Why Bipolar Marriages Have a 90% Divorce Rate!! 

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My wife has bipolar disorder. I can say it's the hardest thing I have ever fought in my life.

Don’t be sad, there are so many blessings we bring to a marriage as bipolar’s. I deal with the illness bipolar 2 and yes it is challenging but I can happily say my wife and I will be celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary next year. You did a great job in putting this video together.

Bipolar type 2. Diagnosed at 19. Living this hell for 20 years now. I am not sure about al most everything in my life. But 2 things I am certain about: I will NEVER get married, less have a Girlfriend. No woman deserves to suffer this shit, if I really LOVE someone, I shall not put her into that tornado. And two: I will NEVER have children. The most respondí le thing I can do for my children is NOT HAVING THEM. Accepting this has nade my bipolar disorder far more manageable... Greetings from Costa Rica. Great job!!

My biggest fear is being a single mom. I want to be that 10% SO badly

thanks for filming this. I've been in a relationships with diagnosed but not treated bipolar bf. I witnessed and experienced all the things you've mentioned with him throughout our 5 years together. I think the big issue with the divorce rate isn't just the Bipolar disorder partner detaching. I think the divorce rate probably is high because the person not suffering from the disorder tend to be codependent. So both people have issues and need to work harder than most to get through it all and stay solid.

I think it bears mentioning that the spouse of the person suffering from bipolar can have a hard time accepting that their spouse’s inappropriate behavior patterns or incidents are due to a mental illness. They can have a hard time forgiving and moving past mistakes their spouse made while in the grips of a manic episode. This happened to me. My ex-husband had an impossible time knowing how to deal with my manic episodes, accepting my diagnosis...this lack of acceptance made me spiral into depression and eventually seek detachment from my pain through addictive self destructive behaviors. I was married 10 years, in a relationship for 5 years prior to marriage. Had two beautiful daughters with him and was a believing Christian. It’s painful beyond belief how my bipolar disorder ripped mercilessly through the heart and soul of my life. It’s been 6 years since my divorce was finalized. I’m stable now, on lithium. It took me a looong time to accept that I needed medication. I feel so much guilt for how I’ve affected negatively the lives around me, especially my kids. But yeah. Divorce rates among bipolar couples are real and very depressing.

I am in a relationship with someone who has bipolar. This video has been so great. It's helped me to not take a lot of his actions personally. Thank you

I’m bipolar 2 and I’ve been married 17 years.

I have been with my GF for almost a year who has Bipolar disorder. I’m in love with her and love her. She feels the same for me. She has twice wanted to break up and leave but she’ll come back to me. I have helped her get a job, pay for some of her groceries. I have done a lot and I am super patient with her. She’s has tried to make everything awkward and she admitted to me that she doesn’t need anyone. (I feel bad for her situation, I’m fighting for our relationship because we have such an amazing adventures, likes, interests and views. I love her, and she trusts me.) She doesn’t want to destroy me, thats why she wants space until she is level headed. I want it to work and I will fight for it to work!

Thank you for your videos❤️ My boyfriend is bipolar and it’s been a journey. We broke up twice in the first few months and it’s taken me a while to understand how this all works and how to help. Your videos have been really helpful. I’m learning how to handle episodes and his sudden mood changes we have developed ways together to help one another. It’s scary but he is so deserving of my love and care that I’m willing to learn and help.

You are spot on with this! As a bipolar person, I've experienced this over and over with a lot of my past relationships. My (2nd) husband and I have been together for nearly 19 years, and therapy has helped him understand where I'm coming from. Thank you for bringing this out for people to understand.

My bf has bipolar 1 and we’re 22. He just went through a manic episode and kept being hostile and threatened to break up with me but I know that was the bipolar talking. His family and mine suggested that we separate so he could focus on his health. My mom said to let him go. I’m sad but I know that he is more than just this illness. He’s smart kind and charming and I’ve always appreciated that about him and adore the 3 years we had. 😔

Thanks for sharing this. This helped me process and add some sanity to the recent breakup initiated by my girlfriend (who is on lithium for bipolar for a longtime now). We had our issues, but out of nowhere, after 4 years of being in this beautiful relationship, she decided to call it off, just like that - easy peasy. It crushed me looking at her face on the video call as she went about it, no hint of grief and remorse. Just like that, poof! It's like she didn't even care about the mountain of sorrow and pain that was being inflicted on me. She looked so stable. The person I thought I knew wouldn't even hurt a fly, but the way she hurt me here was nothing like her. Just cold as a stone. It's week 2 since the breakup and I'm barely surviving. She, on the other hand, is out and about enjoying her new life. The amount of disbelief and pain I'm in is indescribable.

