It is a crime. They are in an adult lucrative relationship with their fans. dating betrays that relationship. People in the west don't understand because they have no such relationships in their culture. This is why kpop won and American music failed.
It's a crazy expectations of the fans. It is insane really. I think if they should band together and all just started openly dating and all go on strike if fans behave like owners of a slave. If no actors around then what do the fans do?
I'm not sure if that's necessarily true. I think many people are having a hard time finding a partner because of how people are in today's society. Many women don't want to marry and have kids they want independence.
@@tooktooknee K-ent should remember that people are just people and any human beeing need a private space; maybe the large number of suicidings- wich is a real drama - remember them its never late to change a bit the environment and have - why not- more happy K-stars! A social audit is needed 🤞😉
True, but it starts with the industry being the adults in this situation and telling the star-struck teen/young adult fans and toxic netizens to sit down and be quiet. The adults must stand up and be the adults. I’m an American G’mother. We don’t have this here because we won’t tolerate this nor let children dictate the situation. As long as the industry bows to teen-tyrants, this will never change. When the industry stands up to these petulant bullies, it ends.
The truth is fans have the power to ruin their careers. I’m talking in Korea, obviously. I’m in American and yeah, it’s very different over here for stars to be dating and get married so it took a while to be able to wrap my head around this cultural phenomenon of fans thinking, they own the stars and can dictate their lives
@@margaretbenson-mccarthy5646 To ruin and distroy is very easy; to put things back or to build a career is hard work; pity they are allowed to distroy and educated people accept this; fans should learn that exist boundaries and live their own lifes more!…🎉
Imo, change is needed. Many celebs should come out dating publicly, by making it as seem normal. When 1st idol or actor comes out, he will be criticized, that's for sure. Next if other one comes out, he will be also criticised, but one after other comes out about dating, at one point public stops minding it and seems it as normal. Before in kpop some trends are seemed as taboo, but they became quiet common now. So, like that, this should also be normalized. Its takes some time but the things can change in long term.
I really don’t understand this unnatural obsession that the agencies encourage them to be quiet about dating and then when it’s discovered that they’re dating fans get upset. It’s so weird.
I don’t understand why fans are encouraged to run actors lives with the threat of boycotting them if they choose to have a life. Do these fans really live in a Cinderella fantasy where they think their idol is going to come in and marry them?
@siouxsan5705 Exactly. Companies need to start telling fans to get a life. These Companies pander to the fans, and that's why the fans never change their odd behavior
Agencies think that they have more appeal if their fans think they have a chance with them. If they start dating then it ruins that parasocial relationship the fans have that the agencies want to exploit
They have the most insane fans who turn against them if they fall in love with someone. They apologize for loving someone. The netizens are beyond crazy and controlling.
Korean society is too problematic in lots of sense - bullying, over possessiveness, not respecting others privacy.... These people needs too learn being human in real sense.
Ils n'ont qu'à pas accepter et se rébeller!!!! Leurs agences devraient les soutenir et les protéger ce qui n'est pas le cas. Il y a de l'argent à se faire. Les fans sont fous en Corée. Ce pays en fait rêver certains pas moi! Et que dire de ceux qui seraient gays? Je les gars il existe des pays où on peut vivre libre et où de tels comportements de fans finiraient devant les tribunaux
It is similar in Japan (has gotten better) but not as bad in China bc the government instance on forming families and having children. A large part the problem is agencies and the entertainment world using the especially idols and actors as fake bf/gfs. I don't think there is anything wrong with giving the fans or audience vicarious satisfaction through the medium but entertainment world wants the audience obsessed so that they thoroughly profit off of the entertainers.
C'est bien triste et c'est aussi pour ça que certains se suicident. Vu sous cet angle la Corée ne fait pas rêver. Et les hordes de fans hystériques sont à vomir. Heureusement en France et dans d'autres pays européens on peut sortir avec qui on veut, comme on veut. S'aimer et ce séparer comme on veut. Tout n'est pas rose non plus mais plus j'en apprends sur la Corée plus je suis heureuse de vivre libre dans mon pays. Parce que la vie privée des stars on s'en fiche complètement.@@chrislisenby2681
As someone in the US I will never understand the possessiveness over celebrities like I have seen in South Korea. And I'm not saying we don't have fans like that here but it feels like 100x more intense for SK celebrities. They are human beings and deserve to be happy with the person they like or love. Why is there so much hate spewed at them when they are found out to be dating????
