Kati! You need to know you saved my life recently! I accidentally took the wrong form of my migraine medication. For some context, being extremely sensitive to medications runs in my family. I take a very low dose in the mornings once a day to manage my migraines. I have been stable on it for 3 years. I was accidentally prescribed the extended release by my new GP, and after being on it for 12 days I developed insomnia and I was awake for 51 hours straight. I felt like I was dying. I have D/CPTSD and the over-medication of my nervous system sent me into overdrive. I went to the ER and was put on a psych hold, understandably. I have DID (diagnosed, in my medical records), and when I started referring to myself in the third person and trying to soothe myself like you would a small child, I thought they'd send me to the psych hospital, which would've been traumatizing. Thankfully, I know how to advocate for myself, and was able to communicate clearly that I wasn't in crisis- I just needed to sleep. They finally gave me Ativan, I was able to sleep, and they sent me home. I have a plethora of coping skills and have been putting myself back together over the last 3 weeks. I had to miss a week of work over this, but that's okay. I saw the GP who made the mistake and she apologized and we're working together to manage my sleep and anxiety. I also have a therapist I see weekly. I owe you a HUGE thanks for helping me learn coping skills, learn about my nervous system, and learn to be curious and not judgemental about myself. So, thank you, Kati. You were a part of my team this whole time and you never even knew it.❤
Hi Kati! I have a question which I’ve been wondering about for a while now - why do some people like to be disliked by others? I’ve noticed that I often use the opportunity to intentionally take the action that might lead to me being disliked and I’m quite uncomfortable with being liked and praised. I am used to being disliked, it’s a comfort zone for me. The weirder thing is that I’m also a people pleaser who doesn’t look for appreciation, I simply love to help others… but “shoot myself in the foot “ occasionally. There’s a thrill in going against the stream and I can’t seem to grow out of it no matter how hard I try. Thank you for choosing to create this content, your videos have helped me a lot.
PSA: don't go all in the first time. I keep my exposure to 2-3 min of sitting in the water. Also, if you feel uncomfortable, get out. Seriously. Once, I overdid it and sat in the tub for 6 min and my anxiety actually got way worse, because my body thought I was in danger. So, freeze yourself responsibly 😄
One of my therapists abruptly vanished last year. I'd been seeing him for about 5 months, and the main areas of discussion and work were my chronic emptiness and anhedonia (I have BPD and depression), as well as my constant anxiety (I also have GAD, OCD and CPTSD) and dysfunctional attachments as well as a lack of self care / worth. He was a clinical psychologist, specialising in psychodynamic talk therapy. One day I got a text from reception, cancelling my appointment, citing "urgent personal reasons". No option to reschedule. Oookaaay, I thought. I hoped he was ok and no one had died or anything. After a month, I just found a new psychologist. But I never got any specific reason, any referrals, any notice or any support. 2 months later, I got a generic email that was sent to all his patients, announcing that his new therapy practice would be opening soon at a new location and to join the waitlist. What!? THAT was the "urgent personal reason"?! No thanks! I like my new psych just fine!
I feel extremely unimportant to all. However, I do not fool myself. I am, indeed, unimportant to all. Thus, I feel no need to feel important. Why fool myself into believing I am important when I am most definitely not important. None of us are important. I was brought up knowing nobody is important. All are replaceable. Evil does often win. Good rarely gets ahead. Life is not fair. I am not special.
I've felt this way a lot too even dating back to childhood. Yes, feeling worthy or unworthy can be super complicated...but in regard to all the ever omnipresent distractions; I believe it's important (no pun intended, lol) to have people in your inner circle that are trustworthy, and to have hobbies, or at least something that keeps you going. However, I can't really speak on your situation specifically, though I am educated in ways that help me understand what others go through along with being faced with all sorts of challenges. Like for example; I took psychology courses in college and whenever I have free time; I usually go on Quora and look up real world situations that discuss even the most subtle behaviors and sentiments. And even though I am not qualified to give any sort of advice or diagnosis; I do think being kind to yourself is crucial for overall well-being and I used to think it was some sort of 'fallacy' but on the other hand, personal feelings and worthiness are something that should never be ignored, and thus, we should all try to get along the best we can, even in the most difficult of circumstances.
This is how I've always felt my whole life as well. It is such a mental relief to give up on the idea of being important or being special (what is this obsession all about??? No one is special). I am not, simple as that. For me, my life revolves around those that are important and those are animals. So my focus is animals, not humans.