I have bipolar 2 and am married. I can really empathize with this - thank you.

it hurts hearing how much all of this is exactly like my ex. it's a shame because even though it's not their fault, their behavior is so abusive, toxic and hurtful that you just can't stay with them despite how much you love them. it's really a shame for them too because they'll never be able to maintain a healthy relationship.

Bipolar 1 - I don't date because of Bipolar, have not for over 8 years now. I am chaos incarnate - I will never willingly bring another person into this chaos.

I have bipolar, I was in a ten year marriage that ended with pain, trauma, and heartache. I wish I had been treating my illness while I was in my marriage but it is what it is. I’m seeking help now because maybe one day someone new will see value in me again and I want to prove them right this time around. And I know I have a long road ahead of me.

Wow... thank you for this video! My wife just got diagnosed yesterday and I am trying to learn more about bipolar disorder. I have never been able to understand her withdrawals from me and would get so hurt. Listening to you explain this has really helped me understand what is going on. Thanks again and God bless you.

Thank you so much for your insights. I am in a relationship with a girl with bipolar and this video has given me so much clarity. Because of you, i will be able to love my partner more effectively with an understanding heart. Thank you, keep up the good work. You are a blessing.

I used to blame my husband a lot...when I was first diagnosed with bi-polar. Now I'm more aware,but you are right that no one talks about detachment as a symptom. Thanks for speaking out about this!

You may not have spoken at all about your faith directly, but indirectly you spoke volumes. Love is a choice and self-control is necessary for being a devout Christian and is so often talked about in Holy Writ. Your mental condition has taught you the importance of self-mastery. Something all who inspire to follow Christ must do. You have taken what many would consider to be a curse and made it a blessing. God has blessed you with Trevor who can love you unconditonally.

As someone who dated a guy with bipolar for 5 years, the issue you talked about at 7 minutes was the story of my life!

That was very interesting, I didn't know that much about bipolar disorder, thank you for being so open and sharing what it's like! I would just like to say one thing out of my experience of anxiety, depression and various other PTSD symptoms. Through trauma therapy I have learnt that it is not a good idea to reject emotions. I think it's great that you already know when you are perceiving reality through the distortion of your symptoms. If now you could start looking at them like children in pain who are seeking for your help, pleading for it, you could help them. You could start seeing them in pain and give them what they need and never got in their childhood. Really see them and listen to them and embrace and accept them as wounded parts of yourself (emphasis on parts of yourself!) and then just give them your absolute love. This is what I've learnt to be the way to health because those symptoms will come back all the time until they've gotten your loving attention, acceptance, embracing and re-integrating love. If you push them away like an enemy, you're further disintegrating. I wish everybody health and I hope you read that and find it a little helpful!

Liz you video spoke to me in a such a real and direct manner. I'm losing (divorce) my wife of 14 years of marraige, with 4 young children. After trying so hard to make things work between us, not only for me but for our children I have fallen into the 90%. I miss my wife. Thanks so much for this information. Your info is invaluable!!!

My partner of 17 years just got diagnosed. We noticed episodes and finally she had 3 episodes in a year and a half. I’m not going anywhere and have told her so. You had so much good information so thank you for your insight. She’s still in the hospital,(6 weeks) and from there she’s going to a group home for 2-3 weeks. I’ll check your other videos, this is a new one for me. She was diagnosed with depression and she’s been hospitalized 5 times in the 17 years we’ve been together. I’m just starting my journey about why she is like she is.

Spoke with my former pastor ( Church of the Nazarene) before I reverted back to the Catholic Church about this video. He has a friend who was just diagnosed with bi-polar and is considering showing this video to him. He was very impressed by your testimony

You are so helpful. Most people who talk about bipolar seem to be reading from the same script. You actually say the things that nobody seems to say about how things feel, things you realize that nobody told you, you make things real and understandable. Thanks.