You don't understand it because you don't live in a country where the self deletion rate is #1 or #2 in the world. SK has a lot of depressed people and for a lot of them, these celebrities are their only hope of feeling loved, wanted or appreciated. So when that celebrity gets married, the fans feel as if all their support was for nothing. That's the power of the parasocial relationship. It has to exist. Otherwise there would be no reason for people to want to consistently support you. Yes they are possessive, but they are also the most loyal and organized fans compared to western celebrities' fans.
Not just US but other countries too. We are just being fan. We are not so obsess cause we do understand that there are boundaries. We do not interfere in their private life too much. Sometimes I do feel pity towards Korean celebrities.
It’s really hard to understand the fan culture in Korean. The fans are out of control. It’s so sad that K-pop singers and actors have to live like hermits
Don't get me wrong as fans we all have our delulu moments, and that's fine lol. But as a fan I want the people I support to be happy. I know it will NEVER be me and that's ok. Like I also know it's not all Kfans. It's just hard to grasp that the ones that do behave like that can seriously effect careers.
As individuals they should but their companies would never allow them to fight for their privacy. I remember some news about actors been "hard to work with" and the reporters was just complaining about the actors trying to have a family dinner in private. It's an insane industry and it need many changes.
@@armandaneshjoo I understand that the industry revolves around fans and money, most fans live in reality, but some cross the line and think they own the rights to these celebrities lives, it's a job and at the end of the day you should be able to go home and live your own life, my opinion really, but I find I really sad that they end up lonely or have to hide relationships
@@marymorris7396 This is NOT an industry. It is a culture. a form of family. a relationship. an adult consensual para-social relationship. The entire industry is just a cover, built to hide this from western scrutiny.
@@Prios-by5sz (1) Korean culture is not individualist. Individualism is crazy expensive. Korea can never afford it. (2) It's not the companies preventing them. It's Korean culture. The industry is only built to hide that culture. Koreans are extremely secretive.
The ONLY way to stop these crazy parasocial delusional relationships is TO OPENLY DATE IN PUBLIC and when they start up the hate, tell them to go to hell! So what you lose some fans.
Yes, many idols or actors should start dating openly. How many will these netizens hate. At first, they hate them, but when many idols start to come out, then these haters will gets tired of it, and stop focusing on that topic, nd eventually becomes normalized. Like there are some things which taboo in kpop some yrs ago, but after many idols doing them, everyone is feeling its normal now.
If you believe the false and ridiculous narrative that fans manage their careers, you have a problem, you are tremendously deluded and without critical thinking. Better bother to know how the industry works, believing victimhood towards celebrities is something very beneficial for them. Society in general in South Korea gets married late or does not do it, and if they do, it is often a forced marriage. Celebrities have another status and more freedom to not do it and live outside of what is required by society. It is serious that you believe that relationship rumors do not benefit them when two crossovers were paid to pretend to be Jennie and Taehyung to pretend to be in a relationship. It was YG, the companies benefit a lot from these promotions
it's far from that. It's all about economic matters, money driven. Life is hard enough, being in the k-ent is seen as a ticket to a stardom which means more money. But they know they need to stay on top, sadly they're not immune to top predators (usually a super rich snobbish investors) in k-ent n it could be anyone. what people don't know it's a harsh environment they live in, they can't make any mistakes which could offend these "people" because it is just a matter of clicking their fingers to bring them down by media play of course this is where they downplay the manipulation of obsessive n maniac fans, scandalous news etc. Only a little could survive but we don't know what sacrifices they made to stay on top.
It’s the language used in this video, “caught dating” “dating scandals”, shows how dating is looked at in SK. There are some celebrities who almost lost their career, because of breakups and divorces. Fans even think they can dictate who the celebrities should date or marry.
international fans of Lee Jongsuk don't care if he gets married or not, but he's dating IU and he has been walking on eggshells since the day everyone found out. He wore a hat of her's once and almost had to formally apologize. It's awful.
