DATING SOMEONE WHO'S BIPOLAR: WHAT NOT TO DO! 

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Asking a bipolar person “are you manic?!” whenever they’re mad is like asking a girl “are you on your period?!” whenever shes mad

My girlfriend is bipolar. It's tough but she is absolutely WORTH it. This video has REALLY helped

Ive been diagnosed with BP type 1and I highly recommend exercise, daily meditation, journalling, creating a daily routine and good sleeping habits. All the best

The absolute love of my life is bipolar, she told me about it in the very beginning, and I told her that no matter what she comes with, that she is absolutely worth it. Being bipolar, is only a slice of her life pie. She’s currently in one of her lows, but I told her I’ll hold it down until my teammate is back on her feet. I promised her no matter what, I’m never going to give up on her. I’m here so I can better understand, and be the best version of myself for her during those rough times. No matter what sweetest, I’ll never give up on you. I love you Mariah ❤️.

I just wanna eat ice cream and feed ducks at the park, with someone special

The person I'm in love with is bipolar. We are going through a rough phase cause of that. I hope everything will be fine. I will always be there for him. He's worth it.

I met my boyfriend through his manic moments and I never understood his constant happiness and excitement. He told me about his diagnosis 4 months in when he became depressed and started pushing me away. It’s been so hard not to blame myself for his pain. I really appreciate you and this video because I feel like I can better understand how he feels now

I spent 11 years with the Love of my life and she was Bi Polar...She passed at 21. I will always love Her. She was my Best friend :)

When you find the right person, he won't care that you have to take a pill. He will be in for whatever.

Am i the only one that cried sooooo hard during watching????? And was answering to the video like crazy?

18 years with my wife. Not gonna lie... takes a lot of work. Create a space where you can find some peace with yourself. I have the garage. sometimes I have to retreat. She is the most amazing woman , When she is "up" she moves the world. Medical director in a major trauma center, when she is "down" she struggles to get off the couch. As the husband and primary care giver of our son I have to be the steady hand....It can suck. There is a constant pressure to be that rock also care for yourself..

I know when my bi polar is acting up... I want to pack up and move house and city. I want to drop everything and just go

I’m watching this, when I’m the one who’s Bipolar in the relationship, it feels a little weird to re-learn these things about myself.

I was in a relationship with someone who’s bipolar, and after some of the best few months of my life, she fell into a deep depressive state and started pushing me away. I have a reasonable understanding of depression, so I essentially braced for impact, but alas, after a month of that, we broke up, saying she “can’t be in a relationship”. A month or so later, after a few texts implying she missed me, we reconnected, and she explained that she still loved me, and she didn’t want to hurt me. We started dating a little bit again, but then another deep depression kicked in and though we live 10 minutes from each other and text each other daily, I haven’t seen her in over a month. To say that my heart aches is an understatement, but everything you said rings so true. She’s said she wants to “protect me”, that she doesn’t want to hurt me, etc. I just haven’t figured out how to best say that I’m willing to be there for her during the ups and downs. I’m not sure what my exact point is, but the one thread of hope I have is your advice to let her know I’m ok if her BP hurts me. So thank you for that little nugget.

I feel in love with a man that has bipolar 2. After telling me he didn’t love me out of the blue, I was done. It had been the better part of a year being selfless - giving him space, encouraging him, everything. Most of my life I’ve had close friends with bipolar disorder. Being involved romantically is different, yes. But they emphasized that type of behavior is unstable. I said “You don’t love me but I’m praying for you. Glad you found a new doctor. You’ll get what you need and want.” He has a habit of getting in touch after a couple of days but if he doesn’t love me, I don’t see the point.

Having bipolar disorder is really hard. I hate how my boyfriend has to mold his life around me, and you just spoke facts about my whole life

I feel like damaged goods. Especially as a male, since we're traditionally the ones that "do the chasing" and compete for the attention of women. I feel like I'm a less viable candidate than the other men so I always subconsciously start pulling back when I feel like the girl might be getting into me. I'm not really sure how I'm going to get over that.

seven years with a bipolar wife i love her so much thank you for this video its so hard to be strong for her when she goes off.

It’s hard dating someone bipolar. & I have have a short fuse so it doesn’t mix well.

It feels like the older I get, the more it starts to amplify. The more I'm starting to realize BP, the more embarrassed and shameful I get.