Wow! This is One of the most helpful videos I’ve ever watched about bipolar disorder. My husband of 23 years is manic and off his meds and in denial right now about bipolar disorder. Your video helped me so much to understand what is going on with him.

Hi Lizzie, I just wanted to point out a small correction on what you said about women and medication in pregnancy. Generally the protocol for women who are looking to get pregnant and who are on medications is to first try to switch them to non teratogenic (meaning meds that are not known to cause deformities and damage to a fetus, or at least are lacking positive evidence that they cause damage) medications if possible, or else to try to wean them off medication entirely if the psychiatrist and other members of the medical team feel that the person is well enough to attempt to be off medications (as you said, other methods of management can be used as well to try to manage illness if this route is taken). However, if a woman is likely to relapse into a depressive, manic, or psychotic episode without medications, taking into account that pregnancy itself is strong risk factor for relapses into all three conditions listed above, the woman will be kept on medication. If the woman absolutely has to stay on a medication such as lithium (which is teratogenic) and cannot be put onto a safer substitute for the fetus, the general understanding in the medical community is that the risk posed to both parties, mother and fetus, by a relapse into severe psychiatric illness outweights the risk of taking a teratogenic drug. The woman of course makes the choice about which route to take after being given the information needed to come to an informed decision, but it is not true that women are generally simply allowed to relapse into severe psychiatric illness to avoid fetal deformity or demise. As well, the risk of many drugs is actually lower than most people think, and the time frame at which they are most harmful is very early pregnancy for most drugs. This means that if a woman finds out she is pregnant after the window in which the fetus forms his or her organs, the first 8 weeks of fetal life, the woman can often be left on her current medication regime even if it is not the drug which is safest for the baby, since if damage was going to be done it would likely have already occurred. There are some exceptions to this but as far as I know this is generally the protocol. Just pointing this out because one of the arguments made for why abortion is needed is that women are sometimes forced off their medications when they have severe psychiatric illness and become pregnant, when in fact the mother's health is not left to severely deteriorate (which would also seriously harm the fetus as well) in order to avoid the possible risk of damage to fetal development.

Good video, Liz. I’m sorry you had memory loss. Our minds are something we shouldn’t trust too. We will never know if we forget our memories. Since you mentioned dimenta, one of my favorite bands, My Epic has a song called “Wive’s Tale.” Their song were inspired by a friend’s father who has dimenta, the singer, Aaron Stone, wrote about his wife if she is going to have it, and wonders if it is something they will get through it. The best part of the song is God is with them. No matter what happens. I do ask myself those questions if my future wife and I are going to go through those trials. Thank you for making this video. I love you too. 🤗

Thank you for making these very insightful videos My ex has manic depression and these kinds of videos give me faith that we can work things out and be together again She told me from the beginning but I didn’t understand any of it until after the breakup. Since then, I did some research and found your videos that have explained the many stages that we have been through together I truely love her but she does not accept it and the more I show her, the more disconnected she becomes We used to be inseparable and then, like you said, overnight, everything changed

Only those of us who are connected with someone with Bipolar illness, understand the dynamics of the illness. Sometimes it frightens me. If I didn't have faith in God, things would be hopeless. Thank you for this insight.

Marriages in general have a 50% divorce rate. The Bipolar person on his or her best night will always sweep someone off their feet with their charm. Come Depressive season, the other person will question where the interest has gone, meanwhile the Bipolar person will be so emotionally distraught that they may lose the person they are falling for. It's really tragic, because being Bipolar we can give so much, but the depression will take everything everytime. Eventually you just work on yourself and spare the next soul.

Lizzie, it is good for Trevor that you realize this condition is going to cause him pain and suffering in addition to yourself in your relationship. You two are not the only couple who must face these and other mental health challenges. My aunt and uncle were married for over 50 years. She suffered from mental illness caused by childhood trauma. She underwent medication and shock therapy for most of her adult life. There were periods when she was in severe depression and had to be admitted to a psychiatric ward for care. However, her husband stood by her side because he loved her. My aunt finally died in the blessed state of holy matrimony. Her husband was with her at the funeral too, just as he had always been. If Trevor loves you, he will always be there. Work hard on your illness now and later so that you can always be there for him. Love is a gift. It is self donation. Love is not about what "we" deserve. It is about what we give to the ones we love...

