yess. also people bringing up Saweetie possibly losing money shows that they don’t really care about darkskin Black women. she isn’t being a “smart business woman” she’s showing where she stands when it comes to actually supporting black women.
@@sashad1076 you know the majority of the black women don't like black men and that is the truth , women desire men and select the men too . You know , black women preferring white and non black men
This is the perfect time to make this video with the situation with Meek Mill degrading the dark skin women with sexual graphics on his tour bus… it’s embarrassing seeing our own people doing these things to each other after all our ancestors have been through to try and make a way for us and this is how things turn out.
In that moment saweetie should’ve stopped him in his tracks for even saying that 💯, from my experience I’ve always been told to have “good hair” and black ppl would praise me for having features opposite to their own and it’s very cringe feeling to here them say that , I’m not defending saweetie but in my experience when ppl say anti-black comments it’s sometimes sooo cringe and mind boggling to process in that moment , they talk about the features they hate which are the features they have and they say this to me as if I’m supposed to agree and it’s very very sad and weird
@C. C. yes many do eat up the praise it’s like they expect it lmao , and that’s saying a lot bc I’m mixed and do not act like that but I’ve seen wayyyy too many who have that “I’m better “ mentality it’s disgusting
Thanks for speaking on this! I would only add that a lot of colonized people globally do have this colorist caste system. We need to talk about it more but dark skinned women in India, Brazil, the Philippines, Jamaica, China.....it really is a global problem but especially with descendants of African people
Thank you for bringing up the idea around biracial identification. I constantly get dragged in the comments whenever I bring up how solely identifing bi-racial people as just black contributes to the erasure of blackness. Why can't we identify them as such, their lived experience is going to be different. And adding them into blackness erases the voices of black women who can't escape their blackness. Our society loves racial ambiguity.
Gorl they drag me too..every single time. Oh well ..ima keep stating the truth biology doesn’t lie! Someone with one white and one black parent is BI-RACIAL!🗣🗣🗣
I just got dragged for this too. I’m a fair skinned black woman with 2 black parents and it’s very frustrating to be grouped in with biracial women. We aren’t the same and our experiences aren’t either. It’s always been weird to me that people go out of their way to force biracial people to accept their blackness and then turn around and tell light skinned black people we aren’t black enough. Very strange
@@SureYoureRight very strange. Then they try to say to me that I am denying the fact that fair skin exist in blackness...like huh? A, I never said that and B. being biracial doesn't mean you are automatically light skinned. (Ie. look at True, Khloe's daughter, she is bi-racial and not as fair as her cousins). And my mother is also light skinned with freckles and comes from two fully black parents, so I know what black can do. People are just strange.
I’ve never seen biracials as black. My biracial female cousins always made the distinction between them and the black girls in the family. Some of them would even call us ugly. It was outright racism.
I think a lot of people give black men a pass because calling out anti-black men would mean some of them would have to call out their own fathers, brothers, etc. and they aren’t going to do that.
I will call out mines any day. I already always have and do. I will not coddle or tolerate bs. I'm holding everybody accountable. I really do not care.
The Cardi situation still blows my mind bc dis woman said out her mouth on camera she's not black and to this day there are still people saying she's black. The PR clean up after that was swift. like some Men in Black shit
Cardi is seen as a “feisty Latina” , imagine if Cardi was a black woman (brownskin/darkskin) she’d be canceled in a heartbeat or not even make mainstream attention besides being insulted
I can’t believe too short was that comfortable trying to flirt with a woman who is literally half his age on live camera!. I also hate that people are giving Saweetie more heat than the inappropriate man! I’m happy to hear your perspective and I know it can be sickening to always have to touch on these comments
@C. C. Really the case is that men have convinced themselves that it’s normal so they can not have boundaries and sexualize women who could be their own kids - in addition to the delusion of thinking they are attractive to us as well. Majority of women view men literally double our age flirting with us as disgusting and inappropriate no matter how old we are but ESPECIALLY if you’re 20-anything.
He dumb and lame. He therefore is talking about his own daughter who looks like a light skin black girl. Black + non black doesn’t always equal what he thinks. I know reg brown ppl with afro hair that has a full blood Mexican parent. I’ve also seen black + white kids with kinkier hair than most blacks. 🤦🏽♀️ he don’t know
I resonated with all of this, especially the men ain’t sh*t part. As a light skinned person, to me talking about colorism and defending dark skinned people is the bare minimum…how are we going to sit here and complain and white people’s lack of action with racism WHILE our light skinned behinds sit idly by with colorism, just like our oppressor? We know exactly how we benefit from this mess so it’s literally our role to speak on this and dismantle it. It disappoints me that Saweetie wasn’t more forceful with her defense, but it unfortunately doesn’t surprise me 😔. I know she’s mentioned that Too Short inspired her and she’s probably more concerned about her bag and image than protecting dark skinned non-men.
