Why Aren’t Indian Women In Charge of Their Birth Control? 

Around 2 years back, I used to live in a colony where there was a single mother raising her only 5 year old girl child. Society aunties used to gossip a lot about her and used to say 'shaadi nhi ki hogi bachha ho gya hoga'. Due to very much pressure, one day she revealed that her child was an IVF kid which shocked the aunties even more. Not only woman are judged for not having kids but they are also judged for having kids without husband or through medical methods

This is actually a very important topic that often goes unnoticed. You're doing a great job!!

I am a doctor and in my days as a medical student I have seen new moms not being able to take decision about birth control without asking their husbands and in-laws first and it’s just sad how our women’s own bodies are being controlled and used by a patriarchal society with them having no say first .

Normalise "sex awareness" It isn't a taboo , it is not uncultured if its before marriage or not , it's a choice to stay virgin or not , and it is absolutely okay to use birth control ! A women who is not ready to have kids shouldn't be forced to ! Having a kid is also a choice and there is absolutely no shame in buying a contraceptive or using it !

Their are so many issues to be addressed, but nobody actively does that......thank you for speaking fiercely for womens unspoken rights

Y’all are doing a great job. We need videos like this to change people’s mentality.

Can we also address the overhyped notion that becoming a mother is the ultimate goal of being a woman. Aren't women conditioned to feel this way from other external factors? The toll it takes on her physical and mental aspects and the sacrifice on career front and lifestyle. Its unfortunate the society including the husband forces this on her and she has no say in any of this.

Me a feminist - *closes the door while watching the video* 🙄 The fear is too real.

Wowwww, i will adopt kids and will be a "single parent" and i will be.

It's not contraception but the choice to have or have not kids. Men and many women cannot digest the fact that not all women want to be mothers!

I am a guy but i still. Don't get it why women sexual pleasure is uncultured Or "ASANSKARI" in our country 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

When I decided to go on Brith control my parents thought it was a bad Idea but my husband was very supportive! I also feel more open about my sexuality when my husband told me it is natural thing and I do not need to be worried what other people think about my steps towards family planning and sexual independence!

Reminded of how Gandhi was against birth control. Mahatma Gandhi was the main opponent of birth control in India. His opposition was the result of his belief that self-control is the best contraceptive. However, Periyar saw birth control as a means for women to control their own lives.

Okay so I have pcod and was diagnosed about 3 years ago my dr advised me to have birth control(oral contraceptive) as a preventive measures to regulate my hormones and the best part not to be a mom(phew). And so I said okay I'll think about it so as expected my mom gave a very loud reaction but I thought to just go with it and I went to a pharmacy stores so buy my plan. The look he gave me was mixed with disgust and shame and maybe upset I was so ashamed of that sight that I decided to just go with the hormonal therapy and would not buy them. Not atleast till I'm married.

We need these ideas to be knocked into the male dominant culture of ours where your man can buy contraceptives without anyone eyeing him but a woman gets stared at when she does the same.. Sex is sex and should be safe and same to everyone

Once I went to buy birth control pills in a medical shop , the shopkeeper aunty just reacted "What! What you want!" Finally she gave me and murmured "what ashamed for a unmarried woman! Now a days ladies have no shame!.."

I am all about people having choices and doing what they want. but people talk about having their "own" children as if it is a huge deal, as if the parents themselves are Einsteins or something like that and their children will be the saviour of the mankind. just chill out and adopt kids and give them a better life, education and help them be Einsteins or whatever the children want.

I wanted this kind of channel in world

I was overthinking about this yesterday 😂 this channel acts sometimes like a psychic. I was just asking myself "why aren't contraceptives for women so scarce in our society? Why the expensive pills and surgeries so unavailable here? Even if they are available, why are women shamed for it?...." Etc things like that. People have been trying to gatekeep women's sexuality and control over their child. Many families just straight up refuse women to abort the child if she's not ready to be a mom. A bhabhi of mine was pregnant a few months ago and my mother and aunt told her to take care of babies, you can do your jobs later when they get older. I was a little too amateur at that point, like they aren't against abortion but I know that they will call her "weak" if she somehow tries to control her conception. That's wrong with society, they won't heed more if someone is getting r*ped but dare them if a woman wants an abortion. If you have read this long ass comment, happy new year my swaddle fam 💜

India, a country of 1.4 billion people and still sex is considered taboo irony dekh rahe ho

One of the most important topic to be discussed! Women should be empowered over their own bodies! More power to u & your channel !! I dnt understand the hypocrisy behind a man is man when he do sex for pleasure but stigma arises when woman say the same !!! Sex should be pleasurable for both its not a women duty to satisfy only others

Make a video on how family planning is tagged as responsibility of only women by doing tubectomy, even when vasectomy is safer😇🙏

So true so many women aren't even aware of birth control methods yet alone make empowered choices but this gotta change...u r indeed doing a great job👍👍

It's a shame that our society having "Kama sutra" Acts in this pathetic way. This great book is used just for mocking n yes is not even allowed to be named in front of others. This book is a collection of beautiful n scientific ways to live a great life with all pleasures n yet it is uncultured to read/practice such a cultured book

If you like overthinking with us : Me : yeeasss , ❤️ Great vedio

Yesss. This was so needed.having a kid is a big deal especially for the female given the body changes and all other changes related and after birth care is so bad... it's better not to have a kid . most often the responsibility of looking after the kid falls on the mother and mothers are expected to have their life center around the kids from then on.