When you started talking abut memories I started crying too, I have 3 kids and the blankness is so sad 😭

thank you for these videos lizzie, they are helping me so much in my bipolar journey

Thank you Lizzie, this video helps a lot. I just watched your three latest videos and I can empathize and relate to some of the things you’ve experienced. I am not Bipolar but I’m on the high end of the Autism Spectrum. Many people that are on the Autism Spectrum also have OCD. I take medication because I have OCD and ADHD. Sometimes I start to wonder why I’m even on medication because I feel so emotionless and am sick to my stomach. I am not a Catholic Christian, I’m evangelical and currently a member of a Southern Baptist Church. I grew up attending a Charismatic Christian Church and a Southern Baptist Church. Much of my mom’s side of the family used to be Church of Christ, that is until they switched to Southern Baptist. I just graduated Oklahoma Wesleyan University with a degree in History and Political Science, I also got a minor in Business. I’m familiar with scripture and have been exposed to many sides of Christian Theology. I love watching your videos Lizzie and hope you keep up the good work, God bless!

My girlfriend of 13 years has bipolar. One day she went Manic and stole over a million dollars from me and poisoned me. Before that we never even had an argument. It's simply the worst illness on the planet. Now she is a drug addict and had her baby taken from her. If your bipolar. Stay on your meds. Do not think what you feel is real. its not. She was the kindest nicest person in the world before her episode. There is nothing worse. She was my soul mate i and i was hers. I have never recovered from it. She is type 1.

Hi Lizzie, how long does the emotional detachment usually last for you before you go back to being ok with Trevor?

I’m beginning to think that I could have a mild form of bipolar and even though I’ve gone to therapy for depression I’ve never stuck with it, and only ever tried going in college, I appreciate this video, it answers a lot of problems I’ve experienced in relationships where I don’t feel loved and now I’m realizing that it was probably not the other persons fault. I plan to start therapy again as soon as I can, and I really appreciate your openness in your videos. Thank you♥️

My girlfriend has bpd its a pain in the ass. If you want deal with an irrational flakey flip flopping non communication depressed person that make you feel like your the crazy person. This girl is prime example of what to expect. All bi polar people say the same thing we deserve love but we are going to run away lie cheat mislead run away more etc. Its a nightmare coming home to them gone along with the contents of the house. Not coming home runming away its horrible.

This video has really helped me understand more about my bipolar. I’m exactly this way and i get sooo detached from my relationship with my husband and forget about everything he has done for us and our children. It gets so incredibly hard for me to get out of my detachment from him. But I try to remember everything he has done, and he’s honestly the most amazing and kind and loving person I have ever been with. But I forget those things and I lash out at him for dumb and stupid things and I feel horrible at the end. I’m currently experiencing rapid cycling with my emotions and it has both me and my family extremely exhausted. I go to therapy tomorrow.

Hi Lizzie... I'm not bipolar, but I loved listening through your experience. I think you do have a sense of self bc you are SOO in tuned with your emotions. Regardless, if at times, your mental illness does take over, I think that deep down inside, you know. It's just a matter of sense of control... or lack thereof. I love how you accept your illness, and you try diff outlets to overcome it. Mostly, I love how you share your experiences with others bc there's many out there who go through the same emotions you do... and they feel they are all alone. You have such great content- your research, your self reflection- it's helped many. You are their godly counsel. Thank you for being you. Thank God for you. I will pray for you and your well-being. Much love and blessings, Lizzie

Hi Lizzie! From morning prayer: No eye has seen, no ear heard, nor the heart of man conceived, what God has prepared for those who love him; - these things God has revealed to us through the Spirit, who searches everything, even the depths of God. Don't forget to come to NJ

I have depression, anxiety, ptsd, and a cognitive impairment from brain damage. My girlfriend is bipolar. I try my best to understand that she has an illness when things get bad. I do okay with that and let a lot of things go. At the end of a bad stretch, though, I am depressed and my anxiety is telling me all kinds of horrible things. Its rough sometimes. Keeping it honest, she has a lot to go through too. I shut down and push away when I'm depressed.

