Why Arnold Schwarzenegger Doesn’t Consider Himself “Self Made” | Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend 

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i really connected with that part too. messing up doesn’t feel like a gift but at the end of the day it is. we get to learn so much, and have new information on how to be strong and what we need to do when things get bad. One day at a time, you got this!! 💜

Can’t be sober but so afraid of relapse you can’t go live! Amen (not endorsing using, by live I mean actually LIVE)

Stay strong brother

here take my hand get up again and try, you can do it, you dont know me but i trust in you,and if you fail again, so be it, my hand is there for you

Agreed! Age has really highlighted his intelligence, kindness, and humility

his motives are interesting. He was set up to compete with his brother by their father. It worked out good with Arnold, though not so well with his brother. He wants to be helpful but he also wants to be rich and get richer. they are not mutually exclusive, but they aren't so compatible

He has aged like a murderous robot sent back 45 years to kill John Connor!

I love 'so far', what was going through your mind when you said that?

Conan or Arnold?

It's for sure honed some aspects, but there have been few occasions where it could be seen before the podcast. He is very good on riding the energy of the room on when to crack jokes and when to get serious and how he effects it. He does like a noticebly shift with his voice and intensity when he wants to get serious. So controlling and reading the room. Another thing is that he is Geniunelly interested in things guy, so he does his researche and knows what are the Obvious million times asked/answered good questions (that becomes already bad ones for being asked so many times) and finds something not so surface level. That's just dude being smart and a vet, I think he is in general way smarter than people give him credit for (and they do mainly for Harvard). Not in he is genius in maths and physics way, which so many rates intelligence with but just overall. Quick witted and emotionally grounded people are almost always very smart, like Arnold also is all of those things. I think How the pod is done is a concious choice since when he tried to change the late night format and didn't wear a suit anymore and wanted it to be more closer to... this. People just didn't take it because Late Night celeb exaggerated story (sometimes outright lie) format is so ingrained into US that it's very hard to make it more cerebral.. even a little bit. Podcast then again is the perfect medium to mess around with both of being silly/funny and serious so it kinda naturally leaned towards the flow it has now. It is kinda like the version that worked from the last late night try, but even more free on what to say and not say etc. Kinda hard to be fully geniuine when a network is breathing down your neck about mentioning certain political things and giving notes for this and that. Advertisers being way more serious about things. Even tho I did love Conan's humor in late night, he is way more like this irl and I noticed it immidiatelly at the first episode since I had watched the tour documentary. In it you can see his humor being kinda balancing with dark and silly and how he really is. He himself is pretty complicated and interesting guy.

I think it's more the guest that he's interviewing than anything, like on his late night shows, you could tell for like the more superficial or even shy guests you get the more chaotic energy as he tries to create something entertaining with them, but for the ones he's actually genuinely interested in meeting, there's a ton more depth to them, even in the 5-10 minute interview format. Obviously with this podcast he can be choosy with who he interviews.

I think his 1 on 1 interviews are amazing. He never dazzeled me as a talk show host.

This is the first I've seen, definitely will check out more!

The absence of a live studio audience is key to becoming a great interviewer- like Howard Stern.

He always said so. It's not new.

exceeds expectations

Arnold's biggest message has always been to give back when you can; he says that this is one of the most important things in a lot of his speeches. So this is definitely the most expected thing, lol

Get off your knees and wipe your lip 😂

After having a bunch of Tate clones (and the dirtbag himself) flood the internet for clout and fame, it's nice to have someone who's genuine and not a complete toolbag.

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well he is getting paid for it. Im not saying its not giving back, but it also about taking.

@@MrTapeliusbut with Arnold, there is a sense of giving back as he already has the money and he is in his 70s

​@@MrTapeliushe's getting paid if he throws quips and goes back home anyways. Thing about Arnold is he makes good use of spotlight

He really isn't. Constantly interrupts or talks over the guest. Will repeat what the guest said...Will interject to tell a stupid joke. Sure he's funny...But he's not a great interviewer. Doesn't mean he isn't entertaining. Doesn't mean he isn't a good host. But don't claim he's such a great interviewer because he isn't. He's a former comedy talk show host doing a comedy podcast.... Its as far as it's goes.

Probably liability and general protection haha.

he was probably selling an image by having the bodyguards. he always talks about selling and how he wanted to be a star, not an actor. so I get what you mean, but I don't think arnold has one humble bone in his body, he always wanted everything even before he moved to US. but he's not arrogant either.

They were to protect you from him

Not that long ago Arnold got attacked in public in south Africa, so you never know when some crazy person may try do to something.

To protect the fool enough to attack him 😅

100%

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Couldn’t agree more.

They've mentioned before, it gets old

Proud of you brother

@@pho3nix- Thank you so very much. I appreciate you.

Hope you're feeling good now.

@@brainsmoothy Thank you my friend. I do.🙏🏽

Amazing, congrats on your success, proud of you man 🎉🎉🥂

Yes some people are. 😂 how old are you ?

You've obviously never met anyone who had to do everything for themselves and still became successful.

