INFJs never feel good enough, and this is a huge problem for anyone of the INFJ personality type. This belief of never being good enough is always underneath the surface. It’s a background program that is always running in our subconscious and it drives many of our life choices and behaviors, pushing us to become an INFJ over-achiever, or an INFJ people-pleaser, or causing us to struggle with workaholism.
We also become compulsive accommodators as we try to meet everyone else’s needs but our own. All of these dysfunctional behaviors cause us to end up burned out and increase INFJ low self-worth. Then we make more bad lifestyle choices and keep the cycle going.
This is all because INFJs never feel good enough, and this ultimately comes from childhood when we lived with a narcissistic parent, or we lived with a negligent parent. We were taught to earn our self-worth by pleasing others, and so we formed a behavioral model at that time that carries into the present.
This is why many INFJs carry toxic beliefs such as “I only have worth if I am useful to others,” or, “I only have worth if others approve of me.” We also tend to believe that loving someone means that we are responsible for managing their feelings for them, or processing their energy for them.
This behavioral model for INFJs is deeply entrenched, subconscious, and rooted in fear. There is a way to break the pattern though, and that’s what this video reveals.
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