After 41 years I just realized three days ago I’m bipolar. One divorce going on two bipolar explains my whole life.

Why do people with bipolar say we shouldnt stigmatize when the professionals say that bipolar people have messy chaotic relationships with family and friends even with medications? like I know the stigma probably dosent help you heal or stabilize your mood but it is true.

I was loved and then hated overnight. No explanation. You are my king to you dont understand me. And poof gone. Been 5 months and I’m still perplexed.

I've been unmedicated for 15 years with bipolar, I found that no matter the combination of drugs they always made episodes worse and more frequent. Being unmedicated I have consistently fallen into manic relationships which explode when the mania ends. It's not fun, and it's hard on the people I date even if they know about bipolar.

I'm in the process of getting diagnosed with bipolar and came across your videos. It is so validating to hear your experiences because I can relate in so many ways! I'm also a Christian and God is a huge part in my life. So trying to navigate this with my faith and how God comes in to play and to hear you talk about your faith is so helpful! Keep up the videos!

I am reeling after an 8 month long mania induced by medication. I never really understood any of this and this is probably the perfect video to see.

I think it’s also good to write down red flags or things that aren’t great just Incase you’re passing off bad things and ask friends if anything is wrong because you may get stuck in a toxic relationship convincing yourself that it’s just you.

This is a great well explained video. My husband is bipolar. It has been a rollercoaster

Truth be told, I've ignored your bipolar videos up until now because I thought they didn't apply to me. However, my mother confessed this past weekend that I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 7 years old. She kept it from me and got a second opinion from a doctor who said I had ADHD and an "unidentified mood disorder" that he said would probably turn into bipolar disorder. Knowing that I was diagnosed bipolar, it makes a lot of things in my life makes so much sense. It also means that both me and my fiancé have bipolar disorder, so I'm really hoping that us both experiencing the same thing will help us make it into the 10% of bipolar marriages that make it.

Thank you so much! This is EXACTLY what I was going through with my husband! This is exactly what I was looking for, honest, clear, and informative.

My gf of 9 years left me two days after having a realization that she wasn't happy. This was 5 months ago. Really broke my heart. In the past she would come back within a few months. Feel like she's gone forever this time. Sucks cause she never told me there was an issue prior to the break up. She made the decision without really hearing me out or even meeting in person. I love her for who she is despite the polar but I doubt I'll ever date anyone with this condition again. To have to move on from a 9 years relationship with no closure is traumatizing. I feel for polar people but when you have someone that really loves you why cut them off? That's a form of abuse. I will never be the same again.

They say such horrible things that are hard to forgive, especially if their mental illness is coupled with other mental illnesses and a nasty narcissistic personality. I get told he wishes I would die to he doesn’t know what he would do without me in one day. 5 years later my brain is scrambled. I live with one foot out the door. Problem for me, I can’t afford an apt alone on fixed income. I keep looking though. Always. He drove away 2 wives and now his Mother is in a nursing home. She was very similar to him. I have my own health problems and anxiety, depression & OCD. I see him ending up on a park bench and it breaks my heart but as soon as I can go I’m leaving.

You are amazing. You see things so clearly. You bring the struggle to light. Thank you.

My husband left during a psychotic episode where I was the target. I finally heard from him a month later and he told me he loves me but not in love with me. He wants to divorce. We were so in love and had a healthy marriage. I am curious if I’ll hear from him again.

I haven’t viewed this video yet…..but my wife is bipolar and she has ruined my life and is presently making my life a nightmare. I’m divorcing her soon. The divorce process has already started. In a few days she will be served with divorce papers. I’m 71 years old and my life is over because of her. Most people don’t understand. She is also extremely narcissistic. She has spent us into poverty. My daughter does not want her to live with my daughter and her family for fear my wife will ruin my daughter’s marriage. My life is hell on earth. I’m not so sure bipolar is my wife’s biggest problem. Her biggest problem is Narcissism. She has been in jail for theft. Also tried to fake a credit card number to buy $8000 worth of Christmas presents. Also threw away about $500 away on extra junk EVERY MONTH…when I couldn’t even afford to pay cash for a pair of shoes. She tried to impress new friends with a fake British accent. She got kicked out of a couple stores….one for attempted theft. She lost three jobs because of the way she acts. You mentioned yelling. My wife yells at me everyday as a way to try to control me. So toward the end of me writing this I have also been listening to the video…..you did an excellent job of making this video. I hate this world…..I just want to go to Heaven now. “”I’m tired””.