Trust me, I have seen some of the most toxic international fan bases ever on social media. Even more toxic than Korean netizens. Middle Easterns, Africans, and Spanish. Even though, in their own countries, their movie stars and singers are dating naturally and nothing is considered a "scandal". I think they picked up this habit from South Koreans like considering actors and actresses dating as a "scandal". I feel like I'm watching teens talk nonsense online, even though they're adults 😆
For most fans in Western countries, it is considered celebrity gossip and nothing more. Example Justin and Selena. Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendez. The British royals drama... There are always obsessed fans who loose touch with reality or are overly invested. We call them stalkers. But there also toxic fans like the ones that keep fighting over Hailey or Selena regardless of Justin Beiber's choice. But the culture in Asia is different and places expectations on public figures, celebrities to maintain image and status. It's why fans think it's OK to judge and scold celebrities.
I read an article about a woman who dated a famous and great looking guy. She couldn’t last past 1 week. Her whole life was taken over. I think even the nicest, prettiest, most self assured woman would find it hard to deal with the competition and craziness. However, love crosses all ages. My experience is that older relationships are better. Life’s ups and downs create people capable of smarter and deeper relationships. 40s-50s, no problem!
Well, international fans most generally don’t give af if celebs date, get married or even have children. The only time most international fans actually show full on interest is if the celebs break up or divorce.
Perfect example:Lee jae wook--her agency made her apologize for dating him--they ended up not dating long after pressure/mean, rude comments from the fans. Actors/singers/k-pop stars deserve to openly be friends, date and even marry without their agency or fans budding in.
The “due to busy schedules” sounds like the industry copy and paste answer. Maybe they just aren’t compatible or even maybe are interested in the same sex
@@arizonagirl6474 it’s not nonsense when that is more often than not the reason why these bachelors are single for so long and can’t find the right woman
@@arizonagirl6474 You are also assuming someone's sexuality. They didn't say every actor is gay or bi just that statistically there are at least a few.
@@armandaneshjoo true, they don't need obsessive fans either. But I feel like South Korean fans are obsessive and have unhealthy relationships with their idols.
The simple reasoning of being too famous. They probably feel like they can't really trust those who aren't in the industry and if they do date someone in the industry they have issues of both being too busy or their fans disliking who they are with and such. I honestly feel sorry for a lot of them. I honestly feel happy when I hear my fav is with someone or married. My heart hurt when I saw the episode of MITH where Cha Eun Woo was in tears because he wants to find the right person and get married. I hope they do find someone who loves them and makes them happy.
I think celebs like CEW, will find the right person once they settle down away from the spotlight. There are some actors and actresses that were in a relationship and even had kids way before they got big that i didn’t even know. And a fee of them even post their spouses and children on social media and seem to still be doing well in the industry. I think it just takes them not giving af, walking by faith and testing the waters for them to find a good partner and to keep their status. True fans will stick around along with them finding a partner who is truly good for and to them in the end if it’s meant to be for them to stay in the industry.
Eun woo clarified that he cried because he wanted someone, not just a partner, to be on his side.. obviously he misses someone he can trust his ugly side with, as he said and it's because as an idol fans see only the image he has to project. He didn't cry because he needs marriage..
Well for starters, I heard that once a star gets in a relationship, it's possible they might lose a fanbase. Secondly, being attractive doesn't make you a great life partner. Thirdly, it could be by choice.
Fourthly, after early 30’s, due to too much work and processed food, their libido and potency are really low. There is no hormonal drive left to get into a serious relationship anymore. Apparently, this is not a problem for Latinos, but a big problem for Anglo-Saxon and Asian world.
This also has to do with the woman/feminist movement - more and more women are refusing to be with men because of the abuse, inequality and the fact that they're expected to "cater" to their husbands and bare children for them, that many woman face around them.