I don't think that was the case. She wasn't trying to be seen as aggressive. They don't care how mixed a woman can be, if shes mixed with black and she loses her temper one time they be quick to call her a angry black bitch too
@@mayowasworld she would also get attacked by wakanda warrior princesses and kweens. its not that easy, if you deal with bm you have to accept their colorism.
Yeah. it’s bc dark skin is seen as masculine started by white supremacy ofc. Tho Imma be real with ya. I’ve never seen people humiliate light skinned men to the degree dark skinned women are humiliated on social media everyday. Like try to find an interview like this disparaging light skinned men like this one. Plus I don’t personally know any woman who ONLY dates dark skinned men but most guys I know are colorist. Not that either views are valid bc they are just two different sides of the same coin. It’s important to decolonize beauty standards and our preferences.
@@selwatchesyt light and dark skinned women say they prefer dark skinned men all the time but that's seen as preference. As the brother said above the media fetishizes dark skinned men and it has blown their heads up. Black men are desired by women of all races. Dark skinned woman are the ones who are getting the short end of the stick because the men they want have options.. Light skinned men don't give af because they are dark enough for someone across all races.
the pause after sweetie's response. "there is so much to unpack".... I cracked up because her response was weird asf. I would have been mad asf at him because that shit was disgusting to hear. I was uncomfortable the whole time. And he's old asf 55 years old and she's in her 20s.....why is he even mentioning his fetishes to someone 30 years younger? Ew.
Simple… He felt comfortable saying that to her because in so many places saying those things to a mixed or light skin girl is literally looked at as a compliment. He was actually complimenting & flirting w/ her n that interview n his pea ass mind!🤦🏽♀️🤣😭😭😭
you ateee. the whole look is cutee 🥰 as a 20 y/o ds black girl you literally inspire me and give me sm courage to be myself. Thank you i love your content 💛💕
GIRL PLEASE SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK. For some reason whenever black people speak or say something with a lil conviction, people wanna label us as angry. Man oh fucking man. I just had to explain this to my girlfriend cos she’s like one a shade lighter but featurism is a thing too baby. She’s never been asked to smile or calm down.
because of my hair texture people would ask all the time "what are you mixed with" and I would always say black mixed with black. And they would get so offended cause they thought I was lying. That taught me from middle school, how casual ant-blackness is. And how casually we as a people engage in it. My mother who is light, said my experience opened her eyes to so many things. Sad
I deal with thia with my son. He is black, black, black. There ia no white, asian, Latinos in our lineage that I know of. One woman asked me if my son was Puerto Rican in front of his afro american daddy. I was appalled. Then the heffa kept insisting he wasnt fully black. I had another person insisted my son was Arab. I am like no, he is black nothing else but black. People look at his hair, facial features, and skin color.
Not that it matters but if a person is light skinned then they are going to be mixed with something else to a degree. Even a lot of dark skinned people can have around 15% non-black ancestry.
Same thing with me. People assume I'm mixed because of my hair texture. They will see both my parents and my siblings all from the same parents and somehow I'm mixed. I've seen the disappointment in a black man's face when he asks what I'm mixed with and the answer is black and more black 😂.
But she should to though because SHE PLAYED INTO WHAT HE WAS SAYING WHICH WAS MAD IGNORANT like myoma just said she SAID SOMETHING after the fact NOT AT THE MOMENT he was being mad disrespectful they should BOTH get heat simple
I think it’s silly and naive for us to think that other women of any other race is gonna protect our image and stand up for us when our own men don’t. But I actually think she handled it well, she definitely looked uncomfortable and then she slightly changed the subject without being super defensive and disrespectful. If these fools wanna reveal their self hate to the world, let them. Let them speak and dig themselves deeper and deeper, so everyone can see it. Should have let him talk longer 😒
I never thought of how complacent light/mixed people are in these arguments and I definitely agree that we will always look like the aggressor for speaking up and now I see that video differently. I do believe that Saweetie does think black women are beautiful and she doesn’t agree with Too $hort about having to be mixed to be beautiful but you are right, she played fragile.