My wife suffers from bipolar one. To help me understand bipolar disorder and become a better partner for her I found a book that’s made a worlds difference. It’s called loving someone with bipolar disorder: second edition by Julie A Fast and John D Preston. I highly recommend it for both people in a relationship. Great video.

As someone that has bipolar this video was so spot on and accurate. As a male I have experienced all of this in my relationship with my beautiful, amazing and supportive girlfriend and it tears me apart putting her through it. I have told her numerous times to just leave me that I don’t deserve her and she doesn’t deserve to go through this with me, but she’s stood by me and refuses to give up on me or allow bipolar disorder to pull us apart. She’s the love of my life and the most amazing girlfriend I could ask for. Thank you so much for making this video

I cried during this video, especially about trying to protect people from myself.

Well relationships are a roller-coaster for most people, throw some Bi polar into it and it just has higher highs and lower lows, and occasionally a corkscrew to throw you off. When two people love each other, truly love each other they learn to just hold on tighter. So my answer is to find a cuddler ;)

This is so my husband, everything you described on how they are, the constant breaking up, fears, unsure, insecurities, everything. He was just diagnosed in April. He's 23... Its a struggle everyday, but its something I'm willing to deal with if he let's me. Thanks Lizzie...

I'm seeing this video much later, but thank you for leaving it up. My boyfriend is dealing with bipolar disorder, and just ended it with me because he didn't want to keep hurting me, and said I deserved better. I really wanted to try with him, but I think he's made up his mind. Thank you for shedding some light on what may be going on in his mind at this time.

i was 100% casualty from being broken up with out of the blue , but now that I finally understand “ it wasn’t me “ just like she said

As someone who has a girlfriend of 5 years with bipolar, i really appreciate this insightful video.

Ah I have bipolar and literally relate to everything you said. This helped me realize a lot of things lol. My advice would be that if someone is honest and open about their bipolar with you and you aren't ready to handle it, TELL THEM. Don't drag on a relationship if you aren't ready to fully commit (in any circumstance) but specifically with those who are bipolar, because we feel emotions so strongly it could have some terrible effects on our emotional state and maybe even trigger an episode if the relationship goes on too long and suddenly ends out of nowhere, when you finally can't handle it anymore. Just be very mindful about what you want as well, because a relationship works both ways. And there's no shame in admitting to not be capable of handling someone with bipolar (or any mental health issue), some people aren't capable of dealing with that level of emotion, and some people are. That would be my advice :)

The person I like has bipolar disorder and I want to help him out,give him all of the love and support in the world he deserves. Thank you for this video.

Who is here in 2019? This video is really helpful

You are the main reason I was diagnosed. I'm in my early 30s and you describe me in basically every video of yours that I've watched. It's weird but you've caused me to explore more about myself and how my past relates to who I am currently.

I met a doctor last year while we were visiting another country we were together for almost a year I thought I would have spend the rest of my life with him but I couldn't deal with his bipolar anymore, he has humiliated me so many times. One day I packed my bags and returned to my country and never looked back. I loved him but I love myself more😪

This was incredibly thought out and correct , very thorough look through in the realm of dating. I was in tears in the way you kept your view positive and covered things people don’t ever talk about , very uplifting and I thank you for doing this . Sharing that big brain of yours 💛💛💛💛👍🏼🌸🌸🌸love from CA

The way you articulate what is going on is so accurate! Thank you for giving a voice to those who don't have one.

The video came right on time. I felt all kind of emotions. I've thought about getting into a relationship but I'm so cautious and afraid because of the complex things that you mentioned ! I am scared of hurting others but I want to love too

I'm here a couple months after you posted this but I want to say thank you. My girlfriend is bipolar and I just went through one of the hardest weeks of my life to understand everything now because she is in a very depressed state. Everything you covered made me feel better for the first time in days. Thank you so much for this video.

Wow, This video has helped me understand my disorder. I’ve recently been diagnosed within the last few months and it’s been so hard to wrap my head around everything. I’ve always felt “abnormal” and out of sync with everyone. I felt like I’ve felt emotions on a higher level all of my life. Some how being told that “this is what you have” has been a relief for me. So thank you for making this video. It’s helped me understand that meaningful relationships are possible with someone like me whether it be friends or with a significant other. -Stephanie

She said “I accidentally dated” Lmao I’m done

You have made my whole life finally make sence. Im watching me when I hear you talk. I'm 35 and I finally don't feel alone. Your amazing

Your videos are so relatable to me. Thank you for making me feel less alone.