Always get a tremendous amount of practical information from you... no matter what the subject is. Thank you so much for your kindness in sharing with us your knowledge. 🌻🌻🌻
Thank you so much for answering my question, Kati! This helps me sort through what to do next and was very validating. I definitely related to the “preparing myself for therapy” and then feeling dysreguated because of that alongside the attachment. Thank you again and stay well! 😊
Hi Kati! Absolutely loved the video. As someone from Asia, who's never been to Therapy so far,....from your video I came to know that a Therapist can be sued for Abandoning their patient. Thanks a ton for sharing a lot of insights.
@katimorton. so happy too see you again and hear your voice you are looking beautiful with your hair down and pink lipstick lovely pink top suites you 😊I really needed this new AKA podcast today I have been honestly feeling stressed and overwhelmed this week having a lot of thoughts and emotions about so Meany things 😥listening to your voice reading out peoples questions and answering questions is calming and relaxing and very imfomative you always have so much caring important advice ❤💜
Katie I’m asking this question because I’m training to be a therapist myself and I’m curious to know, if the therapist feels uncomfortable which is totally normal however doesn’t show it isn’t that being incongruent and not showing genuineness. I’m trying to understand how the therapist manages these feelings. Sorry if this seems argumentative I just would like to learn more on self awareness in the therapeutic relationship. ❤
Hey Kati, I am 50 and have ED and it is preventing me from wanting to date and make connections with women as it is something I worry I will feel shame. I need to deal with this in a healthy way.
sending care prayers and love and positive vibes too everyone having mental health is hard we all suffer no matter what your going though we all need to believe and have hope that things will get better for us in time its important to know we are seen and heard that we are not alone in our struggles its taken a lot for me to say and share this because of my own mental health we have to try and stay strong and push though it is all we can do ❤💜🤗
Regarding question 4 about religious trauma, perfectionism and OCD, Mark Dejesus is another excellent resource. It helped me tremendously with my traumas. I can only recommend it.
I have FA tendencies and when my therapist blamed me for getting abused, that was very triggering as far a shame and guilt. I quit therapy after that and I feel too afraid to find another therapist.
Ahh why aren´t the questions in the description as they normally are? The video is way to long for me to watch without knowing what i am going to watch my attention span is not long enough . Please can someone who watched it write down the questions in the comments?
I'm an ENFJ and my husband is an ISTP ... literal complete opposites... so when they say "opposites attract" they aren't kidding. Can you do a video on this?
Here's one zinger for you others will understand: *Why is it hard to accept "help" from from others?* There's more to it of course but I like to give instead of receive emotions in the moment and in person. If I'm writing in my journal sure but in person everything's fine! (Or I'll be too shy or self-conscious. The worst is the telehealth where I'll see my mug on the screen! It's like I'm getting second hand embarassment with myself. 😂) I think I'm just incredibly sensitive but it's tough because I know "talk" therapy is a wonderful tool. Do they have "chat-only" therapy?
@katimorton . I have been posting my question for your AKA podcast for the last few weeks trying to get my question noticed and liked enough to get chosen seems my question just isn't getting anyone's attention but I understand there are so Meany questions that stand out and are important p.s looking forward to your mental health livestream this Saturday much love from nikki 💕
My incest really bothers me but I did forgive my father, I was 9 now I'm 58 he's dead now alzimers disease took him ,I've been through hell but God helped me I grow up in a Christian home dysfunctional Baptist home never came from a divorce family parents were married 67years mom still lives she's 92 I got 4siblings, I got 5kids there all grown up I gave them up not really good love I never was showed love from father ok I'm isolated alot I pick toxic men not no more ,I will never help guys in prison or jail I stopped that in 2014
hi Kati I appreciate your work very much and have a question.. Due to insecurities I have had for as long as I can remember, I have deliberately tried to shape my personality and likes/dislikes (such as hobbies or music, etc.) to conform to what I think I should be as a man, or to gain the respect of others, and I do believe there is some genuineness in it all but I am constantly suppressing other interests that I feel would not be “acceptable” or would not be consistent with this ‘character’ I am trying to portray. I feel I am not being true to myself but at the same time, the thought of “breaking character” scares me.. Is this wrong? Any advice you have is greatly appreciated.
Wait, a therapist HAS to help you transition to a new therapist? I finally braved a new therapist after a horrendous first attempt. It started well, then she says she's leaving the practice at our third session and we'll have one more session. I never heard from her again. I haven't been brave enough to try again. The app removed the option to schedule with a new person so we had to call.