She can’t be frontal with him, in this industry even if she knows what he is saying his wrong she can’t risk having someone like him against her, she had to be complaisant and find a way to speak her mind in a way that will not appear like a direct attack toward him, remember when the preferences speak up they are called bitter angry and are gaslighted.
@@th0masemmanuel Yeah, and I agree. It’s hard to blame Saweetie in this particular situation because of her position in the industry, it is business too (but thats an issue). However, as Moawa stated, this kind of thing happens in regular life. I think that where I was getting at is when it comes to being complacent, it could be a casual conversation amongst mutuals and this kind of thing could still play out, without any like a career to consider, just the people it affects, and STILL…non-mixed/darker black woman find themselves having no one to ever defend them.
@@th0masemmanuel This is such a tired late excuse at this point. Light and/or biracial women will be fine. Cuz darkskin women don't get a choice. So, the rest of us will be fine if we start picking up the mess. Hell we have examples of this as recent as last year with that bg actress for Lovecraft -- the minute she spoke up it became a news story and positive spotlight put on her, she got airtime for it.
@@th0masemmanuel this is literally like saying white musicians or actors can't say things in the industry re: racism. That's the excuse they all use and we realize that's bunk. So why not among our own supposed kin? The person with more systemic power in the situation, has the responsibility to use that to benefit the marginalized.
Sadly I'm not surprise, I have lost friends due to colorist BS. I personally use this as a teachable movement. Much love to the REAL black woman. Let's see if any black male artist will check old ass too short. Smh
Exactly! No real men will check struggle faced too short. That man is at least 50 yrs old and should be embarrassed. This type of self hating has gone on in the industry for decades.
Real man fake man and anything in between is…. NO ONE WILL CALL HIM OUT. No one will say why. Know why because anything to down grade a dark woman like me(or darker) and anti black is aye okay
She may not be okay with what he’s saying, but she benefits from what he’s saying and how people like her is viewed socially. Dark skin blk women just need to understand that more times than not, these women aren’t your allies. These women may sympathize with you, like “ahhhh don’t say that” but they cannot empathize or will not because these are issues that will never ever affect them🤷🏽♀️ It just is what it is‼️ Ps, what too short said to saweetie, is the sentiment of BM as a collective. I’m not surprised in the least!
@@rediettadesse2828 Yep. I'm thinking about things. Its different man, cause I consider myself highly intuned with the struggles of black people. But, I am learning different perspectives about how darker people feel, and experiences 😬
It reminds me of eugenics. In places like Australia white racists have tried to breed out aborigines through mixing. They would say by the third generation of mixing all aborigine traits would be bred out completely.
Haven't you noticed when an interracial couple first get together, people will tell them "You're going to have pretty babies someday". I never heard anyone tell a black couple that. Why is that?
I have seen plenty of biracial people who weren’t conventionally attractive in my lifetime. Too Short is showing how little he has learned about biracial people and black women.
The reason why you can offend black women and not those other groups is because those other groups stand up for themselves. BW don't. They fight for everyone, including bm, but themselves. BW have got to stop all of this "oh poor me" stuff and stand up for themselves, EXCLUSIVELY.
I love the ways you use white liner in a lot of your looks(I've noticed over these past few months) it gives me the confidence as a dark-skinned women to use color liner in the creative ways I've seen you rock it, thank you and again the full like is beautiful as always ❤
aww I love hearing things like this!! yes we've been so stigmatized to not use color on our face. this also gives me the courage to keep experimenting thank you for these kind words sis
Saweetie isn't black, we shouldn't be upset/sad that she doesn't support us. She owes us no loyalty. We should be upset by Too short, since he is black. And he was brave enough to say what he was saying, cos he was complimenting her
When I was 16 my white English penpal came over to Barbados for a visit and she told me all her friends were jealous and asking her if she was going to come back with a 'half-cast baby'. And I was like 'what's that?' Apparently it means biracial and these girls seemed to think that was one of the top reasons for a Caribbean trip.
I noticed that people of all races fetishize biracial people. It actually makes me feel bad for biracial people because they’re not even seen as human as this point. They’re just light skin and good hair… I wonder how seen and heard they are in these relationships
@@genevievegreene1595 wow :/ a collectable. I do think any race or race mixture can and is fetishized. But as far as main stream yes that black and white thing is really toxic and goes across all races. It seems to be even worse when they are caught up in being a collectable, they aren't aware of it so they see it as a good thing.