I just want to say that I just started dating someone who has bipolar and this was EXTREMELY helpful. So thank you so much for going into the detail you did about this

I've shared this video to family and friends. I love this. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. It's just nice to know that someone else truly gets it and could answer these questions.

Accidently dating someone. LOL I've been there before.

Thank you so unbelievably much for the insights you gave me with your video. This girl I've been seeing for a few months deals with this condition, and I didn't even realize how many little things I may have been doing that just made things more difficult for her. So, I'm really grateful, thank you.

I dated a girl who's bipolar. On one of our dates, we were joking with each other, and all of a sudden, she locked onto one of my jokes and turned it into something completely different, broke things off with me, told me, "I thought you were a really nice guy." And the very next day, she starts talking to me again like nothing ever happened.

You just explained my entire 12 yr marriage that ended recently. I wish I knew these things decades ago! I could have been less reactive and more understanding. Thank you for helping me to forgive and begin to move on with my life!

For the first time in my life I feel like someone understands me. Thank you for sharing this video it meant the world to me. I’ve felt so alone for so long

You explained exactly what I needed to say to my boyfriend. I have hours where I go from being in love to disgusted. I also harbor emotions like excessively. Like if he does something that hurts me it stays. My thoughts are all over the place because of my bi-polar. Thinking of going in meds but am afraid of the side effects. So thank you I tell him all the time he's better of alone and it's selfish for me to hurt him or putting him through all this

Lizzie you are so smart and good at explaining the bipolar in detail. It's nice to listen to someone who understands everything I feel. Appreciate your videos

Thank you so very much for your candor. Published on my bday no less. You've really helped me. I've read Loving someone with Bipolar, and it was the most helpful of the books I've read. Still, hearing your feels directly from your mouth. Has really been helpful. You're brave and selfless to have taken the time to do this. Good luck on your journey!

Thank you so much for sharing this. I cried watching it because someone who can explain it and relate helps to not feel so alone.

Thanks for this useful video. I’m dating a bipolar man. We have been through so many trails, but he never give up on me. He’s a loving man I have ever met in my whole life. He’s worth the effort.

Thank you for making this video. You put into words what has been happening in my brain for years. I’m going to share this with my husband and possibly my other loved ones. I love a lot. Thank you!!!!

Lizzie is a blessing from God I swear, you have saved me so many times from doing something ill regret I'm currently going through the switch right now, where everything was ok in the relationship and then just stopped all love feeling gone and I'm really struggling to hold on, I'm praying this episode passes

Lots of great advice! I have bipolar 2 and just started my channel to share how I manage it. Thanks for helping reduce stigma! P.s. I’ve been married almost 10 years and I consider it my greatest accomplishment 😊

I met this gorgeous amazing lady. It's been like three months interacting with her on both voice and text. Met in person aswell. Their is so much I love about her! I noticed she would be in different moods at different moments and i would interpret and mitigate this on text and voice. The emotional high and lows can easily derail you. But Sincerely its totaly worth it because to me she is beautiful on the inside and outside. All she needs is my unconditional support, patience, time, space and consistency.

Thank you so much for making this video... I'm 23, and this is the first year I received the right diagnose. I've always wondered why all of my romantic relationships are like this, and now I feel more secure in my emotional instability because of my illness. Also, it makes it easier to communicate the patterns with potential partners.

I’m so happy I found your page and saw this video. You explain the feelings perfectly.

I once fell in love with someone who had bipolar disorder. Got hurt in the process loving her but I appreciate the experience.

I think my boyfriend is bipolar but not diagnosed! He has always been in trouble growing up or fighting but not anymore. However, he will go from being so in love with me and doesn't want no one to ever be with me to him feeling not in love or he isn't good enough for me... He will say, " I want to be able to provide for you and I am unsure I can do that".... He is always wanting to buy new things, new cars, and do things on impulsive..... then he has times where he just will quit his job!

You just said EXACTLY how I feel. I be talking to my fiance and he always says things like "I'm not going to claim your Bipolar" and "There's nothing wrong with you." He doesn't understand that I'm trying to control my emotions and save our relationship. You just personified all of my feelings. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this.

