Why being great parents but bad lovers will cost you your marriage. The do’s and don’ts | LNN 

Today's show topic is on point. 43yrs successful marriage with all grown children, Lynn I can attest to this statement of fact. Thank you for bringing this couple back to impact the society more. Their first show with those nuggets of wisdom profoundly brought out by one great husband, spoke truth to men and women across the globe just like today's show has done. Couples, Lynn's show brings out great men and women that have walked the journey of life, made mistakes and emerged successful. The experiences they went through to perfect their purpose speaks to you and me, especially those still parenting. I am already done on succesiful parentng with grand children, almost matching to great grandchildren but still listens to every Lynn shows daily, learning one or two things. I believe, the single, newly married and those in advanced stages of marriage benefit more. Guys, marriage works and the fact that yours has challenges or didn't work doesn't invalidate that fact. There are steps you can take to make yours work. As therapists and or life coaches, we coach and counsel many that are experiencing marriage challenges and they get back to form. It is doable guys. On the issue of "being great parents but bad lovers that might cost your marriage", Lynn allow me to speak from 43yrs of marriage, kindly. This is a statement of fact because, entering a marriage depends on the couple's purpose in their marriage. If the two do not speak from the same wavelength and or, their intentions for getting married were founded on wrong intentions, the topic then speaks direct to their cause. Let me qualify my affirmation. 1. Just like you are at the single stage, you make your own decisions and suffer the consequences of the same. In marriage an opinion is validated by two individuals not one. "The two have become one unity". 2. Marriage involves probable 3rd party(children) and 4th party(House manager). The two parties have to be prepared for this setting which then means, the roles may tilt to conform to that arrangement. The effect is that that lovey-dovey syndrome is affected. You MUST be prepared and INTENTIONAL to cope with such delicate situation lest chaos happens. 3. Once a 3rd party emerges, tye woman's roles increase as the order of life that the man has to train himself on how to adjust. Bed matters get affected first because of healing and secondly because of the attention the wife gives to the child and other home chores. It is inevitable that the man adjusts to be able to support the wife's cause and support her fully towards the realisation of those emerging roles. Less that, the man may be tempted to look elsewhere which then might kill that love relationship from within. "Till death do us part" comes out clear at this stage. 4. Marriage is the institution the only institution that change the way we look in both physical and mental if you may. Physical because once a woman gives birth, her body changes not necessarily for bad or for good but transitionally. Carrying a baby is not easy just like rearing that child to adulthood is not a mini achievement. Stomach elasticity and compressibility can change someone's form. That is a stage in a woman's life for them that shall be blessed with children. A man in her life cannot expect to be seeing same woman throughout their marriage journey, this then calls for understanding and appreciation from the husband's point. What I am simply saying is that marriage is an institutional phase that calls for understanding but not a cause to ignite friction. The two parties should understand this. 5. Bed matters delay. A woman that has given birth should be given time to heal. The man in this relationship needs to understand this and instead offer maximum support to his wife. A new creature(child) is a blessing and that moment of excitement is supposed to affect both the man and the woman involved. This then means readjusting your priorities to accommodate the kid. In essence it means bed matters shift to child attention and often it blends effectively guys. I have been there and perfected it. Ladies and gentlemen, many out here are great parents but bad lovers because the parties never learned or trained themselves on how to blend the two effectively to the end. At this point is where cheating happens especially for the weak. This is a learning forum where you don't get a degree but you gain much more than PhD certificate. Try looking at Lynn show from that lens and see what will happen to your life. My take home from today's show is that "marriage still works in this generation "

What I'm learning about why "your marriage is more important" is because the children use that marriage as a benchmark for their future relationships. The marriage has to be exemplary. I'm so attentive!!

I live in Germany & when I got my kids there was no family to come to my assistance. My family is in Kenya & my in-laws live 700 km away. It was just my husband & I. Fortunately hubby helped with everything & was understanding & patient. He helped deliver the babies & held them in his arms even B4 I did. He always cuddled them from the beginning, so bonding was never an issue. In the west, we don't have househelps. He cooked & cleaned without a 2nd thought, so I never felt neglected. The problem with men at home is that children & housework are (still) women's business; and her birthing health probems are hers alone. This is archaic. My brothers, please change this ancient attitude. Failure to that, there'll be no wonder that marriages are doomed 😮

No matter what you do,put God in the equation , he is the equalizer.

This man needs to appear on billboards l. hope he does speak in marriage conferences.People normally praise their spouses for gifts but a man who empathetic and sympathetic is way far.

Can this whole convo be on TV in Kenya for a week or so! Like this is a conversation that should be heard really by the masses, absolutely loved it!