I can detect that beautiful West African accent in your voice. I'm guesing you are of Nigerian or Ghanian heritage. I am an African man and I refused to be classified as "black", not because I hate black, to the contrary, I love everything black and people describe me a pro black love, pro black, a black extremist and pan-Africanist. In my tribe, the blacker the woman, the more noble she is. And it is common to hear my people say "I want to find a wife as black as coal." This is the heritage that I come from and have never ever dated interracially as I'm not interested in that. That said, now (especially in the past few years) I refused to be labled black because I am ashamed of Black American men and the disgusting self hating rhetoric they spew and their behaviour, and therefore do not want to be lumped together with them. They can have the term "black man" and I will settle for "African man" as I do not want to be associated with them. They are disgusting beyond believe. They are the only group of men that I know of who takes pride in going to social media to degrade their women and elevate the daughters of their oppressor. These group of men would have no problem degrading the beauty of their own black mothers and elevating the beauty of their oppressor's daughter. I rather slit my throat than do that. These men are sick and beyond help. Even if other races are into interracial relationships, you will not see them doing this on social media, the press or in their music videos, at least not to the same extent as Black American men do. When I used to see this from Black American men couple of years ago (mainly on forums, as I do not live in the USA), I used to call them out for that BS. With my love for blackness, black pride, black love, pan-Africanist, etc, I first though maybe if I could educate them by giving them an African perspecitive because of our two different histories, may be, just may be, they might stop this foolishness. Therefore, I started with the softly softly approach, then went on to the hard approach, but have now come to the realisation that these Black American men (not all, but a hell of a lot of them for my liking) are beyond help. They are damaged goods. In my opinion, they are the most morally corrupt and degenerate group of men I have ever had the displeasure of coming into contact with. Men protect their women. They do not degrade them in public and elevate other races of women. This might sound mean, but I now feel indifferent compared to before when I see in the news that another Black American man has been killed by the police. These disgusting Black American men cannot even protect themselves from white men, never mind protecting their own women and black babies. They are pathetic and the most disgusting and degenerate group of men in my opinion. I would advise all African immigrants living in the US to do everything they can to retain their African culture and not to copy the worst and most disgusting aspects of Black American men culture. I do not want that part of their culture imported into Africa by returning Africans. In terms of culture, Black American men are very influential. It is unfortunate that they have not used that influence to better their group. Instead, they've used it to degrade their women and elevate other races of women. And the moment they can rub $2 together, they go out therere looking for a non-Black women. They are neither providers nor protectors of their women and black babies. These men have no honour, no shame, no pride, and certainly no dignity. SMH! In their music videos, they use Black American women and depict them as cheap and sexually provacative, not to mention calling them the B word. However, non-Black women (or mixed women as close to whiteness) are portrayed as the beautiful, dignified, love interest. I give the Black American community between 150 to 200 years. In 200 years time (if not less), that community will die out and black skin will be a relic of the past - mostly thanks to their men. These men are disgusting and sick. I will never ever allow my nephews or nieces to listen /watch their crap music. If I ever see it, I turn it off or take it and burn it. I will not partake in the supporting of degenerates. Distant yourself from them and retain your African culture. They have now reached the point of no return. They are beyond help.
Do you think black women should date brown skin men that are not African American? Since most of these African American men have lost their way. I just decided to be single. But most African American women are dating outside there race . Or just living a life of celibacy.