Thank you for posting this. You addressed a couple of specific points that really helped me understand what’s going on, in a way I haven’t seen them addressed before. This was exactly what I needed today

You’re such a sweet person. My partner is diagnosed bipolar. I love what you said and I think it is very helpful. No matter what a person goes through, everyone deserves love. If I could do it all over again, I would still choose my partner over and again.

Definitely needed this. You’re reading my life!

The amount of times I had to remind myself that my relationship made me happy when I was in a depression stage was a lot of effort.

Thank you for this information. This really gives me insight on what to do and not to do when dating the guy I am currently seeing.

WOW girl, cannot thank you enough for this video.. I've been dating my bipolar boyfriend for over a year now who still refuses to seek help and let me tell you, it is HARD. I love my boy with my whole heart and am trying SO hard to be more understanding of what he feels

I just wanted to say as someone who has been struggling with bipolar for 35 years I am impressed with your knowledge and wisdom on this subject at such a young age and recent diagnosis.

Yo I've never seen your channel before, but you are incredibly well spoken and I really appreciate this video. Thanks! 💕💕

Thank you so much for this video. It really helped me understand what my baby is going through.

Wow. You literally just described everything I’ve ever gone through with bi polar with every relationship I’ve ever been in. I honestly thought I was crazy because I didn’t know anyone else experienced this...

thank you. my boyfriend might be bipolar but he hasn't been diagnosed yet. your video has helped me so much you don't even realize.

Wow wow wow, can't begin to explain how much light you shed on my situation, a million questions answered that I could never make sense of, thank you so very much!!!

this is very accurate. I appreciate you having the courage to put yourself out there like this. I'm struggling reaching out to my significant other and explaining to her what's going on. she knows I'm bi polar, but like most, she simply can't understand it. I've been looking for ways to explain it and this was pretty spot on including the music references

Thank you so much for sharing. I could definitely relate on so many levels. I have bipolar and I’m the same way. I’ve broken it off with so many guys to protect them too

I’ve been with my man for 5 years... and I can relate to things you’re explaining. I give him props for dealing with me smh 😔

Thank you for you and your video that helps me understand the person I love! I used to not understand completely some of the emotions that my partner was having towards me or a situation, you have brighten my life right now so thank you!

NO DISRESPECT. I HAD A BIPOLAR GIRLFRIEND BEFORE. IT'S HELL ON EARTH. I'LL NEVER DO IT AGAIN...

I have a hard time in both manic and depressive states with relationships, especially if I am living with someone. I find being in a place alone with dating is more conducive to a healthy relationship for me. I have rapid cycle, and I think that is why dating works better than living with someone, because I don't have to be around the other person all the time and they can get my best days.

I'm laughing because it seems like this video is literally about me. Also didn't know Halsey was Bipolar and that's hilarious because I've always thought to myself, "wow it seems like me and Halsey have so much in common". LMAO literally will be in love with someone, the next day feel nothing towards them and completely cut them off and watch them try to demand answers from me while I say nothing and lay in bed with my dog.

This really helped me a lot. In going through this it’s hard not to take it personal, this video helped me understand that it’s not just me

Thank you so much for this video. Some of these things i try to explain but it's difficult to put it in words. Thank you for making it easier ❤️

I was dating with bipolar, I love him so much till now. But he is still angry with me, he don't love me anymore. I try hard to keep our relationship goes well, but he still want to end this romantic relationship. Please help me, I really want him to come back. I love him, so much

I’m so shock right now. I’m crying so hard cause you just said exactly what I think and feel. What I’ve been leaving and I don’t want to keep dealing w it. I’ve never seen anyone for bipolar disorder, but I have this problem every time I tried to date someone. I feel up in the clouds at the beginning and then out of no where i don’t feel the same way anymore. They just annoy me and I want them far away from me. And I also feel depressed when I was just leaving my best life. I’m starting to date someone and after 3 months I’m starting to feel this way again.. but this time I’m tired of the situation of me fucking things up cause I don’t know what’s wrong w me. I always end up pushing people away that at the end I do want to keep in my life, but is always too late when I finally get back to feeling “fine” again. And is so scary. I always end up hurting people that don’t deserve it. For a strange reason I decided to search for “bipolar love” and this pop out and I’m just shock. This time I decided to stay and keep going cause I know that at some point the good feeling comes back. So I’m fighting w it as is SO hard. Maybe is not something I’m supposed to battle alone and this is the sign that I needed to start working on my problem and live a happier life. 🙏🏽💛

Omg thank you so much for this video. You hit the nail on the head with this one. Wow.