@@moderusprime Yes. Because that person doesn't exist.

​@@moderusprimenobody can succed in isolation. The only difference would be wether you succeded because you got help from others and learned to accept it and reciprocate it, or because you have taken from and profited from others.

I love how he goes on about how all these people helped him and ends it with, 1:58 "...become the greatest bodybuilder in the world." lol the humility and sense of humor

I forgot about that one, used to be one of my favourites (along with Last Action Hero)

I worked at a KB Toys during the late 90's. That movie was so real. Parents would go crazy and fight over toys for their kids.

This is a pure stupidity and ignorance in what you wrote lmao you sound slow 😂

and like simply to live in a society that provides roads, schools, utilities, hospitals, police and military, that's like a 1 million times easier to get ahead than living on a deserted island with actually nothing you didn't 'self make'. even for corporations it's massively important that there's thousands of engineers, workers and other people to run their production facilities. none of the massive production chain to produce the simplest items for us just happened out of nothing, none o the cities we live in just spawned out of thin air. people who perpetrate the myth of self made men are just mindnumbingly ignorant of the staggering amount of infrastructure and help from others you get by simply being born into a society. every little thing was made by someone, and we all just 'self-make' only tiny corners of our immediate surroundings.

Another idiot ^😂

Like most things it's a spectrum. Some have much more help than others.

What kind of mirrors do you use? Arnold is damn badass low-key comic

I think it comes down to what Arnold mentioned, society seeing boys and girls going through discomfort or painful situations and calling it a "problem", as if it's wrong and should be changed. Many times these painful experiences are a necessary growing experience, they cause healthful responses in people mentally/emotionally and they become stronger as a result. Society tries to eliminate all discomfort for children throughout life, and then wonder why they grow up so soft and unresilient, it's like avoiding all exercise and wondering why you have no muscle strength.

As a marine biologist, I agree.

I think most people work hard and most people will grumble when they're working hard without a future or opportunity. I don't know anyone in my generation that isn't working unpaid overtime and because of the nature of the internet and globalization, waking up in the middle of the night for unpaid oncall to put out fires. Who isn't working hard enough? Why can't these people afford homes? Why are they allowed to get squeezed and abused by privilged landlords? It just seems like laughing at and ridiculing people living in poverty. When democracy is working those people have a voice, but we're living in a time they don't really because of an outsized retired population.

@@CaptainWumbo It did sound a lot like 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' bullshit and it's very typical of his generation. I get what he's saying but not everyone has the power to do that like he did and it disappoints me that he's using that rhetoric especially when he's a politician.

Welcome to late stage capitalism, friend!@@CaptainWumbo

That is a genuinely good man. Funny, witty, clever, smart, puts you at ease and then makes you work out

expected him to respond saying - I go to the same circus. I lift the mirrors lol

@@NZyoutube uncreative really... i prefer his response for sure

@@DanielBoonelight ​lemme try that again. I expected him to say - yes Conan, I remember using you as the pull up bar

@@DanielBoonelight another - Yes I remember our time at the circus when we played Conan AND the barbarian / punch line drum

I honestly miss when Conservatives had idols like Arnie instead of the clowns they have now

Not me, baby.

it's not about needing help, it is about receiving it and then knowing that you received it. That is why it is so easy for the so-called self-made men to think they did it all themselves. they simply do not recognize all the help they received on the way. self reflection is completely missing in narcissists.

Calm down, 76 is not old. look at Chomsky, pilger, a zillion other 90 yo folks living in the community.

​@@Rubylove4876 is old. 90 is old as balls.

he stays active. people that go sedentary and inactive in old age tend to shrink away. you need at least one thing to pour focus into.

I am a doctor and I disagree. Ive operated on many many people in the or 90s who are living very productive and independent lives. In their communities. They just do not get air time in public arenas or in Hollywood plastic culture. Hang out with real wools rather than listening to podcasts. 76 is not old. @@brandonhaygood5286

As others mentioned 76 is not THAT old haha, not enough to be significantly declining mentally. If you’re in decent health most people will live well into their 80s nowadays. I watched a 102 year old Benjamin Ferencz talk on a WW2 Netflix doc a couple weeks ago. He was very articulate and cogent and THAT was really fkn impressive for his age.

He'll be pulling buses with his teeth well into triple digits like Jack LaLanne

Plenty of “lay-a-bouts” have the most money and control too much of society

to be frank though he's such storyteller and marketing specialist that I wouldn't quite trust all the details of his stories. :D

There is no such thing as a "Yoda phase" as Yoda is a fictional character from a science fiction film for kids.

@@einundsiebenziger5488 Don't ever talk to anyone again

@@DraperJakehahaha…🤣🤣🤣 I knew exactly what u mean 🤭🤭🤭

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The trick is to fail fast, and try again. The more you linger on something, the more painful the failure is, the harder it is to improve and stay motivated. I have a friend who used to randomly hit on girls, just so he can train on failing fast. He used that later, started four businesses that failed and he became a millionaire after his fifth business was a success.