@@jucyjay8398 As evident in my post above, I do not encourage interracial dating for Black men or women. Although I totally understand the plight of Black American women due to their men's behaviour, Black American women can have any man they want. However, to preserve their race even if their men are not doing it, I do not encourage race mixing. The grass isn't always greener, and the fact that Black Americans are not the majority, by race mixing, it would only be a matter of time before the extermination of their ethnic group. Let me be absolutely clear, mixed race people (of Black heritage) in general do not date Black, but prefer to date white, other mixed people, or even other races before dating black. Of course there are exception, but collectively, that statement still holds. Therefore, that in itself would lead to the end of blacks in the new world. You will be creating mixed race children who in turn will go and procreate with your own oppressor. Soon, Black Americans will be replaced by mixed race people (this phenomenon has already started), and Blacks will be a relic of the past just like in Argentina. Although the Black Argentinians where wiped out (hence why you rarely see Afro-Argentinians), and they did not have a choice in the matter as it was state sanctioned by the country's whitening program, Black Americans on the other hand have a choice but are deliberately and actively participating in their own extinction thanks to their men (for the most part). Afro-Argentinians didn't have a choice, Black Americans do. Black Americans men are not the only Black men in the world. Black American women have two options in my opinion: 1) they can say: well, since Black American men (not all, but as a collectively) are deliberately and desperately trying to procreate with others to the expense of their own race, let's just join them and speed up the process of bringing the group to an early extinction in the United States. 2) they can think long term and find mates in other Black groups. There is nothing more valuable than the survival of a race and its culture and traditions. The importance of passing down your ancestors' phenotype, culture, race, traditions, etc, in tact, is not something to be underestimated. It is very important and will form the character of those descendants yet to be born. It is not something to throw away. Those who are on the right side of history will be remembered, and those aren't will be disgraced, ridiculed or forgotten. We do not live for now. We live for our children and our children's children, and descendants to come. Your action today will affect your entire bloodline for generations to come. It is so sad that Black American men have not used their influence and power to advance their group. So sad!
Thats nice and i appreciate you but honestly, African black men are not exempt from this behavior. I have see African men marrying white women. There is a President of an African country that currently has a White woman as his first lady! There was recently a situation of a Nigerian American man who made it his job to shit on black women on the daily onlt to be murdered by his white girlfriend. And while he obvioisly was influenced by American culture, do not blame this Entirely on Black American men. They clearly arent the only ones.
@@Backrootedwithjamie Hello! I have the same mindset. I am too traumatized from dealing with African American men. I am proud to be AA/ADOS/FBA, but the men of my group are sadly lost. I am also hesitant about dating African or Caribbean men because their respective cultures often have a lot of anti-Black American sentiments, and I do not have the time, patience nor energy to deal with that. I understand why Black women are dating non-Black men and I do not resent them nor look down on them. I respect them and completely understand. Can I do the same? Not sure. Do I really want to? No, because ideally I would like to date, marry and procreate with someone who looks like me but the men that looks like me don’t desire me. So what does a woman like me does? The best option is to choose single hood and celibacy. I am a Christian, I understand everyone is not and I have no qualms about that. I am going to leave my future mate, if any, in the hands of my Heavenly Father. There’s no where in the Bible where a woman went out seeking a man, unless she was a harlot. I am not that, so I will sit back and let one choose me. Hopefully by that time, I am free from my anxieties about Black men (globally) and non-Black men.
Saweetie looked uncomfortable; she looked like please don’t try and “talk” to me. This is all on him. Listen to the way she says, “Really..really…” trying to slow and possibly stop the ensuing crap storm. I’m not mad at her. It’s all on his colorist ass. These type of men hate themselves. 😑
Also its amazzzing to me that you talk about these things and have a platform to do so! The transparency is never not needed on this side of blackness/womanhood. It is unfortunate that no matter how non disrespectful and open ppl like saweetie try to be. They'll always get caught not understanding and letting their privilege show. We can only hope that the awareness about this increases and people like you speaking about it are more heard. It has always been disparaging to b a black girl in America for this reason. Black ppl, MANY but i have to say esp the older generations are super poisoned in the mind with this shit. It's so embedded in them they think it's cute or a way of life. No black person should be proud of themselves for being anti-black. We already have whyte people to do that for us. But here these colorists are making it easier for non black racists antics.
@@Youralllate yep. No one said she did anything. I spoke about the essence how she is able to navigate vs. Women who aren't like her. She absolutely got uncomfortable, that was obvious
Hello Mayowa. I have a video idea on colorism that you could make. Could you please address the colorism that's in the Netflix show "Dear White People"? I think it would be really important to address this show because, despite the fact that they have the roles reversed for the characters, they still denote much of it to colorism. The lead "heroine" is still a light skinned girl (despite her being an activist for black rights) and the antagonist "mean girl" is still a dark skinned girl (despite her surrounding herself with white friends and straightening her hair to fit white conventional beauty standards). I think it would be really great to make a video on this because obviously the directors were very much colorist and couldn't look past the idea of making a light-skinned person the main character (yet again).
I don’t even know if the lead female chat is black. She appeared biracial or Latina to me. They at least could have had the darker skinned actress not be the antagonist. Also a brown skinned woman could have played tbt leading lady.