Your Explanations are so Point on even in Relationships... Im so going through with my Fiance He's So Bipolar, he doesn't even know it!!!! Needs help!!!

90% of the people lack the mental power, strength and patience to understand, help and live with a bipolar. Living with a bipolar is like living with multiple personalities, one of which is normal, and the rest are distructive to the spouce. Manic; spending and flirting and aggressive, depressed; does nothing productive and brings spirit down. Not to mention eating disorder, drinking, negativity, lack of emotions, inappreciation... etc. The negative behavior outweighs the positive. Those who can live with a bipolar person are strong in their minds.

Thank you for sharing this video ❤️

I wish my ex wife has same understand like you, i would have never divorced. she was diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder and doesn't want to accept she has bipolar 2 illness and doesn't want to take meds on daily basis. she would lie when asked that she took meds, sometime i have to watch or sit nearby to make sure shes taking meds or not. she told me she is totally fine and doesnt want to take med and im givng her poison(meds). we been married for 3 years. waited for her to get well or stable so we can have baby, but after trying to make her well and all the suffering, i lost all hope end up with divorce in march 2019. Its been 7 months in Oct 2019, i Still love her and miss her...why god did this to her...this illness ruined both of our lives. and now shes looking for another life partner, i understand its her choice, but i still care for her and doesnt want anyone to hurt her due to her illness.

I relate so much to every single thing you have said! Iv been married for 6 years to my husband who was recently diagnosed. Our entire relationship has been such a Rollercoaster. He is hospitalized right now and our marriage is on the rocks. His behavior is so confusing to me so this is extremely helpful. He is completely detached and is blaming me for everything.

There are some similarities between bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder.

Thank you for sharing, my husband is BP. I found this really insightful. I feel like when I know more about BP I'm a better partner.

My wife, whom has bp2, has hated me for almost a month. We've been married for 7 months, and she is now very depressed and blames me. Now she wants a divorce. I don't know what to do. I want to save my marriage. I love my wife, but I can't make her love me again.

I thought I got hurt .... but reading these comments , I think i dodged a very deadly , dangerous, and hurtful bullet ...Jesus 😅 😳

I'm diffently is going to get a divorce. I'm tired of the bull from my bipolor husband. I have dealt with his bull crap for over 2 decades and the love is no longer there.

Almost made the 10% unfortunately I’m now Just a statistic. I hung in there as long as I could 30 Years “slow learner” Unfortunately as everyone who’s watching this video already knows, living with someone with Bipolar wears on the person who doesn’t have this disorder.

when someone on youtube describes your love life uncomfortably well XD

Thank god you are a person. Thank you so much. someone finally gets it. the world is a much better place with you in it.

I've been married to a Bipolar woman for 25 years, In that time I've come home from work to a temporary restraining order and she gave all of my possessions away, became homeless (just me, not her) for three months in winter because of her, been back stabbed at every turn, done every household chore alone and endured thousands of other distressing incidents. I've been to hundreds of appointments with her and have been supportive in every way possible. I do not doubt that much of what you say is true, Let's admit it folks - some people are just immature, narcissistic, apathetic ,vessels that lack character, integrity, loyalty and honor. A bipolar diagnosis just enables these people to believe every other human being on this planet is here to serve them because they are perpetual victims. If this sounds cold so be it, but I'm 61 years old now in horrible health and I doubt my wife would call an ambulance if I collapsed at her feet. Thank God we never had children

I have had bipolar since 19 yr old & now I am 64 yrs old. I have been married for 39 yrs & raised 3 kids. I understand everything U R saying. I don't think I should have ever gotten married because it is not fair to my husband or my kids... 90% sounds about right. U think U can stay married 4EVER to Trever. Well, Yeah , U CAN stay married but most of it will be HELL 4 him....& U already know what U go thru !!! I can't wait to die :(

so its possible that my bipolar girlfriend dated me at the first place because she was manic but not because she felt something for me? she does say that she loves me from time to time but im not 100% sure. its been almost 4 weeks since the start of our relationship and i dont know if we only got this far just because she was manic. our love now feels different to when we started.