It’s also possible their taste may be problematic eg Leo Di Carpio dating 20-25 year olds in his 40s. In Korea, he would torn to be shreds. Also, fans may be racist or hateful if they openly date non Koreans or non East Asians.
The best answer I heard was Uhmn Jung Hwa representing female celebrities: she doesn’t like the cooking responsibility for her husband and extended family. It’s expected that wives must take that responsibility. She said she doesn’t like this cultural expectation.
Based on the K-Dramas, Korean men would appear to really be into cooking so why wouldn't they continue to cook after they marry? It makes no sense. Are people getting married or hiring a cook? Cooking falls to whoever is inclined and has the interest and time to cook. Eat out or hire a cook.
@@taichidog Joseon dynasty only ceased 120 years ago. Culture is ingrained in the old folks. Korean Gen Z have been reported to reject the old traditions. For example professors are banned from cafes as they talk down on the young and rudely. Ahjumma and ahjussi (middle age folks) are being forced to be respectful and even in Korean variety shows. Well the Kibun culture seems to make elders and rich entitled to be rude and disrespectful
I think that a lot of people, not just celebrities, are too into themselves. Once you get married, you can't live a "single" life like going out with friends late into the night. You have to make sacrifices for the family.
You are wrong, you are the selfish one for wanting to force people to have a family and a gestation machine. In the West it is the same, women are not so forced to be a gestation machine and they are not going to lend themselves to being the slave of men who do not want to evolve, or stop being abusive and immature in order to be decent and desirable partners
Yeah that older dude sound so selfish here, where he said I look for a (much)younger woman who is the most considerate of me but leaves me alone to drink with my boys without complaining 😂 typical male audacity 🤣 he didn't tell us what he offered to a woman
Korean netizens think that buying a ticket to see their movies means that they’re shareholders in these people’s lives and as such they get to decide who they should and shouldn’t date. If the actors pick someone they don’t approve of, then it’s cancel culture to the 10th power. 😢
I always thought actors lived under the idol curse. So prevalent with South Korean fans. I watched a talk show with EXO. I was shocked by the behavior of the fans. Here was Baekhyun trying to tell a heart warming story. Of the day he could tell his son. About his hurst time on stage. The fans screamed boo. Shaking their fingers no. Now I see Baekhyun 32yrs old. Unless he’s secretly dating. He’s alone doing late night Bubble conversations. Any Dispatch relationships alway. I mean always end the same. They are in a relationship for a year. Work causes them to break up. I think actors that think marriage has passed them by. Go to another country. Western women are not obsessed. Look at Song Joon Ji. He married a British woman. They have a son. He has never been happier. I’m a child psychologist. I’ve often thought of doing my thesis on the obsessions of South Korean fans. But that would entail my having to go to SK. Those fans can be mean.
Most of them saying they missed their time could also refer to the fact that they were prohibited by their agencies Who knows who they must have loved at those times
Western women are just as obsessed and often just fetishise them. Also, meshing such different cultures isn’t that easy. Especially western culture is very different from Korean. African cultures and maybe Eastern European cultures are more similar to Korean.
@@ekg891 Agree, every culture is different. But as I travel on the World Wide Web. I have never seen a culture so obsessed with their idols private lives. I loved Chester Bennington. He had a wife and children. It never bothered me. But Chen announces he’s getting married. Also his girlfriend is pregnant. Fans demand he be thrown out of the group. Death threats toward his fiancé and the baby. Wishing they get COVID and die. I myself said, “Baekhyun has such beautiful dancers. He could be dating any one of them.” I was attacked for about two weeks. Called names, gold not to stan Baekhyun anymore. It’s okay to fantasize a relationship with an idol. It’s not okay to demand an idol never marry. So they can live up to the fantasy. That has been the only negative thing I have said about Koreans. I watch their dramas. Listen to their music. I hope to one day have the time to visit South Korea. Not to see any idol. But to see all the beautiful places I’ve seen in dramas. So please, don’t take it to mean I hate the culture as a whole. I am only amazed and afraid of the idol fan culture.
These young people who think these celebrities are objects that they control😢. This is why parents should teach their children well, so when they start watching tv they don’t become possessive and delusional. I watch many dramas , but I really don’t look into these people private life.