Abortion should also never be made illegal in this country. There are many countries(even developed ones) who are banning abortions. It's a right to a woman's body. She should be able to decide whether she wants to have a baby or not.

And pressure is real to have kids after getting married

Feeling so proud to subscribe the channel, this type of content should discuss very often and long time ago but sadly in our India giving 'sex education 'is treated like something uncultured,but at least now people r coming and try to make this world more beautiful by giving proper education and understanding each other and not being so judgemental about others personal life, and yes trying to be a good human being. Lots of love for sharing awareness 💕

They are...The patriarchal North Indian population is bringing down the name of the country...I am from the South, Birth control methods were popular even from my grandmother's time...

Can you please raise the issue about if a woman can't have a baby or she is not capable carry baby due to medical or any reason then is considered to be useless or incomplete. It's like she is not an individual, she is just a factory to produce baby.

Too real and required topics you guys are picking. Seriously, great work..

Jazbaat mein beh jaate hain sums up most men's attitudes towards birth control. 😡

The problem with our country's way of dealing with the issues of population control or even contraceptions has been excessive focus on women. It's the direct result of the lopsided view of women being the sole of caretaker of the child and thus primarily responsible for population boom. This in turn resulted in development of various contraptions mainly for women. Further, if you ask a typical men in a "men's circle" about doing sex by using a condom, they are ridiculed or they themself feel ashamed (result of toxic masculinity). So now we need to find a proper holistic solution which could include both men, women and transgenders(Which is usually ignored). I hereby, propose some measures: 1) Just talk and talk and talk more about sex openly becz the more we talk, the easier it becomes to remove the tag of it being a taboo. E.g. Thailand's condom man was one such example who just literally promoted use of condoms in Thailand and we can clearly see the results. 2) EDUCATE youths about the use of contraceptions and the associated misogynistic policy framework that exists in our country. 3) Educate gram panchayats in rural areas to help them to deal with this issue in a more comfortable manner. I would appreciate it a lot if I am corrected in case I might have missed or kept some incorrect viewpoints.

This is probably my favourite channel right now

because of you I getting to know things that I don't know before so thank you very much for this great videos

Normalise woman's choice and right to say NO to pregnancy. Stop rolling your eyes if ur sister gf or wife don't want to have child. It's completely normal for any girl or woman who doesn't want to be a mother. Stop labelling her as "heartless" if she doesn't want to have child. 🙏

I would love you to make a video on "why people think drinking and smoking is cool and also that women shouldn't do the same" in the overthinking series... Thankyou ❤️

Not every woman or man wants to have a child (at least a biological one) and this should be discussed openly

Favourite channel on RU-vid'😇

Doing great work , breaking taboo . But I think if you could deliver the msg in hindi than more people can get benefit.

Shout out for this brilliant edit! 👐👐

I don’t have words to thank you guys for starting a platform like this to discuss the real issues that have led to a toxic culture that we live in today. Thanks so much and pl keep doing this great work.

This is a serious topic which no one talks about. Thank you Swaddle❤️

U are doing a fab job Swaddle by bringing up such topics that need attention and exposure.Thank you.

It's the choice of women here it should respected.

I love how all swaddle videos start with ancient 'Indian culture' recognizing these tabboos.

The gynecologist list on social media made it to the video. Thank you, to all the women who shared the information and made the non-judgemental gynecologist list a possibility and resource for thousands of women across the country. Thank you, Swaddle, for amazing content and highlighting resources available. 👍

Ok lots of ppl are telling thier stories of aunties and uncles being a%%holes to them , I'm sorry about that but .... just don't mind them lady. At best they are just jealous of ur freedom and should be pitied. At worst they have fallen so deep into misogyny that they are slaves who betray thier own gender and again deserve pity. A boi talking here. My parents own a pharmacy and my mom is like that too but seriously I just feel real sorry for my mum. She was raised in such a way that even with a real cool husband ( I'm not too biased cause he's a good dad and he really is a great husband, not perfect no but he really was much better than any of my relatives , and he definitely was a far better and empathic husband than my mom deserves ), she's still finds something to be miserable about and goes around kissing her horrible relatives asses even tho she hates them too and doesn't miss an opportunity to be a two faced b*tvh. She has no self respect . Idt she knows how to live without feeling self hatred or hating others. That's just the way her family raised her. So yeah , I think that other 'aunties' are the same if not worseoff since they usually have terrible husbands and perhaps much worse in laws and sons/daughters ,making them even more miserable The uncles/younger men-women usually have the same problems too. Usually it's broken ppl who try to break others. It's like in the movie " Django unchained " , a story about a slave trying to win freedom for himself and his lover where the principle obstacle he faces is not the white slaveholder but that dude's old slave who's so used to being a slave that he supports his master blindly against someone who you think he would be sympathetic to. You should feel angry ofcourse but try to pity them too. They never had the options , education , freedom and choices you do The best we can do is educate them if possible , ignore them if not. And be better , braver citizens for the kids who are growing up now.