@@lisettebrown8317 Exactly. But they had to go and make a biracial girl the center of attention, yet again. And demonize the darker skinned characters despite audaciously calling themselves a "black activist show"
@Andromeda I didn’t hate coco but I could see she hade some self hate herself. She saw being The white people as a way to get ahead . In this society people don’t accept biracials as white. It’s only black propel who will label all biracials as black. White people don’t accept biracials a s white so many come over to tbt black community where they are welcomed.
I tried to like that show but it just wasn’t for me could barely get past episode 2 💀 , maybe my subconscious mind was tryna tell me it’s a colorist show and not to process further
@@AlatOnDemand it wasn't your self-conscious, it was the tingling you got from the senses of your ancestors 😂😂 they were telling you not to trifle with that bullshit show
There are colorist black men out here but mostly in hip hop not the real world. Most of the light skin men I see are with dark skin women and I mean light skin light eyes men so don't feed too much into this idea. A preference is a preference it's not everyone's opinion..most men who make these comments aren't even worth dating so who cares..like Cardi B she Spanish but her Black man still cheated on her so pay attention..does complexion really matter..
U look so summery and cute. I’m not black but I really love your videos and find so much value in the way you use your platform and uplift people and call out harm. I will venmo u when I can for ur labor 💗
First time hearing this perspective on light skin women dating dark skin men. Deep. I’m definitely more attracted to darker skin men even though my ex was mixed Korean and Black. I honestly feel like my attraction had to do with me wanting to have more brown children as I remember how Malcom X said his mother choose the darkest man she could find for that same reason.😞 also, I had a family member SA me growing up. It unfortunately went on for years and Iam confident it influenced my preferences as I was groomed very early by being treated quite favorably. I literally remember being jealous of his first girlfriend🙁. Thankfully, I found counseling and a survivors group to help process that trauma. I was in my 30’s before I even realized how much that affected my life.. Btw, super cute eyebrows😉 love a positive ass switch up🥰
**Nigerian accent**AUNTY MAYY😍😍😍! We love everything we can’t choose one thing in particular come on now! But only on a serious note and not to sound hating or nothing I’m just saying it cuz I know it’s gonna eventually happen. But I can’t wait until all the “preferences” start seeing the actual mentality behind all of these colorist black men and start moving accordingly. Tbh I’m already starting to notice a shift in how black men are leaving their nonblack baby mamas because liking someone’s color is not chemistry or in nonblack women leaving them because they know that black men don’t actually like them for them
I really believe the reckoning will be that these preferences start to abandon black men and choose better… But by then most black women won’t be checking for them either. Black men will never know peace until they hold themselves accountable and change
Love this message everything you speak on is exactly that.I’m holding everyone accountable especially when they play the fence or be complicit in colorist views.Your while look is my fave tbh 😍I think you really like ya brows cuz they popping
Saweetee did check him and said that you don't have to be mixed to be beautiful. She seemed like she wanted to drag him but didn't want to mess up any future bags. Saweetee could have definitely said more but she spoke up in the moment. Tooooo many biracials and ls women take it as a compliment though. That's why he licked his lips. He was trying to compliment her in his own sad way
What do you mean “allow”? We can’t stop, censor, or change them. They have a right to their opinions and ignorance. What we *can* do is call them out, expose them, not buy their music or patronize their businesses.
Loved this video, all this needed to be said. And yes it makes me soooo uncomfortable when lightskinned women talk about how they love dark skinned and "chocolate" men , it feels just so icky and fetish sounding, i never really considered it as the the other side of the coin of believing all dark skinned women are masculine or ugly and all lightskinned women are pretty or feminine. Now it makes sense
I love you! You are so beautiful. I like the eyebrows! Thank you for speaking on this. Your authenticity is giving young black girls the confidence to be their true authentic selves to the fullest. Thank you Mayowa
Well all i’m going to say is that pretty mixed babies used to be the norm however I have seen some mixed babies that haven’t been that attractive in my personal opinion, just saying🤷🏽♀️
I just wanna say saweetie has always spoke very highly of dark skin women you might be able to find tweets & interviews of when she has but from her demeanor you can tell she couldn’t believe he said it but I think it Also has to be be that his Status is high in the industry it could possibly hurt saweeties career so that’s why I think she didn’t give the reaction we all maybe wanted I really think she was shocked like this many really just said this on live and she didn’t know how to respond knowing she had to be professional because of his status but it’s ashame that they have that much power in the industry .