The time for successful marriage is age 28 to 32. Before that boys have nothing to offer. After that girls have nothing to offer. The only other way to success is a marriage between old men and young girls. a man of age 80 should marry a girl of age 9
@@cvyyjg just my opinion, but I think when they say losing their timing they probably mean they lost an important relationship due to being in an intrusive career, can't imagine what it would be like to love someone and not be able to openly spend time together publicly without worrying about the hate and abuse directed towards them
There isn't any law where people after 30 can't get married, but it unfortunately frowned upon society because you're not going to believe how many conservatives are pushing women under 25 to have kids, especially early as 16! 😭 During those stages in life, you're in high school, getting your driver's license, working part time jobs or working towards graduating college. These people don't evolve forward. Generally, these young people want to build a stable income first before they can decide if they want to settle down and build a healthier future for their future kids.
@@armandaneshjoobist Du noch ganz dicht . 9 Jahre ???? Pädophil oder was ? Frauen haben immer was zu bieten . Wie bescheuert muss man für Deine Aussage sein
Everyone who wants change, blames fans and companies who pay billions of dollars for everything. No one is willing to pay a single dollar for that change.
Yep, bisexuality and comphet (short for "compulsory heterosexuality" ) is never brought up in these cases. People generally need to be more open-minded, there are other reasons why heterosexual marriages and datings have huge divorce/breakup rates, and birth rates are declining. Take Dan Howell and Phill Lester for example, in the early 2010s they used to bragged about how much they're attracted to women, but until the 2019, he and along with Phil came out as gay. People experience comphet longer than you think and that's why I advise everyone to look it up to see if they fit that category or not.
@@kaycoleman2063 stats show a natural %1~%2 orientation raising is stressful pregnancies. a segment implies %15~%20. So I can guarantee this is not the case.
@@armandaneshjoo If you do not know them personally you cannot guarantee this. The statistics that you are quoting has nothing to do with their sexual orientation. I agree with one of the commenters there are probably some actors and idols who are either gay or bisexual. South Korean LGBT community face discrimination and prejudice.
Ppl who blaming fans dont know that this celebrities themselves incourage this type of behavior, if this celebrities wanna get married no one can stop them bcz many other celebs are married & successful so reason is not fans but many celebs prefer that commitment free life bcz most celebs are characterless.
It's like the world acts like they have some sort of "claim" on these actors/actresses and idols, and they are forced to apologize because people are mad that their delusions, of them marrying the person didn't come true. And in turn people's awful projections of jealousy and unadulterated hatred spread worse than a California wildfire... it's so sad. I hope they ignore those type of people and just be happy! and so what if they're in their 40's,50's or 60's!! LIVE.YOUR.LIFE! true fans will want their cherished actor/actress and idols to be happy, healthy and thriving! Not lonely, busy, depressed and/or suicidal! get a grip people!
The bottom line is. Most celebrities/idols don’t date for a number of reasons. 1. Their fans react so negatively when they find out they are dating. 2. Dispatch and other media will not leave them alone, and they get hounded and have no privacy! Ultimately these celebrities are terrified of their fans/media finding out they are dating because of the way people respond to it. Also, they don’t want to put a non-celebrity partner through that nonsense. It is unrealistic to expect these people to remain single forever but that is why so many Korean celebrities remain on their own and tbh you can tell they are lonely. It’s very sad.
I believe that male celebrities that don’t marry is gamophobia: the fear of marriage and commitment! It’s something real and psychological as excuses of career, etc are mere coverup
Korean society is crazy. They call being in a relationship a scandal when in fact there are a lot of "scandalous" issues they are facing. Take voyeurism for example. Illegal recording is getting too serious that they need to make laws about keeping camera shutters on and there are equipments used to check for hidden cams. They are putting shame in the wrong places.
Jo In sung is not married because he is waiting for me 😂😂😂😂 kidding kidding. But yes ,i know single people above 30 and once people are comfortable being alone then they don't want to give up that freedom
Those who do get married may use it as an excuse to break their contract. Super Junior Sungmin got married, left the group and never looked back. But Super Junior Ryewook got married, and stans celebrated when they found out he wasn't leaving the group.
