare, etc. Also, if you don't understand this system that we're living under in this country, everything else will confuse you.
@@Lladylewis1once again we have to stop blaming the system for everything. With all of these rich millionaire black males in the entertainment industry, why dont they collectively get together to try to build for/help black males? I hear black males praising the likes of Michael Jordan and Byron Allen, but what have they done for black males? NOTHING!!! LOL. The reason other races of men thrive and succeed has to do with them cohesively working together and black males don't know how to do that.
Older bw in my family do it all the time and they ignore the females in the family . Because Pookie is always in trouble . My cousin just got out of prison and they threw this bum a party . I just try to finish college and make my life happy . They also took up a collectiion for him . Made sure he was in a decent home . But this ninja is still doing the same things . Bw women in the family are stressed out and don't take care of themselves . I just shake my head . They will never learn and then they get mad at you and stop talking to you . Simply because you won't fall for the BS.
@@endureross7431 Most already are. Being frustrated, hypersexual, porn addicts, reckless, overly emotional, jealous of women, just to name a few, leads them to seek other means of gratification. Look at how many are out & proud already. Imagine the amount of DLs in sheep's clothing.. Many are coming home to their wives & girlfriends after being satisfied by other males. Yea, it's a mess.😑
During the friendship phase, when I realize a man is not happy with himself, and doesnt have the stability he wants in his life, I don't entertain them romantically and I keep my distance. This comes with knowing your worth and prioritizing your needs ❤. And also Ladies, never be afaid to go to your Heavenly Father and ask Him to reveal the heart of the man who's showing interest in you. Once He reveals that the person doesn't have your best interest at heart, TRUST HIM and know that He will give you the wisdom on how to move accordingly. ❤
yes I have been learning so much and this is something I am going to exercise from now on instead of taking on a mommy role and trying to "fix" them lol
I would add: when they are in a state of confusion, want a 'shoulder to cry' (therapist), aren't stable, they need placeholders in general to level up, not love.
I’ve notice men are super insecure and jump to assumptions about a woman wayyy to fast! Like if a woman has a child they automatically assume she’s still messing with her kids dad. It’s pathetic out here!
Agreed. I've been told that I'm a player when I'm not...like- at all. I'm definitely not that girl as much as I probably could or should be.... I just don't have it in me. That being said I'm single... like- really single and working on myself in every since of the word. I don't have time for the jedi mind tricks or games these men out here play 😊.
@@christianhenry4173 sir you’re wayyyyy off topic. I’m speaking on men assuming the worst in women. You’re talking about a lovely spiritual woman 🤣…wrong comment you responded to I guess.
@@natashiaformley8348 sometimes I think it’s men projecting. Men can be dogs all their life and when they finally come across a decent well rounded woman they will project onto her the things that he truly is. I think that was my case. Knowing his history is important. Because many men never experienced true love, pure love and so when a woman is pure and righteous they don’t know how to receive it, they almost think it’s a setup. Because they have done unspeakable things to women in their past they feel there’s no way they found a good one. Or deserve her for that matter.
@quathetruth8314 well said.... I've learned that they aren't accepting or they honestly just don't know how to recieve it. As a community we need to heal.
Yup. There is nothing you can do. I went out of my way to try to get the man I loved to see that I was not trying to outshine him, I wanted him to come with me. It didn’t work. He still felt how he felt.
@@mikacarter3648 Ppl mad somebody wants to rise above the poverty line. Yes I know not all of us are poor, but middles class kids get treated the same way like poverty is a cultural “virtue!”
I literally have to keep quiet about my accomplishments to my own husband. I can see in his face that he hates to see me happy & accomplishing goals of multiple streams of income. I literally have to plan my escape from this toxic relationship because it feels like I married my enemy...
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. My sister went through it as well, she would call me and ask if she could have mail sent to my address because she didn't want her husband to know about her finances and her escape plan. I just don't understand why men refuse to just want better, if not for you then for themselves.
I was telling my son the other day this very same thing… that being a woman and black I have witnessed the similarity’s between patriarchy and racism….
I’m a Chinese women and I see that too and I hate any women that have to go through any form of abuse from any pathetic satanic ,nefarious men . They have a temper . I realized it’s been happening since time and just wished we can help women recognize what any form of abuse is
Understood. The patriarchy is definitely not perfect. But it is responsible for creating societies and the very freedom we do have for our independent women today.