But I love the whole outfit?! That skirt and the shirt and I love the orange wrap you used for your hair. Great video! I’m a dark skinned black woman and I was adopted by two white parents and it’s taken me a long time to learn about who I am and why showing up as myself in this world was so hard throughout my whole childhood as well as now being an adult. I remember saying I was too scared to date black men for fear of them having some blood relation to me in some way. I also felt the sting of not being “black” within that community because of the way I speak, however outside that community I was too black and didn’t fit it either. I find it interesting how you end up having to pave your own way through life at times.
Hey Mayowa, Thank you again for creating this video. The way some ds blk men are loud about their anti-blkness has been on my mind, tbh I'm not surprised by this situation. If anything I don't know why anyone would be proud of being their own self-hatred( its 2021), and the fact that its is normalized speaks volumes. I don't when some people are gonna learn but I know their time is coming, I know it. On a lighter note, my favorite part of your outfit is your top and that silk scarf, both are really cute and you look really beautiful.
The ironic part is none of those Light skinned woman he claimed to have fell in love with probably never truly felt the same way. Probably no woman ever truly loved this fool.
Sis. OMG. I’ve been watching your colorism videos since last night and literally every single point you’ve made I’ve been thinking and didn’t know how to articulate without coming from a hurt or angry place. Thank you so much and please don’t stop bringing these issues to the forefront!
People really are out here like “I’m racist/colorist against people who look like me” and think they are attractive for that.>_> As a darker medium skinned brown woman, I still get the “what are you mixed with” and men-it’s always men-get offended when I say I’m black mixed with black. I’m tired of having to explain to people why they are colorist and why they don’t understand that black is beautiful without being mixed with anything the same way that mixed is beautiful, that it’s not us verses them, and that they are fucking clowns for being attracted to an swooned by people solely based on their race. I’m fucked up for saying something and should take it as a compliment? Nah. Now I just call them clowns and hope that their masculinity isn’t so fragile that they do something stupid. We can’t fix stupid. I feel for the future generations and I wish I was more motivated to do anything about it, but if a person reveals to me that they ain’t shit for any reason, I kinda just carry on about my business and delete them out of my life. I’m not about to be stressed out by these people.
@@lmaoaims I actually did type black, but then I remembered that this is the internet and the discussion is colorism--since we come in many shades, I thought it might be useful to discribe the perspective that I'm speaking from as it relates to colorism.
@@meatballsandwich5329 Everyone has their opinions. Prefacing that with "no offense" feels like one might expect me to be offended by someone thinking that I'm dark skinned--which I don't find offensive at all. To some, I am dark. To some, I am on the lighter end of the spectrum, but by no means "light". My experience is my experience whether you believe it or not is okay. I'm not here to be validated one way or another. I just figured I'd share it in the conversation since I know I'm not alone. /shrug
Sorry to say this. But most light skinned women WILL never say something when they hear a negative comment against dark skinned women. It shocks me time and time again to see. Like aint you black?!🤯🤯
Maybe these types of people aren't worth arguing with. Let them believe what they want. At least now you know his heart. So now you can remove them from your life because they are not your friends. God is good. Trust in him and keep being your true self. God bless you!
I agree with everything you said! As I light skinned black person, growing up I always had to defend my blackness so to see mixed people getting passed off as black is irritating asf. They get to choose when they want to be black. Darker skinned blacks do not get to choose and I stand behind them 100%. That’s why I love your channel, you bring awareness and insight to these issues. I love your eyebrows and your top 😍 plus the orange scarf! That pop of color got you glowing 😍😍😍
Can someone please tell me what the interview was supposed to be about? Like I know he didn’t call her up to be like hey I like light skins and mixed. Like what was this interview supposed to be how did it end up like this? Also your white eyebrows are cute✨
I’m a black woman. Two black parents. I had a non black friend that told me that they would only date a black person that is mixed. In that moment, I didn’t say anything even though it bothered me. In that moment I didn’t know how to respond. It’s been a couple of years since the statement and it still bothers me that I’ve never said anything. Yes, Saweetie said something after the fact but she still said something. Just because someone doesn’t address something in that moment or in a way we would have, doesn’t mean we know exactly how they feel. We really don’t know her thoughts behind it. Perhaps she wishes she would have said something sooner or differently.Who knows.