I've always wondered where Kstans get all the money to spend on celebrities and idols. Because it's a LOT. And we're talking kids, middle and high school, spending thousands of dollars on celebrity merch. And once they've spent all this money, they automatically assume that they own that celebrity. This is why idols can't date, because Kstans lose their minds, going so far as to hold bonfires to burn an idol's merch, and hiring box trucks with LED marquis to drive around and disparage the idol. To Korea, this is normal. To the literal rest of the world, this is sociopathology.
Marriage is down WW. There's nothing wrong with being Single and Independent. Being "Alone" doesn't mean you're "Lonely". I was never more Lonely than when I was married. When expectations are not mutual in Marriage loneliness can set in and lead to depression.
Exactly 💯 next generations will live better than us, they know marriage is a scam. Not love, you can always love and have a great relationship and children but marriage is a scam for women. They mostly work even when love is over and the husband is away doing his thing.. better be honest and keep your options open
Life a an Asian celebrities or Artists in Asian (mainly China and S. Korea) is different from the Western worlds. Their fan base feels entitled to their idol(s)/celebrity(s) overall private life & body. Going public about your relationship can be the death of ones career.
😂😂..Seriously..Its so sad..I was shocked to hear a celebrity apologising to fans and had to explain herself why she was seen with the other celebrity..And she completely stopped being friends with the other celebrity..So sad..
This probably contributing to the low birth rates and marriage rates in South Korea 🇰🇷 because of this obsession from the fans, not allowing celebrities to have the human right to settle down like the rest of society which is really sad 😞
Outside of their fans being delulu and intrusive I feel like dating an actor would be really difficult. They're gone for weeks or months at a time shooting dramas and films. And they also have to be so pretty secretive when dating which means they can't really do normal/fun couple stuff.
It starts with the industry being the adults in this situation and telling the star-struck teen/young adult fans and toxic netizens to sit down and be quiet. The adults must stand up and be the adults. I’m an American G’mother. We don’t have this here because we won’t tolerate this nor let children dictate the situation. As long as the industry bows to teen-tyrants, this will never change. When the industry stands up to these petulant bullies, it ends.
They are not married because when the timing is right, they are at the peak of their careers. They couldn't take the risks knowing how fans could be so brutal if they found out. Hyunbin was just lucky that she worked with Son Ye Jin. Being an artist makes their world so small. Although many would like to get married to them, but because of their celebrity status, they aren't able to form any lasting connections to really get to know them well. Thus, time flies by, and when they are already past their prime, very few would have the chance of meeting women that aren't forced. Probably, if they stay abroad, where no one knows them, then they could meet other women. But if they want the local ones, it would be 1 in a million chance.
Biologically, most people are heterosexual. Not everyone is gay. And gay people have partners too. If they are caught with their partners, why not when their partners are of the same sex?! They even made up that Heechul was gay to promote him. Many celebrities like SNSD have said that he made it up to promote himself
@@Ainikki Queer is not the same as homosexual. Biologically it is not possible, so stop repeating that nonsense of "I do not assume the sexuality of anyone" because you are actually assuming that there are more homosexuals than biology allows. And my comment was about the meaning of stating that if they are not married by a certain age it is because they are homosexual
I think Korean fans are so obsessed with the celebrities that they want them all for themselves . The celebrities are not allowed to be human and do mistakes or wrong choices.
@@nancydsouza1094 yes ji sub oppa is happily married. 😊 he married the lady who once interviewed him for a program. hope they’re blessed with cute babies soon.
To be honest it's none of our business, they are human beings they can date, get married and do whatever they want without telling their fans and their agencies must take strict actions towards possessive or saesangs cause after all these actors/actresses are their source of income they should treat them better.