That was great video, thank you! I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 weeks ago. So much truth in your words that it's not our decision to protect our significant one, and that he should decide for himself.

I really loved my bipolar boyfriend soooo much but Sorry he broke my heart over and over , I'm glad the relationship ends before he drives me crazy

I love this video, you explain it very well!

You are so strong!.. Thank you so much. You have helped me become more self aware of my actions. I plan on showing this to my boyfriend in the hopes it can help.. You touched on every little detail.... Thank you again, God Bless

Thank you for making this video. I sent this to my boyfriend to help him understand me more and why i act and react to things in our relationship. i really resignate with this video, thank you, seriously.

My partner has Bipolar 1. After we met initially things were going as they usually do in the beginning. I wasn't as aware about how bipolar manifests, all I knew was his diagnosis. Then couple months in, he must have become hypomanic, now that I think about it, coz he would always tell me that no matter how good or bad I was, he would accept me & have me as I am. And as relationships go, that's the best thing one wants to hear from their partner right ! He would talk about us resolving any conflicts that might arise as is natural, and he'd do anything to make it work. I was very happy with all of that. Then he had a manic episode & was shortly hospitalized. We had very little contact but we very still very much connected. Fast forward a few months after his discharge from the hospital, and he began having mixed episodes, but mostly depression. He became detached, distant, cold,mean, would get pissed off at me for no reason I could understand and ended up ghosting me for almost 3 months. Confused doesn't even come close to how I felt mentally & emotionally. More like rejected & abandoned I guess. I still texted him every now & then but didn't push things too much. One fine day he replied saying he just got too overwhelmed by my messeges. I still have no idea why. It might have been a form of self defense for him. It was just cruel to me. I also felt that he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Things still were rocky and he seemed to be in a haze after we started talking again. It got to a point that I made a conscious decision to end/stop things after 2 months, coz I spent all my time worrying about him while he wouldn't respond to any communication. He barely even reacted to me ending things. I got back in touch with him coz of this covid-19 pandemic, and apparently he thought I left him coz he got sick, he felt I ran and left him alone. Which is far from the truth, but I guess that's how he felt..... Anyways, it's not an easy road and without clear communication, things get all sorts of confusing. Thankfully, he's good with taking his meds and trying to maintain a sleep schedule, both are of utmost importance in bipolar management. He's still having mixed episodes, so I've been giving him some space right now and we're taking it one day at a time. And also understanding and accepting that it's not him, it's his illness. Again, not easy ! We've also gotta take care of our very own mental health as well. I love him deeply and just hope for his well-being.

You literally described my 8 year off and on relationship 100%.

Thank you for posting this. It really helped me clarify and put to words my feelings of being in romantic relationships. I do want to point out to those bashing us, especially thinking we are all cheaters or destructive towards those we are in relationships with. I have been with men when I was stable, and they put me through terrible hell with cheating and lying to me when I tried understanding why they blew me off for 3 days, but then told me why they wanted to be with me. When you are always criticized for being emotional, even when you are justified in being upset, you put a stop to your emotions. I feel it easier when stable because you do not feel a pull from either state. I feel though I am easier to take advantage of because of this, so I think others need to realize they can be toxic for others, diagnosed or not with a mental illness.

I'm bipolar, in my last relationship my ex didn't understand whatsoever, he took me missing work as me not wanting to work. He wasn't supportive at all, instead of being there for me, he constantly put me down. I left that relationship although it was hard, my life is so much better in every aspect. I have a sense of peace and contentment ! Bipolar people are AWESOME!!!!

I thankfully have been on a medication that keeps me from going into manic episodes. I'm happy with my fiancé and I can't wait to be his wife. We are great at communication. We make sure we communicate with each other. Even when I'm pushing him away he just sticks by my side and helps me through. I hate being bipolar. The night my fiancé saved my life was the night I knew he was the man I was going to marry and he is so good with all of my mental illnesses

I'm dying now. I crashed. I keep just wanting to lay in bed

It's like you're talking to me! I've been going through rough 18 months messing up my relationship on several occasions. People see these changes, cycles, of mood I have and I can see it now too. Going to talk to my MH Dr asap and get her to look at BPD of some sort! This video is crazily accurate thank you Lizzie!

I'm watching you for the first time and I'm glad I found you. I know this is a old video but it still holds true. I have bipolar disorder and this will help me in future relationships I think.