Cheating is a choice doesnt matter if th man feel neglected after woman gave birth or not..cheating is a dealbreaker once th trust is gone s gone forever😢..good convo❤

that thing about society rallying behind a woman is so true. Also, i now understand how my husband, my brother and my dad became so close after we became parents. when the women came to stay with me through my NICU struggles, these men also came and stayed home with him for 2 months (they changed shifts). They cooked for him and took him out to play darts and even gave him money when he was in a deficit. His friends always mistake them to be his biological dad and brother nowadays

I'm a girl who's yet to get married and settle then get babies eventually God willing and I'm so glad I've come across this sort of conversation today because kids in my marriage has been this constant worry in my mind cause I've been like what if i get babies,will I stop loving him? Will he stop loving me and start seeing me differently blah blah blah and having watched this I'm glad to say that I'm relieved because I've learnt how I'm supposed to manoeuvre around my marriage and my kids in future God willing. This is such an insight to and for me. Thank you Lynn for your guests. I've learnt a lot

Everything who is reading this comment may God bless you and may you never lack in Jesus name🙏

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Pastor Peter (Very smart leader) was my School Captain when I was in form one in HighSchool. God bless your work Lynn! This Family is blessed!

I love this couple. The wisdom they have is great. Lynn thank you for all you do. Please bring them back. Exceptional.

What a coincidence Last night I came to the realization that I come second to my husband. Our son comes first. That was painful because I thought we had a life before him and will be left alone when he leaves to start his life. I wish he would see this. I feel bad competing with the innocent boy and I don't want to cheat. It sucks

We are as good as the quality of relationships we have.

I have given my husband 100% room to be a Dad and have seen it work well❤

This topic speaks it all ❤I’m grateful growing up in a loving family my dad n mum were always there for us with my brothers and we had a good relationship all together till now we are in our 30s n 40s May God Bless my grandma and late grandpa for giving me caring parents I’m here now in my marriage I pray to give best for me and my spouse and best for my kids. These topics are healthy Marriageworks and love is a beautiful thing❤ Beautiful couple 🎉

Awesome, seeing you guys. It's true marriage works and when you build it on God it works. I pray God would help this generation learn this they are still good men out here

This is great and very helpful but its unfortunate am a victim and my marriage is all gone.we are two strangers in the same house raising children as if its ajob weve been given to do. I hope God changes everything for us. Its so much pain.

My Note-Book Is Present. Listening…The Amazing Couple, Just Like The “ KYENGO’S”.

These guys constantly make me wish that hata mimi Mungu akibariki wengine with beautiful marriages, hata mimi anikumbuke. Juu wueh....ni kama nilisahaulika kabisa.😂😂😂😂😂With someone who is woke. Thank you, team LNN.

One think I have learn from both partners , they are both good listener, they listen to each other. We don't need to fight but to work on our disadvantages. Love is actually going when we work things out for the sake of love ❤🙏🙇 may God bless their union 💕🔥👏

Kariuki family you're amazing with beautiful mind for our nation ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ am Ugandan but learning alot from Lynn show❤❤❤❤❤❤

I love this couple.They are very knowledgeable and also balance it with vichekesho. I'm tapping into that kind of love. They can keep coming to the show, and we will also follow them in their socials.

All smiles on my face..Welcome LNN Residents...Asanti

Thanks to the young man speaking openly and truthfully. You are blessed

Watching this couple is an eye opener. I know I'll marry and my prayer is I will be with a man whom we'll appreciate each other and be willing to grow together. Build each other and many more. So thanks Julie and Pete

This interview was so much needed, thank you so much for the guest’s candidness.

When it's all said and done, you are as good as the quality of your relationships and how much you've invested in those relationships. Powerful

Great video. This comes from intentionality from mature people. Thanks for sharing ❤

what a joy, always learning. thankyou lynn you are a gift to our generation.

Heartwarming session. Thanks❤I think on the point of conflict, we may need to teach kids to resolve it, even by role play, if you prefer. I say so respectfully because kids who’ve never seen parents ‘fight’ can also grow up thinking there are no fights/conflicts and get surprised when they show up in their marriages. It ends up taking a while for them to adjust and learn how to resolve their own marital conflicts. They do so well but a quantum leap through parental example is always welcome. God bless you guys

Your fulfillment in life is tied to the the quality of relationships that you have, the low the quality of your relationships that you have, the less fulfilled you’re in life . Lynn may God continue blessing you and your team for sure you have done a great job in impacting our lives we keep learning each and every day.

Hello 👋 LNN community Happy to see you again on the show Mr and Mrs Kariuki

Awesome episode to both Lynn and today's guest. Thank you

The power of multiplication.....let's inpire our generation..thanks guys

I watched their 1st story and it really changed my marriage.todays story has taught me alot .I will definitely rewatch it with my spouse and see how we will take care of our VW car❤

May God bless me with such an understanding and God-fearing Man!! 🙏

Thank you for the enlightenment. This was powerful

This couple is such a blessing. Mungu awazidishie🙏🙏🙏

Learning New Things Always In This Marriage Segment. About Eating Together As A Family,Is Fun n Loving. I Can Attest To This Coz My Kids Feel Uncomfortable To Eat Without The Dad Being At Home When Food Is Ready. They Would Even Call, To Ask Whether We Wait For Him. This Narrative That People Put, “Aty Siwezi Ngoja Mtu Ati Ndio Tukule”, Doesn’t Work In Mine n I Say “MINE”. Lyn Thanx,,, Now You Can Say,, You Have A Partner,, Wow❤❤❤

Thank you Lynn, on point. Niko na suggestion, kuwe na kakeyboard, that angelic music background. But you are really blessing our souls

An eye opener in marriage. A must watch.