Even he would say he couldn’t be what you describe. He likely has a lot of regret with his own children. He’s who is now cuz he’s embraced his failures. He’s better with the public than he would likely say he was when you were growing up.

@jissanhuq3792 I never meant him in a way of father figure or a replacement of some sort or father in general. I was thinking more of a guide or someone who would give me a good motivational speech when I needed it. Doesn't need to be a father straight away

Last Action Hero is a massively underrated movie imo. Nice to see it mentioned in the wild.

@@Lanxe Last Action Hero should be at least a cult classic and it genuinely annoys me that it doesn’t get the love it deserves

@@ZiggyHernandez LAH is Schwarzenegger's most "Austrian" movie as he makes fun of himself in it. Most Americans obviously did not understand that, but that's what makes that film so great.

Arnold is pretty orange🍊

except towards Conan he is brutal roasting :D

Nothing wrong with sitting and doing nothing. Not everyone has to achieve as much as Arnold. No need to loathe yourself about it, my advice is to be a bit kinder to yourself.

@@andreasoberg2021 Thank you, I appreciate the kind words.

Yeah, fellow aspie here. All my life I've been called lazy by my dad who works in the military. Luckily, I've always found most subjects in school quite easy and have managed to make it to university, but I've always had a lot of days where I don't show up or do so without having done my homework. I was diagnosed four years ago, and it has been a journey. In the beginning, it would be an understatement to say that I was relieved when I found out that I wasn't actually lazy and that the thing that made it hard for me to do homework was not something that everyone else dealt with: at least not to the same degree. The only problem was that I still wouldn't get the same stuff done that others would. So, now I've been trying to slowly increase my productivity by trying to go somewhere every day and reading instead of staying at home. I've realised that the pure act of having to go somewhere is actually what makes it feel like I'm off to work and that getting up and going is the first success that fuels my productivity for the rest of the day. The days where I stay home and read instead now feel like days off, whereas before days off would be me just lying in my bed feeling miserable for myself. I don't know how useful this might be to you, but my original sentiment is just that autism (or aspergers) and motivation are a little bit more complicated than it probably is for other people, so Arnold's advice might not be directly applicable to you: you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself if you don't live up to his ideal. We have a really good excuse for exhibiting lazy-like behavior (we experience anxiety-like symptoms if we do something we aren't used to), but I feel that shouldn't stop us from feeling useful and capable. Even if you've been declared unfit for work, you can still set goals for yourself and accomplish stuff. Just start lightly: Small routine changes last the longest.

@@rasmusn.e.m1064 Thank you. Before my diagnosis I had a good deal of trouble with my father as well, thankfully he has become more accepting since. I hope yours will too. I appreciate your kindness and advice

@@dystopiawanderer I hope it works out for you :)

He was a writer before. Seems like he’s just fond of reading.

Conan (O'Brien, not the Barbarian) graduated from Harvard, so I'm sure his reading skills are superb. Arnold's book is probably wise and worth taking time to savor and ponder, but the book also is probably a "light read" if you have to get through it quickly.

He did late night for almost 30 years so i'd imagine he is used to reading/watching the stuff people come to promote.

His ‘busy schedule’ IS prepping for his podcast guest. He has nothing more important to do before the interview 🙄

That's also a pretty short book. I'm guessing 200 to 300 pages max and its probably not packed with excessive detail as celebrity biography/inspirational books tend to be fairly light on detail compared to history or fiction.

The difference being that those last three actors are basically propaganda agents, so they couldn't really make mistakes or be anything other than perfect.

@@noticiasinmundicias Which in turn closes off an aspect of their character that Arnold doesn’t suffer from.

That's why I agree the term is well meaning but inaccurate.

Which is probably why Arnold has described himself many times as “ the luckiest son of a bitch alive”

Just need to see how many of his bodybuilder friends are dead to see his luck.

The way you write all this seems like Arnold doesn't understand that and I legitimately don't get where you get this idea from. He literally hates the term self made because he wasn't the only one to get him where he was. I don't know how you take possibly the most humble thing he's ever said in his life and write this as if he could POSSIBLY be more humble on a personal level. Like you just took everything he said and went "not good enough."

😂 lot of conservatives could learn from this

Surprising amount of perception, awarenessby arnie. These self mades benefit from stable society with no raging civil war, rule of law, access to education, infrastructure, access to qualified employees, etc.

He's no longer a Republican, and voted for Biden. Arnold's too smart, decent, and sane to support today's GOP.

Though there are some things you have to do yourself, like pay off your own debt. So I could say that I made myself a Debt Free Man two years ago.

Not a bad idea at all. He's a leader and except for a few nutso outliers, he'd probably have everyone's respect

I'd be okay with that, but Arnold was a very moderate Republican. I don't think that those exist anymore.

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Oh yeah, we'd all be one big happy family if you didn't have anybody to villify.

You're confusing vilification with facts and the truth @@daveconleyportfolio5192

He voted for Biden. Arnold knows how despicable and insane the Republican Party has become, and is too smart and sane to support it.

So true. There was a time not that long ago when Republicans had some integrity. It's sad to see what the party has become today. It's no longer the party of Lincoln