Tbh blaming fans and the industry in the case of single actors is unfair. I think this is true mostly for kpop idols. Actors aren't held in as much scrutiny as them. This could be because idols present themselves as pure, and have a parasocial relationship with fans, where they encourage fans to think of them as their girl or boyfriend. So when fans see their idols with the opposite sex, shit hits the fans. Actors on the other hand are constantly interacting with the opposite sex, so their fans aren't as opposed to them dating. In fact many k actors openly date and marry and what i see people say is they hope to see these couples in one movie
That's the life they chose. The fact is....the industry they are in only guarantees them a living if they can convince women or men to invest in them emotionally...... it's not enough to just be talented. You have to be available. You have to sell a fantasy and a lot of the roles these actors and idols play do just that...sell a fantasy. But what happens when you no longer want to sell the fantasy after doing so for so long? People become uninterested. You lose fans which means you lose support.....which means you lose money.
Yes, exactly. That's how it is. But being an actor is not the same as being an idol. Acting is an art and a serious job that a man can do without selling the fantasy an idol has to sell..
@@tarastone6136for someone who has success is very difficult to answer,because they are going to feel such failures once they lose popularity and income.
This is an old story. In the 2017 show Mr. House Husband, one person appearing was Eli (from U-Kiss). Although U-Kiss management 'said' they would not 'punish' Eli for his 2014 marriage, it was obvious that the management made everything very difficult for Eli to enjoy family life. It was very sad to see that a band member was so discouraged from having any family life.
Not only many actors but many Korean people tend to being unmarried life more and more because of toughness in their society. And the big expectation from fans is the big toughness for all actors also.
they have a choice but the pressure from korean society is crazy especially for public figure... if they want to get married that's their own right why would they include outside opinion regarding their marriage or decision in life..
@@armandaneshjoo not true they make money because of their talent.. unfortunately agency want to look like they are available for fans to fulfill their fantasy of the possibilities that they can have a Chance with them. Which is the highest form of being delusional
@@Florentine1993 (1) Idol culture was not invented by agencies. It is a part of Korean culture. Idols and fans are both aware and consenting to it. Fans pay. Idols build fantasies (not delusions). (2) That's not how money works. Art and talent are just a cover to keep it all hidden from the west, because the west is Christian and does not accept/approve this form of relationship. In other words, these people are not actually artists. they are idols.
@@armandaneshjoo you will only be a fan not someone who would dictate how one woul run his or her life if they want to get married let them be don't confuse a job with one's personal life. They have every right to choose what they want they are not a property you can own. Dumbledork
It's literally their mind set if u look at celebrities in world more famous and big than them most of them have families and kids ... the thing is they manage it well like look at rayan man ...
Obsessive and delulu fans are one of the main reasons like,they are human beings too like if they so much as get caught up in a dating rumor,the so-called fans turn against them and hate on them ,look how much hate young idols get they eventually have to break up to appease the public ,and also the fact that the 'fans' get to have a say in the idols private life is crazy , forgetting they are humans too. Why should a celebrity's career and reputation be ruined if a speculated dating rumor turns out to be true,and agencies having issue out statements regarding the celebrity's love life is just too much , as a kpop stan myself i would be glad to know that they are happy in their relationships even if they dont publicly announce it
As much as I agree to the author of this video, we all need to acknowledge that the reason why these idols are single is not only because of the crazy fans, parasocial relationships, but also ironically because of probably them too. Yeah, Korean society is not perfect, but idols too. They can have their own problems and mental issues. We usually see the perfect image on tv or RU-vid, or bad one in the news, but we don’t usually talk or live with them under the same roof. Only god knows what kind of people all these idols are. They may be also difficult to live with because of scheduling conflicts, expectations (“oh, I am a big star”), because of it the dating pool for guys is not as big as for ordinary people. Also I am sure they could have pretty high expectations which not every ordinary person would be able to reach in their life ever. And yeah, some of them could be a misogynistic assholes in life too, and sweet cuties on the screen. Maybe if they have such strong problems with getting married, they could go to therapy or try marrying someone from another country? 🙂
I think it is the Korean Fans that create most of the problems for the celebrities and their agencies who treat them like cash cows. Most international fans don't care whether their favorite celebrities date or get married. Unless they are emotionally unstable, they don't invest themselves that deeply or feel possessive about someone they don't actually know. I was delighted when Hyun Bin and Son Se Jin married and then had a child. They seem perfectly suited to each other and I enjoy their work so much. As a "fan", their real fairy tale ending made up for the one they didn't get in CLOY. (Ha Ha) Anyway, as with anyone in the entertainment field, I have my favorites: singers, actors, etc. and I support them by buying their music, attending concerts, seeing their films, etc. I absolutely know that I am paying for their hard work and I don't have any ownership of their privacy, etc. I have my own life to live and I would HATE it to have unknown people suddenly following me around or showing up screaming and fainting when I arrived at an airport or tried to have an evening out with family or friends. I think this also contributes to the high incidence of suicide amongst the younger celebrities. It really breaks my heart when I think about it.