@@Jeff-ck9op Women's independence was a bi-product of the government capitalizing off a pain point. Women needed independence from oppressive abusive husbands and the Goverment wanted more tax money. But not ever, no even now, did the collective of men built anything to support the Autonomy of women.
@@ohhweeeee thank you. So they are the reason. Like I said, the patriarchy is responsible for a lot of things good and bad and building societies and things you enjoy to use on a day to day basis is one of the many byproducts that even afford you any right to be on them. The patriarchy is definitely gangsta lol but most women thank God for it without even knowing it.
Instead of saying we gonna celebrate to the moon on ur accomplishment cuz I'm so proud of u..that is what came to his mind?!! Unreal..smh Then what would have happen if U became CEO ur something, the man would've had an epic next level meltdown...🙄
Why does he keep promoting a "Power Couple" and "Building Together?" A woman doesn't want to enter into a relationship knowing she has to put in a lot of work to improve his life. Men are not supposed to be rescued. Only the strongest survive.
An elderly solicitor (wyte woman), once told me, she’s fed-up of having to represent young girls (20s - 30s) whose tried to help their boyfriends to have a business and the boyfriend tries to take everything, including the house she bought before she met him. It was nice that this elderly wyte solicitor gave me this advice (I’m blk). Why don’t blk men open business with other men and stop relying on women.
@@genovasquez8361 Take your frustrations to GOD. Lashing out at women is not going change your life. All of you Black men should take your shared experiences to GOD.
The hate against women is actually way older than ra*ism, men have oppressing and har*ming women in every country all over the world since begining of times it’s so sickening once you realize all the way it still is so prevalent worldwide and even way worse in the underworld
@@genovasquez8361y’all just look silly because BM are worse off then BW, and remain the top criminals murders and lowlife while criticizing us 😂. Everyone else is watching and thinking the same. You should be wking on self first, if you have not submitted to God you are out of order and this is why there’s chaos.
I don't even bother to date these days. Everything has become a competition. If you have an education, you think you're better. If you're financially responsible, you are too independent. If you don't have children, something is wrong with you. If you do have children you just looking for a daddy for them. If you have an opinion you don't know how to submit. If you dare have a brain that works you think you know everything. I thank God for my daddy. Because of him I'm not on the Internet taking bad advice from people who just want money. Tony is a grown man who doesn't speak from his emotions unlike most of these people (men and women) who are allowing their personal experiences and opinions to poison the masses. In addition I have also been in relationships with men who took their anger out on me. I got rid of them with no regrets. Grown people need to be able to self regulate and self correct. We've all been wounded at some point. Talking doesn't always work. Some people don't want to heal. They want to be coddled and excused in their pain.
Everytime I got with a man, my money dropped my confidence dropped. The soul was sucked out from me. Now I’m married and the same thing ain’t nothing changed. All the men I’ve dated are black men who were around the same age as me. I’m currently 28. Lord I wish I stayed away from men, not me thinking I could help build with them.
Same age as you. Same circumstance, except I’m recently divorced and share a child. My money dropped, confidence dropped, mental health plummeted. Now I’m trying to heal and journey so my child doesn’t get rained on in the midst of the storm.
Sis', save your 30s: be strong and drop them men. Use your 30s to build yourself and your career. You won't regret it, you'll only regret that you didn't leave earlier. Please, listen to me : decenter them and center yourself. When our parents told us men are useless they were right: men use us! I'm 40: 6 months free from my toxic ex. Lost my illusions and I'm glowing like never before. I only regret I didn't leave these men in my 30s to follow my Dreams. It's not too late for you. These demons use women as placeholders/ barbara the builders, they don't protect us or provide for us, they just suck love and life out of us. In 20 years of dating, i've never seen one man love a woman correctly. More than that, they are mean, cold hearted, competitive and jealous of their wives! Many of our problems are created by them when they secretly envy us in Relationships and try to drown us, or they punish us when we try to leave. A living hell. Don't seek love in men, ladies, it's a trap. Sick it in your own hearts.
I do tooo!😏 man the hate is real from black men! Lol they hate me for looking nice driving a nice car and being about my business 😅 lol what happened???🤷🏽♀️ to black me speaking and being nice to black women … I been living in my own little bubble.. GOD please help our race
And men online will do everything in their power to try to convince a happily single woman (that they don’t even know) that she’s not happy without a man.