Very educational. May God continue to bless this couple as they grow in their marriage.

Learning so much.... Thank you Lynn and the couple

Greatly inspired by the lessons from this wonderful couple. Thank you Lynn. 🎉

May God bless ur union, marriage was ordained by God 🙏it's easier, happily married or happily single

This has been an amazing conversation. Thank you Lynn for bringing Pst Pete and Julie on this episode😊

Wow... I love the challenge. Let's lift each other up, there is already too much trouble in the world. Lovely couple, very encouraging. They are very authentic. God Bless you.

Thank you for being open and honest🎉🎉, long blessed life.

Thank you so much peter and Julie 👍 It's inspirational and I do inspire using Lynn stories

Wow.. deep conversation.. thank you for the reminder.

The conversation it was so amazing honestly I learn alot marriage it's not easy ❤

I love the kariuki's soo much they are so real and they teach us with their own life experience thanks lynn ..a request please bring someone to talk about how to do long distance relationship's....i will appreciate

Oooohh my God. Thank you for this wisdom from this power couple❤

Love your conversation ❤ Nuggets

Wisdom, am taking notes before I get married.😊

Powerful conversation don't just watch 😂 and go inspire the society and people around you 😂 that 💯 Power talk the kariuki enjoyed it all❤

Thank you for bringing this family back they are so inspiring ❤ please bring Benjamin zulu global to this interview please

Spot on. Baraka tele

"We are as good as the quality of relationships we have"......Amennnnnnn!!!

Hae Lynn am here love this couple Continue doing go what u do

When there's peace in a marriage, then it can be more important than the kids coz, the kids need a conducive environment for both physical and mental growth, but when one or both of the Partners are Not peaceful, then my kids would be more important than that marriage.

I just love love ❤❤❤🎉🎉this Team Lynn OYEEE 🎉🎉🎉

This is very true, thank you Jesus ❤

Waoh i love the conversation

Powerful conversation don't just watch 😂 and go inspire the society and people around you 😂 that 💯 Power talk the kariuki

Beautiful couple with inspiring words of wisdom any other topic we can relate to,please don't hesitate to bring them back Lynn,as always amazing show❤

Good morning team Lynn tuned in

Lynn 🎉haki You almost Fell down kucheka naye😂😂thats why all of US loves ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊

Inspiring I remember the guy❤

Wow I leaned much thank you family 😊 may God 🙏 bless everyone in Jesus name 🙏

Nimecheka jamani, but this is very much a story i and many can relate to. Those who have not been there please be patient with each other and support each other as much as possible. Sio kupends kwa anyone please

I needed this now more than ever before. my marriage is almost dying

To sum It all, Pesa Ndio Nguvu za Kiume

God bless this couple. Thank you Lynn.

Wee she just said the truth,yani the feeling kabisa.

Thank u lynn, pete and julie always learning alot from which is so true but like u said its team work i love how determined u are for ua marriage and we wish most of our partyfeel the same blessing

Wow God bless you ❤

Dont be so focused on raising your children, their activities and being the perfect mother, that you move your marriage to the back burner of the stove. You don't want to someday have empty nest and empty marriage

I think if a man cant man up to be in this together it cant work since children are for both of us and u have families who are far not in a position to have a househelp dont u know what happens to the wife true wife even suffers atleast the whole day u are working and meeeting people and friends out at work and me am all alone without help from anyone anyway God help us some of us have been all alone and be in control of everything

Totally agree abiut this conversion.I read a book' who will cry when you die'. It summaries this conversation

My people are back....

With such conversations, marriage sounds sweet. Manifesting for one

Ladies lets not teach our husbands how to be good fathers lets live them to do it the best way they can

Am glad you brought them back

Surely marriage works

The best thing marriage is a choice but love hurts and make someone change 💔 I never get there again. Happy for them keep winning my rib cooked soup

My marriage broke up 1 year after giving birth. I really changed. Changed, and no one understood me kabsa. I used to cry, cry, cry. Kutoka kukaingiwa immediately. I am here trying to heal😢

Powerful ❤

God bless Lynn 🙏

Watching and reading comments ❤

ready to learn

This was such a real episode. I co-sign everything they said!

Good morning Lynne

Wonderful conversation. Please Lynn get someone to talk about parenting teenagers, because hiya huku Diaspora kimeturaba😢but God is faithful.

You blessed 🙏...

My deraz were just chillin

Absolutely not children are the most important thing.

Also, thank you for not speaking in swahili the whole time...we from other countries can tap into this wisdom too!!