It’s crazy to me how this came back up years later (this was before Saweetie released “Tapped In”, or whatever her song she used his sample from) to attack Saweetie, but for reasons I don’t see as valid. She also was probably being soft because she wanted his sample/good standing in the Bay. I wish more people brought it up like you did
I have a question.... it's okay to have PREFERENCES, right??? I see BM having mixed and racially ambiguous girlfriends/and when they're called out, they say....but "she's black too" so why are BM so salty about mixed/ racially ambiguous men replacing them in film or being PREFERRED over them in film???
Saweetie was feeling so "special" in that clip. Don't know how black girls and black women follow her. Its self hating and embarrassing for black women. Just stop it.
Imo I think Saweetie spoke her mind the best way she could in that moment considering this was not just a conversation it was business. I feel like the heat should really be going to Too Short. I’m starting to think colorism is a mental illness because there’s just no way. Like the way he was talking was just so disgusting and vile. He actually thinks that this type of mindset is okay🤢.
All the times I have personally heard a guy spew that he does not date black women or his preference for non black women it was usually unprovoked. Un asked. I have never in my life asked a man what his racial dating preferences were. They just HAVE to tell you. They have to let you know. It usually would happen to me at work or at parties. Like I'm minding my business. Not even interested in them. lol
To me, the real conversation is why do so many black men feel this way like he does? Why do they feel that the further from themselves they get, the better something is? It comes from somewhere and we need to discuss the root so that we can eradicate it. Saweetie can’t solve that deep problem within our society
I love my dark women, that's my preference, I just wish they would themselves more ! And trust me I get it unfortunately. My Son is 30, a few weeks he said to me dad I'm going to have a beautiful black baby. I damn near was in tears, a lot of brothers are lost and ignorant as all Hell !
We cannot escape our blackness true but being fully black is something nobody can take from us period. Many have fought to marry despite of race or gender. Cause love doesnt have a face. But self hate does and its your reflection not all but some with "a type" hate themselves or even their parents. Its an attempt to change the pattern. HOWEVER many others like myself just fall in love by chance. Much love peace and understanding to all.
This video! I loved your analysis of the situation. This is so 😩 like I wish people would just stop with the colorism. I'm always trying to explain this to my partner who grew up in the Caribbean. As far as your outfit goes, I loved the white eyebrows and the one-shoulder action you were giving.
On this note, everyone, check out RASHIDA STROBER, she is the Mother of DARKISM theory activism and is the first one to pin this therm. She is a legend and will go in Herstory for what she is doing right now.
I do believe that Saweetie finds black women beautiful and that she doesn't agree with Too Short. However, she definitely could have done a lot more to defend us. At the end though, the hate she is receiving is unnecessary. People should be directing that energy towards Too Short.
I am not a Saweetie fan, (I have nothing against her, but I'm damn near 40 so it's just not my vibe), but sometimes when ppl put you on the spot like that you might freeze up in the moment and wish you would have said something different in hindsight. Now his old black ass should know better. I was a TooShort fan. I literally had his "Cocktails" tape. I'm can't say I'm surprised though. Most darkskin black male rappers are colorist loudly and proudly.
13:51 When I think darkskinned I think gentle, mostly cause of my dad I guess, I don't really know many people outside of my family yet and so the only exposure i get to such stereotypes is through the media. I hope I continue to think this way because you know how this stuff just slides in subliminlly.
Where was the part that disparaged black women? When did he even pronounce the words 'Black Women?'. Black man has preference, black women most affected smh.
Actually her fanbase is Icy Gang and look I'm don't think it's Saweetie's fault, it's Too Short making him played himself talking about how like mixed-race women, plus also look I'm don't mind people having a preference but when you saying all that stuff in that clip it's gives me a slide eye and felt weird about it.
At the end of the day it’s his ignorance that put her in an awkward position. As much as we would like it to be defending us isn’t her responsibility. He shouldn’t have said that mess in the first place.
At the same time î believe dark skin black women should also exercise their right because they do have that right being that it isn’t a black woman’s bag to carry when someone refuses to lift their head out of their own ignorance. People make themselves look bad individually it’s just not your job inherently because you are dark skin to counter someone’s idiotic sentiments. In the same way that î have been passive î think it’s your right to not have to argue with fools about things you know you’re correct on. It’s definitely ore about expression of self irregardless of if someone will agree, but discerning who is worth your energy will save a lot of giving an intellectual analysis to groups of black men who still thinks it’s okay to perpetuate a culture based framed like a prepubescent little boy’s s fantasy. Again I believe when I was passive it wasn’t me claiming the middle it was me completely disregarding this human as someone I need to interact with ever again.