Truth hurts!!! Overthinking series is best.

U know even so many of educated women thinks that using a pill can imbalance hormones( which can be true actually i don't know) , but if u are considering a pill just once visit a gynic .

You missed an important point that men have better and safer contraceptives and still don't use them.

This isn't over thinking. This is REAL TALK 👍

Thanks a lot swaddle for these reformative videos. I hope your channel has millions of subscribers soon.

Very educative

You guys should have mentioned the influencers and the progressive gynaecologist website in your video

Always noticed that only females comment on such videos.

I have a genuine question... Can an unmarried woman get an abortion due to contraception failure like if the pills don’t work or the condom breaks or some other reason? Is it allowed according to Indian law?

I wish to like either dont marry and simply adopt children...or if marry also, then I would adopt children... looking at what kind of pain of like gender determination is there in india, I don't want to go through it...

I love her way of speaking.....no wonder swaddle has great topics and pentrable speaker

The worst thing is, In school they teach about the side effects, making it look scary. But they never teach us about the benefits except the fact that it prevents ovulation.

You Explain the Best on the whole Channel.....😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

This video deserves millions of views...from the editing to the content... everything was perfect....kudos to you 👌

I have certain medical conditions, where I need to control the hormones of my body. And the easiest solution to that, happens to be oral birth control pills. And every single time I go to buy it, I'd face odd looks, straight out questions about my marital status and what not. Including things like "these aren't good for your future kids", while totally assuming both my sexuality and my choice regarding motherhood. This is what the issue is, people don't think women can ever not want to be a mother or prevent a pregnancy. Which is, extreme nonsense. The point is, I am an adult, buying something I need with my own money, making my own choices, and I should not be subjected to any form of humiliation for doing so. Can people mind their own business and let us be?

Great job.. lots of love..,♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

Glad to see ,, such depth of knowledge on basis or should I say #dont_talk_about_it topics !! Keep it up .. people need to address these things for actual change 👍

Yes mam each of ur videos just waoooo..thnks for such a great thoughtful discussion ..we really need this.love u mam😘😘😘😘😘

Where can I find the list of gynacs?

I love how this channel pays attention to all points of the everyday life issues which commonly get overlooked. They are not one sided in any way, in fact, the channel pays attention to mens problems just as much as women. And yes, this is a real issue, sometimes, women are forced to deal with having kids which they most possibly don't want. Its concerning how families who cab barely fend for themselves think it's O K to add another member to the chaos, and often neglect them

Best video we need more videos like this👍🏻👍🏻

These are really great issues you're addressing. Love this video :))

Guys I would really like to know that what is the actual backup of this channel I mean to say that who conducts this researches, information and yes the content you express here.. Is there a team of historians or litterateur or something else....🤔🤔 You are damn awesome🤙 sometimes.

Great video..👍

Mam will you please tell me from which programme you had done you graduation? Nice video☺

Even in 2021 We are given pads wrapped in black plastic It's not a big deal.

Yes yes yes! It was much needed.

Great video!!

Asusual excellent content

Finally! The channel I have been looking for the past 2 years!. I showed this to my mom, and she agreed to all your points. My dad too agreed to all your statements.

To all the girlies out there, guys are stupid and selfish take care of yourself. Know what you want and don't let others persuade your decision. Be safe and take care of your body.

Why this series is called OVERTHINKING. When we are not :)

Great job guys...

When will this channel hit 1M subs and 5M+ views?? I'm waiting for that moment :))

This channel is so underrated ❤ Great content!

Greatest Yt channel

Love your channel

Gonna share everywhere

This is great! Please keep educating us❤️

Can't thank enough for this channel

Thankyou for making this.

I like how Priyanka Chopra from Aitraaz was included in slides for "Women empowerment"

I have always felt that this "birth control",overpopulation was more of racial inequality leading to economical inequality. Riches have swimming pools,gardens. Poor lives in BHK flat

I told my mom that I don’t want to get married or have kids. She said everyone has to. 😭 I’m going to run away

This is literally the content i live for 😍

Now this is called real feminism not men are trash or men should die... literally your videos are very good...I hope this channel gets million of views so people could about these kind of topics..

As a guy if I get a contraception I'll definitely try it once or more than once 😄 but still there is long way for it to happen

Swaddle you are doing great ❤️

Please have a conversation about how condoms play a major role in preventing STDs and isn't for just the prevention of undesired pregnancies. The content handled is impressive

Who says women are not valued as men , I respect and love my mother more than my father

Keep doing it 💪 more way to go 👏 🙌