What’s happening is women are waking up. We are realizing that we can take care of ourselves and most times marriage is a bad deal. We are being sucked dry and for what. Ladies remember nothing can prosper unless God allows it. Women are prospering at alarming rates because God our creator has allowed it. He’s even sick of how we’re being treated. He put men here to love, guide, protect, pray for us etc. He didn’t put men here to beat, rape, abuse, cheat, gaslight, oppress and take us off the planet before our time. Wake up ladies. Wake up and stay safe. Most men are not healthy enough to realize what you said Tony but it’s nice for you to acknowledge that this is how they need to respond.
One of my friends was dating a guy who made way less than her, he was a Uber driver and she was a nurse making $125/hr. She liked and didn’t care how much he made but he had a issue with it and wanted her to stop working and be a house wife, I guess to make him feel better about being a provider 🤷🏽♀️. But this dynamic doesn’t always work because the man’s ego gets in the way.
I got chewed out by a bunch of black men on another social media site by stating that there are double standards when it comes down to body counts between men and women
You must stop arguing with them. They get off on it sexually, because for a lot of them, this is the only attention they get from women. I refuse to dialogue with them. They said they were getting their passports to go get foreign women who were more, "submissive, feminine with real hair." They need to "build that wall" they said they were going to build and leave us alone. Do not interact with these incels.
Men and women are built differently. Women are not designed to have the same body count as a man. They ejaculate and we receive the ejaculation so if your body count is anywhere as high as a man it’s definitely bad. Sorry to say but it’s not good. Women need to wait for their husband not be receiving sperm from multiple men.
The time for certain men to stop being cowards is now. The time for men to admit their global, generational savagery, ditch their persecution complexes, repent and step up to be the men that God calls them to be is NOW. We reap what we sow and the harvest is always greater then the quantity sown.
How can any of these men do what your saying if they haven't had a Godly encounter with God himself? See that's the difference you have to have an encounter with God that changes the sinful make up in a man. No man can change off of prophecy alone, you need to meet the real king of kings and lords and I believe every man needs to have 1 encounter with all 3; the holy spirit, Jesus, and his father our father God. That shapes a man's authority in life
@@christianhenry4173 I never denied this. Most men will not submit to God and they are not God-fearing. They choose other routes. Routes that are appealing to the flesh. The only way they can change is to be transformed by the power of God. They have to come to God. They must repent. They must be born again and walking in the Spirit. Absolutely. Because men are supposed to be leaders, Satan influences them where they are less likely to be inclined toward God than women. When women idolized men and put them before God it gives men even less incentive to turn to God. Women, especially those professing to be Christian, need to keep God first and stop compromising to have a man. They are helping men to disobey God by going along side of them just to have a man.
Women must understand how demon-possessed some men are. They will totally unalive women because they are envious of their success. At "best," they may resort to physically abusing her as well as mentally abusing her. But some women are indeed unalived. Women must be very careful because many women who are very intelligent and successful still lack the knowledge and the strength to choose wisely and safely when it comes to men. These types of women sometimes still are not strong enough to stand alone until and unless they find a noble, protective, God-fearing man who loves them.
One thing for certain, and two things for sure, you are speaking facts! It's truly spiritual warfare. Until men realize that, most guys will never understand why this is happening to them!!!💯
Most men I know don’t even have a relationship with God. I dated guy that didn’t even bless his food. Never once saw him whisper a prayer 🙏🏾, but yet he was always wondering 💭 why his life was in turmoil. 🤔
Yes, thank you for speaking 🔊 👏 facts on this topic. I've stopped dating because it's some serious craziness going on in this world today. I'm not blaming anyone. I'm just working on making my self better and enjoying life. Be blessed
When you do begin to date, please open your options, and have expectations, standards and boundaries and stick to those! The man you end up with may be black but don't keep yourself in that bucket. ❤❤
I blame these bum ass black men. As a newly single mom im making no excuses for my own success. It's A LOT of work being a mom getting no help and we dont get a break. They are evil and selfish & have no remorse on how they destroyed the black family unit. Its getting from bad to worse
Jealousy. Envy. Covetousness. Works of the flesh. “a resentful, dissatisfied longing for another’s possessions, position, fortune, achievements, or success.” Jealousy is a reaction to the fear or threat of losing something, or often someone, we possess. Envy is the distress or resentment we feel when others have what we have not. Jealousy is the sense of dread or suspicion we feel when what we have might be taken away. Another word in the Bible closely associated with envy is covetousness. To covet is to have an excessive desire to possess what belongs to another. Covetousness is an intense craving or selfish desire that threatens the fundamental rights of others. (Exodus 20:17; Joshua 7:21). Women have a fundamental right to safety, security, agency, freedom and the right to advance herself through personal choices regarding what is best for her life. God is pushing women forward, and liberating us. God is all in this revolution. Because He is good and hears our cries. This is a good message.