I just came across your videos and they're pretty informative from the perspective of someone with bipolar disorder. The reason for a 90% divorce rate is the cold hard fact that bipolar people just aren't stable enough to maintain a relationship long-term. Yes, there's that 10%, but that's an extremely rare outcome. It's the extreme level of insecurities, jealousy, and lack of trust mixed with dishonesty, manipulation, and projection that creates this instability. Then you throw in the lack of communication and impulsive behavior, as well as blaming others and it's a recipe for disaster. One day you're meeting their needs, the next, you're doing too much or not enough. That's even with medication and therapy. I've read that around 80% of those diagnosed with bipolar disorder have a severe condition and that a vast majority also suffer from other mental illnesses as well. That kind of push-pull, up-down rollercoaster is impossible to sustain long-term.

Things happen. Im dealing with my girl having bipolar and depression. I cant always tell the difference between manic episodes. I feel heartache everyday. But i keep it to myself. Been together 2.5 years. I think about leaving sometimes due to the heart aches. But i have to remind myself she loves me. But then again is it worth it? I dont want to go through this year after year. This is what goes through my mind on a weekly basis. I try not to take things to the heart. I am a loyal guy but doubts come n go as more time goes by without intamicy. Point being.. this is my first time expressing this.

So, I never, ever, ever considered that my wife would ever leave me, and she did just that after 18 years of marriage. We have 3 kids together, and one of my kids is autistic. I can tell you that I never felt like it was my fault the reasons she left. I can also tell you that I felt that she stopped caring well before it ended and I could see it. I feel one of the worst things to do to someone with bipolar is to leave or abandon them, it's literally one of the worst feelings in my life and that I can still feel today. She left in 2018 and it's been almost 3 years, and the fvcking sad part is I would still take her back. Can you say loser?

15:10 so true about pregnancy. I have bipolar 2 and that was a huge obstacle I wish I was prepared for.

I'm so glad you know about medication and giving birth!! My mom told me that. My ex didn't listen to my therapist. I've been celibate for 16 years.

I'm currently in a relationship with an amazing girl who is bipolar, and I really want to be with her. We've gone through what you mentioned where we broke up and got back together. We're together again but now my parents are hesitant about the relationship. I know it's my decision to be with who I want to be, but I would like it if my parents didn't see her so badly. It doesn't help that we have a family friend who grew up with a bipolar mother and didn't have the best childhood. What can I do so that they like her again ?

Thank you for this. Well explained. I showed this to my wife, she has put up with way too much because of my bipolar. I hoped she would get something from this but all she heard was DIVORCE. It backfired on me. I’ll keep trying. Still thank you for the words and the emotion.

💔 thank you for your vulnerability. I’m sorry for your pain.

Have trevor make a video of how he has been dealing with you?

Very helpful video! I am extremely in love with a bipolar person. As for everyone, all was so intense and great the first 3-4 months. Then he took his distance all of a sudden. Said he is not sure if he loves me. And since I have these questions, probably I am right and he is not in love. I stayed. Two months later he was in love again. And then distant. Most of the time he needs his space. With his male friends. He never talks about the future. Never. Its more than a year now together. I am older and I dream of children and family. People advise me to run away. I can't. Also my full nature as a person was always the caregiver kind. I love him dearly and his wellbeing is important for me. How you can run away from someone you love for real? I know also if we break up in 2-3 months max. he will have another girl. Can those people really love?