Well, when they declare they don't understand women (Jo In Sung) or don't feel mature to marry and have a family (Lee Dong Wook) I think we should believe them. If it's about their fans' reactions (as many have lead on to as well)... that does need changing. 🙏🏻
I think actors need to have better understanding of their self worth and to know to set boundaries when it comes to their personal and career. Letting go of the fear of what “IF”.
Insanely good looking people like Lee Dong Wook need to marry and procreate. They need to pass on those good looking genes. Imagine him dying without passing on those looks! Should be considered a crime.
In Vietnam, celebrities don't get in relationships. It's not recommended. Celebrities that wanted to date and start a family will leave the entertainment industry. They do this because it's hard to raise a family as a celebrity and divorce rate is too high among celebrity couples which is bad for the kids. A few very famous famous celebrity couples that I know of in Vietnam left the entertainment industry and start other business after they got married and have kids.
Hồi nào dị mẹ? Ở Việt Nam nghệ sĩ quen nhau loạn xì ngầu như bên Mỹ luôn có ai nói gì đâu. Trừ khi giật chồng giật bồ làm bé người ta rồi bỏ con đồ đó thì mới bị ăn chửi thôi
News recently said that Lee Min Ho is marrying Kim Go Eun end of this year 👍❤️ He’s been in secret relationships with her for over 3 years to protect her from his crazy 😜 fans 😁? Why can’t they just date unless their manager don’t want them to date because of loosing their fans ??? Fans are crazy 🤪
To be honest, there are two major things that stick out to me about this: 1. The majority of this video has to do with men who are older. This leads to me to believe that they were non-committal during their "youth" or valued their careers more then than they did a relationship. why am i saying this? There are so, so, so, so, so, so many actors who are as popular as these ones who still work, have a decent fanbase and got married in their "youth." I think when these actors say they missed their timing, they mean they were selfish before and didn't want to sacrifice their careers with having a family, and now they feel like it may be to late to rectify that. 2. A lot of people in general don't want to get married for the sake of getting married! In SK marriage is very seldomly about anything other than having kids. And there has been a noticeable decline in people wanting to have kids not only in SK but around the world. So if you don't want to have kids, why should you get married? I also think that the way knetz and fanbases in SK make matters worse alongside the "exposure" of dating scandals and what not, also intensifies the reluctance for these men to have relationships, let alone get married.
"Get married and be happy " is the biggest lie ever told to humanity. Look for your own happiness even when married. Looking for happiness in someone/ something else is a disaster for any relationship.
Kdrama writers should start writing more and more stories on that topic. Maybe after 5 series, netizen will really understand the situation and the pain celebrities are living with.
I am older and while I do understand the loveliness of being alone I am glad I was married and had children-these two people in my older years are a real asset so I would hope that in the actor’s older years there are children that are a balm and they can enjoy grandchildren-there really is nothing like it
Spätestens im Alter sind sie allein und einsam . Ich kann nicht verstehen, dass man auf die Fans hört . Sie sind alle berühmt und haben genug Geld . Ich würde mir einen Partner suchen und mich öffentlich zeigen ob das den sogenannten Fans passt oder nicht 😊
This is just predominantly in South Korea. Why do celebrities have to put their lives on hold all cos of their fans. They practically apologise for dating like wtf
Korea fans have been too indulged that they have lost all their sense of shame imagine actors and idols not allowed to date or married whilst they are happy with their own relationships