There was an episode of "black-ish" where Dre Sr. said something like this. That Black men are the "white men" of the Black race. I understood what he meant. I agree with you.
@@daniellemitchell3118 its simple, wm are the builders, providers and protectors of their race. So how is it that bm are the “wm of the black community” if bm don’t even do those things? They don’t even compare
Mr Gaskins, in this 30-minute video, you have spoken the truth of EVERY SINGLE relationship I've been in over the past 35 years. Keep speaking the truth to power, sir!!!!!!! Thank you!
Women are just learning to Respect Ourselves and We no longer have time or patience for anything or anyone that drains us and doesn’t add Value to Our lives, Not Even Men. If this makes Men Mad, It’s probably because they can’t call us ‘Angry’ Black Women anymore.
If these type of men would think logically, they could see successful women as being an asset in their life. Instead of being jealous of the successful woman think of how she would benefit him and his future family. I'm not going to stop being a successful woman just to accommodate an insecure, fault-finding man he got to deal with those issues within himself. Some of the same opportunities are afforded to men but they choose to take a different direction in life but then be mad at me, a successful woman because I chose to put in the work.😊
Exactly! Black males have really messed up because they didn't realize the gems they dismissed with black women. Literally the dumbest group of males not realizing the worth black women possess.
EXACTLY !! the bible says we are a help mate , not build a bear...we go to school, work 2 jobs and take care of home..so why cant you work ONE job, stay sober, and be faithful ?!!
The devil got them deceived !! When Tony said this I was thinking demonic spirits are REAL !! Drowning in sorrows is dangerous for the individual, it's self distruction.
Ladies y’all better listen to Princella the Queen Maker and let men handle men while we continue to rise. Men must figure it out without us so they can come to change because it’s their hearts desire. Their ego is their battle, just like anxiety has been ours. Keep winning Sis!!!
What you said in this video is on point but a lot of women are focusing on themselves and children and forgetting about these delusional men out here. Women have move on and is moving on 🤷🏽♀️
That's their fault! They have just as many opportunities to elevate themselves as well...black males are just too lazy and most are illiterate/can't even read.
@@beigenegress2979well remember they don’t qualify or have access to the women they really want. And now the women they find less then attractive won’t give them access
@@beigenegress2979 bawhaaaa baby they mad they can’t get the women they really want and that are extremely attractive it sound like you one of those bums 🤡🤡🤡
Be ause some of them don't know if they want a momma girlfriend wife or personal slave. Some of these "men" need to really learn what it is to be a man. At this point I'm not concerned with the materialistic aspect. Do you have a job, ambition, drive, want to continue to do better, are you nice, smart, wiling to learn? Cute, dress well,like to have fun ? That's nice but not as important. My ex was always looking for greener grass. So I let him.go on and find all the green grass he want. Now he got a hood booger with kids that call him daddy and from.the looks of his mail I'm still getting he down bad. But that's what he wanted. I wish him and the alike all the best and mad love.
And they may very well be "mad" because their woman (en) - a feminine being, biologically made with women parts , that can carry children, give a different perspective and touch but still let her man , take care of the house, kids and do for herself and her family if need be and still let the man lead ) may have more ambition, drive, shine brighter than them and they don't feel needed. I thought a relationship is supposed to be a union and y'all a team. But how we gonna be a team and my team member treats me and feels like I'm their enemy? I think that's why they're mad. Some of these men are grown up little boys with too much ego, bad advice and insecure. I'll never kick my man or ex when he or when he was down. But I can't get dragged down to to the gutter with you because you got a chip on your shoulder either. Then we both be out her bad and what happens if we had kids. Nah, I can't go for that.