I have been with my partner for over 6 yrs..had an affair 2x during episodes...the last one about 5 to 6 months ago broke me. Went to therapy and found out she was extremely manic, then severely depressed then on a mixed state. She's still on medications which she has been for about 10 years. She would be apologetic, wanted me and loved me to not wanting to be in a relationship with me. To cut the story short I still am fighting for her, for us. Educated myself a ton the past months and understood more and more. I am also choosing to forgive every single day. Rn, we have been messaging and talking everyday. We see each other briefly for lunches or dinner. I'd like to think we are on our way to healing. She knows I am waiting for her stability again. We both know we love each other and we just needed to forgive each other for what happened. Thank you for this. I am not going down without a fight. She tells me she appreciates everything I do especially still being here for her despite of. She's the love of my life and I am going to do everything and wait as long as it takes.

Hi again Lizzie! Here's something of interest from today's gospel: "Because of the hardness of your hearts he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." Please read it over carefully, slowly, as it addresses many things. We love you. Peace

This is brilliant. I've never heard a better explanation.

I know how too beat the divorce odds for bipolar marriage every time. I've been married twice and am really considering getting married again. I never had to go through with divorce not even once. The solution is so simple. It just requires one of the spouses dying. Yep it's just as simple as that. Cool right?

Wow thank you for making these videos it has explained so much I didn't know about bipolar disorder my girlfriend and wife to be said she was tapering off her medication I knew she had some kind of depression but I didn't think so much of it she was such a good awesome women to me but just recently she broke up with me I didn't understand why but you explained it so good it sounds like exactly what is happening I'm waiting for her hopefully she will come back and remember all that we had what can I do to help are situation she is worth it I I will go the extra miles for her

If you're bipolar then why torture yourself with failed relationships? Just recognize you will dispose of them all over time and adopt a lifestyle that takes that reality into account.

I'm in the 10 percent!.. Marry a Saint!!

90% bi-polar marriages fail because they don't even believe they have an issue at all. My wife cured herself. No meds! Then divorced me! Yep, I'm the 90%. Thank god I don't have to deal with her ever again...

Thank you Lizzy I've been married with my bipolar spouse for the past 2 years and we have been struggling to remain in the 10%, this was very enlightening. We've watched your videos off and on. I hope this helps other people in bipolar relationships. Unfortunately, she is in a detached state from her depression and wishes to leave. I only wish for her happiness. I will show her this video. I will continue to love and support her. I wish for her happiness. I don't know if listening to her in this current state and giving her the divorce will help her. I've been through this with her twice before due to either mania or depression. I'm just trying to be patient and supportive. Ive done a lot of research over the years and before we decided to get married. You mentioned how biologically the hippocampus stops recording memories. She goes through the same thing. Where did you find your resources for your memory loss?

Hi all, I've been with my wife for 22 years (married for 14), 2 kids 10 and 6, 6 months ago she was diagnosed with bipolar, 3 months ago we separated. It was like a switch. Over the space of about a week she fell out of love with me and couldn't stand to be around me. She's already living with a new guy and making it very difficult for me to see the kids. Everything in this video makes perfect sense and has just happened to us. My question is, would she be likely to switch back or is this the new reality? I look forward to hearing what you think.

My bipolar 2 wife decided to divorce me. I messed up but not nearly bad enough for a divorce and she doesn’t even want to give me a chance. Together for 9 years and it was all for nothing...

I think I may be the luckiest girl in the world- I have bipolar 2, and I know that I can be really difficult to deal with ;( But my boyfriend is the most patient, compassionate, kind, and loving human being I have ever known. He helps me manage my bipolar (encourages me to eat healthy, get regular exercise, sleep well, take my medication, tracks my period, etc.) I am trying really hard to be a better partner for him. I get so nervous that I will be "too much" for him, but I truly believe that we will make it because we are both putting forth the effort to face this together. I don't know how he does it, but he always knows how to calm me down. I literally can feel my whole body relax when he holds me. I am the luckiest girl in the world.

Thank you for courageously sharing your story. I am 45 and was diagnosed with bipolar II 2 years ago. Unfortunately, my doctors have not really explained all these symptoms. I am just learning why I do what I do, and why my life has been so ... crazy. I have nearly left my husband twice. The first time was after 6 years of married life. The second time was last year. We experienced the worst 2 years in our 24-year relationship. I was experiencing the worst depression of my life and had several mixed episodes and severe hypomania. It doesn't help that my husband also suffers from PTS. I am going to show this video to my husband. Maybe it will help him understand us. I know it has certainly given me a lot of clarity.