@@Ptah1130What are you saying? Anyway, let's talk about love. Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please consider building a relationship with Jesus by inviting Him into your life as your Lord and personal Saviour ❤❤❤
Well said brother...❤️ My ex husband told me once that I was going to make it before him and gee...I thought we were in this together. I was shocked! So thank you!
Agreed. Unless the man has substance, maturity and morals they will always take the path of least resistance. It's easier to be mediocre and dusty community peen than to strive for greatness and be a better man.
I am so tired of ppl listing elite satanists as "ROLE MODELS." Still. We have a whole internet - use it. 🤦♀️ My parents were my role models... church members, teachers... NOT paid entertainment. 🙄
@@MissGayleEnlightens Beyonce has 292 million followers. Cardi B has 130 million. They are role models for a lot of women. Shouldn't be, but they are.
You almost had me lol. Before any collaboration takes place, those beasts need to get more than well under control (shadow work, maturity, accountability/responsibility & hygiene).
Wow I use to get those vives a lot from men when I was single. I didn’t want to accept that this could actually be the case. But I didn’t give up. I continued to grow and pray and I met a very spiritual man. We have been married 22 years and I didn’t experience these things from him.
There seems to be a laziness problem among black men (and other races of men) today which wasn't there in the past. Black men (and black women and other groups/races of people) have been sold on materialistic values but black men want to get rich quick and take the easy route...selling drugs, etc whereas black women are willing to sacrifice and work hard to achieve their materialistic goals. Like in the example of the 27 y.o. nurse in the video. She had to study hard and do well from K through 12 then go to college and/or nursing school and do well there and then finally she still has to work at a job to earn the money, she doesn't just go pluck it from a money tree. Black men certainly have the capability to do what this woman did but most simply choose not to. They prefer a hedonistic lifestyle, more play than work (much more), focused on pleasure and avoiding stress (pain). Of course, everyone wants to avoid stress (pain) but not to the point that you are a lazy bum leeching off others while talking bad (and treating bad) the very people you're leeching off of (women).
I don't feel this to be true. I feel black boys fail because they devote too much time to sports, and not much time to their academics. They don't avoid pain, because they'll beat themselves senseless on the football field for hours, but not put forth the same effort to sit and read a book. By the time they realized their desire of professional sports is not realistic, it's too late to pursue academics. Many can barely read or write an articulate sentence, so college isn't an option.
I’m so glad you addressed this. Men will be jealous of you. All while I’m trying to create a better life for my self and get this… survive!!! You create your own reality!
The insurance company picked me up for a doctor's appointment. On the way we made several stops to senior citizens home. Nothing but black men 50+ sitting putside looking lost bewildered and stuck. It was so sad. Black men need to value women more and stop the trail of negativity It starts young and has to be addressed early on.
A lot of them do not accept responsibility for their actions and they are so spoiled off of putting the weight and blame on women it’s our faults for everything in their mind and they run with it a lot of them are just gay
Thank you for saying this. As a woman who got into a relationship with a man at 17. Built with him from scratch, while he cheated on me, beat me and almost killed me… years later I developed Vitiligo from all the stress.. finally made the decision to divorce him and literally had to beg him for a dollar of the money we both built together from scratch . I often wonder God why did you allow me to experience this? I realize now it made me a stronger woman, thankfully I have not given up on love, but it’s hard to allow anyone into my life again, because I have vowed to never help a man build from scratch again. I need a man who will pour into me as much as I will pour into him. It must be reciprocal… 🙏🏽
Its sad but it is the truth your own boyfriend can be jealous of you...and sabotage a relationship only to be in another relationship that is a downgrade from you so he can control that person because he makes more money then them....Run away from these kind of men.... Something ment for you will work with you not against you
Right, I made 1 Dollar an hour more. He freaked out on me, started saying crazy stuff like, 1 you should pay all the bills since you make more, 2 my mom is going to live with us, and we were. I was like OHHH HELLL NOOO. It was over, he took the ring of my finger and gave it DOWN GRADE. He came to my house as soon as he got back from his honeymoon. I told him, "aren't you Married", his voice cracking he said yes. I said YOU NEED TO GO HOME TO YOUR WIFE. 😂
Damn you said what I know!!! And this is in every culture not just black bc I have many many many young patients telling me this is what they are going through regarding the dating scene. Young women are doing so much better than their counterparts and many men complain that they can’t find genuine women who aren’t materialistic requiring a fancy lifestyle. Young girls don’t wanna date their counterpart who works at Best Buy 🤷🏽♀️
Just experienced this...told this guy about my plans for the next few years and he said oh you want a mansion you want luxury...you're not as in tuned with the universe as I thought...I said youngot 30 bands and didn't plant a seed invest in a home..he has his own land he shares with family. He ran to the city limits and is paying rent to live in somebody's else's home...didn't even buy a car just good timed till it was gone...the nerve 🙄
When I first came across, Manosphere/Redpill/MGTOW content, I was just looking for dating advice and how to better my relationships with Women, long story short, it’s very easy for men to board “the Bash women train” they say they don’t hate women but I honestly think they do, most concerning thing is this crap is growing at a slow but steady rate.
Hi to6ny, I'm listening to your video and I really,particularly as a woman, specifically as a black woman, appreciate your insight for the men in our community. So your advice is really valid I think you need to understand obviously this does not apply to all women but for a large percentage of us, we are tired, we've had to be nice, we've had to be kind we've had to understand we had to considerate, we had to take into consideration and all we got is the backlash for our men. I think we are starting to learn it's time to take care of ourselves, because no one else is,it's time for somebody to cater to us we've had to cater to everybody with no benefit reaped at all. I think it's a new day and as you said, the first shall be last, and the last shall be first. I think this is possibly a window of opportunity, maybe it's our time. Perhaps it's time for somebody else to be a little bit more understanding, a little bit more considerate, a little less less selfish. Learn how to think about something else besides sex, learned that there are other things that are more important, learn how to speak, learn how to act like a fully functioning adult with a brain.just my thoughts. Keep doing what you do. Thank you
When the cats are out of the bag TONY is still a BM nevertheless one of the good ones but a BM. He will always relatively consciously or unconsciously be on the man's side. Let your discernment guide you. These men are biased, especially on the internet
@sunshine365days3 this is true. Not even a dis. I know black men in my family that are great men and will call out the behavior of bm. However they are still men and deep down they have some of those male thoughts that they are over women or they know better.
There are a lot of wounded, distorted masculine out there who have no idea how to heal their relationship trauma. A sign of trauma is the blame game. There is another group of men who are misogynistic or women-hating. Why is that? Bcuz they secretly are attracted to men. These men want men, not women and the hatred/resentment towards the woman and the inability to accept any responsibility is the sign.
In the medical field these are called (MSM) men who have sex w/men but do not identify as gay. Meaning they do not want to marry a man or align themselves with the LGBQT+ community however their sexual preference is with men. There is a current study out (can't find it) correlating gangs with hidden homosexulaity, sexual aggression and gang killings.
This is happening because men all over the world wish to usurp God in the home. Marriage rates would soar were men truly humbled before the Lord. Btw, no one is GIVING women anything! We have EARNED it! And, there are plenty of grants for men and women. We have the internet. Use it!
They mad at they Mammies for choosing their deadbeat fathers and failing to replace said deadbeat with a decent positive male role model for a stepfather
That's misplaced anger because their fathers were the deadbeat and did not fulfill his role in their lives. Also, the community should not be filled with so many deadbeats.
@@beigenegress2979 yet they are the one creating all these children and broken homes with single mothers. Why don’t they advise each other to wear condoms, stop being deadbeats, and stop screwing every woman they lay eyes on ?? 🤔 why they not advising each to seek therapy and get vasectomies? 🤔 They blame women for everything because they don’t want to take accountability
My Lord, I pray this post will go VIRAL. I’m sick and tired of the gender wars too!! I’ve been dropping some of the same nuggets you shared for years now. Hopefully a change will come soon. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
See...men are competitive by nature...so a lot of them see women who are able to get resources as competitors instead of teammates. Also, they know if you're capable of getting your own resources, that you don't have to serve them. On top of that, you can pick and choose your partners far more easily than they can...that's what all this riff raff is about. Also...another reason why they really want you at home is because they know if you're at home...there's less likely a chance for you to be out, which means that if they're outside of the home doing dirt, it reduces the chances they'll get caught in the act...
I don't think jealous men are going to think rationally, the way Tony thinks they will. I watch so many videos about women being killed by their partners over the littlest thing. 😢
